I Wasted My Early-20s, So You Don't Have To (lessons & revelations for anyone in their 20s)

It's 2023! And I would like to reflect on my thoughts on my early 20s. It hasn't been an easy ride for me, and I would just like to share what I learned in the midst of all this chaos of "figuring things out"
I know none of these facts are anything revolutionary or ground-breaking, but I hope hearing someone contextualising things that we often think in silence would help reassure that you're not alone.
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🍞In case if you're impatient
Intro 00:00
Reconstruction 01:48
Evolving 02:55
The Problem with Validation 03:57
Perfectionism wastes time! 05:22
What colour is your Bugatti? 07:13
True self-love comes from a place of contentment 09:17
Conclusion 10:34
🎶Music
Show Love by Joakim Farud
Rio Cafe by Damien Sebe
Ever After by Damien Sebe
Thrill by Alt Beats
Oblivious by Alt Beats
Get Away by ZBee Prod.
Wake by Bloom
Good Mistakes by Bloom
Slow Jams / Daniel Caesar x Frank Ocean type beat by Fonte Lab
Solitude by Indie Beats
Nights by Bloom
👩🏻About Me
I'm Celin and I'm just trying to figure out life while putting out what I love in hopes of being a professional content-creator. I hope you enjoy my stuff!
#20something #australia #contentcreator #twenties #advice #lessonslearned

[@celinloh]

Though it can be challenging, I hope anyone who watches this knows that it really does get better. Do not EVER lose your courage and keep persevering! 🤗✨🪩 HAPPY NEW YEAR 🥳!

[@mustafakarim9647]

I'm not really sure what type of books you're into, but I think you'll resonate with some chapters in the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*cK - by Mark Manson". Some of the topic(s) you touch on in this video are relative to it and think you'll gain even more insight and value from it. Funny enough... I'm listening to it right now (7:45am)

[@amvgirl1536]

Thank you for this video ❤️

[@reshmareshma2856]

Thank you for making the video. It's so good and motivating 🌷❤️ your such a great person 🌷

[@christine.1668]

Social media made people anxious and insecure and we have this fear of "missing out". Living the best life doesn't only mean bar hopping, partying, and travelling. Turning 21 in a few days and honestly what I learned so far is we should STOP dictating how people should live their lives. Everybody has different problems and responsibilities, and we can't deny some people are too underprivileged to have fun in their 20s. Your "worst 20s" could be someone else's best. 20s, for most (average people like me), is a stage of failures and character development. It's okay to breakdown and feel lost, I think it's important to just let people feel what they are currently feeling. We shouldn't be expected to suppress our emotions for the sake of pretending to live the best life. You don't have to live the best life, you just need to survive in life and that's okay. Edit: didn't expect my comment to get this much attention, I'm happy many people also agree with me

[@htsunmiku]

Right? I mean honestly things I am "supposed to do" do not interest me at all. I hate clubs. I don't particularly enjoy meet up with strangers (even worse if it's a place where groups have already formed). And just a bunch of other stuff that sounds cool on paper and is generally romanticised But the things I do enjoy...don't have an age limit. Okay. I didn't go to an art exhibition or get the chance to travel to Japan when I was 18. But what difference does it make if I do it at 21?

[@s0upst3w]

Your words made me feel comfortable, thanks ❤️

[@elif3791]

Happy level up to you in few days, wishing you a best hope coming into your life :)

[@CeCe1066]

I’ve always had this checklist in the back of my head of activities I should be doing in my 20’s like bar hopping, clubbing, and parties every weekend. But I’ve never had people to go with. And that used to make me feel bad and embarrassed, as if I wasn’t interesting or cool enough to be part of that “scene”. I still feel a little bad about myself from time to time when I see my coworkers or classmates hanging out with huge friend groups, but I’m learning that having those experiences won’t make me more whole as a person, nor do they define my youth/20s. If I don’t drink and smoke weed at parties every weekend, does that make my youth any less important or interesting than someone else? No, of course not. Everyone’s path is different, and doing activities like the ones stated above are just one very simplified version of someone’s 20s. However, I’m realizing what I truly want isn’t the parties and the drinking; What I really want is true friendship and companionship. I want the party lifestyle because I associate that to being surrounded by friends, but I’m learning that friends can be made from any area of life, and that I just need to be more open and vulnerable to let those potential friends in my life. This was sort of like a journal entry but it’s very comforting to hear others in their 20s experience similar emotions.

[@hellothere8347]

Thank you

[@septemasg.3522]

Nothing is ever a waste, I’m 24, the reconstruction is one of the most powerful and important times in your life. It sets the tone for the rest.

[@nikibronson133]

You’re still in your early twenties lol. Having a pre quarter life crisis before you even hit quarter life yet

[@somekindofflower2024]

@@nikibronson133 true, but these are years where while everyone is rushing to graduate, travel, find a job, marry, have kids, settle down, you try to rebuild yourself after having a difficult period and then it's hard to chase these things.

[@bella-hi2ii]

i feel like im in a crisis and im only 16 🥴

[@sidhasilanayak6994]

This

[@nikibronson133]

@@somekindofflower2024 I completely disagree… I think it’s a ridiculous notion to think that other people aren’t trying to rebuild or construct themselves but honestly rebuild from what you were a teenager you had nothing to rebuild from you were currently building yourself now. And it’s not harder to do these things… Because you don’t do these things in your early 20s you do these things over the course of your entire life. And when you say it’s harder to do these things because people waste their early 20s like what were they supposed to do because most of the years in your early 20s you’re still in school! It’s literally the starting out phase in life it’s called emerging adulthood. And that lasts all the way to 29 because life really doesn’t start till after that. I feel like because we’re so young we don’t realize that life continues after your 20s and you’re still young in your 30s. It’s the young or early adulthood phase before you reach middle adulthood phase. So you say and then it’s hard to chase these things… At what age because after your early 20s is your mid 20s and you’re still in your 20s and you’re a damn kid and you’ve only been an adult for less than 10 years! Hard to rebuild these things at what 26 ?? That’s so fucking young! And guess what people are always pivoting and changing things and traveling and graduating throughout their lives. I feel like some of y’all are putting too much pressure on yourselves and I get that because I’m 23 and I do the same thing but I’m realizing just how young that is and how young all of our 20s are. I feel like all of us have a very bad viewpoint on how long life is because we think it ends at 30 when it doesn’t even get started until 30 truly and most people hit their stride in their 40s! And I also disagree with the whole idea that people are trying to settle down and marry and have kids in their 20s. Maybe for some people and honestly culturally maybe white women but honestly for most people it’s not that and especially nowadays.

[@Adrianaxo.]

Turning 22 in April, and I don’t think I can even grasp how much time I’ve wasted. I’ve done nothing but be depressed and have such major anxiety about going out and making friends. I feel so stuck and alone, my responsibilities is so overwhelming and I just feel so lost in this loop, as if I have no point anymore. You know? I want to go out and have so much fun but then I think of all that could happen/go wrong, but then I feel so bad about staying home and not experiencing things, ah it’s so irritating😔😖

[@we_fishy_fishy_like0816]

Yes!! Exactly!! Lately - and for the last year and a half - I felt like have wasted so much time. It honestly hurts me knowing damn well that I dedicated so much time to pointless things rather than using that time on things I KNEW was worth it. But even then, I am also - like you - in this loop hole where I continue to feel stuck and that I am getting nowhere while still feeling stressed about the things persistent in my life. I do not know if I am doing something wrong but it feels like I am getting nowhere and I feel and worry that I am still wasting so much time. I do not know how we are going to get through but I hope we find a way - as cheesy as it sounds, I truly mean it.

[@natalie.louise]

i FEEL this! but also we are only in our early 20s! I try to look at it like that. we have ~5 years to turn it around. and the best lessons come from being in pain/confused/learning how to dig ourselves out of a hole! xx

[@Nayatara44]

Also 22 on april 4th but trying to change this cycle NOW

[@Adrianaxo.]

@@Nayatara44 April 5th here!

[@Adrianaxo.]

@@we_fishy_fishy_like0816 yes! Trying to stay more present and enjoy this time now, here’s to a better year!

[@spolch9482]

I'm in my late 30s and only recently started establishing a career and financial stability. I wasted my youth not because of my choices, but because of disease and abuse. To be honest, I WISH I were 25 and had wasted my early 20s only. I understand how people in their 20s may feel, but guys trust me, things could have been worse for you. Forget about the wasted years and live your lives now.

[@Boilmyovaries]

This is so motivating thank you for this and i hope the best for you, go reclaim your life!

[@onigiri2136]

Big Facts and congratulations for taking your power back 💪👏 💞

[@ouui]

Time is just a social structure!! Your best days could be in your 20s or literally next Tuesday. Don't let social media indoctrinate you that after a certain period your best life ended: for most of us our 20s were full of doubts, so our life just started!

[@spolch9482]

@@ouui Thank you, that's the mindset I'm trying to have.

[@amdiary7]

That’s exactly what I was thinking.

[@3mi3mi]

I completely wasted my teens and the first two years of my twenties. I was homeschooled and literally had no friends during my teens and never got out much until I started working a retail job at 18 and going to college. Then COVID happened, and work was my only social outlet. When I was 21 I got heartbroken, spent a year doing nothing in a depressive spiral, made some “friends” who turned out to be toxic. I decided to take back my life at 22, travel, go back to school, do yoga, work on myself. It’s been a struggle but I’m trying to be optimistic about my future. Some people need more time to grow into themselves and that’s okay.

[@Adrianaxo.]

Turning 22 in April, and I don’t think I can even grasp how much time I’ve wasted. I’ve done nothing but be depressed and have such major anxiety about going out and making friends. I feel so stuck and alone, my responsibilities is so overwhelming and I just feel so lost in this loop, as if I have no point anymore. You know?

[@3mi3mi]

@@Adrianaxo. girl, I feel that. What gets me up in the morning though, is realizing that my life is too short to keep wasting more time isolating myself and feeling like a failure, and I don’t want to look back at my life and have any more regrets. As for socializing, it’s hard for me too but the bad experiences I had are common. I had to learn to set better boundaries, but that could only come with experience. You live and learn and do better next time.

[@natalie.louise]

Girl I did the same thing. heart break at 21 that screwed up my mind and sent me into a spiral. toxic behaviors. age 22 and onward is all about grounding, yoga, and self love! struggling is a good thing. it means a breakthrough is gonna happen xoxo have a good day xx

[@henryvyne8774]

Dude, I was also homeschooled!! I had no clubs, no friends, wasn’t really even allowed to go anywhere, and then was 18 when Covid started. Im just trying to remember that youth is relative, it doesn’t what has already happened or not happened, there is still time.

[@3mi3mi]

@@natalie.louise ty ❤️

[@RedPandaNinja6886]

no such thing as wasting time in your 20s. you need that time to recover from whatever happened to you as a child so you can get funky with it in your 30s

[@amdiary7]

Exactly !

[@nymphicide]

YES. ❤

[@dw3675]

Thank you! I needed this

[@Gilmarbarrioss]

I’m 27 and I feel this way with super anxiety. I pray for all of us in our 20’s to find peace ☮️

[@nourahalmazmi5890]

I always felt this anxious without knowing it was anxiety when I was a teenager, I thought I'm being delusional and that this feeling is only coming from me and everyone is fine, one thing I'm so thankful for is discovering mental health awareness when I was 20, I'm still dealing with it and I face my feeling because this is the only way, but it makes it better to know that it's not just me and remember you're so strong for facing it every time and it's just feeling and not your whole life

[@Gilmarbarrioss]

“It’s just a feeling it’s not your whole life” wow thank you for that. This hit home

[@adrianaivanoff9899]

I want to pray over you as well. I pray the Lord gives you unmatched peace and shatters the thoughts of the enemy that distract you from a wonderfully bright future. I pray you feel the blessings of God in every breath that it may follow you until your last, so that you may remember that God has been with you in every journey. Let the enemy not touch your mind with poison, but may God fill you with sights and wonders that renew the world for you. Let your chains and burdens be broken under the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. In Jesus name Amen 🙏

[@Gilmarbarrioss]

@@adrianaivanoff9899 AMEN 🙏🏾

[@nourahalmazmi5890]

@@Gilmarbarrioss you're most welcome!

[@manudetodo]

I also wasted my early 20's, started getting my shit together at age 25. Now 26 almost 27 and i'm killing it! It's never too late, but the sooner you start, the better!

[@bro918]

what did u end up doing

[@eensanom]

I’ve “wasted” time. I sat at home being ill, dreaming, and dealing with my feelings after my mom passed. I was super nostalgic about when my mom was around and my high school days. Looking back at my diaries throughout my life, a theme came up: all my life, I was looking back. Looking back at the people I left when I changed schools, looking back at the girl I used to be when I was younger, I was always looking back and idealizing the past. But the moments I was looking back to now and idealizing were those same moments I kept avoiding when I was living them, trying to live in the past instead.. then I realized how much time I was really wasting, and how big of a foolish mistake it was. At 21 I thought I was *old*, and there I was celebrating my 25th birthday. My 25th birthday was when I realized I was still young and I better use that youth. You’ve wasted time ? Good, now you know it. And you also know you can’t get it back if you reach your hand in the past, so reach your hand to the future and start living :) ❤❤❤ most people waste time anyway. people are depressed over being unemployed because they want to do something yet people who work dream of not working so they can do things. people out here having their dream life and still unhappy so not in the moment ie wasting time. people getting sick and having to take literally years to devote theirselves to their health. people being abused. people with family problems. people who’ve never wasted time but are suddenly stuck and wasting time later in their life. we’re all on our own lanes. there is no traffic when you’re on your own lane. Sydney is 3 hours ahead of Perth. doesn’t make Perth slow. just start living 💫

[@marinettemasyrenaud8742]

🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 Thank you so much because i also needed to read this. i was looking back even though i knew i wasn't happy at the time. i just want to stop the cycle to start living and laughing a little bit more everyday.

[@luxita3201]

You summarized just what I feel

[@scarlyt1017]

This was my same experience I keep thinking back when my mom was around and how nice those days were. She used to be the one who made me work hard for things i wanted and also helped me in studies. So after she passed i felt like i didnt know why I was doing this anymore. I know i need to get it together so I can settle on my life but still not having that person who always used to look at you and your achievements, happiness and genuinely was there for you all this time brings that ache and emptiness. Well, that's life

[@ye8289]

that's so true

[@chloe.cordeiro]

What a lovely thing to write 💖💖💖 I've been panicking about the self awareness this video brought (haven't even properly started the video yet), and reading your comment made me so calmmm 🧖🏻‍♀️🌱🍃

[@mea16040]

I feel like theres this underlying invisible pressure of having to "live your best life", "never say never", "have fun with everything you do", etc mentality (which is actually a really nice positive thinking right?) - but I feel like its so -all or nothing-. I feel like if u don't have exotic vacations 3 times a year, go out on fridays/weekends every single week, meet new people, constantly challenging yourself and trying new stuff then you're just "wasting ur life" and not "using it correctly bc its YoUr bESt YEarS"...i love slow living, doing absolutely nothing sometimes and choosing slow strolls at midnight without the "crazy" behind it :( I feel like not being young, wild and free is immediately boring, non-self-fulfilling and many other things that don't fit into the 20s theme! Im 21 and I feel like I've had nice experiences, nothing too crazy, and its possible the next 3-4 years will look no diff bc I choose to...and that doesn't make life nor my early 20s less worthy :)

[@krystanicoleeee6022]

Love this! I agree the theme of the 20s is sometimes just over the top, like it is okay to do the opposite if you like! I like the mixture of both, but I am extremely picky as to who I spend my time with and the environment that I am in too! It is time to get out of the mindset of "I wasted my 20s" or whatever age like no you did not. This is just the path your on right now and it will get even better!

[@anyone1111]

Slow living~ love the sound of that I think more and more people are realizing how busy the world is. Busy with work (or trying to work) busy with school. Busy balancing a social life or busy finding a social life. Busy trying to take care of our environment. Busy trying to take care of our appearance if we are able to. Busy trying to do self care and being busy attempting to get a good sleep more than we actually do. Busy trying to heal. Busy with hobbies. Busy with taking care of those around us. Always busy. We are realizing how fast paced the world is when it’s not really supposed to be like that 24/7. That we are supposed to be able to slow down not meant to have to carry everything, and balance a very hectic life with all the needs and desires we have to tend to. I am very slow in almost everything I do. People say it’s not good to be slow but it’s not good to be busy 24/7 with no rest or slow days. I hope we can all find a day to be a bit slower at our own pace at least once a week of possible. And if not I just hope we try to slow down throughout our busy days. Sometimes it’s nice to think that life isn’t a rush at times it’s okay to slow down and not feel bad when we get the chance to.

[@PaolaTheTimeLord]

i cried watching this. i'm 23 and i'm so scared of failing and not having everything perfect. i'm becoming self aware and when you're self aware, you're frozen in time. you know this is bad for you and yet you're still processing it

[@TheTurtleWithATopHat]

Are you me? Because I feel the exact same

[@itzlesleyrose]

Same 🥹❤️

[@peppap1ggle664]

im going on 24 and god, this is me, i wish us the best in life:(

[@princesszara111]

Girl I don’t see this as you wasting time, you’ve grown so much and evolved (you still are evolving) you didn’t fail multiple times you found multiple ways that didn’t work for you, and this is the best way to spend your time. 💖

[@krystanicoleeee6022]

THIS PART! I am 26 (turned 26 on the 7th) and honestly never felt like I wasted time at all. Like okay I spent a ton of time alone and leveling up internally and all that but it beats being in terrible situations or with terrible people just to say I experienced something. I much rather experience life the way I desire, so if that means it's a little quiet rn I know that means it is only getting better! I love my life and am excited to see what is in store!

[@princesszara111]

@@krystanicoleeee6022 THISSS! Ah i love your mindset girl and I love this for you. You perfectly said it, we should all spend our time like this. Happy belated birthday 💖🥰

[@fernandogmail1]

this is such a beautiful perspective

[@princesszara111]

@@fernandogmail1 thank you 💖

[@StarStarStar059]

Im 26 about to be 27 and I’ve basically wasted all of my 20s to depression and anxiety, but I plan to go out with a bang ❤️

[@RhythmAddictedState]

I'm 25 and same. I'm trying to get myself together and regain control, despite my mental health. Good luck

[@emilyzahra]

It's not a waste, it's a clearing out phase---I like to look at it as this. My 20s were the worst, I felt like an old soul trapped in a young body. I struggled very much mentally. Everyone around seemed so normal. This made things harder. When I turned 30 everything seemed to turn brighter. Im 36 now and things couldn't be better for what I've struggled through, I do still have a long way to go but this is the process. Wishing you all the love, abundance, and happiness🙌❤️‍🔥

[@yadsewnde8699]

Wym by that 🤨 regardless, i hope your mental health improves

[@kiks399]

I'm right there on that train with you🚂 Turning 27 on March 2. Dropped out of school twice.

[@cute_axolotl]

I'm also 27 and have suffered with depression and social anxiety basically my entire life, but I try really hard not to think of my life as being "wasted." Yes I could've lived voraciously and could've had many more experiences, but I'm also very glad that my life is relatively peaceful, healthy, I've had opportunities to travel and go to college, I'm close with family, etc. Try focusing on the good/positive aspects of your life and your perspective will hopefully change :)

[@notreyreyes]

I thought I wasted so much time, by taking so many breaks from school, and comparing myself with my peers, I thought at 24 I should have a great job and have a ton of money but that's a lie. I learned so much and I'm happy I set up myself for the rest of my life, these years were so important to my psychological development and now I feel like I'm becoming the man I want to be. :)

[@nononononono1730]

Same! I'm so glad I listened to myself and took breaks, no matter what others said

[@bremangham]

I just turned 21 and I feel like life can’t get any worse than this. The STRESS The SADNESS some days I just can’t get up

[@faridaakther8248]

Don't give up. Ups and downs happen in life. Just go with whatever you like and whatever makes you feel like yourself. Just remember to make yourself happy because no one gonna do it for you. Love you. Have a great day :)

[@hamirahabdul3587]

I know life can be very tough sometimes but a good place to start is to focus on one day at a time...to focus on the present and to try hard to spot the everyday blessings🌼 Take care.

[@IrinaLee29]

I feel you

[@krimon4e8]

I can't believe that feeling depression and anxiety is synonym of wasting your time?! It's just our bodies and minds telling us that the culture we live in is not the box they want to be put in. And maybe we don't want to live in a box at all... Maybe it's just not meant for us to figure out life at 23 or 24, but to feel it, experience it, see it, express it with tears, laughter, quietness, patience. I've been through this mindset, I've thought that everybody around me have found their purpose in life, but me. I'm 27 now and i'm trying my best to be kind to myself. To see my life as something beautifull, to be grateful for my friends and family. To convince myself that the things I want for myself will happen whenever my body and mind are ready. It's not a competition and nobody will clap if I accomplish something 2 years earlier or later. In fact, accomplishments are not your work or the apartment you live in, but the strong connections you have with people, the smile you see in the mirror, the stress you have cut out of your life, the joy and peace of a good walk in the park. To whomever reads this comment: Please, don't compare with others. You're not doing yourself a favor. Just try to find your answers within yourself and listen carefully what your body and mind want, not what you will look to others. Just breathe and take very small steps - slowly and patiently. You're not wasting anything! This is life and life is HARD. Embrace that.

[@1984watchr]

I did the same things. Wasted my early 20's being too contemplative and anxious about the future. It's the time you're supposed to be carefree but somehow it isn't because you have such enormous pressure to start developing the life you dream of, and when it doesn't happen like you had always imagined, it's just beyond unbearable and the pressure and the feeling of being a failure is agonizing. You know this is the time that you are supposed to be setting yourself up for the rest of your life, but you have no experience and no idea how to do that so you end up in a paralyzing cycle of fear and inactivity, afraid to make a move in case it ends up being the wrong decision, with disasters in the future. I think in our twenties we live too much in the future. I am now in my late thirties and it's a relief only because I've learned to love myself and realize everything is just an experience. My life doesn't need to compare to others because it's my own.

[@zayunii]

Well said 💕

[@anatheallante7875]

This is actually what am feeling now. Hope to find the courage to conquer it all.

[@sneakers_guy5488]

I think one of the biggest things I learned in my early 20s (I'm 26 now) is to live in a way that leaves me feeling content, not what some other person's ideal of what life should look like. I've never really been the type to go clubbing, drink, go to bars, smoke weed, and because of that, I didn't really hangout with a lot of people my age throughout high-school and university. Despite this, I am lucky, I've had and continue to have really close friends, and I have hobbies that I really enjoy that allows me to meeting new people and new friends all the time. Though, the missing out on parties or social events kind of ate at me for a long time. Eventually, I've just settled into being happy with what I like and being with the people that I want to be around, not what is 'cool' to other people. Thanks for the vid Celin!

[@swisdom9117]

What is your hobby?

[@CB-gi7kd]

What's the best way to meet new people? Besides partying, bars, etc.

[@sneakers_guy5488]

​@@swisdom9117 Soccer, exercising in different ways (e.g., hikes, gym, running, dance classes), reading, video games sometimes

[@sneakers_guy5488]

@@CB-gi7kd If you're in high school or university/college, try and join groups or societies (e.g., rock climbing, dance classes, boxing classes, science groups, groups based on ethnicity) outside of class. In classes, some of my best friends came from being forced to work in groups with people I didn't know previously. Also, this goes for any place in life, but just trying to strike conversations with people is one of the best ways to find out if you have something in common with them. You'll get a lot of duds but you'll also meet people you can get on well with. Edit: To those still in school, having a part-time job can be a great way to meet new people. That's been one of the quickest ways I've made a lot of new friends recently.

[@margaret77777]

Ahh! I'm only 15, but this makes me feel kind of validated :') I love hiking and I have a few creative outlets, and I've also been considering a part-time job (also because I am not involved with any school sports, so I want some more stuff to fill my time because right now studying for school is my only...thing). I'm also an introvert and a quiet person and my family moves a lot so it's more difficult to make friends, but the ones I've made are always pretty close. Thank you for this comment, stuff like this kind of let's me know that it's okay,, haha

[@mj7398]

I am 19 turning 20 in a month...this is perfect for me..I will watch it now

[@boomerp.3652]

No it is not perfect and no one cares

[@ilona5746]

Omg hi I turn 20 in June ‘03 gang

[@anna-iq3dg]

@@boomerp.3652 are you okay ? Lmao

[@jasmined8286]

same!

[@sincere9844]

Same 😊

[@lissethg7249]

Wasting your 20s, for example, is being on social media all day and not looking for your purpose in life. Having no friends or social interactions. Being too afraid to go out and try new things. Not challenging yourself. Not working on your mental health. I did it for a long time.

[@strugglingcollegestudent]

Yeah I need to delete social media. I mean I have friends but I would be so much better if I wasn’t on my phone so much

[@lilofvalls]

I stumbled upon this video randomly and this was exactly what I needed to hear. I'm 20. I am currently struggling with a lot of things and my burdens and responsibilities are taking a big toll on my mental health. I am at my lowest and I feel like I am reliving the same day again and again. I no longer feel passion towards the things I was once passionate about. Thank you for this video. It's hard but seeing your struggles makes me feel like I too will be just fine.

[@W3ND3Y]

Same ❤ everything will be alright

[@realitycheck9062]

hey are you an indian as well. hope u will be better. I am also going through the same

[@shiwangee]

Same, I can v well relate, don't know how n when it's gonna end

[@MintyLemon]

Girl me too, I'm 21 and been trying to work on it. We got this

[@adrianaivanoff9899]

I think your the last person I’m going to try to pray for in this comment section. I pray the Lord sweeps away your burdens and that your heart may be made light with unmatched peace. That your purpose reveals itself and your destination becomes the brightest beckoning light you have ever sensed. I pray you feel more alive for every pang of fear that made you feel as though you’ve lost it. May the Lord bless you with hope. In Jesus Christ name Amen 🙏

[@kristinapaxton9686]

You didn’t waste your 20s - you were healing and growing wisdom. Wisdom & depth of character comes from adversity hugs x

[@angelrafols3356]

I'm 27, mentally unstable, been insecure, seen my age group getting settled with life, like being married, having a stable job while I'm still at school pursuing medicine, but you know what, fuck it. I've learned my lesson and as I get older I cared less about what other people think.

[@NovaYash]

I can feel every word.

[@noraaa8479]

Pursuing medicine while being mentally unstable is the worse I feel you

[@chanela.7786]

I’m 23 and I graduated from college less than a year ago and have gone through a lot of post grad depression. I’m not where I want to be in terms of career and have often at times feel like I’m already falling behind as I see my peers and people even younger than me achieving big things and traveling. Being a first generation student as well I feel like I have this enormous pressure to be the one to succeed and make a difference and have this pressure doing it all in my age group

[@hemalathabiddika5494]

My situation also same like yours 🤧

[@darthriahuz1]

I feel the same, I just graduated a year ago and moved to a new home that is further away from my friends. The drastic changes in my life made me feel burned out, hopeless and demotivated. I felt like I couldn't make myself to move forward and find a job, everything feels so dark and I don't know where I'm going. Social media didn't help either, seeing my college friends in their new jobs and living their life. It felt like I'm stuck and everyone is ahead of me. Now I'm starting to get a glimpse that I didn't "wasted" that year! I learned a lot about myself and really dig into why I was burned out, and feeling overwhelmed with this changes. I acknowledge and validate what I'm going through and the efforts that I exerted. Talking to my close friends helped too! And using small steps of taking care of myself (eat on time, sleep enough, clean room). And constantly reminding myself I'm on my own lane I don't have to compare myself with others. Reading your comment makes me feel that I'm not alone in this and I hope you get up day by day knowing what you feel is heard and valid. Take one step at at time, we can do this!

[@user-ku9xx1gw3v]

So far the only mistake I made was being so scared and nervous about missing out on my twenties that I didn't notice how amazing I'm doing and it only goes up

[@jiribb9300]

that moment when you can relate to the title and words but not the videos of consistent socializing and partying

[@priyanshisaha5378]

i am glad i came across this video, i am 20 now i will turn 21 this october. I am not very well academically, personally or mentally. I see everyone around me and they are doing so well and they are good at most things they do, and i envy them so much and hate them so much. I feel so stuck in this loop, like things are going nowhere i am not growing at all, there is no hope left. i have big dreams and ambitions but i know i am such a loser i will never be able to fulfil them. life is such a shit show now, and i feel so fucking lonely. i hope things get better for me, and for everyone else.

[@aihposnovember1155]

I can relate. Some of my friends are being financially independent, academically active and socially engaging and I couldn't do what they could do. And I hate to think that they have the skills that I really wanted to achieve the most but failed miserably. Then at night, even in mornings, there's a sudden struck of "enviousness" for them that hit me, then I would automatically hate myself for being jealous with my FRIENDS. I know i'm such a bad friend and I am trying to change that because I love them. I don't wanna ruin it just because of a fleeting emotion. But idk, it's really hard. I wanted to tell them truth of me being jealous of them but I don't think it's a good idea. Anyways, I'll just gonna pray for this. I am certain God can vanish this from my life.

[@eehan1769]

hey I have an advice for you. Never feel hate or jealousy of people when they achieve things around you. Because you are creating these negative feelings and they manifest into terrible things into your life. just fill your mind with positive feeling like 'I am so happy for them' 'if they can achieve that I can too'. I turned 20 in December too:) and manifesting has help me a lot maybe it can help you too

[@serenasimdi6543]

You're not a loser dear, everyone is going through something similar and you're definitely not alone, in as much as things aren't going the way you planned just be positive. I pray that God guides you in whatever you do.

[@itzlesleyrose]

Saaaame 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@itzlesleyrose]

@@eehan1769 I turned 20 past December too 🥹❤️

[@samcarmen]

As an 18 year old, I’m so thankful for you and all the other creators who are making videos like this. It is actually very helpful and enlightening

[@nothinggoeswrong6508]

I spent my early twenties figuring out how to live my life after graduation ( I finished my studies at 22 in 2020 when Covid hit). I also moved out at the same time and ended up working remotely as due to the pandemic I was failing to find a job in the city. I spent 2 years severely overworking as it was the only way to make ends meet and support myself, and then the war started. That's how I realized that not everything is under our control. Most of the time we are just trying to be the way we can. Cheers to everyone out there reading this.

[@salwasayeed1711]

I hope you're doing well now ❤️🤍

[@patricia_1303]

I can relate so much. I’m 27 in March, I’ve lost my dad two months ago and it feels like my life fell apart, it’s so painful to lose a person you loved and I also feel like I’ve lost myself during my 20’s. I guess I’ve got a lot of inner work to do. Thank you for the video 💕

[@vishnupriyaps7404]

I understand you 🙂

[@chiaragroh579]

The 20s is literally a time of growth and figuring life out. I‘d like to change the golden 20s to golden 30s or 40s 50s 60s whatever. When you‘ve settled and figured out what you want to be like is the best time to shine. Until then, you shall cherish each day but don‘t beat yourself up because you had some failures while you were barely out of school. You‘ll do it YOUR way

[@Princessmiz]

I’m 19…I’m about to turn 20…I just feel like I’m not living like others girls at my age…all them look grown, mature, “that girl type of vibe” and I constantly compare myself to them feeling like a child. But I realize that i don’t have to become “that girl” cuz I am already. And I’m going to enjoy my live more

[@faridaakther8248]

Enjoyyy❤️❤️❤️

[@Luvluna19]

I deleted my social media bc every time I went there I saw people always Havin so much fun and I felt like I was left behind , I left social media and just started to live life easy do things on my own pace still learning about myself and trying to go on with days ( turning 20 next month , wish me luck )

[@faridaakther8248]

Best of luck. You can do it ❤️❤️❤️

[@Luvluna19]

@@faridaakther8248 thank you sm ! So far it’s been good /learning experience!

[@vanessayo4394]

I didn’t have luxury to go out like others did. The paycheck to paycheck and finding myself in my career. I still have anxiety that it’s not all figured out at late 20’s. But as long as we are growing and learning boundaries. Thanks for sharing this video. Relatable ❤

[@ririlatte]

the pressure and responsibilities during your 20s is no joke- i'm turning 24, just resigned from my job beceause i'm not happy & it's affecting my mental health. i thought i'm gonna be happy after sending my resignation letter, never knew i'm gonna be this lost & stuck. not sure what career to pursue either. the anxious feeling of failing and not being able to do well in the future is just unbearable. nonetheless, i know that i'm not the only one who feels this way at some point & i try to keep going despite the circumstances. hence, i am rooting for everyone here in the comments. i hope you guys know that you can take one step at a time, we're all work in progress! tysm celin for making this video, everything is so relatable. it helps me contemplate sm. you're an inspiration dear, bless your heart! 🥺💌

[@sabeconge5427]

the first one is so true. I study social psychology and there’s a study that tells you exactly that. The more ignorant you are the more you will think you are right and be less open to try understand the point of view of others. In our society being not extreme and super convinced in your ideas is seen as a weakness, instead we should recognize that is the first sign of maturity and intelligence

[@edreaa]

Can we all just take a sec and appreciate her amazing storytelling skills?? Loved this vid, so inspirational! 😭🥰

[@AndreaDiaz-rc3iy]

The part of the lost of your father hit me too close, I lost my dad just a couple months ago and I'm 20, and now thinking that he is not going to be in my future plans is soo difficult to process.

[@aureinaalvarez9207]

Same I lost my dad at 17. That was 3 years ago

[@laylacaato7832]

some to me lost last year at 22.

[@kmar1s]

this is so beautiful, in my 1st year of uni and also feeling a loss of passion, this gave me a new perspective

[@celinloh]

Don't pressure yourself into finding it, you are where you need to be.

[@amarilismilan2879]

I went through the same thing in my early and mid 20s, depression took the best of me and I had the worst relationship with myself. Now I am in my late twenties, and I have never been happier. All these experiences are not a waste of time, it helps us find joy and self love ❤ Proud of you ☺

[@afellowotaku-san8359]

The perfectionist part really resignated with me. It's very difficult for me to let go of the need to control everything. It's making me absolutely miserable, especially when things don't go as planned. I'm just so tired of trying, because something out of my control will randomly pop up and fuck up everything I've been preparing for. Living has become like a chore; going to school, studying, keeping deadlines. It feels like I put in so much effort and get nothing out of it. No matter how hard I try, my life is still the same shit hole. I've started to hate my life and the world, my mental health is crumbling and I'm so full of hate and negativity. Idk how I'm going to get through this.

[@gabriellelott6372]

I was in the same spot as you last year. I actually ended up in the hospital for a week after a mental breakdown & hit rock bottom. Before that, I was desperately trying to control everything outside of my control because I lacked control over myself. My emotions, my health, my habits, what I was doing with my life, etc. None of that was going how I truly wanted it to. I lacked the discipline to get what I want. It wasn’t until I started to keep the promises I made to myself that life started to turn around for me (if you’re curious how, check out 75 Hard program by Andy Frisella). Let me just say this last thing… if you’re in a job, college program, or even location that you hate, don’t stay there. Not for another minute. Don’t do something you aren’t passionate about because you feel like you “have” to. You don’t “have” to do anything! You get to design your life, so do what you want. And if you don’t know what you want, just keep trying new things until something feels right. Life is too short to stay in a place where you feel unhappy.

[@masteryoshi5685]

Turning 33 next week and I lost my dad 2 years ago. After I lost him I was straight reckless for the next year and a half 😂 I can't imagine what going through your 20s is like now compared to the 2010s. But what I can say, you and the rest of everyone in this comment section are perfectly normal and you're doing great! Your 20s are for learning these things, it's for experiencing the world around you and how you fit in it, how you can make it what you need it to be. You will change and change again. You aren't losing time, you aren't wasting your 20s, you aren't doing anything wrong. You're living, believe it or not. Make the mistakes, roll around on the floor thinking about what you'lI do next. Because no matter what you do, the lessons will come and you will learn them. Then more will come and youll learn some more. Life is a lesson and youll be learning for the rest of it, try not to add more pressure to the load. I know I'm probably sounding like every other 30+ y.o but wherever you are is fine, what's most important is maintaining your self awareness. I'm still young myself and this video applies to me too! I went through major transformation after 30, where everything looks different and I'm learning to navigate all over again 😆

[@cassiejohnsen22]

this is beautiful, i’m watching on my tv but i needed to open the app and comment because the effort you put into editing and all of your own content in addition to the amazing lessons is *chefs kiss* i can’t wait to see your work pay off more

[@isobellamorrison3620]

celin this is so beautiful and powerful. i’m always always here for you 💖

[@LaniBeanz]

Wow I love your style of editing and your wisdom is astounding. You’ve given me so much hope ♥️

[@sorryimbusyimproving3512]

What a beautiful video. It is crazy that I could relate to every single aspect in this video. Thank you for making it! It put a lot of things into perspective for me.

[@alisagorzhii]

This video seems so simple on the surface, but in reality, this is extremely motivating and calming! Thank you💗

[@raezvn1292]

Thank you for this incredible message. I felt so seen and appreciate the effort and time you poured into sharing this work of art 💕

[@EvolveWithElaine]

Wow. I loved this. I needed this honestly. I am almost 21 so this was super comforting! I have felt so alone going through this season, so thank you!!

[@prisxcillakim]

your voice is so soothing to listen to, and your message is so comforting.

[@chaoticcreative]

this was really sweet and edited beautifully! i hope the lessons keep coming gently for u and all of us as we stumble thru young life. i’m turning 20 in a week (whoo!) and something i heard which i’m holding onto is that ur 20s is about gathering data - abt urself, ur passions, ur community, anything. nothing has to come together or make sense, u have the rest of ur life for that, so i hope to embrace curiosity for all the things whether they make me feel better or worse ❤️

[@svinty]

I love this so much, and when I saw the view-count I was genuinely surprised, as watching the video I thought the production quality was over the top, I can’t believe this video is so underrated Thanks for sharing your experience about your 20’s, as well as touching on more sensitive topics that, I find commending that you’ve decided to share it with the world

[@Mia-ge7xf]

You are so honest and vulnerable and absolutely amazing . I love this so much. So so inspiring ❤

[@user-qk5ur7ww9y]

this is wonderful, celin! this is truly wonderful 🥺

[@peonies4639]

Best video ever! I can’t explain how badly I needed this!!!

[@amicifriends9857]

Sis, I need more videos like this haha I love your vibe and all the lessons you gave us😍I’ll be waiting for more videos of yours

[@harwihan345]

This video is literately a dope one. So calming, self-reflecting, encouraging and to be honest i found the most precious one. Thank u sooosoo much.

[@azinjk8897]

Girllllll, you don't even know how much I needed to hear this,thanksssss

[@arishedlock1769]

this video made me cry happy tears, thank u so much for sharing

[@NdeshiWay]

Celin, through your rollercoaster of life, you're honestly such a breath of fresh air. Thank you for sharing this with us.

[@samaraperkins9124]

These are the influencers we need this is so raw and real thank you for sharing ❤️

[@thesubliminalqueen]

Thank you for validating the feelings of anxiety of the unknown going through your 20s 🥰

[@cyrillius123]

6 years into my twenties and you beautifully summarized that rollercoaster. Thx for making this

[@lin_mill]

The lessons in this video are everything 🙏 I’m in my early 20s myself and life can feel so overwhelming and daunting, we need to give ourselves grace and live a life of love. And 100% agree with the points on evolving and how questioning our beliefs is such a mature thing. As someone who’s been through a handful of college majors and still continuing to explore my interests, I’ve realized how important it is to just go with the flow and allow each experience to teach you something unique. I still have an internal debate on stability vs. passion in career, and I think it’s just about finding that personal balance for yourself and what fulfills you. Your passions can totally be continued as hobbies which can sometimes be more fun and freeing. And while your career isn’t the only thing to define you, it is a huge part of your life, so seeking something you value and pivoting as those values change is natural! Thanks for your vulnerability 🤍

[@yana.rya_____]

Another Melbourne youtuber! The editing, the story telling, the message in this video is pure chef's kiss 😍

[@SOPOAE1]

I immediately felt connected to this video at the start when you mentioned your dad's death. Mine also died, in 2017 and I'm also 23. I am feeling lost, literally something inside me shifted when I got 23 and felt like I missed on so much, but then my therapist told me that I was busy going through grief, and that made me feel better. When you go through a death, or anything else, like depression, you are busy tryin to find a way to live your life that fits You, while many others seems to have it more smooth. Everyone's trying their best. I really like this video, thank you for sharing it and good luck in your journey :)

[@alicia10387]

This video is such a godsend!! Thank you so much my 20s are about reconstruction, I love that!

[@AidanMalik]

i love the way you make the script, the story telling are so great! please keep making videos because i think you are good at this and i'm so proud of you how you manage and be responsibility to what happened into your life!

[@sarahclark9043]

This video is so authentic and the insights are on point. Thanks for this ❤

[@ellie-jane]

Giiiiiiiirl this was an amazing video. As a girl in her 20s, I appreciate content like this. Thank you for sharing your experience and paving the way for many of us who feel anxious about the 20-year-old pressures. (Also, you have an AMAZING narrating voice!! Can’t wait to watch more of you 💖

[@teenagegirlforever]

Wow, thank you so much for this video. The thought that your career doesn't always have to be driven by passion but that you should make sure to incorporate it in your everyday job or free time was very comforting and reassuring. I'm 27 and have been coming to terms with the fact that the job I always felt super passionate about pursuing comes with a toxic culture that doesn't serve me and my vision of life. So I'm also trying to figure things out and evolving along the way, and I guess it's good that we do. 😌

[@blitzenblazin]

this was such an inviting video to your community IM SO HAPPY I FOUND YOU

[@Poppomatic64]

Lost my dad in 2018 too, I hope you’re doing ok. Thanks for this, super relatable my gosh

[@mirandatran]

Thoroughly enjoyed watching this, you put together such an amazing video! ❤ thanks for being open & vulnerable, that’s hard to do. You are very wise ☺️ “chase of quick dopamine fixes” - true

[@ms.cookies]

Hey! girl I really needed to hear this right now, I'm like in the same situation as you, I'm 23, & dont know what to do, but after watching your video, it was very inspiring! To never give up, move on, and to accept whats coming in for us! Keeping a positive mindset everyday! Thank you so much for the video!

[@NugiMIkhsan]

this is video I need. thank you so much Celin!

[@raha468]

Thanks a lot for sharing your experience about your 20s.I'm passing my 20s now and having the same emotions holding me back. Thanks for making this video. It's a kinda reminder for me and also it's helpful to make us realize the factors that we don't notice in our 20s

[@salmamabrouk777]

YOU ARE AMAZING !!! THANKYOU FOR THIS ♥

[@theempressv438]

What a beautiful video 🥹 I’m 22 and I resonate with all of your sentiments and feel connected to your story. ❤

[@en2p187]

You don't know how much you've helped everyone by posting this. Thank you

[@aylabreann4725]

this was all so beautifully worded. i will be coming back to this video in the future. im 19 and will be 20 this year, i am absolutely terrified but also so excited.

[@ianzhang975]

absolute king. keep going on your self improvement journey

[@naurafadiya]

thank you for makin this video

[@kells_utopia]

this was such a lovely video, thank you and thank you for showing us your journey🫶

[@kj8767]

As someone's who's turning 20 later on this year, this video could not have been in my suggestions at a better time. I've been so nervous about entering my 20s because I feel like I don't have it all together when I should.

[@armandodelapaz1547]

Hey thank you for making this !

[@iridescentpng]

Love love your honesty in this video!!

[@angelac293]

This was beautiful, I am 27. My 20’s are almost over and I’ve made so many mistakes but every year I’ve became more confident and my opinions have most definitely changed. You say that you don’t want to b a star but through this video I see one and your shine will keep on growing :)

[@devanshipandey430]

I think this is my favourite channel, you're beautiful cel🥺

[@casualdakota]

I stumbled upon this on my youtube homepage, and I'm so glad I did. I've been going through a phase of "I don't know what I want to do, but everyone else seems to have it figured out." Thank you for sharing your raw truth, I feel seen and not alone in this "I don't know what's going on" phase. :)

[@Joselitty]

Wonderful video. I’m turning 23 in June and I’m slowly learning to take action and unlearn bad habits.

[@thesoftestgloww]

Thank you 💗 I'm turning 19 in several months, and this video appeared just in time. I especially liked the words about perfectionism. Perfectionism really held me back these past few years. I always wanted everything to be as perfect as possible, but overthinking about it made me tired and I was scared to make something imperfect, so I didn't make as much things as I wanted, didn't complete a lot of them. Now I'm trying to not to chase perfection that much. I notice that I started to enjoy the process of creating something, and not chasing perfection helps me to complete what I do and really become better and better 💖

[@veisnthere9]

im gonna be honest out pf all the videos ive seen so far about this topic this is by far the best one the honesty here is amazing hope to see more

[@in.spired.bylife]

So beautiful that you can be so vulnerable around this. I also think having all of those experiences are not a waste, but simply lessons that are now transformed into wisdom making you exactly who you are Now ✨wishing you all the love on your healing journey

[@loudijoseph]

This is beyond beautiful it encapsulates everything I’ve felt so far the only thing is that I just turned 20 and I feel like my life’s been wasted

[@ewest9138]

I just turned 22 and I’ve lost the most of the past decade to mental illness. I feel like my life hasn’t even started yet, I’m not gonna dwell anymore.

[@Resya789]

Thank you so much for the fun and wise video :) This video feels like a cheatsheet in the 20s and I feel "big sister energy" from this. It's really comfortable and assuring, feels like someone says "you're gonna be okay, you can face this, everything will end well" and definitely will save this video to watch sometimes again. Thank you once again :) Hope you will always be well and good luck for the future journey

[@jocenasty]

this made me feel a lot better. thank you

[@Anitaa-22]

Such an amazing video Celin!😍 wow, just everything about it, thank you. So beautiful.