i went to 3 LA vintage stores to see what fit me...

[@moiraanne7233]

Gonna get backlash for this but personally I think that we should give more attention to mid/plus size experiences and here’s why. THIN BODIES ARE NOT MARGINALIZED THE WAY PLUS SIZED BODIES ARE. I’m saying this as someone who used to be a 00 in high school and am now a 2/4 in most stores. We recently did a clothing swap at work and I couldn’t fit into most of the clothes because they were too big. People used to call me anorexic and tell me to eat a cheeseburger. I get it. But people in larger bodies receive an overwhelming amount of hate for existing, receive unsolicited “health” advice from perfect strangers, and lack representation in the media and when they are represented oftentimes the fall into stereotypical tropes. None of these are things I experience as a thin person. People laud my health when I live off hot Cheetos and white claws.When I turn on the tv I see characters who look like me in lead roles and as romantic protagonists. Plus size/Mid size struggles and experiences are valid and real and Carrie shouldn’t have to put a disclaimer just to not get hate comments and backlash.

[@CarrieDayton]

💞💞💞

[@moiraanne7233]

♥️♥️♥️

[@blazedandglazed]

Moira Landvatter THIS THIS THIS ❤️

[@moiraanne7233]

Blazed And Glazed Thanks for being an awesome ally and acknowledging everyone’s experience! You and Carrie are bringing awareness to a really important problem in society. ♥️ Shopping sustainably is so important in our current climate crises, but it’s not inclusive to all bodies right now and that’s an area that needs to change!

[@philhebrank6885]

I'm the #69 like (hehe)... but I TOTALLY agree with what you are saying. EVERYONE has struggles. When I go shopping at thrift store with my sister(size 14-16) It always seems like she finds a bunch of cute stuff in her size and I (size 6-9) am always left empty handed or find just a few things. When I complain, I will feel shamed for complaining because I am smaller. Neither of us should be made to feel bad about our struggles. Point blank ....we all struggle and we all have come ups!! Just be happy and thankful , each time brings different results but I like to think it evens out eventually

[@MeganManXxX]

I was a teen in the 90s and was a size 20 in high school. Believe me when I tell you we did NOT have cute plus sized options back then. There is not much plus sized vintage because nobody was creating anything but grandma clothes for us.

[@heartslove1942]

MeganManXxX yep. Most people wore homemade or guys clothes irl

[@jennyl150]

Truth!

[@teilaboston3674]

100% agree! And the very few decent options weren't remotely affordable for most people

[@tiff_toff]

Yup, teen in the 90’s right here 👋🏻 and I can tell you that there were NO cute mid-sized or plus-sized options available that were sustainable or affordable. We’re still trying to work our way back from the “super skinny” body type that was everywhere back then. Y’all...I was only a size 6 back then and was still battling disordered eating to try to fit the norm of what my girlfriends looked like, and I was teased for being “chunky” by my family. I’m so excited that amazing people like Carrie are voices for change and inclusivity! It’s all above love to everyone!! (Skinnies too 😘)

[@VeggieVllc]

Truly vintage items ARE smaller. A size 12-14 then is like an 8-10 now. Vanity sizing is real, people.

[@Olivia.longname]

Also any clothes made pre WWII were def smaller! They Gov't literally regulated how much textile/sizing was used to conserve during the war.

[@shimmerbeautyXO]

I have so many clothing items that are vintage sizes 6-10 and im a size 2....

[@Billybloop]

Or maybe sizes have changed because people are larger.

[@jasperwinchell6569]

Veggie V that wasn’t the issue though they didn’t even have those sizes

[@Billybloop]

@@jasperwinchell6569 Yes they did. Layne Bryant has been around since the Victorian times.

[@maddief1207]

People who have bodies outside of the realm of standard sizing struggle to find things that fit them and are excluded from certain activities (ie shopping vintage). Carrie isn't blaming anyone or asking for anything to change or judging any of the stores. She is shedding light on the fact that some people have a lot fewer options than others and I think even just everyone being aware of that is a step towards a less judgmental more body positive place to live. thanks for the video Carrie!

[@CarrieDayton]

THIS!!!! ❤️

[@septarian3337]

I'm not trying to be rude at all, it's just an honest question. I'm a size 14/16 us. But weren't clothes just overall made smaller back in the day? This maybe obvious but I never really thought about that until now. I feel like that's a big reason why it's harder for us midsize and up girls to find vintage. Obviously that isn't a reason why there aren't many sustainable clothing options for us out there. Just a thought though.

[@rings90]

@@septarian3337 Yes vintage clothing earlier than the mid 80's were cut way smaller than sizes we have today.

[@Shay2theT]

Carrie Dayton I have been a size 18 and up since 1992 or so. I can tell you it wasn't until the last maybe 2005 that there were ANY fashionable clothes in the plus size section. All my childhood was spent trying to find the least granny type clothing possible. When skinny jeans came back, for example, it was almost a decade before you could find them in a plus-size section. When Torrid and similar stores opened that changed the game. When you're looking in thrift stores at clothes from the 90's and before it totally reflects that. I'm so so thankful there has been progress made. It's nowhere near equal but... progress.

[@rings90]

@Brooklyn Paige I think it very much depends on what region of the country you live in. I am in WI & a good friend of mine has a consignment shoppe that I help out at. The largest sections begin at size 8 and up to 18. It's hard for her to get women's sizes 4-6 in stock. I am a 10-12 and have been for years, I have very little issues going to the bigger cities vintage/consignment/charity shoppes and finding lots of options in my sizes.

[@14rpshortie]

Something to remember, sizes have not been consistent over the decades. Always try stuff on.

[@shannoncarr7338]

So true, in vintage I'm anywhere from a s-xl hah.

[@philhebrank6885]

Yeah I was frustrated that she wasn't trying more stuff on. It happens all the time that the sizes are wonky and the garment will fit.....MORAL OF THE STORY -JUST TRY IT ON!!! FORGET THE DAMN SIZE :)

[@14rpshortie]

So true! I thrift a lot and I'll have 20 pieces of clothing to try on because they look like they'll fit me but then only 3 end up working. And I'm a size 8. Its difficult for everyone.

[@laragrove75]

“I’m gonna try to be incognito about filming” *pans the whole store*

[@CarrieDayton]

HAHAHA SHE WASNT LOOKING OKAY 😂☠️

[@laragrove75]

Carrie Dayton hahaha

[@Soldier76sTennisSocks]

Carrie's orange hair scarf goes soooo well with her eyeshadow!!!!! we STAN a colour-coordinating queen

[@CarrieDayton]

I LOVE YOU 😍

[@ellimak6774]

When I go into a vintage/thrift store, I go in with the mentality that I won't find items that will fit me. So when I do find something that will it is a lot more exciting. And what I will say is that I don't expect things to change, and I know thrift stores can't exactly control the sizing they get because it's reliant on what is donated. But that doesn't change the fact that these moments do sting and build that self consciousness.

[@alexasunshine83]

(still watching) but there was AN ADORABLE KITTY IN THE STORE OMGGGGGGG

[@CarrieDayton]

SHE WAS PERFECT AND I MISS HER 😭❤️

[@atlasbonds6095]

I'd be so unhappy to see a cat in a clothing store. #allergies

[@heatherlee2184]

If you ever want to visit Chicago there’s a vintage store called Lost Girls Vintage that carries sizes 00-26 and inside there’s a collab shop that does exclusive vintage plus size sizing called Luvsick Plus. The ladies are wonderful and they feature finds on Instagram! I would personally recommend this shop since depending on the fit I’m a size 16 to 20. I’ve gotten pieces from both shops!

[@JennaMcCallister]

Heather Kendall thanks for the tip, fellow Chicagoan!

[@tiff_toff]

Ooh thank you Heather Kendall!! I’m planning to visit Chicago again next year! I’m def going! 😘

[@beingashope]

3:56 I really thought she was a mannequin

[@CarrieDayton]

We really laughed for longer than we should have in that moment hahahaha

[@beingashope]

Carrie Dayton It made me jump when she moved lmao

[@chelseaeberhardt]

me too

[@jodihaskey6164]

She scared the shit out of me when she moved lol must be bed time

[@tatidanidean]

Me too! It was freaky!

[@caitlynnervin2972]

One thing that I haven't seen touched on in the comments is that some "thrift stores" won't even accept clothes past a certain size. Which is so, so disappointing. I am from Missouri and here we have Uptown Cheapskates (very similar to Plato's Closets). The last time I went, I took in several pairs of nearly new American Eagle jeans. They were not accepted. At the end of my visit, they explained why certain items weren't taken (out of season, slight pilling, etc) but when it came to the AE jeans they told me they don't take jeans past a size 16. How upsetting is that :( When I politely asked her why not, she said it was because the store doesn't have room for plus sizes. No wonder I could never find my size of jeans there because THEY WON'T EVEN TAKE THEM. Moving forward, I try to spend my money at places that value women who are in bigger bodies (value them enough to carry their size). Finding sustainable, ethical, affordable, "plus size" clothing is nearly impossible. :/

[@philhebrank6885]

THAT IS AWFUL AND THEY ARE SIZE DISCRIMINATING....I WOULD FILE A CLASS LAWSUIT LADIES!!! THAT IS UNACCEPTABLE OF THEM....ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTING!!!! ACT AND MAKE YOUR VOICE HEARD. THEY SHOULD BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR DISCRIMINATION!!!!!!!!

[@shaunnicolegroening]

@@philhebrank6885 I mean not at all to discount how terrible it is that they don't value larger bodies and somehow don't believe plus size women could possibly want to support sustainable fashion, it's also not illegal to not sell certain sizes, especially if they're open about it. I sell to Plato's fairly frequently and I wear a lot of mens pants, but they won't buy them from me because they're a mens 25 or 26, and the smallest mens size they sell is a 28. I agree its shameful of them to purposely not include plus size clothing in their store and honestly it seems like a poor business choice since there's clearly a market for it, however they're allowed to carry what they want in their own stores. It's not discrimination, it's just poor business.

[@andreahansgen7411]

If you have a Style Encore in your area they're a resale store that accepts sizes 00-28! At the location I work at we actually prioritize purchasing items size 16 and above!

[@hereisajakualin4344]

Scientifically people in the US (or everywhere really) we're smaller on average in former decades. Having less 'vintage' items in larger size is therefore obvious. (Average height was smaller too-therefore shorter trousers) A size 10 today was a size 12 or 14 then...because people used to be smaller. It's crap for people nowadays. But that's why. There are some cool documentaries talking about that too

[@virginiakrueger4780]

One thing about vintage clothes from the 70's or before is that sizes were smaller. Like a size 8 was the same as a sewing pattern size 8 with 34/25/34 measurements. Thos measurements are a size 2 today.. or close to it. Today's 8 is larger. So the older the clothes the smaller the size will be. Now 80's clothes and more recent should conform more to our current size measurements

[@sabinaciardi9726]

The first changing room has to be the funkiest one I’ve ever seen, so cool! Also I LOVED the sweater you got at the first store😍 I loved both your attitude toward this experiment, so inclusive and cheering!

[@CarrieDayton]

Thank you so so much babe! 💞💞💞

[@tiegz9770]

Shes got Jennifer Anniston's bag from friends!? That's soooo cool!

[@nycolepruett9544]

The reason you find very many vintage clothes in your size is because larger sizes weren't generally accepted/celebrated until recent years. Larger size clothes weren't usually carried, and in my experience when i see larger sizes they are more "grandma pieces" than the trendy vintage clothes people are searching for.

[@Olivia.longname]

So true and a lot of plus sized women literally made clothes from patterns at home because stores did not carry their sizes!

[@mercedes5055]

This would have killed me doing this alone. I'm glad you had your friend with💓

[@chibikate_]

I'm glad that you're showing the struggle. I'm glad to say that the UK is more size inclusive but even at my size I'm a uk 16 but 5'1" so I can look bigger and I get the same looks. Love you and your friend is so supportive she rocks.

[@PoisonTheOgres]

With vintage clothing something you have to keep in mind is also WHY these specific items survived for so long. People in the past didn't just trow clothes away, they were almost always worn out or re-used by someone else. Often the clothes that almost no one fit into (*like the extremely small sizes!!!*) was the clothing that didn't get worn as much, and that's why it still survives now, 60 or 40 years later. Like your prom dress nowadays. You were young and probably a lot smaller when you wore it, but it's a sentimental thing, so you keep it and take care of it. So in 50 years there will probably be a lot of teenager-sized prom dresses left over from this decade, but that doesn't mean those are actually representative of what most people wear.

[@lilymcdermott7309]

Junk for Joy is my aunts store. So happy you finally made it there!

[@CarrieDayton]

Omg tell her we LOVE it and will definitely be back! So cool and funky! ❤️

[@MicaelaHart]

As a plus size vintage shopper one thing i really had to train myself out of was the habit of buying anything i could find in my size, even if i didn't like it and probably would not wear it. It seems crazy, but I swear it became so mentally exhausting to shop that when i would find something I almost felt so grateful I would just close my eyes and buy. I'm better at it now... but for a while it was really difficult.

[@CarrieDayton]

YES YES AND YES

[@xMAYAAAAAA]

SAME!

[@kimsmith6054]

sizing isn't the same it used to be 20 30 40 50 years ago. Sizing charts actually have changed so a Large back in the day might of been a size 8 .

[@cailinwhite1288]

I hate seeing any negative comments about what you are doing. I struggled for a long time with my size 16 body and your channel helps me to stay positive and keep on loving myself no matter what! I totally feel the struggle of not always being able to find my size thrifting or vintage shopping, so this video really helped me feel like I’m not crazy! Keep doing what you’re doing Carrie, I’m such a huge fan so thank you for everything you do ❤️

[@sarahtumler3898]

Going to get some backlash for this but we have to keep in mind a couple things. Firstly, sizing was a whole different system decades ago so a size 12 in the 50s would be more like a 6 or something nowadays. Secondly, the average person used to be a lot smaller than the average person today, thus less plus sizes are found in these vintage stores.

[@juliettediehl]

I honestly had no idea this was an issue. I’m generally a size medium & I can go into almost any store & find my size. Therefore, I had no idea that mid & plus size people don’t have the same experience. But, I really like how you did this video. Thank you for showing your truth. As someone who is studying Retail Management & plans to own their own store, I really appreciate this video. No matter what company I work for (especially if it’s my own), I will do my part to make sure everyone & every size is included 💕

[@juanitacarrollyoung2979]

👍

[@Thatbolingergrl]

I mean WTF! If someone walked up to me and said they didnt have MY size there, I would lose my shit! How do you know I am not there shopping for a friend or family member!!!! SO RUDE!!!

[@haley6768]

I've had that happen to me when I was much smaller and was in a plus sized store shopping for my mom (I was like 17 at the time and a size 2). The worker literally said excuse me miss this store isnt for you looked me up and down and I said I'm not shopping for me and she still continued to give me such a hard time I left the store! Now that I'm much larger (size 12-14) I'm very grateful I have never experienced it again because I wouldnt be able to handle that

[@kingcrimson1204]

Plus what about shoes and bags!? Anyone can wear them 😑

[@shaemumford1935]

paula mcclelland Yeah sis! People need to just STHU and mind their own business. 🙄

[@michellnavarro2335]

Like two weeks ago I was helping my sister to find a BOMB outfit for her to meet her favorite artist and it made me so sad to see the options she had, like I would see something and tell her, and she would just say "they don't have it in my size". I'm a size 6-8 and I've never realized that, or paid attention when we were shopping and she would get so frustrated... It breaks my heart to see her struggle like that. Thank you for sharing your experiences and for making your channel a safe space to talk about this kind of issues! Really love your body positive content!

[@lilyemartin]

LOL @ the “full size” section just being full of pregnancy pants. That is probably the most LA thing I’ve ever seen. PS love the video, and love you!!!

[@tiff_toff]

Seeing that last store gave me hope. We aren’t there yet, but just the fact that we’re all talking about it, building allies (like the amazing Macy), and showing people what the IRL experience is like, is creating waves! Inclusivity and love for ALL body types FTW!!! ✊🏻✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿❤️❤️❤️

[@CarrieDayton]

This comment made me so happy 💞💞💞

[@JessicaN555]

You're the one that introduced me to Macy, and I LOVE HER! She's such an amazing friend to you and you, her, Alexa, Leah and Jess have become my go to youtubers! Carrie, you should be proud AF of yourself and the person you've grown to be.

[@alanamummy]

I’m Australian and I’m so interested that this stuff happens. “We don’t carry your size”?! Wowza. Thankfully all, literally all stores carry every size here. At least in my experience. I was an XL now I’m a S/XS and I’ve never ever not found clothing for my body in my country. I wish this was happening more in USA!

[@karencluts2651]

Just a thought. If the average size for women is 14-16. Doesn't it stand to reason that th here would be less available as they are being worn by all of us in that category?

[@HorseLoverNoOne]

Also the average size has gone up significantly so it makes sense that a vintage store wouldn't have stock in sizes that people didn't wear as much 30/40 years ago

[@alexandradorazio4787]

its so crazy to me that this is such a struggle out in LA but I guess when you think about it, it isn't that shocking. I live in Ohio and not having mid/plus size items at every store is insane and unheard of!!! Absolutely not okay!!! My best friend is a size 18 and if we go to a store that does not include both my (size 4) and her's, they are not getting my business.

[@sarahcaitlin1147]

I’m in Ohio too and I agree there are probably so many more options here than will ever be available in LA. It sucks but you’re right, it’s not shocking. I wonder if there are more size inclusive shops here too than out there. Like more places that will accept bigger sizes. I’ll never understand Los Angeles, it seems like an alternate universe to me.

[@cailthesnail6634]

okay in relation to sizing: the label teen is almost certainly in relation to the pattern size and being a VINTAGE shop lots of these pieces would have been designed and sized in a time where it wasn't common for teenagers to be of a bigger size, due to processed foods not being as common and widely available as they are today and without constant sources of sedentary entertainment. it really isn't a matter of discrimination or malicious intent but simply how the garment was created within its time and should be treated as such

[@perksofbeingcurvy4827]

It's easier for you to say as a straight sized person, historical context doesn't make the experience for plus size people any less disappointing or sad.

[@landonpelt8531]

My grandmother was a size 10 in the 1950s her dresses all had 20in waists. Vintage clothes are just smaller

[@BostonsWellChild]

Can you do an “life update” vlog about how you’re adjusting to life in CA? 🙏 ❤️

[@carm7518]

In Italy they can make your clothing custom size. I bought an Armani Jeans and it needed a better fit. So they have personal seamstress at the stores to customize your clothing. They do not hate plussize. If you can afford it they will help you without judgemental looks. Almost all high end brands in Italy have this.

[@Chelserie1245]

I have totally also had this experience at vintage stores but I will also say that the average weight has gone up pretty substantially over the decades, in fact the average weight of a woman now is what the average weight of a man was in the 60's. I think this is the reason vintage shopping is really hard for mid and plus sized folks!

[@pamelaatkinsonscats2873]

I think sizes have changed drastically. In the '70s/''80s/'90s I was a UK 12/14, (US 8/10). Now I'm still a UK 12/14 (US 8/10) and there's absolutely no way that I would fit into anything in those sizes from way back. My feeling is not to be too disheartened in vintage shops because we now have very different body shapes.

[@elyssaernspiger4537]

i love macy’s vibes! she’s so supportive and chill, i’m glad you guys are friends :)

[@pattymls7384]

Manufacturers did not make cute stylish clothes for women over a size 12. Women wore ugly, boring, shapeless clothes with maybe a few very pieces here and there that were inevitably expensive. So you can’t find pieces that never existed.

[@StrollingThroughLife]

Love how honest you are about this, Carrie!

[@kurkat23]

Thank you both so much for this video and the message you all are trying to share ❤️ helping women not feel alone and that they are able to love themselves no matter what size, myself included..... thank you❤️

[@natcatwink]

When I would watch documentaries on clothes/ plus size clothes through the ages it is always mentioned that there weren’t many options for people above a size 10/12, and also watching documentaries on how today’s kids and teens are generally less fit than kids back then both may be reasons that there is less plus size vintage clothing. As a midsize teenager though, I would say a lot of this seems to be exclusivity in these cases, almost like the Brandy Melville situation. Thanks for this eye opening video, and for normalizing bodies like mine💕💕

[@miajessaggirl]

Bella Wienke THIS! I kept wondering why no one had brought that up. Genuinely people were just a lot smaller back then. My mom has told me previously that the one “plus sized girl in her high-school was most likely what we consider to be a US size 10 today. They didn’t eat the same diet most of us do, so you can’t expect them to have a bunch of plus sized clothing if it wasn’t in higher demand like it is today. Definitely rude of that one worker to say that to Carrie though. :( I would’ve lost my shit on her tbh.

[@SammieSpeaks]

you Talking about people coming up to people and flat out saying "we don't have your size." Isn't something I have experienced in America as I'm not plus-sized BUT it reminded me that when I was in Japan, most stores there are free size aka one size fits all (usually smaller even then brandy Melville) Me and my friend, being taller, bigger (bigger then most Japanese people but average for the us) Americans we would walk into stores and anytime we would pick up something (specifically pants) a worker would come up to us and be like "oh this is a free size store, we don't carry larger sizes" It never felt like they were judging us, they truly probs just thought we were foreigners who might not know about free sizing but still It felt like they were telling us "you cant shop here your to big." In all of Japan, there is like maybe a handful of plus Size brands, One being called Punyus. I tried to buy a pair of jeans there but the sizes are just 1 2 3 and 4 Four being like a USA 18 and 1 being like a USA 1. I got a 3 and it was way too big like a USA 14 but a 2 would have been like a US 4. I couldn't imagine being plus-sized and living there, shopping would be impossible! Just thought id share!

[@blazedandglazed]

Love you so much queen and so thankful we got to have this conversation together 🥰💕

[@CarrieDayton]

Love you so much you don’t even KNOW!!! So thankful for you 🥺❤️

[@annabellecavanaugh-kerr6573]

thank you for making these videos, as someone whos size ranges from the end of straight sizing to midsize, it's super hard finding anything except oversized mens shirts/sweatshirts at thrift shops. i usually just online shop, because going into fitting rooms is super hard for me. thank you for making these videos with such a positive attitude bc i thought i was the only one who was going through this.

[@ShowMeAnAdventure]

I mean, first of all, I love ya both! 💕 This is showing SUCH a different experience than what I see at the stores here in the StL area... the Goodwill stores I shop at on the regular always have so many different sizes. I always see from a 00 up to 38 in jeans (on the same jean rack-only the tops are typically sectioned off from “xs-l” from the plus sizes of “xl-3XL” and always at least a handful of 3XL. There are always TONS of XLs and the 32-34 range here! I’ve been paying closer attention to it since your last video about thrifting not being inclusive. Definitely think it just depends on the particular store and who donates to it! Come shop with me, Carrie! ❤️👑

[@CarrieDayton]

On my way babe!!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@emilybeantree]

I love that you put yourself out there for us all the time. Sustainable fashion is incredibly important and everyone should have access to good clothes that way.

[@El-ee6hz]

I feel like there are less options for mid and plus size in vintage and thrift stores because there hasn’t been cute clothing for us for that long. I hope that in ten years we will be able to buy cute clothes in more sizes vintage.

[@momentsofmaykin]

Yes. This. 100%. As a midsized body myself I have experienced this maaannnyyy times. My best friend is very skinny, but extremely tall and she has had her own version of this experience as well. I'm so glad you had a friend with you, because honestly it makes it so much better.

[@taylorphilipsen421]

When Macy said THEY’RE ALL VALID. Yes!

[@MelissaMommaerts]

Bless you! I'm so happy I found your channel in the heaviest point in my life and when I'm trying to love my body. You going through these situations makes me feel like I'm not alone! I can only imagine how it must be in LA..

[@pipchilli]

it’s the complete opposite it australian thrift stores. for someone who is a size 2-4 there is hardly ANYTHING that fits me. most jeans there are 10-16 and most tee shirts are masssssive on me. come to australia girl we’ll help u out 😉

[@Okstatechick]

I can't believe people come up to paying customers and actually say, "We don't carry your size here"!!! That is just disgusting.

[@nstitz3745]

This was a really cool idea! It was also interesting to see the different thrift stores. Love you!

[@lisa_h2702]

Sorry if this is repetitive but there were not big girl fashions back in the day. There was skinny girl fashion and big ol lady clothes, like boxy and ugly. So there is not a lot of good stuff out there to begin with. As for me, being plus size, I tend to hold on to my clothes until they are falling apart. I have to spend more on my clothes than skinnier sizes so I am choosier and hold on to them longer.

[@lisa_h2702]

And btw you are a perfect size and an average size so that is why there is less second hand stuff in your size. It is a popular size. Not going to be as available.

[@1004hisfamily]

I am a South Korean. A pretty woman is a perfect routine to fashion sense The word "attractive woman" and the word "perfect" is a compliment to you and a word that suits you.

[@Ashleyluvsmusic97284]

I love this video! I was plus size (18 pants) prior to weight loss surgery. It was so hard to go thrift shopping or boutique shopping because of my size and I just gave up and shopped at Forever 21 plus. Now losing 130 lbs wearing a size small I can actually shop sustainably at a thrift shop which thinking about it is frustrating because this was not exclusive when I was heavier. I love your videos and bringing this struggle to light. 💕

[@sabrina.h2737]

My sisters and I are all completely different sizes and we all get shade from others. It's ridiculous the way some retailers behave but for all those retailers who are supportive, kind and helpful, thank-you. ⚘

[@rabeyatahir7699]

I understand what u r saying, but I feel like it’s not really anyone’s fault that they don’t have plus sizes because it’s what people donated. Now, a lot of people sell their clothes instead of donating them, which might play a big factor into it. I think you also sell on posh mark (your cuter clothes) and donate the less cute ones, so how can you blame others for not carrying bigger sizes but your not willing to donate your cuter clothes for someone else to thrift. Also, not saying this as a hater because I watch all your videos. I’m just trying to be educated about it. I’m a size (6/8).

[@Dys_lexy_a]

While I fully understand where you're coming from, I completely disagree. The problem with saying "well you don't donate cute clothes so why would anyone else" is that it perpetuates this idea that we as plus size people are to blame. When there are so many other factors that come into play. One would be that not all clothes donated are sold in thrift stores. Some of your donated items will be bundled up and sold to the highest bidder and then shipped off to wherever they may be. And while some of that bundle may be resold *a lot* of it is going into landfills. Another factor to consider is that it is becoming more popular to alter larger pieces of clothing into smaller ones - taking 12+ sized jeans and cutting them down into a size 6, is a very common thing now. Also, the individual sale approach (like poshmark or depop) is a more accessible way to sustainably shop for so many plus size peoples. I agree that it may not be anyone's *fault* that there are little to no plus size clothes but Carrie's point in making videos like this is to show people that you can't just say "everyone should start shopping secondhand" because for a good portion of people it's just not feasible.

[@CarrieDayton]

If you watch the video, you’ll see that I said I’m not placing blame on any store, any person, or anywhere at all! This was simply an experiment we did for fun 😘

[@coolglasses9917]

LA's girl stereotype is skinny and blonde chick. If it's even half truth (I'm not from US), it's nothing strange in it that you couldn't find clothes in your sizes. It's a thrift store, it has most common sizes in area because clothes come from people in an area. If they don't have your size it's not marginalisation, just mediana of clothe size of local women is other than yours.

[@christinellis4831]

THANK YOU FOR BEING REAL!!! The struggle is real out there. You are a HUGE influence to Change this.

[@uraltalk123]

This is interesting because I have never had an issue with thrift stores clothes not fitting me and I range from a size 10-14 in stores.

[@jamie7002]

As someone who is normally a 6-10, but is currently in the third trimester I actually was jealous of the random amount of available maternity in the "full size" section lol (even tho it was a weird section) Maternity clothes are actually sometimes super hard to thrift, there are usually like 3-10 items IF any store has a preggo section! WTF, expectant moms like to be fashionably sustainable too lol!

[@makingyourlife]

I love her support! It's so comforting. I feel like some of my friends think supporting me is giving me dieting tips :(

[@jessicajackowski3343]

Wow, thats upsetting. They don't seem to be REAL friends. Don't ever change for anyone but yourself girl ❤ just because we are not a size two doesn't mean we arent beautiful. I definitely know how it feels, and i hope the kind words could make even the slightest difference for you :)

[@makingyourlife]

@@jessicajackowski3343 Thank you so much gal, I really appreciate it! I am working hard on loving myself focusing on changing myself. It's a hard journey definitely!

[@hockeypoetgurl12]

When I was a teen I would got to like Victoria’s Secret or pink with a friend and the employees would give me the dirtiest looks and it was awful!

[@SavannahAutumn]

that's not the company's fault. those are just a few mean people. don't generalize a company based on the way one or two employees looked at you.

[@shelbya1990]

“Zebra girls zebra sistas” Bahahaha

[@loshni2695]

A size 10 is in the "full-sized" section...shoot me now!

[@riabouchinska]

More like "harpoon me" lmao (being self-deprecating, I am a size 12 btw)

[@wendyroseofficial]

Hi Carrie. It would be really interesting to do some research. Contact a few vintage clothes sellers and find out what their experiences in regards to coming across plus size pieces in their collections have been. It could be a very interesting project, which could turn up some helpful results.

[@Femmedenoir]

On a side note, you really should have tried things on because realistically the sizes in vintage clothes are allll over the place an 18 could fit like a 12 or a 10 could fit like a 4. So even if something looked too big or said it was too small it still could’ve fit perfect. You kind of have to not pay attention to the sizing.

[@shannoncarr7338]

Ya you have go into vintage shopping with the right attitude and really look for those great items and dont look at sizes cause they dont reflect the fit at all.

[@Keela5]

Growing up in the 70s and 80s I had to shop at "Fashion Bug". That's really the only store I can remember! That's why there are no vintage clothes in the mid-size range. We wore them...OUT! LMBO! I'm kind of kidding and kind of not. I'm so glad there are more stores out there now...even if it's not a perfect world, it has gotten a LOT better!

[@jaztastic1525]

Omg at 3:54 it scared the crap out of me 😂😂😂👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I did think it was a manikin

[@soleilphyre6929]

I have struggled with my weight all of my life and going to cute teen shops gave me a panic and a shame attack. I thought people were laughing at me thinking: there is nothing here for you honey! It is a horrible thing to go through. Why do society care if you are heavy or not!? What I am more ticked off is that people judge us ladies more than anything when on mans you can find a 3XL and for us a L is the bigger size!? Be healthy and love yourself! I love your videos and thank you for always being so positive😘

[@woolypuffin392]

I dont mean to be rude or not size inclusive, but thrift stores can only sell the sizes their getting donated. As you live in LA, most girls are smaller than you, which is neither their fault. Maybe try some online thrift store 😊

[@CarrieDayton]

I’m not blaming the stores, as I mentioned in the video! 😊 just doing a little experiment is all!

[@xtcharmed]

Which is exactly what she put in the disclaimer before the video

[@frankiebaxter2590]

these aren't thrift stores

[@frankiebaxter2590]

also this comment is just wrong..

[@virginiakrueger4780]

Los Angeles has the same sized people as every where else. All sizes are represented in the general population.

[@lindazelepugas6545]

Carrie have you ever thought of getting in contact with Erica from Nerdy girl. Erica is a mid to plus size woman who is plus size and thrifts. Erica is rocking the thrift styles

[@donathompson9759]

Very eye opening! Thank you Carrie for doing these kinds of videos. I'm a 14/16/18 & find myself with the same problems. Makes me wonder where Aunt Beas dresses are with her being a plus size. I need her dresseeeees!🥴

[@TheSlightestChic]

I am a size 16/18 and I can definitely feel you on the not finding items it can be challenging. I have been thrifting for over 20 years (since I was a kid). When I was younger I was super skinny, but I have always had a curvy figure or pear shape. So no matter what size I am shopping in any store thrift or not can be challenging. I am from the Mid-West but lived in SoCal for a bit when I was in college. I can say from experience that being in a mid sized or plus size in L.A. is not the business. It was hard for me to find clothing when I lived there. I sew so I am able to make or alter items to work for me. I would say I have a much easier time thrifting in the Mid-West for larger sizes. I am always able to find my size in most thrift stores...vintage is more hit and miss. I will also say that representation is a huge issue. The average dress size for an American woman is a 14. A lot of labels don't produce beyond a size 12. It is a huge problem.

[@JoceyPotts]

DIVA THUNDER! I love that you came at this with different perspectives but landed on the same conclusion 💕

[@allisonveselka6572]

I've noticed that vintage clothing is sized differently. It's usually smaller in size than today's clothing tends to be.

[@MaryJoHeadrick]

Idk how much of these clothes are actually vintage, but I've heard (and obviously i was not alive in an era where the clothes would be considered "vintage") that they didn't make "vintage" clothes in all of the sizes that people are now. not sure if that's because people were on average smaller or what. So because the clothes were never made, they can't be resold? Idk if that's accurate, but this is just based on my own experiences trying to find vintage clothes and what i've been told along that lil journey. Also I'm mostly talking about vintage clothes made from the 70s/maybe 80s and before EDIT: I wear an 8/10 but I find it difficult to even find those sizes in most vintage stores, which I've always attributed to the above.

[@madisoncorwin6845]

Macy’s description of Melrose was spot on!

[@ceciliamaard7823]

I know the feeling Carrie. I have the same problem in the stores in Sweden. Sometimes i can have size L and sometimes i need size xxl. It's depend of what kind of material it is. Thanks for the video.

[@rxxrcousin]

I was never aware the privilege of stores almost always having my size (S-Top/02 Jeans) and how I could pretty much always not try something on cause I would know how it's going to fit. I'm trying to be more self aware and make sure other women feel supported and like the beautiful people they are regardless of size, because size really does not matter

[@gabriellewhite9607]

I also feel like just in general vintage clothes are always smaller for some reason. At least from what I’ve noticed

[@augustdreamingg]

That's because people were smaller.

[@lanazellmer7841]

I appreciate you do try one at different stores and acknowledge the struggle to find things in certain sizes. I am an 18 or 20 in jeans and literally can buy jeans from 1 or 2 places. Shirts are so hit or miss and I almost always buy from the mens section for shirts. It is not sustainable it is super expensive to buy in my size so I make it last a long time.

[@PaytonHenry12]

The thing about an employee coming up to someone and saying “we don’t carry your size” happened to my mom and I shopping once and LOL karma the place closed a month later. It was a small boutique and i was just in there being curious (mind you i was like 11/12) and i was trying something on (i was a 8/10 then) but i wanted to size up so my mom was looking and a lady walked past her and said “we don’t have anything past a XL here” and we left.

[@jackalopexjackalope9870]

Sorry, very long comment....... That you have to add so many caveats and explanations when you should be able to post a video simply showing your experience is what is so bonkers here. You’re just showing your experience as a mid-to-plus-size person in your own particular city. As ideal as it would be for everyone to be able to thrift the majority of their closet, it just isn’t feasible for everyone everywhere. Even I get frustrated at times as a mid-size, long-time thrifter, and I’d rather see videos with these bumps in the road sometimes than ONLY getting shown sparkly glitter covering up the realities. A good sparkly video is fun, to be sure, but is that seriously ALL that people want? Variety is the spice of liiiife! It’s part of why I enjoy your videos-upbeat, but not going to sugarcoat this world of thrifting that we all love. If you can’t accept that there can be negatives and difficulties to the things you love without throwing a fit or flat-out trying to deny the validity of other people’s experiences, aren’t you just excluding people and hurting your own goals of spreading the joy and effort to be more ethical consumers? Also, I’ve always found it a tad presumptuous to expect KZbinrs to never express a negative thought. It feels like sometimes commenters are saying “How dare you be human and have an opinion and experience that isn’t constantly sunshine and daisies?!”

[@suziet427]

But doesn’t it depend on what has been donated? The stores can’t be turning away plus size donations, so surely it can’t be their fault that there isn’t a great choice? It’s just what they get...? Or am I missing something? 🤔

[@jmaccario98]

You were in my neighborhood. I wish I could have run into you! Being a size 10 myself....I get it...and I have been told they don’t carry my size...but I also asked. So for me it did me a favor to not waste my time in the store.

[@lynn13135]

I am a large woman 22/24 xlarge to 3x.... depending on the maker. I used to be a lot larger. I have struggled with my weight for a long time. I do thrift and buy from regular stores. I love watching Carrie's videos. I was amazed that midsize bodys had the same issues I had finding clothing. I doubt mind will get changed. If you aren't thin you are a horrible person. So why should we make clothes for you. Maybe they don't think that way but it's how I feel. Carrie keep up your good work. We love your videos.

[@bee939]

Love love love carrie’s thrifting videos!!!!! They give me life!!! Happy Thanksgiving!! ♥️

[@storiesinthedust]

omg i saw the jane the virgin sign and literally had to pause the video ONLY ONE OF THE BEST SHOWS ON TELEVISION RIP

[@laurenthomas7996]

My two faves! So blessed I get two videos with both of you today

[@jordluck1]

AAhhhhh I feel you Carrie!. I would say we are of similar body types, even when it comes to sizing, (I'm just a whole lot shorter than you!) and i always have the mentality of, well maybe i wont find anything but we can hope for the best. Its never a great feeling or experience every time, but looking for stuff in your size and not finding anything is always so discouraging. This video made me feel less alone in that thought and a gave me a whole lot of inspo and love! LOVE YOU CARRIE! Keep doing your thang gurrrrrl!. A whole lot of love from Australia!

[@ashleyfriant9605]

As a size 16, I only shop alone bc I spent years watching my skinny friends find the best stuff while I am stuck with nothing but accessories.

[@Rachel-ic8yv]

I love you so much Carrie and look up to you!! my fav KZbinr ever!! please make content forever

[@nicolenbbw7947]

I love that you normalized this experience. It's not about blame, we're all valid, it's the clothes that dont fit not that our bodies are too big

[@bethhagen9031]

I know your whole point here was thrifting vintage and it’s interesting. I’d be curious to see you visit the other more reproduction vintage shops in Burbank and show some try ons even though the price points are definitely higher. There are a lot like Vixen and Unique vintage in Burbank that so from a XS - 4X and I’d love to see where a mid size fits into these standards.