I Will Not Say 'I Do' Til You Ask My Dad First: Heather Bauer v Matthew Davis

[@lindajones4080]

Girl your too needy. Let that man be in his emotions for a min. He wasn't mad at you. Sometimes people need a min.

[@ElaineLoyd]

Seems like lots of relationships are trying to fit square pegs into round holes.

[@lydiayosief749]

well said!!

[@sunshinebutterfly4654]

Right on sista!

[@gailsmith836]

Everybody thinks somebody is better than nobody.

[@mmmfun77]

Nailed it❤

[@typhelynchalmers2428]

Exactly trying to make a relationship work you shouldn’t have to make a relationship work. Either it works or it doesn’t.

[@Merinkous]

Honestly , certain hobbies that my partner does not share with me, I have friends for that or sometimes, I can do it on my own. Your partner cannot be all things to you.

[@ebonyc3751]

Bigggg lesson i’ve learned. Your partner can’t do or all you would like. You need to find other ppl to suit those needs.

[@littlemissy8356]

No one is completely like someone else. But without real firm commonality, it just doesn't work.

[@bigsweet03]

@Merinkous 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

[@kerrywhite5253]

He seems extremely moody, and he definitely looks older than 31.

[@SeanK1684]

😂😂😂

[@nikkiknowship-hop1466]

I don’t understand, why are they even considering marriage? This is the image of an incompatible pair!

[@robbbietheim2096]

Exactly he is an introvert with a whole lot of hang-ups, and she is more outgoing , he looks depressed and wants her to feel bad, because he does so often, they should try couples therapy, or she should leave. because she deserves better

[@grazful1]

they trauma bonded during the pandemic... and that's the only connection... period!

[@Regalem3]

Her issues are her own. She wants to blame him for her sensitivity & emotional instability. He probably is broody, but he doesn't have to be someone else to be with her. She needs to find someone she's compatible with.

[@MsBizzyRae]

Very true!!

[@onlychas]

This‼️

[@heatherbauer5222]

I did ☺️

[@evelynannettegordon3697]

As soon as he said he didn’t like karaoke it’s over for me 😂😂😂😂! I love karaoke

[@dukeyoungsworkout513]

😂😂😂

[@keylacmckemp1309]

He put the ring in a checked bag? Sorry I am stuck there. Silent treatmemt is a punishment to me. My mom would go hours and days ignoring me as a child.

[@smithcarr7495]

like EXCUSE ME HE WHAT

[@bee12355]

Who put an expensive ring in a check bag?

[@zulu3274]

😊 he was trying to keep it a secret because had he went through the security checkpoint or X-ray with it, it could have been potentially exposed to her thus ruining the Surprise Proposal...

[@KweenK07]

@@zulu3274have you traveled?? It’s not like the couple would be sitting there staring at the X-ray screen

[@zulu3274]

@@KweenK07 🙂oh I've traveled a bunch of places, local and abroad...I'm just saying what was probably going through his head... EVERYONE makes mistakes... Are YOU aware there are MANY airports that do random on the spot searches?... And it could be just his luck to be a search candidate that day and for her the fiance to see the "little black box" during his search...lol Remember ANYTHING that can go wrong will go wrong.

[@ayefo7800]

She's the type to ask you 50 times "what's wrong?". That would annoy the heck out of anyone. If someone tells you they need time to process, just allow them that time. Nagging never helps.

[@lindamiller5626]

Possibly so, but look at the attitude on his face!

[@ayefo7800]

​@lindamiller5626 true, but that's cos he's attached himself to someone he has ZERO compatibility with. They're both silly.

[@Jlove85]

He seems like he doesn't have very good self management, however he feels spills onto others and she is sensitive to it fs. Hopefully they both are happier nowadays

[@highlander666]

exactly

[@MsBizzyRae]

I agree! She takes a lot of things personal that have nothing to do with her. Maybe he needs to learn how to manage himself better, but she needs to stop thinking everything is about her. He needs time to deal with things, if she doesn’t understand that then they will never be a good match!

[@worldhealthrn]

Sometimes people say women don't say what they want, she says exactly what she needs and he refuses very simple gestures. He withholds affection and validation, she needs the opposite type person

[@bee12355]

They are not compatible. Go your separate way

[@MouthPeaceCorbett]

He has social anxiety, she's outgoing, she don't like being couped up but that's how he rolls. She wants him to scream to the mountain tops that he loved her, but he's not like that. He's low key.

[@successfullysarah585]

31?! Sheesh. That's a hard 31 sir.

[@luvmahg1awwkrazy]

😂

[@jasonmorris4eva]

He look more like 51 😅

[@ELLIEOwO-o7d]

Being unable to communicate is a major deal breaker. Girl run

[@JohnPierre-lb6gv]

I really enjoy listening to divorce court. Haïti

[@Burlykim13]

Ladies really need to learn not to get with a man and try to change him, and that’s exactly what this woman is trying to do. I’ll never understand why women do that. Why would you take someone you don’t like so much about and try to change them into someone they’re not…find someone you want who IS already that person.

[@sheriecemalone2155]

Sooooooooo true💯❤️

[@kattiethomas4687]

Uncompative

[@shirleyredd6107]

Right on

[@crystalmarroquin777]

Easier said then done

[@yennegob.0401]

This relationship got them aging badly, that’s a sign it’s time to let it go because they look bout 40&46😑

[@heatherbauer5222]

Didn’t help they put 50lbs of makeup on me 😂🤣

[@jscott7063]

She gonna drive you crazy bro get away…..to emotional

[@spieldose]

Wow... that babe, honey, love, sweetheart advice just blew my mind. Something SO SIMPLE can make such a big difference.

[@marilaucher9989]

The problem is the guy is Moody and makes excuses for his moods by blaming everyone else and every other thing perhaps she should ask herself why she has picked an emotionally unavailable man.

[@Burlykim13]

And she holds a grudge and can’t give him time to gather himself.

[@GodlessHeathen91]

I don’t understand why people want to force relationships. Daaamn, like there should sooo many people in the world who I promise share the same interests as you. Don’t settle!!

[@Shellygrrl2573]

Seems to me she wants to be with anyone no matter what, even if she has to try to change them into what she wants. Nagging someone into telling you what's bothering them( probably SHE was what's bothering him🤣) when they process feelings different never helps.She makes everything about her even when it isn't. She needs a project, not a fiancee.

[@Jaywhite305]

Never involve people in your relationship man or woman and I mean never

[@onegreenenvy]

He loves her for her ability to express her emotions, but she should respect the fact that he is not that way

[@C_the_hard_way]

She seems like a lot to deal with. And he seems like he is a low key anxious type. This ain't gon work.

[@michellejordan6009]

Come on Aunt Star with the old sayings "loose goat don't know what tied goat feels" all the way from the Bahama's

[@malenkadivine]

She is super annoying….all this whining 😅

[@justingalloway9590]

Woman up stop that whiny

[@kellabillingsley5141]

THE PROBLEM IS PEOPLE WANNA DO TO MUCH FOR SOCIAL MEDIA

[@healthyliving9231]

Sometimes women get googly eyed at a proposal, and forget about a marriage.

[@NaomyP]

Well damn that's a hard 31😮 They don't have anything in common, they should just move on and find their person because it's not either one of them

[@bee12355]

He looks much older than 31

[@Jsarmy87124]

I wanted to say the same thing I am 36 but I look younger than him

[@Candie4JC]

They didn’t need DC. They needed therapy.

[@sharonmwrites3021]

OMG she is so immature and Uber sensitive! Sheesh!

[@sunshinebutterfly4654]

Don't force if it doesn't work. Find someone else. Even at the end...she asked him can we go hiking...its all about her needs...what about what about his feelings

[@islandgirlruby2750]

Dude has a lot of narcissistic traits, throws tantrums, lack empathy, silent treatment (yes it’s abuse) cheats, robotic, devalue partner, silent treatment, gaslight, zero emotion ugh

[@bee12355]

My thoughts exactly. The silent treatment is abuse and classic for covert narcissist.

[@sharmarie777]

Reminds me of my soon to be ex husband. Toxic with zero empathy, lacks compassion and has no idea or desire to love anyone. Run, far and fast 🏃🏽🏃🏽🏃🏽

[@ruthpompa7048]

Omg I was looking for a comment that would call it out!! Narcissist exactly my pin point 🎉

[@JamesCraigWhoop]

Anger Some people boil and some simmer. I am the long term simmer because I am not the outburst type. Some guys are not vocal about their upset bc they feel it leads to more fighting. In her view she starts to get scared of the unknown.

[@maryboone6695]

They are not right for each other dont get married

[@tashefeyataylor8502]

Communication is really important! I struggle with it.. but the key is to at least try and try to be better at it. Relationships would be way better.

[@jeanettebennett2421]

You are responsible for your own happiness someone can't make you happy they can only add to it

[@Burlykim13]

Right from the jump, hearing that he feels like no matter what he does he can’t make her happy…that to me says he should run. I’m a woman, but I’m also the mother of a son. I would tell my son the same thing if that’s always how he felt. That said, he seems very emotionally immature and she can’t let him get himself together. They’re just a terrible match and shouldn’t try to force it.

[@williammorson1535]

I just met this judge for the first time and I'm bold over by her already. She's intelligent articulate sensitive and good at her job.

[@catherinewhitman8333]

She needs friends not a husband!!! ...and he needs a ..... husband..not a wife! 🤔

[@fhenlizhao5406]

🍵🍵 … well damn…

[@heatherbauer5222]

Hey everyone! Mr Davis and I have broken up, and no longer speak. Thank you for your kind and funny comments regarding myself and your point of views on the situation. We were not compatible at all and I have moved on and I am happier than ever. ❤️

[@inspiredbyjayweightlossjou9843]

Good you sounded exhausting

[@heatherbauer5222]

@@inspiredbyjayweightlossjou9843 it was definitely exhausting

[@crystalmarroquin777]

Good for you !!! Sometimes we’re so afraid of being alone that we forget being with someone that isn’t compatible is worse. Yes way worse than being alone. And I speak from experience.😔

[@heatherbauer5222]

@@inspiredbyjayweightlossjou9843 probably because I was exhausted

[@MsBizzyRae]

They aren’t a good match! He should have to go to a bar with you for you not to get drunk- you’re grown! You two don’t need to like the same things to get along! He doesn’t have to open up when he is trying to process something just because you think he should open up. She’s trying to change him into what she like/ make him like all the things she likes. She isn’t mature. You two are different and she doesn’t understand that. She wants a man that acts the way she wants and likes what she likes…good luck with that!

[@maryburke7850]

Look at him he seems not interested in her at all!

[@11Nashie]

Dr. Romani needs to check in 🥴

[@shenisenicole103]

Yes honestly I think he’s a covert narcissist.

[@SB-tc2jr]

But I mean, like, what else does he like besides cooking! I needed to hear more from him on that. Opposites attract - but I fail to see their compatibility!

[@worldhealthrn]

He's a stick in the mud and he's actually insecure. Because of that he'll never validate her the way she needs.

[@keylacmckemp1309]

Yes the loose goat analogy is us. Such a shame as they could have enjoyed themselves. Leave your business off of social media dear. I need to look out for you Judge Star.

[@MeriV]

I think he likes the way she looks but doesn’t like her. I think he thinks she is silly and miles below him intellectually. Hope they move on without marrying.

[@wendyjohn-haggarty3538]

She’s too needy

[@joanwilliams3213]

My friend is like that. That is when they want there space,

[@mastereight7252]

Their issues wasn’t as serious as other cases

[@peaceatheart101]

If someone tells or shows you who they are, believe them!!😮

[@cutthechicken194]

Why is it acceptable when a dudes become frustrated he's allowed to lash out?

[@littlemissy8356]

No sense in continuing this relationship, Not enough glue there. Having things in common is extremely important. I bet they keep trying because neither want to be alone. They have zero in common.

[@rimmyreddy788]

Treat her like crap she craves. Treat her like a queen she misbehaves. Crazy how that is.

[@sonyahall5080]

Is it me? But this man in this video seems like he was uninterested in marriage and her all together…

[@WesleyLindsey]

Let's be honest. She's probably one of those people that would partner with anyone that is around. Hence why stayed with this man past quarantine because they clearly have nothing in common.

[@kzbera]

This is untrue. She is my friend personally and I promise you she doesn't like many people.

[@pitdreams584]

This woman does not know what she want. poor thing........wine wine wine wine wine wine

[@lovette7684]

Why would you put an expensive ring in checked luggage?

[@amarteyset4952]

To be honest..this guy needs to be by himself and learn how to manage his feelings and actions before getting into a relationship..It clearly seems like he doesn't know how to do that and it's going to ruin every relationship he goes into if he does..

[@crystalmarroquin777]

They are going to drive each other crazy

[@user-iv1yi6cz7o]

GREAT JOB AGAIN JUDGE..

[@lindajones4080]

My husband is not the verbal loving man however he is the showing loving man. ❤

[@Misskisskiss0711]

This is why self love is important this is a form of trauma bonding

[@mmmfun77]

No one can make you FEEL anything. Her insecurity is her own. He may trigger it but she is responsible for the way she feels. So many relationships lack communication and nurturing and EVERY relationship starts with the one you have with yourself.

[@yung1717]

That’s not true. People can make you feel things. You do have to regulate your emotions but that’s disingenuous to act like actions don’t make people feel

[@jasonmorris4eva]

Is that dude really 31? Good Lord! I thought he was in his 50's 😮

[@SteadySteppin]

Then ask him at the end to go hiking with her. Somebody didn’t understand the lesson.

[@tj5087]

She seems controlling and needy and he is resisting that control through immature behaviors

[@nicolemcintosh2403]

His eyes are empty

[@worldhealthrn]

So what did they have in common I didn't see anything

[@wandadevereaux2359]

They are not compatible and should not get married.

[@veritiesking7150]

What woman want to go out and get drunk? She doesn’t respect him and likes him for himself? She wants to change him And he is correct Nothing will ever satisfy her

[@elsamyqueen6302]

Why are they planning to get married then?

[@nix_myrnie_cello]

Judge, you look lovely! 😍

[@amarteyset4952]

He needs to work on himself. He is selfish and its a situation where they don't need to be together..

[@tenaloving5155]

Why would you put an engagement ring in a checked bag?😒

[@mayasilliman1465]

Star continues to get it wrong! These two are NOT compatible and have no business being together, whereas Star thinks they need to be together. Retire Judge Star. And why does she always always need to mention her husband?

[@t.c.5456]

That suit ❤❤❤❤

[@sabrinadelancy4252]

Inlove this show ,I really miss Star in her A-line dresses

[@theresaford2963]

Ms. Start got on my favorite color orange i just love that color😮😮😮😂😂😂

[@proagate7392]

It sounds like she wants the relationship to be more of a daddy's little girl. You only get one father and your husband cannot be it

[@jeanettebennett2421]

What is shelter in place

[@graylina1317]

He’s childish in his ways; it stems from his childhood…

[@tawnyt26]

He looks older then 31.

[@annkneeter7059]

Needing a bit of time is ok, but not hours or all day.

[@terrellhopkins499]

At this point just be single 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@zoelife7272]

These 2 persons are on 2 different pages ALTOGETHER

[@Uptownboo84]

What is this????

[@ace50105010]

she is childish

[@antoniaroberts3673]

I swear I honestly feel like she doesn’t want to accept that other people’s ways of being are “wrong” they are just a different way. She says she gives her silent treatment, but no he is just thinking or a person that internalizes a lot. For me that is like the people that tell me to “smile” or tell me I am sad or nervous when that’s literally just my face. I as a result get angry because people are telling how I need to be to appease them.

[@MAFREAKLIK]

Wait at first ahe said they have nothing in common during the case then in post say they have so much in common..

[@VibeswithG]

He is stonewalling her

[@kattiethomas4687]

Excuses Excuses 😮

[@BarbaraMyles-e9z]

If it don't fit dont force it.

[@proteusxl9814]

I asked my wife father to merry his daughter. Took a trip to the dominican Republic where my wife is from. She had no idea sitting down to eat, and I asked. Scared to death, my Spanish is not good. Uncles and aunts were there. I asked he approved.

[@teemoore676]

They are not compatible PERIOD and then to not have the respect to ask her dad for her hand in marriage just blatant disrespect and he still hasnt called him. Come on they are on two different planets, Sometimes opposites attract but this is one I dont see. Move on!

[@lindajones4080]

You felt bad on your own.

[@BREEZYM6015]

I'm not getting married again, I'm not having any more children, I won't live with a woman ever again, and I won't share my finances ever again. Other than that I'm looking for a woman. 😂

[@mickkeyking]

To do what?

[@nikkiknowship-hop1466]

@@mickkeyking😂😂😂😂😂

[@nikkiknowship-hop1466]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@BAWNBAWNBAWN]

😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@JJ-lv2zm]

😂

[@saniyyah4240]

She trying to really slick control him smh she did alot of whining n pouting