STORY-TIME| Date From HELL with an Arab Man

[@IAMASIA]

Okay so first I want to apologize for all the editing errors, I edited this video on a flight to Asia and did a rushed job. With that being said, I didn’t have time to look for the dress pictures from 2 years ago because I am simply tired & working but I promise I will put it in my community tab. The other thing is, I agree it was rude but I think the way he reacted made me become stubborn and not see his point of view because he came off too harsh in my opinion. In America, we are use to everyone answering their phone anywhere anytime so I projected my POV on to him.

[@destini9986]

I agree with you about how the way he acted towards you . Regardless of custom norms within their culture(s) vs ours , we’re still taught a level of decency such as when you told your mom you couldn’t stay otp for long. He should’ve took that into consideration because I do not think u were rude at all when u expressed your pov to him . The miscommunication was mainly on his part for assuming that you were automatically going to understand what the cultural norms for him were . He most definitely could have did a way better job explaining without projecting his voice & catching an attitude .

[@TippyTiffGurl]

Love your stories! Where do I find the Community tab?

[@theishimoshow]

@@TippyTiffGurlgo to her channel, should be a tab titled community

[@raymondhenderson1750]

THANK GOD U ARE OK LOVE, BE SAFE THESE DAYS

[@joelscott8901]

Heyy how you doing

[@paintitblack9712]

Forgetting his fake name Tom and coming up with a new fake name Tom took me tf out😂😂😂

[@OrangeMilkBlossom]

As a Muslim girl, the 1st red flag is the fact that he was Muslim. Dating isn't even allowed in Islaam so some (Muslim guys) know they most likely cannot get a Muslim girl to date them. Therefore, they look for non-Muslim women, knowing they probably can't marry her (see clarification below) - they only want a bit of fun before have to go with someone who is also Muslim/their parents and community approves of. 😔 Note: 1. I'm talking about Muslim men who show no commitment to marriage - Muslim men can marry women from the Abrahamic religions (Jews and Christians), but there are strict rules on this. But as with Muslim women, they should not be dating them. It should be a case of approaching her family to get to know her and for her hand in marriage. 2. If they are not doing the above, please just stay away from them! For both yours and their future wife's sake because they are most likely not sincere in approaching you!

[@j4crypto4all1st9]

😂😢😅 Damn 😂 that's awesome 👍 😢😅

[@pinkbows14]

Yup!

[@OrangeMilkBlossom]

@@j4crypto4all1st9 what's awesome? Lol

[@arnelabih1845]

Ameen YES I see that lots of brothers be fake, especially Middle Easterns Afghanis Pakis Indians and etc we European Muslims and Turks KNOW better we don't trust them and were warned about them you are 100 percent correct some even change their names from Muhammad to Mike lol

[@hmm-zoolol]

True, they looking for easy sxxxx.

[@Carefree_Stephanie]

As a single woman on a first date with a complete stranger… if my mom calls I answer. Period. She needs to know I’m safe.

[@Astoldby.tey4]

You have to remember a lot of these other cultures abuse women and dress it up as "respect" They are not use to women having voices and choices. Glad you stood your ground.

[@tundaiclark8154]

Yeah alot of people don't do their research on these other cultures and why the women act and dress the way they dress...these men actually murder the women in the cultures for stepping out of line..they don't get murder by strangers they get murder by their own fathers and brothers...it's called honor killings..

[@unicoh972]

💯

[@Mini-ge9sm]

🙏🏽

[@nanomia]

as a woman from ME this is spot on! it's not "respect" it's oppression. plain and simple.

[@SisterhoodSC]

I am muslim. Not once have i felt opressed.

[@GreyVonWolf]

As someone from the ME and has lived there too. Avoid ME men at all costs, a big chunk of them are huge mamas boys who never faced an ounce of accountability 💀😭😭

[@Summer-oz6mg]

💀💀💀

[@FollowPickMeekPodcast]

This was literally the issue with the one I dated. He was a divorcee that lived with his mama. Was pissed his wife got tired of taking care of him 🤯🤯

[@MadameKiz]

All facts!!!!

[@taurusDIVA1979]

Not him texting you several months after you've moved on to continue the argument about not being prioritized?!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@user-lb4nf9nx8w]

He says he’s family oriented but has an issue that u picked up when ur mom was calling that’s mad weird and ur phone call was so quick too smh

[@jvonne5550]

In the Arabic/Muslim world, when they say "family oriented" they mean their family, and their family only lol.

[@taurusDIVA1979]

He wants her to be oriented to HIS family only lol

[@PrettyCat-do3ef]

They get jealous of your family just like black men

[@dominiqueanglade1893]

😂 exactly that’s strange

[@user-nn9fb9ky7q]

as an arab girl .. a quick advice to all pretty girls reading my comment .. if he said that he is an arab just run girl cause this is the biggest red flag trust me 🤣

[@IAMASIA]

Lmaoo that how I feel about Caribbean man😭

[@heyyyme100]

@@IAMASIAas a Caribbean girl from and still in the Bahamas, I can confirm you’re right for feeling that way . RR UN

[@JaneGetsDough]

😭if you block them they get another number to hit you up

[@angelsweet9611]

As a Nigerian girl, run too!! 😂😂😂 all these men ain’t ish!

[@MindfulMoments1444]

I'm just laughing at this whole comment thread. No matter the age, all girls are out here struggling.

[@donnajeffreys8252]

Online dating is way too dangerous !!! I don't do that online stuff period.

[@candyluna2929]

Yeah idk how these ppl do it😂

[@brittanyb5942]

Me either

[@justinebailey5333]

Right plus the men lie too much

[@donnajeffreys8252]

@@justinebailey5333 for sure , so we know they lie too much in person/face to face now imagine the dangerous lies they are telling behind a computer 🖥️💻 screen 🤥 🤥 🐍🐍!!!!

[@ieshjust16]

Period. 🎯

[@thebreezelifestyle777]

He was def weird & controlling. & if you’re so family oriented why you mad that I picked up the phone for my mama? 😩🤦🏾‍♀️😂

[@TheDroShow]

When he started praying for you that was the red flag. He doesn’t even go here! “I have eyes all over the city. Asia, do you understand? I have eyeessss.” That made me CACKLE 😂

[@justcallmemoody]

That was the red flag for me too I thought maybe I’m just a heathen 😂😂

[@shenayahsworld4411]

Your spirits are definitely disturbed. Why would you feel a type away because someone pray for you? Get some help ignorant byatchhh

[@IAMASIA]

😭

[@Mustlehard]

Thats pretty normal for people outside of the US or immigrants

[@MoJohnsonn]

He was always in Houston, He never left 😂 LORD these dudes play too much.

[@beautifulsoulgirl8683]

That’s what I think too.

[@sandiricks9844]

Ikr

[@Carefree_Stephanie]

@MoJohnsonn 🙄🎯

[@KimmiChosen]

HHAHAHAHA. I believe this too. men lie so much

[@ladyofspa]

Ohhhhhhhhh good point

[@destineeshai]

i could understand him being offended if you had answered the call and then proceeded to have a whole convo but u literally only answered to say you’d call back…. he’s overreacting

[@unicoh972]

That was a red flag for me because I don’t care what I’m doing, if my mom calls me I’m going to answer and talk to her instead of telling her I’ll call her back and if the man can’t understand that then that tells me how he treats his mom! If a man doesn’t treat his mom right I can’t date him because my mom comes before any man

[@unicoh972]

I applaud you young lady for standing up for yourself! No one is more important than your mother!

[@Lala-lw6pi]

Keep in mind there are a couple of arab countries. North African countries are full of hustlers and players, in one 😂. Gulf Arabs are full of money but specific traditions and the war country Arabs are a mixture of all but hold a lot of internal trauma (as does most people from colonized countries). And then there are the Indians who lived in Dubai and claim to be Arab to American girls to play and use them 😅

[@ElnathanMaduhu-km5uy]

Interesting

[@dawnmassaroguy9330]

Oh sweetie you dodge a bullet. The reprimanding was uncalled for & the start of someone trying to dim your spirit. For a 1st date, he has no expectation of prioritization. Family 1st & if my mother, father, brother or sister call they will always be my priority, especially over a 1st date full stop. You were not confused, your gut screamed out walk away and you did. Good for you!

[@natrylbornaries2460]

Their culture is very different, I don't think it was any disrespect to you, Muslim woman are modest in dressing and speaking. It was just a cultural difference

[@destini9986]

I agree about the cultural difference , but we can also dress modestly as well .

[@IAMASIA]

I’m aware that’s why I didn’t take it personal but I wanted to mention it because it was a build up on why he felt the way he felt

[@lasantuzza777]

@@Johuraldnmost of the time the modesty exists only for show but there lives a great deal of flashiness, competitiveness/bullying, ego and superficiality underneath it all. just saying. cuz i notice ppl judge a woman for showing skin but that woman has a better character overall than many hijabis i’ve kniwn

[@hind96abdullah]

Naaa as a Arab women and Muslim he was not right because if you want a modest girl that chose to be modest by choice find you one but grooming girls into doing what you want is crazy

[@africansister]

​@@lasantuzza777true but as a woman who wants to attract a good high value man modesty should be on top. Look nice classy never trashy u ll win😊

[@tabev12]

Whew you got a crash course in Arab men; at least he showed his monster early because some of them leave that mask on until they got you where they want you.

[@SisterSarayah]

Scary 😳

[@sarahdanielle12]

I don’t like men who wanna jump on FaceTime right off the bat 😕 maybe after a week or so but two days is too quick omg

[@kenzie.rose2175]

So it’s not just me 🤣

[@sarahdanielle12]

@@kenzie.rose2175right like bruh calm down 😭 that’s how you get blocked and I feel like I’m getting played smh

[@afrodite2366]

Exactly. Especially when they face time you without asking. It’s giving “I pulled up to your house unannounced” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sarahdanielle12]

@@afrodite2366 facts!!

[@destini9986]

@@afrodite2366 that’s definitely what it’s giving 😂😂😂😂 cus what if I was looking like who did it and what for & now u looking at me through the ft like “ u don’t love yourself “ and next thing ik, I’m in your gc with your homeboys w| a nickname ( Ex: Mr Food , Mr Cash Out , etc like us women do them 😂 ) . Like noooooooo , you gon have to wait or either I’m throwing a bonnet on rq 😂

[@TheVanitySpells]

I need to be a priority is HILARIOUS😭😭😭😭

[@chichiiiiix]

😭😭😭

[@destini9986]

no fr 😂😂😂 cus he just met her . 😂🤦🏽‍♀️

[@user-lb4nf9nx8w]

Right😂😂 priority and ur not even the boyfriend sir

[@TheVanitySpells]

@@destini9986 that is so funny to me😭

[@lf3554]

​@@user-lb4nf9nx8wmaking demands n shii

[@SianLondon]

I'm from the UK and "Pickally Dickally" had me rolling😂. Great storytime! I do think it's rude to answer your phone at the table on a date but he was way too much, he comes off controlling. Tip to anyone wanting to visit London specifically, DON'T fly into Manchester, its hundreds of miles away from London and we have 5 airports in "London".

[@unicoh972]

It was your inner self telling you not to meet up with him , that’s why you were so nervous

[@beautifulsoulgirl8683]

She is from Texas. We drive over an hour to work. 12 hours driving in Texas and you’re still in Texas. England is small to us 😂

[@rfrancis8459]

Londoner here...yummy is 100% sexual and I don't blame you for feeling uncomfortable. Also my sister was on a first date and I ended up in hospital, she answered the phone multiple times and her date had no issue with it....they've been married for 6 years now! So this guy was a weirdo for being annoyed, it's your mama!!

[@Anywayyihao]

Middle eastern guys seem very intense. I had an experience & we were only talking for like a week & he was already acting crazy 😭

[@SisterSarayah]

@@AnywayyihaoWhy are they like this sis? 😭😭The last one I dated was also crazy. He got upset that I wasn’t putting him first and wanted to separate me from my family and friends 😳

[@shaniyehia8730]

@@SisterSarayah They're highly insecure and anxious because of how manipulative they themselves are basically

[@ChantalleT08]

Your skin and hair look flawless girl!! 😍

[@IAMASIA]

Thank you🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@indiat.7242]

I really want to see the dress 😩 And sorry if my mom calls I’m answering it idc where I am so I totally disagree with rest of the people in the comments who feel he was right….

[@Potato-lp5ij]

I even thought he was mad that she didn’t give her mum time 🫠

[@Greasersvssocs]

@@Potato-lp5ij me too thats what I thought cause hung up with her mom too quick 😅

[@indiat.7242]

@@Potato-lp5ij That’s EXACTLY why I thought he was about to be mad!

[@IAMASIA]

I edited this on my flight, I promise ima go digging for the dress later

[@Livinglifewiththekellys]

Dress? 👀

[@zakiya1337]

Girl keep talking in the accents i love it🤣🤣

[@dajaninedd1]

😂😂 right…

[@LoyaltyLoveRespect]

How he mad you answered your mom yet he wanted you to be on the phone with him 24/7 on vacation? Crybaby 😑🤔

[@alisoncarroll]

I’m from England, never heard yummy used to mean pretty - always a sexual sorry you had to deal with one of our creeps

[@CrystalAcheing]

Same too

[@maarzx]

I’m from UK n it’s commonly used here

[@SisterSarayah]

Yeah yummy is hella creepy 😳

[@miocran965]

Frr😭😭

[@user-he4lj5wl7w]

The dude probably had a fetish.

[@srbumblediva]

From the beginning he sounds like a scammer. Everything you’re saying sounds just like an episode of Catfish.

[@2realaboutit]

Or Ressa Tessa and I haven’t even heard the story yet 😂

[@amarie2540]

Yes very much giving scammer vibes

[@legallycurvy]

Not a whole ethnicity being a red flag 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@justinebailey5333]

Right

[@topgirl8533]

6 different languages 😂

[@SachaBabie]

Girl now why would you start talking over yourself like that 😂

[@ItsCheRA]

I was looking for this comment😭😭I was so confuzzled

[@IAMASIA]

Wait whatt? I edited this on a plane, is there an editing error?

[@IAMASIA]

Sorry this was a rushed video bc I knew I was going to be out the country for 2 weeks

[@relatableangel]

@@IAMASIAit’s okay!❤ I thought it was funny tbh haha 😅 no biggie

[@abigailsandoval2632]

Yes and then the pause on the video after she was done w her voiceover had me weak😂

[@CrystalAcheing]

Yummy ain’t even a UK slang as a person from the UK and the black women from TikTok is right about Middle Eastern men not dating outside their race and having very opinionated families.

[@starrjohnson1327]

I worked with a black girl who was with a Middle Eastern guy. She quit because he gave her a car, an apartment and didn't want her to work.

[@nkemsells3714]

The lies! I live in a Middle Eastern country as a American and my entire community is full of Muslim men married to "foreigner" women. Thousands... some married as long as 34 yrs. Not as unusual as it used to be. Younger guys are seeing that old way does not work, ending in high divorce rates within the Muslim community bc they were required to marry their cousins.

[@zzizahacallar]

The men in that part of the world are exactly what you experienced; the controlling is a big part of it. Plus they dictate what you will do; how you dress, religious preference, obey your husband (you will not have an opinion or your own thoughts) Yeah I will answer my phone it's my Mama calling.

[@osyse_avakin]

Not me thinking he was mad at the way you talk to your mama, when it's just because you picked up the call 😂😂😂 Mister even at my funeral I will interrupt the officer to answer my mother 😂😂😂😂

[@IAMASIA]

😭😭😭 that part

[@Shasta-sOracle]

I have dated arabic men twice. As soon as i saw the title of this video i knew what kind off things i could expect and i'm not surprised this happend tbh

[@indias7171]

I think it is bad etiquette however he didn’t need to make a big fuss over it. I feel like him arguing about it over dinner is bad etiquette in itself.

[@destini9986]

I definitely agree !!

[@StephSteph5]

I agree

[@Hue_10]

Exact sentiments!! Just excuse yourself but he definitely fell off the deep end smh!!

[@anaylaa]

your hair is eating the girlies upppp !!! 😍😍

[@IAMASIA]

Thank youuu

[@destini9986]

period as usual !! ☺️

[@LaLaG__001]

@@IAMASIAyes! Where please? 😍

[@relatableangel]

I respect how you were willing to learn his culture and communicate with him! All the craziness aside I just think that’s such a beautiful quality because that’s a type of woman that ends up marrying a really great man that could be foreign or speak a different language or whatever else. I have faith that you’re gonna find a man that is meant for you just based off of how open you are and willing to just be compromising. You have such a beautiful soul and heart and I love your energy, which is why I watch you. Blessings to you.❤️🌼

[@IAMASIA]

Thank you so much 🫶🏾

[@kyaramarie381]

“ Do you understand “ is a universal saying for these arab men!😭 I get so triggered when they say it to me.

[@SisterSarayah]

Sis this phrase alone triggered my ptsd 😭😭

[@IAMASIA]

Oh no I’m sorry 😢 I never heard it used so much until him lol

[@d.thompson7464]

It is rude to take a call when you’re at a table with someone. Cell phones shouldn’t even be on the table. Your phone should be turned off or silenced. If you need to field a call or text, excuse yourself from the table and go to a location away from the dining area. Remember, if your phone is out, this indicates that it is more important than the person(s) you are dining with.

[@raylaguna4131]

I am someone who cares about decency and etiquette but this is just reaching. It's not that deep. If that's the tone we're setting just on the first date then don't be surprised when you don't develop much closeness during the relationship.

[@user-lb4nf9nx8w]

As an Arab girl living in the UK: yummy isn’t a slang term here so I do think he meant that literally and yeah Arab/ Muslim guys usually like the woman they’re interested in to dress in a modest way

[@biglemeow]

He wasn’t even Arab he’s afghani pretending to be Arab 😂😂😂

[@thesummeraesthetic2045]

I think it was a clash of cultures more than anything. Many ME men place lots of emphasis on family/community opinion of their significant other. When going out with them, it would be best to dress feminine but modest ie: no cleavage, shoulders exposed,back out or dresses above the knee. Men are supposed to remain chaste until marriage as well. Since their “dating” is really vetting for marriage they tend to be quite forward about expectations. As far as the phone, It’s technically rude to answer your cell during a formal dinner. I think this is just a non western thing. It would have been better to excuse yourself to the ladies room and take the call or call your mom back. ME men tend to be excellent providers and will make sure you’re secure and comfortable however, some have a domineering personality, expectation that you’ll 100% fall in line with their plans and trust them. I absolutely don’t believe in any kind of abusive behavior but, them wanting you to be modest is also their form of protecting your virtue as well and they are strict about social manners. It’s really just their upbringing. ❤

[@vmat6684]

'Protecting your virtue'. What does that even mean? Sounds like it's a way of saying no one should look at you in admiration except me, lol. If that is not controlling, I don't know what is.

[@nkemsells3714]

Solid advice. 💯💯

[@void________]

Dating apps are full of impatient weirdos.

[@TheGoodLifeStarterPack]

Because most only want one thing, and fast: 🐱

[@princessinmittens4783]

I'm sorry I gotta leave one more comment. You saying about how you don't want men to see you as a catfish, you show pics at your fabulous and at your best is actually really refreshing and realistic . All my guy friends that tell me about the girls they go on dates with are nothing like their pics and I get that us women want to attract men when we be looking our cutest and most beautiful but most men don't understand that make up and sexy clothes make a real appearance change at times. You seem like a cool and fun girl.

[@msbeedubb]

“The red flags.. they weren’t pink enough for me” GURRRRL 🤣🤣

[@iambubblez]

Most men havebeautiful eyebrows and eyelashes because of the testosterone...its one of the major hormones for hair growth and hence men produce it abundantly. And girl..thank you for saying CONVERSING.. i hate that unword conversating.

[@eliyah.marietv]

He's funny for sure, but answering the phone is definitely rude. It's different if you said "my mom is calling, excuse me for a sec", but to just answer was kinda crazy sis 😭 people have always said Arab men are a red flag though

[@BrightnSunny]

We don’t need to excuse ourselves to answer our mothers call, if you do great if you don’t it’s not that big of a deal

[@eliyah.marietv]

@@BrightnSunny if it wasn't that big of a deal, that part of the story time wouldn't exist. Everyone in the world isn't going to have that same sentiment, so it's important to be mindful of who you are dealing with at the time.

[@destini9986]

I agree with both of your comments wholeheartedly . 💗

[@Tazer_Lazer]

It can come off as rude. However, he said it himself he wanted her undivided attention, so even if she excuse herself, he would've find it offensive regardless, because he only wanted her to talk to him. What's definitely rude if she had a whole conversation with her mom in the middle of her conversation with the man, but no.

[@brandygee9954]

​@@Tazer_Lazer💯

[@G.A-m1t]

So much respect to you being so transparent on the apps. I think most men who are serious, would love that.

[@Tigeabee]

Why did I think he was mad because of the way you SPOKE to your mother? Not that you answered her call 😂😂😂 He’s too much. And is a stalker

[@Nadiiana]

I thought the same thing at first 😂

[@destini9986]

I thought the same thing until I listened further as well 😂

[@toomuchtyia]

When it’s immediate family its not rude 🤝🏾

[@unicoh972]

💯

[@Shaiyino.thebraveone]

Thaaaattttttttttttttt part

[@bubslvrr]

yesss, i was lookin for smth to watch

[@meechynailedit]

“Yummy” .. He was saying you look like a snack girl 😂😂

[@destini9986]

Hi , Asia ! I have just finished watching this story time , and I loved it btw ! It was very entertaining , interesting , comical , and also eye opening ! I have a few things that I would like to point out . The first thing is this: time . I did not like the fact that he was very demanding of your presence ( video calling ) & I do not like the fact that he was “ projecting “ his voice on the first ( and only ) date, given the fact that first impressions matter. He should have respected the fact that you told him that you were not going to be able to be on the phone with you 24/7 while you were going to be on vacation . I feel as though since this man was new to your life , he should’ve respected that he WILL NOT be a priority so soon . Also , I felt as if he was being condescending in his tone towards you when he decided to “ confront “ you about your trip to London, UK with blackchild diaries ( I love her & her channel as well as yours btw 💗 ) . He had no right to speak to you the way he did . Asia , I’m going to be transparent with you on this , it was rude to answer your phone on the date without saying something like “ excuse me , I have to take this call . “ It is a huge cultural difference between us as Americans & the men in the Middle East and/or Europe because we are used to different societal norms , different customs , and different traditions , so I just believe that it was a huge misunderstanding on both of you guys’ end of the situation regarding your phone call with your mom. You’re a very beautiful , young lady. You’re also very intelligent & again , I do enjoy your story times !! They’re very delightful , intriguing , and again , they’re very comical . Much love from Baton Rouge, Louisiana 💕🫶🏽

[@IAMASIA]

Thank you boo, I agree it was rude but I think the way he reacted made me become stubborn and not see his point of view because he came off too harsh in my opinion. In America, we are use to everyone answering their phone anywhere anytime so I projected my POV on to him. Thank you again for watching🫶🏾

[@destini9986]

@@IAMASIA & I definitely feel u had every right to do so tbh cus uht uht , his behavior was very much unacceptable with the way he talked to you though .

[@kenzie.rose2175]

Help no he didn’t the audacity yeah he wasn’t looking for a girlfriend it was giving looking for a obedient wife that’s just gonna do what he say and when he say jump you say how high…🤣

[@lorisimms3190]

Perhaps the modern hood woman narrative that is perpetuated by ones actions...ie.. social media, you tube, Facebook videos etc, OF, IG & other pre-conceived stereotypes, especially of Black women probably had a great deal to do with the situation.... ALLEGEDLY.... Lol 😊 no shade or hate...just MY 2 cents worth!!!

[@locdlionessrishayareese]

I'm happy to hear that that is your "Date from Hell" experience. He's got some red flags but as someone who was in a long-term relationship with a Middle Eastern man, it mostly just sounds like a clash of cultures, especially being the free-spirited type of woman (like me). As far as "date from hell" that's light, I wish this to be everyone woman's bad date experience. It's a testament to your discernment and being able to cut off bad situations quick. Peace queen

[@nkemsells3714]

OMG! HE cut it off, not her.

[@iamnana5320]

Those men love to have control over their women ! 😭 and u was not having it that’s why he cut it off 😭😭😭

[@terry-annfrancis1252]

Having basic common sense seriously repels these type of men. She dodged a bullet.

[@nahiedlaila9601]

Omggg so trueee i have been there. Been in a few situationships with these crazy Arab men and it was quite turbulent, traumatic and intense to say the least, it harmed my mental health. They r not marriagematerial, they all give off playervibes🥲

[@QueenOfPrinciple]

I love the fact you do not like to fast and impulsive when you first meet a man, especially online! I am a phone talker for as long as I can, and really not rushing for facetime or quick meetups. And, I'm tired of texting relationships as well. No need to rush, and I will find out who I'm dealing with while talking my time.

[@naytatumheywssup]

I swear you’re describing this man I used to talk to like that’s crazy . I wish I could show you a pic

[@IAMASIA]

My dms open👀😂

[@Cantetinza17]

I've dated all over the diaspora. I am dating Arab right now, but he's Arab-American, so he's more American than Arab. He's also Catholic. Yeah he has a beautiful beard and I never thought that I would love a beard so much. So far everything is going well. Your experience is just crazy. I wouldn't jump on a plane for a man I don't know either. He religiously love bombed you! It's sweet to send messages, but so close at the beginning that's a red flag for me. The fact that he was made that you picked up a phone call from your mother, but he thinks family is important, that would be a rap for me.

[@CaribbyanDoll-xoxo]

I love your energy! Thanks for sharing, it's important for single women to hear these kinds of stories.

[@RickiThomas1]

i do think answering the phone on a date is rude but he over exaggerated & everything else was a red flag.

[@chaniam1989]

No buts…it’s rude

[@maybemymoney5764]

@@chaniam1989a 15s phone call definitely isn’t rude…

[@JustPassingBy_Yolo]

Damn... he's so controlling! Hella red flag! Want to be a priority after 2 weeks of talking, tffff! Dude real talk, you got away with being murder. He seems like a psychopath!

[@mst2855]

Muslim men love their own women and that's all you need to know about them should you date another. They are very religious and marry within their religion. You would have to become Muslim for one to ever even consider taking you seriously. So, for the most part, they approach women outside of their faith hoping to get an easy lay.

[@TGP109]

Or to convert you.

[@CaribbyanDoll-xoxo]

According to the Muslim women in the comments, they will accept Christians and Jewish women. But if you are a Christian, you should only date commited Christians.

[@advocateforyourself]

My cousin has been married for over 25 years to a Muslim man, and she never converted. She is still Baptist. He doesn’t have a problem with it. He actually raised her son and daughter, even though they weren’t his kids and treated them as though they were his own. He looks out for her. While they were dating he tried to be controlling and she shut that down with the quickness. He thought he was gonna tell her what she could and couldn’t wear, and she told him he didn’t have a problem with it when he was pursuing her and dating. She let him know she wasn’t going to change the way she dressed for him either he accepted or he don’t and move on. She’s always had her own job and he told her her money was hers. He covers all the bills. He changed his occupation to better be able to provide for her and her kids even though she told him it wasn’t necessary. He has been in the military here in the states for most of their marriage. He’s actually about to retire out. He loves her and her kids immensely and it seems to works for them. In the beginning, I did think he was suspect, but he’s proven him self over the years. Do I think he’s the norm? No.

[@ashleybanksss]

Your right for most part but that’s Not all completely true also. They like what they like. As someone that lived with all types of ME Men and backgrounds and date ME men. I don’t date the ones that are Muslim but their are some that are exceptions. I personally would adopt your view though if you look in google it’s flooded with horrible stories. I would have to have someone exceptional and very evolved spiritually and mentally. Hard to find but they exist

[@mst2855]

@@advocateforyourself I'm 50 years of age and married 20 years, but when I was single those Muslim men, they typically approach black women for sex and nothing more. So, no he is not the norm. They think we are very sexy, but for nothing more than getting busy. The man you are speaking of he may have been a converted Muslim or African Muslim. But the orthodox cultural Muslims??? ... No maam. They especially use black women for an easy lay 95% of the time. They can also be disgusting and approach younger black girls under the age of 14 for sex as I grew up around them and recall them offering money in exchange for sex when we would enter their businesses and stores as young girls. Janet Jackson married a wealthy Muslim man and she had to covert and dress a certain way to appease him. His family never did fully accept Janet. She was out that marriage in less than 5 years. Their families won't even tolerate a woman who isn't Muslim marrying into their families most of the time.

[@Africanbaddie]

He was so damn aggressive from the jump

[@princessinmittens4783]

One more comment. Sorry sweetie. I did a long distance dating with a man from Pakistan living in Belgium. He would call me in the middle of the night and he wouldn't speak. He lived with a brother or something but he had to keep me like a secret or whatever cause i am not Muslim. He would tell me that I couldn't speak mind you he had headphones on. anyways he would text while we on video call via whatsapp. And he would direct me to take my shirt off and clothes off and all this stuff. Telling me that we are married because in bis culture when a couple gets married the bride asks the man to teach her something and cause I asked how to say something in Urdu which was his language that we are married now and I have to obey him. He was so nasty to me. He would call me all kinds of mean and rude names and it was really bad. I quit him right quick but he would always find me on social media somehow even if i blocked him, he would make new accounts etc... this man was terrible and when he would video call me he would only show me half his face every time saying that I didn't deserve to see his whole face cause I'm out being a whore when i don't answer my phone at like 3 or 4 am. like damn I am sleeping. Doesn't this mf understand time zones! GOOD LORD!!

[@queenofsheba7145]

That man was married and having a fun "pen pal" relationship with you via WhatsApp. He definitely was manipulating you and thinks very little of you. Meet and date in REAL LIFE. Meet someone through school, church, hobbies, etc. Best of luck.

[@princessinmittens4783]

@@queenofsheba7145 thanks, and I absolutely believe that. I would ask him all the time if he was married, one time I heard a woman and kids and he told me it was his brother watching tv and said i was so stupid to say that

[@angeltexas3208]

Yes that man was hiding his family and trying to have a computer side piece 😂😂

[@nkemsells3714]

[@laceykanda995]

OMG 😂😂😂!! Girl why you waste your time like that?? He's such a loser lmao. Those types always end up marrying their own, not sure why he was acting like he was your husband 😅🤦🏾‍♀️.

[@divergentdream1157]

He did too much, but answering your phone on a date is rude. Unless it’s an emergency, it can wait.

[@Tazer_Lazer]

How will she know it's an emergency if she don't answer the call? Plus it took 5 seconds.

[@divergentdream1157]

@@Tazer_Lazer she’s not a doctor on call. She can miss a call. Usually ppl call multiple times or send a follow up text in an emergency situation.

[@Acidreflux0000]

Answering your phone to quickly end it is not rude. If that’s rude to you that you’re weird asf and most likely controlling

[@divergentdream1157]

@@Acidreflux0000 it’s rude, but there are a lot of ppl with no manners who would probably agree with you. If a guy answers his phone “to quickly end it” on a date with me, points will be deducted. I should have his full attention.

[@justinebailey5333]

​@Acidreflux0000 right

[@necirhiba5791]

Arab men be talking about marriage on the same day they met you

[@SisterSarayah]

It’s their culture sis

[@staceywood7800]

Having butterflies is not a love feeling 😬 it’s actually a red flag

[@IAMASIA]

I never said it was, having butterflies typically means you excited or nervous. Which for me is normal before a first date

[@ItsDezL]

You were right about your feelings. You should always be able to answer your phone for your parent and children. The gave off way too Possessive and Controling which they tend to be. Glad you have a great BF now. ❤

[@carlynyc]

He's petty and crazy. Dodged a bullet 😂😂😂

[@kaitfields]

Girl he needs his mother. Not a wife.

[@startpage717]

YES. Similar to what my grandmother told us when she was young about her experience dating an Arab Muslim guy. However, she had to get her brothers (my great-uncles) to get the guy to leave her alone.

[@SisterSarayah]

Damn 😳

[@startpage717]

@@SisterSarayah 🤭

[@KathrynCollins-hq1cu]

Scammers love to pray for you and your family to get closer to you. They want you to let your guard down.

[@jammawun]

We can learn a lot from this video. When dating people from different cultures it's important to understand how that culture works. Middle Eastern people are very conservative and the men don't play around.

[@itsrro]

it’s funny bc they’re conservative but the type of woman they normally like are way to far of being conservative 🙄

[@IAMASIA]

I agree, I’m not conservative at all but allot of conservative men approach me. Same with men that state they don’t like makeup or prefer super natural women but date the complete opposite

[@jammawun]

@@IAMASIA guys often take what they can get. We don't step outside the house, snap our fingers, and women start lining up. Lol! Only in our dreams. If there are no natural women around we'll take the one with makeup. Another thing is guys won't approach a woman if he thinks she's out of his league.

[@jammawun]

@@IAMASIA I think that most men are conservative. Western men have a better understanding of liberalism. His religion or belief system also plays a part.

[@itsrro]

@@IAMASIAyeah you’re right!!

[@seforathemodel]

Now Asia 😂😂😂😂 how you went from pickley Dicklie to Manchester 💀💀💀 you’re too funny man 😂😂

[@IAMASIA]

It’s a area in Manchester I promise lol 😂 but I couldn’t think of the actual name is piccadilly manchester

[@user-sw6un8oo3k]

as a classy lady you should have excused yourself before answering and corrected him if he didn't like it

[@jayhall9901]

they are VERY traditional w/ mannerisms

[@mant8vaei314]

BRITISH ARAB ??? yh now i understand 😂

[@ohhaiJess96]

Damn and here I am married to a middle eastern man 🤣🤣

[@IAMASIA]

Lmaoo🫶🏾 I’m sure your husband is lovely

[@FollowPickMeekPodcast]

You probably have a positive story you could share! She gave us the red flags, you should do the green ones! Blessing to your union!

[@SisterSarayah]

Were his family okay with you?

[@ohhaiJess96]

@@SisterSarayah Yeah, they’re all cool. They just wanted me to convert to Islam. But I didn't and won't, and my husband supports my decision. Since it's something I'm not comfortable with.

[@SisterSarayah]

@@ohhaiJess96 Aww that’s nice sis, I wanna marry one they’re so handsome but I’m scared his family not gonna like me cuz I’m black and not Muslim 😭😭

[@meechynailedit]

I hollered when you were talking about you and your man and a pic of you and gabby popped up 😂😂 I’m like “hold on that’s gabby” 😂 then you started talking about y’all’s trip lol

[@IAMASIA]

😭😭omg

[@DEANN-v9z]

I agree I rather post bare face as well. If they can appreciate that then my dressed up is enhanced (I don't wear foundation though). My late husband was Muslim but he is more Americanized! He did everything, but he did not want me to work! I am a Caribbean woman; I do what TF I want! I like my own and yours!

[@unelunatic]

it’s the microwave clock for me 😂😂

[@candyluna2929]

😂😂

[@catherineking2751]

YESSSS, fix that thing gurl😅😅.

[@Carefree_Stephanie]

😂😂😂😂🙃🙃🙃

[@chytaviauneayke3475]

I love your hair Asia 🥰

[@IAMASIA]

Thank you boo

[@paulaisaiah9664]

Piccadilly - Pick ah dill ee 😂😂😂

[@Jordan-670]

Asia serving us inchesssss yass gworr 😛😍💕

[@thegoldenchild95]

Had an extremely similar experience. I met him in person we exchanged numbers and started texting long story short I’m not a FaceTimer and I have a child so texting and calling are limited. And basically we kept get into it about that prioritizing stuff to which I told him you have to earn being a priority in my life like chill and just vibe out but he was sooo controlling and expected to be put before my child so I could speak to him. Rediculous it didn’t even last a week and never saw him again past the first run in

[@roselolagne6642]

Naw you neverrrr answer calls on a first date sis that’s on periodddddd😂

[@alysiag2633]

He seemed like he was doing good but then him wanting all your attention and being extra over a phone call was a good reason to stop talking to him. At least he can tell it wasn’t going to work out too😅 but girl!! You never put the receipts/pictures!! I wanted to see the outfit lol ❤

[@IAMASIA]

I edited this in a flight ima go digging for it later

[@shanicegrande8631]

@@IAMASIAu never put receipts in any video… almost as though these storytimes are fake?

[@IAMASIA]

Ik lol I’m a lazy editor 🥴I don’t mind anyone thinking they are

[@shanicegrande8631]

@@IAMASIA cause they are that’s why u don’t mind 😘

[@IAMASIA]

I have nothing to prove so they are whatever you think they are lol😘

[@cinnamongirl5410]

Wow you truly dodged a bullet FR. Unbelievable how men think they can act smh

[@itssbri_bri5706]

Girl when he told you “my families gonna love you” I thought his family owned the restaurant and he was finna have you meet them there 😂

[@catherineking2751]

I thought they where going to be happy he found a "woman" because of their concerns about his sexuality.

[@memedicine1]

OMG I wanted it to work out so bad for the two of you! BUUUUT WHEW he crazy LOL.

[@jimmiepasson2002]

If you know you know, we aren’t trying to look like that I AGREE!

[@jalamaddox432]

Sis, you never showed the dress 😭

[@ItsNishaLaurenWest]

Hinge be having some good picks at least for NYC and he unmatch so it can go away 😂

[@K.P.0629]

He wanted to control you 🙄🙄

[@SisterSarayah]

Sis I heard a lotta ME men don’t go for black or western women because they harder to control, so they stick to their own ME women

[@jess3591]

It's one thing for a man to want you to prioritize him and your relationship when it comes to time. Wanting you to prioritize his values and beliefs over your own is a whole different story. It's as if he expected you to abandon your perspective and agree with his point of view alone. He seems like the kind of guy who wants a robot to control and subjugate, not a partner to love and respect.

[@Thandiwe.]

I love your hair girl! ❤❤❤

[@KathrynCollins-hq1cu]

That's next level surveillance/jealousy/controlling. Just imagine being in the relationship or even being the one to end the relationship? You have to be with someone you're comfortable with. Improving certain aspects is a form of growth. Changing everything about you is molding you into who they want you to be

[@thegreatjb788]

You caught yourself when you said "who got..." because you definitely had UK money 💷 😂😂 with that UK vlog ❤❤❤😂😂

[@InTheKnowwithCass]

Girl I need the deets on this hair. It looks so pretty on you. Love it!

[@IAMASIA]

Here’s the video details: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fKbTcpKaqtKgnK8si=GRTPwhJePt0ukb89