MY JOURNEY TO SELF ACCEPTANCE | WHAT I LOVE ABOUT MYSELF

[@shamelessmaya]

I'm just seeing this for the first time and WOW, just wow! Your story is incredible! And you're doing amazing girl!

[@iamnecole]

+Shameless Maya thank you love!!!

[@shanboody]

First of all SUBSCRIBED! Second of al aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah thank you thank you this is so so inspiring to know a woman like you sees something in me! I told you this when you reached out to feature me on your blog - it's an honour and still is! Second WOW the concept of this video is so so rich and rewarding to watch. I love the story along with each point. And next time cry on camera!! We wanna share in it all, we love you and are here for you

[@iamnecole]

Thank you Shan! Last year a girl told me I needed to get help "because I'm always crying" and I can't say that didn't effect me. Now she has me all self conscious about my on camera vulnerable moments. But you are right. There's beauty in vulnerability and sharing pieces of ourselves. Keep inspiring. I also loved that I watched your video last year around this time about why you were single and you made a list at the end of things you were looking for in a partner. To see you a year later with someone that matched the qualities you were looking for is everything.

[@pinkgypsytees]

1) My willingness to forgive ...2) I'm able 2 LOVE those who HATE me .....3) My honesty ... 4) The Confidence & Swag God has given me, even tho some days I look in the mirror & say 2 myself, No, i just don't see it....5) I Love & accept my imperfections, & even at 41 years young, I still don't have this thing called life figured out....A work in progress & It's still a process DAILY, but just like u Miss Necole, I'm blessed 2 still be here, humble, grateful & just SO thankful...

[@tishaUno]

5 Things: 1.) My fantastic relationship with God. 2.) My Spirit of Discernment. 3.) My incredible group of girlfriends. 4.) My bond with my mother. 5.) My newfound ability to keep an open mind. Thanks for sharing and asking your viewers to participate in this exercise. As strong women, I think we're very hard on ourselves. We're quick to try and fix our flaws more than we celebrate our gifts!

[@chas2work]

Hi Nicole..Always good seeing you and getting that Positive Energy. 1.) I get up when I get knocked down. 2.) Won't settle for a substitute for what I really may want. 3.) Love that I Love Learning 4.) My awareness of Life(That I'm not walking around in the fog) 5.) That I'm Grateful 6.) That I have the spirit to want to be a blessing to the world without Ego 7.) That being nice to others and humble comes easy 8.) That my closest friends are positive and liked mind 9.) That I have the same spirit and excitement about life as I did when I was a teenager 10.) That I'm in excellent shape where I can still compete in basketball with the youngsters I'll stop here.. Funny, the more I thought about it, the more things I Love about me came to mind. Thanks for the "jewel". Wishing you the best on your journey....

[@Kassy_1234]

I sometimes feel you are truly inside my thoughts and heart. From the struggles, the challenges, the road to self discovery and self love. That's exactly where I am. And boy it's not easy!! But it's moving along slowly but surely. All the best to all of you who are on that journey. 🙏🏼👼🏼 *Strong *Hopeful *Trusting *Dedicated *Hardworking *Committed *Loyal *Empathetic *Resourceful *Loving

[@LC11955]

You literally spoke right from my head, and my heart. It's how I feel about myself. It has taken me many years to be here. However all the growing is what made me who I am. I will keep growing and keep learning. I know God has a plan for me. I have faith! Seriously thank you for being who you are. You are such a beautiful strong lady. So excited to see you hit the stage. You are truly bomb. I can't even tell you how much I loved this and you! 5 things I love. I love my tenacity, I love my genuine heart, I love how transparent i am, I love me and who I have become. I love that I am finally in a place that no one can make me question or doubt who I am. Xoxoxo

[@caramelcurls26]

You are black girl magic! The growth you have shown is phenomenal. Also, for you to be able to correct yourself and say "let me give myself credit" is magical within itself.

[@theclaudiamind]

Wow...the synchronicity of this video showing up in my feed today! 🙌 This is gonna be lengthy but I just have to say...31 days ago I read this book called "Love Yourself like your Life Depends on it" by Kamal Ravikant and decided that day I would commit to a 30 day Self Love Challenge. Little did I know it would change my life completely. It was literally what I had been searching for when no matter what I did to feel whole, there was an emptiness inside I could never explain. I, too, have no parents or grandparents. My mother passed in '91 when I was 2yo. My father was the last parent I lost in '09. Growing up I had self esteem issues and battled with my weight. Despite all odds, I found myself determined to never play victim, to be strong. Truth is, I was hurting. I was hurting so bad. What was even worse was I never acknowledged my hurt. You know the same hurt Solange spoke of in "Cranes in the Sky"? That sh*t was real. The more I ignored it, the more I ran in circles. I was searching for, outside of me, what was within me all along. Love. So what do I love about myself? Although, now there are many things my Top 5 is: *My Open Mind; I will always be a student 1st, just as you mentioned in the video *My Body; Everything from my skin tone to my knot-knees. *My Humor; The girl that laughs at her own jokes 😂 *My Ability to Forgive; I've always known that everyone is in this school of life, just like I am. *My Generosity; I just love the fulfillment of being the solution to a problem or putting a smile on someone's face just because. Thank you so much for your presence on this earth, Necole. You mean a lot to us. Thank you for always doing your best. Thank you for being vulnerable and telling us your story. Thank you for inspiring us to persevere despite all odds. Most of all, thank you for being you! ❤

[@catthearts]

Claudia JB thank you for sharing the book. I'm checking it now!

[@theclaudiamind]

You're so welcome, Catherina!

[@Blueprint97]

I personally wasn't a huge fan of the gossip site but I've read every single post on your personal blog. You mention a lot that you're a work in progress and don't have it all figured out yet but the process is the most important part. You sharing that and being so honest and open about your journey is so inspiring and so beautiful. I never leave comments or anything but I wanted you to know that even if it seems like people aren't interested or paying attention anymore- it's not true, we're here. I like that you said you love your body because I feel like we're often told to love ourselves but then criticized or labelled vain if we talk about loving our physical features. My five: 1. My optimism 2. My ability to care deeply for people 3. My smile 4. My focus and dedication 5. My body

[@iamnecole]

So true (re: we're often told to love ourselves but then criticized or labelled vain for loving our physical features.") Thank you so much for your comment!

[@keyvagardner3096]

So I absolutely love this and can totally relate....so here it goes. 5 thing that I love about myself 1. My constant need to self reflect and work on myself 2. My discernment- I'm a good judgement of character 3. My physique 4. I am loyal and a quality friend 5. I wont settle-I know who I am, because I've worked so hard to become her. I know my worth and will wait for the right person for me.

[@iamnecole]

LOVE!!!

[@catthearts]

GO GIRL ❤

[@DrCareyYazeedTV]

Write that book girlfriend!!!!!! I will buy it and copies for my girlfriends too. Your story is so inspiring💕 Loving the vulnerable Necole.

[@ImJustGoode]

Your videos always come at the right time for me! Seriously so encouraging and inspirational. I was literally having a breakdown a hr ago because I'm my biggest critic but then here you come,reminding me to remember the things I am good at and that I do like about me..thank you😚😉

[@iamnecole]

I've watched a TV series and a movie this week that contained this phrase and I know it's no coincidence "You Are Enough". It's important to remind ourselves of that often :) Thank you for watching

[@iridecin5221]

Hey Necole! Your honesty and resilience to keep pushing through adversity is Black Girl Magic enough for a lot of us :-)

[@twodollarsricher]

I love your vulnerability and purposefulness. You have been and will continue to be Black Girl Magic! 💖✨

[@iamnecole]

Thank you!

[@downtownon7thavenue]

Love this necole. One thing I will say I love about you (I know that wasn't the question😂😂) your fearlessness. I'm surprise you didn't mention it. You have this ability to try different things, move to different cities, and transition out of a successful business that most people, definitely myself could have never done. I wish I could do that. sorry😂😂. Okay 5 things I love about me. I'm stubborn (sounds crazy) but once I have my mind set on something it can only take God himself to stop me from doing it. I don't give up easy. I love how I look 😂, my intuition, my ability to be positive and happy to see others succeed (it actually motivates me) and not settle. I am proud to say as well I am waiting for my husband and life partner as well. I refuse to settle for just anyone. God knows what I want. Sorry for the long post. P.S. thumbnail popping🙌🙌🙌. Love it

[@iamnecole]

Downtown on 7th Avenue Handbag Adventures I used a site called canva. I had no patience for photoshop anymore. It's enough learning Final Cut Pro and all the plugins you have to install to make a decent video. And thank you sooo much! I always tell people I've lived a very full life lol. (I love your five things ❤️❤️❤️) p.s. Did that Final Cut Pro workout for you

[@downtownon7thavenue]

I was able to download the final cut pro. Thank you so much. I've been playing with it trying to get use to it before I debut my video with it...LOL. I'm a terrible perfectionist...LOL. I'll try canvas. I use picmonkey and I am not really a fan of it. Thanks again.

[@Titus2Chic]

i love, love, love your intro!

[@lorealmallettjohnson240]

Thank you so very much for sharing and being SOOOOOOOO transparent! I've known of you for a while, but just recently am being drawn to you. This was perfect. I am also on a journey.

[@melindamartinez6463]

You are such an awesome woman. You are here for a purpose. The Lord has a path laid out for you that you may not understand at times but HE is ready for you to touch people and help people with your life and your story. Keep being the strong woman that you are. You are amazing. I'm so happy I found your channel. I needed to here your testimony.

[@KadiaB]

I admire your strength and growth, Necole! I totally understand your thought on moving with intention and not just optics. It's such a transitional mindset for many creatives and entrepreneurs who yearn for more than just temporary praise. This public declaration of your self-love really helps others find their own. Keep growing and inspiring! xo

[@evolutionofarose]

I love this Necole! You always inspire me, and remind me that "girl, you got this!" Thank you for your transparency. 5 things I love about Meline 🌹 5. I love to self-reflect and do mental check in's. My peace of mind is vital to me. 4. I'm selfish. I understand that I cannot give what I do not have so I must take care of myself 1st. 3. My constant need to grow/learn/understand. I just want to be great and use up my potential. 2. I'm a lover, hopeless romantic. They say fairytales only exist in the movies, but I refuse to believe my prince charming isn't out there. Everyone is deserving of that fairytale! It DOES exist. ❤️ 1. Im passionate. I do not give up. I know what I want, and I do not stop until I've earned it. The No's are hurtful, but I just dust myself off and try again.

[@iamnecole]

I love "use up my potential". So amaze

[@LC11955]

Love this! It's so true. I love who I have become. I need to spend time telling myself. Thank you for this reminder. You are amazing

[@tamarar.mcnair1125]

Thank you for this! I needed to hear this today so i can start celebrating the wonderful things about myself instead of focusing on what I don't have or what is "wrong" with me.

[@crutche6]

Hi Necole I love your channel. 5 things I love about me: 1. my ability to b creative 2. my support of others 3. my smile 4. my loyalty to others 5. my go getter attitude!

[@rozworksinc.1211]

I'm so happy you continue to shed your old self and give people a safe place to do the same.

[@bigmantok1]

You love yourself but Necole I love you more. You are a intelligent,creative,beautiful,humble,diligent,strong,courageous black woman with a radiant soul. I wrote this to express my support and appreciation for you as a human being and black man. I want you to know you are a excellent role model for black women and you inspire me to create my own business spreading and celebrating black love, success and positivity similar to yours . I would wish you good luck but I know you will rise to the top like cream.

[@iamnecole]

Tokunboh Loko thank you. To say I'm a great role model for young black women is one of the greatest compliments I can receive. I really appreciate your kind words. I'm still a work in progress but I've come a long way ❤️

[@Titus2Chic]

great video! five things i love about myself: 1. i move to the beat of my own drum. i'm not sure if it's an only child thing or what, but i literally have never been moved by what others are doing or what's popular or who's doing what. i'm true to myself in that way. if i'm moving with the crowd, it's b/c that's what i would be doing even if the crowd didn't exist. 2. i'm a great friend. i do not play about my friends and there is literally almost nothing that i won't do for them. 3. i have that gift where i can encourage and check someone at the same time (especially when it's about them)... in love. like one of my friends said before, i don't know if you're hugging me or telling me off. lol. 4. i don't have to have the last word. chile i'll leave you talking to yourself and you can think you would the "battle." that's fine. i'm 100% okay with that;-). 5. whatever i do, i do it in excellence. i'm allergic to mediocrity. i just can't do it.

[@iamnecole]

I laughed out loud at "I don't have to have the last word." And I loved loved loved "I'm allergic to mediocrity." Boss!

[@meyerchick89]

I first watched you when you were interviewing August Alsina a couple years ago and I knew there was something very special about you. So glad you are letting us into your personal life and who Necole is. I love your personality! You are so positive and genuine and it's contagious.

[@iamnecole]

Thank you so much! And I loved that interview!

[@kaylux703]

Oh how I just adore you, Necole.. I love how I can relate so much with beautiful minds and souls, something like you. :) I also love how fearful I am. Always open to try new things and reach new levels~ I love the drive in me. I love how in-tuned I am with nature. I'm almost always thrilled knowing that there's always room for growth and I will forever love that about me. I also love the love-ship I'm creating within myself for myself and it's amazing. You're amazing. Love you!! XOXO

[@iamnecole]

I appreciate you!!

[@johnalexander1769]

Omg I enjoyed this. I am starting my own journey and I can't wait for the day I can look in the mirror and really love who I see looking back. Not just me but my life.

[@TheSoultryGroup]

You are an amazing being and I'm glad you are paving a new direction for yourself fearlessly! You have inspired me to push through and be fearless in my endeavors. I appreciate you and your growth!

[@iamnecole]

Thank you love. I hope that sharing pieces of myself I used to want to hide will help others in some way

[@vivveene]

This video means do much to me. As my search for these videos came about because I am ready to love me unconditionally. Thank you.

[@iampreciouswalker]

I love your journey! I started following your old site but every time you made blog post about who you are and where you come from I would be feigning for the next one. And then boom you took the old site down and created XO Necole which made my heart jump for joy. You are definitely Black Girl Magic and inspire me so much. I am going to have to piggy back off of this video and do one of my own! I look forward to the rest of your videos, you're phenomenal ❤️

[@laetitiannyoung6545]

I love this video. It's beautiful! I am 22 this year and almost finishing school. I am in a transition to become full grown but I am so hard on myself. I want to know more about finding my purpose and walking in that purpose. Anyways, great and inspiring video❤❤❤ much love from Paris, France

[@iamnecole]

Jacquie Nnyoung the surprising thing I've learned is that sometimes you won't even have to find purpose, It'll find you. And a lot of it will be rooted in your passion. So excited for you as you transition into the next part of your journey

[@laetitiannyoung6545]

I Am Necole thanks for enlightening me. ❤❤ I never thought of it that way !

[@deannhyman6017]

Hi Nicole, I watch your public speaking and your videos and its always great to hear you. Your always speaking about the unspoken and trying to be that feminine force that anybody listen to. Thank you for your journey and wanting to share it, let me know if you ever need more support to help you through your transition I could definitely use that force for inspiration : ) xoxo

[@cydneyagno]

I love you. I'm in the transitional point in my life too. Thank you for this, it resonated with me deeply.

[@mimiwilliams8918]

You are such an inspiration and so beautiful! I'm on my journey too and you've helped me see the good in me. Thank you so much Necole!

[@Fgaentertainment]

I know this is suppose to empower women but I feel everything your saying from a male perspective. Every guy needs a woman like you in his life as far as just a presence no matter in what capacity.

[@iamnecole]

Awww so sweet!! Thank you!

[@SirDave]

Love this Necole! I always appreciated and still appreciate your transparency (still watching through the video).

[@zabrinatheteacher]

The 5 things that I love about myself are...1.) I am strong minded (Not easily persuaded) 2.) I enjoy being single (I do look forward to marriage, but I am in no haste. I am waiting on God to send me the right one 3.) My morals and standards (The bible is my moral compass.) 4.) My patience (I have grown and developed patience over the years. 5.) I am an adventurer (Ex: I will go to the movies, play or to another state by myself. I am willing to try new things. Develop my skills and new ones at that.)

[@diannamarcellus531]

This is an amazing video. I always look forward to your empowering words...you are truly a wonderful woman!!

[@zabrinatheteacher]

I appreciate your uploads Necole and your transparency. You are very resilient! God bless you and keep you always. He's got you sis. Keep pushing :0)

[@RachelHillTravels]

Proud of you boo!!

[@SirDave]

YES! I won't settle either. I know you prob can't join in with me with this, but I'm 27, and I'll be 28 in about 9 months, and I've been single all my life, and I'm fine with that. But yes, I love your resilience too, as well as your transparency. I also have been okay with being told no, more so recently. Like when I plan out things and they don't happen the way I wanted to, I stay optimistic and think about what I learned and gained from that, and what will I benefit from the wait. I figure, it wasn't the right time. I definitely have a great tribe too. I tell my friends, "I can't afford to have any more of you all." "Y'all are enough." lol. I have like 2 really good friends, and it's hard to juggle them, I can talk to them all day, about any and everything. Always motivates me, and stimulates my mind. I've grown to love my body took. I mean I loved it about 9 years ago when I first got all my weight off, but the struggles I had with people around me had me pleauting, and it had been a struggle for years. Now I've learn to accept who I am (I've lost basically all the weight again). You get those moments "I thought I was ____ then, but now that I think about it, I was great back then."

[@jtrammel1820]

I so love your energy and the purpose of this video! You are bomb, young lady! Your quick reference to your resume defined your professional track, for me. It shared what your resilience has been tied to. You are very inspirational and absolutely black girl magic! 💞👑 I wish you could rub some of those life experiences and energy off to my 22 year old daughter whose graduating in December 17. Lol. You should offer internships for students. 😍 You are undeniably a gem!! We are all works in progress. 10 things I love about me. Thanks for the prompt. Was having a bad moment.. I would choose resilience as well. I felt you when you were sharing, working and being motivated for yourself. Its a difficult, lonely and a propelling place, I know soo well. 2. I am naturally cool. I love that I don't have the natural instinct to go to level 100 before thinking first. If I'm on 100, it's well thought out and intentional. Lol. 3. I love the my hair, its beautiful and full to me.4. I love my passion for kiddies and helping youth overcome barriers to connect them from where they are to where they wanna be.5. I love the genuine happiness I feel, when I see other women fueled for themselves and representing hope and direction for our youth. 6. I love that I am God fearing and God loving. 💕7. I love being a student in life.😍👑 8. I love that I am a great listener. 9. I love that I enjoy spending time w me. 💞10. I love my sense of humor. 😍👑 - Ms. J

[@looksforentertainment684]

You. Are. Amazing.

[@goddessk4610]

I love how thoughtful I am, I love how supportive I am at times, I love how uplifting i am, I love my funny bone, I love my smile, I love my skin, I love my toes

[@jayceeluvi]

1. I'm smart and I get things done2. I have a great behind3. I have respect for myself and my body4. I'm funny5. I have one dimple and I love it6. I don't settle7. I have a great heart

[@sludgemag.4616]

love it.

[@Harvarddoll]

Thank you, thank you so much.

[@KenyaNicole]

I'm so in agreement with you

[@pinkandblack29]

Nice Video!

[@TheCurlSmiler]

Thank you.

[@adventuresforthesoul6472]

I love my adventurous spirit.

[@kendu75]

Hi Necole, what type of camera are you using?

[@iamnecole]

Kenya Williams when I'm sitting still like in this video, I use a canon T6i with a 50mm lens. When I'm moving around, traveling I am using a canon g7x.

[@kendu75]

Awesome. I was going to get the T5 which is cheaper, but I see the T6i is worth it. The quality of your video is great. Thank you for responding!

[@pinknotebook]

amen! so cool and SO proud of you!! do you booboo! ; ) Jesus Loves you :)

[@chas2work]

Sorry I spelled your name wrong...lol

[@GoogleAccount00]

This is great idea for your subscribers. On the other hand, you seem very, very sad.