If you just become love, not love somebody! - Sadhguru about Love

-somebody can betray you or you can think they may betray you
only because you have unrealistic expectations of them.
-For most people, love means, “You must do what I want”
-change the concept of your beloved.
-you don’t take this position that somebody is wrong and you’re going to fix them.
-if you just become love, not love somebody ,then you will know the nature of love.
-How to know nature of love?
-if you are happy by your own nature, now relationships will become a means for you to express your happiness not to seek happiness.
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Adiyogi: The Source of Yoga: amzn.to/2lBjXyi
A Yogi's Guide to Joy: amzn.to/2KaGd0D
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[@KoreanwithMissVicky]

He's the wisest man I've ever seen.

[@mementomori5374]

He is shiva

[@boxerenginegomez6211]

@@mementomori5374 You may be right.

[@mementomori5374]

@@boxerenginegomez6211 it takes one to recognize another

[@mementomori5374]

@@boxerenginegomez6211 you are shiva to

[@prabhanjangokhale5587]

Namaskaaram🙏❤🕉

[@dipsycc]

“Unrealistic expectation” the root of all suffering!

[@nalinimally3249]

So very true.... Sadguruji... That's why many marriages are broken even after living together for more than 10/15*years...when ones priorities change.... instead of looking inwards we look at the people with whom we are attached. We all think that we know the meaning of "LOVE", but we hardly know!

[@jammuellianelises4953]

@@MrKiloton ji

[@Boris_Chang]

Wise words. Relationships indeed often dissolve when the two persons interests (whether hobbies, diets, fitness regimens, politics, sexual desires or whatnot start to diverge. You might hear a person telling someone he/she is not the same person I committed myself to years ago. Is that what one really wants? Does one want someone who only evolves in a way you want them to? Or worse still, someone who doesn’t grow and evolve at all? Part of the enjoyment of forming relationships is to support each other through change, and through trials and tribulations. If my wife likes to go out jogging every day before or after work, and I don’t join her (because my knees hurt, or maybe I much prefer bicycling, we don’t have to split up and. find new partners. We just accept that we will spend time apart doing our own things. Then when we are together, it will be very special times. Peace to you.

[@vsingh139]

You only fix your self you can't fix others 😊🙇🙇

[@lilyvaidya8088]

Thank you so much Sadhguru . I can't express in words, how you have guided me out of the dark, scary miserable tunnel I had been struggling so futile to escape from. Thank you for opening up my eyes and helping me realize the TRUTH, LIFE....Shastanga Pranaam 🙂

[@ahmedjalal409]

Love is the Bridge between you and Everything. Where ever you are and whatever you do, be in love. --Moulana Jalaluddin Rumi

[@omtoolika]

Have always loved Rumi💖He was truly in love with God & saw HIM in everything & everyone🙏🌹

[@dawntreat]

No expectations no disappointments. Your channel is food for the mind. Thanks for sharing.

[@lurettagarner9670]

YES INDEEDY!

[@user-dr3or2lq4h]

Many thanks for the speech! Really learned indeed

[@karthikagajendran3068]

My favorite and it’s very practical and acceptable. He makes sense in each and every word love you Sadhguru

[@kennyblessed2523]

You’re a great teacher.

[@curguzivana9119]

The best! True and so usefully

[@soumyadepdeyroy104]

It's really amazing . namaskaram Sadhguru ji 🙏

[@dayondastribling5080]

Guruji, you put things very succinctly: If I _am_ joy then I will _want_ but not need others/An Other. This is what I call mature love. Infantile love says "I love you because I need you." This needy love is doomed after infancy, is it not, and is no basis for loving another adult.

[@diegolatorre2628]

In this world, you have to become love, wisdom, prudence, and faith

[@Kuasarakyat2]

Thank you Sadhguru

[@GnanaprakasamDevdevan-lo4zc]

Within me there is conflicting matters, and it's my responsibility bring peace and harmony among those conflicting matters

[@vikaspandey4723]

Thank you Sadhguru ji!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@jhasulekha]

Amazing lines sadguru! Awstruck!

[@sandracaballero6101]

I needed this, this is so true. The father of my unborn child has left me alone in this, and I love him so.

[@arlrmr7607]

God bless you Sandra. Please listen to dear Sadhguru. He is such a comfort.

[@hemokinesis8804]

I'm Muslim and love listening to Sadhguru. Amazing human being. Take things he says with a pinch of salt though. I'm 100% sure he'd tell you the same :)

[@saima119]

Hemokinesis I’m Muslim too and absolutely love this man and what he says.

[@hariomdarole9388]

Love you ..one path...keep uploading videos of sadhguru

[@simpleforex1299]

Voice of reason

[@shelleysolomon2228]

Yes excellent so well articulated

[@crystaldance5731]

Thankyou sadgharu ❤️😊

[@sonamlamo4758]

Gud teaching. Thank you

[@nilanjana5909]

Thank you so much Sadhguru ❤❤❤

[@LogeshwaranM]

This is it 🙏 Thank you Sadhguru

[@kanwaljeetsandhu6556]

Thank you sadhguru

[@anjanabhatia1491]

Pranam Sadhguru 🙏

[@BeOutstanding]

Be love They are doing what they want to do

[@alisoncarey8692]

I see conflict everyday. No one truly wants to let go of the attitude of having power over another, a twisted authority. I stay away from the politics yet I observe and comment that there is a different approach that would be better for all. You can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink. Once you have the true understanding of this you really know what love is. It's like the meaning of life, there is no sentence that can explain the answer well. When you let go of this, that is when you have the answer internally and spiritually. You just know yet you can't get others to understand it. We all have to discover it for ourselves. Love to you all

[@oldschoolman1444]

Expectations are just premeditated resentments.

[@yf9409]

oldschoolman 144 wow 😮, this is very deep and thought provoking

[@toriteal1430]

Or process is our own drama..

[@helgafuchsspirit]

Yes, but if I feel not good with the habits of others against me, I must not agree with them. Shure, he can do what he want, but I can live the situation. Why I should accept that others damage me? Some may try, but only one's.

[@steve-o6413]

🌤Hi Sunshine, wise words far beyond time.

[@joyjoy449]

Very profound!

[@namaliwijerathne5897]

Thank you sadhguru jee today I received your message correctly easily understanding my deepest love you please accept 🙏❤️❤️❤️ namaskaram sadhguru jee Isha kanyawee

[@amritakanda3034]

Absolutely right sadhguru ji ❤️💙❤️💜❤️💚❤️

[@terrellgreen3872]

Good teaching

[@sbs_modernmeeralaxmisharma465]

Awesome Sadhguru..

[@theklitaprice7653]

Fantastic

[@peaceofmind1355]

Thanks 😊 🙏

[@madeleleincronje7351]

Love this video....thanks

[@shhn6571]

Thanks 🙏🌹

[@Lukedapook]

Love, love, love. Becoming love

[@lisaapthorp2729]

We all essentially feel love of people who don't exist because we only have our own perception of them. Their existence is not ours to have and our loving feelings for them are just our own.

[@venator5890]

He's not loving at all, but logic most of the time. He's not mad, a poet, a dancer as Osho was. Sadhguru is a good master, his work is immense but he's a logic mind, intellectual, and when he uses it, the mind to speak, you can see what I mean. He cannot truly bring love and the idea of love in the world, he can teach you "to replicate a chemistry state of pleasefullness" that you may call it whatever you want. His mind is utterly yogic but world needs a poet master not a logic master.

[@stargazer5797]

Unconditional love has no conflict..

[@kayeceecajes8286]

I need this wisdom right now. I'm in so much pain until now. It's been 5 months when we broke up but I feel it just happened yesterday.

[@surbhisharma8674]

You will come out on the other side..stronger and better very soon ❤️

[@kayeceecajes8286]

@@surbhisharma8674 waiting for that day to come when I can finally say I'm over with this pain

[@surbhisharma8674]

@@kayeceecajes8286 I know that this journey is painful but it's ok.. it's important for our growth.. just focus on yourself and time will heal all your wounds ❤️

[@kayeceecajes8286]

Thank you for your wisdom guru ji❤️.

[@sahithisri4928]

Everyone is one or the other way stays with an other in their life.... Do not expect the most it may leads to the disappointment

[@vivianherrera6003]

Beautiful 🥰☮️❤️☮️❤️🙏

[@atmavikasa]

Trust me, not everyone is capable of handling it. Unless you become love, there is no way you can handle it either. 😄

[@michelstamour7382]

Nice musical

[@dhruvanshipandya1235]

Nice music

[@lathag6186]

Love is sleepless night final settlement in Nimhance hospitalised bcoz unexpectation dreams

[@leilahalime6652]

I love now and for ever Sadhguru ❤️

[@MegaLadylove2012]

I love the music plays at start of the video. Any idea how I can listen to more?

[@krishnamsdhoni]

I think this matter has already been talked with before, love is a state of mind, a decision. Not an emotions. The moment you turn that into an emotions, your intelligence will stop growing to realise or see the aspects of existence. If that emotion is wavering, its false, if its not then its blind. The love that is being talked about here is universality, its not love. Its just consciousness. Not an emotion. This can happen with anyonex even to a rock or a tree or even a tiny grass as well, you don't need people for this. But if the love which is being discussed about is relationship between two human beings, as in marriage etc then definitely it will have conditions, human aspects has values and need to be given importance otherwise it will blind things and cause imbalance. Expectations are not necessary but there will be certain existantial values in terms of conductive matters. Because that type of love is different Why is there a need to feel anger over betrayel? If someone betrayed you. One should start questioning the reason behind it, if the mistake was theirs then they should learn and correct, otherwise just punish if there is a chance and if corrected, then forgive. Feeling wronged & angry over that isn't going to help one grow. The main priority here is liberation, which is only possible if you have handle over yourself despite outside poking you constantly. When thats established, things like breakup won't build anger. Depression will be there but one would eventually just overcome it after a while. The relationship kind of love is a risk where you both take and will defnitely be painful in betrayel. Being strong is challenging.meaningful risks are worth it. I've stopped the maintainence work for few days making it stagnated

[@rupeshg1536]

I paused the video to read this.claps🤗

[@gk622]

Relations have gone worst, things which are supposed to happen in 4 walls are happening in streets

[@vennusoto9790]

If the person you love hurts you and betrays you and all you do is give him unconditionally love, it is basically saying. Well she loves me no matter what so it’s ok if I her her. That just makes no sense.

[@anjalirawat3593]

So true words... Incredible experience, thanks sadhguru 👍

[@Boris_Chang]

Wise words. Relationships indeed often dissolve when the two persons interests (whether hobbies, diets, fitness regimens, politics, sexual desires or whatnot start to diverge. You might hear a person telling someone he/she is not the same person I committed myself to years ago. Is that what one really wants? Does one want someone who only evolves in a way you want them to? Or worse still, someone who doesn’t grow and evolve at all? Part of the enjoyment of forming relationships is to support each other through change, and through trials and tribulations. If my wife likes to go out jogging every day before or after work, and I don’t join her (because my knees hurt, or maybe I much prefer bicycling, we don’t have to split up and. find new partners. We just accept that we will spend time apart doing our own things. Then when we are together, it will be very special times. Peace to you.

[@khusheeyyyjainn3594]

You can hold a million rlnshps and Still hold them good.🤍

[@GnanaprakasamDevdevan-lo4zc]

I cannot see myself as perfect, so how can I expect someone, something to be perfect?

[@lejonzx]

Easy to say but when you live with people who are compulsive liars and constantly manipulate, it becomes really hard to love. I understand love. But can you love someone who keeps destroying you? Reason? The reason is it is fun for them.

[@sonicblend]

Please priorities your well-being foremost, I don't think Sadhguru is suggesting to compromise on the conditions we need to thrive. Unconditional love - as in love without a dependency on another, does not mean allowing another to take advantage. Clear boundaries are an act of love to the body and mind. When I have found myself in such situations, I've done the best to leave these people and find my own ground again. Learning to open up to love again following such an ordeal is difficult, but it is possible. Practicing treating myself how I'd like to be treated helped me - dinner date in with myself + candles and taking the effort to make great food, flowers - why not. Surround yourself by the people who inspire you and help you to thrive. Good luck

[@listenup1711]

Yes, you can love someone who is destroying you. But the decision to stay around that person is entirely up to you. How much of your life can you afford to give up for that person. But stay in love

[@shikhanavendu8990]

L

[@mustikamaharani7568]

Its true 😂🙏

[@livicky]

Loved ones come and go but they never really leave us, they are watching over us like stars...

[@suzip2373]

Does anybody know what song is in the begining? Its beautiful ❤

[@jamesjosephkeating7687]

👏

[@khusheeyyyjainn3594]

♥️

[@Clickman13345]

🙏❤️

[@lathadevi4051]

🙏

[@hollyconger9037]

So if u have a relationship....then u can intervene?

[@blessedarethebroken3089]

💚

[@pamelastewart1442]

Got it

[@simontay1187]

What has happened to this World we live in? The unconducive environments of 'say one thing, do another thing'. You call it TRUST that has totally eroded for all Mankind even within its own kind. As, the song goes 'what the world needs now is LOVE SWEET LOVE. So much say about the end of the world. This is it of what is happening to Mankind TODAY! "An organism mutates to the changes of environment". Waiting for the end of the world. IT IS ALREADY HERE!

[@jamesjosephkeating7687]

🔑🔱🤙🏻

[@shemokhalil9790]

What is his name plz

[@btensionfree]

maaaan this being is not from this planet...namaskaram sadhguruji..

[@mysticabhi6866]

Sadhguru my loved one is gone by this

[@reshmacungayowareebacorise3733]

we had been dip into all synthetic biology and this equals good luck with 4 materials metals prices were all the 4 means of meaning of prosperity of SWASTIKAS are the 4enke of pineal panchorkam Pankali vibration energies properties are food, clothing, sex and house the meaningful to had a jobs for your earnings per share wages of income funds assets in the world of Duty personally I think the same idea's and advice to myself to be happy

[@susheeladevi7029]

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💐💐💐💐💐💐

[@lemonmochi8669]

sooo thenn the question is. if you're able to be joyful by yourself. will you then even want to be with anyone else exclusively lol

[@arjanmarku6587]

🤩😍🤩🤩🤩🤩

[@Userienxlaopbd]

Dear Sadhguru, the question was “what if they BETRAY us..”

[@Userienxlaopbd]

Ian Fink Betrayal is a form of control. Not being betrayed (action. Not just “feeling” betrayed) Our happiness is within us and we should let them go for good.

[@liare5539]

loving someone unconditionally is the mistake of life

[@Sawadeeka92]

Traduction s'il vous plait

[@nomusic3751]

💖🌼🌼🌼🙏🙏🙏🌼🌼🌼🌼💖

[@anita69atina]

How can I teach my 50 %MuslimTurkish 46 year. husband this is really how I feel love should be practiced, but I don't have succeeded to do something about his behavior towards me because after 8 years of relationship, he acts like I'm his property and I am supposed to only listen to him and I listen to him every time. But after all this time he is still getting angry with me for not doing what he told me to do 🤔🤣 Doesn't this mean that he has a big learning problem? I asked him if he had ever experienced that I had actually done what he was telling me I had to do? He said that he did not remember, he had no problem remembering the times when I didn't do what he told me 🙄😊 He is soo sweet, but now I am starting to get tired of him trying to tell me anything about this or that, like he is my boss or what he need a slave and it's me)? 😎🤣 In his old fashioned muslim life he can only dream, it's not my politic but it is wrong way too woman that what other women has been fighting for our rights and now there is men that don't like the fact that they are not women's bosses or women are not a man's property. These men have unfortunately still power to make reverse and drag women back under their control over their wife's. They are scared women will destroy them and they are probably feeling like 6 years old scared boy who is abandoned by his mother. It's a big tragedy and I cried when I read about Erdoğan,, the president of Türkiyet, he took away the women in Türkiyet,! And nobody of any other big leaders have asked him loud and in public,!!! WHY DID HE DO THAT?? Doesnt he want to support the women in the world great country, Türkiye has everything and still has a lot of potential for positive growth and there are many opportunities if you are right about who you are supporting

[@uchihadilini9688]

Shadguru called me.. I'm heartbroken. My lover left me after 3 years relationship. Im trying. Im trying guruji

[@rasaaudickaite2737]

Kangana's initiation is just an advertisement! When the actual initiation takes place, it is not done by the guru, but by the "I". Then a lot changes, first of all the voice becomes clean! Kangana is just a courtesan, "Sadhguru's pink slippers"!

[@fabledreamor]

Then it's best not to get married. Men and women should not legally and financially responsible for their partner's mistakes. If you want freedom, you have to take the responsibility that comes with it as well. Talk is cheap. Demonstrate with actions. If you want unconditional love, stay with your parents or don't incarnate to become a human.

[@gautamraj6911]

why is somebody who needs armed bodyguards talking of love? i mean he also talks of being free and calls himself a volcano but hides behind armed guards like a butter chicken...i wanted an interview with this guy but they said you have to wait 2 months minumim and maybe only you will get chance ...since im no celibrity or someone pandering to his cause i realised its no use and ofcourse i never heard back from them except to join the inner engineering programs

[@luizagreytman3496]

Love you ..one path...keep uploading videos of sadhguru

[@akshathaprabhuk]

❤️