If you're in a Haram Relationship, just hear me out...

[@Timcup448]

I have been in a haram relationship. Alhamudallah. I ended it and I have not slept with her. I feel happier without a relationship

[@sultanum]

alhamdulilah, these days im finding more that people will only let us down we must rely soley on allah because he has never let us down not even once

[@MamadouDiallo-yw6wo]

Mashallah im a muslim girl and what your teaching is wonderful we all need to hear this not just the brothers

[@sultanum]

There’s a discord server for sisters online if you’d like to join it

[@Shahir_14]

Everything u said was correct, Alhamdulillah not in a haram relationship no more. May Allah forgive.

[@62712]

though this video is addressed towards men, i have been struggling a lot with haram relationships. i wasn’t dating them, and we had the intention of marriage, but we had inappropriate conversations often and a huge emotional attachment. i just love him so much i can’t let him go. so i’m trying to make it halal. apparently it’s made him closer to Allah, but it’s made me farther. i was doing more things that would be great in Islam, but it wasn’t for Allah it was for him.

[@sultanum]

honestly ukhti id say just stop talking until its done in a proper way and start improing your deen and your self, just make istikara salah if you really want to get closer allah then you have to let it go for now and see if it's what allah will guide you towards if you make istikhara your asking for allahs guidance over your own feelings because we gotta trust he knows best

[@Ayse-xg2yu]

Just saw your content. I must say great work.keep it up! Lots of prayers for u.

[@sultanum]

jazakallah

[@AK_101p]

i have been in a haram relationship before and it’s not something i’m proud of. i ended the relationship 4 months ago yet i still miss the guy and think of him as he made me feel so loved and happy. i also get jealous when i see other girls in my year in relationships and getting attention from guys. do you have any advice to help me in this situation?

[@flopybar4as]

ppl are temporary they dont even know what loves mean,thet dont even tell their parents theyre dating,ppl are so weird nowadays making crazy standarts abt relationship,just follow islam,u will find everyting,im TELLING u just dont,and just follow islam guidance.

[@sultanum]

ukht just get closer to allah because as much as you may have had strong feelings it was against allahs deen and if we go against that even though we feel happy in the moment it was never gonna be the type that would last forever it sucks to see our generation dating and stuff we wanna be part of the group but honestly what im doing is getting closer to my deen and just improving myself and finding way more peace in that in pursuit to become the best man i can be for my future wife i also made a video on halal loniliness this may help you as its helping me

[@fallasleep9472]

It's okay sister, everyone thinks they were in love but it was nothing more than limerance, wanting attention from those whom we make images and scenarios with in our heads, you don't what he's thinking or if he actually was being serious to commiting to you. As a guy I can tell most of these dudes only want to lose their virginity, when it comes to meeting relatives, they're gonna make all kinds of excuses.

[@kavithrra27]

Subhanallah I’m a revert too and I get what you mean , I carried the same impression about modern dating, interactions with the opposite gender even before Islam I figured that it was inadequate 👍🏻, also greats points AlhamdulilAllah 🙌🏻

[@sultanum]

alhamdulilah for islam

[@MamadouDiallo-yw6wo]

Keep posting and inshallah Allah will reward you

[@sultanum]

Inshallah

[@sadatwo]

Assalamualaikum, you have a very engaging way of delivering your research and speech. Thank you for sharing

[@sultanum]

Jazakllah and alhamdulilah

[@Iqra-g2v]

Assalamualikum Mashallah, alhamdullillah may Allah protect us

[@sultanum]

wa alaykum salam ameen

[@a2349]

Right timing of this vid. The thing is ive tried to break it off many times but unwantingly i have become the centre of her life. She breaks down in tears and says she needs me and can't reach the deen without me. I know that if she is meant to reach the deen, Allah alone will guide her. But its just hard to see someone you do love crying and suffering, and seeing them in class daily makes it worse. Any advice? Thank you for your video and beautiful intentions. May Allah bless you brother 🙏 ❤️

[@sultanum]

hey brother give me your discord handle/ join my server and dm me so we can talk and i can send you my advice to your situation and so i can delete your comment just to not expose you after you grant me some way of communication to you or alternatively just edit your comment for your non exposure of shortcomings inshallah

[@a2349]

​@sultanum thank you my friend, I'll join your server

[@Ameerjanan]

fair points man , love it

[@sultanum]

thanks akh alhamulilah

[@5seizures603]

Beautiful video brother, I’m happy this video is made for everyone. May Allah reward you Ameen

[@sultanum]

ameen jazakallah

[@tankodestranger]

May Allah safeguard us

[@sultanum]

ameen

[@planu9031]

Thank you for talking the truth.. It takes courage to talk the truth

[@sultanum]

alhamduililah

[@محاربا_الله]

Well said akhi🖤

[@sultanum]

Jazakallah Pasha

[@محاربا_الله]

@@sultanum barakallah feek🖤💪

[@Dark_matter-v7o]

Stop treating girls like objects. Treat them like humans. How would u feel if some creep looked at and treated ur female family member in a bad manner. If u were a girl how would u feel if u were treated like shit. So lower ur gaze.

[@sultanum]

I completely agree , I made this point in my lower your gaze video

[@Dark_matter-v7o]

@@SamM-us6et when the hell did i say to ignore women?🤨

[@Preppybabiess]

alhamdullillah

[@Albulandii]

I am 16 and was married a woman two years older than me (avoid haram at all cost brothers)

[@sultanum]

may allah grant your marridge barakah

[@Albulandii]

@@sultanum inshallah

[@Muslima463]

Maybe a stupid question, but, what about people who got married and started their family Before reverting to Islam?

[@Okokok549]

There is a girl who likes me but she weird what should i do

[@sultanum]

I recommend just keeping your distance and if she asks just say you can’t do anything cause of deen. Repeat this process with any girls who like you pretty or not it’s a test from Allah May Allah protect us Ameen ik it’s hard trust but it’s the better path

[@Okokok549]

@@sultanum thanks brother

[@curseddAI]

Bro, do I have to go out, talk to girls in order to find the right one for me? Thats the reason behind not doing it. I know it doesnt feel right, talking to random girls, approaching them. But again, it comes to my mind that I should be experienced with Women (No Zina offcourse). Just having experience and Tactics to talk with women. What are your thoughts on it?,

[@sultanum]

I think brother Ali from what he told me covered what i'd tell you

[@curseddAI]

@@sultanum yes, JazakAllah khair

[@curseddAI]

Tho, I'd like to discuss it a bit more

[@hussainak8914]

SubhanAllah I always found that cringe. I used to cringe when I saw these guys at uni. I used to joke with my mates that these Bollywood wannabes are gonna break up and that’s exactly what happened to all of em 😂. There’s no peace in haram just a waste of time so I advise all brothers and sisters to focus on your Deen and prepare yourself for marriage. Inshallah do things the right way and there will be Barakah in your marriage

[@sultanum]

may he grant us our other halves ameen

[@hamoodtatari]

Brother I agree with 100% of your points… Wallahi. But at the same time brother for us young Muslims who want to make it halal and get married young its made so hard, it almost feels impossible and it’s like a whole different thing and it’s like you have to check all these boxes to get married these days… it’s genuinely unfair for us who simply want to have a genuine halal relationship in the form of marriage. And what are we expected to do when families demand huge mahr’s and expect a little too much for what we young Muslims can be capable of … in the end we’re just human… if the halal isn’t more doable and easier then the haram becomes the next thing…. And it’s so sad and heartbreaking because the haram way is devastating for sure… Being told to simply have sabr and just stay chaste especially if we are in an environment of fitna is just so impractical akhi… idk correct me if im wrong but personally it’s an issue for me and other brothers/sisters.. too.

[@sultanum]

I understand what your saying ahki but this is a test from Allah he tests those he loves all I say in my videos is what I do for myself that works trust in Allah ms ask him to protect you from fitnah also strive to yes it’s hard and yes the culture these days makes it hard but with Allahs nasr All is possible if you ask and strive also this May only keep happening to you because your not mean to get married right now allah knows best for us akh yes it hard I truely understand but this is the test we’re dealt how we react to it and learn and get closer to allah from it determines if we pass it and allah May reward us in the life and the next just keep in mind he tests who he loves

[@sultanum]

Remeber Muslims aren’t perfect Islam is no matter the culture our only goal is to follow what we were told to the best of our ability and grow to the point to get into a marriage with the right spouse and trust in Allah through the process

[@hamoodtatari]

@@sultanumyeah I guess so brother… in the end sometimes the struggle is more than what I can handle… i genuinely can’t just wait until I’m at a age like 24 or 25… if that’s what is written or something akhi..

[@hamoodtatari]

@@sultanumInshallah akhi… May Allah make it easier on all of us, I don’t know what more to say but it is honestly a very heart aching issue to have to deal with …

[@andnowyouknow3363]

What Muslims should encourage is turning haram relationship into a halal relationship (aka marriage) rather than just bash the people and tell them to break up. All these 'haram police' are the reason why people become demotivated by Islam. Which is a shame. Conservatives may not agree with me, but I believe that good intention and actively working towards those good intentions are underrated yet encouraged within Islam. So in other words, someone who is in a haram relationship actively working towards making it halal should not be discouraged.

[@Archernetwork]

Religion transcends logic because human intelligence has its limits. It's enough to say something is wrong because it's 'haram.' However, when you try to justify religious beliefs using logic, why are you presenting arguments that don't make logical sense? It's fine to use religion as a coping mechanism, as it operates beyond pure logic. The contradiction arises when you rely on religious coping mechanisms while simultaneously attempting to justify them logically. In short, some of the things that you mentioned are purely emotional and scientifically incorrect but you are still using religion to justify your opinion at the same time

[@Archernetwork]

I also noticed most of the video is based on what society says or people's opinions, basically related to subjective issues so it makes sense. but overall the video is still helpful and good for people