In Jamaica, You Need Patience, Tolerance, and a Sense of Humor

We're retired in rural Jamaica, and today was definitely a chance to exercise our patience and tolerance. Junior is home all day as the 6th graders have PEP testing, and with 10 multiplication problems to do, he definitely puts up a strong fight not to get it done. But with a patty on the line and time running out, will he get it done? Later, Mahrez our grandson comes by to entertain everyone with his antics, and we go to Highgate to stock up on our chicken feed. After some rough calculations, I'm able to determine just how much we're paying to raise our own eggs in comparison to what they would cost if we were to get them here locally. Sonia and I also entertain our more humorous side with a new banana growing in the back. By evening time, it's time to have a thrown-together dinner and bring Mahrez home for the night. Richness is Life.
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@fireandirie

[@ladyJ_000]

Tyler, again, as always, I commend you, for your patience, and most of all for your dedication in helping these children learn, and grow. For anyone who may have negative comments, please understand that Sonia and Tyler did not raise these children, they have taken them in, and are having to address all ,of the issues of poor behaviours in their previous household. It is not an easy road clearly, but you have so much structure for them already on such a short time. Sending you all so much love and positivity! You are all inspiring, can’t wait to see what the future holds for you all ❤

[@fireandirie]

Thanks Lady J!

[@maureengolding2980]

I agree! Psychological knowledge is good to have. These children play but know that Tyler and Sonia, though very kind, are not their parents.

[@calvinonedrop455]

Mr Tyler the patience man you deserve another cup of coffee. I am here having a fit on jr and you are calm and relaxed, much respect bro

[@fireandirie]

Blessings and thanks...=)

[@dianakirkcaldy8529]

Tyler, What patience you display with Junior doing his math! I commend you.

[@BeingPositiveTV]

That wasn’t patience that was patronizing a child who is trying to learn.

[@fireandirie]

Tomato...tomato?

[@FayHindmarch-gn2zs]

@@BeingPositiveTV it is clear to see that Junior has learning disabilities, and I’m sure Tyler is not equipped to deal with such, I admire him for what he is doing with & for all the kids, he is doing his best and if you see it as patronising that’s on you not him. Keep up the good work Tyler & Sonia. God bless! Nuff luv.

[@BeingPositiveTV]

@FatHindmarch-gn2zs no, it is not clear to me that Junior has a learning disability. I can’t diagnose that based on a short video maybe you have some firsthand information about his diagnosis. That’s even the more reason, if Junior has a learning disability to handle him with Care. So your response is not credible. By no means am I discounting what Tyler is doing I commend both of them for taking on the challenge, but that is my observation and opinion, sorry, Not sorry that you’re offended.

[@julietlewis9987]

Tyler, I am a retired high school Chemistry teacher here in the USA. I can tell you , it's the same problem with some of the kids here in the states. People who do not have patience and tolerance should NOT enter into the teaching profession.

[@fireandirie]

Congrats on making it through to retirement!! Definitely not for everyone. =)

[@jenniferphillips7539]

Amen,definitely, if you don't love teaching, I would advice them stay away from teaching.

[@marvelouslee3284]

Hi Fire and Irie family, another adventurous day in Rural Jamaica. Just observing these boys their facial expression and behavior is a forms of coping mechanism that they take on before they came to live with Tyler and Sonia. It's going to take some time for them to know that they are love and in a good place. Whatever Tyler and Sonia house rules are it just have to be continued reinforce by them. Family counseling is so important. Junior is having a total meltdown and it not about Math problems.😩 Tyler thanks for your teaching ability to know when to fold'em, know when to walk away, and decompress. Blessings and prayers are with your family.❤

[@fireandirie]

Thanks Miss Lee! Always a pleasure. Enjoy the evening😎🤙

[@ladyJ_000]

Agreed, it’s evident that Junior has a lot of bottled up emotions, it was heartbreaking for me to watch. I just wanted to reach through the TV and hug him. I know with Tyler’s consistency, we will eventually see some progress. It takes years to learn behaviour, and even longer to unlearn it. Hoping for the best! 👌🏼

[@Happey67]

Bright Eyes is really warming to you, Tyler. Smiling!

[@fireandirie]

Slowly but surely...=)

[@CampbellWaugh]

Jamaicans need to see that you can grow up kids without beating them keep up the good work ❤❤❤❤

[@ladyJ_000]

Exactly! Abuse is not the key to discipline! Tyler is a teacher and he shall teach the children in time to better their behaviour.

[@Concerned-b2w]

Lots of Jamaicans do not use beating as a form of discipline.

[@dreamalee8400]

​@@Concerned-b2wright especially now a days

[@marvafrancis8524]

Another good video. Thank you for sharing continue to put out those contents have a blessed day.

[@fireandirie]

Thanks, will do...=)

[@carlamangal2651]

Good morning, Nice to see you all this morning. Sonia and Tyler, I do applaud you for your patience and the work you have been doing with the boys. It's not easy, but I hope you will reach a point where you will be proud you spent your retirement helping them to become better citizens in society.🙏🏾❤️

[@fireandirie]

Blessings and thanks Carla!

[@BloomingRose60]

I send you love and light Junior. God kno mi have this kinda panic attack when I have to back into a dock between other trucks... 💗💗💗

[@SharonSmith-gl8us]

Very good teacher shows a lot of patience Junior throwing a tantrum will not solve the math problem nor his tantrum Jamaican kids have to learn to listen and be respectful Tyler is trying his best for these kids to grow up and make a better life for themselves remember people he is not related to them ans i dont think a Jamaican parent would be as patience as he is

[@fireandirie]

Blessings Sharon =)

[@maureengolding2980]

He is a child. I live in North America and I see this all too often in young children in the classrooms.

[@jenniferphillips7539]

That little one need some toys I can't lol .he is having fun with the chair

[@annettegrant4073]

Sonia is such a beautiful woman, in and out.

[@tonimack9197]

Junior appears to dislike doing the Math problems and thinks that he could pry the answers out of Tyler or be given the chance to abandon the work. I believe that Tyler is trying to have Junior develop some critical thinking skills by refusing to give him the answers. If Junior could slow down and think, the process would be smoother. The fact that Tyler is in a guardian/teacher role gives him the perspective of understanding that that behavior is not productive.

[@fireandirie]

So true...the math is really not the issue...it's what to do when faced with the difficulty of not knowing something and having to figure it out. Blessings. =)

[@gabbythechef]

Tyler and Sonia, all I can say is keep the faith.

[@nadinerobinson4883]

Tyler, 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏, you truly are a great teacher. The way you stayed calm when junior had his meltdown, you didn't give in. He must learn not to explode and cuss adults. Especially the ones that take care of him.My heart hurt for junior because I could see a frustrated child through the tears and tantrum. Keep on loving him. hopefully it gets better. Bless you and Sonia

[@iriswoolcock2656]

My respects to this man there is so much more he could have been doing with his retirement but he chose these children that are so challenging with such patience and understanding just say job well done I couldn't do it and am you couldn't do it either respect and appreciate this man

[@fireandirie]

Always an adventure one way or anothee...thanks!😎🤙

[@maureengolding2980]

Calm down, little boy. Thanks Tyler for being patient. Wow!

[@fireandirie]

...Amen...=)

[@ListedInTheSouth]

"Junior, Junior, Junior"...you can do it. Patience is a virtue Tyler, sometimes you just have to woosah. Andre can't hang 😀. That's ok, he needs his naps.

[@fireandirie]

Amen....or Woosah. =)

[@ListedInTheSouth]

@@fireandirie 😂

[@jennyhaisley5048]

Tyler you are very patient. The boys are very lucky.

[@fireandirie]

🥰🤙

[@BeingPositiveTV]

The patients need to be with you. You never push a child to the point of frustration when learning. Especially with math, and what you should’ve done is, give him time to walk away from it, compose himself and come back to the problem instead, you made it worse by pretty much patronizing him letting him know the answer was wrong, but I love you guys Still appreciate what you’re doing for these boys. Patient is required with all children, no matter who they are or where they’re from.

[@BeingPositiveTV]

* Patience

[@fireandirie]

Ordinarily I would completely agree with you, but because I have been working with Junior for several months, I have learned quickly that he resorts to such behavior at the first experience of frustration. Allowing him a chance to go through his learned behavior to realize it's not going to get him out of having to sort out what he is doing wrong gives him a chance to modify his process going forward as it doesn't get rewarded perhaps as it has done in the past. Appreciate the feedback. Blessings =)

[@turnbull4family144]

​@fireandirie loved the way how you addressed this

[@lilliansmith6024]

💔😢CALM DOWN LITTLE JUNIOR WE💘 YOU LITTLE PRINCE😢TEACHER 👩‍🏫AND UNCLE👨‍🏫 TYLER 💘YOU❤ONE DAY SOON YOU WILL BE NUMBER ONE🥇 IN YOUR CLASS👨‍🎓📚👍💘👑🔥AND👑 IRIE🤜💥🤛❤👶❤

[@jenniferphillips7539]

I will have to try that mac and cheese with cornmeal, years i dont eat cornbeef.

[@marciadenson4382]

You guys have a lovely Easter weekend, may God continue to bless you all in Jesus name 🙏

[@fireandirie]

Thanks Marcia, you toO!

[@Harris-Smith]

I'm glad these children have you Tyler. You exercise so much patience and tolerance. Wish you were apart of their lives before. I pray they recognize you and Sonia have their best interest at heart as they grow

[@fireandirie]

Thanks! Enjoy the evening. 🥰

[@simonesamuda789]

You and Sonia treat them with the great love and respect and they are behaving like they are the adults and you guys are the kids

[@fireandirie]

The irony, right?!

[@cynthiafender2761]

I feel for you ànd Sonia .❤ You have patience with those 3 patients.God blessed with much toleranceKeep trying I am praying for you all.

[@fireandirie]

Love the homophone use...=)

[@elizabethhall1527]

Everyone gets a passing grade here. Junior's wish is to knock the heck outta that wicked teacher who gave him those hard math problems (Junior, I feel your pain)😂😂😂 Tyler's patience and control allowed Junior to vent his frustration. In the end, homework gets done. Tyler is satisfied, Junior, I'm sure, is relief, teacher will be pleased, patty will be eaten and the day moves on. Bouy, aren't you lucky to have each other? Boys in a safe , loving, nurturing environment and a retired couple having more company than they could ever have asked for. How lucky!

[@fireandirie]

Blessings and thanks for the feedback. Enjoy the evening. =)

[@mushymoshy]

❤Perfect lunchtime watching 🌴🐓🐓👩🏼‍🌾🌴🌞

[@mgrant8376]

Tyler, I would have given up. I commend you for exercising such patience because that surely was not easy. With that attitude, the allowance match would be suspended until such time.

[@fireandirie]

😎🤙

[@christinetomlinson4843]

❤ good afternoon everyone. Nice to see u princess 😊❤

[@BeverleyWalcott]

Surprisingly junior is more attached to Sonia than Tyler maybe Sonia can sit him down calmly an talk to him about his behaviour an how to behave just saying look like they didn't have any structure where they were so it is an uphill battle love u both

[@fireandirie]

Very true...he's bonded well with her having not had a female role model in his life, and I'm encouraging Sonia to continue to pursue the relationship as much as possible.

[@eleanor4482]

What an episode this was. You sure are patient. You have to try the corned beef with baked beans next time. Delicious.

[@fireandirie]

Adding it to the list!! =)

[@valeriehughes7221]

Tyler you have a lot of patience with these boys 👦 Tyler you should walk away until he respect your

[@maureengolding2980]

Walk away. No, he is a child. Tyler is an experience teacher.

[@nicky7874]

You're right, Tyler. The apple tree flowers are really pretty.

[@deanhamilton9280]

Junior that is correct about the difference, Easter bun as whole fruits and spice has just the flavor.

[@marciaservice6396]

Good evening family, happy Thursday to all. Thank you for another amazing video. Tyler I must say that you have the patience of Job. The chickens look so healthy and those eggs, the color is bright. Anyway family have a wonderful rest of the day, blessings 🙌 🙏 ✨️

[@fireandirie]

Always and adventure one way or another and more coming each day. Blessings as well. =)

[@christinetomlinson4843]

Is st Mary have rivers near by for u all to take a trip someday🎉🎉🎉

[@fireandirie]

For sure!! Car coming this summer...hopefully. =)

[@marshagayle8059]

Hey good morning I am a new Subscriber to your chanell love what u or doing for the boy's I appreciate you Tyler and your Wife Sonia I don't stop watch your vlog until it finish love u guy's doing a great job

[@fireandirie]

Blessings and welcome to the adventure...thanks for taking the time out of your day to catch up on what's going on with ours! Enjoy the holiday weekend. =)

[@marshagayle8059]

@@fireandirie Thanks and to u and your family's

[@westindie8561]

It was so hard to watch Junior's frustration. It would have been more helpful to teach him how to work out the math problem. Like write out 6 zeros so he can see how to work it out. Just a suggestion so he won't hate math. Happy Easter Sunday to you and Sonia🙏🏽☺️

[@fireandirie]

You too! So he has seen these types of problems several times, and that's why I didn't scaffold it any further. 🤙

[@westindie8561]

@@fireandirie You are both so wonderful💖

[@jenniferphillips7539]

Good morning wonderful family,these boys are so loving, I never really see them fighting each other they look out for each other,we need some more male teacher in the class room Tyler,but not sure you will manage 😊

[@fireandirie]

Ha, I'm not ready for the big leagues as yet!! We'll see where the adventure goes...=)

[@phemrey9148]

Tyler you have a lot of patience. God bless you for what you are doing ❤❤❤

[@annapancotto]

Just a question about a previous video.. why did you only take Dave to the Rose Hall resort?

[@fireandirie]

Sure no problem, at the time he was the only one living with us full time as the boys father was still alive.

[@annapancotto]

Thanks Tyler for the clarification! We enjoy watching you guys !

[@valeriehughes7221]

Tyler you should let Junior speak to you with respect because I can see that they boys are getting out of control

[@fireandirie]

...getting?..🤣🥰🤙

[@simonesamuda789]

So what are you implying because their father died they must behave in that manner. Listen those kids are behaving the way they use to. I sympathize with them losing a parent but that doesn’t justify the way Junior was behaving. I’m just saying

[@fireandirie]

Yes, these behaviors existed well before any issue began with their father.

[@KaleeCampbell-ng6rz]

Tell Dave hi for me please Mr Tyler😁

[@fireandirie]

Hi Kalee, will do!

[@CampbellWaugh]

GM, its not a joke but i laugh so hard T you have a big heart what you are doing is not easy

[@fireandirie]

Easier to laugh than cry...sometimes laughter is the best option! =)

[@betty338]

Those bananas 😂 ❤

[@PhileciaAngus]

I made that alot of time for dinner

[@AGBornJamaican]

Add a little brother like that.Counseling did not help

[@fireandirie]

It's tough accepting at some point you've done all you can and the chips will fall where they fall, but acceptance is sometimes the easiest way to move forward.

[@spaceforgracehealing]

Some children are not good with conceptuals and need to work with the concrete. It would help Junior if he had a pile of beans and learned maths by using his eyes and his hands.

[@fireandirie]

For this particular problem, beings it was multiplication, it would have meant for thousands of beans, but yes, I understand where you're coming from and will consider what we can do as the summer approaches. =)

[@RayhannasBlog]

That's not an orange it's a tangerine

[@fireandirie]

OooooH😅👍

[@beverley9560]

Are you guys sure that’s not plantain?

[@fireandirie]

Ha...honestly...I don't think so...but we'll find out soon enough!?

[@beverley9560]

Easter Bun….Raisins, cherries, currants. Too much, too much. Give me a spice bun anyday.

[@moniquemiller1660]

Tyler they can use the tablet to learn maths. Junior needs some serious help probably a tutor.

[@fireandirie]

We do have some math apps on the tablet they've used in the past and will pick back up over the course of the summer when school is not in session...any particular apps you would recommend?

[@simonesamuda789]

The behavior of the kids is not good. They needs to speak to you guys better that’s not a good look

[@warrior-xd2xn]

Remember they're adopted and will have behavioral issues

[@ladyJ_000]

Their father just passed away and they have been uprooted to a new household, please have some compassion.

[@sharoncookhorn4899]

You’re picking the apples to soon they need to be darker, they would be sweeter and softer

[@fireandirie]

If we wait, often the birds find them first...so always a tough compromise. =)

[@lynfoster6493]

Expect lots of changes in kids attitude correct them all the time

[@margaretloney8544]

The statement making reference to Jamaican children being disrespectful is a general one. I have been observing Juner, and his behavior is out of place. He displays behavioral issues and is also disrespectful. TYler needs to put measures in place not going to be easy because of his history Tyler and Sonia inherited a child who was not trained. However he couldn't behave with teacher how it did Keep heart Tyler he is your torn.

[@simonesamuda789]

Thank you,my point exactly

[@AGBornJamaican]

Blessings to you guys. But junior is gonna be a lot of problems later on in life. Please be careful around him.

[@elizabethhall1527]

A comment like yours is not good for a puppy much more a child. No wonder your brother is the way he is. Doom and gloom are all you can see. It's not a good look !

[@AGBornJamaican]

Just telling it the way it is

[@stacymyers2181]

So true. We shouldn't classify them. There upbringing was probably not the best. But they are working on it. I can see where junior is trying to get close to Miss Sonia. Just return the favour Miss Sonia. I think Sir Tyler works with them pretty well. Even the ones we give birth to we have to careful with them and we wouldn't classify them like that. So not because they are other people's children we should think the worst of them that's not right.

[@AGBornJamaican]

Tyler you're doing a great job

[@fireandirie]

Appreciate the candidness and yes, there are reservations on how 'attached' we're allowing ourselves to get at this point given so much uncertainty going forward...one day at a time and as Sonia always says, Slowly but surely. Stay blessed. =)

[@FayHindmarch-gn2zs]

Hi Tyler, I honestly think that junior is on the spectrum.

[@fireandirie]

He's supposed to be getting tested, but we haven't heard anything as of yet.

[@deanhamilton9280]

I don't think Tyler is a good teacher, that's not the way you teach, All you're doing is agitating the child, it he's doing something wrong why don't you show him the right way instead of being difficult.

[@kayburke3829]

I don't think so Tyler is a good teacher he has a lot of Patient with them and I ❤him for that 😊

[@fireandirie]

Evening Dean...always love the banter...in this case, I'll respectfully disagree with you and in short just explain that the math problem isn't the actual problem. The problem is Junior doesn't know how to do something and has not developed any grit or ability to persevere to overcome his problem. Allowing him the chance to express himself and finding it won't get him what he wants, gives him an opportunity to explore other options.