Intentional Dialogue with John Wineland and Guru Jagat

This simple intentional dialogue practice will literally change your life and all of your relationships if you practice and master it. In this short demo, John and Guru Jagat demonstrate the practice and give some tips as how to best use it moving forward, including a 40-day challenge!
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[@TheBenjaminUlrichShow]

Intentional Dialogue #1 Commit to a period (e.g. 40 days) #2 Agree not to make the other person wrong for how they feel, think, are afraid of (this creates healing) Part 1: Listening (Partner A approaches Partner B for intentional dialog within 24hours). "..." - Did I get it? Is there more? Part 2: Validate (That makes sense) Part 3: Empathize (I put myself in her/his shoes. Really feel into the emotions. "I can imagine that..." Did I get it? Is there anything I missed that would put your heart to ease?) Guidelines #1 Don't interrupt your partner #2 Work on their language - don't make up new words unless you acknowledge it #3 Be aware how much energy you bring to the table and whether your partner can consciously metabolize it #4 Be aware of being clear and concise #5 Don't totally turn off your feeling body. Sometimes we'll get into our heads because we're recycling this old garbage. Really feel: Am I overwhelming her. Am I expecting too much of what they're capable of right now. Be in the spirit of generosity. It is about putting myself in her/his shoes and accepting his/her thoughts exactly as they are. Application Try a 40 day practice of Intentional Dialogue. You may need to do this every day or every other day.

[@chakraboosters]

Thanks for the notes, Benjamin! :-)

[@AlexanderEmmanual]

Came here from Leo Babauta's article. Really great tactic to improve communication.

[@MadonnaBarr]

You guys are a great example of loving, spiritual partnership. congratulations! thank you for shining your light on how intentional communication can nurture and physiologically intensify the love between two people :)

[@0wenfox]

Theres a fine line between "being wrong" or "makong the other person wrong" and discussing cause and effect, making mistakes as we all do but positively learning from them, being aware of actions that create positive/wanted or negative/unwanted results. Often we may share our feelings or perspective rationally combined with feeling emotions of course, for the purpose of learning and improving together, yet another may simply hear a criticism or "making them wrong" instead. That said we can be more tactful and talk of our own mistakes too and learn together! I love this video and regularly share. Thank you 💗💛👀💜💥 Owen

[@juliedickinson7146]

You two are so cute

[@kevinjesse254]

This is wonderful. I am grateful for u beautiful people

[@dawnurbina176]

This is an amazing share, thank you 😊

[@Angell_Lee]

Thank you so much!

[@nico3641]

But what is the point? Is it for partner A to simply feel heard and seen? Is that it? I did not hear partner B say “ I’m sorry and I will not do it again.”

[@kittychi999]

Wish you two would talk, separately, about what happened to this relationship. You both worked so hard, two highly developed people, your split just does not add up. :(

[@kslucki]

I just recently got to know of John's work for the 1st time and it was from the period while they were still together, hence I got to observe and feel them both. I was quite surprised. There was a sense of mismatch. And I might be shooting off the target here, it's just my feeling. Cerebral aspect of their connection was emphasized way too much. Too much intention, analysis and structure. My impression of GJ is that she is way too dominant yet insecure, to be comfortable with a man who is so in touch with his femininity and knowledge. Also, GJ is playful in her knowledge, John appears way more serious.... It felt like GJ felt the need to prove herself of being good as or even better than John. I saw that she is married now. Her partner looks younger and in a lesser position in her group structure that she leads, hence she is positioned in a needed dominant post, with quite strong sexual energy that emanates between the newlyweds, so that's good for her. John on the other hand might find it difficult to keep a partner simply because of his analytical drive and deep knowledge that can be attractive to a woman for a while, but then it can become overbearing and a force that can challenge woman's ego and sense of adequacy negatively. Even if all this is incorrect, bottom line is, we meet and connect with people that are needed on our path. Once the teaching is done and there's no more growing and expanding, the roads can lead the opposite way. .... such an opinionated stance about people I don't even know. How arrogant of me.

[@kittychi999]

S. Wow, your analysis sounds right on. I have been so curious about this. You know his daughter passed away right near the time of the break-up, probably affected him a lot, thinking about what is really important. Yeah her new guy seems like a total Sherpa for her. John mentioned in a recent workshop about an "ex" who he didn't name. He said he was attempting to do a conscious uncoupling, told her he created a container for her feelings. She said "F your container!" I was pretty sure he was talking about GJ, it totally sounds like her and they'd been together for several years. I just find it so fascinating and since they are both in the biz, especially him, I'm surprised he hasn't shared more about it if only to be authentic to his clients/audience. I admire his work on his feminine, but If I had a man who was that analytical, my eyes would roll to the back of my head, lol.

[@kslucki]

@@kittychi999 Exactly. Imagine every single action or word you deliver is analysed professionally and corrections are being offered... it seems appealing at the beginning, but than it wears off and becomes overbearing to the detriment of a relationship. If a man told me he had a "container" for my feelings I would prepare a real container with his belongings in it and leave it outside for him to pick it up on the way out.. I do appreciate most of what I've heard from John, but being a teacher does not make one unmistakable.

[@carolineseipp933]

@@kslucki her body language is penetrative and masculine toward him. He looks uncomfortable compared to what he brings now. His masculine now seems so much freer.

[@MsSpecialK29]

They split some time ago and were professional enough not to really speak about each other since they were both in the same world. I don't know why anyone would expect otherwise? John is pretty open but it is really none of our business. GJ has passed away and some of the ongoing speculation here is pretty tacky. People share time & lessons together that are not always easy. Doesn't mean what they went through or have shared as a result of their time together is not valid just because they are no longer a couple. Take the lessons if they resonate and leave the rest. Their personal lives are not really anyone's business. No one is perfect.

[@artbygordana]

Don't knouch about this couple's relationship, at this time, but energy between them is not loving at all... whatever they have been preaching here they haven't been practicing it, or it doesn't really work 🙂

[@MsSpecialK29]

I have found the evoking technique they or JG talks about in another video to have worked really well w/ someone who was very defensive hard to get through to. It was pretty interesting! Because it is energy and non-verbal, it works really well with couples or anyone who struggle with verbal communication or incessant fighting. As for their own relationship, they did split some time ago and were professional enough not to really speak about each other. I don't know why anyone would expect otherwise? She has passed away and some of the ongoing speculation here is pretty tacky. People share time & lessons together that are not always easy. Doesn't mean what they went through or have shared as a result of their time together is not valid just because they are no longer a couple. BTW, I am not part of the "community" but came across some of these exercises many years back and did get some value out of them. It really has to do with operating from your heart center. Peace.

[@atharidurr9366]

John, you do not need sidekick.

[@feelingbetternaturally1099]

Cult leader. Run.