Interview with Dr. Ross Greene: The Explosive Child

[@gabrielagabyrodriguez72]

They way he advocates for children’s autonomy is chef’s kiss 🤌🏽🤌🏽🤌🏽🤌🏽🤌🏽🤌🏽🤌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@jocelynvizzusi3886]

Great points the author makes; look forward to reading this book.

[@dandelionseedspositivepare9165]

Thanks so much! Looking forward to hearing what you think of the book! I appreciate you.

[@eleanorludlow8869]

I found the discussion around "escapism" lacking. If a child has imploded or explored: they have gone into a stress response, fight flight freeze etc. These stress events are: stressful. They put the body under stress and often there is a period of low mood/fatigue/emotional onslaught/feeling ill afterwards that the child needs to recover from. The child needs support to regulate in the best way for them as an individual - and may need substantial recovery time , with no demands to come back to baseline. This is especially true for children with heightened sensory responses whose implosions and explosions will always contain a sensory element, even when the main" trigger " is emotional. The build up of problems to solve is often an accumulation of emotional and social stress/expectations around tasks etc, but also sensory disregulation that is heightened by unmanageable expectations. Good video though and definitely a helpful approach - but children will sometimes need help figuring out what is triggering them, interception and understanding of one's own emotions are often impaired in neurodivergent children, and the adults around them need to lovingly support them to recognise and not internalise their sensitivities.

[@coleeb1892]

Agree with everything you wrote. Have you found any good resources for helping kids, especially those with heightened sensory perception, and difficulty pinpointing what has triggered them, with regulating and everything you wrote about? I like Mona Delahooke’s work a lot, but I’m always looking for more resources.

[@ltlt5268]

This is a very discussion between you and dr Greene. I am new to being a Plan B parent for my children, I find this discussion of great value to my learning to become a more effective Plan B parent. Thanks so much.

[@dandelionseedspositivepare9165]

Just seeing this comment now. I’m so glad this resonated with you! 💖

[@nicolereadstarot]

What is a plan b parent? Do you mean a step parent?

[@dandelionseedspositivepare9165]

@@nicolereadstarot No, it means a parent who's trying what Dr. Greene calls "Plan B" in his book. He describes it, but it's not about another parent. It's about what we as parents can do when things aren't working.

[@gabrielagabyrodriguez72]

A parent’s tolerance! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@DougWedel-wj2jl]

Mindfulness meditation connects us to everything around us. Doing this helps us understand the problems around us.

[@derekmoynihan6200]

Asking is a great concept, except when the kid doesnt know or constantly tells you "I dont know" when it comes to meltdowns/explosive events.

[@leogabrielsen5476]

It takes skills from the adult in using the Cps model in asking the right question. There is a step by step procedure in how to word the unmet expectation that you collaborate in problem solving with the kid

[@ck5696]

Brilliant interview

[@nicolereadstarot]

Does the book talk about kids to try to bait you into arguments or try to get you and the other parent to fight or constantly talk down to you and belittle you ?

[@sportluver98]

I understand what to do my 4 yrs old won’t talk to me about any issues

[@heatherogoussan7984]

What if you have this issue too as their parent or parents? I have an attentive ADHD and have a lot of trouble with change and I see things in black and white. How do I help my child who is very explosive and not inattentive?

[@gabrielagabyrodriguez72]

“We are not temperamentally always a compatible with our significant other, we just have to have a mechanism in place so those incompatibilities do not fester, do not remain unresolved, we need that in our marriages and in our relationships with our kids as well. Knowing that perfection is not the goal, always going to be some rough spots but at least we have a way to collaborate to make things better. 🫳🎤💥💥💥💥

[@nicolereadstarot]

Does the book talk about kids to try to bait you into arguments or try to get you and the other parent to fight or constantly talk down to you and belittle you ?

[@dandelionseedspositivepare9165]

The focus is on encouraging a better relationship between parent and child.