Irresponsible Father from hell forces gulf daughter he ignored after birth to build him a house

[@johnbogonko4315]

Extend your contact for one more year and keep money for a nursing course or teacher training program. Or even hospitality one. Come home and go to college. Forget this guy for now until you shape up your life. They’re not going to be content with the money you will send to them now. If you start now, you will be sending money until their last born finishes university and then gets a job and by then you will be older that you can not get to help yourself and even have your own family. For now, remember your grand parents and your self. Forget all the other bullies. 👋👍

[@lilianokonda2763]

Please take good care of yourself and follow your heart ❤️

[@linetgraciah4724]

Yaani abasacha bande gaki babegete chirongi esabu bosa. Baby girl plz,let the man not give u stress.u are young and u will go far.blessings comes from God and a curse that's causeless does not come to pass

[@aloysiusongeri712]

Absolutely not. Biological father has no right over a child he neglected. The girl is over 18 and is not obligated to help a "Johnny come lately" father. Even the biological mother is guilty as charged.

[@Josephinelatin]

Kakasungura mwambie asimpee pesa kwa sababu atahakimpea au akimnjengea nyumba atamcha pia kakasungura kupata hizi pesa sio raisi coz tunazipata kwa taabu sana aweke pesa zake vinzuri akirundi angie shule pia asandie wale walio mlea pia asiwambie atahametoka gulf achue pekee yake pia haendele kuomba mungu kila wakati asife moyo mungu yupo atamsaindia atie imani sana dani yake

[@benardaricha928]

Don't send any money to that animal trying to call himself your dad. When you needed him the most he was not there for you. Save your money to yourself and help those people who were there for you

[@divinaosoro6849]

Absolutely right ✅️ he's a deadbeat

[@judicenyangarisa3687]

Block them please, don't send anything to them

[@balancedviewpoint7418]

Kaka sungura waalaye you are very professional in leading your guests. Keep it up son. Now, this girl's situation is easier and faster to process in my view as a professional. Let me guide her as a life coach. 1. Without judging the father nor the mother, this girl MUST purpose to totally ignore calls coming from Kenya except the guardian's (Grand mother and Auntie)-Period. 2. Although she is in her adolescence, she can still practice her self-care. How? You cannot stop or gag people from talking or gagging you, but you can choose on how to handle your processing of the matter. First, stop responding to your father or having any sort of conversation with you. Upto this extent, he is just a mere ..... donor/teenage molester and a rapist that belongs to Kamiti. You shouldn't allow such a demonic person to associate with you in any way. He destroyed your mother's future to an extent that, instead of terminating the pregnancy or abandoning you in a thicket, she choose to deliver you and "ABANDON" you at her mother's hands. To that extent, your mother can be forgiven to some degree because then she was too young to understand parental responsibilities. Your "DONOR" monster who cared less, seeing you as a LIABILITY " then is valuing you as an "ASSET" now for pride of "MY FIRST BORN DAUGHTER IS WORKING AT THE GULF" my foot! Please remove him from your head completely as if you were a product of rape and the man died...... 3. No one should force you to give them money for the money is your sweat not theirs. The only person/s entitled any money if at all should be your two guardians-Period 4. To the extent and for the same reasons alluded to in point 2 above, you can forgive your mother and forget the past since she is not nagging you as the "STRANGER DAD FROM HELL". She was also "RAOED" and her life destroyed. She lives with same trauma todate, the reason she isn't even inviting you to her marital home nor introducing you to your half brothers and sisters. The best thing to do on your mother's case for now is to concentrate on your future and your self-care since you are above 18. 5. No man or woman should ask or direct you to get married to a stranger. Your "DONOR" cannot purpot to be caring and responsible now that you are earning. Tell him to his face if you can, "You are not and has never been my father......" I don't know you and stop calling me from now henceforth. If you persist I will take you to court and you pay me dearly together with my mother for abandoning us since birth". If he insists to be a thorn in your fresh, engage a lawyer (serious and genuine one) to obtain restraining orders from court to silence him forever. It will cost you less than 30K I think. Kaka can help you on that, conveniently. So issue 9f marriage or dowry is sorted to this extent. 6. At this point where each time you change your digits but the "RAPIST " keep getting the new line, there are two options to the solution-(a) ignore all calls coming from Kenya except your two guardians mentioned above(b) buy a smart phone that shows you TRUECALLER with blocking capabilities where you can select who can get through. 7. On mental challenges like stress, dilemma or traumas brought about by relatives and a "RAPIST FROM HELL" I encourage you to mind your own business and concentrate on chasing your purpose in life. People's problems should not be your priority or a reason to have sleepless nights my daughter. If you were in kenya I could have assisted you on counseling sessions to help you on self-awareness and how to deal with outsiders who matter less to you. Lastly, on the issue of money or disbursements to Kenya, avoid unnecessary sending too much money to your guardians but enough to keep them survive the basics then safe 75% to an account you personally deposit not sending to anyone to deposit for you. Minimise your expenses and safe more so that you can lay a foundation for starter-capital for investment when you return to Kenya. You are in the gulf suffering to make and safe every penny to help you when you come back. At all times, home is the best. Cutting short: At this point and in your age now with the kind of challenges you are facing, try your best to avoid relationships. Your vulnerability is at the all time high and precarious. If you try any temptation you will replicate what your mother did, unknowingly. We call that a generational curse. Avoid or delay the pleasures of life to build a firm foundation for your future. Raha can wait. I wish you the best and hope that my tips might help you somewhat 🙌

[@roselynebosire]

I like this advise

[@lilyan1330]

Good advice

[@robertkaunda1120]

All the best sizy never send money to that man claiming to be your father, real father's can't treat his daughter like that. Your sosh is your real father en mum please keep her happy.

[@Eunicemoraa-t4c]

Richwatiii hilo usimtumia doo .pia mamako ni mmbaya sanaaa.gak baba usitumee pesa piiiiiiii Pray God hard

[@naomykerry1412]

Block the man dear sister and na kila kitu wachia God ❤❤he will be there always for you

[@benardmakori9492]

As per my understanding the parent to this lady is the grand father and mother invest in them where you can save your money buid your life the rest God will fix hizo vitisho baridi will go if you make a mistake to give him money once he'll demand all through

[@boslayogero8329]

First of all chief of the area ajue, azn sisi tunaeza toa maoni but dem akitoka gulf mambo ikue tofouti kwa ground,ngombe nazo n grandfather anapewa since ekondi eyu yomosacha ilikuwa inaassume uyo dem

[@paulineomuro8555]

What I can say your dadii juu ye hakuwai shughulika na wewe umefika gulf anataka pesa yako Kuna Sheria ni utafute pesa yako save then ukijiskia kufika Kenya ujikim na don't forget the one who took care of you ❤️❤️ up to now

[@rediahnyarangi5278]

Tell him uko na madeni ya school fees and upkeep you haven't refunded . He pays first. And tell him you will not get married. Your star will shine, dear. God is with you. First Soma. Tegemea mungu.

[@legacygreatness1]

The lady is young she's supposed to get a career first ,after that return a hand to the family that raised her. Marriage is not even to be talked about at this point .Gaki araine esukuru asome na Ise oywo enchera akarekomotebia takari monto muya. Thanks kaka you are doing a great job.

[@mangeraalbert7982]

Tafuta pesa buy ua plot chenga, go far, huyu mtoi ni mdogo Kaka advice her she very young. Hapo su kwenyu.

[@hellenobwogi472]

You're a bright girl 😇😇😇 keep your money safely to help you in study never listen to richwati erio Inga nario daddy and all threatening messages avoid them

[@lameckorina9979]

Kaka ile jua iko gulf adi watu wanakufa plz mwambie ashugulikie maisha yake na waliomlea iyo kerere ingine haina shida juuu huyo msichana hajafanyia mtu mabaya iyo haiwes mpata

[@alexinamaina794]

Gaki baby girl haujasoma save your money uende college and do your nursing...huyo sio baba. Focus mbele the sky is the limit....chiombe you can give your grand parents please na hiyo ni baadaye.

[@josiahkinaro6901]

My dear sister ignore that gost father and forcus your own life achana na yy kabisha block them all

[@wycliffemochama4930]

Huyo usimutumie ata kidigo my sister support your grandmother and your aunt Ivo na iyo ni vitusho baridi

[@janeonyancha2662]

That's rubbish block them n kaka report them to the authorities she is over 18 anunue plot ajijenge

[@FlorahKerubo-wc5zg]

Ruth plz achana na huyo mbaba, angalia shosh na aunty and pray all the time.

[@dorinemogoi9049]

Hiyo aende kamiti akule maharagwe

[@BonfaceMuma-q9b]

Kaka, this is a problem that is being experienced by so many of those of us who are outside the country. People think that there's a lot of money here which is not the case. Here people work long hours and have no time to rest. Please if we have to help, wait for us to come and demand whatever you want. Please give this souls some peace. Do anything when you are back in the country

[@rebeccabettyondieki-zm6zh]

Kaka no plz iyo ni ujinga ...ajengee bibi mwingine no it can't work like that.......

[@gladyskerubo7804]

Block them all don't ever send you money Ata kidogo please

[@AlfredMaeba]

Absolutely no, don't help that animal

[@nyabioouesultious4939]

Plis don't try kumjengea hao saai risacha erio isiko akorara save yur money .n don't try to come yur place nunua kashamba

[@clintonmosoti5921]

Pia sisi tuko nje,my advice..make more savings since huna majukumu once you get back.take a good marketable job

[@dominiconchieku9144]

Leave that man alone usithubutu kumtumia hii pesa ya gulf kabisaa

[@fgdt6453]

Deadbeat fathers welcome to the house,the way you ignored the responsibilities to your blood pls do so at the time of reaping,my advice to you my gal help your grandparents who stood for you when you needed them and focus on your future life,even your mom I doubt her character,I pray for you,Bwana akuangazie Nuru yake kila wakati.

[@rebeccabettyondieki-zm6zh]

Yaya piii kaka baba omwabo atumiwe iyo Doo plz leave alone that ,lisacha erio

[@duke_maosa60]

No service for him hakule ujeuri wake,,how can he neglect her own daughter akisucceed ndo ameona amwongeleshe ,,angekua chokora ama asimake it in life angemwongesha kabisa... young girl follow your hrt,Konya sokoro yago na baba Mino bt risacha erio rikoiroka tata omino tigana nere..atakula pesa yako amalise na akuneglet tena ,he loves your money en not Yu,,(he is after your money) take care..afadhali ata ujisomeshe ,usaidie grand parents wko na ujinunulie mashamba na Yu move on wth your life...this so painful in deed...dead beat father

[@lydiamoraa649]

My baby girl return home continue with your school mind your own life and your grandmother

[@RoselineMogoi-q9x]

Plz????? don't don't give that man any money... take care of yourself grandparents

[@FelisterBosibori-y4z]

Huyo achana naye even block those people from reaching you

[@ruthondieki8567]

Kindly have seen people giving wrong advice learn to forgive remember you were also with God who taught us forgiveness don't abadoned them accept them in future you will receive success

[@peternyaome5357]

Block them immediately, other things to follow and change the number, avoid Facebook, Instagram and twitter my kind advice and let God guide you,save your money please

[@reginakwamboka-eg9oi]

Tabase gotoma besa chinde chionsi tiga amente amasomo chibesa chiagulf nchisaini kende kiagerat echiarimo

[@nancyabuga7944]

This is exactly my story but my grandpa rested few years ago,my dad alinikula pesa,huyo babako ni pesa zako anataka achana nayeye

[@rachelokemwa4271]

Washindwe in Jesus name 🙏 my daughter run for your Life don't give him even one coin uyu mwanaume n mamako wote n mashetani.... don't talk to anyone Hao watu hapana ata Uyo mwanamke Kwanza atakuua

[@destinymoraa1469]

Stay with those who stands with you since you were born achana na hiyo anajiita Baba angekua Baba yako angesimama na hata kama walikosana na mama yako

[@deborahmoige2363]

We came to gulf to better our lives,this should be underlined.Aye baba strive with your grandma achana na baba yako ,baba yako ni guka yako .ukirudi home please back to school forget of your dad even your mom

[@lydiakerubo5408]

Husiwe na stress cos of that stupid man be courageous girl be a prayerful girl mungu atakuonekania.saidia nyanya.ako

[@marthakemuma8154]

Usimtumie pesa acha afanye vile anataka mungu yuko nawe

[@reubenobonyoproduction]

My advice to you young girl, don't send any money to that man mwenye anasema ni baba yako juu wakati ulikua shule hakukuangalia sadia shosho yako pekee wacha stress block yeye kabisaa.ata kwa mitandao safe pesha ukikuja kenya huende shule

[@childofgoddorsila5338]

I am soo sad to hear this case, this man must be arrested by the area chief and warned. He knew that he impregnated the woman but akaoboa majukumu, mjinga Sana

[@rebeccabettyondieki-zm6zh]

Baba iyo ni ujinga that both parents leave them ...yaaani watu ambao walikuachia shosho alafu uwasaidie no with Capital stand with your lights plz...tumia shosho iyo pesa Yako plz na unti zako usituputu ata kidogo

[@raelrael9320]

Mama usijaribu kumtumia hii pesa ya gulf aki😢😢

[@nancybitutu6829]

An absent father has no right to get a share of your sweat. Let him learn a lesson in a hard way.

[@naomykerry1412]

Good

[@hfshfsgd9167]

Don't try to send any money to th man keep money for yourself na kuwa na namba mbili yenye iko on throughout ingine unaingia on unaongea na shosh yako na km ni usaidizi saidia wenye walikuwa na ww tangu uzaliwe wacha na huyo umbwa ya mwanaume mungu yuko na ww ...........wenye anatambua wacha wamsaidie sai km ni guka yako na yr aunties they will stand with you in anyway

[@lydiahomweri822]

Hiyo iwezekani kabisa, huyo mwanaume apotelee mbali, wenye walimlea ashughulike nao

[@Elizabeth97-d1v]

Asimpee kitu yoyote asaidie shosho yake na babu yake juu wao ndoh walimlea plz hachane na papa yake😮😮

[@emmakwamboka107]

Baba jipende, don't give that man any shilling, think more of your grandma, again remember he comes from village with your mum he should be arrested.

[@PrusilahIsanda]

My dear sister usicharibu kumutumia doo km angekua ni yy baba Yako angekua anakuripia hata shule fee show ww jijenge na maisha Yako na shosho wako juu hata ukimusaindia kujenga uwesienda kukaa uko pili kumbuka you mum ayuko kwake

[@joycemochama1418]

My daughter please keep off from the so called dad take care of yourself ,grandma and more so think about your career that will help your future.may God guide you look for answers

[@joycemochama1418]

As

[@abelmayieka1420]

According to me Ruth is an orphan. These people resurrecting from wherever, calling themselves fathers, JUST LEAVE THEM ALONE. Just trust in God. Do your things , you are answerable to God ALONE.

[@sarahkwamboka8190]

Yàani story ilipoanza nilidhani ni my daughter, yaani nimemzaa na mtu wa kijinini kwetu, ako gulf na mbaya zaidi anaitwa Ruth. Weuh! Nimehisi kuchanganyikiwa. Story imeendelea ikawa sio yeye sasa. Ushauri wangu kwa huyu binti yangu ni kwamba a- block huyu mbaba kabisa na hao watu wa kwao, abadili namba ya mawasiliano na ikiwezekana hata mama yake asimpatie namba mpya, mawasiliano yawe ni kati yake na shosh na namba mpya/ngeni ikipiga asipokee. Allllah, atavunaje mahali hakupanda huyo shually!!!! Ukisikia majanga ndo haya.

[@FelisterBosibori-y4z]

Shosh pekee hao wengine zii achane kabisa

[@stasta2148]

Plz asitumia huyu Baba yke pesa anataka amutumike vibaya

[@flavianbitutu4971]

She's young and she going through a lot kaka umefanya poa kuleta hii maneno most people are going through

[@davidmorangi9599]

The girl should focus on her guardian ( baaba na sokoro) because they helped her when she needed them most. Let the girl accumulate some money for buying land on which she will build her home.

[@BensonMangaini]

Strong No! Don't allow yourself to be used by a father who looked down upon you when you needed the dad's love and support. He cannot command you to a portion your sweat over those who supported, that's trash and crap. Wakwende huko, usikubali Huo ujinga. If continues, report him to authorities. I' have a daughter have been full support right from pregnancy to date she's in grade 5 in a boarding school fully paid by me not withstanding financial challenges and am standing with her until she's done with education.

[@benardmokaya3356]

Pole sana wacha na huyu mtu fanya kasi shaidia nyanya wako

[@yabeshosebe5416]

let you mind guide you please he is your dad assist with wisdom and distance yourself from those Kenya

[@VioletMachiegwa]

My dia please usitumie huyo mtu pesa coz akuna kitu alikusaidia kitu panga maisha yako

[@phaniceobegi7571]

From the look of things,none of her parents alicontribute.kudos to the granny's and for you team gaidi as we always say add contract juu ya contract .Do savings and send little to the grannys....by the time unarudi uko na doo you join school and shape your future.Forget about bullies,he will do nothing because he had nothing to claim on you.Otherwise he should be in jail by now coz he has no rights to threaten you

[@بردين-ك6ي]

Mm hapana kabisa juu Kuna kitu hanataka kufanyia pesa

[@lilyan1330]

aaaiiii this is very simple,block him hana any right ya kukuomba doh,si skul fees amekulipia si anything amefanya aanze kusema he is entitled to your money,akwende kabsaaaaa

[@juvilianmoraa]

My Dear sizy run for ur dear life ambia baba yako amshtaki for threatening you en ur familu

[@ChristineKerubo-ov6oh]

Nunua shamba ujenge baba ukae vizuri pesa usitume ukijaribu ukirudi pesa ikiisha atakufukuza

[@evanske790]

She should not think of marriage just think on how you better your own life. Uchumu n mbaya kenya msichana.

[@YuniahJoshua]

Aye baba yane ruth block uyo mjinga kila mahali ajakusaidia tangu utotoni asikutishie plz mwambie aende na uko umjui period na usijaribu kumtumia ata one bob plz alikukana ukiwa mtoy na akukusaidia

[@clintonmotonu9220]

Kaka Niko na yangu but l remain strong and God is with me

[@viviankemunto4435]

Wababa wajipange , uangalie mtoto Hadi akue mkubwa Sasa unajitokeza Nini hapa,wewe kufa na nyanya yako wajana na igo gaidi

[@OmesaTinega]

Omosacha ribeyeyi shame on him

[@roselynebosire]

Achana na huyo mtu. Mind your own business. Save your money. Hapo gulf,fanya contract ya hata 4 years. Come back home and join college. Jijenge kimaisha. About dowry, wakati u will get married. give your grandparents without fear.

[@ii-bt3yj]

I was neglected too, I was raised by grandma. I never know my dad until I come to usa so what I did is to ignore him and his family. Block them all and remain with you grandma. You work so hard for your money, block them all, block them all.if there is away tumia number ya mtu kupigia grands zako DONT SEND MONEY, Dont

[@nyakindamock592]

Amen

[@linetnay4059]

Hiyo sio kitu my dear, hizo ni vitisho baridi anakutishia, amini Mungu my siz na don't dare to send him any money, money for wat?? Km ni hao jengea shosho, kuolewa sio priority jenga maisha yako kwanza, hiyo isikufanye uogope hiyo ni bure tuu, upepo unavuma

[@annahkerubokirera5229]

Y can't you blocked them...... because wewe mwenyewe ujui baba Yako na akukupeleka shule jishungulikie na maisha Yako mama

[@catherinesabina5958]

Please girl be strong and focuse of your own life

[@joycenyamwaka1884]

No no no no no no please please

[@alicekemunto5646]

Tumeshajengea wenye walikuwa wanatukimbiza na kuturushia manguo. Don't revenge. God will still open more doors for.

[@emilynyasaina3274]

Don't send money to that man please girl

[@florenceclark4366]

Wow!!!! That deadbeat father wants to gain from where he didn't sweat 😢my advise is ignore his annoying calls.

[@annmcutemwenyewe1449]

Hii case imekuwa kama ya yule demu moraa,,but my dear siz don't make a mistake of sending that guy him money,,richwati riomosacha sai unatoka wapi ,,my dear siz usitume pesa kw hy mwanaume na akuna mamako hapo. Yaani ujengee mtu pesa na akuna kitu alikusaidia ww saidia the family yenye ilikulea wajana na hy story ya hy mwanaume you're still young ,,block yy kila mahali na umwanfriend ,,kwani yy alipanda mbegu ,,aliajia nani apalilie na usikubali kuolewa sai ni mapema ndoa ni stress mwa atafutie awatoi wengine wanaume sio ww simama imala focus your own life na familia ilikulea

[@MarthaNyaboke-w7g]

Your grand pa and grandma they are your parents don't panic God is there hao ndio watakula mahari yako and report that man to police for such threatening

[@marykwamboka5277]

A block huyo Baba ,na arudi Kwa shosho kutoka hapo ikiwa ataoleka grandpa atapokea mali pamoja na uncle so sister usi stress

[@diackomwansu660]

When your family knows that you have a job and you are not married yet, they always want to control your income. Because they think that you don't have your own responsibilities

[@georgekimonge4959]

My dear sister don't dare send him even a shilling. Concentrate on your life and take care of your grandparents for they are the ones who raised you up. Where was he all this time? Your grandparents are your mentors.

[@fridahnyabisi815]

Look after your grandparents cos wao ndio walisimama na wewe safe your money ukitaka kurudi shule ujitegemee mtu mwenye hakununua hata pencil utatoa nguvu wapi ya kumutumia pesa? Watu wengine wanakumbuka mtu akifanikiwa girl follow your heart too

[@josephnyandiko6147]

Young girl, people cannot advise you if on your own u cannot think. Pls make a choice, & it'll make it easy for even Pstr Roger to pray for your desire!

[@josephnyandiko6147]

Secondly, I don't understand how relocation to the gulf translates to money & success. This man, first of all needs to be locked behind bars for criminal behaviour. The young girl MUST ignore this idiot in totality. He can do her no harm because he is a toothless dog

[@evanske790]

Just lead your life. Rudi kenya ufanye mambo yako na usishughulike na ujinga ya familia life n hard kenya mbaya sana. Just make your own life period.

[@Hylinekemunto-j1m]

Obee ngaki tamojani komongajera obwo no bojii

[@jforeign254]

Mwambie huyu kumbavu ya Babako akukomeeeee!!! Wapige block 🚫 kila Mahali na usitume pesa hata shilling moja .

[@margaretnyanchera34]

Toa Risa herio nonya neshiligi eyemo naende tomoahachera enyomba akabesa okonyora game tomera babaomino nonde orenge kohokony a akagotigara gacha ochiere ecous eria gwatagete kogenda

[@fredmoranga2439]

your grandma is your parents pliz avoid them completely coz you have been blessed that's why they are after your money

[@janettemonari8077]

Ignore that agent of the devil. IGNORE THEM kabisa.

[@nancymichira8316]

Ruuuuuuuuun gal for your safety huyo mzee anataka pesa yako

[@phylesgesare1194]

Riochi bosa richara rikoroto alikuwa wapi wakati ulikuwa ukiteseka?Let nobody love you when you've become successful in life.Keep on with your own business and those who stood by your side b4