Is Fatherlessness Ruining Gen Z?

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[@chordalharmony]

Let’s just get this out of the way now. This might be the most important video you have put out. Dysfunctional families will always, and I mean always, be a detriment to society. It hurts everybody, and the simple act of bringing attention, hopefully to all parties, will make us realize this. Keep it up.

[@Tusitala1967]

I was raised by my grandmother while my mom was a groupie and my dad was in prison. I didn't meet my father until I was 40. My mother is a gold digger who has been married 8 times (maybe more by now... I haven't seen or spoken to her in 15 years). After meeting my father, I realized I was probably better off without him. My father-in-law died when my first son was 4. I was really planning on relying on him for advice as my sons grew, as he had raised two boys and my wife. That wasn't meant to be. I'm not an award winning dad, but my kids still like to spend time with me in their 20's, so I consider that a victory. I probably could have been harder with them as they grew up and instilled more discipline, but I ended up giving them all of the love I never received as a child instead of being a stoic patrician. They are good people. I guess I did alright.

[@romainsouyris2722]

Hi Gen, this video really touched me, I think you've hit the nail on the head with that subject. I personally think that fatherlessness is at the heart of most problems we are facing as a society. We evolved growing up with 2 parents that are like yin and yang, they complete each others and both bring critical educational aspects to the table. Removing either one of them is detrimental to the growth of a child. The world is evolving, massive progress has been made in reducing inequality, but we should be wary of what some changes can have has long term impacts. The destruction of the family unity is of them. Keep up the good work Gen, your approach is refreshing

[@nfcapps]

​​@@GENmy father died about 2 years ago. He had been distancing himself from everyone for years, so we didn't have a troubled relationship, he just didn't have a relationship with anyone. But when I was younger it was great. He was so much fun and lovely. I miss him a lot and it's funny that even though the relationship is only one sided now, my side, I still feel like our "relationship" is getting better every year simply because I'm getting older and starting to understand more and more some of the things we talked about and the value of some of the lessons, easy and difficult, that he taught me over my lifetime. So, even when they are gone, they influence us. That's part of why the fatherless crisis is so detrimental. Even those short daily interactions over a lifetime create boundaries and goals. They give encouragement and support for an entire lifetime. It's difficult to have that if it was never there to start with.

[@chrisgg2026]

I think Dads get the short end of the stick. Some Dads work all the time and hard jobs come home exhausted and are not there due to just being too tired to parent. My Dad worked 12 hours a manual job 6 days a week outside. He came home exhausted. He pretty much showered, ate and maybe read before falling asleep. My Mom was a stay at home that was their for us but never bad mouthed my Dad. Told us your Dad works hard to provide respect that he breaks his back literally for us. I think people take for granted how hard fathers work to provide for their families.

[@toedrag-release]

It's something kids don't realize until they are out of the house, have bills to pay and hit the workforce. Then it finally hits home how hard your dad actually worked to support a family

[@rsecherry]

Exacly, not all, but many parents do not spend time with their children because of how hard they work to feed them and keep them alive, I wish society would appreciate that more

[@arnitaxavier9446]

The irony is, there is a group of people who would rather this than making the resposiblities of everything more equal. Personally, I think when the labour of everything is more distributed, it is a lot easier for parents to then make more time with children. Whilst so many dads do work so hard to provide for their families, in terms to teaching and guding the children, what is the exact difference between a father too exhausted from working all day to interact with his kids and one who is never present.

[@xianzhewang9889]

I see both side a dad that is not present because of work is almost the same of not having one. But the dad needs to work to support the family. It's really the government fault for taking money from us every way possible leaving the parents to work so much and unable to teach their kids what's important

[@chrisgg2026]

Seeing a Dad working hard every day for his family to compare with a Dad that is never present is a crazy comparison they are in no way the same. A Dad that is never present does not show any support for a child versus a Dad working hard daily to provide for child is totally different and no one way comparable. Do I think Dad's need to make an effort but sometimes some men think working that hard should show you I love you. Maybe not the best and maybe Dad's do need to do better but 🛑 making it sound like they are absent fathers.

[@AliciaTheTroonSlayer]

It’s not just that, it’s the lack of parenting in general. Too many millennial parents let iPads and phones raise their children smh

[@schwags1969]

Digital babysitter's are a huge problem.

[@corystarkiller]

Blaming Millennials is the scapegoat. Zoomers are the ipad kids, not Gen Alpha, and Zoomers were raised by Gen-X. Don't be pinning things on Millennials, when we're stuck between a rock and a hard place. Gen-X set us up, for all sorts of failures, as there's an expectation of kids having screens. And if you suggest that you're not raising your kids that way, you get social ostracization from other adults going "But your kids won't know the latest trends, and get bullied". So, Millennials are damned if they do, damned if they don't.

[@kaymillerfromTX]

💯 the amount of parents who give their kids unrestricted, unmonitored online access is wild.

[@IamBuffal0]

Exactly, people need to ask themselves: would they let their child talk to anyone alone on the street? Answer is probably no for any decent parent. Then online that stranger danger multiples by 100, people can get repeated access to your child by usernames, forums, playing the same games, etc. influencing and shaping children's' minds. Then you have tech companies, meta, tiktok, omegle or some other variant not only doing nothing to protect kids, but giving the worst parts of society unfiltered access to them with no legal consequence or accountability.

[@charissa6648]

Yes, but not just millennial parents. I actually heard that Gen z kids are also pretty bad. Seems the more we advance in tech the lazier parents become.

[@TheKarlslok]

Hearing a dad say he is proud of his son, I think is what every son wants to hear. And maybe not only once. Thanks, beautiful video.

[@ke753reej]

And daughter too. I still have yet to hear that from my parents but there’s still time 🙏🏽

[@jojosnazzypants]

I'm spoiled. I have always had a great relationship with my Dad. He taught me what it means to work hard, what my own value is as a person and as a future husband, and he taught me that having feelings isn't bad, but letting your feelings control you, that's what's unhealthy.

[@behemoth2887]

Just imagining him saying that makes me cry, but I don't know if he ever will say it.

[@lordabstract82]

I had to turn into a selfish self serving motherfucker to achieve the goals that were escaping me in my 20s and 30s and I finally unshackled myself from the abusive past I had from going to live with my mother when they split up. It was only THEN, that my dad actually fucking told me he was proud of me. The way I roll now, my dad went from being a hero to me, to being borderline cowardly and pathetic. Someone who wiped his hands of responsibility or the thought of protecting their child, for greener pastures, with little or no regard for how anyone turned out afterwards. Not gonna lie, my evolution seems complete at this point. As I honestly don’t really give a fuck about anyone anymore at this point. Modern men’s problems require modern solutions. And in a world where nobody gives a fuck, sometimes it behooves you to do exactly that 💯🤌🏼

[@stephenc2481]

Gen's dad seems caring. Teenagers go through lots, school, friends, work, money... If parents understand that, it is much easier for the kids to navigate life.

[@Emma-kl4pz]

My father left with his 19 year old girlfriend and his 2 year old son when I was 12. I failed every year of school from there, started drinking a lot from 16 and did things that could have destroyed my life. I only pulled myself out of that path at around 18 when something changed in me and I realised I could not achieve my vision if I continued that way. I went back to school to graduate and go on to achieve big things. I found my power of will on my own because I inherently knew there was more possible, but many people don’t have that. If we don’t connect our children with greater possibilities and show them their potential they will become and remain lost. This is the way to break the cycle.

[@polidon1577]

I'm sorry, 17 year old gf and 2 yo son as in he banged a 14/15 year old??? Please tell me he went to prison for that

[@jammed_yam]

2 year old son with a 17 y/o girlfriend... yikes

[@user-ld6wo4rv8h]

lol stop blaming your dad. Blame that wretched mother of yours that didn't do her duty.

[@Dream_Lyfe]

Yoooo what!?! You are 5 years younger than his gf? And she had a baby at 15 ! This is so wrong in so many levels

[@user-ld6wo4rv8h]

@@Dream_Lyfe The 2-year-old son could be the OP's brother, and 17 is legal in many parts of the world. Stop judging.

[@ElizabethDohertyThomas]

Very brave of you to call your dad, realizing you're literally half the reason for the distance with him. Very sweet and what a step to show everyone who is feeling the urge but fear or anger gets the better of them. 🥰 He'll also see this video and I'm sure more dialogue will ensue.

[@r0se_777]

I miss the days when it wasn't allowed to record people without their consent🤣

[@ElizabethDohertyThomas]

that too!!! hahah @@r0se_777

[@mouse2542]

@@r0se_777 when was that? or do you miss the times where not everybody had a video camera?

[@adidab14]

@@r0se_777 it's state to state. Look up "one-party" and "all-party" consent states. One-party consent means it's legal to record if one-party of the conversation consents to the recording. So if you call someone and you want to record it but they don't, you can. But you can't record someone ELSE's conversation since you aren't a party to the conversation. This is the law for 38 states currently. All-party means everyone in the conversation has to consent for you to record. So if you call someone and you want to record but they don't, that's illegal. Goes without saying but you cannot record someone else's conversation in these states either without everyone in that conversation's consent. this is the law in 11 states currently. The reason there's only 49 states in there is because Nevada can't figure out what they want lol. The state says it's one-party but the state's supreme court says it's all-party 🤷

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

wow, you must make a killing fixing the relationships of people that you've completely understood from a single video clip.

[@LoulousCorner]

I've been saying this to my husband for some years now. He lost his career when he got his MS diagnoses at the age of 28. His health has declined, but thankfully, very slowly. That diagnosis took his manhood and ability to provide traditionally, leaving ne to be the main breadwinner, which isn't much as I'm a "low skilled" worker, but i try my best. This hurts my husband so much, but i remind him that every time he feels it, the hardest that being a father is the most important job he has! He is there for his son, not a paid stranger, and that is worth more than a big paycheck! It's worth so much more! Children need BOTH parents, and fathers need more credit.

[@zack6012]

Agreed. I firmly believe kids need both a mother and a father. Boys need a father to see what kind of man to grow up to be and a mother to see what kind of woman to pursue and to mother his children. Girls need a father to see what kind of men to pursue and allow to father her children. Also needs a mother to see what kind woman she should be. this just emphasizes the nuclear family. Just within the last 20 years we've began to question and reverse everything humanity has done traditionally. there's a reason people got married for the last 300 years. DO we really believe that traditions that were kept for hundreds of years and got us to where we were 20 years ago was wrong? Life was built around close relationships and having a community. todays systems have focused more on the self with isolation and no human contact. People treating you poorly or not prioritizing you? cut them out of your life there's nothing you can do to fix it and you didn't do anything cause. DO NOT self reflect. DO NOT notice the road goes both ways. I predict in the near future the most successful people will have had both parents play active roles in their lives and who have gotten a lot of exposure to the outdoors and learned how to socially interact with other people. Just learning how to talk to another human being and make them feel good will be a rare skill. make your kids take those risks in talking with other people and public speaking. better they learn to do it when no one expects anything from them. I've seen so many adults absolutely terrified to do any sort of public speaking or interacting with a stranger. Some can't even eat out unless someone else goes with them and they can order virtually.

[@chrismilligan3511]

...and give yourself credit for being a supportive and loyal wife....truly a rare thing nowadays!

[@ByronDavisEpiclife]

Props to you for sticking by his side.

[@despinoza6205]

You are so beautiful for realizing this and being a supportive wife. I only wish my ex was like you.

[@chillnick1865]

You're a great wife. God bless you and your family.

[@claytonkobs8394]

As someone who has an amazing father, it breaks my heart when people tell me about their negative experiences

[@Mel-tw6qv]

I had a wonderful father too. The irony is I believe his father wasn’t very nice to him and that shaped how he wanted to treat us kids. Also helpful when when a man actually wants children he will be a good father.

[@Mel-tw6qv]

I had a wonderful father too. The irony is I believe his father wasn’t very nice to him and that shaped how he wanted to treat us kids. Also helpful when when a man actually wants children he will be a good father.

[@OllyhayOffittmay]

Same. My dad (step dad that didn’t HAVE to be a dad) is amazing. He worked harder than anyone I know just to provide the best he could for our family. Now my husband is doing the same. I had a great role model to know what I wanted as a father to my children.

[@king24764]

I had a great father. Taught me what’s good and bad. Taught me good morals and have respect for others. Me and my three brothers and sister all grew up with good upbringings. Having both parents sure does help

[@whatrtheodds]

❤

[@k3six]

lucky you

[@stephenc2481]

"Good parents" don't come from thin air. Your parents learned from the past and are able to pass the knowledge along to their kids. Smart people push the next generation to be better. Unfortunately, there are lots of others who will go through life, cycling the struggles that their parents went through, because they don't know better.

[@Jasmine_breeze]

I was moved when your dad started talking about how proud he was of you and why 😊❤

[@Vegeta8300]

Who's cutting onions in here?! That part got to me, too. My father is very emotionally distant. He's a good dad, but he doesn't handle or express emotions well. I can't remember, if ever, my dad said he was proud of me. So, when Gen's dad said that to him... 😢

[@williebauld1007]

I may've had a wee tear in my eye when he said that

[@catsillustrated]

Sent me to tears as well. My father's never asked me what's going on with my life. He doesn't call me or approach me without needing me to start the conversation, and carry the conversation. Just the fact that Gen's dad was trying to update himself on Gen's location, and assure Gen that he was proud of him made me reflect on the fact that it's the kind of relationship I'll never have. 😢

[@dvsninja2]

I got emotional also, what a great dad.

[@Jasmine_breeze]

I would like to send some warmth to all those who felt a bittersweet taste because they are aware that such a situation will not happen to them. I literally cried because I felt it was an important moment for his dad and Gen Z. It was so beautiful. Me too, I probably won't hear those words from either of my parents. Dad is a cool and intelligent man and a national hero, but... I have no contact with him. None. And mom., well... For a long time I came to terms with the fact that my parents were probably unable to love me or even notice me. They are too busy with themselves. This has some advantages: I raised and shaped myself to my liking. Now I am the only one who can influence me. It's melancholic and freeing when I think about it. I hope that sharing will help somebody on the way 😊❤️🙏

[@MasterGhostf]

This is why trauma transcends generations and can keep society stagnating for generations.

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

I wish society would stop normalizing trauma and adversity, theres nothing normal about adversity and trauma at all, in any way shape or form

[@UzitheSaint]

@@joshuabuchanan1141no it’s normal, like that’s just life. It’s about how it’s handled.

[@UzitheSaint]

It’s called Epigenetics

[@bestdjaf7499]

The first person I've heard talking about Intergenerational Trauma was Erin Pizzey. She opened the first Women's Refuge/Shelter for the Domestic Abuse Victims in UK. Apparently, she quickly realized that the majority of women in her shelter are as violent & abusive as their husbands. She actually tried to open a Male Shelter as well, but of course, Feminists went after her with death threats & boycotts.... So she literally had to flee to the US. Since 1970th, Erin Pizzey kept saying that Domestic Violence & Delinquency almost directly relates to Child Abuse/Neglect. And it's a very well known fact. There is a lot of literature on the subject. Of course, Feminist hate this. Feminist ideology is based on Oppressor-Oppressed dichotomy. If Domestic Violence.... is not the product of Patriarchy & Specifically Men, then the whole Feminist Ideology falls apart. Well, it's what happened to Jews in the Ivy League Universities. If it's not the "White CIS Male" fault, then the whole Ideology falls apart.

[@Billy-bc8pk]

@@bestdjaf7499Spot on. But the genie is out of the bottle and it will never be put back in -- all we can do is watch as the cards come tumbling down.

[@nard7722]

Can't forget about people who are fatherless with fathers in the home

[@sharonsmith1505]

TY. FOR BRINGING THIS TO LIGHT. Just because he is there, he is like a zombie, eatting,sleep, TV. No affection, no input. Just a body. It's like if he could, he would just disappear.

[@elif_g24]

real

[@southernfriedmedia3968]

I feel for these kids, My dad bailed out on my mom and me when I was about a year old. he was a pretty well off doctor and he would show up about once or twice a month maybe less, and every time he came by and showed me his life by bringing me over to his house....and it would mess with my head because I had to come back to my poor life with my mom. I started to resent her for being so poor and I became so aggressive towards others, so mean and filled with hate. she did her best and Im glad I can help her now with my own success in life. but she didn't deserve to be abandoned with a kid, and I didn't deserve to be left by that guy only to raise myself.

[@pedoyam]

have you ever asked him why he left?

[@southernfriedmedia3968]

@@pedoyam yeah. he didn't want kids and never did and she abhors abortion and made that clear to him before hand. Turns out he was just using her to clean and cook for him during his time in medschool like some kinda surrogate mom; and when he graduated and she got pregnant he ordered (because knowing him, he doesn't ask people he tells them) her to get an abortion, gave her 200 bucks and left her at the clinic. she walked out. He tried to play it off to me like "oh she was too irresponsible and spent all my money I had to leave her" but yet he left us and married a trophy wife.... who ended up spending all his money and being irresponsible.

[@Themrine2013]

@@southernfriedmedia3968 in the modern world of 2024. dude has every right to walk away and choose not to be a father. if a woamn can just up and get an abortion anytime no questions asked. he has a right to just walk away. he made it clear. as you have said. he didnt want kids. am i saying its right? no. but men should have that choice none the less

[@90ejb]

​@@Themrine2013If he didn't want kids he shouldn't have sex. That's literally the only way a woman gets pregnant. If he chooses to walk away then he's helping the fatherless epidemic. And so are you. I'm not sure if your father was around in your life. But the fact that your mother didn't abort you when your father likely told her to speaks for itself. I would respect the sanctity of life if I were you and stop watching porn.

[@90ejb]

​@@Themrine2013 If you don't want kids, why kill off your seed instead of getting a hysterectomy? Don't you understand there's any influx of old and young men in nursing homes who's only care is a nurse? And men who refuse to be there for the kids they created? You want the right to be reckless for what?

[@jeremiahm1413]

The breakdown of the nuclear family is the first stepping stone to make it easier for people to become "followers" when there's no leader or "team" keeping the family together and safe.... and the politicians know that.

[@kamaliancirranoush1916]

Agreed. Families need leadership, intentionality and consistent examples of mutual respect and teamwork. That can only happen with both parents.

[@austinclark5278]

YEP. Absolutely.

[@sarahrobertson634]

The nuclear family is a failure, and always has been.

[@JurassicGoose]

FACTS. If you think about it, if everybody grew up in perfect households, imagine how powerful and unbroken our society would be. Strong masculine healthy men. Happy and glowing women/mothers/daughters. All of the problems or batshit ideologies people cling to as life vests, would seemingly dissipate, and everybody would focus on the failures and incompetence of our leaders, instead of each other. It's almost like they are destroying the nuclear family and are intentionally trying to belittle, break down, and castrate men to further alienate people, destroy happiness, and make them emotionally and mentally reliant on the power of the state.

[@jaswicki]

and Republicans have always been advocates for the nuclear family. It isn't some new thing they picked up while most democrats push the narrative that men aren't needed and have legislated for policies that incentivize broken homes.

[@davidmills5286]

little teary eyed watching you talk to your father on the phone. Embrace him the best you can, Gen. One day he will be gone. Whatever grudge or mistrust you have it is worth it to forgive. I forgave my dad when he was on his death bed, asleep drugged up on pain killers and whatever else, a couple days before dying from cancer. I talked to him, but i didn't get a response, or a hug. Thanks for your amazing content.

[@user-kg5lq6nd7q]

😭

[@skyking6989]

Dad was a raging alcoholic. He was abusive both physically and mentally. My siblings, my mother and myself still have mental health issues from him. Didnt talk to him for years. Eventually got threapy and decided to try to past behind us. I forgave him but ive never forgotten.

[@TheRareCriticalThinker]

Has he changed?

[@skyking6989]

@TheRareCriticalThinker After we forced him to get his shit together and attend threapy and told him if he didn't go we were done and would walk away forever

[@Ikaros23]

@@skyking6989i told my alcoholic mother the same. She choose alcohol and narcissism instead of family and health😢. I waited 2 years, but now i have blocked her gone no contact on all platforms. If he stray’s with just a glass, or starts to get addicted again to narcissism. Then my advice is to terminate the contact and put your own health first. Good luck!

[@skyking6989]

@Ikaros23 It's heartbreaking. But my father knew we were deadly serious and this wasn't a joke and absolute last ditch "hail mary" effort to fix shit. Once he realized this wasn't a joke he cleaned up.

[@Ikaros23]

@@skyking6989 Good for you and your family. Hope he stay`s on the healthy path. I recommend you to talk to a therapist about your childhood, this type of neglect makes deep wounds that can go down the generations. My sister has turned into a narcissist and alcohol abuser also. Sounds like you will be ok. Stay healthy and good luck!

[@alexandrak.7644]

Having grown up without a present father… having thought my mom was enough (she truly was great) But I came to realize as a grown up woman now… that I missed out on sth. only a father can give you. I have issues regarding relationships. You could call it „trauma“ because my dad cheated on my mom and was therefore ready to trade his family for a fling. It sticks with me to this day. I am anxiously attached (see attachment theory). I sometimes wish I had a dad that can protect me, guard me, console me when I am /was crying and so much more 😢😔💔 Fathers matter!!!

[@Ronsquaremy]

**good father's matter**

[@asya4553]

Same story same outcome

[@ll1vingdollyyy]

This stings, mine remarried after ONE MONTH of divorce after he cheated

[@berrymckockiner5883]

@@Ronsquaremy good mthrs matter

[@shaniceokubena4975]

​@overlordfemto7523 i have an absentee father here and I have 0 bodies don't stereotype

[@toedrag-release]

I grew up kinda resenting my father, Years later i kinda understood my father more and more and appreciated him more. I realized a large part of my father being absent was kinda my own fault. I started calling him more and more, visted more and more and unfortunately he passed away from cancer. I really regret the years we didnt really talk and the years of resentment that was baseless. Im happy before he passed we had a closer relationship o just wish I had more time.

[@MsMookalate]

How is out your fault as THE CHILD your father was wasn’t there?

[@will-zj5gq]

@@MsMookalatehis father ways there. you just made that up. not once did OP say Daddy wasn’t there.

[@AA-iy4gm]

This can be a result of parental alienation which sadly disproportionately affects fathers. It's more common then we think.

[@Raphanne]

With my husband, we're talking about starting to try to have kids this year, so I've been consuming a lot of materials about fatherhood and motherhood. I hope we can be good parents. I would like us to be able to offer a stable and loving environment. We talk about being good figures but also having good boundaries for the kids. I was raised in a complicated environment and I don't want to reproduce the same mistakes with our children. I also see my nephew being raised without ever being told no, without being punished ot talked to when he misbehaves, and without any control on screen time. I'm happy that my husband and I are on the same page regarding this issue, as in we don't want that.

[@SebastianFyi]

Don’t do it. Seriously, this year is going to be a bad year. We are going into an election year and the political hatred is intense. Wars are breaking out across the world. The economy is in a recession. Making a baby during this stressful time will stress you out. Wait until 2025 when things settle. God told me to tell you that. You’re welcome.

[@joseywales1150]

U are going to be the best parents any money can buy, because u are aware more so than any other generation to date…

[@amossymindset]

Best of luck to you! I'm three week postpartum with our first and it IS the most difficult and rewarding work, absolutely no one can describe how insane it is lol but we need more people with morals, awesome values, and kind hearts starting families!

[@silenthill4]

with boys, they have to be taught to handle their anger and rage that come with having the superpower that is testosterone only a man can do that

[@norrisadutwum2620]

Wow. Cna you advise me some youtube channels on this topic since I am also interested to know more about motherhood and fatherhood please?

[@coldmoonlight6361]

That "I'm proud of you" at the end hit me hard. My dad says that to me every so often and for the life of me I can't figure out why. I'm not proud of me, but he sees me through a different lense than I do and I'll always appreciate that.

[@brandonechegaray3874]

My father, had the worst childhood growing up. I’m 24 rn he was born 71, he was beaten by my grandfather everyday because of little things. Him and my uncles always faced one thing from him but he never beat my grandmother. My dance was once even left on the side road to walk 6 miles home. My dad grew up a player and basically unloved with life, was self destructive putting himself in situations where he should have likely died. One day he met my mom at a party and his whole world changed. He wanted to be better, to love more, and as soon as me and my brother were born he changed himself entirely, he stayed up most night to work and woke up early to go to a job 50 miles away. He never really beat me just used the belt here and there. Helped me understand what I did wrong. He’s still working to this day. He provides for my mother and makes her happy living the best life they can live. I am proud of him and not letting his past justify him. I can only wish I can become half the man my father is today.

[@coronaj07]

I really love this video. It makes me want to be a better father than I had growing up. My son is my world and I will never let him doubt my love and support for him.

[@jzm2293]

I applaud you for wanting what's best for your son. Sending you blessings on your fatherhood journey🙏

[@nomadic_orthodox]

“my son is my world” is all a kid needs.

[@Jay-vt1mw]

literally just being interested and involved is all he needs. my dad was there, provided a lot but was never involved and wasn’t around enough, it definitely made a difference looking back. You’ll do great bro.

[@r0se_777]

so sad how people dont see how this affects them & think theyre "fine"😢dads are humans & struggle too but just like you experienced, deep down most people just want the best for each other.❤

[@pinheadious17]

It's nice having a video that hits close to home every once in awhile.

[@puli_dreadhead]

My dad was a serial cheater. From listening to my older brothers he was emotionally unavailable. My younger half sister and her mom said he was physically absent during her childhood. He was just too unreliable as a parent. My uncle aka his older brother was trying to pressure me into talking to him. My aunt says he’s changed and misses me but I haven’t heard him reach out to my brother. My brothers raised me and they barely see him. They’re in their 30s and my sister and I are in our 20s :/

[@70two41five]

My brother raised me as well. Our bond is closer than any of my friends have with their siblings. He is the person I love most on this planet.

[@guedrini2045]

@@70two41fiveIn a way that is your father figure. The fatherless crisis isn’t only about blood fathers being absent it’s about the absence of any strong male connection people can look up to. Obviously we’d all love it to be our own real father but when that doesn’t happen having a brother/uncle/family friend/step father who is there for you and loves you just as much as a father should that’s what we need

[@cremadulce_]

Loved my father!! 💜 Mom was the bread winner making 90K as an executive assistant in the 90’s. My dad was a part-time lab tech, stay at home. He gave me and my brother an outstanding childhood! He passed away from pancreatic cancer when I was 15 years old and I miss him every day, but he lives in my heart and is the reason why I found a loving husband who I know will make a fabulous father to my children. Loving fathers are a must in this society!! I grieve for the staggering amount of children who weren’t as blessed as I was 😢 May you be healed one day!! God bless!!

[@aquila8723]

Hearing his conversation with his dad brought tears to my eyes. My dad passed away almost 12 years ago now. I had a great relationship with him, I just lost him too soon. It really is a blessing to be able to think of my own dad when I picture what a great father figure looks like.

[@yominiman123]

WAIT YOU'RE A DAD!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! LOVE YOU AND HOPE YOUR FAMILY IS FILLED WITH BLESSINGS!!!!!!!

[@emwols]

Lol I don’t think he is a dad but it did come across like that at first. Think he meant in the future

[@GEN]

i am not a dad lol

[@yominiman123]

@@GEN oh snap the way you phrased something in your video made it seem like you’re a dad

[@eLLe0969]

The moment your dad said he is proud of you.... I started balling. It's the one thing most kids can relate to, craving approval from their father. Great job Gen! Keep doing what you're doing!!

[@Lemurai]

My dad was an engineer/scientist, he spent more time in gov & defense contracting labs than he did at home, I don’t know how my mom stayed married to the guy. My brothers & I always called ourselves bastards 😂 because it was almost like not having a dad in the first place, but thankfully good men like my uncle’s saw the pattern, and stepped up because they weren’t about having invalids in the family, my dad paid for it in the end when he retired to an empty house because all his kids & grandkids were spending time, holiday’s & doing birthdays at his brothers homes. He pretty much died alone and my mom is now traveling the world with a pretty awesome guy who actually cares about her. I know 99% of peoples lives don’t play out positively in this case but I’m just blessed to come from a family where excellence and discipline is non negotiable, my dad just took it too far & got caught up in his work & his own ego/world.

[@aarondean01]

How did you keep it together when your dad told you he was proud of you? To be seen in a positive light by the man who raised you, and him willing and able to tell you...wow, you're truly blessed.

[@anonymousdogg1559]

This is single-handedly one of the greatest KZbin videos I’ve ever seen. So much heart and passion involved with this video. You even got a lawyer to open up a wound that seems that it can be repaired. This is the opposite of a hot button topic, it’s a topic not many want to discuss but I just feel most people want to feel loved by their father. It’s weird because it sounds so easy but it’s more complicated than rocket science. I hope today that anyone that reads this, feels love. ❤️

[@griffithclipson5769]

Bro, this hit me in the feels. I had a great father figure and am struggling on following through. Much respect for keeping the intense topics in the open.

[@johnjackson9235]

I noticed that you "abruptly" ended the video as your Father was complimenting you and telling you how proud he was of you. It made me tear up as a 55 year old man, because I know how much we yearn for it and how we don't receive it as much as we desire. I hope that was a special and private moment for you. You deserve the love and honor and respect from your Father. FYI - I agree 100% with what your Father and his friends say: You are fantastic and gifted at what you do. Thank you for following your passion to bring better discussion on important topics in our lives. You are a breath of fresh air!!

[@meganhartman2755]

My husband’s father has been and is currently very present in his life. It’s so apparent in the way my husband chooses to live. He takes his responsibilities very seriously, has a strong moral compass and is confident in his abilities. Im forever going to be grateful because we have our own kids now and he is an amazing father.

[@dustint3833]

Love my dad. Didn't have much of a relationship with him growing and has extended into my adulthood. He worked a lot and wasn't around much but he had a wife and 3 kids. Now as an adult I see that not being around his kids has hurt him as much as it hurt use.

[@QueenieEileenie]

I loved how you took responsibility for your relationship with your dad. I had a terrible relationship with my dad as a teenager. To this day he hasn’t taken any responsibility for what he did to me. I had to forgive him anyway. I couldn’t continue to hold resentment. The only person it hurt was me. My reward is getting to watch my daughter develop a beautiful relationship with her grandfather.

[@anjieobasa1871]

I’m happy to know that you’ve reconciled with your dad, but how does one form a relationship with someone who hasn’t taken responsibility for what they have done? Isn’t that in some ways excusing what they have done? Asking because I’m in a similar predicament and it seems hard to form a relationship with someone who refuses to acknowledge the damage they have done 😅

[@QueenieEileenie]

@@anjieobasa1871 I am close to my mom and she is still married to my dad so he is a part of my life. I had to make a choice. I could be angry every time I saw him or I could be at peace. I can’t control him. Only me. So I let it go. It helps that he treats me with respect now. He has changed. He’s just too prideful to apologize. I can’t say we’re close. Forgiveness doesn’t undo the damage, even if he had apologized. It just sets you free from the anger. But we are cordial. Since I’m not angry, my daughter can build a relationship with who he is now. She doesn’t need to know who he was back then. They love each other very much and that is a blessing for her, which in turn is a blessing for me. Maybe it is excusing his behavior, but sometimes it’s better to be happy than be right.

[@thenoch2418]

You are criminally underrated GEN. Also that ending was so beautiful

[@Thatonedad2016]

Growing up, our father would come and go for years at a time. When he was in our lives, he'd beat us and our mother. We've found him OD'd as kids in the bathroom. After he got clean when we were late teens, he wanted to be part of our lives again. The abuse continued even though he said he got better. After giving him multiple chances as an adult, he kept letting me down. So I stopped talking to him about 4 years ago, I had a relative recently mention to me that he misses me and wants to talk. I told him he can tell my dad that we can talk when he's at his death bed.

[@Thatonedad2016]

@derpyeh9107 lol 😆 yeah can't deny that, that and he was a drug addict.

[@kamaliancirranoush1916]

@@derpyeh9107wow, you must be a heartless abusive asshole to blame a kid for not putting up with abuse and bad treatment. Seek help.

[@shawnlove4502]

​@derpyeh9107 This is such a ignorant comment. He doesn't have to talk to a man who abused him and his mother.

[@derpyeh9107]

@@shawnlove4502 Why are you implying that I think he should? I'm saying his dad beat him and his mom, did drugs, and ran off because he was such a bad kid. If he were a better kid, his dad would have been loving and present in his life.

[@shawnlove4502]

@@derpyeh9107 So again... you're blaming a child for why a husband beat his wife? Do you hear yourself.... you released that man from all accountability.

[@LawlietLevi]

Growing up me and my dad we would argue a lot, along the way I thought we would never have a closer relationship. Now that I'm almost 30 we are finally making amends. Thank you for the video Gen, this is a very important topic.

[@brooke9847]

This conversation is so necessary. I have a close relationship with my dad and my husband did with his as well. Now my husband is an amazing and attentive father to our baby girl. It's been proven time and time again how important both parental roles are to a well developed individual.

[@newson1177]

Good fathers are an indispensable to good wives, pillars and mentors to their children, they are the legs that support their children's dreams, the arms that shoulders and shields his family. Too often they are the unsung heroes. Weird today is 10 years since I buried my pops. For a man who stood at just 5'6", his influence in my life was truly one of a giant. Rest in power Pops

[@upsanddowns8717]

Very moving... I once believed my father did nothing for our family.... that changed when he passed away. I discovered he meant more to our family that i believed... I discovered things about him i never knew through stories from his friends, coworkers and even my mom... I wish i had made amends with him before he passed away, i wished we had the same kind of relationship that you see on family sitcoms... I pray he hears me now talking to him, asking him for guidance and advice. I miss him a lot... i know our family misses him a lot... RIP pops...

[@YouChoke1v1s]

dude i remember when my dad said he was proud of me. Ngl that shit hit me so hard i couldnt stop crying until i got home smh

[@derpyeh9107]

Same. My ex-wife not understanding the significance of this was one of the signs that she didn't really understand me much at all.

[@FaulconDeLacy]

The words "I'm proud of you" coming from your father is one the most reassuring things you can hear. Good father figures are there to nurture and guide their children. They assist you when you struggle and celebrate when you achieve success.

[@bigheadrhino]

It’s easy to overlook some basic things that having a father in the home does for a child. Imagine the difference in language development for example in having a single parent who can only talk to the child vs having two adults who can talk to each other and the child. Same goes for social development and simply having two adults to watch and pattern from. The fact that the father can give the mom a hand physically is also a huge help. Double the amount of adult eyes watching the kid to watch out for danger. The list goes on and on.

[@FTChomp9980]

I grew up in a good Christian Family my Dad despite working he still spent time with me throughout the years.

[@Suavetip]

I lost my father a few months ago and this really hit home for me. My father was my hero. If I could ever be a tenth of the role model my father was for me, I would be doing 90% better than the populous today.

[@lala_arneezy]

My granddad worked 12-14 hours a day, 6 days a week.... he came home, showered right away & would come down to have dinner with us, take us out for ice cream or end the night with plying a game or watching a movie... he talked to me about many important life things & tried so hard to prepare me for the real world.. he really did it all. He showed me what a gentle masculine man is 💙 I'm so grateful.

[@VoiceOfReason579]

As an African, it's interesting to see how people are undermining the role that a father can play in one's life. Just because your mom raised you alone doesn't mean that you never needed your dad.

[@dracocaelestis6370]

i love my dad, he’s not perfect and made some mistakes but was always there for the family and made sure he did his best to provide and protect us. and my husband is such a great dad to out daughter, i couldn’t be more proud of him. he’s so loving, patient and protective with our little girl that i started loving him even more once he became a dad. i didn’t think it was possible. my heart breaks for kids with no dads.

[@faiththebeliever]

The affirmation from your father is so moving. What a wonderful moment to catch on film. Nothing quite like knowing your father is proud of you. Keep going, man. You’re doing amazing ❤

[@jzmina]

If I hadn’t watched the first 10 minutes of the video and just heard the conversation you had with your dad I would have had zero idea your relationship was in any sort of strain. From the glimpse I’ve seen he sounds like he loves you and he’s proud of you. Good on you for taking the step to reach out and grow your relationship.

[@montyburnham7704]

That phone call put tears in my eyes. What a beautiful moment with your dad. I have been a father for 10 years and I know my kids deserve a better dad than me, but I am grateful they look at me with an unending love. Thanks Gen for this and being brave enough to put that on the screen.

[@austinpeterjohn569]

That call with your dad at the end hit me hard. I need to take the same step with my dad.

[@Rowe104]

I was so lucky to have an epic father! And as a millennial- I saw too many of my peers not having the amazing role model that I had- I’m so sad tho that if I ever am able to have a child that they will never get to meet him

[@mNIMMm]

Thanks for this video, Gen. Sometimes, I forget how desperately an issue like this affects me and how much further in the journey I still have to go. Broke down while watching this and even though it sucks, I'm grateful for the reminder to not give up in striving and hoping for better.

[@kyattogallery]

My dad was one of the most important people in my life as a child. He grew up with an absent father and a single mother and when my brother and I were born, he made the conscious decision to be there. He even changed jobs when his work took him away from us too much. And because of his love for my mom, it was my dream to find a man like him who loved me the way he loved my mom. Father figures (whether biological or not) are very important to young children and I fully think the emotional absence of father in a child’s life causes a lot of harm, regardless if they are physically present or not. But I also don’t think it’s a new issue for Gen Z, it’s just a continuing issue that has harmed many children throughout the generations. I am more left leaning, but I fully agree the left has forgotten men in many places and ignore that issues like sexism don’t affect women’s exclusively. And because of this I am very concerned of many young men without healthy father figures being led down an extremest rabbit hole because they have been abandoned by there parent and abandoned in the narrative of the left and they don’t even know what it means to find a place to belong and be accepted. 😢

[@strangetree2265]

I'm going to become a devil's advocate and say that, to build a child's healthy lifestyle, the child must have 2 parents, regardless of gender. Growing up with only 1 parent can significantly create a shift on the child's brain. At least compared to people that have 2 parents being present, especially if those parents are very nuturing and very involved. Father deserves love, no doubt about it. I'd like to become just like my father - hardworking, kind, and very family oriented. And I'd like to become just like mom, who is headstrong and ambitious

[@shurnbrendt7581]

@@strangetree2265Regardless of gender? Really? Please show the studies. Because everything so far indicates that children need fathers.

[@shurnbrendt7581]

@@strangetree2265lesbian parents do not provide the same masculine influence that a father does.

[@kyattogallery]

​@@strangetree2265 I don't disagree with you at all. Two parents, regardless of gender, can build a completely healthy lifestyle for the child. I think even one parent can do it if they have the right support and community, it's just more difficult. That's why I said "father figure" not "father". A father figure is a male role model that fills a paternal role, it doesn't necessarily have to be a traditional view of a father. If I go back to my own father, he had multiple father figures such as my mom's father (my parents met in high school) and his martial arts teacher who fulfilled that role even after his father abandoned his mother. I don't think one or either of the parents in the household has to necessarily be a father for a child to have a father figure in their life. The only reason two parents are very good for the child development is because they can balance the child's need between them whereas one parent may not have enough time or energy to address all of the child's emotional and physical needs alone. But it's not that having no male or no female or even only one parent that's good or bad. You can have plenty of community/family members in the child's life that balance the emotional needs of the child and provide them the support they need. For example, my cousins were raised by my aunt alone while their father worked abroad most of their lives. However, my aunt, despite functionally being a single mother working full time, shared their household with her parents who were able to help balance the needs of my cousins and provided both maternal figures (my aunt and her mom) and paternal figures (my aunt's dad). The crucial thing is that a child benefits from having a father figure (just as much as it's important to have a mother figure) as a male role model in the child's life. And this is true both for little girls (who have been shown to have better academic and mental health outcomes with a present father) as it is for little boys.

[@strangetree2265]

@kyattogallery Definitely agree with you. It comes down with community, environment, and experience. My father parents died when he was young, but his sisters became his role models. Despite all the hardships he went through, he became the most selfless person I've ever known. I kind of forgot that the community also plays a crucial part in the child's development, so thank you for reminding me :) It's been years since I took psychology class

[@justinmooney4424]

Coming from a father who cheated on my mom and left my family when I was 6 years old, I can say that I harbored A LOT of anger and resentment towards my father. I finally released my anger at 12 years old when I had an explosion of anger and my mom encouraged me to pray to God about where my anger was coming from. Of course, I immediately knew that it came from my dad. My cup was constantly filled with anger towards my dad to the point that any small frustration would cause it to spill over. I remember going into my room, getting on my knees, and asking God to take the anger from me because I didn't want it. Whenever my dad said "I love you", I never said it back. I was constantly cold towards him, and over time it had made me numb and resentful. After giving my anger to God at 12 years old, God helped me to recognize my father's shortcomings while simultaneously forgiving him. Thanks to God, slowly over time I was able to share more with my dad and let him into my life. I'm 27 now and my relationship with my dad is pretty good (although I still take his advice with a grain of salt considering he's on his third marriage lol). All this to say that where my EARTHLY father failed, my HEAVENLY father GREATLY supported me and made me into the man I am today. I'm so grateful for everything that happened and wouldn't change it AT ALL because I God has worked SO clearly in my life because of it. Thank you Jesus!

[@JustNo8808]

Well that was real cheating unlike what women accused men of doing today. When is the last time you have ever heard of a man leaving his wife to go support another family? Mid 1990s? You hear of women cheating on their men all the time nowadays. They even discuss it when they get a little bit of alcohol in them on all these KZbin channels.

[@cammies7365]

An ex of mine didn’t have a good father figure and swore he always wanted to be better than his father…and he was exactly the same as his father. Abusive, narcissistic, addict, etc. His mother was so nice, but did nothing in his raising to make him a better person.

[@lygcdr675]

This is why strong father figures are important especially for the development of young men but society doesn’t seem to realize the importance of strong father figures 🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️

[@djgroopz4952]

That's the Chris Brown story unfortunately.

[@yaya5tim]

just never get married, women in this era can live their entire life without men, and also doing Only Fans can make them rich, men exist because they're money trees, you just milk them for money by attacking their weak spot for women, it's just easy way to live. Kids? never think about that in your life, period.

[@MrTeddyBoy89]

This was good! It made me cry. Please keep this going. We all want to be better parents to our kids. Unfortunately we have learned so bad behavior and it’s hurting our children. Please keep this going. ❤

[@nvrnlumby3]

Growing up my dad was also super supportive of everything, but he had to work constantly to keep food on the table, and had to reset his entire career from the bottom several times while I was growing up. Don’t get me wrong, we have a great relationship, but I’m filled with regret of not being more proactive in spending quality time with him. I’m a new father now, and I’m trying to make up for that lost time not only with my dad, but with my son. I hope to be better than my father because I know that will make him proud. Thank you for this video.

[@devonforsure260]

Not having a strong father figure is a huge issue. Past and present

[@anaximanderofapollonia9842]

Blame the women for that. Or blame the men who allowed women to freely choose their partners.

[@isimperialist]

​@@anaximanderofapollonia9842or blame the man for being a bad father

[@anaximanderofapollonia9842]

@@isimperialist Did that man force himself upon the woman? Or did that woman make a bad moral choice when she chose him as "a good" partner?

[@isimperialist]

@@anaximanderofapollonia9842 That man was my father, and he slammed my mom against a wall.

[@anaximanderofapollonia9842]

@@isimperialist And? What of it? Blame your mother for putting herself into that situation by *willingly choosing* your father as her mate, while being incompetent in regards to helping your father become a better man.

[@DomTomato]

This was really moving, I was instantly inspired to connect more with my dad. Cheers mate!

[@VivaciousLyla]

Every video on this channel is an incredible, educational story. There’s always something to take away because it’s so raw and unfiltered. Keep it up! 🎉

[@upgirl5000]

Very interesting insights.. I was raised by a single mom in NYC my whole life. My dad died from drug overdose when she was 7 months pregnant with me and my bro was 2 1/2. The odds were against us. Living in the most expensive city with two young children and no job. There were seasons we lived on food stamps and church donations and we had seasons of more plenty. Statistically I could've ended up really bad but I had a strong mom who raised us in church community and unwavering faith in God which has carried me through life. I have a set of values my life is built upon that have guided my choices and spared me from so much heartache and pain. I would give anything to have a conversation with my dad about what led him down his path. I am now married to an amazing man who will be an amazing father. Took my mom's advice, "Marry someone you would want your sons to be like." We both saved ourselves for marriage. And it will be my life's greatest joy to see my children have a present yet hard-working, strong yet empathetic, fun yet wise father to exemplify. Praying for this generation to see the value once again in fatherhood. God's ways are truly better than our own.

[@majita9385]

Gen 💙 it was really brave to call your dad and also share that with us. I grew up in a 2 parent household - none of my parents were stay-at-home parents, first of all, because that is just not an option in our country if you are "middle" working class. I had huge support from my dad and my dad is my hero - he really is. Some of my friends didn't have that luck. And today I can see how differently we see the world and what we have at heart about men.

[@yookyb]

that “I’m proud of you” moment at the end gave me chills 🥹 I felt that fear/anxiousness before he picked up the call 100%. I’m gonna reach out to my dad tmw bc of you

[@rrmackay]

Learning from raising my sons while working to much taught me the value of having a father present in the home early on in a child's life. I have helped my sons work less and spend more time with their children while the kids are small.

[@andyfiguereo9917]

This is a strong message! Seriously Gen, I really love your channel and I commend you for your bravery and all of the topics that you speak of, especially in this video. This is a similar format to your other videos, but the vulnerability really hit in this one. I don’t know to what scale but I truly believe you’re making the world a better place in your own way. Thank you for sharing.

[@mikeillgaming4224]

Out of 7 of my friends only two of us have fathers or a father figure .. the other 5 have no clue on how to be a dad. All 5 either ended up doing time in prison or suffer from alcoholism .. another thing I noticed was our friends seemed to look as us as leaders and would kind of follow what we did… I felt that it had to do with us having more guidance than them so we were like big brothers to our friends.

[@UltraSaltyDomer1776]

No one wants to say it but it’s culture. We either have a culture that supports fatherhood or we don’t

[@abor1males]

Most men don’t so

[@somegrill7561]

@@abor1maleslike they’re the issue

[@abor1males]

@@somegrill7561 They don’t raise their kids then whine and cry about fatherlessness I will never let a womb raider take my peace!!

[@WesHuesos]

Phenomenal content here. Thank you for using your platform to spread this message. As a male therapist that specializes in men's issues, the impacts fatherlessness has - whether it's physical or emotional - on my clients is real and deeply, tragically, debilitating. Some of the ways it harms them are obvious and some them aren't, but they are all real. Really appreciate you for bringing this up.

[@sneakyruski]

I love your style of journalism and the way you put words into actions especially in this video.

[@brooketeague4985]

Dads are incredibly important! My father raised me from infancy knowing I was not his biological child. My mother was an addict and cheated on him with another addict. He knew I had no hope if he left me to be raised by meth-heads. He has been my rock, always there for me when I need him, at my bedside when I’m sick, at every practice and ballgame, or event. He is a real man and the only reason I am a good mother to my children. He truly made a huge ripple effect for generations to come!

[@trey.b.17]

this video brought tears to my eyes. i’ve struggled the same way you have been. i don’t know my father but i was raised by my grandfather. i built that same resentment you did, but i also felt i haven’t lived up to his expectations of me(that i made up in my head). i would go months without speaking to family. this gave me the strength to reach out to him. thank you 🙏🏿 you’ve got a new sub

[@rasdasa]

That last part with your pops, man that got me. I have a great relationship with my dad, it was a big part to why I've done well in my life I feel, so I'm really glad to hear your father saying that you. Good on you for calling.

[@BassLegendYT]

Glad you have a dad man. You’re dad saying he was proud of you made me cry low key, don’t let that relationship weaver away

[@jamiereichert]

at the end when he said he's proud of you.. that hit me in the feels

[@leevang9087]

I tear up at the end when your dad was telling how your doing and he's happy and proud of you. my parents don't have that love anymore

[@meinefantasie]

Gen your dad is so sweet, he ask you so many questions, does only wann hear about you, is following you and has a soft voice wile talking. even you did not talk for all this time he is just greatfull to finally talk. I just start to cry. my dad passed away and i love him sooo much. dont let time pass

[@YggdrasilSR31]

I became a father, unplanned, in 2023. While my life itself was, and still is, extremely hard, full of Severe anxiety, Financial problems and Destroyed lives within my narcissistic family, I chose to let all that trauma end with me. My child is getting all the love and support he would need from his father, regardless of my inner world. Accountability is key. Luckily, I chose a western but traditional woman with a very low body count and good non-materialistic character to mate with, so that's a major win, as well

[@sbrosier2383]

I was adopted at 3 days old. I had the best upbringing i could have ever asked for. Im thankful that i have both of my parents in my life growing up despite them both working - Never missed a game, recitals, events, etc. Im very fortunate that i had the childhood that i had compared to most, including friends and even family Love you, mom and dad 😊

[@driftingdandelion]

the end was so wholesome❤️you can tell your dad loves you so much! i’d love to see you two build your friendship 😇

[@despinoza6205]

Bro, i felt that. You got hit in the heart when he praised your work and finally Your honesty with yourself. BOOM!❤❤

[@TriggerBud]

Man, I'm not one to cry much, but that snippet of that phone call with your dad made me tear up. I think the topic of our relationships with our parents needs to be talked about more as it literally affects every single one of us, and can be very difficult to navigate. Just between my husband and I, you can see the difference in how we act/react to certain things because of our parents. He has a much better father than I do, but my mother was a lot more stable than his, and that shows up in so many different ways in how we handle things. This was a really beautiful video and I personally really appreciate it. I would like to put my thoughts out there on that tiny bit of conversation with your dad as well (I apologize if this comes off as rude). I could almost see why you would feel awkward talking to him just from the fact that every question you asked him was deflected/ignored. That can be really difficult to keep a conversation going with lol. I would like to say though that my dad NEVER asks me questions and to hear your dad so genuinely interested in what you were doing was incredibly sweet. It was kinda cracking me up that he kept asking where you were and where you're going too. Parents will always want to keep track of us 😂 I would also like to say that what you said about parents and kids stepping up was beautiful and resonated with me. I think if you keep trying to build a relationship with your dad that it will eventually flourish. I wish you all the best cause you seem like a great guy. Subscribed ♥️

[@johnjackson9235]

It had me tearing up as well. Brought up positive feelings for me (as I have an awesome Dad) but I hurt so much for people that do not and have this void in their lives. Thanks for your transparency (as it is am emotional and important thing in our lives, even if we don't want to admit it).

[@chordalharmony]

Missing either parent is an unfortunate fate for any child. A fatherless child will often lack any meaningful boundaries and emotional control, leading to rebellion, sometimes even crime. A motherless child often has no meaningful emotions whatsoever, and no creativity or imagination. They might as well be a robot. Society encouraging single parent households should be rejected on its face, or everyone suffers the consequences.

[@Maquicienta]

I cried at the end. Fathers are extremely important for the mental health of boys and girls. Beautiful video! Thank you.

[@ducksound8023]

Damn, ending brought me to tears, those words are so powerful, I try to tell my son those words when he works hard. I’m proud of you

[@philizeed8938]

The part about Andrew Tate and Fresh and Fits raising our young men makes me sad....

[@gorkyd7912]

Its overblown fear mongering. People watch their content because it's full of actual half-truths that other outlets find too politically-incorrect to say, but that doesn't mean young men are actually treating Andrew Tate as their father figure any more than Michael Jordan or Mark Zuckerberg.

[@Divintyrious]

My father was a drunk con-artist. He used to beat me and my mother when he got drunk. They divorced when I was 11, didn't speak to him until I was about 24. I'm 29 now and we talk once a week to catch up. As a teenager, I saw him as a person I didn't want to be, so I did everything from education to being a workaholic and living healthy. He told me he regrets everything he did and how proud he is how I make other people be the best they can be. Him being a bad role model made me want to be a good person. I have friends now who are fathers and I try to teach them to be that positive light in their kids eyes and it's pulled some of them away from drugs and alcohol. Know a solo dad with a 3 year old son who started meth and I pulled him out and now he doesn't even drink. My best friend has a 6 year old boy and I'm helping him not get angry from time to time, even my bro-in-law just had a baby girl and he's freaking out about raising a girl. I have lessons to learn still but I feel one day I will make a great dad.

[@jzm2293]

And it's okay as a dad you will always learn as life goes as the quote says you never stop learning. I wish you the best in your journey to fatherhood keep up the good work with your fatherhood journey sending you blessings along your path🙏✨️

[@timmarinelli2962]

Lol don't take credit for ending a new dads meth habit, he pulled himself out of it by choosing not to use, you might have gave him insight, but you didn't do the work for him, or did you?

[@EnVee215]

That Dad conversation at the end 😭😭 makes me miss my father who passed away 11 yrs ago. Don't take that for granted brother give your pops a hug.

[@1GonzalezAR1]

I’ll be damned if that last moment didn’t make me cry. Thanks. I needed this

[@facepwnagewtf]

Speaking anecdotally my father was always the one to try and help set you on the right path. Sometimes that meant harsher treatment than what my Mom would have dolled out, but looking back now as an adult I see where he was coming from. Don't get me wrong i get along great with my father, and we've never had any real dysfunctional relationship, but if i had to narrow down what my fathers main role was it would be to prepare you for the real world outside the loving safety of home.

[@Prometheus100110]

Finally, someone who sees it. A lot of people take "the one to try and help set you on the right path" as the mean and emotionally unavailable one but without our fathers most of us are lost in the wilderness. You can see this reflected in society today.

[@jzm2293]

This video opens up your eyes to the reality of society and how hard it hits home. After seeing videos like these I'm always thankful and thank buddha for giving me a healthy father who allowed me to be a healthy little girl and now woman. And indeed my father raised me during my early childhood years by taking me to work with him and even having the luxury of him staying with me on certain days in my preschool classroom for an hour whenever I had rough mornings. Thank you Gen for making this video and I love how good you do with educating our society. Thank you keep up the good work and sending you blessings along your path to success 🙏✨️💫

[@gladcs]

Your dad is very proud I’m happy he’s there for you and you needed to hear that I wish I could have one more conversation with my dad but unfortunately cancer got to him before we could have that bond again. Life is short and sometimes what we were upset about or still are isn’t worth the alienation try yall hardest to mend or fix things with family and I know there’s challenges and impossibilities out there but clarifying and healing your heart and mind will help us all for the better

[@tirididjdjwieidiw1138]

i had good parents growing up, which meant my family was an oddity in the community we were a part of. All of my childhood friends had grown up with divorced parents and whenever they would come over to my house they’d be shocked to see how normal my family situation was.

[@American_Imperialisst]

Unlike many other single parent experiences, my mother actually left me and my dad do to drugs. My dad was also adopted by my grandparents because he was abandoned in a field. We've reconnected with his biological family and theyre all nice but from what they told us he definitely had the better outcome being with my grandparents. Just like i believe i had better life being with my dad and grandparents even though people argue for a two parent household. My grandma really stepped in as the motherly role in my life especially since i was her first grandchild. Both my Dad and Grandpa instilled a work ethic and resilience in me. Instead of getting hit all the time they just had me do manual labor around the house and property. Wether it actually helped them or was just a menial task to waste my time. I remember having to move bricks from one pallet to the other and had to stack them perfectly or my dad would tell me to knock it over and restack them. They were about 100 yards apart. Or id have to pick up all the brush my dad and grandpa cut down and stack it in the burn pile. The work sucked especially being an elementary kid but it taught me more than just being a corrective punishment. It taught me to not half ass something, resilience if i failed, and to push through the hard times. There was also a sense of accomplishment seeing my work done and making my dad and grandpa proud, seeing that perfectly stacked pallet or the big bonfire wed have with the brush. Im not perfect and no one is, i fail but ive been complimented by teachers and coaches for my resilience and i have my dad and grandpa to thank for that. Theres so much more i could say but i cant fit everything in a youtube comment. Fathers or even a strong male role model is important in growing up just as much as a mother or motherly figure. My grandma did everything she could to step into that gap and id say she did pretty good even if she was a bit older and couldn't do a whole lot of physical activities she still bowled with me during the mother son bowling we had in town for mothers day, she would pick me up from extra curricular activities i did, and sign me up for events over the summer since i was an only child living 20 mins outside of town in the country, she cooked amazing meals and taught me(and my dad when he was a kid) how to cook as well. I think millennials, Gen Z, now gen alpha are just suffering from a lack of parental involvement and its effecting all of us. I know theres a lot of people breaking the cycle but there are just as many if not more continuing it because its the easy road to take. Its what some people have known their whole lives and its hard to improve on something you dont know is wrong but our current generation of young people bringing awareness to it is a step in the right direction.

[@justdummy-pr9t]

it's crazy how in a matter of a few decades, we've gone from women are useless, to now men are all trash. There are trash men, AND there are trash women. But here you can see how many women on here even in the comment section start to assume ALL men are trash...please. Mothers, just like Fathers, can be equally trash beings. No women here will ever call out a mom for leaving their son/daughter.

[@nataliehawkins6438]

The phone call with your dad made me cry. It’s hard not having a dad that cares.

[@DJones_444]

Wow. Such a great video and an important subject. Great job. You had my eyes watering at the end. My dad passed away unexpectedly in 2017 at age 60. I was 30 and I so badly wish I could call him up right now.

[@dianevierra781]

appreciate your vulnerability in this one, Gen. We can't take dads for granted.