Is he wasting my time? | Talks with Tony

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[@stilljocelyn4166]

We women break our own hearts sometimes. 😞

[@dashafenty9969]

YESSS THISSS PART RIGHT HERE !!!!

[@lashondarochell7584]

My sentiments exactly I feel so sorry for her

[@ilenek.5428]

"A man who will ghost u will steal your son's lunch"! U need to copyright, monetize, excercise copyright infringement rights on that one Tony! Get to it. Dont waste no time on that one ;) Quotes from Tony. Lol. You might have yourself another income stream that you dont need.

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

Oh that’s a word!!

[@beautifulj2952]

A lot of times

[@mareelovely]

Ladies, your most valuable possession is...your...time. Stop giving it away. You can't get it back. If a man is just there for play-play and you not, move on.

[@MyMichellle]

So true!

[@nessyldnmanagement8574]

Yes!

[@sofi1672]

True, thank you sister ❤️

[@renchemarais8419]

THANKYOU 🙏

[@renchemarais8419]

@@genxx2724 🙏 THANKYOU 👍

[@DawnOfKelly]

Most every job fires you for no call, no show... that’s what ghosting should cost too.

[@KMarie33]

Exactly !!!!

[@melaniegonzalezart8506]

👍

[@blacksongbird100]

That's a great analogy especially if you've communicated that it's not acceptable behavior.

[@nacoyarussell185]

💯

[@Jess0410]

Amen. That's real talk.

[@Dr.Elaine1]

“Never start talking to someone if you don’t want anything serious.” TG.

[@officialwatchamber]

That’s a WORD!!!

[@practicalteachingchronicle6631]

It's that simple

[@BreeziDeezi]

Amen.

[@merlinsvdd]

Really. We have been talking some days and some days, no. Tony was right about playing mind games.

[@merlinsvdd]

Tony was right by him, liking other things about you.

[@tarahbruno3793]

“ he hasn’t slept with anyone but me in two years”. Tony made the face we were all making 😂

[@gletsayaaasantewaa2793]

Yes, I cracked up when he looked in the camera!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ieshjust16]

💀💀💀😅

[@Momo_carol]

I laughed so hard!!!

[@pacific88ocean37]

Then he 26 🎯 that sex drive high they be trying to manage 2-4 females 😂😯

[@mileyroe4877]

Walk away from confusion. When someone loves, values and wants you in their life, you will know because you'll see it in their actions.

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

[@Loyaltyisalifestyle]

❤️

[@OkJess0404]

Yes, he is playing you. He makes you happier than you do yourself-he is playing you. He enjoys being single and ghosts you too? He never comes to see you-IN TWO YEARS??? Please get off this roller coaster now!

[@AidaRivera]

Thank you ❤️

[@blacksongbird100]

Right! That's the FIRST sign that something is wrong with you, not just him. You are hurt and haven't healed. The person you meet should make you feel AS comfortable being yourself with them as you are alone NOT MORE. More means that you are lacking balance.

[@renchemarais8419]

🙏

[@renchemarais8419]

@@blacksongbird100 🙏. THANKYOU

[@usonjecheonga8751]

Mines ghosts...cant talk on the phone or cuts it unexpectedly....saying his brother is with him....never told his friends he is in a relationship...trust me had to let go....

[@noorbokore2802]

The real issue is that the dating culture has changed so much that people are starving for a relationship. It is human nature to want a connection. Women take whatever they get, lying to themselves about what it is. Proving, tap dancing, doing the most and getting nothing in return. I have been there more than once and am older than her. I am just starting to truly understand men and not the misinformation I was told. Thank goodness for Tony Gaskins for leveling the playing field may he be blessed for doing this tedious work!

[@Bgrace15]

True story!

[@jenniferthompson5146]

Same, I really feel for her because I wasted 3 years on a guy that I knew did not really want me. Thank goodness I am wiser now.

[@mmxw2294]

Women are giving into lust upfront and early and it’s so bad I can’t step out to get something to eat without meeting a BM that is trying to take me home the same day of meeting me and I carry myself respectfully and you’re right we humans are geared to want companionship but this abuse has to stop we are not slaves we have a soul a heart a brain love yourself ❤️ stay strong

[@takeauthority30]

So true. But we can't give in to nonsense. Better to be alone that be in a situationship.

[@Anairis0701]

Yes but it’s really because of humans sin nature. People are becoming more lovers of self; hearts waxing cold. End days.

[@missmarymack3457]

“If a man won’t commit, you must quit because he’s treating you like spit!” TG❤️❤️❤️

[@Brwnskinny]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@lorettawhite2790]

This!!!!!👏👏👏👏👏lol

[@deliteful1991]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 why I thought of Johnny Cochran.

[@redeemed1352]

That was a good one.

[@renchemarais8419]

Then he use your precious time for free education. Tips & TRICKS I've raised one and then he told me he had enough, he even thanked me for the lots of good lessons learned! Talking about time wasted and giving someone the benefit of the doubt.

[@emi-bs9rv]

He's taking advantage of her kindness and love. He's getting the benefits of a relationship without actually being in one! Save yourself and your peace, leave and move on! ❤️

[@cillamorales6274]

On point !!!

[@emi-bs9rv]

@Day Andrew Most definitely is! You're welcome!! 😊❤️

[@emi-bs9rv]

@@cillamorales6274 Thanks! ❤️🙏🏾

[@renchemarais8419]

🙏 THANKYOU

[@renchemarais8419]

@Day Andrew THANKYOU 🙏

[@irene6109]

“If all he needs is time, I’m willing to wait.” Girl, your time is your most precious gift. You ain’t never gonna get it back, and tomorrow is never promised!!!

[@whoaitsjessaa]

please ladies, LISTEN when a man says anything along the lines of wanting to be single, "not being tied down", "just going with the flow", etc. HE DOESN'T WANT YOU! but he will keep you around to leech off your energy, your emotions, your body (if you allow), & so on. when you start catching on he'll try to breadcrumb you back into his game. in the end, you're just a placeholder to him. gone bout yo' business! it'll sting at first but you'll save so much time (you'll never get back) & heartache in the long run. trust, i used to be that woman but i learned the hard way.

[@noorbokore2802]

Facts! Taking your energy. It is hard though, even when you know it to be true. I will never again jump head first...not looking before leaping. NEVER! It is too hard to get out.

[@dragonflymagictarot1180]

I get you, thank you for sharing your experience

[@dragonflymagictarot1180]

@@noorbokore2802 yes ma'am

[@officialwatchamber]

‼️‼️‼️

[@caramelfox4807]

This! I've been here, the situationship lasted 3 months but took a whole year for me to recover. Ladies please listen.

[@r.e45]

Woman please stop wanting “Love” more than you Love YOURSELVES ‼️🤞🏾

[@micheleprice9771]

SELF LOVE! BELOVED! AND OTHERS WILL LOVE U BACK! KEEP GOD FIRST IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL SEE U THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! GOD WILL SEE U THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD! AND PRAY FOR EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL!

[@mouniadia1951]

@Raven Eagle-- Amen to this !!

[@chloethemessenger]

I’m not going to lie this was me once upon a time. When you love someone you trust them and give them the benefit of the doubt. So you overlook all the red damn flags and the false promises and forgive and forgive and forgive until your forgiveness gas tank is empty. By the time you wake up to the delusion 5 years has passed. I take responsibility for that. Smh. On the flip side it’s sad to see men treat women like this. Especially those who know their biological clock is ticking. For these men it’s just a game. I feel for her because I’ve been there too 🥺💔

[@ysmithriley]

I don't even have to watch this. If you have to ask "IS HE WASTING MY TIME", the answer is a RESOUNDING YESSSS!!!, 🤨☹

[@PeaceBeStill-]

BINGO

[@user-kpkxgtj]

Exactly. She already knows.

[@CaramelCuban]

I feel like men whom Fathers abandoned them at adolescent age; inflict this pain on women by ghosting them 🤔

[@anjijack5392]

Truth! 💯

[@toneyfox6328]

ThAt n toxic mother of those guys

[@khocolateable]

I believe its goes hand n hand

[@tashaequeen8935]

Right

[@vera1443]

wow yesss :o

[@Fel_e_Chronicles]

Uh oh, that look... why Tony making us laugh when he reads this woman's troubles. Oh my 😅😂

[@francenealexandre7904]

THIS BROTHER IS A TRIP💯 WHILST GIVING PURE TRUTH AND HONESTY🙏 MAKES ME LAUGH FROM BEGINNING TO END OF ALL OF HIS VIDEOS👌GREAT INTELLECTUAL RELATIONAL SKILLS AT A SIT DOWN COMEDIC LEVEL☝🏆👑

[@mbrook4983]

Girlllllllllll!! Man he like the big cuz of the family... I’ve been watching him since Friday and I’m over here hollering🤣🥲🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@virginiaattakumah8603]

I was laughing soooooo hard. I don’t think he understands how funny he is lol

[@my.0224]

Wish I had a Tony Gaskins in my life in my 20s.

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

🙋🏾‍♀️

[@brittanyb5942]

Same!

[@TheHaute108]

I said the same thing when I discovered him lol

[@nacoyarussell185]

Yessss! Had I had these facts in my 20s, life would be different 😳

[@Kari_Michele]

Me too... it would’ve saved me a lotta heartache 😢

[@DynamicallyDC]

🗣 "Love doesn't leave question marks. Love answers every question!!!" 🙌🏽💯

[@practicalteachingchronicle6631]

Good analysis

[@micheleprice9771]

SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

[@beckyjade8931]

👐 drop the mic

[@corethiamilo9542]

Tony I am 64 years old happy birthday coming up in July I will be 65 never in my life have I truly understand men after I watch your videos on KZbin just looking and God bless you in my path I am no longer dating means and telling no one but God he's the only one that my heart is trusting and believing in I'm enjoying my life so much thank you so much for opening my eyes I could not have done this without you I knew it one time I was thinking about committing suicide but I listen that you everyday I know things I need to know about a man I am so happy that God placed you in my life thank you for myself and all my sisters will appreciate you so much now a man cannot use me I am such a wise person now thank you may God bless you

[@bamya5303]

Who else miss Tony yelling “Track Shoes!!” ? Sometimes you gotta laugh to keep from crying cause you know you been in that same situation.

[@chereeastlandrealestateage8957]

Yep.... exactly.. ..

[@jacquelinewilliams6572]

Before Tony I was that woman! Gotta go!!

[@mbrook4983]

Listen I can relate on all levels but this man has me crying over here hollering and all.. like he is funny as heck🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@mbrook4983]

Tony I truly enjoy your videos i discovered you just yesterday and I’ve been hooked every since. You have enlightened me on all levels! And cracking up at the same time.🤣🤣🤣You like that big cousin of the family and that male Iyanla fix my life ( the relationship coach ) of you tube.. may you be blessed beyond measures

[@Nel164]

Honestly she pointed out the red flags herself then proceeded to ask if she’s wasting her time despite wanting to continue to be there for him and waiting for him to come around. The worst thing to do to yourself is be in denial of being treated badly but also allowing yourself to keep being hurt for the sake of a one sided relationship. Good will come when you turn that energy inward and invest that love you want to give to yourself

[@kilimanjaro5537]

“Good will come when you turn that energy inward and invest that love you want to give to yourself.” Amen

[@mogetit5999]

Beautifully stated!

[@denisemyers733]

Love yourself key word! Put up boundaries and accountability, standards and put it into actions. and watch what you don’t put up with ..

[@aneshrathomas]

The way Mr.Tony paused & starred when she said “ he hasn’t slept with anyone in two years cept me” 😂😩🤦🏾‍♀️ it ain’t funny but it’s sad that us women can be so naive and gullible ..wake up and smell the coffee plzzz

[@jamieanitabryant3699]

I almost fell out my office chair with the 'blinking eyes'.

[@kilimanjaro5537]

It’s so accurate too. That part has me cackling 😂😂😂🤦🏾‍♀️.

[@LovelyOne0075]

My sister and I were watching it together and turned and looked at each other, then looked back at the screen and saw his side eye 😂

[@Leci_Bella24]

😩🤣 Same

[@virginiaattakumah8603]

😩🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@fabulousmdb7927]

Every woman thinks she is the exception, unfortunately 😔 the good thing is she's learning early

[@dragonflymagictarot1180]

That part

[@chloethemessenger]

True

[@veebliss1266]

Exactly NOONE is the exception!!! The heart is foolish!

[@nenesdiy3354]

To everyone who’s watching I hope you achieve your dreams❤️

[@vanisacampbell5261]

Likewise

[@cam4short]

Thank you! Same to you!

[@mileyroe4877]

Awww, same to you ❤

[@adriantaft770]

Thank you so much Joe. Same to you as well.🤗

[@uniquelondon1220]

fantasy bonding

[@Dr.Elaine1]

“He’s ain’t no loyal dawg, he’s a stray dawg.” TG

[@MissTracy-Ann]

💯

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

Ahuh!!!

[@irene6109]

With rabies!!’ 😭😭 that part took me out

[@redeemed1352]

With fleas

[@veebliss1266]

With rabies 😂😂😂 YES ! And flees and ticks !

[@tjelks]

Please listen to Tony ladies!!! I wasted years in a similar situation. He is telling the TRUTH!! STOP WASTING YOUR TIME. Don’t talk to him and get pulled back in. If he has disappeared let him go, change your number and let it burn!!! Take time snd heal, listen to every video Tony and others have. Read, get therapy, what EVER you need to do to cut the soul tie. God bless you! ❤️

[@donaowes8701]

BLOCK HIM!

[@ozzy9209]

Amen!

[@angelsmile9789]

Come on Now Sis👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@kha_leesi2596]

💯 I had a guy tell me his cousin is coming over and he would be unavailable that weekend😂😂. I was like what now? Ain't no way that gonna fly. Put my 'Sherlock Holmes' hat on and found out he had a whole other woman!Nonsense! Cut him off,deleted,& blocked and to this day he wonder's what happened😂😂

[@hopemoch4354]

“Plenty of sharks. Offender & dumble“ 😂😂😂

[@Lulu060986]

😭🤣😂

[@paulagreen5433]

That Plenty of Sharks one gets me all the time🤣🤣🤣 it is true tho cuz the men on dat app is really sum sharks just thirsty and crazy as hell wheww so glad I got off of there

[@valerieandrews5176]

@@paulagreen5433 Girl, same! Even the older ones ( 60 and up) on that site running game. I kicked someone to the curb last year for doing that. Of course, he trying to 'come back' now. I don't think so! When I saw the red flags (like Tony talks about) I went on bout my business! Haven't looked back since. Be careful out here ladies! These men are not playing, especially if you have some coins and good credit!

[@toriyt2714]

A few mins in and I just want to tell her and anyone else who is in a similar situation....it is NOT and CAN NOT be about how you feel about him. This woman is highly wrapped up into how SHE feels when with him. All you hear is how she feels in this letter. (Which we’ve all been there and understand). She has not learned yet that it is very important to pay attention to how the other person feels about you. He has to feel the same if not more. You have to get over how you feel and pay attention because a relationship can’t work off your very strong feelings alone. He does want a commitment it’s just not to you. You are not it for him. But you will be to someone else soon as you’re actually available.

[@reinaquisha9418]

💯

[@lashondarochell7584]

Girl what you wrote is so on point I wish I would have had someone tell me that when I was in my situationship last year, but Praise GOD 🙏 I got out of that mess and know my WORTH!!!!

[@chloethemessenger]

So true ‼️

[@gletsayaaasantewaa2793]

Teach sis!✊🏾

[@irlandaise5631]

sometimes they dont , similar situations but he wouldnt see me really, met me once a year after , my legs and home are closed until marriage. now he is with other women unmarried for years so not committed

[@maiyajones5814]

The fact that she said others have told her to move on is problematic. She don't want see the truth he's handing her. He will keep playing her as long as she let him

[@javonne2561]

Tony calls smoke but some of us ladies wait to get burned.. it hasn't hit her yet but the burn is on the way

[@merlinsvdd]

Warning sign to us.

[@merlinsvdd]

The more I reflect on this saying, I can see myself in it.

[@merlinsvdd]

Oh no!

[@joanna6570]

“If he won’t commit, QUIT” it’s literally as simple as that. Overthinking situations can get you stuck for longer than need be.

[@cillamorales6274]

Took me 7 years to realize this. So damn sad.

[@joanna6570]

Cilla Morales it took me 5 years. But you realised it in the end which is the main thing. And you took so many lessons from it which made you grow as a person. You know you’ll NEVER be in that sort of situation for that long again. You’ll be able to see the red flags much sooner rather than later and go bout yo business! I see my experience as a blessing because it happened from the ages from 21 to 26. Ever since I’ve spotted red flags I would of just ignored before. You & I have more wisdom now, be thankful girl 😌

[@veebliss1266]

@@cillamorales6274girl you give them 3-4 months max after 5-6 dates they will know if they want to commit do not give them more than that!! Ghost them!!

[@KrystleLaughter]

I made the same mistake, not seeing a person and situation for what it was. Wasted 8 years. What a hard lesson to learn. Thanks Tony.

[@margyiphillips4931]

The look Tony gave the camera when she said that he has slept with no one but her in two years.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@j-tenn226]

I screamed

[@sherylleelee]

😯😒😖😲🤣😂🤣😂😂🤣😂😂

[@lindalovehearts]

I apparently was thinkin what he was thinkin so it was funny

[@victoriak.2707]

Eyebrow lifting way up and neck turning around 360, spinning ….lmao

[@j-tenn226]

I don’t know if Tony is intentionally funny but this whole video had me in tears. I’m talking continually laughing.

[@itsheraleahlashay]

I swear I thought I was the only one 🤣🤣 I’m like literally in tears I had to see if anyone else was too lol

[@InTheRecoveryRoom]

Me in the mirror: “ Repeat after me, Cyrene’ LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT REAL TO MEN”

[@irismac]

I’ve had to drill that in my mind as well!! Smh

[@christinewarren8134]

In order for it to resonate in your head and actually work you got to say it three times like Candyman 🙃

[@britt2224]

@ Dr Cyrene Wright thank you mam that’s a whole world 😘

[@DC-8-8-8-]

Taking note 📝 😆

[@nijay8267]

@@christinewarren8134 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@VintageAfro91]

As soon as I heard “talking for 2 years” I was like abort mission immediately 🖐🏾

[@margyiphillips4931]

Sometimes, after listening to the 1st few sentences I know where it is going already.

[@VintageAfro91]

@@margyiphillips4931 yep and this was one of those times.

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

Ahuh!!!

[@s.r.125]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Loyaltyisalifestyle]

STAT!

[@SixFootofFitness]

“Plenty of Shark, Dumble or Offender”... 😂😂😩😩 ...TG !!..that takes me out every time you say it😭

[@misspeacelove7395]

Every time a man mistreats you it eats a little part of you, bit by bit. It´s hard leaving/cutting someone out of your life but it´s much harder rebuilding yourself

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

[@Ohne920]

👏🏾👏🏾🌹

[@jacquelinem1960]

' If a man won't commit , you've got to split .' 'If it doesn't fit , you've got to quit.' Staying isn't an option .

[@Zoe66895]

When I heard the “I’m the only one going to see him” I knew at that moment. If someone really felt like they wanted to be with you in general it wouldn’t be one sided. Even if someone doesn’t have a car they will find a way to get to you! Let it go.

[@officialwatchamber]

When he starts naming the reindeer 🦌🦌😩😅 but seriously Tony dropped some 💎 s. NEVER mess with a man out of boredom. Definitely learned that lesson!

[@TheSpiritRoom23]

This is why I hate to see women getting bashed for choosing to be single especially after 30. Most women deal with men like this just to have a piece of a man so society won’t judge. Truth be told, there’s an abundance of men running around acting like little boys and some women don’t have the energy to whip them into shape so they’ll rather stay single for their own peace. I don’t blame those women.

[@ew0711]

This right here, sums it all up. Too old to be wasting time going NOWHERE 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@baddlizz]

Exactly...says more about the supply of men available when women are out here choosing singleness instead of them.

[@GoodGrief101]

She is wasting her time and having a hard time accepting what he’s showing her. She needs to stop letting him get away with so much. You are being played. I feel bad for her. It’s right in her face. I hope that she finds someone that truly wants her and not just for convenience. There’s a soul tie course and a lot of video’s that will help her heal. 🏃🏽‍♀️💨 Thank you and be blessed.

[@mareelovely]

In a lot of these letters, there's not even any real deceit. She's just someone to pass the time with and maybe settle for if he doesn't get what he really want. Like , she just won't accept what he's telling her and showing her. It's very sad. I don't get it...don't we want someone that actually wants us too???

[@aishascott5635]

Having been there, what keeps you hooked is your ego. You cannot believe that you got played and refuse to accept it. You want to prove to yourself that you were right, but the game is with yourself! In order to move on, you have to accept that you overlooked the red flags, that you were feeling lonely and therefore vulnerable. And then forgive yourself, learn the lessons, take the hard lumps and emerge stronger and braver. Then you won't allow yourself to be deceived again. But I have seen women wait years to prove something to themselves, and got lost in the game.

[@GoodGrief101]

@@mareelovely 💯 I know women like her. You can tell them what you think, but they don’t listen until it’s to late. I’ve always been a take it or leave it type. I don’t make time for people who don’t care to make time for me. Going crazy over a man and waiting on them isn’t an option. This is what happens when we don’t know our worth, don’t have a stable foundation to begin with, and hanging around a bunch of people who can’t tell you the truth.

[@GoodGrief101]

@@aishascott5635 I know women that will put themselves through it repeatedly. Yes, it’s ego. Sad, but very true.

[@mathilda9239]

Baby she had me shook , when she said “he hasn’t slept with anyone else in two years.” Girl whaat ?

[@christinewarren8134]

Right like what in the wrorld 🥴

[@disnalee]

Its a lie,

[@j-tenn226]

She sounded like me at 20. Bless her

[@javonne2561]

She's addicted to him. Not real love.

[@maddy4130]

You really don't know that.

[@javonne2561]

Okay I don't. Sorry if I am wrong. But this sounds to me like an unhealthy infatuation, someone is stuck in the fantasy and good feelings, not listening to common sense, extremely blind to the games, making excuses for him, still willing to wait for him like that. I only say this because I've experienced similar "love" and got so defensive anytime someone tried to talk sense with me. She deserves better that's all. Hindsight is 20/20. This is just one stranger's opinion on the internet and I don't know anything.

[@maddy4130]

I just dont think it's fair to tell someone their love for someone is not true. It may not be reciprocated, but it can be true. She may be doing her best.

[@Anairis0701]

Yes he became her god. Sad.

[@joanna6570]

Agreed, a very unhealthy stronghold only on her behalf.

[@patricebrown777]

If she had to ask or wonder,.. she's been answered

[@lekeshial418]

The *stare into the camera * after "he hasn't slept with anyone but me, in 2 yrs". 🤦🏽‍♀️Oh dear! It's really important to brief yourself on men.(stay updated)Watch some other channels of men ,(who behave opposite of TG)read books, articles, follow the trends etc. Get to know the typical and the non-traditional man, as a whole. "At times of peace prepare for war."

[@jamieanitabryant3699]

I agree with you 100%; also a simpler avenue is to know thyself. Do the work, get counseling-the counseling is less expensive than a moderately priced meal.

[@Lovemeluvme83]

Right that part had me like 😳

[@lekeshial418]

@@jamieanitabryant3699 Counseling is a great avenue, but sadly there are plenty women who claim to know themselves and still get played, because they aren't privy to the inner workings and schemes of these men. Men who brief themselves on us. Specifically to con us.

[@lekeshial418]

@@Lovemeluvme83 spoke volumes..

[@user-kpkxgtj]

@@lekeshial418 she really believes it too. 😔

[@nicolesalter2726]

"Can a white man act a fool?" 🤣 Yes. Yes, they can.

[@reginastevens7673]

1. BLESSED N HIGHLY FAVORED 2.CONFUSED NO MORE

[@redeemed1352]

Hallelujah

[@xmswayzemx]

Yes ma'am! Come through! Thank you! *hugs and kisses* ^-^

[@Jazz.Ministry]

Thank you sis

[@reginastevens7673]

@@Jazz.Ministry ☺️♥️

[@margyiphillips4931]

I bet you when he was steady with her for 4 months he had ghosted another woman.

[@shutit4024]

@@LA-wv7gf I dated somebody like this he was a bad lair and lied on everything 😂😂

[@n.Lenice]

Please leave him alone lil sis. I've been there. You are in your city, not living your life because you are so wrapped up with him. You are hanging on and pausing your life, only pushing play for the couple of days YOU go see HIM - make that make sense??? You aren't enjoying the things you like to do, because you feel guilty about doing them without him (trust- he does NOT feel the same). You aren't exploring and making new friends and connections that could enrich your young life because you're living for your weekend trips to visits and the few daily hours of conversation... when he decides to give them to you, right? Because when he's too busy to entertain you or just all together ghosts you for weeks at a time, you spend that ENTIRE time looking and feeling crazy until finally, you see the phone light up with that ol tired, "Hey wyd". Meanwhile, in his city, his life isn't missing a beat, I'd bet he's doing THE absolute most and living his best life to date- all while you dangle on a string, at his whim. Your intuition had you write Tony, because deep down you know you're being played. If you didn't know to what extent and how - now you do. Please don't waste anymore of your precious time. There's too many of us here that have done that for you a million times over. I wish I had this knowledge and OVERstood what my worth was at your age. I'd go back and get the 6 years of my life I wasted in my 20s with a utter and complete fool. Please take the advice and leave. Blessings.

[@n.Lenice]

@@genxx2724 Girl, if I could go back and do just that! I missed out on soo much.

[@n.Lenice]

@@genxx2724 You telling my former life too! Chile🙄🤦🏾‍♀️

[@n.Lenice]

@@genxx2724 Chile he lost them good looks, huh? 🤣 Last I heard, my Ex was in and out of jail due to child support (baby he had with a girl while he was with me🤦🏾‍♀️). I think he has several other children, but I don't ask specifics, I just ask God to bless them all. I'm just so thankful God saved me. 🙌🏾

[@n.Lenice]

@@genxx2724 Girl YES! I'll take the lessons learned over the life sentence of misery an-T-day👍🏽

[@CiaobellaAmour]

Preach ! All facts💁🏽‍♀

[@womanofgod2948]

The more I listen to Tony Gaskins videos, I am just in shock and disbelief that women go through these things. It makes me want to weep

[@ulricka2131]

3 minutes in and I am like HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. HE DOES NOT WANT YOU BOO. RUN🏃‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️👟. And have you really been listening to Tony? Why did you then give him your body when you do not even have a title, not to mention a wedding😥❓ and you are the one pursuing him? Lots of red flags!!! MOVE ON SISTER❗ God loves you. Ok let me listen 👂🏾👂🏾👂🏾 to Tony now.

[@cocoj2252]

Ms Johnson can you call my mom. My sandwich not here 😂😂😂💀💀💀

[@tjelks]

😂🤣😂

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

😭😂🤣

[@melaniegonzalezart8506]

Heart broken. Lol

[@saphireflowers3382]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭🤣

[@tanyahaiman7017]

🎼🎤 “I love my mommy , I love my mommy ....” then boom 🤯 Lunch gone 🤣🤣

[@missmarymack3457]

LOL😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@attorneymom35]

Tony is hysterical. No matter how down I get from the message I still laugh.

[@toriyt2714]

That credit score idea is brilliant! Blessings on that.

[@denisemyers733]

Yesssssss it is 👏🏾👏🏾

[@kilimanjaro5537]

I hope he really goes through with it.

[@amandanicole8059]

Tony I swear you have had to be a comedian in your past life. The monologue had me absolutely cracking up 😂😂😂

[@emiliadrogaris8517]

''But in reality, he trash on a stick!'' OMG i am cackling in my bedroom all by myself Tony God bless you!!

[@jacquelinef7174]

I'm cackling on my couch when he threw that cellphone in the drawer 🤣 ( re: ghosting her for weeks)

[@emiliadrogaris8517]

@@jacquelinef7174 🤣🤣🤣 this one was really good no wonder he gets so drained

[@nourake341]

I wish I would have found this channel years ago before I wasted more than 7 years in a long distance rs with a toxic narcisstic exboyfriend ....who would never even come to visit me even once....in all those years and of course without no comitment

[@brownsugarglamour]

The fact that the helmet never made it on your head Tony 4:37 😩😂😂💀💀💀💀💀 ... bless your heart 💙

[@natashablessed410]

Right 😂😂😂😂

[@alexisagginie4574]

Harry used to go to Canada to see Megan when they were dating. She would also go to England to see him when the time was available. We can learn something from the way they courted.

[@madagirl2026]

The lunch part...... omg I can’t lord have mercy tony 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@danielam8298]

Just read the title and said 'gon bout you business' 😔 be blessed all ❤️

[@BeBeautifullyYou]

A lot of these women are playing themselves. When you start questioning your situation, THAT IS YOUR CLUE! Stop being so desperate and read the writing on the wall!

[@IshanaeS]

“Than the man on the MOONT” 😭😭😭😂😂

[@faithdubose5554]

“Make me an offer.”🤣🤣🤣

[@rxgirl9609]

So true. I dated a guy and found him cheating. I asked him why when we invested so much time in a relationship? He admitted it was "greed." Just because he could. He didn't have to or need to. Grown boy all the way without direction and purpose.

[@aishascott5635]

They are entitled. Entitled to whatever they want.

[@RoyalTeaNation]

I would never let my son introduce me to multiple women and NOT address it. I don’t want to see other young women get hurt

[@summerdior459]

Lol 😂🤣😂🤣 well you suck as a mother bc he is supposed to date multiple women until he gets married YOU FAILED YOUR SON & is tge the main reason why so many men her F boys get it together TIA

[@lifetimesocialdistancer0167]

I just got to say this... He makes her happier than anyone else, even with him disappearing and ghosting? That sounds like the craziest thing I've ever heard. She ain't got no emotions when it happens? This woman needs to to learn how to like herself before she can begin to love herself.

[@MakeupTiffany]

Facts over feelings! Facts over feelings! Facts over feelings ladies! FACTS!!!

[@MakeupTiffany]

Tony I hope you are serious about the relationship credit score! It’s a brilliant idea!! 😂😁🙌🏿

[@ishanasweetncool]

Race is the thing that kept me in my biggest delusion . Let me tell you, that I have been played by both, a caucasian, and someone of my own race. Dogs remain dogs, no matter what breed it is. Point blank period.

[@fxychick1]

When tony paused to look at the camera after ‘he hasn’t slept with anyone but me in 2 years’ 😂😂

[@j-tenn226]

100% best part

[@gletsayaaasantewaa2793]

🤣🤣🤣

[@missmarymack3457]

Taps on mic, “TESTING TESTING”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂! Ladies Tony is sick of us and our shenanigans!

[@chereeastlandrealestateage8957]

I was like where did that mic come from 🤣😍😅😊😊🤣🤣

[@aubreysellssofl]

Sick of it...you hear me?! Lol

[@SaraFJones]

I just sent the message that I am done! I needed this. I can’t keep doing this to myself.

[@chloethemessenger]

Wishing you healing ♥️

[@gletsayaaasantewaa2793]

Good for you...I've been through the same thing .Now moving on in my life, loving me fully!💜

[@Kay-yk6gb]

Tony had me cracking up the entire video🤣😂. I think sometimes you have to laugh at some of the things we settle for.

[@evezazzle5974]

Lmaooooo not the light being too bright in your eyes🤣😭 "A stray dog with rabies" SIR😭🤣🤣🤣

[@phyllisdickerson9071]

Class is in session ladies!

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

[@melaniegonzalezart8506]

👀👂🌟

[@kay-annclarke9501]

I am fittin to break this down for this young girl like a science. 1. Long distance= red flag 2. You going to see him = red flag 3. Does not know what he wants=red flag 4. Pushes you away=red flag 5. He is hot and cold= red flag 6. He ghosts you = red flag 7. He says he is happy single = red flag 8. He says he does not want a committment = red flag

[@4LADYSWEET]

"A man who will ghost 👻 u..will steal your son's lunch 🥪" 😂😂

[@StephaniaaS]

I'm Dying 🤣🤣🤣💪🏾

[@ThisizKena]

Gurl..😂😂😂..I had to rewind..I didn't hear NOTHING after that.

[@proudblackwoman4824]

Tony, I really like how you add a little bit of "laughter and comedy" to the message. Because if we're being all the way honest, it's really hard to hear the truth about how a lot of men have used and abused us when it comes to dating. If it were not for the silly moments in your messages, I think most of us would burst into tears. But I'm grateful to know what I know now and move DIFFERENTLY with men as a result. We appreciate you, brotha.

[@amandarecoveryjones8216]

I wasn't looking at my screen when it started but - I started SCREAMING when i looked up at the screen just to see Tony looking back at me when she said he hasn't slept w/ anyone but her!! Lmao omg!

[@amandarecoveryjones8216]

@@LA-wv7gf lmaooo we all put our pens down and looked at each other!

[@melaniegonzalezart8506]

👍

[@shenika1979]

TG said he thought he was in a poetry Cafe 🤣🤣 we as women romanticize the small things and don't look at the bigger picture and the inconsistencies. Lesson learned

[@allthingsjubilee5288]

She didn't fall in love , she fell in trouble 😳 I've done it that's why I can tell that's what happened 🙄

[@noorbokore2802]

Girl!!!!! You said a word. I am trying to get up from falling into trouble myself... I understood and played myself thinking I could change his mind. I had to bump my head a few times, but now I got some sense. Moving forward, I will believe what my ears hear and my eyes see.

[@moffahbrigitte3369]

Sis, the facts that he never visits you and doesn't know what he wants, are MAJOR red flags. He just wants to string you along. I pray God gives you the strength to walk away with your dignity and sanity. Don't wait for any man to decide what he wants to do with you. Be blessed.

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

[@aladyindeed2604]

Omg THE WAY I SCREAMED WHEN YOU PAUSED AND MADE THAT FACIAL EXPRESSION.... TONY YOU ARE JUST AMAZING. Much love my brother in Christ

[@armanispearman1147]

Yes!! Tony please make that relationship credit score!!!! That would be fantastic because so many of us will need the assistance!

[@naturaltress5774]

“ This man does not want you no more then he wants a plague to come upon his life” TG 😩😮😂🤣

[@jessicacantu3394]

Eyelashes in my oil 😂😂😂

[@missmarymack3457]

Lol

[@brittanyb5942]

Dead 💀💀💀

[@Beautifullybyg]

This sounds exactly like the situation I'm getting out of. I said the same thing I'm not ready for anything serious 2 years later I'm ready he's ghosting me here and there cause he's been in another relationship the whole time. Long distance relationship just aren't real point blink periodt! Move on, heal and seek real love! Basically go on bout ya business!

[@stargoldqueen5894]

Seeing the title, he probably is.

[@Pay5699]

🤣

[@j-tenn226]

That’s what I said. These men are so okay with wasting time.

[@stargoldqueen5894]

@@j-tenn226 tsk, I know right. Just had to laugh at the examples he was giving, its ridiculous!

[@GiovonniTaylor]

Same exact thoughts... if you have to ask....he is smh

[@stargoldqueen5894]

@@GiovonniTaylor right? Not a professional but it's clear for the people from the outside looking in. But when you are into a wrong relationship, it's hard to see.

[@naturaltress5774]

“ If a man won’t commit, you must quit” TG 👏🏽

[@aliciasmith5012]

If a man wont commit you must quit. Truth and facts🙌💯

[@takeauthority30]

Lawd .... Come on now, ladies .... It's the same thing. It took me two years after a 10 yr marriage to understand the games. And I sat myself down. Love yourself enough to stop wasting your time with these bums. Just wait ....wait Heal. Learn. Be alone for a minute. Pleaseeee

[@sheilazimmerman3905]

Little Sis, You have worth and you matter. Love yourself enough to introduce him to Goodbye 👋 and the sooner the better. God has a man for you, and he will look at you and know you are his reward.....don’t sleep with him....make him earn you.....but first, you have to Love yourself. God will help you, Why? Because God Loves you more than any man ever will. Be Blessed, I’ll be praying for you. Tony, keep these video’s coming, our young women really need them...need You🌸

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

[@kelilopez1269]

MR. GASKINS!!!! If you ever make a book of those sayings that you know off the top of your head and their meaning, please let me know because they're always on point!!!!!!!!!

[@whatnow8080]

"He hasn't slept with anyone except me in two years....."👀👀😂😂😑

[@cortnieb0118]

😂😂😂😂😂 “MOONT” know it sent meeee 😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😩

[@iamrizsamuel]

Watching this now because I just finished a situationship yesterday. I was thinking that I was being too much when I ask him to call or text me at least once a day. I asked him why he didnt called me for 2 days and he got berserk. I cannot forget the disgust in his eyes when he went on the video call too, the "why do you keep on calling?" look. So I said my piece and told him I'll never bother him again. Still crying, but listening to this is making me slowly wake up.

[@photogenicshea4801]

Tony spitting facts🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Listen ladies- I learned this the hard way. Take heed to what he’s saying and listen to your intuition !!!!!

[@StephaniaaS]

Yes our intuition never lies! On point everytime

[@pamelacallahan6156]

I get my laugh 🤣 in make my day 🤗. I sooo Miss when he is not on .. He said swimming in her I can't 🤣🤣

[@lindalovehearts]

I cannot this man today, im rofl 😅😂🤣🤣