Is His Reason For Ghosting Her Valid?

Her coworker set her up on a date and things went GREAT! Until he had an emergency and had to leave...she hasn't heard from him since! What went wrong?! We have her answers!
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[@Sketch89]

“Man up” is why Mr. Depp didn’t tell anyone too so 🤨

[@s.holmes613]

He dodged a bullet. Know your worth king. They acting like he crazy in the comments also for talking about it with a friend, but who doesn’t talk about their dates with their friends? He was probably telling them about a girl he went out with that turned crazy and now she has a radio station reaching out to him. If it was a female in that situation y’all response would be completely different

[@frenchbluehen]

She's not crazy for trying to find out why the guy literally lied to her. And his friends told her he's normally flaky and rude? I think she dodged the bullet. Who wants to go out with somebody that their own friends say is flaky and rude, and somebody who lies to you? And then he texted the radio station that they were laughing at her just because she felt like she had a connection with him? This guy is a sociopath. She can do better than that. That's not even respectful.

[@Sketch89]

If he felt uncomfortable it’s VALID. Why do we make it seem like ALL men should WANT to hook up. His feelings are VALID. PERIOD. He wasn’t into it, so let it go. She actually sounds like when some guys get turned down and “don’t understand”.

[@frenchbluehen]

It's more a problem that he lied. Ghosting is just NOT okay; it has nothing to do with him not wanting to sleep with her. There's a bigger picture that everyone seems to be missing. She wants to know THE TRUTH. Duh.

[@Madisontaylorholmes]

@@frenchbluehenthank you someone understands me better.

[@MsRiceLifestyle]

Why even accept the invitation to go back to her place, if he didn't want to be intimate? Should've just been honest. Plus, she knew exactly why he ghosted.

[@Madisontaylorholmes]

Then I can meet him somewhere else.

[@gs2782]

I know right? I wish women would do the same thing. Always acting one way, but say another... sheesh

[@NikkiRey92]

I don’t know how I feel about this one. If genders had been reversed and a woman had said a male caller had been too aggressive and she felt uncomfortable, would Davi and Bert’s advice have been the same?

[@wahinepaddler4]

This was exactly what I was going to say.. Roles reversed they would have praised the woman for leaving and following their instincts. Instead we get an emasculating response of 'man up' 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾nice 😒 Could he have communicated himself better than to have lied..yes. But he didn't..and instead of understanding where he was coming from he gets mocked..

[@wakandaforever4291]

They meant "Man up" and use your big boy words to explain to her that he was uncomfortable. Not man up and bang her.

[@frenchbluehen]

@@wahinepaddler4 That's the part that makes him a pussy. The lying. Everyone deserves the respect of truth, no matter what she did.

[@laurentroast5180]

Its one thing to tell your coworker about your date but it’s another thing to openly say he and his coworker were laughing assuming it was her. He lacks tact and the ability to be honest even if it wasn’t until the next day. Even if he didn’t tell her why but to fake an emergency and ghost seems a bit ridiculous. Also I would never use a family emergency to get out of something.

[@monicaclasener]

Yes, very childish and cowardly. He could just have said no.

[@SunShine-lq7yt]

Yea he shouldn't have agreed to go to her place

[@Madisontaylorholmes]

@@SunShine-lq7ytawe thanks honey.

[@SunShine-lq7yt]

As soon as she said they had a night cap I knew it was that...too much for a first date.

[@Madisontaylorholmes]

I’m sorry.

[@ThesteelLion]

If she came back with a nightcap invitation I wouldn't go on Naked Gun on her no thank you I don't wear them

[@Globewanderer000]

Good for him. Not all guys just want to sex anything that walks.

[@frenchbluehen]

Everybody's missing the point. Nobody is telling him that he has to sleep with her. They want him to man up because he lied. Just be honest!

[@Madisontaylorholmes]

@@frenchbluehen thank you. Someone understands me.

[@DianeWilliamsCurvyGoddess]

When she asked him to her apartment I felt that was too much. But he was immature for not being honest

[@flowersm2582]

I don't blame the poor guy

[@Madisontaylorholmes]

Please. He has to accept it. Right honey? #jonas

[@badboygoodgirl]

Seems like she dodged a bullet. If he didn’t feel comfortable on the first date, he wouldn’t have communicated well in the future either.

[@MrThenonchosenone]

I don't blame him lol

[@emilymccrea7890]

At the end of the date when the question arose if you want to come back to my apartment, often doesn’t Translate would you like a cup of coffee, or do you wanna look at my meat stamp collection…. These are two grown adults he knew exactly if he took her up on the invitation what was he thinking was going to happen?? I Will never understand why someone can’t call a time out and be just upfront honest and say I’m really not that into it and leave. And if it is the truth that he’s not into that type thing on the first day why did he take the invite back to the apartment? Total full of shit total! Because if he felt bad why was he sitting there laughing and joking about it to his coworker who knew what her name was that means he’s talked about it something happened that he didn’t like and instead of being honest he put it on she was too aggressive

[@hername3046]

Jesus Christ the signs and symptoms are all screaming he’s not into you. WHY do some people need to have closure and can’t accept that? Her friend also should have been honest and just told her what he actually said about her. Instead she gets the old, oh it’s not you it’s him. She really needs to learn how to read people geez.

[@wakandaforever4291]

Going by her co workers reaction to the phone call, I'm betting they both set her to humiliate her.

[@Starchild42]

I've never met a guy that is scared to turn down sex!!!

[@wakandaforever4291]

Me either

[@davidnatiel6886]

If a girl invites me to her place I'm hitting that for sure

[@bosslogo6948]

Double standards, double standards, double freaking standards. Man let this be a man saying “I thought I was being flirty” but like always, I don’t expect anything different from these guys. Men do nothing right, and women do no wrong.

[@WNanate]

The ladies storytelling was not good.

[@gs2782]

Sexist and the double standards on here is kinda icky