Is It Racist to Date Outside Your Own Race? | How Not to Be Racist

[@tobymills7110]

I think people have forgotten what the definition of racism is

[@chinonsonwodo9762]

I think you just never knew what it meant

[@yeetsickle8088]

True

[@ctrain9257]

@@trickytreyperfected1482 the KKK was started after the Civil War from Democrats in the Confederacy in 1865

[@piricarmen]

No. They haven’t. Racism is racism in dating. It takes a truly special individual to be interested in a human being if another race based on what they have in common and not just because they are white and “safe”.

[@anwjuice]

What's sad is many think racism just started with black people,That's how naive some are. Racism pre existed before Europeans went to Africa. They was racist towards Asians. Whites were racist against other white groups and here the big one that many of these woke people don't get. Africa even people war with each other and some groups treated other groups like crap cuz of tribe. So many foolish people in the usa roday

[@uriel7097]

The definition of Racism has been forgotten.

[@frankwilliamk3769]

especiall in america

[@ninjapurpura1]

Give pain for all these kind.

[@avm6414]

People now only think racism has to do woth history whats bs, racism already existed before anyone got enslaved

[@daniela-jq1eb]

What do u mean by that?

[@officialVozie100]

Sadly they hate natives lol 😂 they a living dying out meme i loe my native american women sorry BANTU KUSH people you not my type most natives feel the same

[@3DSgeek]

She is a living meme.

[@anwjuice]

@Insert Name Here agree with you on her toxic personality. Personality is number one to me and I've dated white,black,hispanic women and they all have to have a good heart and personality .that's my top two things. This chick is evil and mad

[@obiwalter483]

@Creeper Freak how is that racist

[@stopreplyingtomycomments7954]

A dead, cringey meme that is

[@stevenreinke9924]

@Insert Name Here It's fucking both

[@gen6473]

@Insert Name Here most black guys? stretch. most black ppl in the uk are african & we mostly stick to our culture.

[@antony9384]

Yawn this agenda is boring as hell

[@just_an_account_3]

Damn you're cool

[@otoyayamaguchi9987]

@s b Clearly not to themselves. Look at the murder stats.

[@jalentesers2753]

Black live matter period

[@jalentesers2753]

@Jon Seymourhow does all lives matter

[@jalentesers2753]

How does all live matter when black people are getting killed everyday and if something was happing to your race was going through this you feel the same way

[@thomasdrysdale4240]

I feel these answers are cherry picked

[@jakepotter5621]

It's racist to make a video about dating amongst other races but then only including the opinions of 2 "coloured" people and one "white" person who is also ginger therefore no soul... The deck is pretty fuckin stacked in this video... The idiot is going to walk around talking like they dis some huge sophisticated study... The other people who answered obviously didn't give tje answer she was looking for

[@Spartan-ng6sx]

Probably

[@Spartan-ng6sx]

Or they are fabricating comments to push their racist narrative forward

[@Douche_bag420]

Short answer is no you’re allowed to have any preference you want just don’t let that dictate how you treat people outside of romantic relationship and by your own standard it’s racist if you don’t

[@SteelPanda220]

You got it.

[@vensson9577]

‘Allowed’ lol. Actually the short answer is yes. You can have preferences that coincide with racial things, like I prefer smaller women with big eyes and small noses, if a black woman has big eyes small nose and slim figure, she’s hot and I’m attracted to her. Same way if a white woman has other features I’m less attracted to them. The race itself shouldn’t be a preference.

[@Douche_bag420]

@@vensson9577 I did say allowed as if someone thought it was against the rules lol

[@sonicfx5431]

@@vensson9577 it’s not racist, if you don’t like the way the color looks then you don’t plain and simple. As long as you don’t have hatred or prejudice towards them then it’s not racist

[@highlysensitiveforestgreen2096]

@@sonicfx5431 thank you!

[@michaeltunnicliffe4935]

The key word is PREFERENCE. I would prefer to eat Pizza tonight, though Curry would also be good. I would prefer to go to Germany on holiday but Greece will do just fine. I would prefer to go to Oxford University but realistically i'll end up at Sheffield Hallam and i am ok with that. Preference doesn't mean exclusivity, it doesn't mean you aren't open to other options. You just have one option that is more desirable than others but that does not make other preferences undesirable. This isn't a difficult concept.

[@DizzyWeasel1]

I don't think you can really compare having a preference for a certain food or university to having a preference for a specific race.

[@Shells352]

Just make sure it’s for the right reasons and no one is ‘racially fetishising’ anyone. She makes this point in the video. You’d know that if you’d focus and listening rather than trying to debate and counter argue another persons reality

[@lawinaabraham3073]

@@DizzyWeasel1 Sure you can, is it wrong for someone to find women or men from a certain race more attractive than from another ? No, it's finr because it is a subjective preference .

[@AP-zh8kk]

DizzyWeasel1 having preference for race is not a bad thing. Different races have different features which people find attractive

[@alfiehanks2789]

DizzyWeasel1 yes you can compare the two. Its a preference. This video is so biased into being anti-white that it says, in short, ‘white people don’t ever date black people’. What about the majority of black people that only date black people and don’t date white people? That isn’t racism its a preference to one race.

[@Ytremz]

Let's make this nice and simple. - Racial dating preferences ARE NOT racist. - The MOTIVES behind racial dating preferences CAN be racist.

[@ameliamoore5585]

what kind of motives do you mean? like wanting a biracial baby, or wanting to show off the person you're dating to your family? genuine question.

[@Ytremz]

@@ameliamoore5585 Any motive that is driven by a sense of racial superiority. For example, a White Supremacist would prefer not date Black People because they see them as subhuman.

[@ameliamoore5585]

@@Ytremz you make a good point. it doesn't even have to be a white supremacist. like my grandmother probably wouldn't date a Black man, but she's not racist-- she just has biases from how she was raised. she doesn't think less of anyone or anything, but she just wouldn't think of dating someone who wasn't white. i guess that sounds kind of bad. but she's not a bad person, and she would never be offensive, even if she had her own implicit biases. i mean, she worked with the Obamas.

[@eye787]

You are .. very wrong! 😍

[@Lsmoove21]

​@@ameliamoore5585your grandma is prejudice nd racist but it's basically she a inward bigot that's the term she a (closet Bigot)

[@HerrMikael]

Date and love whoever you want to and don't mind others opinions about your preferences

[@maple2524]

Ew. What about animals and children? Have standards for whom you choose to spend your life with, educate your children on those standards, make sure your community abides by those standards. Anything less than that is anarchic.

[@avm6414]

@@maple2524 this doesnt have anything to do with the comment bruh

[@maple2524]

@@avm6414 Yes it does. “Date and love whoever you want” sounds wrong and supposes that we should always tolerate romantic relationships, even though such a mindset enables and legitimises abuse.

[@maple2524]

@AltHistoryKnight Even if "date and love whoever you want" doesn't include children and animals, the point still stands; we should be careful about who we choose to start relationships with. Western culture, with its heavy emphasis on hedonism and meaningless sex, encourages this kind of spineless position on love. We should know and understand who we're dating, and we should listen to those around us for feedback and advice on our partners and spouses. Retreating into your own castle and ignoring half the world because you "want to date whoever you want" and you "don't mind about other's opinions" is extremely harmful in the long term, and enables cowardice, because you actively run away from all responsibility and criticism.

[@daniela-jq1eb]

You should question why you have those preferences in the first place ,

[@skepticat1581]

People are now not allowed to have preferences when it comes to who they date and sleep with. 2020 everyone.

[@hillyholly9004]

Not what the video says? Just a discussion about how we are kinda grinded to find some things attractive and other things not. Interesting to think about and maybe check ourselves.

[@Shells352]

Why can't you just watch the whole video and actually try to understand....😪. "Racial Fetishism". She articulates and explains it well. Can you please just focus on listening!... And not counter arguements. Can you please change your perspective, look at the world nowadays through a blacks persons eyes and actually try to understand... Please.

[@Aimia4]

We're living in Huxley's London in 632 AF. It's truly eery how accurate he and Orwell were.

[@olatish188]

You CLEARLY didn't watch the video then

[@Mmeet66]

Speaking Truth - ironic display name first of all. Second of all, she states it is racist to fetishize black people. You missed the mark entirely, maybe you should listen to truth as opposed to ‘speaking truth’.

[@K2edg]

Yeh, this goes both ways........ a good friend of mine is Black and he lives in a African black community, he was seeing a white girl who was attacked twice after visiting him by Black girls, she had white paint poured on her car and my friend started getting called " Oreo" this went on for a few months until they called it a day. The same guy told me it's not just White girls, if he turned up with a girl of Caribbean heritage she would get the same treatment. So he's had enough and emigrating to Australia.

[@avm6414]

Sadly that just shows that you can be racist against anyone for any reason :/

[@uvl.g5611]

@Kristin Henderson I'm sorry you and your spouse had to suffer this horrible treatment. The fact that race is still such a monumental thing in human society, and in all its colors & and races, is truly primitive & shameful. Good fortunate to you.

[@gram.]

Just like in many Asian communities (Indian, Bangladeshi, Pakistani) they look at whites as lesser than (I assume the older generations) So as it was a factor when I was with a brilliant Indian girl for so long...

[@jessicamarie8299]

It’s always bitter BW that a have a problem with BM being with WW

[@thinkbetter5286]

@1 2 The irony in your comment...

[@keenankelly248]

Yes! Dating shouldn’t be about showing off how “non-racist” you are, it should be about finding someone that you feel comfortable with and want to spend time around.

[@steamer1]

Freud would have a field day in 2020

[@aarontheperson6867]

that guy said a bunch of smart shit but a bunch of stupid shit too haha

[@gamingtonight1526]

The world is going crazy! I am truly scared for society!

[@hillyholly9004]

Why is that?

[@steamer1]

So... We should not be snowflakes about being hated because of the colour of our skin? Got it. Sorry for crazy.

[@putjesusfirst9814]

Lol society is almost dead it’s new world order time bro bro get ready for that one world government

[@anniee1019]

FR

[@ayuanabradford3206]

Look. I am scared of society to, but please have strong faith… This is all the Satan work of turning everyone against each other!!! Adam and Eve at the fruit of GOOD VS EVIL WHICH IS WHY WE ARE ALL SCREWED UNTIL WE REPENT AND LEAVE THIS EARTH..

[@sodone4593]

And how come it's always 'black' like there ain't no other races? And those names she used to refer to people describing black people? Would be valid if I didnt hear people using those words to describe THEMSELVES

[@Alice-cp9sy]

Yes but all races are complicit. That’s why she literally said ALL races tend to prefer lighter coloured women, including black men. Nuance means nothing to you people .

[@sodone4593]

@@Alice-cp9sy "you people"? Wow.... just wow

[@sodone4593]

@@Alice-cp9sy someone sounds like an asshole and it's not me

[@ammiiel]

She’s black... so she speaks from her POV. Also, intermarriage between Asians and Whites has been somewhat “accepted” for centuries now. Whereas intermarriage with black people is generally frowned upon.

[@jenniferpearce1052]

@@ammiiel Ummm...what? Centuries? Try a few decades. Ever seen the movie Sayonara?

[@flyinmowhawk121232]

Mad how society went from segregation 100 years ago then we fought for integration and we got it and now people are fight for segregation again??????. What the actual fuck 😂

[@eliteteamkiller319]

That's not really what they're saying. If you think the person is hot and like who they are, that's not racist. If you have a preference, that's not racist. Fetishization has a degradation element to it. Leave that off and it's just a preference.

[@ms.delarosa8642]

Fetishization of one’s ethnicity or race is weird and makes most people uncomfortable. Dating for love and companionship or even casual flings and hookups without the emphasis on your race, I don’t see a problem. I knew a few men and women (I say “know” because we never got past a few dates, you’ll see why) who treated me differently and did very cringey things around me because of my ethnicity. Others genuinely liked and respected me for who i was as a person and those individuals got a few more dates lol. I’m not easily offended but i am easily annoyed, and if someone annoys me i don’t need to stay put 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@vensson9577]

Fetishisation*

[@Barber747]

BINGO!!! 😉👌🏽

[@eliteteamkiller319]

A preference is a preference. It's "fetishization" when it comes with some form of degradation and disregards the person behind the physical appearance.

[@eliteteamkiller319]

@@vensson9577 In the UK. Not in the US.

[@cockoffgewgle4993]

"Fetishisation" doesn't mean anything. It's just yet another way to pathologise male sexuality. Sexual liberation for women, sexual repression for men.

[@jasonewing8693]

Like the black woman said at 1.06 it's not racist it's your preference. It is racist if you think people shouldnt date other races. personally as long as 2 people want to be together what's it got to do with anyone else

[@piotrmitrega6476]

100% agree

[@tess4518]

Was I the only one that found 1:50 weird and uncomfortable lol

[@unknownperson-vw7zx]

Yep

[@whyme3772]

no

[@marleymontega5654]

She think she so cool 😎 but she’s a clown 🤡 😂

[@BURNi3BURNs]

I think people are entitled to their preferences. What you find attractive is subjective. But what about the opposite... My wife was called a racist because she has never dated a black man. She grew up in a small town of mostly white people. She has been attracted to certain black men, just none she knows personally.

[@ilytamaly00x]

Can you please help me, I'm a Hispanic female and only have a preference toward my own ethnicity because it's what I find attractive. I have nothing against white, African american, Asian, or any race there is. Does it make me racist if I am only attracted to hispanics? (my own ethnicity)

[@BURNi3BURNs]

@@ilytamaly00x You don't sound like you need help... its people that want to make it racist that needs help. Your sexual preference does not make you racist.

[@ilytamaly00x]

@@BURNi3BURNs Thank you a bunch for replying :), i was getting hate from a bunch of people because of that preference. it's good information :)

[@reaux3921]

@1 2 fetishist

[@eliteteamkiller319]

YOu're not racist for who you've dated or not dated. That's stupid. It's racist if you simply have a line in the sand related to race.

[@benaugustinmcconnon377]

Sexual preferences aren’t racist, you don’t control them. If skin tone factors into any of your conscious decisions, like how you will treat somebody, you are by definition ‘racist’. I was engaged to a girl from Nigeria... I wanted to marry her. It couldn’t happen because her parents wouldn’t accept her being with a ‘white man’, their words. Also, my ex fiancé was the first black girl I’d ever been with, I didn’t get with her for her ethnicity, I got with her for her personality. Her and her sister were the ones making a big deal about ‘Is she the first black girl you’ve been with’, it didn’t mean shit to me, it did to them. Now, I am not offended by this video, because I am not a victim. I am appalled. I’m sorry, but it seems like the people in this video are OBSESSED with race, especially the darker toned people. To the point that it’s just unhealthy. This bullshit factors into their world view soo much that it will always be a problem for them. I’m going to say this once. Your skin tone and your ethnic background means absolutely Jack shit. If you are an opinionated arsehole, no amount of affirmative action will fix that problem. Value people’s actions not their aesthetic, because your actions and how you treat others IS who you are... 👋 🎤

[@Lisa-dv1xn]

Because it's about the black experiences, not white ones?

[@unnamed7158]

@@Lisa-dv1xn reverse racism vibes

[@Nonamelol.]

I’m a white guy who prefers white girls. Does that make me a racist? Does it also make me a sexist since I prefer girls over guys? It simply doesn’t add up.

[@aregularinternetuser339]

Short answer: NO IT ISNT, WHY DO WE NEED A 5 MINUTE VIDEO ABOUT THIS

[@TheButterMinecart1]

Because the over-fixation some people have with dating other races just to seem fashionable and exotic is an actual issue that exists. Do you know how bizarre and awkward it is to obsessed on by someone literally just because of your race?

[@001lightning1]

I dated this girl for a bit. I can confirm she is crazy😂😂😂

[@callous_cloud4780]

Oh god, I feel sorry for you

[@MANthe93]

My condolences 😂

[@cockoffgewgle4993]

Nothing "neo" about it, they're just anti-white racists.@user-cw1bp9fj2e

[@willtruthteller4694]

Channel 4 grow up and stop race baiting

[@greasler6135]

So there saying If I'm a white guy that only dates black women that's racist, but if I'm a white guy who won't date a black women that's not racist. That makes no sense

[@unregisteredsbr4230]

So what you want is for all races to remain pure? sounds familiar....

[@monica106ful]

Latina here, race and born in Mexico never had a boyfriend until I move to the USA and only dated white or black guys, sometimes latinos try to flirt with me but I don’t feel attracted to them, I can’t help it, sometimes they get offended.

[@rwwr7513]

Tbh all you girls do worship white dudes

[@Lsmoove21]

Your honestly biased towards your own race tbh I bet u are. Cuz the average person wouldn't turn down a whole race of people for no reason

[@JessicaZane4realz]

Growing up in LA, the most racist and the only racist people towards me were Blacks.

[@Ghanashyama]

I also grew up in LA and experienced a fair degree of Racism from those in the Asian community and well as Hispanic and white. My brother married an Asian woman whose parents essentially disowned her and the child they had for the sole reason that he was black. Guess it happens in all communities, right?

[@GoodLaw]

@@Ghanashyama Everyone of every color is racist to an extent and have their own biases. It's nothing new. Yet most people act like its only white people can be racist. Now with that said our job as growing learning humans is not to stay in that ignorant state of racism. I never dated in my own race color was never an issue. I was never even actually interested in my own people until I went to the land of my father and mother. When it comes to love I stil have no preference for any specific skin color.

[@just_an_account_3]

What's your point? Racism exists and isn't a exclusively white thing, but if you're trying to use this point to discredit the current revolution then you're misinformed. The systemic racism towards POCs is prevalent and immensely disproportionate. POCs have it way worse, and that's just a fact.

[@jenniferpearce1052]

@@GoodLaw Wish this was noted more often.

[@JessicaZane4realz]

@@just_an_account_3 no it's not a fact. Your victim mentality keeps telling you it is.

[@MC_Hammerpants]

This video gave me irreversible brain damage

[@salvi016]

aight im out of this channel unsubbing cant be assed with all this race baiting content

[@brandoncole5533]

1:36 she perfectly described an instance where it can be racist But she also acknowledged that it isn't innately racist

[@jmaddnessL0L]

As a white guy who is dating a black girl, I showed her this. She says its stupid. She literally calls us "ebony and ivory" Another example, my dad's best mate is Nigerian. This mate calls himself and my dad "the dark chocolate and the white chocolate" But I guess im essentially like David Duke arent I?

[@amelialalllalala3914]

I love your name~ that's so sweet

[@daniela-jq1eb]

It’s their opinion, Black people are not monolithic. All Black people shown in this video who disagree also deserve to have their opinion heard. Plus, it isn’t up to you or me to say what’s racist and what isn’t.

[@avm6414]

@@daniela-jq1eb not up to you to say whats racism and what isnt? It is, every rave has a saying in that.

[@Courtneyyyyyyyy]

People in these comments don’t actually come here looking to educate themselves or hear different perspectives from a black woman they come here to argue, deny and ridicule peoples lived experiences because for some strange reason it doesn’t apply to them 🙃 if you’re not ready to listen to criticism or hear a side of the story that doesn’t match up to your understanding DONT watch this video and go be ignorant somewhere else. This video is for educational purposes not for your continued denial (FYI this will now be muted so argue amongst yourselves 😊)

[@stripeoz]

I would also assume there are people who are open to different opinions but disagree with the conclusions in the video? Honestly the video makes very little sense to me.

[@stripeoz]

The constant usage of labels separating demographics and judging them based on it just feels racist too.

[@Courtneyyyyyyyy]

stripeoz there are but they’re are far and very few, if you don’t understand maybe widen your resources, not all black people are here to teach you the basics and that’s why there are scholars who dedicate their lives to teach this

[@Courtneyyyyyyyy]

stripeoz if you don’t recognise the separation you won’t understand the difference in treatment that black people have to endure....It’s not racist it’s a fact maybe research white fragility Robin Diangelo wrote an amazing book on it in the perspective of a white woman maybe you’ll learn something

[@Courtneyyyyyyyy]

stripeoz and learn the word racist because that is not it

[@CuteGirl-ch1ee]

I am an Eastern Asian woman , the love of my life is a white man from the UK . Did I chose him because he’s white ? No . Did he choose me because of his weird fetishes towards Asian women ? Also No . But I do prefer white men , and he does prefer Asian women . But we fell in love with each other not because of our race . And we are happily together, deeply in love . Does that make us racist ? No . Lol …….. this is simple . Liking something is simple . Love is simple . But so many people make simple things complicated , which is what the real problem is .

[@yacobz]

Media and a colonial past define whiteness as the pinnacle of beauty, and this plays a part in our subconscious whether we care to admit it or not. Just be aware that "preference" is hardly formed inside a vacuum.

[@Brooklynnwolfe2002]

Not for me personally. It’s doesn’t bother me when other people date outside. I like staying with my own culture, that’s just me.

[@samkhodr9975]

"I don't want to date you" "Oh wow that's racist"

[@unnamed7158]

"I want to date you" "Racist!"

[@kermorin715]

I'm white (French, Irish, German, Polish, etc decent) and for my teenage years lived in a relatively white society. I thought for a long time that I was somewhere on the asexual spectrum because I just wasn't interested. I later moved across the country and realized I'm just not attracted people of my genetic background. People still call me racist for it though. Granted some are decent looking but I'm not interested sexually. To me it makes a lot of logical sense to want to outbreed from a genetic standpoint. The odds of resesive traits you have coming up are minimalized and I've even connected random european decendant co workers to my family tree. I like to think that sometimes what you are and aren't attracted to is you subconscious trying to create a healthier child be it because its a person that you relate to and can give them a happy childhood or because they have differences that give a genetic advantage.

[@barzinlotfabadi]

Recessive*

[@rwwr7513]

Are you a girl?

[@kermorin715]

@@rwwr7513 Why does that matter to you?

[@proleaguer9535]

@@kermorin715 lol this whole time i thought it was a guy talking because im a guy lol but i feel the same way i don't find dark girls attractive its just the way i feel honestly

[@vensson9577]

Ah okay, you’re American. Since you think french Irish German polish people have to be white, you spelt realised with a zed and you have ridiculous opinions lmao. Yeah just chock it up to you being American, that’s why you work the way you do. Pro tip: Irish french German and polish are nationalities, not ethnicities. Google the french football team, only 3 are white. But all are french.

[@whatthehellisayoutube6010]

I mostly like Hispanic and black women. I find darker skin more attractive. That's not racist. Everyone likes a certain type. I don't find white women attractive unless they have a tan. I dated a black wan that was 12 years older than me and I was 25 at the time. It has nothing to do with race. It's like saying you're wrong for liking a different color crayon than everyone else around you. My family and her family tried to disown us both. That's racist. I can't help it that I like a darker skin tone. I just find black and Hispanic women beautiful. If that's racist for me to think good of women of color, then I guess I'm a racist then.

[@censorduck]

I'm getting very close to not caring if I'm racist.

[@joebutta7539]

Everyone keeping on going on about "Race"...There is only 1 Race; HUMAN RACE...quit this BS

[@redofspades]

Human is the species, a race is a subset of a species.

[@garyrandom7512]

@riptorn: The specie is hominidés > our race is Homo sapiens. We are the last human race, the others human races as already disappeared, 30'000 years ago with the néandertaliens.

[@albertmockel6245]

@@garyrandom7512 what a load of crap. If you don't know basic taxonomy, it's ok, but do not pretend you know anything about the subject.

[@garyrandom7512]

How? It was already proven that there is more genetical differences between two individuals of the same countries than there is between different groups of populations. The genetics difference between humans being is too low to speak in terms of race. As I said; back 30'000 years ago you had different human races but today the last human race is the homo sapiens. No matter what's color your skin is, you are an homo sapiens.

[@tjsantana9600]

Boy STFU

[@lucywallis8259]

I've never understood fetishism when it comes to race it just confused me but I'm so happy this video has told me it. I'm white and I don't think I've ever thought about skin colour when it comes to dating but this video has helped me understand why it's a issue for people of colour thank you for helping me understand my privilege more! 💜💜💜

[@jameswhiteley6843]

Don't worry, Lucy. They'll still hate you anyway.

[@just_an_account_3]

This level of self reflection is very admirable Well done

[@allahizafag7818]

@@just_an_account_3 nah its very gay

[@NorthumberlandEye]

Lucy, get your self a good hard working white husband, have lots of beautiful white Baby’s and teach them to do the same to have lots of white grandchildren, I know I’m a stranger but I promise you won’t regret it 👍

[@Ytremz]

Thank you Lucy for approaching this with an open-mind and the willingness to learn.

[@averagegoth]

I’m white and I’m dating a Mexican, so no it’s not a crime to date other race than your race

[@harleyq8043]

Same I’m dating a white guy but not bc of his skin, I just met him and thought he was really nice. I don’t understand why people would think it’s racist to date outside of your own race. I don’t have a race preference, I just happened to date a white guy. Ive faced more backlash from people of my own race then white people or anyone else. I see it happen a lot to people online too, I remember on Instagram there was a post about these 3 sisters who all had husbands of different races. One a black guy, one Asian, and I think the last guy was Italian. It was a very wholesome post with all of them spending time with family. But all the comments were nothing but assholes bashing them and spamming slurs. Some people were saying that if you’re Mexican then you have to date another Mexican. Like??? No tf you don’t, you fall in love with whoever you fall in love with regardless of race.

[@Nephel3]

Not racist to date someone outside your race, messed up if you fetishize a race for their features and not who they are, but I still wouldn’t call that racist because you are necessarily discriminating against someone due to race, it’s just a messed up fetish

[@just_an_account_3]

Damn, these comments scream insecurity. This video is good, you should try listening to the points instead of being angry at the concept of what you've been doing all this time might be racist.

[@just_an_account_3]

@Jon Seymour answer: it is It's both incredibly shallow and racist. Of course, you might be more attracted to black skin than white or the reverse, but it absolutely should be something you can look over. Otherwise you are repulsed by a skin colour, which is indisputably racist. You are grouping people based on the skin colour, that is racist.

[@just_an_account_3]

@Jon Seymour you just contradicted yourself so badly. You don't see skin colour, you only judge action, then you say it's your right to only like white people 😂 you sir, are a racist. If you would like to not be a racist, then please reflect on what you are saying

[@quinnroberts3158]

An Account But skin color itself does play a role in sexual attraction. I’m only attracted white women; non-white women have virtually no sexual appeal to me and I’m not aroused by dark-colored vaginas.

[@DanneyTanner]

Question for you all....Is it raciest if Id say I dont like my own race??

[@mattmccullough1093]

Whether you're black or white you are dating your own kind because we're all the same race the human race.

[@MiguelLopez-yc2rh]

So which choice is more racist: dating outside your own race or NOT dating outside your own race? I think some people think things too much....

[@British_Rogue]

Racial preferences aren't racist. Why? Different races have different physiological features. Black people have naturally large lips, frizzy hair, large bottoms, and fat nostrils. Asian people are naturally short and have more hair than other races. White people have roman noses, sleek hair, blue eyes. Each race has traits more common in that race than in others.

[@ilytamaly00x]

Yes girl/man, thank youuu, so if im hispanic and only have a preference towards my own ethnicity, that doesn't make me racist right? I have nothing against any other race

[@Lexury11]

So what would “right reasons” be for dating outside your race? I’m curious

[@maple2524]

There are none.

[@joefortey4]

Might be worth giving poundshop Skunk Anansie an email.

[@Lexury11]

@@despacito2390 yea, that’s obvious. But I’m asking for her reasoning specifically. As she didn’t say that..

[@vensson9577]

Reason for dating outside your race: You love that person. End of. You don’t need a reason to like someone, Fullstop.

[@dazzlingdaniel3861]

I grew up in the UK and I made loyal friendships with some white guys. My preference for white ladies all started from my primary school crush which doesn’t even count as a relationship.

[@germantennesseean8438]

What happened to liking the person for their personality. There are white people dating a black significant other because they just happen to share alot in common or like eachothers character . Love is love . Love is never racist .

[@charlesbawden5924]

2020 everybody. 🥴

[@MichaelM28]

Just stop already Channel 4!

[@Shells352]

Why can't you just watch the whole video and actually try to understand....😪. "Racial Fetishism". She articulates and explains it well. Can you please just focus on listening!... And not counter arguements. Can you please change your perspective, look at the world nowadays through a blacks persons eyes and actually try to understand... Please.

[@MichaelM28]

@@Shells352 Why would I want to listen to the woke drivel that comes from channel 4?

[@Shells352]

Harry Barry No I don’t work for Channel 4. And I know this sounds like a cliche but it’s because of people like you why things will never change. You simply don’t care. You’d prefer to debate, counter argue, makes jokes and generally undermine someone trying to teach you about the realities of some aspects of a black persons life.... If you cared you’d just listen. It genuinely hurts and it makes me sad and angry some people don’t even have the decency to just listen. This is why some people decide to riot, destroy statues, have animosity towards white people and even harm police officers. Because no one listens. No one cares. And no one wants to understand.

[@Shells352]

Michael McGrath I know this sounds like a cliche but it’s because of people like you why things will never change. You simply don’t care. You’d prefer to debate, counter argue, makes jokes and generally undermine someone trying to teach you about the realities of some aspects of a black persons life.... If you cared you’d just listen. It genuinely hurts and it makes me sad and angry some people don’t even have the decency to just listen. This is why some people decide to riot, destroy statues, have animosity towards white people and even harm police officers. Because no one listens. No one cares. And no one wants to understand.

[@lawinaabraham3073]

@@Shells352 ,,This is why some people decide to riot, destroy statues, have animosity towards white people and even harm police officers ''. Oh I'm sorry Shells, so it's basically : ''LISTEN TO US, DO NOT ARGUE OR WE WILL CAUSE DESTRUCTION''. Thanks fot clearing that up, ups, did I just try to ,,counter argue'', Oh darn it ! I forgot that that's forbidden aswell, my bad.

[@NorthumberlandEye]

Question 🙋‍♂️ Am i racist??? I’m Aryan, European, and have 0- blood type 🩸 and I’m as white as it gets, I want to have a white wife, white kids, and live with white people in a white community, I don’t want to mix with other races, but I want to get along with other races, you don’t see lions mating with tigers and black bears mating with grizzly bears, you don’t see pigeons mating with black crows, unless we have human intervention, I am proud to be white and I’m proud to be a good person, I’m full of love and music and I cherish my culture, just like you cherish yours.

[@PirateOfTheNorth]

If you find a person attractive does it matter what race they are?

[@tjhagen1558]

As a white male, if I were to sit here and say black people are experiencing so and lieing about being scared of the police, you would tell me "You can't understand what it's like to be black." Now you're doing the same exact thing with dateing!

[@spicymeatballs2thespicening]

true lol

[@leegibbs5317]

I don't see how it's racist to date someone that doesn't have the same skin colour as you. If you find that person attractive what does it matter? Channel 4 is really trying to stir up more hatred and divide with these video's. Not from me may I just add.

[@brittneybabeee4031]

Lee Gibbs Blame the U.S. and the racist f*cks here that wanna keep horribly mistreating and killing our fellow humans simply because of their skin color. Sorry, ya’ll. P.S. They didn’t say it was racist to find them attractive/date them in general. It’s racist to *not* date them based on stereo types and to *only* date them simply because they’re BIPOC and you want to fetishize them.

[@Alice-cp9sy]

Did you even watch the video? She clearly said it’s not if you do it for the right reasons. Nuance means nothing to some of you.

[@leegibbs5317]

@@Alice-cp9sy I watched the video twice.

[@jeezuschryst]

@@leegibbs5317 If you watched twice then wtf are you talking about?

[@pizzyoutdoors3512]

Lee are u just clicking on all these C4 videos and leaving nasty comments cos it looks like that's what you are doing from your comment history. Did you watch this video or just read the title? Are you an all lives matter guy who complains about people being snowflakes and sjws but is winging over a C4 KZbin video? Are you the one sowing division by not engaging in a constructive way?

[@chaimlevin125]

IT’S NOT RACIST TO DISLIKE THE PHYSICAL FEATURES OF A DIFFERENT RACE! YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO YOUR PREFERENCES!

[@jennifers1040]

Good Lord! Why is it when somebody is not heterosexual we can fully understand and accept that they are attracted to who they are attracted to. But when somebody wants to date outside of their race only, or their race only, we have a problem? It has to do with sexual preferences and attraction. All of my boyfriends have been non-white. I don't find it racist. I just happen to be attracted to tall dark and handsome.☺️

[@Kaybub99]

I just want to point out she said it was racist to find black people ugly and it was also racist to be attracted to black people.

[@Galvantez]

When did Channel 4 become Buzzfeed/MTV?

[@lewisbracken5520]

always have been. look at their mission statement as a channel. 100% leftist buzzwords.

[@lloydlin7834]

CUT and jubilee and etc. has become new buzzfeed and even worse.

[@atotallyrandomchickonthein5460]

It isnt racist to date outside of your race as long as you aren't putting anyone else down because you dont like that race. Like, im black and i love black guys dont get me wrong, but Asians and hispanic guys are CUTE. i love all of them equally but i prefer hispanic/asians but i would NEVER put any other race down, thats just sad.

[@zee6588]

People have standards of races and attributes that they are attracted too, I think they missed that in this video..

[@blessingsmutali2605]

Please elaborate on this, I feel it might help me. It's really been weighing on me, am a black lady and am mostly attracted to people outside my race, mostly Arab,Indian, white. It's gotten to a point where I think it might be a fetish or there is something wrong with me like self hate or some other psychological issue. When I was younger I did date a black guy

[@Louisdegalfilla7]

I agree why are so many ads mixed couples suggesting black people dont like each other and black men are gay looking characters. The wise black people date black people. Straight Black love ❤

[@millerhxc]

As well as dating outside one's race, there's also the issue of dating/marrying outside your religion - as a Jew, is it wrong of me to only want to marry a Jew? If so, why? Race doesn't matter to me as there are Jews of different races and I've found out about myself over the years that I don't really have one fixed "preference", but it is important to me at my age to eventually settle down with someone in the same faith and continue our traditions to our children etc.. Does that make me a bad person?

[@hillyholly9004]

I mean here I would argue this is more mental than aesthetic preference. You would prefer to marry someone of the same faith because they more likely share your values, views, and that sense of comradery you get growing up a certain way.

[@millerhxc]

@@hillyholly9004 Precisely. But not everyone sees it like that.

[@anniee1019]

No it’s not wrong at all I’m Christian but I preferably would only date a Christian because religion is an important factor of my life

[@ALEXGIBSONCMG]

As a Jew i understand, but for mre my family is all over the place anyway so the hegemony was jsut never there for me, I'll date a Christian, Muslim whatever, as long as we can generally respect each other's beliefs and traditions without it becoming a burden i think its fine, last Two fiancees were an athiest and a wiccan, so idk its whatever works i guess. (both times they cheated, and i cannot tolerate that, so i dumped them and went on my merry way)

[@GimJibbo]

I agree. Open borders for Israel

[@NorthumberlandEye]

Attention all white woman, if you truly want to be happy, get yourself a white husband, have lots of white baby’s, teach them to do the same so you can have lots and lots of white grandchildren, and if anyone tells you your racist just petty them and return to your beautiful family, I promise the will bring your joy and happiness for the rest of your life.

[@VenetiaLaManna_]

LOVE THIS and LOVE CHANTÉ! More of this please Channel 4!

[@EmeraldPixelGamingEPG]

The advert tweet raised an incredibly interesting point though. This is England, an ethnically white Country overall. So for there to be such an over representation of people who aren't ethnically English is weird.

[@vensson9577]

London is only 45% white English. You’re a minority in your own capital 🤣🤣

[@positivebones6847]

Great content, really informative and open. Thanks so much for doing these videos!

[@CarsonBobarson]

Sooooo...... It's racist to not like the opposite race, but it's also racist to like the other race???

[@sodone4593]

You mean the human race? Yes. You mean skin colour? No because we are all part of the human race and we all need to stop dividing one another like this. Yes history is bad but stop teaching your children about HATE.

[@athenajoy1944]

If you "find most black people ugly" that ain't racist??? They said most not all?? They never said all black people were ugly just that they weren't attracted to most. It's called preference. You forgot the entire meaning of racism.

[@dinamothupi996]

However, the issue was the fact that the person associated their lack of attraction to Black people as Black people being ugly, which are two different things. Second is that African features have been deemed ugly as an insidious form of racism for hundreds of years because of the fake notion that European features were more beautiful (there's no objective beauty standard that validates this) and this is still promoted in society.

[@Roy_Boy4.1]

I'm a white male in my mid to late 30s. I'm currently married to my soulmate. She's a older hispanic female. I grew up in predominantly black neighborhood in Rochester NY and have seen many black women. I don't agree with her that people feel black women are the most unattractive. If I had interested a black woman before I met my wife, I would've been just as happy I'm sure. I personally don't find myself being attracted to white women. Sorry not sorry lol

[@rwwr7513]

What's with the sorry not sorry you could have just ended it there without saying that...no one cares who you're not interested in lol.

[@Roy_Boy4.1]

@@rwwr7513 you obviously care enough to comment about it. Derp.

[@rwwr7513]

@@Roy_Boy4.1 nah I just thought it was unnecessary and a little childish that's all...why would it affect me? it has nothing to do with me.

[@Roy_Boy4.1]

@@rwwr7513 please stfu. Okay thanks 👍🏼

[@ALEXGIBSONCMG]

Jon, is that you >.>

[@SkinnyEMedia]

From the producers behind GET OUT.

[@lonewolfandcub668]

It's all about attitude for me, I don't care about anyone's colour, and on this one fact of attitude no way would I date her.

[@greasler6135]

I know man people out here arguing if it's morally correct to have preference based on colour. But I was always taught that its wrong to have preference based on appearance in general, and personality is all that matters

[@codzy3532]

im half black white ive dated black men an white men depends who treats you better i suppose my aunty is dark met her hubby in 72 was married for 48 years before he passed away so you cant pigeonhole love either so shes living proof love will survive regardless of color

[@Knave_Orange_24]

We are all humans and we are all created equal. When will people realize this.

[@sasukeshinobi8537]

From shooting up schools to suicide bombing Na never we doomed

[@jeremymorton8101]

I was just looking for an honest unbiased opinion. Obviously I watched the wrong video.

[@TheWaxworker]

Racism means to judge a person or people on the basis of race, color, or ethnicity. It means to "assign" characteristics or virtues based solely on physical race, color, or ethnicity. It is not racist to prefer your own race or that of another. It is only racist if you judge or assign negative attributes to someone based on race, color, or ethnicity. The recent attempts by SJW's, so-called anti-racists, and radical liberals to redefine racism to include every possible feeling whites and some other racial groups may experience is a good example of subtle intellectual tyranny and collectivism -- what I like to call "sociocultural Marxism."

[@lr1122]

THANK YOU!! I feel like this generation has just completely lost its iq and forgot what the definition of racist means.

[@73aven]

Bingo

[@flapjack2330]

It's not racist to prefer people with a different colour! That's like saying if you prefer people who are tall, or people who have blue eyes you're racist. We're all attracted to different types of people, and that's just human code so that we're not all attracted to the same person and end up dying out. You can't hell the kind of person you see as more attractive. It's just the way you were born, the same way anybody is born black or white, and you can't discriminate people against that. In my opinion, I think Hispanic people are the most attractive, but that's just me.

[@zdvxr]

It’s not racist to have a sexual preference, you can’t control who you are attracted to.

[@darren253]

Yes its offensive to your Ancestors of what they went through. Black and White people have nothing in Common with each other. We have different cultures. You are basically saying Black or Black Women are not good enough.

[@why-cooking]

If you objectify a woman, you're seeing them as something less than human, and if it's purely based on her race, then it's racism. This went hand-in-hand with other forms of racism in colonial times. Extending sexual objectification or racial fetishism to dating preferences is, frankly, conflation-however, I really don't think that's what this video is arguing for, but it could be made clearer.

[@why-cooking]

@1 2 Like I said, you objectify someone if you see them as less than human, as a sexual object rather than as a human being, as something that's just a more realistic version of a sex doll. You objectify someone based on race if you do the above but only to a certain race of people. This is different from a sexual preference because sexual preferences do not mean you objectify people.

[@supercal3944]

There’s a lot of men who are into asian girls lately because they are asian lol. Is having yellow fever considered racist?

[@why-cooking]

@@supercal3944 I'm Asian myself, so I wouldn't be calling everyone who's into Asian girls racist lol. Being into Asian girls isn't objectification.

[@cockoffgewgle4993]

Everyone "objectifies" everyone. Men are objectified FAR more than women but it's never acknowledged. "Sexual objectification" barely exists in society, it's illegal in fact. Meanwhile, objectifying bodies for labour, protection and money is all normalised. If a man pays on the first date, a woman is objectifying him for his money. Being sexually attracted to someone and wanting to have sex with them is in no way viewing them as "less than human". That makes no sense whatsoever. Humans are sexually attracted to other humans. Men are very sexually driven creatures, and view women in sexual terms. It's basic biology. While women view men in the terms I've specified above: they view them as labour, protection and resource "objects".

[@urdoom]

i think date somebody based on their race is ok depending on context. for example: if you find beauty in dark skin, ok! if you find beauty in light skin, ok! but i feel like theres a limit. you dont got to date somebody SOLELY based on their skin color

[@Eisenbison]

Are you really sure you're not kidding, Channel 4? This is the kind of thing cancel culture should REALLY be going after.

[@ktc1419]

Okay, I'm racist then. It doesn't matter if you are black, white, hispanic etc. It's honestly just true love of what matters. I will be 100 percent honest one of the reasons I want a white girl is because of future children but I don't think you get to decide if it's racist or not. The key word is attraction. Also, so what if men like white girls more? It is true, I will say it White girls are more attractive then black women and so what? There are other black men who like the same race so just stop complaining of what race other people like damn.

[@Ytremz]

Nothing you're saying is controversial lol date whom you like, think what you like!

[@ross8474]

Still glad i am white and my wife is brown

[@orgazed1859]

if you prefer dating black women over white women or just hispanic women over all then thats a preferance, if you dont want to go out with women because of their race then there is a problem.

[@Ytremz]

I don't think so. People are allowed to have racial dating preferences - it's just personal taste. Racism is about assuming superiority.

[@myself2noone]

Got to wonder why that would matter. A long term relationship is doomed if it's based on a fettish. And if it's a one night stand who cares what the reasons are? Waisted effort to really put much thought into this.

[@SCTproductionsJ5]

Just an in-your-face or "bold" attitude. It would turn ya off if you value humility, but some people don't.

[@padussia]

How do I tell people that are the same race as me that I'm not racist, or don't have the same views about race as they do? I ask this because I really hate hearing racist rants even from people who are in the same race as me. Because I'm the same race, some people feel like they are entitled to throw up their racist rants to me, even if they don't know me from Adam. Then, get offended when I just walk away without saying anything.

[@laurenmiller4824]

Uhhhhhhh. Without watching, No. It’s racist to think you have to stay dating/married in your own race with no exceptions. (Usually has a lot to do with wanting to keep your race ‘pure’) In fact interracial relationships and marriages are often beautiful. Shows that despite language, cultural, or just significant differences you can still work to understand and love that person. :) as in you should date someone who you enjoy and respect. Don’t choose someone based solely on their race but by their character. Get wrecked if you think I’m wrong.

[@alexandria_aesthetic]

She meant in the video don't date the person if your just dating because of there race and fetishizing them

[@GimJibbo]

Go and pay your toll.

[@eye787]

There’s nothing with everyone finding love outside their race, just be that person who shows off/ presents their significant other as a “ prize “ to put down another or same race.

[@steamer1]

Love how people are commenting on the video title before watching the video. Very informative.

[@lewisbracken5520]

why would anyone watch a video with a racist title like this one?

[@Palladiumavoid]

You know society has fallen when you have to ask if something is racist

[@dazzlingdaniel3861]

As you can see, I’m a black person. I am also of Nigerian descendent just happen to be predominantly attractive to white females. They call it a “preference” but that’s how I feel. I grew up in a multi-cultural background and a lot of my friends I have are white.

[@garrygarryson520]

2:38 so do whites, asians, indians, ect. Literally every race has this😂🤦‍♂️

[@TheCrinkledFox_theOne]

Exactly, just happened to me a few days ago and I'm a white male

[@rwwr7513]

@@TheCrinkledFox_theOne how?

[@onlyforbooksmyob2209]

Ok let’s break this down. A) wanting your kids to be a certain way is not racist, it’s shallow but it’s also normal. I for one want ginger kids, as a mixed race person with my genes this is never going to happen but nonetheless as a child I always thought I wanted ginger kids because I read too much Harry Potter and because I thought gingers were beautiful and I wanted it. But infinitely more than the way they look I want my kids to be strong and kind and compassionate and most of all, seeing as by virtue of my own mixed ethnicity they will also be mixed race I never want them to have to see a any title like this because it made me feel awful, like being mixed race is a product of racism! Like there is something wrong with it. And I know I know she isn’t saying all mixed race relationships are “bad” she’s only saying that fetishisation is bad... except is she? She says for example, “mixed race is the largest growing category in the UK” As if that’s somehow a bad thing? What because it contrasts with the fact people prefer lighter skinned people? Surely all that proves is people don’t really care what you look like. I personally felt like she was treating being mixed race as some kind of disease, or odd mutation that is inexplicably spreading despite all natural inclination. It’s infuriating and condescending and frankly racist. B) having a fetish, is not a crime. Finding a particular kind of person attractive not a crime, if your problem is that people only do it to experiment because it’s taboo then MAYBE stop making it seem like a massive undertaking that is somehow taboo: “Next Time you think You want to try dating outside your race”... yes next time I make a great effort to peep my head out of the tiny identity box you have put me in that has literally nothing to do with who I am as an individual I will think about why people like you have made it into something that seems rebellious as opposed to completely normal. C) the problems she talked about, people being reduced to their physical attributes, people dating other people not for their personalities but because of their physicality, men saying things like “I’ve never been with a black woman” can be problematic. Like I said types and preferences are ok and attraction is important but people should be seen as more than just their physical attributes. That’s said, we’ve had a word for that for a very long time and it has nothing to do with race, it’s called objectification. When someone reduces me to my boobs it feels bad but it isn’t racist it’s sexist, same for BBCs. This is not a race issue why are they making it one? And even if it was, thanks for not mentioning any of the other races that get sexualised ummm including white people. The buy a Russian wife scandal? Or the Asian women shipped to America in human trafficking rings in the late 20th century. Get some perspective.

[@caitlinlhotellier1231]

Direct, no walking on egg shells. This video is really good! Very informative

[@lewisbracken5520]

pure propagandistic cancer.

[@caitlinlhotellier1231]

@@lewisbracken5520 All she says is make sure you date people for the right reasons? Seems pretty normal and fair

[@JazzyJ1994]

I’m not going to lie I had a issue with interracial relationships for a while. I never had an issue with the individual alone but as soon as a black person dates a white person or a Latina I’ve always seen it as. it doesn’t look right to me. But with therapy I’ve come to grips that it has nothing to do with me and it’s better to leave it alone even if I don’t necessarily see it as ok.

[@MsJessedean]

. Is that thing a girl or a guy ?! .