Is Motherhood Monotonous And Boring? | Good Morning Britain

[@MJ31579]

What is with all the shaming? She said it is boring but she'll gladly do it. She's being a responsible mom while explaining her feelings. Like what's the big whoop. Different people also appreciate different ages. She might enjoy it when her kids are a bit older and they can travel with her. While other moms only appreciate when the kids are babies.

[@YaBasicMillenial]

My son is amazing but motherhood is not amazing. I was 30 and a professional, I found it really boring, lonely and depressing

[@boofuu3145]

was you a single mother?

[@YaBasicMillenial]

@@boofuu3145 no

[@caramelandchocolate5195]

Two things can be true at the same time.

[@pearlphalwane7638]

Why is the mother of 4 getting so defensive? If someone doesn’t enjoy motherhood then they don’t enjoy motherhood. End of story. Doesn’t impact her whatsoever

[@charliesarasyoutubeadventu7539]

You shouldn’t have to justify saying that you find aspects of being a parent boring. That shouldn’t be seen as a controversial opinion.

[@YaBasicMillenial]

Some of the comments it’s as if people don’t understand English. People can be grateful they have children but simultaneously find it boring. What’s happened to the general populations basic critical thinking skills?!

[@sarina5352]

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[@grenvallion]

I personally think that not everyone is cut out to be a parent. You can have good parents that aren't really made for it. A lot of people want or have kids because its one of those things that most people think they should do, even though being a parent probably isn't something that would even suit them. By the time some people realize being a parent isn't for them, though, its too late, and they've already got kids. Being bored of looking after your kids means you're never cut out for being a parent. Doesnt nean youre a bad parent, though.

[@varshapatel4537]

So well put, I can definitely agree, I think it’s one of those that people just do because it’s the norm in society. Sad because eventually it’s the kids that are victim. Doesn’t mean these households aren’t functioning well but you have allot of families now where happiness is not central which leads to further issues. Thank for for putting it so well

[@oxtt4314]

My partner feels like this frequently. And I totally understand it. She's a highly educated driven woman who has highly educated driven friends, who don't have kids, who can travel all round the world when they want, can persue their careers to the fullest and never have to compromise. It's completely understandable. Women face a very difficult decision if they have both the desire to have children and are career driven.

[@jujutrini8412]

It’s nice that you think about things from her point of view. I am a mother and the way I see it is that one has to look at the long term even though it is hard at particular times. I have found it boring and monotonous but it gives more joy than anything else ever could. ✌️

[@AM2K2]

See how her friends feel when they are 50-60 with no family

[@hanstristanwolf4858]

​@@AM2K2 See if the children you have would even want to stay with you in your 60s.

[@elenazh3948]

​@@AM2K2 And what is a problem with being 50 or more and having no children if you never wanted or needed them? Just feeling totally happy being who you are? Having all those years to actually getting to know and raising yourself so by the time you are 50 you feel like this whole world is your family. Having so many grateful people in your life because you have time for them when they need you as you aren't so absorbed in your immediate family? Actually feels great! If that's your thing of course . The possibilities of being fulfilled without having kids are endless if that is what you decide to do.

[@sarina5352]

You are an amazing partner because at least you understand others pain. ❤

[@oneandonly1990]

Ive been a mother for 5 months and its one of the most boring, isolating, monotonous, stressful job I've ever had. My baby is a joy but the truth is motherhood is rough! I miss being able to leave out and go to sleep when i want. My baby's smiles and kisses makes it a bit better. It takes a village is a very true statement. We werent meant to raise children with only two parents(and definitely not with only one!).theres supposed to be grandparents, siblings and friends able to help a mother and child(ren) when necessary.

[@user-yr2vp6co3q]

You have only been a mother for 5 months so i’m not surprised you’re struggling, as time goes by i’m sure you will get used to it. Its still all new too you

[@user-yr2vp6co3q]

and as your child gets older it will get easier and they will start to become less needy

[@sarina5352]

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[@PaladinesAngel]

Is it really someone else’s job to help you raise your kids that really only you and your partner had a hand in deciding? Unless you asked your parents if they wanted to raise more children then that’s a bit (a LOT) of a cheek to expect them to just help out raising children they never had a choice in having. Don’t you think?

[@oneandonly1990]

@@user-yr2vp6co3q Thanks

[@mary_syl]

People should stop generalising this topic because it's highly different from parent to parent 👍 It's helpful too if more mothers come forward and speak honestly about it because it's often not fulfilling or cheery, which doesn't mean that it's not also important or also rewarding. Overall parents aren't happier than childless people and there's plenty of research on the topic, so let's just be honest about it.

[@liamblack2574]

Wouldn’t give it up for a second… but there is a lot of boring.. even sad parts… inbetween those great moments of parenthood….. and like this Lady I do those boring parts for my kids.. I’d do anything for them but I have no shame saying I find it hard and boring for large parts of the time.. there’s nothing wrong with that

[@swimmingduck9905]

I don't think it's actually motherhood that people find monotonous or boring, I think it's the other stuff going on in their lives that they're mixing up with motherhood. For instance, domesticity is not motherhood, it's just part of being an adult. Washing dishes constantly is boring, interacting with your child is fun. People with more children have to wash more dishes (unless they can afford a dishwasher) so they think they're not enjoying their life and don't want to have more kids when actually they should say chores are monotonous and boring, not children

[@floridastitcher1]

I feel the older woman was shaming the younger. It should be ok to express how you feel. I was a SAHM for 18 years and wouldn’t change it for anything, but there were times when I felt isolated and bored. I got really sick of cleaning the same counters 10 times a day. But I created things to do and developed friendships with other SAHM moms which really helped .

[@neptunestyxnotfound]

You think everyone else is happy with their job? Oh please, every job becomes monotonous after sometime, it's part of the process. BTW, welcome to reality.

[@carissarosalieshillingford1571]

I totally agree. The question is “is motherhood boring” and the answer is, yes it can be for many people sometimes. It may not be for others. Nobody is complaining or saying they shouldn’t do the job. The point of the conversation is to talk about these complex feelings openly so nobody feels isolated and alone.

[@boofuu3145]

dont you clean your counter anymore?

[@AlexandraAndStuff]

I am not "career driven"', but I'm freedom driven". I realize my corporate job is BS, but it's a money tool for me that gives me the ability to enjoy important stuff. Having a complete control over my free time is the most important thing to me, and I love being out, roaming the forest for hours with my dog, going on vacation whenever I want, being spontaneous and thinking about another adventure. I don't know why many people associate this kind of lifestyle with empty drinkig/partying and screwing around. I do none of those things, I don't drink, I am in a stable healthy relationship, my idea of a party is cooking for loved ones and enojoying nature and the sun. I would rot away if I was chained to a baby, repeating the same schedule every day. I realize some people apreciate it, but for me routine is soul destroying. Luckily I realized it early enough to not make any mistakes under pressure.

[@msicaer]

me 2

[@louisrosson5688]

No it’s part of being a mother

[@rachidmerzouki2005]

It's called LIFE! Why do people care too much about finding excitement in everything ALL THE TIME! There is no such a thing!

[@kathleenweinberg6442]

Good morning 🌄🌞🌄🌞🌄 everyone

[@deadsoulrob]

Noone has the right to tell us how we feel and for mothers that is the case too, they dont have to love their child, its really not a requirement to do so.

[@MrSoda007]

Yet going into an office everyday is just amazing 😂 I can’t wait to go babysit my wee cousins later

[@jujutrini8412]

Babysitting is very different to being a full time mother. I spent years looking after my siblings kids and then when I had a child it was totally different.

[@MrSoda007]

@@jujutrini8412 are you glad you had children

[@inesarif8497]

I don’t think motherhood is boring, I think it’s a choice tho because of the huge responsibility

[@BeccaAl]

Gosh it really can be when they are so young. Esp in lockdown but also if your friends don’t have kids or you move away from support networks. Only thing I disagree with is that fathers don’t hold an equal responsibility to do those boring tasks like nappies, washing, beige meals, play centres and even some kids parties, though they are more loud, annoying and contagious than boring. Love Ashley, she’s a gem and a good mum. I’ve found it gets more interesting with kids as they age bc their little words and personality starts coming out, that can be fun 🤞🏼All the best to any parent struggling!!💚

[@Jumpyman_thegamerYT]

You see, most men don’t want to provide for a woman that brings nothing to the table 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@BeccaAl]

@@Jumpyman_thegamerYT And what do you bring ‘to the table’? Besides the fact I bring almost all my families meals ‘to the table’ where we eat together everyday! My partner actually does take care of and spend time with OUR children. A great example of a modern dad. Readers; here we have Jumpyman who demands his partner brings to the table bc he’s a gamer guy who can trickshot! What a catch. Vs happy, if sometimes a bit bored family Mother 🤦🏻‍♀️ Bro, do you even have a table?!

[@oxtt4314]

​@@BeccaAlwell said

[@Jumpyman_thegamerYT]

@@BeccaAlWow, you cannot be this toxic. I never once mentioned you in my comment, and if you think I did, then you're just insecure. If you think someone merely bringing themselves to the table is somehow acceptable in a relationship, then you have much to learn. Let me guess, you want a traditional man who provides for you? Yet I bet you're also the type of person who thinks making a sandwich for their partner is called being 'subservient'. And then you have the audacity to try and shame me when I never once talked about you. Snap out of that victim mindset.

[@DarrenBeasley-n2q]

@@BeccaAl "Bro, do you even have a table?!" Lol! :)

[@beckbussell1]

How disrespectful to the want to be mums . Best job in the world!❤

[@liamblack2574]

For you…..if more people were honest about the hardships and negative parts of parent hood people would put more thought into having them instead of telling everyone it’s the best job ever.. when it’s just not for a lot of people. How disrespectful of you to think that your opinion is the only one that matters. My and my wife wanted four children. After 2 she said absolutely no more as she does not find it as “wonderful” as she was lead to believe. Again… like lots of men and women

[@hearmeoutbro]

I imagine so. Hence why I’ve never wanted and never will want kids. Can’t think of anything worse.

[@mjl2904]

Once you have a kid it is no longer about you. I get that women can struggle as they have no adults conversation and are isolated as we don’t live in communities anymore. I have a friend that is going through this. However calling parenthood boring seems a bit privileged. I think once the kids are a bit older and the average woman goes back to work most would want to spend more time with their family rather than at a job where their boss cares nothing about them

[@ruthhadfield9726]

it's hard at times but never boring at all....sadly we have got rid of the village for women which have made it harder

[@carolynkernan939]

I agree with her

[@Scoutbq1l]

who? lol

[@varshapatel4537]

You know when couples get divorced they always say “ they don’t think about children”. Young mother is the prime example of why some women would be better off without children, gone is personal responsibility for making choices you know affect you in the long term. The elder mother is a true role model, this kinda stuff may not seem important but it does trickle down to the kids. Being uninterested does damage the development of young children

[@andrepereira9512]

Bla bla bla all she does if wanted to carry on that life going out DJ do what ever you want them don’t be a mother is powerful very rewarding for you life and new society precious time memories love and joy

[@Tlamatini.234]

If a mom is fed up with kids, immagine a teacher who has to support their nasty behaviour and their horrible parents who complain about everything

[@dinoworld112]

How can bringing up and rasing your own kids be boring when this is what you wanted to be a mother

[@jujutrini8412]

Because it can be boring at times. One thing has nothing to do with the other. It’s strange to not understand that.

[@theblackbrit3727]

Parenting is a job. If you have been doing the same job for years, would it not get boring at times?? How many people come into the office on Monday and complain and cannot wait until Friday again so they can have the weekend off??

[@meagain9649]

to say you wish "to k*ll" your child eve as a figure of speech is actually so so weird dark and worrisome that lady scares me because its like she has no heart emotions or empathy and that cant be good for kids

[@MP-uz9xi]

why are people so obsessed with having kids? it's not necessary, there's already too many of us, just enjoy your childfree life.

[@URFUTUREUK]

Having four children on your own whats the point?

[@aaronjamesmoore757]

it should be considered a duty, the children are the next generation for the tribe. A lot of men don't like having to work to provide for their family or defend their land but its a duty and is more satisfying in the long term.

[@Jumpyman_thegamerYT]

We don’t want to provide for a woman who brings nothing to the table 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@aaronjamesmoore757]

@@Jumpyman_thegamerYT exactly my point

[@MJ31579]

She's still doing it though? The same as a parent going to work. They do it out of love but doesn't mean they never complain.

[@aaronjamesmoore757]

@@MJ31579 traditional gender roles is best, if everyone's in the workforce it halves the average wage people get and then they have to pay for childcare which creates a third working member of the family who is probably a working mother herself. You will just end up with stay at home husbands.

[@jacksoncrate]

kids to fight putin

[@JohanaGrey]

If kids were not boring men would spend time with kids rather than playing games after work.

[@dinoworld112]

I think its a matter of maturity this blond thinks its more important that you feel bored then having a duty of care for your own child

[@charitygoldart]

Don't ever just identify women as a hair colour; you sound like a misogynist from the 60's. She clearly understands the child's needs are more important, hence why she's still DOING the boring things. She just wants some understanding that a grown intelligent woman might not find playing finger puppets day after day all that mentally stimulating. The one lacking maturity here is you.

[@balance3201]

Good mother s are the bedrock of society.

[@k1ll3r-_-98]

Hmmmm

[@chimakalu5195]

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[@k1ll3r-_-98]

@@chimakalu5195 🤷‍♂️ I was just the first comment so I thought I’d make it memorable

[@chimakalu5195]

I was the first to comment but deleted it

[@k1ll3r-_-98]

@@chimakalu5195 sure bud

[@agathaveronicathompson131]

Oh my goodness me! 😮 Really!!! Motherhood Boring? Really?!?

[@charitygoldart]

Erm, yeah! Some people aren't stimulated by endless nappy changes, puppet finger games, laundry etc. If you find that stuff interesting, you obviously have very little going on in your brain!

[@kararodrigues7602]

Hi

[@irfan3389]

Why on earth would you have such a headline - it is truly the most rewarding and worthwhile thing anyone can do

[@DarrenBeasley-n2q]

It's incredibly worthwhile to have a sewer system that works in the UK - doesn't mean the job fixing it couldn't possibly be boring. They are two separate issues. I like eating cake and giving cake to others as it makes them feel appreciated and happy - so sometimes I will bake cakes. I find baking really boring.

[@blondie4]

Both can be true.

[@YaBasicMillenial]

And boring

[@melinmove]

Glad i don't have kids

[@user-dk6jb6hq9t]

Saying that most women feel like single mums anyway is probably the most sexist comment I have ever heard

[@SuperSouthchick]

It’s true

[@jujutrini8412]

It’s totally true, especially when they are babies and you’re the sustenance.

[@ibz0991]

I know right? Plenty of fathers take part in child care too, sometimes most of it

[@user-dk6jb6hq9t]

​@prueXo not sure you read what I said. I didn't say what she said was wrong I said it is the most sexist comment I have ever heard

[@user-dk6jb6hq9t]

​@prueXo not sure you read what I said. I didn't say what she said was wrong I said it is the most sexist comment I have ever heard

[@Aspartame69]

Any job you can do in your pajamas is not the hardest job in the world.

[@beyondlondon8600]

Winston Churchill literally ran the country from bed because he was so depressed.

[@DarrenBeasley-n2q]

I think you turned up to the wrong argument.

[@upendasana7857]

said a person who has never looked after young kids before in their life,shopped,cleaned and kept a crying screaming baby happy ...ypu don't know ####

[@MJ31579]

You've obviously not experienced caring for a young child and running the household 24/7, 365.

[@Aspartame69]

@@MJ31579 i was a sole income single dad for nearly 6 years. But ok.

[@Jumpyman_thegamerYT]

She’s the type of person to blame everyone else for her own decisions and actions.

[@ryancoffey838]

I find these women talking very boring

[@EnnayXIX]

"There were times i wanted to kill my children" This woman is dangerous, how can you even think that? YOU chose to bring the child into the world, you CANNOT say you want to kill them?? What the actual fuxk

[@EnnayXIX]

@@jeniferdouglas Nahhh that's exclusively a woman's view. No normal person thinks of committing murder against their own child, even if it's an exaggerated thought. It's attitudes like that which cause trauma to a child, whether you think it's okay or not

[@EnnayXIX]

@@jeniferdouglas There are times I wish I never had children, sure. But I've NEVER thought about killing my child because I'm irritated by them. That's barbaric and frankly sociopathic

[@EnnayXIX]

@@jeniferdouglas I feel horrible for your children. I couldn't imagine having someone so disgusting as you as my mother

[@EnnayXIX]

@@jeniferdouglas Very classy love. Come up with a better response than "u do drug hahaha". At least my daughter has both her parents 🥱🤷

[@EnnayXIX]

@@jeniferdouglas You implied I do drugs with that xanax comment. Hahaha angry feminist is mad because I called her "love" 🤣 classic 🤣 Also it's not very intellectually competent to re-use what I said towards you 🥱

[@laurancegama2138]

WHAT A USELESS TOPIC...IS THERE NO MORE NEWS TODAY?