Is My Girlfriend Crossing Lines With Other Men, Or Just Being Friendly?

[@daveblackman816]

It sounds like she knows what she’s doing…she’s putting herself in situations where she can get in trouble. There’s definitely huge red flags.

[@Mac_Kymera]

This

[@Jakobslander]

Of course she does! She’s telegraphing it. Pay attention to a woman’s ACTIONS, not her words because, in matters of the heart, they lie through their teeth.

[@Kinrod]

Women know exactly what they are doing!!

[@mikegee8345]

💯

[@eltrapo913]

Yuuuuup

[@stevis78]

Correct

[@philyeary8809]

No.such thing as unicorns.

[@BarrenWasteland]

Follow your gut, dont second guess. If she doesn't respect you or vour boundries, shes for the streets. No more double standards, send em packin!

[@6equj-569]

If a woman really likes you, then you don’t have to have conversations about boundaries with her. She’s showing that guy who she really is and she’s never going to change, people never do. He needs to see this relationship for what it truly is which is just a friends with benefits. If he can’t handle just being FWB, then he needs to dump her and go find someone else.

[@6equj-569]

Just because you’re sleeping with a woman, that doesn’t mean that she’s going to be your future wife. A lot of guys don’t understand that and that’s caused by the fear of being alone and inexperience with women.

[@thecurrentmoment]

Even if you were wrong about it, the important thing is that you feel secure in a relationship and if you don't - even if it's your own fault - then it just won't work, as far as I can see. So you'd need to break they off and work on whatever you need to work on in yourself

[@JamesAlexanderMcC]

I'll take this a step further. Stop sleeping with women you don't intend to start a family with. Trust me, sleeping around is pointless and gets you nowhere in life. It's ego stroking.

[@avve9001]

Yeah it's boring.

[@miryanski]

...and it's a waste of time and money.

[@osrsdaily4261]

Sounds like a beta male comment

[@creativeembargo]

@@osrsdaily4261 U will realize this after sleeping with a lot of attractive females. It's meaningless to hoe around, even as a guy. It's just a useless ego boost that distracts you from your purpose.

[@JamesAlexanderMcC]

@@osrsdaily4261 wrong. Go bang a few hundred chicks and tell me how you feel in the end when you have no wife, kids, legacy or foundation to support you into old age. You're wasting your life. The ability to pair bond lessens for men too.

[@avve9001]

A girl who loves a man for real will not do anything that could break his trust. She'd be too afraid to lose him. A girl who is crossing lines has lost her respect and love for the guy (at least it's on a decline) and she is probably trying to monkey branch over to some other dude.

[@Hillywillbilly]

So well said

[@revolutionaryfrog]

This is a great topic, after a month of dating my girlfriend asked if I was OK with her going out to bars late at night to play pool with her single girlfriends and tried to tell me it was just about playing pool. I told her absolutely not, you don't get to go out and act single while in a relationship. She got upset but finally in the end, she understood that if you go out to bars and nightclubs late at night, that men are going to see you as single and its just not appropriate. Go out with your girlfriends to lunch, coffee, bowling etc. that's fine, but I don't date girls who are out partying late at night. Nothing that would positively effect our relationship can come from that.

[@lolzeez4186]

Well put

[@thecurrentmoment]

If you guys are serious about each other, then a question you can ask about anything you do is "what will this do to build and strengthen the relationship/future?" It also helps weed out a lot of things that are just a waste of time, even if they are not damaging per se. And spending time and resources that could have been spent on things that benefit your priorities in life is arguably a form of stealing from those important things, if you are really trying to be focused on building a high quality life.

[@giovannij1368]

If you're in a relationship, you must respect eachother. If you're in a relationship, if a guy asks for her number, it's because he's interested, there's no way she doesn't know that . Same as a guy, you shouldn't be volunteering to give your number out to other women. Imo

[@michael32526]

Y'all that are commenting, thank you. Whenever we as men get weak get or stsrt to question reality, reading these comments is so helpful and eye opening to relatable situations. Thanks gents✊🏼

[@Malitubee]

Agreed this comment section is like a community within itself . I love it

[@MagusCimarron]

Recently went through this. We wasn't in a relationship but we were supposed to be exclusive (yes I know dumb of me). Lied to me repeatedly. I feel like an idiot for tolerating this behavior and doing boyfriend things with her. I let my feelings over rule my logic. Low character. Never again.

[@charlied7087]

Exactly the same story here.. dumped her 7 weeks ago

[@Jakobslander]

You did good. You, probably unbeknownst to you, did other dudes a solid by taking her to task. Now, she understands that her actions have repercussions. By the sounds of it, she’s probably never been checked.

[@MagusCimarron]

You are exactly right. My friend@@Jakobslander

[@kubiz8812]

Happened to me to not that long ago. I dumped her and after some time feeling great again. Don't let them get the best of you. You deserve better.

[@Mac_Kymera]

She strikes me as the type of girl to fly off the handle and say that he's jealous, he's not allowing her to have or make new friends, being unreasonable, and putting all the blame on him for being cautious to these red flags. She DOES belong to the streets because why would she even be entertaining any man or inviting any man giving them the "come f**k me" vibes when she is exclusive with him. Hopefully the guy who posted got well shot of her.

[@alexhish2187]

Yep that’s why he’s here questioning himself when us all looking in are flabbergasted a guy would put up with this shit. She’s already gaslighted him into questioning his own rationale

[@Jakobslander]

It’s really baffling. It really is.

[@mikegee8345]

When she is telling you who she is believe her.

[@stevis78]

The best thing Maya Angelou ever said

[@lolzeez4186]

My girlfriend is unfortunately like this. At the start of the courtship I said I wouldn't be comfortable if she had any guys she's had a past with still in her life. She said that there's no one, so I believed her. I didn't look at the red flags. She said things like she's always gotten along better with guys, has guy friends who I've either never met and only met once after 2.5 years in a relationship and of course, has a bad relationship with her father. Two of the guy friends she mentions the most "helped her through a break up" many years ago. Turns out she used to have a thing with one of the guys but it was "only kissing and flirting". The other guy pops up from time to time and she keeps saying how he's not a good friend and is disrespectful to her....yet he always seems to come back. Last year he asked her for a lift home from the airport to which I said that's inappropriate and why couldn't he get anyone else but her to do it? Eventually she agreed to not pick him up. Next time I see her, she confesses she picked him up. Had another discussion and she says she'll stop talking to him and she'll figure out a way to do so. My dumb ass should've been less trusting because only a month ago I see his name on her phone. Next time i see her, she says she went to his place with her best friend and they played boardgames and drank (but she only had one drink apparently). I again had this conversation with her but I am checked out of the relationship at this point. I love her and want to believe that I can trust her, but the reality is that I can't and I am disappointed I gave her a second shot after her initial lies. There's more, I should really write in to Corey so he can roast me for being a dumbass 😂

[@revolutionaryfrog]

Yea dude that's over. Don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy. I've had the same situation. It sucks but it's best to cut things off.

[@rl3656]

Same. She damaged your trust more than once. When someone shows u who they are, believe them.. My ex said from the start she is gonna give me gray hairs.. And i said i like a challenge😂😂..welppp it didnt end well

[@jeremys3418]

She gotta go .leopards can't change their spots

[@SteveDobbs-hj7fc]

Had something similar happen during courtship phase, although I told her I didn’t want a relationship which I later caved in. But to the point, she let a mutual “guy friend” sleep on her couch because his flight got “canceled”. When I found out, I blocked her, called up a girl I used to have a fling with, went to her place, slept with fling girl and then unblocked her and let her know. I told her each time this kind of thing happens I will sleep with someone else. She never used “guy friends” again. But the relationship started becoming toxic at that point and finally recently ended. The right thing to do is walk away. I finally was able, but after 2 years. I will say I learned a lot about female nature with this relationship though. I feel like it’s rampant in the past 5 years. Women not understanding boundaries and testing you literally all the time. Don’t think I’ve dealt with that much in my prior relationships and how much she fit the mold of modern woman thinking.

[@6equj-569]

The biggest problem that men, especially younger guys, have with women is taking them too seriously and trying to make what’s supposed to be just a fling into a serous relationship.

[@alberik666]

If she is way too friendly giving her phone number to other guys, I would talk to her to stop that behavior right away. No fucking way I would allow that and I know she wouldn't like if I do the same shit to her. If you want a good relationship, you will stay on the line and make sure you don't send bad sign to other guys.

[@MrRoryFrench]

Yeah, my ex-wife was a big flirt, noticably more so than other women in relationships in our social circles. I was uncomfortable with it but believed I needed to play it cool and not be so insecure. So did she. Of course nowdays I recognise such discomfort is my intuition alerting me to my boundaries. She eventually cheated and left me for her affair partner. She wasn't mine it was just my turn 😁😆 I thought her family were pretty solid. Her parents were still married and she spoke to her father very "respectfully", but he was a bit of a doormat to his wife an daughter - always trying to keep the peace and avoid confrontation. I'm still not sure how (if at all) this contributed to her behaviour as an adult.

[@lolzeez4186]

It annoys me how much men get shamed over being "insecure" when it's our instincts trying to protect us. I see it all the time when guys ask questions on Reddit. They're so afraid of offending everyone that they shame themselves for even considering that their girlfriend could be unfaithful

[@Jakobslander]

What kept you from checking her on her flirty behavior? What were you afraid of? Think Cesar Millan, the Dog Whisperer: as far as your ex was concerned, her flirty behavior was implicitly OKd by you with your unwillingness to call her out and her bull sh it.

[@kiddytube3915]

Dude, same shit man.. doormat fathers are the fucking worst. Watch how the mother disrespects the dad, that’s your future…

[@kiddytube3915]

@@Jakobslandermy ex wife would flirt with my single uncle.. how the fuck do you even ask her to stop that? It’s like she’s just being friendly. A real mind fuck. How can you be jealous about your wife flirting with a close family member that you respect and love?

[@jeremys3418]

Why do the replies disappear in the comments section?

[@earthpart3]

Just friendly lol yeah sure. Definitely speak up dude. I dated a girl like this many many years ago when I didn't know any better.

[@starseed855]

Me too bro. Never fucking again

[@timnichols7760]

I'm only 2 minutes in but if she's giving her number out to other guys it's time to cut bait.

[@CreatingExcellence]

I’ve dated dozens of girls like this. Keep exploring other options. She’s likely going to lie and do it anyway. Do not be exclusive with her. Feel free to hang out and have fun with her but keep it at that. There’s no reason to put yourself through wondering what she’s up to or if she’s where she says she is. Match and mirror what she’s doing. Go around talking to everyone and getting girls numbers. This girl is most likely not relationship material based on what you have shared.

[@Jakobslander]

Fellas, if your lady likes to engage in behaviors that undermine the relationship and erode trust, THERE IS A REASON FOR IT: she doesn’t see you as a long term prospect, so she starts looking for other partners. At that point, it’s your decision. Not hers. Man the f-ck up.

[@HOLLYWOOD-ww1dm]

If shes giving out her number to guys than she Cleary doesn't value the relationship. she's looking for a new branch to swing too.

[@Georgesspierre]

When your woman gives her number to some guy, you're done. Wether you want it or not. But you can chose to stop wasting your time with her sooner and let her go.

[@Mikeh2077]

Been there recently. She kept hanging out with her best friend who is a guy, but I knew she was waiting for him to make a move so she could dump me. Ended it before it got to that point but yeah. Never A-gain.

[@CoachSteveJandS]

If there has not been a discussion, there needs to be. If there has been a talk about it, than a clearly set boundary is being crossed (knowingly)

[@motorcycleguy73]

It's a waste of time talking to her. She knows what she's doing

[@deanjamesmatthewbrunton3091]

Women aren't stupid, They know what they're doing. She won't be faithful. She loves male attention and the other things that come with it.

[@namesbond4332]

thanks coach. hoping for more content about this topic

[@SapiensIndica]

Follow the instincts

[@74GenX]

Him asking the question tells me that he already knows the answer 😮

[@mikegee8345]

Exactly, oh he knows alright

[@shars4782]

Not wifey material. Hang out, have fun, hook-up and learn. She's on the practice squad.

[@stevis78]

FWB material at best

[@MarioMartinez-fk6jw]

You are being nice coach. Truth is, she belongs to the streets!

[@zoraster3749]

If you’re asking the question the answer is yes.

[@user-ib4ym9mj7p]

I can't deal with this even if they are just cool with each other.

[@sammyjoehugh]

Great video coach

[@miryanski]

The coach is spitting solid game again!

[@KUFanFromNJ]

She's FTS!

[@justallah2785]

Why are people taking any relationship less than being a wife seriously.

[@Jakobslander]

Because they need to vet them.

[@dunn1375]

how exactly are they supposed to qualify the girl if they don’t? The fu**

[@dbradley3173]

Before I even started the video, just looking at the title, my very first thought was, "if you have to ask..." lol. That's telling...

[@jakesanchez3202]

He needs to just walk away.

[@Billybunts]

Narcissist bird right there

[@nickp6498]

It’s really hard to tell because if a woman is getting attention from a guy she thinks is good looking or charming, she’ll kinda flirt automatically even without meaning to. It’s in her nature. I’m not saying that’s an excuse, but I am saying that this is the reality of women’s behavior.

[@Jakobslander]

They won’t call it flirting though. They’ll gaslight you and tell you it’s all in your head… while they do it in front of your nose.

[@Jakobslander]

Not only that, I’ll go as far as to say that women have eyes and have multiple men in your circle of friends checked out. You can tell because once in their presence, they will start using flirty behavior to get their attention. In front of you too.

[@silvermine2033]

A comment for the algorithm!

[@Alvaro-qz6qk]

Hell yeah

[@VoiceOfThe]

Recreational use only

[@bigdaddyv1021]

If she knew what she was doing wasn’t right, then it wouldn’t be hidden behind your back ? (It’s happening to me, but I’m in shock.) the people aren’t even attractive. It’s so weird after being constantly accused? Soo much non stop, why would she be worried about me ? That’s the most frustrating part.

[@FUNNYMANERICWHITE]

Love your videos. Remember watching you years ago.

[@georgepay]

On point as per 🎯

[@thechief762]

One possibility is that there is some need the dude isnt providing. He may not be aware of it but should observe carefully if that is the case. One possibility because he said " she mostly works with men" is that she doesnt have a good set of female friends. I was in friend zone with such a woman she had no observable female friends she went from guy to guy making friends and told me it seemed strange that guys " always end up acting weird" and when she put them in friend zone they ended contact.

[@Jakobslander]

This has ZERO to do with the dude. Just so that you know, in the infidelity forums, they have a female’s lack of female friends as a top 5 infidelity red flag. This has to do with women being utterly intolerant of promiscuous women in their circle of friends. Women HATE promiscuous women and men should too.

[@lukeArmstrong524]

ITS very simple.....just walk away from them.

[@ingandro3535]

Hey Coach, I had the exact problem with my ex and once I saw this behavior I dipped without even having the conversation and drawing the boundary, was it right what I did ?

[@starseed855]

Yes, absolutely! you don't know how much stress you've saved and sleepless nights…

[@michael32526]

​@@starseed855Exactly!

[@maniacaldrop92]

What about if they add them on social media is that the same as giving out their number these days

[@DamianGshow]

No shade toward coach but when he's mentioning movie land isn't the real world but he mentions it's a wonderful life as a point of reference for many of his points. What's the difference?

[@earthpart3]

Most modern movies with love stories in them are not a good representation of real life... A wonderful life is a better representation because the guy is focused on his purpose and he's not chasing or stalking the girl. I think a lot of movies nowadays are made by clueless guys who don't know how the real world works and think that stalking a girl and doing everything you can to lock her down will eventually win her over

[@DamianGshow]

@earthpart3 thank you for the insight. My parents are from that time period and they had told me in the past that their experience was not similar to the movie (ny dad loves.the movie). But I can see why the time of yester-year is held in high regard.

[@TimTrueheart]

Buy the book and stop cherry picking every video *continues cherry picking every video*

[@Xxxxxrrr6464]

You can do better bro, get out while your still somewhat on top, have some self respect.

[@Xxxxxrrr6464]

Gods work Corey

[@starseed855]

I was waiting for the mug “ She belongs to the streets!” Btw I recently ordered one ;)

[@maniacaldrop92]

Also I have a girl who constantly is trying to make guy friends and whatnot and always come in and tell me about these dudes life stories and I have already told her I don't care I don't want to hear it and yet I'm the biggest coward all this stuff for insecure all that and for not wanting guy friends I don't want her to have guy friends I don't I know how we all operate even when they have girlfriends I don't know

[@manuelz2305]

And just FYI guys if you have sex with a girl who is drunk, she’s not able to give consent

[@kvs7876]

If she sounds like a BB and acts like a BB …..yup she’s a BB

[@AnthonyBolanos-nk6ji]

Triple thumbs up

[@SomeDumbGuy01]

Painting all women with a broad brush. Not ok Painting all Red Pill with a broad brush. Ok It's kind of contradictory, LOL

[@philyeary8809]

I agree with most of your advice, yet when you retire, tell me if you still believe in the elusive Unicorn femme....?

[@littleanimalchannel1]

question, my girlfriend loves popping my pimples and putting on face product and mask on me, she also said that she loves taking care of me... is that her feminine side coming out? why do women like popping pimples?

[@codemiesterbeats]

It is some weird innate behavior that apparently all or most primates do (grooming)... Well it may not be particularly pleasurable to pop your own pimples etc... It is one of those oddly satisfying things. Pretty normal I would say. If anything it is a small sign that they are comfortable with you. (Although it is just a small sign) Anyways you probably seen the videos of monkeys picking at each other's heads etc... Same same I guess 🤣

[@littleanimalchannel1]

@@codemiesterbeats hahah yeah she absolutely loves to do it she even bought things to pop them easily lmao so win win i look better and she is happy

[@jeremys3418]

My ex would pull my nose and ear hairs pop pimples on my shoulders 😅

[@patrickh619]

The fact that she told him after the fact (giving out phone #): 1. She's totally naive about the whole thing 2. She doesn't care a bit about his feeling thinking whatever she is not his problem (cheating or not). 3. She's testing him (girl wants her boyfriend to be jealous). 4. She's pushing it (to the point accepting her real self - a whore).

[@Jakobslander]

I would say it’s a mix between 3 and 4. One thing we men don’t understand about female behavior is their insinuates. We men think on absolutes. Females think in feelings and articulate their feelings using euphemisms. So when your significant other says that she wants to go out clubbing with her single friends, she is literally telling you that she wants space between you and her. And she needs the space because she wants to put herself in positions where cheating can (stealthily) take place. As simple as that.

[@MalXcontent]

The behaviour of this woman is definitely not appropriate. Another observation I would like to make is it would seem, her friend is actively trying to sabotage your relationship with her. Immature little sl🤬t girl friends get jealous and they are cunning and manipulative. My advice, don’t get in too deep with this girl. Don’t waste your time as she seems likely to break your heart after stringing you along for months or even years. You will very likely find out one day that she f🤬cked some other guy that her sl🤬t girlfriend introduced to her. I say get out while you can.