Is 𝓟𝓻o𝓼𝓽𝓲𝓽𝓾𝓽𝓲0𝓷 Considered Cheating in Japan? | REACTION with TAKASHii from Japan

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0:37 Introduction to Takashii and Japan Cheating Video
1:15 Reacting to Aba and Preach Reaction
6:03 Is Cheating Forgivable as a friend?
8:04 Cultural Differences between Japan and other countries
9:56 Japanese Girls Opinions on Cheating
12:53 Japanese Women Using Male Prostitutes
13:48 Japanese Dating Culture
16:46 Is Prostitution Cheating (Female perspective)
18:30 How not to Generalize Cheating in Japan
20:03 Use of "J*p"
21:06 What is normal vs not? "Cheating is Japanese Culture"
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[@MaxDCapo]

Shout out to Takashii for doing his first reaction based video on KZbin! What are your thoughts on this topic?

[@kiabtoomlauj6249]

Being half Japanese, I am surprised YOU were surprised the Japanese, in Japan, have whatever sub-cultures the West has but simply pushes such pursuits to more extremes. I am not Japanese (although I have a brother who speaks Japanese and has bee living and teaching Japanese kids near Tokyo the last 15 years and my first and second year college roommate was Japanese American) but from what I've been able to observe, the Japanese are among the most extreme (e.g., in all Asian cultures, the Japanese are most rigid, most disciplined, most traditional, most experimental, most modern, most X, most Y, and most Z). Most Japanese, in Japan, pretend to be quite insular, isolated, and not caring about adapting outside ideas, norms, cultures, languages, rules, etc. In theory, that is. Yet, you KNOW that is just not true, in practice. In practice, the Japanese emulate Westerners --- especially White people --- to the highest of degrees: they want to do everything Westerners do but they simply have a certain strange twist to it. From fashion, to prostitution, to technologies, to family structures, to sense of right and wrong... they emulate Westerners all the time... it's just with a very strange and, more often than not, extreme twist to it... The Japanese broadcast a sense of false belief to the world that they are, for example, very traditional bound, very conservative, very inner-directed & very culturally-driven... with names, last names, norms, and everything being very Japanese... but here in the West, over 50% of Japanese women marry outside of their ethnic group (largely marrying Whites, as they have an exceptionally high admiration for White people and cultures, it seems). Most Japanese born and raised in the West, for example, never bother to retain their Japanese language, either. Those who know it, they purposefully "go back" to re-learn it after they've grown. The Japanese approach to worldly setting, to me, looks more like the approach of children from extremely religious families: by their parents side, they pretend to be very religious, very conservative, very obedient, and tradition-bound; but once they're far away from their parents or community, their attitudes and pursuits take on an oddly promiscuous dimension, in whatever they engage in... Other Asians groups and cultures don't seem to be THAT extreme in their Western pursuits, both individually and at the group/cultural/societal level. Both in Asia and here in the West, MOST other Asian groups --- outside of the Japanese --- have a much more moderate approach, when it comes to their things, their values, their traditions, and/or their beliefs VERSUS the things, the ideas, the values, traditions, and/or the beliefs of the West or those of White people's/Europeans'...

[@trinidadvera4638]

It's all about trust and honesty. On a committed, monogamous relationship, cheating is not ok.

[@shin-ishikiri-no]

Says the Westerner, predictably.

[@michelleg7]

@@shin-ishikiri-nothe problem is Japan does have issues with honesty, issues with communication and an absolutely seuxally repressed country

[@blinkx1070]

As a westerner, I think our perspective on friends who cheat is like this: "If they are willing to lie to someone whom they love, what's stopping them from lying to me?" I don't want to be friends with someone who I can't tell if they're being truthful or not. I'm not going to make a huge scene about it to my friend but I would probably stop talking to them if I found one of them was cheating and had no remorse.

[@jmbickham]

Nah. If the girl isn’t a friend or an acquaintance, nah… none of my business. Vice-versa as well.

[@olive4naito]

I agree. Also, if your girlfriend cheats on you, that friend that would stay friends with you (even if you cheated) will probably just say "There's plenty of fish in the sea my friend." And that will be his utmost highest effort to console you. The guy who wouldn't want to be friends with you if you cheated is more likely to be a better emotional support if your girlfriend cheated on you. (And will care when his sister gets cheated on).

[@jmbickham]

@@olive4naito eh? That’s a bit of a stretch.

[@holigatis7588]

Only women are like this, men don't give a fuck if their friends cheat. They even protect each other.

[@dydx_]

*American perspective. Europeans don't mistrust their friends that easily.

[@neisanland2503]

I wouldn't be able to cheat. it just makes me vomit just thinking about it. I'm about Honor.

[@fiora5643]

Me too and it feels so much more special, when you find someone who shares these beliefs. My bf feels the same way.

[@shin-ishikiri-no]

It sounds as if it's a personal problem.

[@eksen7221]

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[@H2SO4H20]

Having followed your separate channels, it is wonderful to see both of you together in the same video. I hope that you two will publish additional joint videos in the future. Excellent!

[@gemelwalters2942]

The whole "it's a cultural" thing a bit of a weak excuse. A lot of things that we recognize as wrong today used to be culturally accepted. When we learn how harmful they are it's for us to adapt and move on from them. Encouraging depravity means encouraging the perverse behaviors that come along with it. Nobita has some interviews with prostitutes and some of them talk about services they provide for men including "pretending to sexually assault a schoolgirl". And then ppl wonder why Japan has a women only train because men were groping women and underaged girls. Or why women who are raped there often don't report it because they feel they have no recourse. These men eventually try to live out these fantasies and often it's one of the reasons they fail their wives because they have developed these unhealthy fetishes that most women will not accommodate. You are creating that unhealthy and destructive environment. Emotionally, many of these Japanese men and women seem to be very broken.

[@mikeysmoooth5322]

You hit the nail on the man! The "cultural" thing is bogus. People have to look at things more objectively and see things for what they are. Japan is a peaceful country no doubt but you can't have all that peace without something bad coming back around. It is a country that really pushes conformity and rules down the peoples throat and stricts them down so bad they can't be themselves. Look at the suicide, the low self esteem, the depression. Yes they are broken, like a bird locked in a cage. It is a country of the deprived, that's why you have men and even some women getting sex outside their marriage hell even some married women go to extent of becoming full on pornstars. All they think is in line with rules and not challenging it making no critical thinking judgements. It's self destructive the way I see and they keep putting themselves down.

[@melody8818]

👍👏

[@joshuarowe8410]

Japanese people really like these weak or convenient excuses. I would call it a cop-out. Another one is "島国だから"

[@WillMonroe6]

Whenever I see the arguments and videos that Japanese women allow cheating it doesn't really seem like they really encourage it, but more like something they put up with or bite their tongue down. Like if there's a Japanese couple in a serious long term relationship and the women allows the guy to cheat does it come from a place of them being open minded? Or is it more something you don't want the guy to leave you so you allow him to see a sex worker to keep him happy?

[@UshioKiss]

I agree; the idea of "the other woman" and "the jealous wife" are extremely common in Japanese media, and obviously those are fictitious, but that still means there is some expectation for commitment when you are a couple that at any point had love. It's definitely more common among men but I also think that a lot of women cheat, like in the video. But I think this is true around the world, not just Japan. The unique thing about Japan is probably the sex work aspects and how it's not always considered cheating if it's just physical.

[@fiora5643]

Honestly I don’t think most women would love their husband as much, if they do this. Japanese women may tolerate it because in their society if they don’t they feel as if there aren’t many options and want to feel loved but I guarantee that they will not love their men as much as they would’ve with commitment.

[@jmbickham]

… and how many Japanese women cheat, go to host clubs and professional services? They’ve done videos on that too…

[@UshioKiss]

@jmbickham I think statistically this is a small, but not insignificant, portion of women. The important thing to remember is that they don't represent the whole of Japan, only the nightlife in big cities is really like this

[@jmbickham]

@@UshioKiss Dude. I lived there for nearly a decade, have a degree in Japan studies and read/write/speak Japanese fluently for decades now. Yeah, it’s a generalization… that how generalizations work… some feel that way and some don’t. Like it’s a generalization to say all Japanese people have straight hair, but enough do so that those with curly hair are the exception, not the rule. So I’d venture to say that (as Max pointed out) without a large enough sample size, across various regions of Japan, different age groups and relationship statuses, with questions being always phrased the exact same way… it’s not particularly conclusive or scientific. HOWEVER, my own experience with friends and colleagues in Japan has been like Max and Takashii… a lot of people are ok with “professional services”.

[@smittycal]

Watching Takahashi watching himself being reacted too is awesome 😂 Especially since I watch both channels.

[@MaxDCapo]

I love being meta😂

[@smittycal]

@@MaxDCapo hey, someone has to do it 😂 Keep it up! 👍

[@chelsea65030]

Max and Takashii doing a video together? YESSS! 😍 About the topic, I love Takashii's videos so much (I lived in Japan for many years and miss it), but I do think that he might have gotten more varied types of responses if he had interviewed different demographics. For e.g. moms in their 30s or 40s (both working and homemakers) in every day settings. I'd be curious to know if the responses would be similar or different. Me personally, despite being influenced by Japanese culture, I wouldn't accept cheating. I prefer that he just leave me first and then is with someone else. 🤷‍♀

[@oliviagordon2865]

Maxx!!! I love you two together, do more collabs! I watch both channels!

[@MaxDCapo]

More to come!

[@Bluestroke_]

In the end relationships are very cultural as well, I feel like in Japan their concepts of love and healthy relationships are different from the west’s

[@AIIIAKS-vn4co]

Statistics show that 80% of Japanese women say they do not tolerate cheating, and there are many couples in Japan who have broken up because of cheating. And the percentage of cheating is higher among Westerners than among Japanese to begin with. What is horrifying is that there are so many Westerners who watch these videos and mistakenly believe that cheating is completely acceptable in Japan.

[@snowcountry322]

Even as a guy, I have hard time being friends with guys who constantly cheat on their girlfriends. Takashii, street interviews do not necessarily reflect the public opinions.

[@Wavewave583]

People want to be friends with people who have the same values like honesty. I get why someone wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who was always cheating.

[@thedivineenergy]

*What I am hearing is.... pleasure is connected to emotions and some can separate the two. I personally feel I have connected to everyone I have been sexual with, weather I was in love with them or not. Is this love? Maybe I am just a lover... Sending you all 💗*

[@etherdog]

It shouldn't be surprising that a lot (if not most, at some point) of people will do almost anything for sex (at least once). Good interview and framing with Aba and Preach, Max! I started watching Takashii from his first video and and thrilled he has developed not only his self-confidence, but also his skill in interviewing. BTW, have you heard from Jazmine who you interviewed? Her family was from Noto peninsula and we are very worried for her and them. I tried reaching out (I subscribed to her channel and watched all her vids, and "socially engaged") but I am sure she has more important things on her mind.

[@chiedawson]

As a person who grew up during the 1960s and 70s, this is hard to believe. I've talked wit my sister who lives in Japan about this and we both feel this was not how things were back then. I wonder if it's like this anywhere in Japan? Do people do this in inaka as well?

[@leherion4276]

It's simple, when u have a friend in the West who has a partner this partner will over time also become ur friend, most of the time. So if u know that one is cheating it leaves u with having to lie to another friend because of another...

[@Evil_Beauty]

Yeaahhhh, no... I can't associate myself with a cheater. Sorry, I would DEFINITELY cut 'em out of my life, if I ever know about it. Idc. No regrets. Because who knows, down the line, one day, they can potentially cheat with YOUR partner. And the fool will be YOU! Plus, it's not only awkward, especially if you see this person on a day-to-day basis from work, or some other institution. Not to mention, it also trivializes the relationship you have with the people you know. Also, the culture where bosses invite their coworkers out to risqué establishments in japan to, "get to know them", and, "bond with them", is SO sus, and CREEPY...! Like lol... Do you need like a sax companion to join you in that particular activity or what lol? This kind of culture not only corrupts, but it RUINS the sanctity of your healthy relationship. And not even just relationships. It also ruin friendships, as well. But would you really throw that away, and your good morals for a silly promotion lol? That's not only ridiculous, and WILD, but the fact the girl understands this, and yet, she STILL give a green light to her man to go out and do these types of activities with their boss because of monetary future benefits, only reveals how shallow and fake the actual relationship is. And the surprising thing about ALL of this, is not even the answer some of the girls said, but at the fact at how quick, direct, and straightforward the way they say it like it's a, "normal", thing to do. They didn't even need to contemplate on the question before giving their answer... THAT'S what's wild.

[@Evil_Beauty]

Yeaahhhh, no... I can't associate myself with a cheater. Sorry, I would DEFINITELY cut 'em out of my life, if I ever know about it. Idc. No regrets. Because who knows, down the line, one day, they can potentially cheat with YOUR partner. And the fool will be YOU! Plus, it's not only awkward, especially if you see this person on a day-to-day basis from work, or some other institution. Not to mention, it also trivializes the relationship you have with the people you know. Also, the culture where bosses invite their coworkers out to risqué establishments in japan to, "get to know them", and, "bond with them", is SO sus, and CREEPY...! Like lol... Do you need like a sax companion to join you in that particular activity or what lol? This kind of culture not only corrupts, but it RUINS the sanctity of your healthy relationship. And not even just relationships. It also ruin friendships, as well. But would you really throw that away, and your good morals for a silly promotion lol? That's not only ridiculous, and WILD, but the fact the girl understands this, and yet, she STILL give a green light to her man to go out and do these types of activities with their boss because of monetary future benefits, only reveals how shallow and fake the actual relationship is. And the surprising thing about ALL of this, is not even the answer some of the girls said, but at the fact at how quick, direct, and straightforward the way they say it like it's a, "normal", thing to do. They didn't even need to contemplate on the question before giving their answer... THAT'S what's wild.

[@jmbickham]

Ah… Japanese conversational affirmations… you guys mean “aizuchi” (相槌)… 例: うん ええ はい そうですね I never really gave it much thought though I was formally taught to use it when I was studying Japanese. It was definitely reinforced when I was a CIR on JET ages ago, answering the office phone for our 係 in City Hall.

[@G1Transformed]

@TAKASHii from Japan, 6:52 I'm with your friend on this one. It's about morals. We all have lines that we aren't willing to cross, and that was one of your friends' lines. My guess is it's the lying aspect of cheating that your friend takes issue that--do you want to be associated with a liar? Guilt by association is a thing, and I think it is in Japan too, well, at least among the foreign community anyway, I'm not sure if this also applies to Japanese locals. You also have to consider if your friend grew up in a country in which Christianity plays a role in social norms, if so well, couples being extremely loyal to one another is going to be a big part of their character--you don't need to be religious for this to be a factor, it's just a byproduct of culture shaped by Christianity. And we shouldn't forget about STDs either, random rendezvous with x, y, or z will start to make the people around you feel dirty. If you see yourself as an honest person, wouldn't you want to surround yourself with other honest people? Our environment affects our character, we become the people we are because of the society we are part of. Peer pressure is a thing, many people drink alcohol or smoke cigarettes because of peer pressure, shoplifting, and drugs too, in some cases. The behavior of our friends often rubs off on us. Your friend wanting to cut ties with others that could change the person he wants to be makes sense. We don't always do the things our friends do, but we often do because we all want to be accepted, as humans we all want to be part of the group. EDIT: @Max D. Capo, 19:01 I could be wrong, but I think what's missing here is guilt. Most people who grew up in countries influenced by Christianity often have a sense of guilt, especially after being caught. The people being interviewed here aren't showing guilt or shame, but have a "everyone does it, so it's okay" attitude. You'd be hard-pressed to large groups of people in the States that feel like this. To be clear, I'm not saying people from cultures shaped by Christianity don't cheat, we have many accounts of the fact on record, I'm just saying that there is a record of cheaters showing guilt after the fact. Takashi spoke of people hooking up in restrooms/clubs for one-night stands, that's not exactly cheating. People who want hookups aren't typically people in a relationship. Those are typically people who just want sex...like those who have FWB. People in a relationship tend to try to make it work, and when it doesn't they break up. Are you and Takashi saying that people don't break up and stay together even though they are working? Yikes! Takashi interviewed young people, they're in their 20s at most, they could just try again with someone else.

[@UshioKiss]

Yeah, I don't understand like, if you see your friend do something morally wrong, wouldn't that make you see them differently? If they act normal towards you but lie go girls or are rude to other people or kick puppies or something, why would you just be okay with it? I mean if their gielfriends know and are okay with it that's a different story.

[@onion_____]

Tdlr?

[@UshioKiss]

@onion_____ The culture around "cheating" is greatly informed by religion (Christianity) and monogamy, which is not as present in Japan as in the west. It doesn't stop cheating, but definitely changes how we see it. However, lying to your partners and breaking their trust will always be wrong/hurt someone, so it is weird to continue to be friends with someone like that, because who you are friends with reflects you in many ways. You also don't have to stay with someone if you realize you aren't in love with them or don't want to be with them or aren't attracted to them.

[@so_chan17]

Here's a problem Japan has. There are a lot of couples in sexless marriages in Japan, even young couples that are not married. And there're also lots of Hentai people. They are hiding it and... Sorry that my English sucks, I'm working on it.

[@epichewie]

nice vid will you be in a vid of his ?

[@MaxDCapo]

Most likely👀

[@dynadwynn]

A couple of roshians might have watched this video草　I must say I like Takashii more talking like this. He seems a little nerdy when taking his interviews, but he opens up more when he's discussing stuff more deeply and that's what's actually interesting

[@michelleg7]

Its because of the morality and the ethics that a person has when someone cheats and a person maybe don't share those ideals. Even I have an issue with that, I try not to judge on it but its hard when someone consistently does it. I have a deep sense of morality personally so I don't like associating with that behavior. Its being sneaky and dishonest. Hook up culture is there is no expectation and usually there is no relationships involved with either party like they are not dating other people. Now when a partner seeks someone outside the relationsihp and sleeps or hooks up with them that is considered cheating. I think Japan is a deeply sexually repressed country, its really sad in my honest opinion. Girls find that kind of thing ok and we westerners do not. I think some Japanese women do feel that way too that cheating is unacceptable and from what I have seen from various interviews that seems to be a case for some Japanese women.

[@e22378]

More videos like this

[@H2SO4H20]

Based on my experience as a male in the corporate world, "cheating" among coworkers in the U.S. is very common. Although I was very careful to never made sexual advances toward female coworkers, I was propositioned numerous times by female coworkers in the workplace, at gatherings of coworkers in bars after work, and on business trips with coworkers. I was as gentle as possible in declining these advances although, looking back, I wonder if I would have been happier if I had accepted some of them. I was also aware of many dalliances among other coworkers some of which turned into long turn relationships including marriages which were sometimes preceded by divorces.

[@jame254]

Correct

[@sonderexpeditions]

Similar. I'm full remote but go in office often and within 3 months I had 2 married men try to initiate something with me. I was shook.

[@rw9931]

The phrase 'Birds of a feather flock together' really hits the nail on the head. Japanese society seems to be divided into two distinct groups: those who are very active sexually, and those who have no experience in such matters whatsoever. What bothers me is the way many people treat 'Japan' as if it were a personality.

[@healing3733]

7:55 i agree with max

[@djprincegrandmasteryrjdalo2905]

Hey Max, when you get a chance, I don’t know if you’re able to communicate with Takahashi or what not but when you get a chance, let them know that there’s a if I’m not mistaken, I think there’s a Japanese American KZbinr that’s kind of slandering him a little bit, because he says that the videos that Takahashi has done on those Japanese men and women talking about cheating he says that’s fake news and he’s calling him out essentially for making Japanese people look bad and he has like three videos saying that everything this guy has done is fake and so essentially what I’m trying to say is that he’s slandering Takahashi and personally me being subscribe to his channel for about like I think like two years now I don’t agree with that. He seems like a nice kind guy that just filming the every day life and every day opinions of the Japanese people so when you get a chance, let Takahashi know that so that he can take a look into it and see if he’s able to like call him out on it you know?…

[@djprincegrandmasteryrjdalo2905]

If you want to know where the videos are there, ironically, they’re under the other and preach videos look to where the proper look to where it says a remix videos or something like that, and you’ll see like two videos, and both of them are ironically from the same guy that he’s talking about when I get a chance, I’ll let you know what his name is called so that you can take a look into it

[@gosikh]

Cheating is called so if permissions are not asked. I would not be a friend with someone who cheats.

[@Jajuan44]

You should have asked the guys if their girl did the same would they consider it cheating?

[@neha-cf4yp]

I am an indian. All such things are big no to me There is a cute & handsome japanese guy who likes me a lot ( and has shown his feelings through his actions ) But i am refraining to show my feelings to him ( i fear that he might have traits as discussed in this video).

[@arceus54321]

theres no way this dude is doing a reaction to a reaction. c'mon bruh

[@MaCal9591]

We don’t really understand Japanese culture deeply enough to make a judgement on their actions, even if this behavior is only the norm for just a small segment of its society or not. In China, and Vietnam, virginity is required for women entering marriage. Women will be outcast if they have more than one sexual partner ever. Men, even though are not accepted by their spouses, still are not stigmatized by society to have more than one women either in cases for stable relationships or temporary physical ones. Any woman always expect and hope that her husband will remain faithful to her only. Southeast Asian countries are traditionally dominant with Buddhism, so not just Christianity that promote monogamy. In both Southeast Asian and European countries, the traditional autocratic and wealthy societies have always allowed men to have multiple partners. However, in the unbearable arctic, the Eskimos have been known to allow traveling visitors to share beds with their wives. This action must had been derived from some self survival necessary for their society.

[@NN-dt7bt]

TAKASHI's video is biased. Many Japanese do not admit to cheating. Change the location or age and you will get a different answer. But TAKASHI would gladly go to similar places and interview people of similar.

[@zukodude487987]

How is fresh and fits podcast toxic? There are unpopular opinions but they arent toxic if taken into context. I have a lot of issues with them, but it isnt related to toxicity because there is reason behind it.

[@TheBleachj16]

The reason is dumb and toxic itself.

[@rebeccaidundun5305]

They're toxic and they hate black women. Anyone with a brain can see this.

[@nobodyexceptme7794]

The funny thing is ppl acting shocked but this is common across all cultures. Its human behavior. Plenty of western women for generations have dealt with husbands that cheat but keep it away from family/social settings and as long as they arent embarassed and the husband takes care of them and kids they are fine.

[@UshioKiss]

Yeah. We have moved away from that mostly because marriage rates are decreasing/less required for survival/functioning in society. So in order to preserve the family, cheating will continue on. (But sometimes only the man can cheat. it depends on the family and the culture.) But also adultery is a sin in many religions so there is still a stigma against it. I think when you enter a relationship, it's a matter of your commitment to one person, and what is considered cheating depends on you and your partner. I don't have a religion, but I personally am very monogamous and would prefer to stick to one person.

[@G1Transformed]

Women have (and in some cases still do) put up with cheating in Western cultures because they were (0r are) part of a society that didn't allow them to take care of themselves. Women have much more power than they did fifty years ago in the West. Japan may not be on par with the West with women's status in society, but it isn't too far behind, especially at this age group, as salaries haven't started to take off yet for men in this age group yet. Most men and women in this age group still live at home, and society calls these folks "parasite singles," something that's been the norm in Japan since the 90s, so it isn't as if they'll be out on the street if they broke up with a partner that isn't working out. Why torture yourself by staying in a relationship with someone that just isn't working? You don't need to be in a relationship to have sex WITH SOMEONE ELSE, lol. Just break things off and go to a club. Maybe the nightlife in Kanto is different than in Kansai, people hook up at clubs here all the time.

[@nobodyexceptme7794]

@UshioKiss you just need to find what works for you and others. People change so much over the years, some can change together, some change completely opposite. To expect the person who loved you 10+ years ago to still love you or be the same person you loved is crazy just given how we know our bodies operate. Any real commitment is likely going to require 2 ppl be able to get over things like adultery etc.otherwise the commitment likely won't be for that long.

[@G1Transformed]

@@nobodyexceptme7794 Adultery isn't always about sex. Sure, it usually involves sex, but it's almost always because the person doing it seeks connection. The connection that person had with their partner is waning or gone. People grow apart because they stop talking. People get comfortable and stop trying to grow. Communicating and making efforts to grow together will help many keep going well after that new romance buzz wears off. Some figure that out early, some figure it out after a falling out and others never figure it out at all. It isn't crazy to expect a person you built a life with to continue loving you, but if you stopped communicating you've paved the way to grow apart, and that's a road that often leads to a broken heart. Learn your partner's love language! That certainly helps to strengthen your bond. Schools teach young adults about sex education, but not how to be decent human beings or how to be good partners. Many of us mimic what we see in society and this video shows that we aren't doing all that great. Japan actually has moral education as a part of the school curriculum, but it obviously needs to be updated, Japan being as conservative as it is likely won't change anytime soon =/

[@UshioKiss]

@nobodyexceptme7794 I definitely would take it in a case by case basis. Marriage is about working things out with your partner, compromise, etc.