IS THERE SUCH THING AS ‘THE ONE’? | Do you have a list? | South African Couple YouTubers

[@simpsm]

I used to think there is "The One". Now I know that God provides favour and gives you a person you need in order to live to your fullest potential.This is someone who is a perfect compliment, who fits perfectly into your life, into your aspirations and your goals. Once you meet that person, you still have the choice to leave and choose what the world presents to you. When you meet the perfect compliment, you may not instantly know how they are going to fit perfectly into your life going forward. I would have never experienced God's favour if I had applied my list to the T. I am with someone who I firmly believe God knew that I needed more than just wanted

[@nomkhosimchunu4744]

I love the last part you are with someone God knew you needed and not just wanted. We are on the same boat 😊

[@onenkosisimilemkize3191]

Perfectly said!

[@nombulelosibidla6631]

Powerful💥

[@TheMakhs]

Well said! Summed it up so succinctly♥️♥️♥️

[@amandakhumalo8305]

This sits well 👌🏻

[@thatohatsiletlape8294]

I'm with Mr Makhs on this one. Jesus is the only one😅 I believe we are compatible with multiple people and things could work out with either one of those people if we choose to make it work.

[@TheMakhs]

💯💯💯

[@thakirams6914]

💯 with Mr... Used to believe in the 1 when I was younger though🤣

[@anelisiweamaafrika7259]

I love hearing Pheto laugh, she's so beautiful.

[@JackieMujulizi]

I swear God led me to this channel. The things you two are speaking on are so profound!! You are both so Christ driven and so inspiring. I love what Lerato said" the relationship that we should be chasing is one with Christ, and through that, God will give us the desire for a specific person at the right time!" Amen. Thank you for this word!!

[@Bravva_01]

There is a perfect will of God and a permissive will of God. The graciousness of God is the permissive will. If you don't end up with the perfect will, the permissive will is always available to fill in. But in my opinion, The One is not "a person" but values and attributes. So when you feel you found "The One" what you found is the attribute and values that matches you perfectly.

[@madampraises4450]

Aus Pheto's hair everyone!! 🙌😍😍

[@LM-he7eb]

Relationships work when you choose to care, connect, work at it & let go. You choose! It’s not chosen for you.

[@thekhoabanesunfiltered8896]

Yoh I never really had a list...I had a type yes but what I can tell you is that my husband is nothing close to “my type”🤣🤣🤣 but chiiilllllllld I love that man

[@TheMakhs]

Your man rewrote all the rules♥️♥️♥️

[@serakelz]

Guys am I the only one dying 🤣🤣🤣🤣 at how lerato low key said his babe wasn’t hot when he started dating her 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Praise God she is drop dead gorgeous and then some right now

[@TheMakhs]

Right!!??🤣🤣

[@carolineguwatudde1007]

" At the back of our minds, written in our hearts" Lerato..... you are poetic....

[@naomidambe]

Literally!!!??

[@africanlions9886]

I definitely believe in soul mates, I have met a soul mate in a friend. Also not all soul mates are meant to stick around (their job is to set your soul on fire - hopefully in the right direction). I don't believe in the one.

[@leratoranamane9529]

I agree with Lerato 😄 I believe that God gives you options to choose from (Free will) but He does not choose a specific person for you 😅❤️

[@thembekilemgidi6146]

Total agree, I believe he brings potentials however you will do the choosing

[@leratoranamane9529]

@@thembekilemgidi6146 Exactly 💯

[@kamogelokobe8067]

Aus Phetola your joy and laugh is so contagious 😂😍❤️

[@naomidambe]

😂❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@prudencedantye9297]

I like what Pheto said “the person doesn’t have to necessarily fit into the whole list but they can grow into the list”. I think that’s an amazing way to think about it.

[@andilerodney7215]

2 Points, 1. I do believe there is the one, which sometimes is mistaken with a twin flame(if you have met this type of person you will understand that a soulmate exists, regardless whether we meet them or not). I am currently with the person that we both believe are each other's ones because of how easy it is to love one another where as in previous relationships I would bend backwards to either impress or express love to my partner, and the understanding of love languages helps as well. 2. Mental list, this is solely dependant on one's EQ, as a human, we love first with our eyes, but that will not keep the relationship, that is just the attraction but what will her curves do for me or us, those are her assets and I cannot be with you solely because of how you look, there is the mind and heart, which is what we ultimately fall in love with.

[@xabisanquka9121]

"There's something about finding your person that rewrites the rules ❤" Mr Makhs 😢

[@thekhoabanesunfiltered8896]

I honestly think this thing ya di list stand in the way of people experiencing real genuine love. You can find a man that matches your list and then they don’t value your nor recognise your worth...on the other hand you find someone that doesn’t have all the qualities on your list but they treat you like a Queen...

[@LM-he7eb]

Not having a list leaves you exposed to the elements. “you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for anything”. You must know what you want in life

[@annbodingwenya3529]

Wow... it's beautiful for a man to fall in love with the soul before the appearance. You have a diamond Mr Makh.... you are the wife worth more than Rubbies Mrs Makhs

[@kedimogale595]

😅😅😅😅😅how Lerato is emphasizing the time he met Pheto sent me😅😅, love how you guys are so true to each other, beautiful guys😍

[@b_reshoketswe2777]

😂🤣same

[@mantshankoana5831]

The affirmations in between are so encouraging!! The "I am really glad I married you" for Me!! Love how you love each other, and sharing all of that with us, what an honour!

[@Bravva_01]

Its the "Jesus is the only one" and "They must go on a goose chase in Christ" part for me. And i stand with your husband on this "choose your one" with God in the picture.

[@sizakhambule7886]

Don’t you guys think of having a podcast?😊

[@thembekilemgidi6146]

So true, pursue a relationship with God. But honestly if you have been waiting for a long time it is not easy.

[@thembekilemgidi6146]

It not easy because there was a time whereby you were pursue God and marriage was not in your mind but dololo.😬😔

[@nosip9950]

You guys are the ones for us 😅

[@josephinesawadye7543]

Honestly🤣🤣

[@carrolmatlhako8088]

I do believe in the one but it's more from a Kingdom perspective where I believe God has chosen someone for me and vice versa and together we will pursue what God has called us into this earth for and glorifying Him in the process. I don't believe in lists as a result, because if our mandate is the same here on earth, I suppose we are of the same mind, same values and share a common goal. Things that we can work on in the relationship, change and evolve into, like di six pack, re tla di bona. For me, it's someone 's heart and soul over looks and money.

[@nothilekhumalo4285]

You said it well....I share the exact same sentiments

[@naomidambe]

6pack 😅, you're right tho❤

[@NalediSello]

I believe in the one. Definitely! What aus Pheto said is so true, we really need to go into our closet and seek His face. Have a relationship with our creator and He will definitely give us what He thinks we’re fit to have or are able to handle. I spent so much time with the Lord during my waiting season. I had a dream about the guy but in my mind I was like, naaaaah that’s not my type of guy. All my ex boyfriends are light in complexion and nothing close to him. Yes I had a list but I never said How I wanted to look like physically. Fast forward, a month after the dream I met the guy. His qualities exceeded my expectations. He is everything and more! We’ve been together for 4 months now and already we’re talking marriage and counselling. God is amazing! Never stop seeking, for the word also says “Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us”. Not just with a partner but in everything in your life. Seek the Lord at all times. Thank you so much for these insightful instalments, May the Lord continue growing you guys in all ways possible and give you all the wisdom that you need. I love you guys so much. ♥️😘 To God be all the Glory! 🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@tebogotabane435]

Ah, I love this ! 😩❤️

[@naomidambe]

What , ausi so u dreamt about your kingdom spouse now yall are together That's amazing hle❤

[@naomidambe]

​@@tebogotabane435 girl listen ❤!!!! I love it

[@NalediSello]

@@naomidambehey sis. Yes!!! He paid lobola the following year after this comment and We’re expecting a baby girl now!! 🎉🎉🎉💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

[@naomidambe]

@@NalediSello congratulations Naledi 🥺❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@molokorapholo]

In this family we like before we watch 🥰

[@wandile_mm]

Yebo yes!☺️

[@marvelousmbali8002]

Exactly

[@tshepisodiremelo9524]

Everytime I see Lerato and can’t help but think about how much he looks like his father. His father must’ve looked exactly as Lerato looks in his younger days

[@TheMakhs]

You should see pictures of his father as a young man! They are twins!!

[@thendomakherana1864]

Can you please make a video about how relationships are this days.people cheat and all that and people are breaking up not because they don’t love each other but because they can’t forgive and just the fear of being disappointed again. If you guys once hurt each other please share that with us and how you over the hurt/disappointment and all that.

[@LETSOALO_LIFEest2013]

Also i think di soul mate a di exist.. People change maahn. After so many years in marriage then you realise gore actually you don't understand what attracted you to this person. Especially if your relationship is not cemented on God. It looses shape. Otherwise i am just happy ka consistency guys... the smile on my face when i see the bell. You are appreciated The Makhs

[@patrickkeabetse3282]

You know what 🙏Sesi Pheto is in love, her smile, beauty and laughter is everything. She's very spontaneous and pulchritude. Mr Lerato you're blessed, Your Wisdom is Fireeeeee

[@TheMakhs]

🤣🤣thank you so much!♥️♥️

[@naomidambe]

​@@TheMakhs❤

[@lesedishai6883]

“The one you choose is the one .”

[@layaniwanfakosebazhangakan4906]

Would be nice to see you guys interview Phetolas side of family

[@sindisoncube2789]

Your consistent and genuine love for God is beautiful.

[@ntsakomavunda9018]

This was nice one Fam, thank u😍 ...My take is that there is 'The one' but the one is not really pre_ordained from birth, but rather they possiton themselves (by the help of God). e.g Abraham's servant said , "Let the one one who will feed my carmels be the one" , Rebecca was not pre_ordained, but she became the one just by hearing the spirit at the right time and be at the right place...so I think it all goes back to God being the one to influence our list and also Him being the one to lead us to right places at right times . However I must say that , for any single who has been trusting God for marriage for bit longer , this topic really takes a different shape , and I think that people who met right people for marriage earlier in their lives may not get it fully it. The rules don't change yes , but the waiting, disappointment and confusion can take a toll. But God is faithful 🙏

[@kellyzamo]

Your hair looks so beautiful Phetola 🤩💕

[@emerithaniipare7173]

Its near the end when she wants him to say he believes in the 1 😂 love the Makhs!

[@siyathokozansizwane5369]

Mina personally I don’t believe in the one I use to, but I believe that God gives you wisdom to choose and that person becomes your one. Because what if there is just one person for you, what if we miss each other or one of us makes bad decisions and we end up not choosing each other because Remember there is free will, if I miss my one then I marry someone else who isn’t my one, and is someone else’s one, kushuty a lot of people including myself are going to miss their one because everybody connected would have missed their one, because of just one person is isn’t with their “one” I hope I make sense. But I believe you choose a person in wisdom and they become your one

[@candy4087]

I'm happy this channel found me again.....I watched two of your videos last year by passing and somehow moved along after that.....I guess I wasn't really ready for the content....it found me again,the past few days ,and I believe it's for a reason...I'm happily inlove and highly relate and learn as well from your content....it's helping alot....THANK YOU GUYS,MAY GOD CONTINUE SHOWERING BOTH OF YOU AND YOUR KIDS WITH PERPETUAL BLESSINGS....this is one of the purpose you serve in this world....to teach us about Love ❤

[@lebogangbonoko8405]

I share the same sentiment with buti Lerato when it comes to "The One" issue. I believe that you can choose to make it work with or be with anyone who's willing to put in the same work/effort as you do and that person becomes "Your One". This narrative of "The One" makes it sounds like it's either A or nothing, while "My one" means I choose to make any person who is fit for me "MY one" Yoh! I hope I make sense.🤣🤣

[@tshepocindi5999]

Makes absolute sense Lebogang

[@TheMakhs]

Makes a lot of sense♥️🤣

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

Pheto's laughter is so cute😍,it makes me laugh too😂 I share Lerato's sentiments.I think we all have a couple of potential "ones" to choose from in our life-times.

[@nontobekombatha7909]

Mrs Makhs😭😭😭 You look incredible as always😍❤️

[@nompilomazibuko4615]

lol @ the sis'Dollys of youtube 😂😂😂. My stance is similar to that of abuti Lerato's. If there was only one "the one" for each person, the system would've been corrupted a long time ago😂. To me it seems like anyone could potentially have healthy relationships with different people and those relationships could work for very different reasons. There are also people who are just not compatible with each other and have no business forcing a relationship between them because that would be a disaster😅. So in the end, if we have to embrace the idea of soulmates, it would make more sense to think of people becoming soulmates instead of it being a fate/ predestined thing. If soulmates exist, they are most likely made, not born.

[@eastrince910]

You are inspiration to young couples. We are learning a lot of things from your channel guys ✨👌🏿

[@masylinenyashaaaron8826]

The one is Jesus! I agree Mr Makhs😅

[@amosmlambo7876]

Love phetos laugh ❤️ and as for Meneer durag 🤣

[@tshepangmashike4852]

Ausi Pheto’s hair 😍😍🥲!

[@lynnkakoonde9794]

Every time I watch your videos, the numbers are growing 👏🏾 a few days ago you were on 20.3 subscribers now you are on 21.4👏🏾👏🏾 your videos are always on point 👌🏾

[@motheowalerato701]

And a month later they are on 38,5k💃💃🥳🥳

[@yolandezukigwedeza1187]

Hi dream team...I hope I'm not too late for the comment section. I'm only catching up today and after this one I'm on to the next installment I see you have uploaded. Thanks once again for the wonderful installment. I'd also like to congratulate you on the ads....yes we are growing 😍....let's please watch them dream team....let's try our best not to skip the ads....much love. Lol I don't wanna share my two cents on "The one" but as always...great insightful conversation. Remain blessed.

[@Lindo.N7]

Aus'Pheto's sweater/jersey bafethu 🔥

[@mohlapamasemola8995]

Her style tjeeeeeeeeeer...is one of the things I look up to in each installment 🔥

[@sarahletsoalo9668]

I love her style too, Aahh Fire 🔥🔥

[@thembatalksmind7149]

Learning a lot from the Makhs family. I've clearly been living in a Cave. From Artist to Artist, from Born Again Children of God to the other. May the Grace of Jesus Christ continue to use you and your ministry and grant you all your hearts desires. As I prepare a cup of tea 🍵 and some breakfast before watching. #DreamTeam Indeed! Bless you from the Ntuli Family ❤️

[@motheowalerato701]

Hi Themba, I've been searching for you on KZbin. So glad to see you out here. I love you and sis Hope❤

[@thembatalksmind7149]

@@motheowalerato701 Hahahaha I've been out in these Streets but slowly learning from the likes of the Macks how this KZbin channel thing is done, Marriage and all. Thanks for comment and subscription. God Bless you Sis

[@thekhoabanesunfiltered8896]

As far as “soulmates” are consent. I honestly feel like my soulmate is my creator. The bible says He knew me even before I was formed in my moms womb, He knows me by name, He knows the numbers of my hair, He has ordained my steps even before I could walk them....for me that’s one person that knows me far beyond. I can lie to my husband, I can lie to my mom but I can never lie to Him. Scripture says “For your Maker is your husband the LORD Almighty is his name”...the Lord Almighty is our very first PARTNER

[@nomkhosimchunu4744]

I love this.

[@tshepocindi5999]

Without spiritualising everything marriage takes place on Earth ,with a partner with faults to say i only Trust in GoD not Human is to say i only know there is only one person who is capable of loving me ,and thats GOD and on one else ,We represent characteristics of Christ here on earth ,when we unable to Trust people ,we daught the Christ in them,and unable to exercise our Faith in people. Our Maker puts conditions of Marriage between two people with faults here on earth not in Heaven.We are equal in Heaven on earth One is the Head and the other is put under submersion of their other to be Lead jst like organisation Structure of reporting without debating whose in power/authority.

[@TheMakhs]

Love this!♥️

[@NtombizonkeMehlomakulu]

Wise words Lerato, you captured it so well! I don’t even one to dilute this👌🏾

[@tabbywaithera9112]

Great conversations 👌 👏 👍 that people never really talk about loved it love you guys AUTHENTICITY WITTY..I BELIVE IN CHOOSING THE ONE..WORDS TO TAKE WITH ME.

[@MapuleXimba]

Bathong Aus Pheto is such a lover thle , she loves to love❤️❤️, and that makes me love her a lot😍. I think "the one" depends on how much you love someone. The person might be perfect in your eyes because of how you feel when you are with them, the things they do for you. Even when they don't do things the way you want, but they way they decide to it is somehow satisfying for you. At the end it's less about them and more about how you love them. The one is the chosen one not he perfect one.

[@siyamtolo6733]

I'm with Lerato. God has given us the authority to choose the one. Like with everything else we check it with him and he confirms. Even on the part of things that matter to us that may be seen as shallow I agree mtakabawo there is always that one important thing. For me if he is short he is definitely not the one. There may be other physical things I wish for that I can relax but ku short hay sorry mtaka Jesus andizi!

[@bonolomasuku5896]

I can relate with you Siya on the short feature💪...Esh that one gets dissapointing😑

[@siyamtolo6733]

@@bonolomasuku5896 🤣🤣🤣

[@kokimothoagae9533]

As I watch this instalment I am just 🤣🤣😂😂. True be taken and I have to say I got married at age 20 and now I am 12 years in marriage I have to say it felt like he is the one back then even till today I still feel he is the one because of how our story unfolded never in my dreams did I think I would agree to get married at 20 but at that time it felt right and honestly I was not even praying for marriage, I prayed about it after he proposed.

[@NomaMPride]

Family,one thing about you? You make me so happy!

[@LethoMbulelo]

Petula just confirmed that she really is the one laughing in the intro song 😂😂😂😂😂

[@tabisadlamini5689]

Enjoyed this one as well fam,seek God man and all these things shall be added unto you including your lifetime and partner❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@nontsikelelohayward1338]

Lerato life has a plan and goals and preferences so go for it Phetola your list worked for you because is 85% of what you listed

[@ntombimohapi1722]

It's the consistency for me 🔥. Molweni!

[@reabetsoelehumo7721]

Im always learning a lot from you two , i love you guys so much . And Osi Phetola your hair your is so beautiful!!!

[@wewemhlaba7593]

I have a list....But after watching this vid I might alter it😂most of the things I want are a bit superficial Phetola is such a keeper beautiful woman...Great video as usual.I love you guys💝

[@wewemhlaba7593]

@@LM-he7eb hahahha😂6 pack and stuff !

[@LM-he7eb]

@@wewemhlaba7593 No way!😂😂 Please read my comment about a list, and reply

[@charmainemoyo1072]

So happy to get this notification. My fav couple❤️❤️...

[@eyethumfazwe]

Ke dumela le ausi Pheto but I get where abuti Lerato is coming from. It's really subjective but a thought provoking topic.

[@akhonadyi3602]

I believe that there is the one because God told/showed mine and our marriage is the easiest because of Christ. Eve was formed from Adams rib.

[@nomkhosimchunu4744]

Loved this installment, reinforced a lot in me love you guys. Oh uhhhhh When am I getting my shout out you guys 😆😆😆😅

[@KingOfKings302]

Ausi Pheto 😅😅😅😅 love you. 🙋‍♀️ I believe in the 1, definitely 😇🙏🏻

[@nomsabadubi1445]

❤❤❤ you guys🙏,so much wisdom you carry,May God increase you that you keep impacting so many lives❤❤

[@jomomogorosi4684]

I'm new on this channel, this is so interesting mature conversation. Keep up the good work guys

[@akhonadyi3602]

Amen Lerato, seek God and everything else will be added

[@keneilwemmushi4692]

Preferences are as crucial in keeping a relationship (of any sort) going. There are a couple of courtship sessions that covers the need to ensure that one doesn't deviate too mush from their preferences, be it pertaining their physical or personality traits!

[@samanthaonkakhulu2566]

Lol, I honestly think that when you meet your person you will just know, Its so funny how I was thinking to myself if my perspective is even realistic.

[@zosiwe]

I happen to believe in the existence of the one. I truly believe there is. I believe it is deeply connected to God’s providence and Devine timing. I believe that when one is ready emotionally, financially and otherwise one trusts that God their one will be in their life. I believe in soulmates.

[@nomathamsanqaseale2940]

I loved this installment so much, i like the perspective of choosing the one and yes you have to be plugged in with your Creator to be able to navigate your way in actually choosing the right partner!, and for me there has to be sparks that flies before i say ya ne ko rata wena fela for life.

[@desree3837]

Sesi phetho o botse hle the hair🔥❤️

[@priscillakamara166]

Lerato you said it ryt, It wasn't about how she looked, but her spirit or soul, l never realized my best frnd had dimples until he died, so l totally agree

[@siyamtolo6733]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Not Pheto trolling Lerato about his durag. Does he also put that polish on his haircut?😂😂😂

[@MapuleXimba]

Pls don't forget the durag pic😂😂🤣

[@simplythullyk8171]

I just love you guys,so much that I'd watch any video you make coz you're such incredible conversationalists

[@Silly_tilly809]

I remember this topic with a group of colleagues. I believe in the one.

[@monicamafadza1469]

I don’t believe in “the one” but the person will ultimately choose can either rewrite /redefine the list ,or fit the list perfectly!

[@maipelosentle1302]

Great discussion big up to you the Dream team💖💖💖💖Thank you and I love you dearly

[@neliswajokweni5872]

"Finding your person rewrites the rules" Absolutely Mr Makhs!

[@michelleelias5336]

Spiritual connection should come first, then an emotional connection, then the physical connection...

[@thejourneywithtshire1664]

Love this topic... is it a list or just basic requirements (character - wise)? And the soul mate part - ha ke sure van die one maaan... Lol... the bible says that everyday of our lives were written before... so does that exclude partners? A little sketchy for me.. guess some food for thought... Thanks for great content guys!!! Much love...

[@ThandazaMK]

Cha ngeke Bhut'Lerato God blinded you, how could you not see losisi omuhle kanje!! Lol hhay ngaze ngahleka. Thank you fam.

[@laimiuda6213]

I appreciate your contents the makhs

[@sinothandosirunu]

Lerato kwi intro, the way he speaks so fast you can tell he's a rapper😂❤️

[@adelheidkatjiru9402]

This can literally be a title of a whole book "There's something about finding your person that rewrites the rules" Shhhhuuuuuu this is so deep joh, blown away!!!! This is good!!!

[@alicetamur1142]

" what is he , lazy "...love it

[@puseletsohlongwane845]

I’m also with Lerato lol I don’t believe in “the one”😂😂 I don’t even believe in compatibility as well I believe in partnership which is made by 2 people who want it to work out.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

I definitely agree that life is all about choices but you can't deny that being compatible makes things much easier. Who wants to be in a relationship that is ALWAYS hard work? Sometimes it must be seamless and fun and that's where compatibility comes in.

[@puseletsohlongwane845]

@@omphilemoerane2569 I feel like relationships are “hard work” I don’t believe in compatibility because it blinds people. A fun relationship is hard work you need to work to have everything easy in life even for your relationship

[@omphilemoerane2569]

@@puseletsohlongwane845 yeah but compatibility makes things easier. Compatibility is important cause sometimes you're not going to want to compromise on some things so it's easier when the other person has a similar way of thinking or doing things.

[@lebohangkwapa9489]

Yoh Mara Laugh ya Pheto🤣🤣🤣...I like

[@johndire9280]

I believe MaV is the one for me! kopa re seteng date ya lenyalo... im tired of dating yohhhhhh. anyway this was another beautiful instalment.

[@marvelousmbali8002]

I think you create The One and sometimes the universe has created the one for you and they are out there. And when you guys meet it’s just adding small things here and there.

[@ZonqobaMasinga]

I love her laugh! 🤍

[@Lebotlou702]

Thank you so much this was insightful, may God bless you and continue to use you. i am so looking forward to another upload.

[@AnnstaciaK]

First in the huizzzzzy! 👊🏿💃🏿

[@LM-he7eb]

Njani!?

[@AnnstaciaK]

@@LM-he7eb beke le beke. 📍 re robala mo. Ari complain nex.

[@TheMakhs]

Captain♥️♥️

[@jeminahthandi619]

Great couple ...Love u guys so much, Godbless you