Is this how it's going to be from now on? - avoiding certain jobs.

A weekly update from Simple Life Portugal, projects, progress, mental health, and mood.
Dan covered the week that was and the upcoming week. Feeling better after finally catching some well-needed sleep.
Pulled weeds from a part of the natural handmade stone terrace and made firewood.
One stop shot, unedited and honest thoughts and feelings about how life is after losing your wife to cancer at 47 while continuing homesteading in North Portugal.

[@carrieross8987]

Dan, I buried my husband in 2008.. He passed from kidney cancer...Believe me I know how hard it is to motivate yourself after a loss like you have experienced...Give yourself time and grace.... Praying for you to find comfort and peace again in your life...for the pain of your loss to fade away... Love, Peace n Hugs... Take care and see ya next Sunday...

[@anjoma9746]

Dan I lost my son 18 months ago, he was 23. You'll be having good days and bad days. Work with the good days and take it slow on the bad days. ❤

[@colinrollo4005]

I really really do know how you feel I also lost my son a year past September I have never felt pain like this in my life, I will never be the same it's hard to move forward, but we find the strength some how.

[@mariamasciana7588]

I'm so sorry for your loss Praying 🙏 Hugs

[@mariamasciana7588]

@colinrollo4005 I'm so sorry Praying 🙏 Hugs

[@SusanZiegler]

Frankly, I think you accomplished a lot. Seeing Sindy's jewelry order would definitely set me back. Don't beat yourself up over that! You have gotten started. That's the biggest thing. Well done.

[@LudaCastanheira]

Little by little, one step at a time, you are moving forward and getting things done ✔️ Well done, we are all rooting for you and supporting 😊❤

[@helenbotelho285]

Hi Dan. You are not alone in this grief journey. My husband who was 62, passed from cancer 1 year ago. It's the hardest time of my life. I struggle every single day. Try and keep busy is my advice.

[@tess1176]

Weeding is my go to when things get rough. It doesn’t need much thought, out in fresh air and when it’s done there’s a level of satisfaction. ❤

[@annwilliams9519]

Don't keep thinking you should be moving forward faster, these things go at their own pace. It's a chore to get up and get dressed at times. You will progress Dan it takes time. Give yourself a little task to complete daily. Keep going bud xx

[@bonitabowles6725]

Dan this is the face of grief....all these things are normal....you must eat and hydrate each day...things you find and think of...things you need to do but cannot...such as putting away her things...all of this is a process...just make sure you take care of yourself...its easy to just not eat and get into your head too much ...but Sindy would not want you sick..God bless you Dan and I'm praying for you...

[@ritawells6876]

❤grief process for sure. Not easy ya don’t want to eat or sleep just no energy. But it’s good to do little things. Even a walk. Or weed pulling like you said.

[@Infinitepossibilitiesat56plus]

I like the white sofa color change ! You may not notice it , but although it’s plain to see that you’re still in a lot of pain , there is a very slight shift which is a step forward for sure . Every tiny step is a gift . Magnesium and camomile tea might help you fall asleep . Take care Dan and I look forward to your update next Sunday .

[@echogl]

Been praying for you Dan during this difficult time. Glad your dog is there to comfort you.

[@quaintshelter100]

There you are❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🤗🤗🤗 Coffered ceilings will make it your own space and they are beautiful ...tears cleanse, dear Dan....let them flow. Time will ease your pain and sorrow somewhat...one moment at a time.It's comforting to know you will try to post weekly so we won't worry so much about you. I am writing this as i watch this video. If i were in Portugal i would come find you and help you with all your projects. Know that you are thought about and loved from the other side of the world....❤

[@Shibalvr]

Yes, they are lovely. 😊😊

[@shehazi695]

Good to see you Dan. Pets are a saving grace, I think, at times when we my not be taking care so much of ourselves, they keep us going. Blessings to you all. Have a good week 🙏🏽🤗

[@krisskross8985]

Good day Dan! Lots of stuff to do behind the scenes which takes some time. Nice that you are spending time with your parents. I'm sure the fur babies miss Sindy as well. Pets seem to comfort you when you are grieving in my experience anyway. Have a good week and look forward to hearing from you next week.

[@Bluebird19-ll8su]

It is unfair, Dan. But life, unfortunately, is unfair. And it's so hard, I know. To know that you will never see or hear from your loved one again. It feels surreal. I'm going through it now, too. But all you can do is just take it one day at a time. Baby steps. Cry in between. Remember, too, that it is still early days for you in grieving. You are already making progress though. You also have a lot of us behind you, here to support you.

[@Denymarie123]

Greetings from Anchorage Alaska!!! 19:45 Every day is going to be different!! Just take it a day at a time. Do what you can , it’s hard to find a new normal!!❤ Praying for a peaceful week.

[@katefinnegan8129]

You have the rest of your life to finish the house and the other buildings Dan. One day at a time. My sister lost her husband this year and it took a lot for her to sort out the name changes on everything. Some things were so difficult she just let them go for a few months and went back to them later to fix. See you next week. Hopefully you will have one more thing off of your list fixed and just let yourself heal. Sindy would never want you to be unhappy, she would want you to flourish on the homestead that you both loved so much.

[@tracey4474]

Glad you got outside. Thank you for sharing your week with us. Focus on one thing at a time. Don’t feel you have to achieve too much. Keep watching for signs of spring. No response needed just letting you know we are still with you Dan

[@deborahdanhauer8525]

I think a once a week update is perfect! It’s good that you’re making the bedroom your own now. Grieving is a journey not a destination. There won’t be an “over it now”, there will be sadness daily, instead of hourly, then weekly, then monthly, then yearly, then only once in a great while. Eventually her memory will bring warm memories and laughter most of the time. That’s as good as it gets my friend. And that’s certainly good enough to have a happy life. But every person is different as to how quickly this all happens. Be patient with yourself.😔❤️

[@AP-kb3tn]

Dan, Take it slow...do what you can...sending you hugs!

[@marlenegearon4709]

Try focusing on the love that you and Sindy had especially at bedtime. Think of 100 or just 1 thing that brought you happiness, joy, adventure, or anything that you thankful for. Thankful for how much you guys did together, the places you went, the people you met, the experiences, the laughter and most importantly how her love made you the man you are today. God bless you.

[@sheilajoseph9953]

Dan, no rush to do any jobs only what you consider as important to complete, eg documentation etc. You will have days you feel like work and days you want to curl up, keep warm and shed a tear. That's all OK, a part of your journey, slowly but surely you will get there. Keep strong.💚

[@debbiesmith1626]

Go at your own pace Dan, we all here willing you on. Tears cleanse and time heals as they say 😘

[@danariley3206]

Oh, how I wish I could reach through the distance and give you a big hug! I love your honesty. Grief is brutal. Don't forget to eat.

[@jeangodding6348]

You did well this week even if you didn’t get everything done that you wanted , you got started. As the spirit moves you the tasks & chores will get done & get lifted from the pileup in your mind .

[@getlostwhenwondering393]

You are making progress, that is what matters. Each moment is a chance to start again. Remember you have a right to grieve in your way for however long you need. Say Sindy’s name when you have conversations this will help. You are doing well, please eat, maybe just snacks all the time. Your body needs food, it will help you rest and sleep.

[@juliant225]

Great work Dan you made a start you will come across things that will really upset you but it will get better over time. You got things done which is a step in the right direction 👍

[@wandamartin6503]

Cindi was such a positive woman. She was looking to make necklaces/bracelets. If you could have her designs created would be such a testament to her and her love of crafting. This would be such a precious gift for close family members, friends or for you personally. A thought. All in time little steps.

[@deborahwhite2339]

Take the time you need. ❤❤❤❤

[@cdh2328]

Hi Dan. Nice to see you. I’m glad you’ve taken to writing things down. It helps a lot. If you have Pinterest there’s several sites of things to take care of when you lose someone. You might find it helpful. There are so many helpful things there. It’s only limited by your imagination. Lack of sunshine in the winter is very depressing for a lot of folk and is exasperated by other real life things going on so don’t be hard on yourself. Short catch up posts are fine if only to serve the purpose of connecting with family, friends and subscribers. We don’t want you feel you’re going through this grieving alone. Someone is always close by to listen. God is even closer so don’t leave Him out of your life. He understands. He’s the great comforter. Have a good week.

[@WendyW123]

I'm so glad that you managed to get a good sleep, your body is playing catch up Dan, you needed it!! The autumn leaves used as mulch will be good for the soil in the garden and break down well over the winter months. I know that gardening chores are great for tiring me out, but most of all I'm getting fresh air and connecting with nature. All therapeutic. Good days, bad days, taken a step at a time on your journey of healing xx

[@joanbeach644]

Dan, we are all here for you. 😢🙏🏻

[@lindabarham3436]

Oh Dan the lists were a great idea! Sometimes my lists are a bit confusing because my mind not always focused but yet so helpful. I will pray that soon you find the energy to give your bedroom 100%. Changing that space was perhaps my most difficult task, but the most mentally healthy thing I accomplished. It is my own personal sanctuary. All my thoughts, tears, smiles, peace & healing take place in my sanctuary (bedroom) Last video you mentioned working on the bedroom! You made me smile. Something about the bedroom space is healing. Difficult to start but self gift when complete. Thoughts and prayers daily.

[@desireehuls8356]

Don’t sweat it Dan. You do you. We’re behind you on whatever you can accomplish. Please don’t be hard on yourself. 👍💜🙏

[@alisoncondon1751]

So glad you are talking about your grief esp with it still being so new. You got a lot done over the week. And I mean A LOT! The 1st 2 years after losing my husband to cancer, I couldn't keep a straight thought. I can't tell you how many projects I started and didn't finish. It's been 4 yrs 6 months and 12 days since my husband passed and I still have a lot of trouble focusing. I'm better than I was, but no where near where I was before he got sick. I may never be and that's ok. It's a new way of life. A new way of living. Not one I asked for or want but I take it day by day and am learning to appreciate the small things. The warm sun on a winter day, the smell of wood smoke coming from the chimney on a cold & crisp night, and always, the small group of friends I met through an eight week grief group I went to in the beginning of 2020. Be gentle with your self. Grief, mourning, bereavement...takes a physical toll on your body. Take breaks, sit in the sun or with the animals. And when you have happy moments or even days, don't feel guilty about it. Take them when you can. See you next week. Ps...I used to own a bead store. I laughed when you were talking about Sindy being so excited with making jewelry and telling you it would be ok if you wanted to go take a rest at the hotel! Because you are 100% correct about her wanting to focus on the beading. It becomes an addiction! And can be so satisfying!!! Pps...Time may heal wounds...but not this one. Time teaches us how to live and rebuild (in our own time) around in the hole in our hearts and souls that we now have from the loss of our partners. We will see them again.

[@susannah1948]

One day at a time Dan. Take care.

[@madelinemarrero4672]

Hi Dan the answer to that question is ..that is how it's going to be for a while. Your loss and pain is still new, painful and raw. A list is great it'll help you a lot. Be gentle, kind, patient and forgiving to yourself. Some days you'll do a few things and some days you'll do 1 or none and it's ok. You will get stronger. Making your what was both your home to your home is ok. I remember feeling a little guilty but I had to do it for me because I was still here. Just a little memory after 2 years after my husband passed. I went to buy a fake xmas tree. My husband didn't like glitter but we always compromised w/ the xmas decorations. But that year I bought a tree full of iridescent glitter. There was glitter everywhere and I just started laughing. I looked up and said omg I'm sorry my love but you're not here to stop me and you know how much I love glitter on xmas so it's your fault lovingly joking. Every year since I put that tree and it gives me so much joy. Anyway it might not seem like it but life will get better and manageable. It's ok to cry, mourn, get angry but please remember to be easy on yourself. There will be many days that you don't want any contact with anyone and that's ok but not for long. Reach out to your family, close friends and at least one person. You'll continue to have all your beautiful memories and one day you'll make knew ones. You'll remember mostly the happy memories of your life with your beautiful and loving wife instead of just the pain and suffering she went through. God bless you Dan

[@joaocorreia3728]

Dan lovely to see you smiling even if just to let the dog out. take care .

[@sherivirgin9266]

It was nice to see you and your animals again. I'm sorry you had a hard week. I can't even imagine your pain level. 💔 you had to go through all of it, and that's hard enough, then you have all of the paperwork to deal with. Then, finding the jewelry was so hard. My heart aches for you and your loss. Another person that I watch lost his wife also to cancer. He has 2 children. They have made a rock garden in honor of her. Maybe because you have all of your land and because you and Sindy loved the land together so much, maybe you could make a special place for her on your land to honor her and your love for each other. I hope you have a nice trip into town on Tuesday. See you in your next video.

[@sistermecktis5791]

Hi Don I'm praying for you 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤

[@melinda5777]

Hey Dan, Your smile is infectious. Again, it popped, so i had to say hi! ✝️🙏❤🇺🇸🇸🇪👣🤗🍍

[@DebWh]

Hello from Canada Dan...you actually accomplished a lot this week. Be gentle with yourself. It's good you got a good night's sleep last night. Sleep, nature and sunshine really do help our mood. Grief is not a lineal path, some minutes better than others. I found one long list overwhelming, so I got a note book and just put a few items on a page, and the turned the to the next page and added a few more etc. Best wishes to you Dan ❤️

[@LorraineinAustralia]

I loved the picture of Leroy this week.. he’s such a beauty ❤️🐨❤️

[@LindaBrandtArt]

You got started which is great progress.

[@kimsparks7871]

Hi Dan, I really think each week is going to for sure get better. I can tell you are pushing yourself to get things done. Although this is such a painful process, I can see you are forging ahead and you are strong. You are doing extremely well under the circumstances. I hope making these videos help you. I know for the people who watch your channel and care, it is so nice to see you updating us with your adorable dogs. You are in my heart and thoughts. I hope the week upcoming goes well.

[@layna8924]

HELLO DAN...BACK AGAIN...I PURPOSE TO CATCH UP ON ALL YOUR LATEST VIDEOS...GIVE MY LOVE & HUGS TO GRUFFIN & MASON...KEEPING YOU IN MY PRAYERS, DAILY...ALL THE BEST...🙏

[@glennathornhill8994]

Be gentle with yourself and feel good about what you do and not bad about what you do not. you have lots of time. Grief is physically tiring as well.

[@janehardy2746]

Thanks for update Dan. Every small step is a step forward. Hugs to you. ❤

[@elizabethtoet1113]

Dan , good to see you back for a chat and to express your feelings. You are doing well, you are slowing moving forward. Lovely to see the Boyz supporting you.

[@beverleyvonne6568]

❤Take your time, Dan and take care of yourself 🥰 Love from the UK!

[@judyburt8054]

Time, take your time!

[@wondergupta]

Bless you Dan, you are feeling your way through this very challenging time. Keep being kind to yourself. Little by little, healing will come together. Look after your body as much as possible while you are going through all this. Sending hugs from the north of england ❤

[@ruthbowery8325]

Thinking of you Dan, take your time and get some rest. Xx

[@christine3358]

I think you did well, especially without much sleep. You had set things you wanted to do on last weeks video, and you did them. I’m sure it was hard but you did it. Slow and steady.

[@1000djf]

You’re getting there Dan , you seem more yourself this week ! Be strong fella 👍

[@nancibishof6462]

You are making progress. Just getting one thing done a day no matter how small toward your goals adds up. I do love a coffered ceiling. They are beautiful and add character to a home. And yes, getting a good nights sleep helps enormously to our mental well being. Sleep deprivation can exacerbate situational depression. Be good to yourself.

[@sharlettedavidson81]

You should watch the last video you made….there is a beam of light that shines down and on you ….just as you talk about support…as you are referencing Sindy……Dan…her spirit is surrounding you….it’s so beautiful…magical…✨🙏✨ Healing prayers and strength to inch forward.✨🌟🙏🌟✨

[@BVAustralia1987]

Hi Dan, thanks for the update. Have you tried listening to audio books or the radio when you go to bed, keep your mind on another subject. Some of the radio station chat shows are so boring they put you to sleep in no time 😊 See you next week.

[@debbiebishop6869]

My heart breaks for you, to lose sum one that you love. Grief sucks! Your surrounded by her things, and every memory, it's so hard! But you know she wants you happy, but your heart is broken, you can do this!💜💜💜

[@marilouw207]

Dan you managed to do a whole lot the past week!!! Give yourself some credit my friend. It is a huge task to pick up all the different pieces and tie it all up. Thinking of you so often and sending you good vibes. The motivation will come bit by bit. Anything worthwhile takes time. When I listen to you talk, I can clearly see that your thinking patterns are already getting much more "organized". Take all the time you need.... this is YOUR path.

[@juneprice3977]

It's great to see that you are feeling more positive, and look more rested. I don't know how you feel about making jewelry, but that could be a way of making some money. You have Sindy's patterns and materials, it might be cathartic. It is great to see you are making lists and checking things off. Looking forward to seeing what you do with your room. 🙏

[@lorimontcalm9086]

Grieving makes everything so much more difficult. And big companies make things difficult at the best of times. Sleep is so important, maybe ask your doctor for some help. You are putting one foot in front of the other. So give yourself credit. Hugs from 🇨🇦

[@boshoffslabbert6701]

One step at a time! You are making progress Dan. All the best.

[@janicedelp2775]

It was comforting to see you again. It seemed to me you are keeping pretty busy, it should help. I caught the times when you fondly remembered the times when you and Sindy would have a conversation or disagreement about daily things. I see those as soothing balm on an open wound. We never forget the good times, thank the Lord. I continue to pray for you. Janice from Arkansas USA

[@janinevalido]

You are really doing good. Take each day one at a time. Getting outside and getting your hands dirty always helped me. Take care, see you next week.

[@lesleysmith8300]

Thank you for a heartfelt video. Animals are very sensitive to loss and it's not surprising he was howling, as he's no doubt aware of the changes. ❤😢🙂

[@AnjaPejda]

One minuet, one hour, one day, one week at a time. You're doing great. Do what feels right for you and cry it out as you will. It's early days and yes eat and hydrate - just snacking fruit, seeds anything even if you have no appetite. Grief is exhausting - sleep is probably the most important thing - you seem to be aware and trying to keep on top of that. Be kind to yourself don't feel bad if you don't accomplish something - tomorrow is always another day. Sending love.

[@louiseswart1315]

So happy to see that you really smile again. The boys make you happy.

[@anniemac3075]

Every day will bring another hurt for you & there's no right or wrong way to get through this so be kind to yourself. Keep occupied even with little things, rest when you need it, cry too, it's all part of grief & it's very early days yet. Try listening to audiobooks or the spoken word on the radio if you don't have access to them, it's a good way to drop off to sleep. Big cwtch 🤗 to you from me. Xxx

[@caroltardif5999]

Time will heal all wounds. I am sure you heard this a million times but it’s true. Stay strong my friend. Sending good vibes and juju. 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

[@rachelfrees1268]

👏👏You are looking more refreshed. So glad you have the puppies to keep you company. One day you will be able to wake up and breathe normally. Much love from Texas.

[@melinda5777]

Hey Dan. I finally looked up coffer ceiling. My bedroom has a coffer ceiling and I didn't know what it was called.😂😂 I really like mine. I hope your week has gone well. ✝️🙏❤️🇺🇸🇸🇪⛵️👣👣🍍😊

[@janwilletts1986]

I’ve never seen a coffered ceiling but it sounds good, glad you have a plan to work towards.

[@annieisenhower8138]

Time will be a friend as it will help for things to slowly get better. Spring will come and bring new projects. Keep pushing forward. Wishing you good sleep and many accomplishments.

[@SueWilson-wl7lr]

Baby steps you sound better this week do whats best for you a little a day or even nothing its your time we will be here what ever you have time to show us chin up ❤

[@danouk1984]

Well done on the progress Dan! Thanks for keeping us posted - we love your updates and it makes me happy to see you're managing to motivate yourself. Big hugs xx

[@sandrabaxter2865]

Hi Dan good to hear you , you seem stronger this week and little by little you are finding your way . Onwards and upwards Dan x

[@fatimamoura1226]

Olá Daniel, já ví Elroy , voçê postou á cinco horas e eu fiquei muito feliz de o ver aí dentro junto de sí, melhor companhia os seres humanos não podem ter... Muito obrigado por partilhar o seu menino connosco. Cuide si para poder cuidar dos seus meninos. Uma boa semana para todos e prossiga a sua caminhada com mais animo, por favor.

[@sallyfenney429]

Hello Dan! Another good catch up, glad to hear you are managing to do some small tasks around your homestead! Gently moving forward! X

[@praiseyethelord7121]

Dan, it is such a time to grieve but you must make yourself live. Sindy would never tolerate you getting sick. The crying will stop and the pain recesses but life is never the same. I lost my husband in November 2019, he was so sick. I still feel like it was yesterday but the pain is not as overwhelming. The day to day things become more normal. I am very grateful that he is done with such pain. It takes awhile to get to a better place. Don't think you are not alone. We unknown to you are here and sending many prayers. 🙏🙋💪

[@debbierya5668]

Weekly updates will be wonderful when you’re up for it that way we get to see you and know you’re doing ok. I can’t imagine how heartbreaking it is to not have Sindy by your side but I’m sure she would want you to live a good life. You will find yourself again slowly, everyone deals with grief in their own way and it’s not helpful to place limits on how long it will take to move forward. Try to be aware of the little things that is progress, bit by bit and we’re here to keep encouraging you on your new journey love Deb ❤

[@coolhandlukeful]

Very difficult time Dan it’s even difficult for us watching you go through this . I wish I could wave a magic wand but I can’t , instead I’ll send you all my love .

[@vanya13415]

I lost my husband to sepsis in 2017 and believe me I am still operating on 'one day at a time' I do know how much you have to fight an inner battle to show up to work. You are already so strong. Just keep moving and it will get easier. Keep talking to us abput her....i know it helps

[@eunicehenderson9095]

No one realized the scope of things to do when a loved one passes away. Our digital presence all the accounts to deal with and close. Maybe you could donate some hobby items to a charity or hospital for patients to fill their time. You took a step forward, I commend you on that and the work outside is usually helpful for your mental health.

[@MsUbuzzme]

I am so glad to see you. You really have your hands full with all of the chores. Sleep does make so much of a difference in making us feel capable. ❤

[@conniechuha3113]

Just attempting the admin stuff is hard in the best of times. You are progressing, and that's what matters most. You might want to try to do 3 things. No matter how trivial those things seem, being able to check things off might help. Just a suggestion. Take care and have a better week, this week than last week and consider it a victory.

[@angelaboschetto9106]

Dan has the road got muddy then or down the hill. How's the puppy doing yours and sindys new puppy. You must keep your boys in tip top condition. I am just pleased to see you back on line . You are doing sindy proud Dan .

[@virginiaterrore7784]

Dan I keep you in my prayers ❤

[@lindabrooks8242]

Hey Dan, making an update video each week is perfect. Do what you can, whenever you can. Getting out in Nature is one of the best things that you can do. Find a hiking/walking trail nearby, and take the dogs. Any kind of exercise will help. Little steps, here and there, will add up. You have quite the support group going on here, plus your own angels. You will get through this.❤

[@jass412]

Dan you may not feel it but you seem to be doing a lot better .One day at a time xx

[@katewilliams5161]

I pray for the days when you can meet the boxes with a smile. It's taken many years for me. Sending you the best wishes. Be kind to yourself.

[@mariagenaresende-b2f]

Dan, take a step at a time, go slowly! I have been reading your blog, I can feel you have travelled a lot and that you and Sindy were very happy here in Portugal. 💕💕🙏🙏

[@cynwalts771]

Hey Dan, You're doing great, dont sweat it. When my husband was diagnosed, he made me promise to get rid of everything in our bedroom and get a new suite etc. It took me a while, but it niggled at me until I did just that. Wow, it was cathartic, so I think he was gently nudging me. It doesn't matter what you "complete". Start with just making your bed, feeding the animals and doing the dishes, thats a huge step in the right direction. It took me 2 years before I started to regularly walk my dogs, again I had promised my husband that I would do this daily.... there you. Baby steps. I still break down but I know he is in a better place. My granddaughter got a gizmo that holds the voice message from Trev's phone, she put it inside a stuffed bear. I listen to his voice and leave him a message when the need arises. Perhaps this would be good for you? Best wishes my friend.

[@karyne826]

Day by day Dan. Be kind to yourself and go at your own pace.

[@Yvonneb_]

Praying for you Dan, really hope you find peace soon but there is no rush just do things when you feel like doing them xx

[@judymcgovern8454]

Thank you Dan for filming this, I know how hard it is for you. The Grieving process is personal for each person, you will find your own way through it in your own time. The main thing is to make sure you keep eating and get fluids in you and build up your immune system. Have you thought about writing to Sindy? I did that when I lost my beloved mum and it helped me so much. I wrote down all my feelings, plans etc, I kept that letter in my mums memory box. My friend who is also recently bereaved bought a book and writes to her husband everyday, she tells him everything she has been doing, little funny bits, sad bits everything. Take care. Hugs x

[@gailh3048]

You’re doing really well to keep up the weekly blogs Dan. Trying to sort out the paperwork after losing someone is a nightmare. It’s made harder with having social media accounts and for you, the extra set back of no signal.

[@legrandeileen4863]

Glad to see you Dan little by little, you'll get there

[@leeworley5160]

Don't worry about how long your videos take. Some of us need to hear you!

[@eileenstec7862]

I don’t know how you feel about this suggestion, but here goes. When my spouse died I needed anti-depressant medication to get through the first year. It doesn’t make you feel happy, but it can help with the very, very sad times and help you keep moving forward. I know this isn’t for everyone, but it helped me a great deal.

[@annwilliams9519]

It helped me too but don't stay on it too long and become dependant on it. Avoid it if you can

[@patriciap8323]

Take your time. Days will be up and down but in time you will find your way. God bless and prayers.❤❤❤❤❤❤