It Ends with Us: Why So Many Fell for Ryle and Ignored the Red Flags (Full Breakdown)

[@insightsbyv]

What was the biggest 'red flag' to you?🤓

[@Ivanchica1987]

There are ALWAYS signs...As someone who grew up in an abusive household, I know that women who witness domestic abuse in their primary home are brought up to think that this kind of a relationship pattern is normal and more often than not end up in similar situations.This is why therapy is super important with kids growing up with abusive parents.And I also speak from personal experience, as I ended up having a psychologically abusive and manipulative relationship with my first boyfriend, after which I went to therapy...Also, one of the first signs of manipulative and abusive partners is the fact that they most commonly appear in one's life when the person is at his/her lowest points in life, after major loss or when their self-esteem is rocked...They take major advantage of this, a person's vulnerable spots...And this is based on literally the first 3 sentences you said about the plot of the book/movie.I assume it only gets worse from then on....

[@laryrumiantzeff]

His impulsiveness and agressive behavior

[@anamariadorofte1559]

Biggest red flag when he tells you he wants to f you, and then proceeds to disrespect your limits. Then the red flag on her side is that despite that she knows she wants a different future and they are not compatible she still accepts to have s with him. Limits need to be enforced by you as well not by the abuser

[@Tinerila]

Him being a neuro surgeon in his 20s 😂😂

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

A complete stranger demanding MORE vulnerability from you in the very beginning is a giant red flag, healthy people understand it's reasonable to have boundaries and take time to know someone

[@insightsbyv]

💯

[@ednabunker1498]

I think a full grown man should have better coping skills than beating up a chair and smoking a joint, no matter the situation.

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

Girl, if there is THAT MUCH drama before even clapping cheeks once, RUN. It should not be that complicated

[@oneshotonehit6731]

I swear "clapping cheeks" will never not be funny to me 😅

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

@@oneshotonehit6731 I completely agree! Makes me giggle every time

[@insightsbyv]

🤣🤣

[@StudioROSADO]

I have noticed your comments on several channels, and all of them are gold! 👏😂

[@oneshotonehit6731]

That vacation was much needed, you look great ❤ regarding your question about throwing chairs - damaging the property is an instant red flag to me, I've never seen someone smashing stuff to pieces and then not get violent with people. All in all it's destructive behavior and this spiral of violence will continue turning until everyone around is hurt.

[@insightsbyv]

That's the risk yes...

[@rugilecibulskaite9260]

will it be another SATC episode? Miss them soooo much:)

[@oneshotonehit6731]

I think V is having so much fun shredding SATC, that we'll eventually get the videos for all of them 😅

[@insightsbyv]

Ahahaha most definitely 🤣 It's coming🤓

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

Yet another 'my magic love can fix broken boy' storyline, sigh.....

[@insightsbyv]

Soooo many... and what's sad is.. you totally fall for it until you yourself get hurt and need to reevaluate🤭🤣

[@gabrielleduplessis7388]

I hate how people still try to warp people’s minds with this philosophy. I feel some men may want to save or redeem the “bad girl” and falls into the same patterns.

[@alexc9601]

WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN, LOCA???? You got me refreshing DAIILYYYYYY!! So happy you’re back ❤️

[@insightsbyv]

🤣 I'm happy to be back also😁✨️

[@insightsbyv]

🤣 I'm happy to be back also😁✨️

[@sarahelo009]

I haven’t watched yet but I’m so happy you posted, missed you girl 😭 I watch your videos before work (part of my morning routine) and I had finished your others so perfect timing :.)

[@insightsbyv]

Yaaay I'm happy you enjoy it🥰

[@sarahelo009]

@@insightsbyv 💗

[@vwatchem]

7:28 OMG what an adorable doggo!! 😮

[@AllieFree]

“The girl on the train” should be your next vid. Alcoholism and abusive partners. Plus the story is so dark with the blackouts and doubt.

[@insightsbyv]

I think I watched the movie, if I'm remembering right, with Emily Blunt...? I'll check it out, thank you🤗

[@JennaThePanda]

I’d love a part 2 for this video, you always have great insight :)

[@SuperNovaDiva]

Would love to hear your takes on the relationships from Netflixs “YOU”

[@insightsbyv]

Ohh when this show came out... it was my favorite!😁 It took me on a rollercoaster left and right🤣

[@SuperNovaDiva]

Same! Kind of still wish it ended on season 3 😅

[@Afrolistichoney]

Do the second part!! The red flag, him throwing the glass in the trash and it shatters. Him almost stalking her. So many 😭

[@jayg6542]

Very interested in the second part of this movie because I won’t be watching it myself and I like your insights.

[@nepatvoren]

Welcome back, V!

[@insightsbyv]

It's good to be back😁

[@anetakokoszka8030]

Thanks to you I don't need to read the book that everyone is about now. Great analysis as always! And yeees,we want 2nd part!!😊

[@insightsbyv]

It's a pleasure!😁 Thank you!🤗

[@amandabun]

There is 2nd book after this called ‘it starts with us’. No spoilers but it is a disappointing read. Regarding the book you discussing, the journal regarding Atlas and their young love and heartbreak was an interesting contrast to her stark reality with Ryle. The scene on the rooftop would have me leaping off when he states to lily he only does ‘one night stands’ red flag 🚩!!!

[@insightsbyv]

I've heard about it but.. not planning to read🤭🤣 The Atlas relationship I'll use it for part 2🤓

[@juliveg]

So completely different genre, but I would love to hear your thoughts on the book The Other Boleyn Girl (not the movie). I’m sure you would have A LOT of things to say about these medieval ladies and their men, and I’d love to hear them 😂❤

[@insightsbyv]

Ahahahha🤣 thanks, will look into it.. I think I actually watched the movie...

[@byttercandy]

I second this!

[@kx7hits1]

great insights again as always 😍

[@Sibila1983]

Love your videos (included this one, although it can be a bit difficult if you've experienced any kind of relationship trauma) but ohhh that look of love from the dog at 47:15 ❤😅, that's exactly the way everyone wants to be looked at 😍

[@coookiecookie8001]

V! I love your videos. Thank you❤️❤️❤️

[@TheNotofrugo]

Good you're back ;)

[@FrenchReacting]

Welcome back ! Will you continue with the analysis of the 8 show?

[@insightsbyv]

Well this is a surprise...🤣 I honestly thought people are not interested at all, because the videos were underperforming🤭 But I guess there is interest.. I'll try to finish it in one last video so we get closure😌

[@Avoranation]

From how you explained it - Ryle talking about the parents and the gun etc I took it to mean more his bad trait was wishing the parents suffering for making a mistake and taking pleasure from their suffering. Omg I'm at 43:09 and I already feel the pick me I'm special, from lily after his 'honesty' 😅

[@insightsbyv]

Mmm yeah kind of makes sense.. it read to me a bit 'non personal' and almost like showing his morals for the kids vs parents (which is tricky), while hers was how she 'benefited' from her moms hurt (not much room to see it good). Yeah the honesty will always get you🤣😅

[@soonsims]

we want the second part 😊🙏🤞

[@thisrandomperson2603]

Loving the video 😊

[@insightsbyv]

Thank you!! 😊

[@jordantindall9497]

Love your videos! Hoping for more sex and the city ahead! This one was a gem! Thank you!!

[@jayg6542]

New favourite quote from you: “I need to calm down, is there any chocolate here?” 😂😂😂

[@insightsbyv]

Chocolate is solution to everything🤓

[@regilau]

So many red flags... And i feel relieved that in many cases also kind of an ick towards him 😅.. i think the age difference does make sense though, because when ee are younger we are so much more vulnerable to those types of flattery 'oh im Special ' shit 😅 I've not tead the book, id be curious to hear your comment on part 2😊

[@insightsbyv]

Exactly! I came to my sense when I was 30😅 The books that present this type of character as 'the one' though appeal to young girls and that's a problem (when it's romanticized rather critiqued)...

[@tonichan89]

Asking if there is more to analyse in the other books Hoover has written... You're walking close to the edge of a rabbithole here! 😅 Let's put it this way. All the other DreamBoys she's written are all like Ryle, sans specifically the physical abuse. As for s3xual abuse? She likes to toy with dubious consent, sometimes so severe that it goes into the territory of non-consent. One scene was so noncon that the backlash had her edit it after the fact (it was already published, so there are copies out there of the original scene) and it wasn't even that much of an improvement iirc. Hoover is so hit for Ryle that she keeps writing him into her stories over and over, with different names and backstories. They're all nuts. The most unfortunate part of it all is that the meta-narrative is on the DreamBoy's side. The main character always forgives them in the end, or worse, is covinced she's the one in the wrong and apologises to HIM. The inner voice of the main girlie is also very harsh on other women, even when they've not done anything particularly wrong. So it doesn't give the most... feminist impression of the author. 😬

[@insightsbyv]

That's the thing. I've heard so much about how these books suck because of these narratives, and honestly - also this one had me rolling my eyes a couple of times - but then again.. it would be for a good critique🤣 Also.. it almost feels a bit like a responsibility, knowing how popular she is amongst young girls, so we should maube talk more about the traps that we easily fall for, because 'romance'... Thank you for your comment🤗✨️

[@Some_guy_passing_by]

well , CoHo's son SA'd a girl and she blamed that girl 🥴. We can conclude what she was thinking while writing those books " R@pe isn't that bad " . The inner voice of the main girlie is the voice of the author herself.

[@lerkisoni]

V I love your videos on SATC ❤ I read this book but couldn't understand her obsession about Ryle. Read "Verity" it's her best book so far from my POV!

[@insightsbyv]

Hmm, thank you for the suggestion, will look into it✨️😁

[@laryrumiantzeff]

I dont see him asking her tk get off the edge as a red flag. I have intense fear of heights and seeing other people too close to a ledge makes me extremely nervous.

[@mirandaosborne7196]

Watched this with my mom and nana last night the whole time we were just like red flag every time Ryle did anything

[@thirstwithoutborders995]

As a romance writer and reader (and I am aware this is not a romance novel, although the writing style really makes you believe that at first, dark romance maybe) I just wish people were more aware that what is written is not meant to a blueprint for relationships. Some tropes (wrist grabbing, picking the woman up etc.) are used to portray intense emotions on paper, since internal monologue are considered gauge. I wish everyone had the talent of Jane Austen in writing down the subtlest of eyemovement, but they don't and most romance readers who want to read tired in bed just want a bit of dopamine. Maybe they should all come with a PSA, but I read novels like these since my teens and not once did I tolerate someone tossing me around like a doll. I guess I wish the novel was better and marketed better too, but I still want part 2. 😛

[@insightsbyv]

mmm, makes sense.. Thank you for this info!🤗

[@morganalefay5454]

❤

[@Tinerila]

The most annoying part of the book was that obsessive mentioning of the marine-grade polymer chair 🥴

[@dodi-wankenobi]

Ppl are born evil.

[@soonsims]

I will be honest with you all. If Justin Baldoni look alike took interest in me I'd be ignoring the red flags until it's too late.

[@insightsbyv]

Be honest. And work on yourself. 🤣🤣🫣

[@suides4810]

Ryle sounds like royal doesnt it?

[@insightsbyv]

Tum tum tuuummm🧐 🤣

[@aura_mariana]

wow I cant believe the book its even cringier than the movie

[@insightsbyv]

The movie was... a critique of itself, to be honest..🤣