It’s a Chore to Pay My Kids

[@sunrises8760]

-"You said that to your momma?" -"Oh my Gawd I almost lost my teeth" -"Yes you did" LOL

[@annevaughn6345]

She said it right mine would do the Same thing and you knew not to cross that like she saiand roll your eyes or Even sigh a little you really got it if you did

[@derrick1889]

I'm hollering!!

[@gailsutton4032]

Tamar's comebacks are veeerrrrrrrrrrrrrrryyyyyyy funny she doesn't wait a beat to answer

[@bookbag6432]

I'm african so we don't get paid to do what we should be doing anyway. If you're in the house then you do chores. If you need money then ask for it and if you're grown then get a job.

[@megblue1]

that's how our africans mamas and papas rules, no question or that shoe or heels or belt heck even that tree stick waiting for you

[@maroonhorizon1693]

+Immanuel-Rabbouni The King of Salvation I get a hanger, a shoe, a wooden spoon, one time a cereal box 😭😂. I don't think I've gotten a belt before..I'm lucky

[@queensspace82]

+Immanuel-Rabbouni The King of Salvation haaahaaahaa...das our african parents fr real

[@blackqueen5102]

Lol it's that simple with us

[@SwaggerChiick1]

Same here in the Caribbean (well most places at least)

[@OneLoveRSR]

For the first time, I agree with Loni! I was never given an allowance as a kid. I was told "We shouldn't have to pay you to do things around here. You live here, too!" Then, after graduating high school and getting a job and earning my own money, I'd go hard on spending it on things I want and things I was denied because I didn't have money as a teenager. Of course, here comes my mother "Why are you spending all your money? You should save it instead of letting it burn a hole in your wallet!" What irritated me about that was, when you had the opportunity to teach your child about earning money and saving it, you refused... and yet, somehow, you expect them to suddenly know and understand the importance of saving money at age 18 when they finally get their own for the first time? That's why I laugh when people say non-parents shouldn't give advice to parents. Not ALL parenting decisions are best!

[@DavidRichardson95]

Preach 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@kenyattaknox5163]

I agree 100%

[@TheLdeezy1]

That so true.

[@rukhsarmalik123]

yes 100% agree.

[@HeyHeyMaliaJ]

Exactly that's why kids go to college and get in caught up in debt from credit cards because "old school" parenting says do what I say or get a whooping. But a whooping doesn't solve everything thing if there is no true lesson behind it. People talk bad about us millennials but they forget we are still young and learning. We actually could change the world and make it better when we get wiser but they just down play us like we aren't worth a damn but they raised us. Couldn't get mcdonalds with our mcdonalds money because you just expect us to have a job at 12 🙄🙄🙄. 😂😂😂😂

[@feruzhassen6360]

Omg Tamar just mentioned something it's so true. She said when your parents ask you to bring them a remote control when it's next to them. I thought it was only my family that do that. guys does ur parents do that????

[@bunnycheeks4590]

lol, so true

[@CyberMachine]

No my mom made it a point to not appear lazy

[@jazzmone4201]

Yes

[@harmonismith3569]

I thought it was a Caribbean parent thing!!!😂😂

[@JustSheaShea]

My mom would call me from upstairs to get her water from the kitchen and she would be in the next room.

[@Groanola]

3 months for $5?!?! The parents tried it.

[@dinas1825]

😂 he was six!

[@iamsoiexist7192]

lmao i had to do the math, 41 cents a week poor child lol

[@dinas1825]

+laptop laptop oh no 😂😂

[@crybabykermit8651]

They sure did!

[@breeasheard8940]

About 5 cent a day

[@MarcusMartn]

seems like loni goes to tamera house more than the other girls do lol

[@clarke4400]

She helps to baby sit

[@aberhassan2545]

+mojoyin211 shaaaaaade 😂

[@jrwilliams4848]

HAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[@morganbelt7472]

Marcus Martin they live closer

[@annevaughn6345]

Babysitter its all good though

[@Empressive]

Loni's story was so cute, aw lol. I never received an allowance for doing chores, but I do think it's a good thing. The earlier children learn about working and saving money, the better they'll turn out. If you can't give them an allowance, allow them to have a little after school job once they turn 16y.o.

[@funkiifresh21]

In African households, we're "fulltime maids" We no dey rest, idle\laziness is a sin! If you complain, you'll see fire! LOL!In the end, it pays off. It builds responsibility.

[@reverieo9307]

lmao girl i am African and that's our life...hehehehehehe exactly it pays off 100%

[@funkiifresh21]

Yes!!

[@Safa-vy8xy]

in east africa, really only women do the housework

[@Lalala-fz2ci]

Haha I'm Ukrainian and it's exactly the same in my culture!

[@BRITTWOODNESHIE]

that's not right to treat a child as a slave. I understand that kids need responsibility, but as a parent its your job to do everything to make sure the house is straight most of the time.

[@daisymerollin2755]

My mom gives me 5 chanclasos( hits with the flip-flop) instead of $5

[@bonniebaybee]

😂😂😂😂

[@gigimorales8712]

So relatable 😂

[@ROZSBLUEJAY]

Relate

[@thenewuser3100]

Love this comment 😂😂😂

[@francine2493]

😂😭😭😂😂💀I'm so done with you LMFAO

[@MindYourBusiness23282]

Uggh. I hate when people from older generations always talk down to the Newer generations as if we weren't raised right or something because let me tell you I was raised exactly how they were raised.

[@shaynadorsey7779]

I can't stand that either. They treat people in my generation like we aren't going to amount to anything or we're less intelligent because we grew up in a different time than those before us.

[@MindYourBusiness23282]

+Shayna Dorsey Yes exactly it's so annoying and it's like if one person from our generation does something stupid were all judged and generalized and put in the same category

[@rose2654]

Lol true but at the same time I can't really blame them cuz do u see how messed up our gen is?

[@atyourdadshousetoday9006]

Our generation is a complete mess though. We need a reset button pronto.

[@Mr.Whoopy.BooBoo]

I was about to say are they crazy. My mother is two years younger than Tamar's and west indian. What is she even talking over there?

[@suikoden3299]

I don't think its necessarily healthy to live in a household where the opinion of the child is never considered. I don't want my kids to be robots and just obey any authority figure without questioning them, that can be a dangerous precedent to set. I agree with Loni, allowances are the bomb. I'd clean the house for the week and get my 5$ and rent my video games at Videotron for the weekend and it made me super happy.

[@kenyattaknox5163]

Exactly!

[@Mr.Whoopy.BooBoo]

Exactly but some folks just was little dolls to play with it's kind of gross and doesn't always work out for them later on. Just saying.

[@kenyattaknox5163]

Arguing is NOT disrespectful, degrading words are. I've heard children AND parents use degrading words towards each other.

[@suikoden3299]

***** It's not about arguing, its just about hearing the opinion of the child. Its not disrespectful to ask for justification for actions. Parents are suppose to teach their children how to act, this includes justifying why they do stuff so the child can know there is thought put into it. Questioning it is not disrespectful if you keep the wording respectful. Its just a difference of opinion here, no need to argue because there is no right answer ;)

[@kenyattaknox5163]

+Leon G it's more than about arguing. You don't want to "discipline" your kids to the point where you don't even know who they are when they are "grown". Allow them to develop, parent and children argue, heck parents and parents argue. Telling someone this is my house and my rules, doesn't work.

[@vlonevlone6365]

Everyone is so for beating your kids and my word is law that doesn't work for everyone tbh. you can't constantly teach a kid their opinions and feelings don't matter and to not ask questions then be surprised when they find out their kid is being bullied. or their teen ends up in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. because you from as long as they remember taught them not to question things and that their feelings and opinions aren't needed. Yes respect is important and everyone should teach I'm not saying let your kids run the show and do what they want. but don't be so quick to shoot them down or not hear what that have to say.

[@BRITTWOODNESHIE]

exactly. every time kids want to voice their opinions the parent is always like "no, shut up, i didn't ask for your opinion". You have to let kids express their feelings and voice their opinions to fully understand them. I don't even have kids, but I think all kids know what it's like to be shut down sometimes when parents don't let them say what they feel.

[@youaintneverlied]

Very well said. Thank you

[@alluringbliss4165]

Parents who do that are bullies themselves. They are surprised when their kids are bullied and marry an abuser because those parents are not cognizant....They follow orders without ever thinking critically. That is why many bad customs go down for generations and no one can see where the problems come from.. I grew around people like that; they repeated all that were done to them while suppressing the anger from their past..

[@tizzbabe4386]

YES! I strongly believe that beating your children and ignoring their opinions and feelings leads to them being bullied by other kids and getting into abusive relationships. Parents are a child’s first everything, and parents don’t realize that especially black parents!

[@Ryooken]

The fact that you don't understand the difference is the problem. Defying your parents authority is a good way to get hurt. What do you think happens in the adult world when you defy authority? it ain't a spanking, it's usually a bullet. It's not to say that you shouldn't question authority or stand up for yourself when you are in the right. No, this is about doing what you know you have to do. Prisons are fully of people that didn't respect authority.

[@adl1585]

Well we know Logan won't be calling Auntie Loni anytime soon... ☕☕☕☕☕

[@topmadam5689]

That's what I'm saying

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

💀

[@MsMaxine29]

😂😂😂😂

[@tayjay1661]

bahahaha

[@annieparker2788]

Loni is no longer a part of Tamar life , Loni threw the friendship away.

[@shaepricesp]

My parents were young parents (both 19) and they always let me ask questions and voice my opinion. They were able to guide me through voicing my opinion without being disrespectful. I think it made me a more understanding, confident person. Kids are people too; they have their own voices. I think its wrong for parents to stifle that and then expect the kids to grow up and know how to communicate with other people.

[@KingsPromise31]

With my parents I was allowed to ask questions when they told me to do things. Not disrespectfully, but I was allowed to gain understanding as to what they wanted from me. Like you said I think it helped me to be articulate and be able to get my point across without being nervous or afraid. Plus, I got paid for some chores and some I didn't. I think it's fair to give to your kid if they do well and are respectful. I think it's also important for them to know that they aren't entitled to it.

[@shaepricesp]

Very true. I totally agree.

[@Ryooken]

There is a difference between being allowed to ask questions, and you questioning them when you are told to do something.

[@deem132]

As a an African child of immigrant parents this is all so comical for me.

[@vanellsaacha9195]

Exactly what i said when i was watching the show. if i had to be paid for every house chore i do, i will be a millionaire by now lol

[@mmahcisse7941]

Same lol

[@SuelyPio]

Me too 😂😂😂😂😂

[@alluringbliss4165]

To each their own.. Every culture has their own traditions otherwise, the whole world would be stuck in stone age.. The children who were paid to do chores might be the ones who gave you a job or are responsible for saving your life when you land in a hospital.

[@deem132]

+Alluring Bliss Did I say there was anything wrong with giving your child money ? Stop assuming just because my parents were immigrants they came here hand & knee looking for jobs, we been good, even better in our homeland. Raise your children the way you want I really don't care I was just speaking on my experience, it wasn't deep.

[@ajaay9244]

That story about the little boy at target, just pretty much sums up adult life. Save and save, and still don't have enough for what you need to buy! LOL.

[@jasi7313]

Lmaoooo

[@dijasillah]

Jeannie: Oh my God, I almost lost my teeth! Tamar: Yes, you did. I DIED 😂😂😂😂😂

[@adaorao3117]

I agree with Loni! Children should still get an allowance somehow so they can learn how to save and stuff

[@bcmsAL]

I said my mother was redundant and she almost beat me in Costco. Parents are too serious especially immigrant parents.

[@reverieo9307]

u deserved it...y wud u say she is redundant??...if she actually was to u then move out of HER house and stop eating the food SHE brings on the table and stop going to the sch SHE pays for.....i am African and i used to hate the way my mum acted but now that i am an adult i thank God for that training cos it made me the girl i am today.....

[@peachlife5118]

lmfaoo right! Immigrant parents are notorious for never hearing their kids out and expecting them to just shut up and obey orders. I remember being shocked seeing the white kids talk back to their parents and worse they ever got was sent to their room/late supper smh

[@misseydj123]

+Safiya Ummi chill.. You don't even know this girl. You don't know where she lives

[@iloveglitter149]

immigrant parents? what dose that even mean? lol it just sounds like an ignorant thing to say what dose that even have to do with being strict? hahaha wow some people tho

[@ladyrodriguez6811]

+Vianey Bocardo It means the parents are from a different country than where they are raising their kids and often have an "old country" mentality, which contradicts the new age environment their children are growing up in. It's not stupid, it's reality for a lot of families raising new generations in a new country.

[@destinywilliams8797]

LOOOOL I tried hitting my Carribean mum one time to pay me for doing chores... we all know how that went.

[@destinywilliams8797]

*hinting

[@kashaliciousboo]

girlllll please. Carribean parents are not even having that. lol

[@destinywilliams8797]

don't i know it lmao

[@bleubelle4339]

My mom would ask " how much did u pay me for carring u for 16 months (she counts night and day because she didnt put me down during the nights😂) n how much have paid for all the food u eat n clothes u r wearing?...r u paying rent?" ...Caribbean parents don't play

[@bleubelle4339]

+Bleu Belle carrying*

[@Ornacia29]

Household chores is one of the most basic skills that can take you a long way in life. If you can serve in your own house you will never have difficulty in any line of work because you understand order.

[@youaintneverlied]

Good point

[@alluringbliss4165]

More important things take you far in life, that is called value and foundations.. Parents have to sit with their kids and teach them how to make wise decisions in their future.. Plenty of girls are taught to do chores just to become some men's slaves..

[@Ornacia29]

+Alluring Bliss The first part of what you said is true also. I know a lot of people who have values, talent, skills but their attitude is in the basement. They never understood what it is like to put down a fountain pen one day and pick up a broom the next because they never kept their house in order. I have never faced difficulty working in all of my jobs thanks to this very important lesson.

[@alluringbliss4165]

29Prolife I see.

[@melindakhodai]

"cleanliness is next to godlines" my mom says that too!!!

[@robyndae5416]

Some older people are jealous that this new generation of kids have life quite easier. Esp the ones that always bring up the whole "when I was your age, we never had this & we had to do this instead" blah blah. Get Over It!!!!!

[@kianah544]

My personal problem with older people's criticism of this generation is that if there is something "wrong" with children today, they somehow believe that they aren't responsible for it.

[@alexandria4401]

I think we have it harder

[@13bullshit]

Funniest thing is who is raising today's kids? Them!!! So are they bad parents??

[@Isaacthedondada]

+dont ask so true. This old lady who I used to put up with cursed my daughter out for being happy about same sex marriage being legalized. She told my daughter that she was the devil and was going to hell and thought I would back her up because I was nice to her. I respectfully told her to see her way out because if I feel my child is going in the wrong direction, I will gladly tell her my damn self. Now she acts all pitiful when I see her and like she misses us in her life and is so lonely. Please 😒

[@juntimestwo]

+Amisse Baras I agree! They MIGHT be bad parents, but in the end, it's mainly them who are supposed to be raising their kids "right", whatever that means

[@Indraparadise]

No paying! No negotiating! You do what your parents ask you to do

[@deidreritter1165]

I'm glad Loni brought up the allowance thing. I plan to have a set allowance per week for my son and I will simply deduct from it when he fails to do something. He'll get bonuses when he does bigger things but his allowance will be based on how consistent he is with getting his share of stuff around the house done.

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

A child's "payment" is a roof over his head, food in his belly, clothes on his back. 😂

[@crybabykermit8651]

Whatttttt??? You're joking right??

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

lavender cupcake Um...I just meant that parents shouldn't have to pay their children to do chores. A child already gets what he/she needs and doing chores is just a way of contributing to the household. I don't see what's so outlandish about that.

[@JRob594]

that's how I was raised and I thank god for that it helped me later on in life

[@helenatube]

lmbo this is how i was raised, the old-school way. bribing children to do chores...... my parents would be shocked at the audacity. bribe?! you're lucky we don't boot you out onto the street for not cleaning your mess!

[@crybabykermit8651]

+gigglyfitzgirl ohhh okay I thought you were actually saying that kids shouldn't get paid because they are already getting a roof over their head, food, and clothes on their back. And that those 3 things are already their payment for contributing around the house.

[@lilmakori]

Maybe its just me but threatening to punish me or yell at me it's gonna make me wanna do chores or "be part of the team". If anything, it's gonna make me hate chores and resent you. Instead just actually tell them why they have chores. We ask questions cause we're curious.

[@lilmakori]

+Leon G if ok but if children ask questions they should be answered with actual answers. Not punished with threats.

[@LIZZyNIqUZZ10]

you're still young, when you become a mom you'll see why it is how it is.

[@lilmakori]

+Elizabeth Rubio okay...

[@LIZZyNIqUZZ10]

***** lavender must be a child behind the screen .. I can tell by his/hers immature comment.

[@lilmakori]

*****​ as children get older they learn reason and logic. When they ask why they're just curious. They should be told: A. When they have their own house they'll want it to be clean B. Why pay someone to do what you can Why would it be so hard to give those reasons??

[@helenatube]

I'm like Adrienne, I can't believe parents would think to bribe their kids to be decent human beings at home? Your parents work all day to give you food and shelter and you want them to pay YOU for keeping _their_ house you live in rent-free clean? The way I grew up it is socially unacceptable to expect to take without expecting to give. That is so wrong, no matter the age. If you're lucky and your parents want to teach you about money you get an allowance, but no way in hell do you refuse to do chores or expect an allowance for making a small sacrifice to the people who sacrifice for you all day every day. smh people tell me it ain't so, this is not how you raise decent human beings!

[@kenyattaknox5163]

I agree with Lonnie. Tamera and Tamar is lying. When you and your family reach a certain income bracket, children get allowances. That's just it. Don't lie, explain cellphones, pricey clothes, shoes and trips. And that lady that said kids shouldn't get anything for helping out, is selfish. As a parent it's important that we understand that our children have a different scope of function and perception of the world. We have careers, 99% of children do NOT. So they do not have any way tangibly to bring in money on their own. BUT as working parents, WE DO! Yes, our children live in our homes, eat food we purchase and enjoy the security we provide. All of those things are not luxuries, THEY ARE NECESSITIES! Don't do ALL of that stuff and watch Children services take your children and you become ostracized. Furthermore, we conceived our children and birthed them. They didn't whisper in our ear and say "hey give birth to me". We did what was necessary to make their creation possible. Wake the EFF up people. That is not loving at all. Withholding money from someone is akin to saying, I value this money more than I value you. Our children see that.

[@santriciajones2579]

They have money to buy their children nice clothes. How are Tamera and Tamar lying when their kids are still toddlers? You really think they are making their beds and washing dishes? lol. Not all parents think children should get allowances just because they make good money.

[@kenyattaknox5163]

You can't be talking about the same show, because Tamera and Tamar have said before that their children will get allowances. Tamera said that when she was on Sister Sister, she and Tia got allowances got doing chores at home as well. Tamar said that Toni provided for her as a kid. She made alot doing background for Toni and Toni got her a cushy position working with her through her record label. As a parent, if I make a certain amount of money and don't allow my children to enjoy the fruits of my labor as well, that's NOT love. Don't let these ladies fool you trying to sound "regular" nor "average". They are in the top 10% earning bracket. They have nannies, housekeepers, pet sitters and a host of other people doing "chores" for them. They are NOT about to let their children be without money in their pockets.

[@santriciajones2579]

"As a parent, if I make a certain amount of money and don't allow my children to enjoy the fruits of my labor as well, that's NOT love." I believe there's a difference between giving out allowances for housework and buying your kids toys. Parents still buy their kids the toys and the electronics they want. There's a difference. If i were a kid, i think i would enjoy just getting bought things out of love rather than having to do housework for it.

[@kenyattaknox5163]

***** hurt feelings much 😂😂😂😂 I'm not BUT I know who is 😛🙈🙉🙊

[@kenyattaknox5163]

***** you remind me of this kid who used to follow me around on the playground. Staying a few feet behind, but always near. Eager to get my attention. He was special.

[@erinclegg2315]

Here's why I disagree and agree... I lived in a household when I was young where there wasn't any routine for cleaning (wish there was) so when the house got too dirty we all went in...for the exception of my father. For all years I lived I never saw my father help without whining. My father used to verbally abuse me and my mother, so I would help not to get paid but to try and stop any potential arguments. Whenever people try and spin the "millenials are crazy" shade I can't 100% agree. My younger sister helps around the house these days, but not all the time. She's an All A student, has won awards, and is active with her church and choir. Her only chore is taking out the trash and sweeping the floor. Her room becomes a mess time after time, since she's stressed about school (I don't blame her) I wish people would try and take the kids side a bit. These days, school is 10x harder than it was in the past. My sister is learning chemistry in middle school for gods sake! I'm not saying kids shouldn't do chores. They should! But the parents should be good examples as well. And motivate their kids to do chores without causing verbal abuse damage. I think also, it's not a bad thing for kids to get allowances for chores because that itself teaches self reliance and hard work. And something I lacked, which is consistency. I don't look it much as bribing, but as motivation. But maybe that's just me.

[@nicm2608]

I agree with Tamera sometimes kids need money when they work because they learn a sense of responsibility and it definitely teaches them how to save and buy what they want.

[@ParzivalOnMars]

Why was Loni's face like that when Tameras said her house is clean😩😭🐸☕️

[@Ayommari]

For the same reason Tamar was hemming and hawing when Tamera asked her about being a neat freak. Tamar apparently doesn't clean her house herself - from how she responded. She may be a clean freak but like she said - she likes to cook but doesn't like to clean. I guess she has a housekeeper and doesn't do it herself like Tamera does. Nothing wrong with that but I guess Loni knows that.

[@luckyarchery]

my dad was in the Navy. we had GI Sundays....the worst. but I appreciate it because I know how to keep my house clean. lots of people from my generation don't know how to clean at all

[@fantatraore32]

In my family ( we're african) my mom rules , it's a dictatorship . She would probably laugh at me if I ever asked for money because I did a chore. It's basically "you do as I as say cuz I know better and I'm doing this for your own good and If you're not happy with it , too bad shut up and do it anyway" I love my mom

[@LaurynWshington]

my mom and my dad make me to make me my bed ever day and i do my chore

[@MsBrooklyn11232]

I never got paid for doing chores around the house when I was younger. And Tamar is right, when my parents asked me to do something I had to do it and not questioned them and not give attitude and not be rude.

[@CourtneyA.]

Judging by the comments, some of y'all didn't get enough whoopings as a kid. There was no way I would've said the crap y'all say. Smh.

[@jordanharrington1890]

That's what I'm saying!!!

[@Mr.Jaquaveon2k]

I hated those days where I knew I was getting it if I was on the bus or she picked me up she would always say "you know what you getting when you get home right" I would always pray that we had a long ride home 😂

[@reneewerner1972bd]

Yep 100%. If they talk to their parents the way they talk in these comments no wonder they get nowhere In life. It's about respect

[@ellerios444]

My daughter helps me with everything I love her!! ❤️

[@Fatloveful]

tameras doppelchin when she says "No!" hahah

[@bebeheart5128]

How can you try and shade someone but can't spell!!??!

[@Fatloveful]

lol sry i translate it from the german word and of course no shade!! i found it even sweet, i love tamera^^

[@LIZZyNIqUZZ10]

doppelchin??

[@Isaacthedondada]

+Bebe Heart how is that shade? HOW? 😂😂😂 when she says that word she has a double chin, its an observation.

[@EddyTheBetty]

I never ever got money for chores or anything like that. I do recall my mom telling us kids 'whoever behaves and do what they told I will buy you something at the grocery store on our next trip' and that got me excited for the next couple of days. (Grocery store+candy+my favorite cereal= happiness)

[@grechellgodoy3055]

Jeannie killed me on this one for some reason 😂

[@CeeJayyMerius]

Jeanine: like you go... DUUUUDE Tamar: you said DAT to yo mama? Jeanine: oh my god yes I did I almost lost my teeth Tamar: YES YOU DID! 😭

[@missrj1014]

Anyone notice Loni has been awfully quiet the past few episodes? She doesn't chatter as much in the earlier seasons

[@nessa7094]

lool

[@youaintneverlied]

Yes, I noticed in many of the clips she has nothing to add. I commented such in another clip and somebody who can't accept others' opinions pounced on me. I also noticed she has a look sometimes of being bored, unhappy... sumthin....

[@aberhassan2545]

youaintneverlied looool guilt perhaps?

[@youaintneverlied]

Bey Bee lol perhaps haha

[@user-si6gs3ne8l]

Tamar: You said that to your mama? Jeannie: Oh my God- I almost lost my teeth Tamar: Yes you did. Oh my😂😭

[@Ashley-dt7tv]

lol it's our house too when it's time to clean and contribute but with anything else, their house, their rules, we live under their roof. But cleaning your room, would you not want your sleeping space to be clean?

[@ravenlapointe-sinegal7479]

Ashley when a kid lives under their parents roof they go by their parents rules

[@belleseuge1854]

Thank you Loni. I remember my mom making me work form my allowance in middle school. She really didn’t want to give me allowance younger because she felt like her house her rules but as a single mom it wasn’t really working for her that way. She gave me $100 a week and told me that now that I got allowance I was in charge of my food. She taught me how to budget lunch for the week and groceries for snacks and things for after school and how to have a little bit left over for movies with friends on Friday’s. I could get bonuses for completing extra unasked chores and extra credit in school. Being a parent isn’t about free service or about preparing your children for the future. Yeah when you have your own house no one will clean it for you so no you shouldn’t get paid for merely brushing your teeth, taking a shower, getting up on time for school, doing homework, and keeping your environment live-able and clean. However anything that falls outside of those lines, cooking for everyone, doing laundry that isn’t their own, washing all the dishes after a large party, putting up shutters, doing extra credit projects in school... like parents these are teachable moments why chose to teach your child that it doesn’t matter how hard you work you won’t be rewarded. Think of it this way you chose for them to be head so lead by example in a teaching I like to call choice and responsibility. Your choices have responsibilities they didn’t choose to be here so the person who did is now responsible for their well fare and therefore must provide for that. Sure ask them for help by any means but don’t teach them that their time holds no value. Remember that when you denounce your child the chance to ask you why you teach them that asking the question why is wrong and that is a very dangerous thing. If little tommy is being mistreated and never ask why he won’t even know that he is being neglected, abuse or even sexually assaulted because he was to afraid to ask why is this happening, why would you be mad? Always let your kids know that they can trust you to ask the tough questions even when you don’t have the answer because you’ll learn together . Build trust because the enemy will always try to cause distrust in those situations and you don’t want to add to their ammunition.

[@timothiturner5218]

Jeannie looks like Luffy from One Peace

[@bakugantextingstoriez2714]

lmao i was thinkin the same thing 😂😂😂

[@PaulaMelissaXX]

Loni's heart for kids is actually the cutestttt

[@realmnthrwknives]

I think this is a mess. Ain't nobody paying them to do regular chores. My parents didn't even entertain that and i definitely won't with my kids either. They may not like it but they gotta learn to clean up after themselves.

[@NallahBrown]

I got paid... for like two weeks. lol The reason was not to "bribe" or "persuade" to do our chores, It was JUST like Loni said, the money responsibility on allowance and such! I can proudly say that it helped. (:

[@rose2654]

Lol Tamar said "Yes you did."

[@courtneywilson2232]

This the first time and the only time I agree with Tamar.

[@Porsche617]

Tamar said "how bout dat" first @ 2:36 😂.

[@DeniseF]

Porsche' Green yes she's the original Cash me Outside girl 😅

[@girl8295]

Tamera I remember General Inspections clean ups!! Gosh you took me back! Wowww

[@debbiedewberry4718]

I grew up in the 60's doing chores because we believe in a clean home. What is an allowance? We didn't see that growing up. We got money for being good it wasn't a regular thing in my household growing up. But when we got a little change as kids or dollar. We were so greatful and appreciated that from our Dad and Mom.

[@lenalyon6060]

I love how much Loni loves the kids

[@DivineVibrations9]

Tamar paying Logan a spanking lmao, I can imagine her

[@arejaysea5127]

I LOVE Loni's message, i dont think that brushing your teeth you should get money for thats basic hygiene!! But growing up my parents for vaccuming the whole downstiairs, changing the trash, dusting etc. i got money each week for allowance if i completed all of my chores. I swear that value of money taught me too much! Today im a college student with $2,000-3,000 SAVED in my bank and all of my other college friends barely can save up gas money. i am blessed for my parents being so good and in turning me into a hard worker.

[@calixthenguadi9435]

Who misses Tamar? I love you Taytay ❤️

[@DylanandJazi]

Calixthe Nguadi me

[@almosttanya286]

I miss her 2

[@jasminegonzalez6391]

Loni would be such an amazing mother💞😍

[@fliskography9378]

I had the best of both worlds of being poor first then growing up seeing capital income and success through hard work in the capital system. I got an allowance for taking out the trash to pulling weeds and working on the house. Shadowing my grandfather to fix things around the house and even to help maintenance our industrial lawn mower. I also learned that having that income helped me learn to save for the things i NEED vs what i WANT in life. but i had to figure out the hard way the rest of managing money and earning it as i was able to work legally in age. Trying to do all of that with having Audio Processing Disorder and getting RA when i was 21 in college has been quite the bigger struggle vs trying to be "normal" and make a living. THAT in combination of having a disorder and a incurable disease is DIFFICULT. So i totally agree that earning money and respect to come with it is value to a personalty.

[@yasminee07]

Tamar: You said that to yo momma!? Jeannie: omg i almost lost my teeth Tamar: Yes you did! Lmao

[@shazz286]

if i didn't do my chores my privileges were taken away. if you want to get paid move out

[@karmaisacat9]

Tamar looks stunning!!!!

[@NYCEddy]

It’s very important for kids to do their chores and value cleanliness and using your hands to fix things (change tires , clean ,cook etc) , but another value trait we should value kids to do is to learn (read books and summarize them ) vocabulary , research , utilizing their brain to absorb knowledge and pay them for it .

[@mscstapleton]

When my kids were younger they were taught to help out without being paid. However, the older (9 & 11) they got it was more of a task for me to make sure they did them but they expected to get an allowance. So now chores and allowance have now been combined... they have a list of chores they are paid for if they do them they get a set amount per chore and if they don't they don't get paid. Been working like a charm! :)

[@schnitzel1024]

I agree that parents shouldn't pay their kids for basic chores, but I don't agree with the concept that their is no conversation about it. If your child understand why he or she is required to do certain tasks, then they will be more receptive to doing them. You should never want your child to feel like you are just being controlling. This goes hand in hand with the saying " My house, my rules." All that is telling your child is that of they want things to change, they need to leave. When the parents should be saying "I am the parent. I have lived longer, I know things that you don't know yet. I know best and I won't allow you to make this kind of mistake." One way makes you look like you are controlling, the other makes you appear to be concerned.

[@opinionatedlibra1934]

I'm 21, but I had old school parents (Grandma and mom). Half of the things that goes on in this generation....I would have been asking if I was dead.

[@Shairisgarcia]

i think a weekly or monthly allowance is more fit. it's more realistic, mimics a future income, and teaches monetary responsibility. if you don't do the chores, etc. , you get a penalty.

[@daisymerollin2755]

My momma always said " while you're under my roof you do as I say, when you get your own house do whatever you want now go put away those damn dishes". I say the exact same thing to my daughter and she's as clean as me. She rarely complains but when she does y'all's better pray for her.( she's 8 so I'll go easy on her😉) 😂

[@amnesianbro9220]

Agreed! My mum did the same thing to me and I am so glad she did!

[@tenseybat5063]

Everyone’s makeup is so nice and natural here😊And Lonis skin is glowing🙌🏾🔥

[@lorenacuenca6250]

My parents never made me do chores...I just kinda took it upon myself to wash the dishes, clean, take out the trash, or just help out around the house. I'm very grateful for how my parents raised me...they always let me know that my opinion mattered and that I had a voice but taught me when to speak and when not to. I was never hit, EVER. I am BEYOND grateful.

[@mariabelayadi7361]

I love watching old clips :)

[@LaCheleWallace]

Shoot, I used to get paid top dollar for doing the chores. I actually still love vacuuming, cleaning my bathroom and polishing furniture. If you always keep it clean, it's not really a chore. I agree with Sandi Hall's post. And that talkin' back and eye rollin'.....uh uh. My mom wasn't havin' that at all. *Get off the phone and getcha lil' self in there and do as I say!* No chores, no free-time, *period*. My dad was the lenient one. I accepted cd's, clothes and shoes as a valid form of payment as well. 😉

[@LittleMak1]

I agree, I don't know what or how allowances work b/c I was never paid for chores. My mom needed help and us kids would do like scheduled chores on different days, like dishes or empty wastebaskets. We were never paid b/c she didn't think we should be paid b/c we live there for free and we needed to help out and know what to do when we have our own house/apartment.

[@Dee--Jay]

as the parenting gotten softer and sissified, the kids have become worse

[@heymima1990]

when my sister and I were young, our teeth was our allowance lol.

[@shamimkagere]

Tamar🤣 "yes you did!!"🤣🤣

[@jasmyneb.5912]

Ever since the whole Tamar thing...the comments are more interesting than actual videos.. You guys are hilarious!!!!!!!!!!

[@merrilltruideman3031]

😂😂😂😂😂😂that awkward moment... Tamera: well you know...you're a germaphobe rightgghhht??? Tamar: grmblgrmblgrmbl....😂😂😂😂😂

[@LaDimanche]

Im all for being a team and children doing their part around the house, however I am NOT for treating your children as if they're slaves. Seen it and experienced it many times. #JustSaying

[@Scoobniy]

To me it depends on the child. For me my mom told she will pay me for doing choirs every since last year still haven’t got paid😂

[@CBabeey]

This is such a random comment, but I find Jeannie is the best out of all the girls at reading the teleprompter. The others struggle with it and actually sound like they are reading something other than communicating it to the audience, if that makes sense lol.

[@BRITTWOODNESHIE]

I agree.

[@mjlovahh12]

Idk I think Tamera is pretty awesome at it as well. She's a natural. Now the other three... *sideeye* Tamar's definitely the worst at it tho

[@AyyRalphy]

Jeannie: "TAM TWO KIDS" lmfao!!!!!

[@bonitapandora]

My Nigerian parents laughed at me when I asked for allowance. My books were my allowance if that makes any sense lol. i laughed at when tamar said getting the remote. I remember I received a phone call during class and it was my dad who left a voicemail saying " when you come back from school come give me the remote".

[@caitlynskiff2001]

I never had an allowance growing up. I got paid by my grandmother for doing work around her yard, which was like 5 dollars for picking up sticks while my brother mowed. I never understood the reasoning for allowances. Does it mean that you can sit around and do nothing all month and still get paid. That makes no sense to me.

[@rulaalmansour4629]

daughter of immigrant arab parents and they used to give us twenty bucks a month starting at grade seven - my sisters and friends would go out every friday with a youth group - going swimming/rock climbing/shopping/biking it was so much fun and definitely built reponsibility - i became really good with my money

[@TheLaLaLove2012]

Loni is amazing.

[@poetry_on_standby6440]

Jeannie makes my day when she impersonates her mother, it is very entertaining and cute.

[@debbiedewberry4718]

I agree with you Loni. Children aught to be given some type of an allowance. Everyone need to understand the value of a dollar at a young age.

[@humanitarianharjot402]

'Aunty Loni' is the right kind of aunt for the kids💕.

[@misseydj123]

My parents gave me an allowance when I was younger because they wanted to reward me for just being a good kid in general AND because they were teaching me how to budget. With that allowance I had to pay for all of my own personal items and anything special that I wanted.

[@shecops985]

If I were getting paid for doing chores, I be RICH

[@plw8414]

I think when they are younger its helping out but when they get a certain age it becomes a chore and you should give them a allowance like Loni said it teaches them how to save and manage Money at a young age

[@Sarah-zg5qs]

Earning money is being responsible. It would teach them work ethics, and how to manage their money.

[@alexandria4401]

I never got allowance growing up and we were okay because we saw it as our responsibility to contribute to our household

[@bebeheart5128]

Now watch the Tamera conspiracy theorists try to say she's lying about being an army brat *rolls eyes*

[@tashaharris6960]

I know right

[@clarke4400]

You're a Tamar conspiracy theorist ‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@bebeheart5128]

+Michie Oo And you're reaching

[@clarke4400]

Bebe Heart and you're always reaching

[@cccody50]

+Bebe Heart Nooooo don't feed the troll! 😂

[@averysandoval541]

My parents always taught me to ask questions and to be independent. I had practice 3 days a week 40 minutes away from home, so they began to pay me for cleaning the restroom twice a week so that I could eat. A rule in our house is that we need to wash our own dishes as soon as we can reach the faucet, we've always been responsible for wiping down the table after dinner and for keeping our rooms livable. I believe in allowances, but only when your children learn the value of money.

[@averysandoval541]

The first part is in response to how insulted you all were at the mere thought that parents would treat their children as if they were equal. My father is in business, and he always taught me to negotiate if I felt cheated. (I got a raise to 15 dollars for 3 meals a week. I didn't ask for much, but he lowballed me so that I could challenge him.) Negotiation isn't a bad thing, it taught me to stand up for myself and to challenge authority when necessary.

[@jennakaufman4471]

I was done with the token system each day I did as I was told I got a token. And when the jar was full I could use the tokens to trade in to go to the movies or going out to eat. Not to mention the tokens could be taken away if I was bad.

[@arreyyyx]

“I don’t have a problem with that Logan” 😭😭 that’s what aunts do, you say yes yes yes

[@NellieKAdaba]

Yes, sometimes I had an allowance, but not all the time.