It's ok to be feminine (FTM Transgender).

[@lort8334]

I'm a trans guy, but I very much identify as being a feminine male.

[@lola_dash788]

Yea exactly I was gonna say... Like there are many gay men who act more feminine yet that is more accepted and people don't doubt that they're still a male. So how is it any different for a trans man to be on the feminine side? Just like a cis girl can be a tomboy but people don't doubt or question her as a woman. People have come such a loooooong way with the LGB community I have no question in years to come, people will be more accepting of the TQ part of it.

[@cupcakegirl767]

+Kali_Dash PREACH! but all realness you can be a trans man and wear dresses or have long hair or wear make up and you can be a trans girl and have short hair or wear suits and that's okay!

[@rains5]

If I were just born male I might even have cross dressed a few times. And that would be normal...

[@EminayDrackoness]

I am deffinately a trans man, but im a femme boy with a very androgenous l

[@emaymi98]

I am the same way, i havent even transitioned yet and i dont mind using makeup

[@ZephariusBe]

I've gotten a lot of people who tell me I'm 'not trans enough' because I'm a feminine and gay man. I always just respond, "Does that mean that cisgender feminine gay men aren't 'cis' enough?" And they always shut up. If Jeffree Star can wear lipstick, so can I. I will have 'scene' hair, wear pink, and act feminine if I want to. I'm not going to pretend to be someone else just so I pass better. Thank you for doing this video. ^-^ I know we don't know each other, but it's still really nice to get support and recognition from someone I look up to and someone who has helped me so much in my life and my transition. If it wasn't for your videos, I would have never gained the courage to come out as transgender. I will be happy if I end up being even half the man that you are. Thank you for saving my life.

[@buzzpaw5259]

Thank you for this message. It's nice to hear someone be so confident in not caring what others think.

[@renny3816]

You are a HETEROSEXUAL GIRL.

[@Heehoo1114]

Mark Mays HES A GAY MAN

[@punksterpride8339]

Thankyou for sharing

[@roofoochoo]

There's a trans guy at my school and he's really feminine but he's very masculine at the same time. He's awesome :D

[@cyb3rpillz13]

Okay we dont care

[@cyb3rpillz13]

@Broken Lelouch 🤡

[@nyumyu4265]

@@cyb3rpillz13 i cared

[@maxrat8745]

b4 transition: TOMBOY SUPREME after coming out and transition: FEMININE AF h o w

[@emma-hg6td]

same

[@hagenmartinez68]

Also same

[@riecemartin2547]

fawnguts omg I'm late but me too I'm crying

[@kauradam]

fawnguts oK BUT YOUR PROFILE PICTURE ,,, Y E S

[@kauradam]

Tyler Martin YOURS TOO

[@jacobcoolzaet1250]

my psychiatrist told me that I was too feminine to be a guy, and I doubted a lot about my gender identity just because of my femininity. Some guy friends wanted to teach me how to be a "real" guy etc. But fuck it, I'm fabulous and I'm a transguy 🌈☺

[@maddiesonline]

Damn right! I doubt myself a lot because people love to say 'but you're such a pretty girl!!!' But I know I'm a guy and they need to chill. Like sometimes I wear lipstick. Shut up.

[@vvv-zo9ps]

SAAAME.

[@sevvy7663]

Society is like; Girl wears a mens shirt and likes action movies? Thats okay she just want to be comfortable and has good tastes in media. Male wears anything "girl-like" and like romance movies? ohshit thats gay bruh. i just learned the other day that Smirnoffs(sweet alcohol drink) is a "womens beverage" because it's so sugary and fruity. Saw a guy make fun of another for getting Starbucks because its "white girl thing". Men are suffocating themselves from the simplest things with these idiotic beliefs.

[@maddiesonline]

This kinda stuff is so dumb! Every time I hear someone say 'that's a girly cocktail' I'm like... Are you okay? Are you preventing yourself from drinking tasty drinks because your masculinity is so fragile?

[@mooncrumble9036]

@@heatherlynn4463 Same. Like I don't care if anti-freeze is a "cAr dRiNk" I don't care, I'ma drink it if it makes me happy

[@citrusangel9488]

@@heatherlynn4463 i think they're joking

[@heatherlynn4463]

@@citrusangel9488 I commented this so many years ago ;-;

[@heatherlynn4463]

@@citrusangel9488 It was so long ago I sort of don’t remember this video comment section stuff, but I’m sorry if I had worded something a little odd though, I was younger too

[@TyTurner]

omg i just filmed a video about dealing with expectations of being masculine

[@maisieteafatiller]

omg my 2 role models on one page . love you guys

[@coffeedoggo9765]

+Maisie Teafatiller let's get Alex and Jake up in here and were set!

[@Kovukingsrod]

+meapstermeap and Benton!

[@oliverbushong6729]

+WAR KHAN How much time did you spend leaving ignorant hate comments on this video? xD Pathetic.

[@patrickaaroncraig9239]

*you're

[@dirkrider7748]

My mom won't believe I'm trans (ftm) because 1. I'm gay. 2. I'm feminine 3. I'm goth I don't know what to tell her .-.

[@skimmoon]

tell her 🖕🏻

[@vvv-zo9ps]

SAME.

[@heatherlynn4463]

SAME, especially some don't believe me because I dress "alternative"

[@heatherlynn4463]

just do you :))))

[@ricachowdhury5502]

Same here

[@lukeoswinoswald7217]

I'm a very feminine trans guy. I dance ballet, cosplay (I usally take advantage of my feminine looks and cosplay as characters such as suzuya from tokyo ghoul), and I sometimes wear makeup. I've always felt like I'm not masculine enough, and this video really helped me accept my femininity. (btw could you maybe do a collab with Alex Bertie?)

[@leedaniel2002]

Yes everything about this comment I love

[@lukeoswinoswald7217]

+Black Star thanks (I love your username btw)

[@uninspired4ever]

I feel you

[@leedaniel2002]

+luke Oswin Oswald thanks :D

[@GoobyOoby2702]

+luke Oswin Oswald I know this is off topic, but HELLO FELLOW WHO FAN! :D Now on topic, embrace everything that makes you, you. You get this one life, you know your own heart, you decide. If you're feminine, awesome. If you're into cosplay, great (that's so awesome and I want to start making my own costumes soon). Just live everyday enjoying your own life. That's all you're given after all :)

[@0925-g5y]

I’m a trans guy and I LOVED dresses when I was little, and I still do. It’s okay to be feminine!!

[@SmallworldsKayla]

I came out to the guy I like as ftm. He told me I can't be transgender because I'm too "feminine"

[@fatheroftherealm]

+Katie Wilson Don't let that sway you. This is a choice about you. Guys can be whatever they are. Feel free to message me

[@sarahholness596]

If he genuinely thinks that don't worry about it. He's not worth your time.

[@NikkyKicks]

I'm so sorry that happened to you and I know what it feels like. Don't worry - you'll find people who can understand. My advice: drop the guy if this kind of attitude continues.

[@liambarlow3840]

yeah I know how you're feeling.I'm also ftm and I don't like playing video games,I love boygroups and my only real friends are girls...but I guess I'm still a guy bc that's only about the body...I want a boy's body

[@fatheroftherealm]

Liam Barlow You are who you are. Cis males are themselves despite liking those things, and so are we

[@caseybc6342]

Since coming out as trans (FTM), I now feel more comfortable letting myself express femininity. It feels totally different to express that as a guy than to have to perform it when I was being raised as a girl. I feel more well rounded as a result.

[@ceciliap5336]

this helped me a lot because i have always been a little feminine and i have always been confused because i thought you would HAVE to be masculine :/ and this video really helped me, thank you so much chase :-))

[@RiciRose]

Im watching this and I'm painting my nails bc 💅🏼 doesn't make me less of a dude

[@TheRoyalKittens]

As a kid, I was always rather masculine presenting. I didn't like dresses, I didn't like make-up, I couldn't stand being/acting "like a girl". I always rejected femininity. So, in that respect, I have a pretty average transguy story. But I actually changed a lot and, around about last summer, I started presenting a lot more femininely than I used to. I started wearing dresses and everything, and everyone had a comment on it. I considered it to be embracing my feminine side, and said that the way I thought about it before was toxic, but I started acting so hyper-feminine to the point that was also toxic. The main reason I ended up like that, was probably because I had a boyfriend and there was this little thing in the back of my head that told me I wasn't good enough for him and that he would stop wanting to date me because the novelty of the "one of the guys" girlfriend wears off as 5 different relationships showed me. And I'm gonna say that I did- and still- like the dresses I bought, and I definitely found something refreshing in this new way of expressing myself, but I finally realise now how little I felt like me. And how much strain this put on my relationship, because there was this subconscious part of me that blamed him for what I was doing, he didn't appreciate it enough. I remember being on his bathroom floor crying about my makeup because I couldn't look pretty for him, I couldn't be a girl for him, and it was a disaster and I was a failure, and it was probably one of the worst moments of my life. We have a much happier relationship now that I've came out. He has been so supportive of me. But the takeaway from this is there is a middle ground between masculinity and femininity and it's called YOU. I saw my life from two extremes either I rejected femininity and all that it stands for, or I rejected my masculinity and tried to be someone I'm not. But you do not need to negate one to validate the other. I like My Little Pony, and I talk with my hands, and I hope that I'll be comfortable enough in my own skin to wear one of my nice dresses one day, and my gender is valid. Femininity is okay. Masculinity is okay. It is OKAY to be yourself. If you are being yourself, then IT. IS. OKAY.

[@pastelx7]

Yeah for me growing up I always kinda like a dress up games. So my brain I was literally doing it for everybody else to sake I was the doll to dress up. So wearing dresses is normal for me but now I'm like scared cuz I don't look exactly manly. I have texture problems with alot of clothes and it's mainly pants. Love my cargo and camo pants. Hate jeans. I like to dance and draw stuff and love MLP popples and anything pastel andor cute it's that or alot of patterns. Fav colors is pink and green. Tho this doesn't make me any less of a man I have in the past but not now. Cuz Im trying to love the real me that is a man who wants to take all that and fuck off into the woods in a house I built myself with the stuff I love . I want to learn how to fish and provide my own meals.

[@ComeDownRedMolly]

This so much THIS! This is exactly what I ran into as well, but also the side of people somehow doubting or assuming you are less trans if as an FTM if you embrace those "typical feminine traits/hobbies etc." It was one of the biggest reasons I took so long to figure out that I am indeed trans and not just gender fluid. Thanks for putting this vid out there.

[@devon_eggproduct]

when i first came out i tried really hard to cut down on my use of exclamation points and emojis bc for some reason i thought people would think im to feminine but like?????? its punctuation..... and emojis...... so i dont cut down anymore cause i dont even care!! im an excitable person, i need extra punctuation.

[@paige4114]

Devon Braner my ex used lots of emojis so i think it’s fine lol

[@spitfyre4310]

I've felt like maybe I'm not transgender because everyone else claims to have figured it out when they were three. I almost cried when I heard that you found out when you were fifteen, and here you are...fully transitioned. I'm fourteen, and your video has certainly helped me with that issue! Thank you so so so SO much!

[@spitfyre4310]

I mean I might've miss-heard you and you might've said that you came out at fifteen but like... still, it made me happy. Thank you again!

[@IOrganiseContentUK]

I myself, a trans man, want to grow up and be a dance teacher and studio owner. I have been dancing since age 3 and have always dreamed of teaching dance. I do not pass at all, especially with such a feminine career path, and current hobby. I also identify as gay; so many people don't see that I'm trans or that I identify as male at all. Even my boyfriend has said to me, " Wow, you were raised very much as a girl. You like girly things, you are an artistic and poetic person, and even though you're the boy I love, at times it is very evident that you were raised as a girly girl." I also want to say that I love your videos, and they give me a sense of normalcy, within my chaotic life of being trans. I had to write an essay for my first college English course on a learning experience. I chose to write about what being trans had taught me about love and abandonment. Specifically involving my parents.

[@soggyhoneycomb]

+Chase Smith (Plantan) Think of Johnny Castle from Dirty Dancing, he is a dance teacher and not feminine at all!

[@agnescamargo160]

Here in Brasil we have a song by a singer called Pepeu Gomes, from 1983 and he says "to be a feminine man don't hurt my masculine side". I just remember this watching your video :)

[@lucassmith8676]

Interestingly, my uncle (who is also ftm) told me when I first came out that I should probably try and tone down my "flamboyance" until I started on T. This came from a place of "well, if you want people to see you as male then...." but what I have slowly come to terms with is that I don't actually care how other people see/perceive me because I know who I am and how I feel and like, so what if I'm not read as male? The people who matter know anyways, so whatever. I'll just carry on wearing my floral purple button downs because that's what I like and if people aren't going to read me as male (I am not on hormones so that's also why people don't but shh let's imagine I am usually recognized as male) because of that then that is their issue and not mine.

[@canisfamiliaris351]

+Lucas Smith Ahhh I'm the same - I've realized that hiding myself is not of any use to anyone, especially me, so i just don't give a fuck nowadays. I do tell people that I'm trans and waiting for a diagnosis etc, and it usually is cool. And I just don't hang around people who tell me I can't possibly be trans. I told that to myself for way too long, I didn't know I could be a "feminine" man. I thought I wasn't "trans enough". But now I just want to be me. This is only temporary anyways, I hope to start T next year.

[@Adrinautt]

Thank god. I’m constantly feeling invalidated because i’m feminine.

[@ILOVEFRIES-q2y]

It feels great hearing it from someone else. I feel most comfortable with he/they pronouns but I like feminine things, so I felt invalid until I saw this video! Thank you so much!!

[@josephsdimension]

I dress masculine and usually act masculine but once in awhile I love acting feminine, like flamboyant-ish and stuff. I love my masculinity and I'm straight transguy but I also like to be free, easygoing and fun.

[@flo4385]

Thank you. That's the only video of a transguy saying "it's okay to be feminin. Wear what you want" n stuff on KZbin I was able to find. That's rlly sad but I am glad yours exist. So thank you

[@taylorelliot227]

I'm non binary / gender fluid (I'm still figuring it out) and I'm not out yet, but I'd love to have way shorter hair and dress more "masculine". but all of my friends always tell me that I should wear more dresses and skirts, and all of that stuff and I hate it because I don't like wearing that stuff and I don't feel great in it. none of my friends understand why I'll wear "men's" shirts and jeans and also have on a face of makeup. gender rolls suck...

[@samfrisone1824]

+Taylor Elliot I'm non-binary myself and I really feel this. When I was in high school, for about a year and a half I really tried dressing the way I "should," ie femininely (I'm AFAB). I liked how I looked objectively, since I do like how some feminine things look, but I was always more comfortable in clothes that reflected my gender, and were neutral or masculine. I felt more like myself. It was hard to go back to it, though, because people knew better what to do with me, sort of, when I presented more feminine. Guys actually held conversations with me, as did girls outside my small friend group, but it felt so fake sometimes. I'm out of that place now, and it's so much better, though I do still have issues wearing more feminine clothes because it makes it easier for people to gender me as female, which is something I hate. If I could tell you one thing, do what you want and don't let people "should" you into doing things so they know how to react. Your body, your rules.

[@xxFragileBirdxx]

I always said as a kid that I was supposed to be born a very feminine flamboyant male instead of a female. I mean I still present as female due to family, safety etc. But I identify as a trans man. Also, I get the shoe issue lol I'm size 6 in women's so I have a hard time finding anything that fits even when I'm not looking for men's shoes lol

[@laurierthefoxoffi]

Thank you so much for this video! It's a thing who bother me a lot. I'm a non binary transboy with very very long hair, and all people are just like "hey if you want to pass better, cut your hair", "what you don't want to go on T? So you're not a trans men" So thank you! Feeling not alone is a relief. Love

[@unsettlingg]

I just linked this to so many people. I came out to my new girlfriend a few days ago, but she was slightly confused because I wear winged eyeliner, love knee socks and cardigans, blah blah blah blah blah. I kind of described it as me knowing that I'm always going to dress like this, but it's almost like I'm trying to get it all out of my system at once?? Idk. But I sent this to her, and she really understands now... Thank you Chase, you always help :)

[@cyber.creature]

I used to be quite a mix of masculine and feminine and androgynous before coming out, and I'm still the same but sometimes I feel as if I have to prove I'm trans to everyone around me by acting more masculine, which just sucks so much because I just wanna be my gay ass self and go out with friends and try cute suits on and help them out with whatever outfit they're trying to pick lol but everyone around me makes that so difficult... As always, it would just be so. much. easier if we were born cis guys... Even though they also get shit for being feminine-- DARN IT, SOCIETY

[@edinwrites]

Thank you for this. I really needed this reminder. I've only just started telling people that I'm trans and whenever I'm getting dressed I feel an intense pressure to dress "masculine" even though I've always enjoyed both "masculine" and "feminine" clothing, hair, accessories, etc. Hopefully next time I can just say fuck it! and wear whatever I fancy...

[@waffel61]

My mom and I just talked about the fact that I wish to go on T sometime in the future. She is extremely worried which is reasonable for a parent with a child like me, so I get that. But she thinks my identity is only temporary because my mannerisms sometimes tend to be feminine. She keeps telling me that she's afraid I will regret it in the future and uses my feminine traits as evidence that who I am is invaild. I am 100% sure of myself but she wants me to stay (physically) the way I am and just accept it. I have no idea how to make her worries go away and at the same time convince her that this really is who I am. I'm aware that it's okay to be feminine and still be a guy but my mom isn't.

[@bluekyokitty]

+CarbonH Well, the sad truth might be, she might not accept it for a long time. It could be years down the line, it might not even be till many months on T. She might not accept and believe it until given "proof". I know that might suck to hear, but it could be the sad truth. My mom was much the same. She never doubted it, to my face at least, and fully supported me, but she didn't find it real until I was actually on T. She never once called me 'he' until I was actually on T. She would call me an uncle, and -sometimes- a brother, but I wasn't a male. To her, I wasn't valid until I gave her proof. My mother really is supportive, she is. But to her, transitioning meant nothing until on hormones. It's sad, and I still harbor a lot of ill feelings towards her for that year and a half I was out and kept asking for male pronouns, but never got it from her, but I got through it. I'm sure you will to! Your mother loves you, and while I don't know her, I'm sure she supports you! Keep talking with it to her, she might let up. But if not, it's okay. Don't rush your transition to proof anything to anyone! You know you better then anyone else. It's hard for a mother to accept she doesn't know her child as well as they know themselves.

[@nahtes3629]

+CarbonH Tbh I have the exact same problem (?)! Like I told my mother that I am trans about 1,5 years ago and I've always been a child that liked video games and some fighting and I have short hair and love that hipster denim style etc. but since I cosplay I also like make-up and I'm a rather expressive person that enjoys to be a little different everyday. So whenever we talk about this she's like "You now back in my days girls could just be tomboys! And you like thing xy!" And I know that I can be feminine and a guy? but she doesn't and I've been trying to get that weird idea out of her head for a while, which didn't really work since she forbids me to go on T before I am 18 because she thinks that I'll regret it because... it is apparently impossible to not be a girl if you like to cover up your black circles from not sleeping enough? Anyway! this was a long way to tell you that I feel this and hopefully you'll get through to your mother!! I'm rooting for you!

[@waffel61]

Thank you! tbh, I don't really care anymore. My brain tells me that I'm a guy and the only thing that matters is what I think of myself since my transition won't be for the approval of others. I know my parents wouldn't support me with their money in my transition so I'm not even going to ask for it. It would have been easier since I'm 19 and still a student with no possibility to make a living on my own. My parents are only there for mental support, which I'm still grateful for. But unfortunately like this it seems like I won't be able to start my transition until I'm in my mid 20s.

[@nahtes3629]

CarbonH You're welcome! And you're totally right with that. Knowing who you are and doing this for yourself is the best thing you can do, even if financial support would be a nice thing... I do hope that you're able to get the money as quickly as possible since you deserve to go your way and do your thing! (or that they pass some laws so the state at least pays for transition to a certain point which it does in germany) Anyway I wish you the best of luck and even if you can't transition right now you're still valid and awesome!! It might take a while until others see that but there are many people that already do so you're not alone waiting! (I totally hope that this is actually a cheerfull thing to say... I'm not good with inspirational stuff but I really do hope that you'll be happy q.q)

[@waffel61]

thank you! you're really nice! this actually did make me feel a bit better ^^

[@faithfulbright3829]

Thank you for expressing yourself the way you do. I wear "men's" clothes, but prefer to dress like a "femme" "gay" guy. I pass without that even being something that I think about (I don't actually feel like a guy or a girl), and it's just really nice to hear you uncouple that femme guy=gay way of thinking.

[@kaydenlyric6605]

I LOVE makeup💖😍👏 it is a big part of my life, and it is viewed in society as something very feminine. it is one of the top confusions that people try to connect about me, because they think that if i am an ftm guy, I need to prove masculinity more than anyone else, even though it is not true at all. I am a very very artistic person and in my personal views, makeup is an Art form much like painting. even though society views something as feminine/masculine and tells you that it is banned from you don't stop doing what you love, being who you are, and expressing what makes you happy Just because it is confusing and it makes people question me art is as big of a part in my life as being trans, and I am going to express both

[@siriusblack2054]

Makeup is pretty much urban tribal warpaint, so anyone can wear it. - fellow makeup enthusiast

[@deadboy1003]

Omfg thank you so much for making this video; I just got chewed out by aunt for being feminine and being ftm. So it made me feel bad because she thought I was less trans(?) because of that so like I always do I turned to KZbin n looked up how to be less feminine but I found this instead.❤️

[@bris9598]

Thank you so much for this video. I have struggled with my gender identity for many years now. When I found out what transgender meant I thought that I couldn't possibly be transgender because i still like wearing dresses and doing "feminine" things. So I repressed my feelings which was bad. i mean, I've been following transgender you tubers for years because there was always something in the back of my mind that told me i was like them. I recently decided to finally accept that I am transgender which was really hard. and i also struggled with similar things that you mentioned such as starting out wearing girly clothes and then slowly going back to "tom-boy" clothes and now i know why. hopefully I will be able to transition and become the person i want to be and look hot af while doing so. thank you for your videos they have really helped me come to terms with my identity.

[@christopherquinn8457]

This was very helpful, thank you. I have been struggling with embracing femininity, and it's good to know I'm not alone

[@louw.6526]

Thank you for making this video! I high-key feel like such an outcast in the community because I'm a feminine transguy, I feel like there is such a taboo on being ftm and feminine like if I'm not masculine I can't be trans yk.

[@august1451]

I'm a trans person (male?? agender?? I have no idea) and I love being feminine. I bought a flower crown the day before yesterday and it was one of the best purchases I've ever made. I sit with my legs wide, but I walk like a "girl", I have a deep voice, but I giggle like a frickin fairy or something. Masculine traits are great, but so are feminine traits. Society needs to pull it's head out of it's ass and realise that we're finally escaping the stereotypes and assumptions that we've all been trapped in. Times are changing and it's fantastic.

[@Dumpling.-.]

My mom tells me that I may not be trans... because I like dressing up all cute and putting on makeup some days. Those days are rare, but sometimes I just want to dress girly. And even though I want to dress girly, that doesn’t mean I want to go out in public and have people calling me by female pronouns. I love my male pronouns.

[@Gnomeybone]

legit made me cry. ;u; just im a dude, I want a dude body, I wanna wear cool dresses and make up uhhhg but I just so hard to get people to understand

[@P03ticJustice]

Just be yourself. You doing too much to be extra.

[@SinXI]

before I came out as trans I repressed the feeling of femininity. but now that I am out i feel more comfortable being feminine, even if I am not on hormones. :)

[@LoStreetsAndCities]

I have been worried about this lately and it bothers me because I know it's ok, but I just always worry I'm not dressing masculine enough or "manly" enough in general. I think if it was not for the fact that I still see my family often I wouldn't worry as much. I find that I worry about it the most with people who knows I'm trans and are okeyish with it. If they don't know or are really cool with the issue or trans themselves I don't worry as much.

[@ayelmao1314]

this is exactly what I needed to hear. being pre everything, I've been struggling with the idea of my future since I'm seeing my doc to start t tomorrow but I'm extremely feminine. I only wear dresses/skirts and I love make up. This was very comforting.

[@ezekiel-bethanygoff4288]

I am nonbinary and on T, and I just got out of an emotionally abusive living situation. This video validated the conclusions that I have been drawing myself over the past several weeks. Thank you.

[@briceherrera6491]

I feel the same thing you did before transition. I’m usually tomboy and rarely wear feminine clothing, but I love that clothing because it can be so expressive and full of colors. Yet I try not to wear it because I want to be seen as trans enough.

[@empress.caiatl]

I’m literally so terrified of wearing anything feminine as a trans male because I’m afraid of being seen as a faker or as a girl and I just don’t want to be bashed. I’m always afraid of my father even making fun of my femininity since I’m usually masculine around him and stuff, but I’m both a masculine male and kind of feminine. Most of the time I’m in the masculine mood but sometimes I want to be a little feminine and wear stuff like short ripped shorts or some “crop top” shirts and stuff. This made me feel a lot better.

[@boredom4677]

I am really scared too. Not only are we a guy and some people still judge, but we are trans and people think its that we wanna become a guy but we know we already are one. I wanna be myself but I dont want people to get my identity confused.

[@lola_dash788]

Chase is honestly the cutest thing I've ever seen. He reminds me so much of this neighborhood boy I grew up with look wise and personality. I don't know how anyone could not like chase or could ever say a bad word about him. I love that he's here to educate people but not shove it down their throat. As a cis female, there's soooo much I've learned about the trans community & chase's videos are so addicting to watch while also learning so much plus you get to stare at his adorable face! Haha

[@ezfg-p9983]

This was so reassuring. I sometimes wear makeup to feel the least bit better about myself and I thought that it invalidated me. It’s refreshing to hear that I was wrong!

[@mckenziecatlin8422]

I've been trying to find videos or articles relating to coping with being a transgender man by obsessing over presenting feminine, having the perfect woman body, and gender roles. I used those coping mechanisms to suppress the dysphoria, almost making me believe I was a woman. I am just now allowing myself to let go of them and be who I really am. But, as most of us do, I feel like an imposter. If I could find someone speaking about their story and it being similar to my experience, it would help me a lot. Thanks!

[@marshmllwbunny]

I recently been doubting and questioning whether I am trans or not, because I still enjoy doing 'feminine' (society's definition, not mine) things like shopping and wearing makeup, but this video really helped me realize that I can be a super handsome guy with wicked winged eyeliner. No one can stop me! You're very helpful and very much becoming one of my favorite channels on KZbin. Thanks so much for the help Chase! 😁😁

[@Savpai]

This video makes me feel so much better. I am a FTM (still have female genitalia sadly) and one of my friends thinks that if you want to be transgender male, you have to act like a (stereotypical) boy as well, and he still thinks of me as a girl because of my personality. I'm not feminine, I'm just very skittish and 'sensitive' and my friend considers that feminine, which is stupid.

[@BlueRaven666]

It's been a while since I watched one of your videos. The last time I commented on something of yours, I was saying how I was going to go into therapy and that I was crazy nervous because I didn't know what to expect. Now I've gotten through my first appointment, and I have another one next week, and let me just say I love my therapist! Back on topic with this video, thanks so much for making it. I was worried f for a while that I was too feminine and that didn't make me trans, but this video gave me a clear understanding that that is not the case. Thank you so much, Chase

[@maddiesonline]

Good going man, it's so good to hear your progress!

[@crimsonfishf0099]

All of these comments and this video made me feel so much better but I always have that fear being called a trender.....but I'll get over it,... Thank you ❤

[@emersonparks6288]

Oh my god thank you for this. I am currently struggling to identify myself. I want to identify myself. It helps so much to hear that you can be an ftm feminine trans man. Thank you.

[@Anovagrey]

I've been struggling with my femininity my whole life. Especially coming out as ftm was really hard for a lot of people to understand.... I also hid a lot of my femme interests but still had ones I was out about. I stopped wearing makeup and wore now masculine clothes like I used to and now I'm so frustrated with my look I feel like I can't wear anything, masculine or feminine without feeling wrong. I'm hoping it's just the awkward stage of my transition hopefully getting better soon since I don't pass much now but yeah... sorry random rant. This video was truly amazing and I just want to thank you for everything you do. You've helped me so much for a few years now, I don't know what I would have done without your videos. Keep being you, you're amazing and just thank you so much ; o ;

[@thomasplaysmusic3137]

Honestly, this is such an important topic. Thank you Chase for making this video, and thank you for everything you've done and are willing to do for our community. I think, for most of my life, I've seen being feminine as a personal problem I need to solve, and I'm just now getting to the point where I'm becoming more comfortable being open about my feminine traits and interests. I think a lot of what pushed me to shun my femininity was the need to be read as male, to have people believe in my capabilities, and ultimately to blend in. When I first started T all I wanted was to blend in, and to a certain extent, I think that's what most trans people want. Maybe "blend in" is not quite the right words, but I think we all want to be seen and treated as the gender we are, and to that extent, we match the texture of the population at large in order to achieve that. I hope that makes as much sense as it did in my head but idk. This is an important topic and I'm glad it's being talked about

[@ColbertSmith]

I was a little princess, and grew up to be a big queen. YASSSS

[@s.leslie7230]

I love how expressive and passionate you are about everything you talk about. I guess that's because I am a very ardent person.

[@EamonWill]

I love your femininity and I love that you don't hide it in your videos. It's one of the reason why I watch you more often than any other ftm vlogger. I have made a video about femininity and how it's treated as a bad thing in society in general but especially in the ftm community. I've been thinking about doing another video about it but wasn't sure if I had enough to say but I definitely will now. Thanks for the inspiration. P.S. - I have to wear women's shoes or little boys shoes as well, lol.

[@nutelladownpour]

when i saw you uploaded this, i actually gasped because i was so happy about it. I've been identifying as non binary for a few years now, but everyone around me knows that i'm leaning more towards ftm. lots of people, including my mother, tell me that i can't be a guy because i still wear makeup and "girly" clothes and occasionally dresses, and it was just really nice to see someone validating what i am. thank you :)

[@jasperkalleo6292]

This helped me so much. This past year I started coming out as FtM trans and lately I have started to realize that I enjoy more "feminine" things like make up and heeled shoes and I have more "feminine" traits. I was scared that I wouldn't really be considered as an actual trans guy but this video lessens that fear a lot! Thank you!! 😊

[@thingy3210]

Thanks for this video. I waited for years to transition just because I was judging myself for being 'too feminine' and not fitting some male stereotype and because I was scared people wouldn't take me seriously or tell me I'm not trans because of that. I love your videos, somehow they're often about subjects I'd really like to see a video on but are hardly talked about elsewhere on yt.

[@mechface]

It's funny because i know it's okay, i just worry so much about passing and whether i'm valid enough because of that. I feel like i'm lying to myself, just because i'm doing what i like. I want so badly to be seen as male, because it makes me happy. But, when i show any interest in feminine things, it's like people don't think of me as male. I don't know, this is just how i feel, it doesn't matter if anyone reads it or not. Just felt like putting it

[@citrusangel9488]

yeah, i know how it feels

[@mechface]

@@citrusangel9488 glad to know i can still share the solidarity over a year later. i still am stuck but i just hope someday we can get there 🤝

[@totemojouzudesu]

Thank you so much for making this, Chase. Before watching this video I had no idea that it was ok to be feminine and trans masculine. Obviously, logically there's no reason people can't or that I can't, but I just thought that it wouldn't be accepted or that I wouldn't be seen as really trans if I was feminine. I'm just relieved because I guess it makes me feel better about my feminine childhood, securing me in the fact that I'm still trans even if I played with dolls and liked makeup as a child. P.s., you and Ty Turner are my two favorite trans male youtubers!

[@plantcrime]

Thank you so much Chase for making these videos. You really try hard to not offend anyone and that's really great because I know from personal experience it's hard. Keep doing what you're doing dude. Thank you.

[@veronicasolis1359]

I appreciate this a lot. I just recently came out and my mom's biggest complainant is that I'm too feminine and girly. And I also had a similar experience with discovering femininity - realizing I hated being a girl, which was different from hating being feminine, was a really big deal to me, and the idea of being able to have facial hair and be more feminine in presentation is a really nice/ideal thought for me.

[@roxinovak]

I've been tinkering with my gender identity for roughly a year or two. There may have been inklings of questioning in the past, but I usually ignored them or thought nothing of them, but now that I'm going to be going to college and being on my own I have been thinking about it more seriously. The fact that I was (and still kinda am) very feminine presenting up until last year has made my gender a very confusing and distressing topic for me to think about, and when I brought up my transness to my mom, she was confused for the same reason. But thanks to this video (and a few other things), I'm starting to embrace my feminine side while embracing my masculine identity. Thank you very much and sorry if this is super long.

[@BitleyButthole]

Thank you for this video specifically at this exact moment in my life right now, sometimes I get stuck in my own head about how I should be in order to "pass" and it gets so unhealthy. Honestly tho this and a lot of your other videos are super relatable and helpful and just ugh I look up to you so much man!! (Thanks for everything you do Chase!!)

[@sloan_kooshan]

Thank you, I was so insecure about this ❤️

[@boredom4677]

I know your comment is old, but I too am very insecure about this. A therapist questioned my identity once and now im scared again.

[@GOGF2020]

Hey Chase! It's Dean (@StanfordJared)! Thank you a million times for making this! I know it'll help more people then just me! 💕

[@victoriakimball6401]

this helped me so much I've been dealing with this problem for as long as I can remember femininity kept me from saying hey I'm trans because I thought I was too neutral or not masculine enough to be trans and I get so many comments about it thank you

[@Finn_sisjon]

Dysphoria makes me feel like I NEED to be masculine

[@unlimitedfunlol]

Oh. My. Goodness. I have been told too many times and "coerced" to start dressing like a girl. Especially after I hit puberty (also before I was supposed to hit puberty), but it never actually worked. And by the way. Holy FRACK!!!! THANK YOU CHASE!!!!! I AM ALWAYS SO EXPRESSIVE WITH THE THINGS I LOVE AND THAT I WANT TO SHARE WITH THE PEOPLE I LOVE BUT OH MY WORD. AND OH MY THE THING ABOUT SAYING IT IS JUST YOU AND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING GAY OR FEMININE OR ANYTHING! YOU GO CHASE. AND TO WHOEVER IS READING THIS: You. Do. You.

[@James-nx4cu]

Holy cow this helped me out so much. I've been doubting myself because I still like "feminine" clothes and "feminine" things. Gosh, I love this video

[@cupcakegirl767]

I'm a trans male and I still love to fucking wear out my long hair and wear makeup and dress feminine and idgaf☺️

[@alicegarcia9487]

cupcakeboy THAT USERNAME IS AMAZING I LOVE IT.

[@cupcakegirl767]

Bekah Hunter thanks :))))))))

[@alicegarcia9487]

cupcakeboy you're welcome!!! 💙❤💙❤

[@boloderolo45]

To be honest I never feel more masculine than when taking ballet classes.

This topic has been on my mind for a while now. So glad you made this video, really important!

[@qbvideography2898]

Thank you so much for making this, I've been questioning whether I might be trans or not, this really helps.

[@animeOfDarkness405]

i love being feminine i love cross dress cosplay this video makes feel happy

[@MarshallLeeMAD]

I sent this to someone to make him feel better about how he is and I want him to know he doesn't have to try so hard (if he sees this comment, hey there babuu love yuu

[@autumnrain2047]

I really think about transitioning but if always struggled with the thinks I like. I love long hair, kawaii stuff. I love to wear sweet lolita fashion, a lot if pastel thinks. And people often say why do you want to transition if you express yourself like this. It's just a phase your a woman. But that's not true. I think I'm trans masc nonbinary or a demiboy. But I like dresses and cute stuff.

[@DCLover72]

Thank you for this video, Chase, I just love how you are able to express yourself! It seems to me that every human being has a feminine side and a masculine side, and one of the things that makes us different is the degree to which we nurture each. I personally would love to see more men embracing the aspects about themselves that could be perceived as feminine. It would help me relate to them more.

[@jaxolivine6108]

I needed this. As a voluptuous bodies AFAB trans masculine person I needed to hear this. Thank you ♡

[@tarence4401]

Chase I love you so much and completely agree with you 100%. I as a trans man, am completely aware of being feminine and that ppl are so confused by it. People literally think I'm gay and there is nothing wrong with that I have a lot of LGBTQ friends, but that's not me. And it is refreshing to see I'm not alone and others can relate to the ridiculousness of so called gender norms.

[@juiceboxvillain]

Ok, so I'm always excited for new videos from you but this one was great. This is actually something I've been wondering about lately and this helped to ease some of my doubts.

[@lyndseyxo]

this video made me smile. i just love the way you view the world and express it!

[@skatermonkeygirl]

I love this video. I watch it when I doubt myself. I don't feel the need to change who I am to fit gender norms, but some other people see that as me not being authentic in my trans status. Chase just makes me feel better :P

[@Caleb-kl5fi]

This helped me a lot. I'm a trans male and through what other people tell me I've questioned whether what I've felt like was real because I have feminine aspects I express. Even though I knew I was a male, I still couldn't get out of what other people where telling me. This helped a lot and I want to send it to my mom to help her understand from another trans male

[@seriousyak4734]

I'm so glad you're saying this because I've felt that ever since I've been out, I have to act 100% masculine and I'm not. I have conflicting issues with liking things like make up and feminine clothing, even though I identify as male, I know it's what I am, I just like these things that come off fairly feminine. It's hard because I've been asked so many times if I'm just confused and no, I'm not. I just like these things.

[@rvriazr]

I've always loved makeup and been as feminine and masculine on certain things but never felt like a girl, its only been around two weeks since I finally accepted that. I obviously don't pass as you can see in my profile picture, and my parents won't let me cut my hair. But videos like yours remind me that's its perfectly okay, so thank you so much for that.

[@teefscrubz]

i appreciate this so much, thank you for making this video!!! i'm still struggling with gender and i'm 80% sure i'm ftm, but i felt like i was invalid for still enjoying wearing skirts and dresses despite this. THANK YOU!!

[@ELM-ee8bt]

I'm so confused... I want to trasition sooo bad, but I love jewelry and dresses. The funny thing is is that I don't feel comfortable in dresses with a woman's body. I imagine myself in dresses as a guy and I love it. To me it's the ultimate freedom of expression. I don't know if I'm dysphoric or not, generally I can lock away the longing to be a man in the back of my mind and my birth name and pronouns don't bother me, even though I'd prefer male pronouns and a male name. I honestly look at my body and I'm numb. I get happy only when I get skinnier (just because I'm overweight). I wish I was born a man because I wouldn't have these confused feelings... I'm not a "Manly man" but I think I might be a man.

[@NikkyKicks]

I'm more into stereotypically feminine things now that they're not being forced down my throat than I ever was before. Now it's my choice and no one else's and that's so damn freeing, even when people get on my case about it.

[@felixaraoz-copley7283]

I want to cover my entire room with that background you have.

[@TeleBachHand]

My ex bf's favorite color is purple... This is the hardest thing in society is the need to separate and categorize and assign things to other things.

[@maddiesonline]

Purple is the best colour!

[@rattusandrew562]

this has honesty meant alot to me. even though im ftm i still enjoy makeup and dresses and shoes which makes my mom doubt my identity, and that can really hurt. i think i might share this video with her...

[@tashjane6471]

Love the new hair

[@masondixon6199]

It's reminders like these that inspire me wear winged eyeliner. I'm a pretty boy.

[@emilyspider804]

Why does your story of when you were a teen sound exactly what I’m going through right now. This video makes me feel so much better ;v; I want to give it more likes because honestly this really did help me