It Wasn't Your Fault [F4A] [comfort for assault] [TW]

[@crazyanimegamer5667]

No one, and I mean absolutely nobody deserves to have this happen to them. Anyone who can keep going after something like this is incredibly strong. Excellent job Kim. Stay safe and clean everyone.

[@williammcdermott4149]

Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes

[@williammcdermott4149]

@Dazzle bro I was literally watching something in psre about this

[@justafloofbean2342]

I'm not strong I'm just annoyingly hard to kill

[@mostlyjovial6177]

Hi. I’m 2 years late to this. Just happened to have an episode and was looking for a comfort audio I hadn’t already heard. Figured I should put this here despite the lateness. Thank you, for being willing to make an audio like this. It was far more explicit about the intended meaning than many others, and I’m sure many others appreciate that too. Personally, my first time wasn’t by choice and it’s always been something that I struggle with. I’m NB but I was masculine coded for the longest time, anytime someone irl would discover what happened I’d get one or two responses. Either a “well, no wonder you don’t bring that up, so don’t, handle it yourself like you should” (a real thing that was said) Or even worse “well maybe you actually have some understanding of what real women experience multiple times a lifetime. You still can’t understand our fear” (another real thing said to me) I was neglected and left to handle it on my own, because it happened to what was at the time a little boy. It was so bad for so long that I wondered what I did to deserve it, I had to have, no one had any sympathy for it, so what other explanation was there? No one cared enough. So I just left it be. It’s really torn me up psychologically and left me with some emotional scars that I’ll probably never fully heal. This message is something I’ve been struggling to learn. It’s still extremely isolating irl, and online I don’t normally mention anything to do with my gender (for many reasons but this is often one of them), frankly it always scares me that me not being outright cis female somehow invalidated what happened. So ya. Thank you. Truely. You could have fully Fem-coded the audio like every other one covering this topic, but you didn’t. You stuck to the gender neutral terms and it was appreciated immensely by this NB peep at the very least. Again, thank you. Honestly.

[@KimCarter]

You are so welcome, and I’m so sorry that happened to you. I’m sorry that people said hurtful or dismissive things. You didn’t deserve it, and you were always worthy of love and support to help you heal. I hope that you’re able to find that love and support now, because you are seen, heard, and worthy. Manifesting healing and wonderful things for you for your best and highest joy and good. 💕

[@MrAnqueetas]

It's so nice to see you again Kim. Hope you've had a good day!

[@Sebster4r]

Mentions and descriptions of SA I've been a victim of 2 people who I think didn't mean to do it or had reasons to do it. But no matter what I say it's not true. You don't just randomly stick your hands down your partners shirt not knowing if they have a bra on or not or randomly slap you classmates bottom but no matter how I feel it won't go away

[@justtracie8636]

Kim, hope you're doing well. Thank you for this wonderful video. The message you are giving that the victim is never at fault, is the message that's so important. This was so well done, so supportive. As teenagers my mum taught me and my brother that us women should be able to dress as they wish without getting harassment, told my bro and his friends to always accept no the first time you are given a no.

[@KimCarter]

I’m doing well, Thank you

[@sebe365]

True man. Women SHOULD be able to dress like they want, go out at night, drink in bars without getting drugged....Bad sadly this is a World which isnt ideal. Men and Women have to protect themself even if it seems unfair that they have to. I bring my girlfriend to her workplace when it gets darker in winter mornings and take her home. Her friends seem to think its too much because "nothing ever happend" but I dont care. She knows why I do that and is thankful and enjoys it as " little date walks " and doesnt see it as mansplaing or something like that.

[@justtracie8636]

@@sebe365 I think you are an awesome partner and tbh I love that you do it.

[@zombii_vii]

Such a comforting audio. I cried a little. Thank you, Kim. You did amazing 🙂

[@BonanzaObsessor]

This audio features a good blend of sensitivity and support needed to deal with these types of events. Thank for sharing your work (and welcome back!)

[@ComfortsSpecter]

9:58 “Step One Mason!” “SECURE THE KEYS!” Great Comfort Audio

[@Ghosty020]

Feels so Good to Hear your Voice again, Kim. Hope you're doing Well.

[@ultradeku6546]

Unfortunately I have a friend that could use this audio however fortunately I got this notification thank you 🙏

[@escapedfred5295]

7:18 oh he is not gonna get away with this I agree 10000000 Percent

[@azkashahzad7303]

He has gotten away with it 😢

[@siphonicstorm7191]

Very well done. Keep up the good work, Kim.

[@jossmcgonagall4631]

This is so good, welcome back Kim. Thanks for this audio, is really comforting (◍•ᴗ•◍)

[@jackofspades323]

Amazing audio as always Kim! I couldn’t wait to hear it after you mentioned it yesterday

[@jonathanvault7540]

Great to hear your voice again Mrs. Kim. I hope you're well.

[@renjiro_haru]

Amen 2 that

[@flyingfireballmaster1816]

Sometimes I wish I were a worse actor. Maybe then my family would have noticed something was wrong one day when I came home from my “friend’s” house for dinner.

[@KimCarter]

We see you. You are valid. ❤️

[@flyingfireballmaster1816]

@@KimCarter Thanks. Reading that honestly helped.

[@christinetrue8198]

Just a piece of advice… if someone is sexually assaulted, the police need to be notified immediately, the hospital is also a good place. A rape kit must be done immediately

[@justafloofbean2342]

Wait Those are...a thing? ...for how long have those been a thing..

[@KimCarter]

Long time

[@renjiro_haru]

Great strong comeback to YT. Glad your back.

[@venom890]

Amazing and heart warming video, thanks for the amazing job Kim

[@JTAudioASMR]

Welcome back kim and hope you are doing well. Also amazing job I actually cried!

[@KimCarter]

Awww!!! JT! Thank you!

[@sabrinayager2106]

It's sad how many people go through this and how it's can be people that you are the closest to or someone that you are supposed to be able to look up to

[@4evr666]

tw!! sexual assault in september i was sa so many times by this one boy and i kept going back to him over the span of a week and each time he would gr0pe me and kiss me even if i pulled away. i was scared to say no even to hang out w him. i was 12 he was 13 which isn’t that big of a difference but he was sm taller than me. i was 5’4 he was 5’10 and for my little 12yr old brain that was a huge difference. sometimes i just get flashbacks and it’s so fucked i hate myself for it lolz

[@KimCarter]

I’m sorry that happened to you, and your feelings are valid. I hope you have the chance to discuss with someone to help you process it.

[@4evr666]

@@KimCarter ur so sweet omg😭😭

[@specmonkey3189]

I enjoy this audio so much. I think you could make an entirely new series off of it.

[@1Dreamsmakers]

I think so too

[@scpanda2573]

Thanks I really needed this,I was helping my friend and I got scared so thank you 🤭😿

[@kailace4922]

At the start with the panic attack was amazing cause My brother was having one then and it helped him so much thank you so much Kim

[@kailace4922]

I wasn’t there with him but he was watching this video and it helped

[@escapedfred5295]

Amazing work kim

[@winnerloser]

Great audio to come back with. Amazing work Kim!!!

[@Thevoidcallsmyname1]

I wish someone would’ve said this to me.

[@Prp_97]

Amazing 🥺🌼💖💖💖 You're amazing Kim

[@cucumber7199]

Cuc‎umber Approved ‎

[@KevSheehan]

Thank you

[@churchofgumby7578]

welcome back friend

[@Mr_Modder]

I just got into asmr and I love your audios ❤

[@KimCarter]

Thank you!

[@Mr_Modder]

@@KimCarter anytime Ms. Carter

[@You_Have_No_Maidens_Lmao.]

Mr. Krabs commits tax fraud is here.

[@kristoferkinder4442]

I cam out as gay at my high school, and when some boys found out i was sexualy assaulted three times. It got so bad that i had to get my friend and boyfriend to come with me and stand in front of the stall, because i was so scared to use the bathroom.... And the school wouldnt do anything or the police. Now... Ive lost most of my friends over summer break.... And ill have to home school now. And because of what happened... I only have my boyfriend and my best friend

[@KimCarter]

I’m so sorry that happened to you, and I wish you all the best on your healing journey.

[@kristoferkinder4442]

@@KimCarter thank you, your video is helping. It makes me feel better

[@leah-michelle5872]

Is there a sequel to this? There should be. Or another video on this topic. Very well done.

[@KimCarter]

No, this is just a one shot. Glad you enjoyed it though!

[@kristhetankhunter2730]

very epic

[@pyromaniac2104]

Alright most likely long comment incoming so brace yourselves (I also feel like I should throw up a TW for the same subject matter as in this video): First thing's first WELCOME BACK KIM (I know about the live stream I was there, I'm talking about back to videos) with another BRILLIANT audio as ever :-D Next I'm SO happy you made this video F4A and not EXCLUSIVELY F4F because even though it's definitely not talked about as much... this stuff happens to guys as well (not talked about to the point that until recently in my life I was under the impression that this only happened to women) and to make sure was making a mountain out of a molehill I checked some numbers and... yeah I kind of wish I hadn't now because what I found made me VERY uncomfortable (if you want the number go to bottom of the comment*). To cut a long, depressing and Rambling sentence short I think its amazing that you labeld it so any men who went through something like this comfort too To hopefully end this comment on a less depressing note, the script was absolutely amazing to the point where I feel the need to ask if I took inspiration for something from this who should I credit in the wrighting, you or someone else? I only ask because I'm in the process of writing something that requires a scene like this and due to my lack of experience with subject I REALLY wouldn't be comfortable writing without some kind of... I'm struggling to find a better word than "inspiration" but I hope you know what I mean. Related to my lack of experience or knowledge of this subject... will someone please tell me if they find this comment in any way problematic or hurtful and I'll delete it no questions asked. *(for anyone curious about the numbers here In the uk in March 2017 over that last year: Women: aged 16 to 59: 510,000 which is just utterly horrific. Men: aged 16 to 59: 138,000 which while a smaller number I personally believe is still factually a HORRIBLY big number) (Source: rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/about-sexual-violence/statistics-sexual-violence/)

[@KimCarter]

Thank you. The person who commissioned it did have some input into the script. The basic plot, outline, few suggestions and tweaks.

[@iketoreijuu6521]

crab🦀

[@nguyenhuutrung3413]

I'm waiting for an ASMR like this except the sexual assaulter is female.

[@KimCarter]

Write a script?

[@nguyenhuutrung3413]

@@KimCarter I'm a bad writer

[@nguyenhuutrung3413]

@@KimCarter also, I said that I'm waiting for that ASMR but not from you specifically, I'm sorry if I caused any misunderstanding. Have a good day.

[@KimCarter]

It’s okay! I didn’t necessarily take it that way. I was more just encouraging you and letting you know that practice makes progress. Thanks for saying hi!

[@KimCarter]

Doesn’t mean you can’t improve.

[@brandonbean2748]

No I don't matter😞😢

[@KimCarter]

Were you the one with the lengthy comment? If so, I’m very sorry that happened to you. But I don’t think it’s a good idea to post it publicly on the internet where other people might not be kind. And also, it can be triggering to others. I hope this video brought you comfort, and you are able to find support in real life as well. ❤️

[@brandonbean2748]

@@KimCarter it did but it didn't at the same time😔

[@TiT0.]

💜✨

[@damianwolfe613]

So is there a part two in the works where we can see some justice taken?

[@TheBroGamer14082]

Iirc this used to be F4F? Was there a name change a while ago?

[@KimCarter]

No it has always been F4A. I did personalize it for the person that commissioned it. But then I just did different takes where I took out the name, so I could post it to YT for everyone.

[@TheBroGamer14082]

@@KimCarter ahh okay then. Thanks for clearing that up! hope you have a good day.

[@I_urge_to_count]

85

[@hunkychunky331]

I just noticed the ace pin on the picrew at the end! Ace Gang Ace Gang!

[@gabbylee4062]

Yes!!! Aces Unite!!!!