ive been dreading telling you guys this... :( VLOGMAS DAY 12

[@imtaramichelle]

sooooo didn't want to have to tell you guys this, but I really hope you can understand why we made this decision 😭

[@953orion]

Of course!! Fuck the drama man. Youre better than that! 💚

[@jennilea]

I stand by your decision! No need to air out old drama when you're so passed that time of your life. I'm so happy for you and admire your growth while sharing your life. You share so much already! Thank you for being honest! 💗

[@CHRISTINE9282008]

Good choice. No one should be upset about you not posting it. If they are it is because they love drama and need some maturing themselves. Don’t fret about it.

[@meganbuchen4917]

Even though I was looking forward to seeing you and Jill in a video that's just hanging out and talking, I'm glad you made the decision not to post all the drama. You don't need that anymore and that's not you, you've grown/you keep growing into this beautiful woman. You inspire me to better myself every day I swear 🥺💞 maybe you and Jill could make a drinking video just talking about your old memories together/funny childhood memories. That would be a nice video to see you do, just sitting and enjoying the good times of life. Well I can't wait to see what you have for us tomorrow!! Hope you have a good rest of your day love

[@AtlasTheAxie]

Good for you for standing up for what's right. Don't shame or demean people for personal gain!

[@kimberlyfernandez7584]

I love that your viewers are also getting older and more mature and completely understand and respect your decisions 🥰

[@imtaramichelle]

me toooooo!!!! 🥰🥰

[@stefaniegrant3905]

I'm so here for all these positive, supportive and mature comments. It's a testimony to the community you created and surround yourself with. Thanks everyone for saying all the things I was going to say! ❤

[@saec1997]

I'm actually really proud of tara and jill for making that decision. Maybe a truth or drink with different types of questions would be better. 👏

[@tiahc3]

Yes, decide what and who you aren't going to discuss and go from there.

[@besartasinanovic]

I thought you were going to announce that you’re done with vlogmas so this was a relief lmao

[@unicorn_swag4331]

SAME I was so worried cause the upload was a tad late today

[@shelcal_xi]

I totally respect the fact that you've made this decision. Don't feel guilty, Tara! Things happen, you're allowed to change your mind ♡

[@brinnleycraghead4244]

This is a perfect example of why your audience loves and respects you so much! It is much more respectable that you are mature enough to make decisions like this rather than be untrue to yourself or post things like this just for views. It’s one of the main qualities that separates you from many other KZbinrs that I respect and keeps you refreshing to watch!

[@micahmedlin9019]

girl this is why you are one of the only youtubers i continue to watch. You are so real. It’s not just click bait all the time. I’m proud of you for making a not so easy decision, but if someone unfollows you or directs hate towards you for this, then they are not following you for the right reason. ❤️

[@mdp3827]

Hey Tara. My daughter Libby and I are still watching from the UK I don’t know if u remember saying hi to her but u made her life!! We are privileged to see what you do share. You have taught Libby another great lesson by doing this. You’re such a brill role model we love you Tara. Ps she’s loving the “friend” being around

[@karenrani]

You made the right decision. I'm 47 now, and when I was younger I was a somewhat well-known mommyblogger, and quit once my kids were old enough to say they didn't want me to share stuff about them. I regret sharing some other stuff back then, and I'm glad it's pretty much forgotten now. Good solid choice Tara & Jill! Always follow your instincts!

[@MAMAyBEBEs]

Same!!!

[@Cathilee86]

I've actually been semi-dreading the truth or drink because I know how easy it is for rehashing the past to drag you back into that time. While it would have most likely been super entertaining, I think it's the better choice to not share

[@mirandalouise2]

I was super looking forward to that video, ngl. However, our WANTS are not as important as what you feel comfortable with! I’m proud of you for how far you’ve come with setting boundaries with yourself/work. We love you regardless, Tara! Thanks for always caring about our thoughts. 🤍

[@LyssaGsep]

awh girl, it's yours and Jill's lives. you have the right to post whatever you want and honestly, this was such a mature decision. don't say sorry! it's noble!

[@rebeccamarie140]

I’m so happy you both decided not to post truth or drink. It shows how mature you both are and your setting a good example for your younger viewers ( not that it’s your responsibility to do so). This is why I love your channel! It’s amazing to see how much you have grown as a person but the genuine honesty you have and the positivity you share makes me want to strive to do the same. Earlier this year I bought one of your merch necklaces and I literally wear it everyday. It reminds me to do everything with love and you making this decision comes from a place of love ❤️ I’m proud of you 😊

[@janetanner7797]

This is a really mature decision and it honestly shows what wholesome people you and Jill are. I think we can all respect that! But you guys should definitely still film one maybe answer questions about your friendship over the years! 💗💗

[@haileybarrix1523]

I was so scared this was gonna be about your “friend” but I am so glad that’s not the case!!! Post what you’d like, and if you felt like it wasn’t it it’s not it! We support and love you 100%

[@imeldaramirez1703]

Same 😅

[@pet_tularhodes3687]

Me too

[@laurabelette4336]

It’s okay!!! Honestly as long as you and Jill feel comfortable with the decision, that’s all that should matter 🖤🖤 vlogmas is still awesome ✨✨

[@nixiepixie26]

Mitch is such a cool dad 🥺 bless all the dads that help and do all the dad things 💕

[@lilybueker6628]

If you want to do a drama free drinking video do “who knows me better” between like Jill and a family member of your choice and just have everyone buzzed or drunk. It would be so funny and very positive! I’m not the biggest fan of truth or drinks because of all the drama it comes with so I think you guys not posting it is very smart and mature. It says a a lot about you guys and I love that.

[@jennifermauricio2300]

I fully support this idea!

[@jayde6873]

omg Jill vs one of the boys!!

[@tiahc3]

Jill, Carter & Matthew would be awesome. Do it with dry erase boards so they can't steal each other's answers!

[@marni246]

At the end of the day, no matter how bummed people may be about not seeing the video, you need to be able to do what makes you feel right at the end of the day. I commend you for actually explaining why you’re not sharing it and try not to feel guilty about a decision you’re making for your own well-being. You already share so much with us, so you have no reason to feel guilty for wanting to keep some of that to yourself. You do you, girl :)

[@imtaramichelle]

thank you so so much for understanding 💗

[@smalls2478]

I totally forgot abt the truth or drink 😂

[@janprudente6429]

@@smalls2478 same tho I’m enjoying vlogmas as is haha

[@khalilahd.]

“Tara Michelle posted a new video” ugh MY FAVORITE NOTIFICATION!! ☺️❤️❤️ love the chaotic energy in this video 😂😂 also don’t feel pressured to post the video if you’re not comfortable you’re not comfortable. Put your mental health first!

[@imtaramichelle]

HEHHEE

[@jmelll93]

Honestly the Mitch content makes up for it 😂😂 we love Mitch. And we love you more for being mature and making the decision… it’s no big deal and anyone who says otherwise needs their own hobbies 😂

[@rach1353]

his face when he did his b*tch slap SENT MEEE

[@MagicalMemoriesWithKailey]

Good for you Tara!!! I seriously look up to you a lot for this exact reason. Your mental health is waaaayyyy more important than a truth or drink vid being posted. Honestly, nobody needs the juicy drama. And it wouldn't be fair of us to expect you to post it if it causes you any sort of anxiety or anxiousness. I truly hope no one responds negatively towards this. I can't imagine anyone being upset for literally taking care of yourself. Really proud of you Tara!!

[@kieralee8273]

girl please don’t feel bad about the truth or drink!! you’re not obligated to share things you don’t feel comfortable sharing. it was so healthy for y’all to wait and see how you felt about it. honestly next time you’re with jill i would (and im sure others would as well) love to see just like a sit down, fun video with the two of you that’s different than your vlogs when you’re together! im sure that’s kind of what this was supposed to be for you guys, but it can def be done in a way that’s comfortable for y’all. thank you for all that you do share and kudos to you for knowing what to keep private 🤍

[@saraht4617]

I'm 29 years old, I'm married, and I'm about to have a kid here soon. I totally agree with you on not wanting to air past drama out. You're happy and it's just way past the time frames and its just not worth it ♡ proud of you and Jill.

[@nicoletyler8542]

totally agree and congrats and good luck with your baby!!!!

[@saraht4617]

@@nicoletyler8542 Thank you so much ❤😭 I hope something good happens to you

[@Desert_Dreamin024]

Hi Tara, you do have the option to replace the glass or sashes on the windows if you really did want to. It’s a HECK of a lot cheaper than replacing the whole window plus you wouldn’t have to pay someone to do it. This is something papa Mitch could easily help you with. You would just have to read off the little labels that are on the inside that say do not remove. I order windows and doors for a living and this is something I do quite often! Please let me know if I can help.

[@tristanf3023]

Aw Tara! I think its very classy of you not to post the truth or drink and mature. It shows that you are a good person and you respect others and anyone who is mad/upset needs to remember that its your boundaries! you are human and allowed to make decisions that you feel the most comfortable with!

[@madicampbell4429]

Omg where did you get the sweater you were wearing at the end ?!

[@thecountryauthor]

Me seeing the headline: OH NO. Me learning the reason: Oh, bestie, it's FINE. The BTS part was fun enough, keep things to yourself if you need to.

[@bernicehorne3827]

I love the grids in your windows and was sad to see the top ones go. The image of you sitting on the floor, Christmas tree behind you and snowy grid windows to the side was one of a classic Christmas card. Good choice to go black in the kitchen too. It’s looking cosy now but remove the grids and you will feel like you are in a goldfish bowl and will want the blinds down….all the time.

[@Magstarcutie]

Absolutely understand!! I actually even almost forgot about it and I’m glad you’re setting your boundaries with this instead of posting it because people wanted it. You had your fun with it and decided it just wasn’t good to put out onto the internet and that’s absolutely okay!! Thank you for letting us know, I love how the vlogs have been going!!

[@margaritablue]

I totally support you and Jill for not posting that video. It’s very mature of you two to decide that video is not something the public should see and to keep it private.

[@TheLightsFadeOut]

Not mad at all! A big reason I watch is that you keep things that need to be private, private! Mad Respect. HAPPY BIRTHDAY, CARTER!

[@charine33]

the title made me nervous at first, but finding out what it was about, I *100%* am glad you’re not posting it. nobody likes drama and there’s no point posting it other than to stir up anything. there’s literally nothing wrong with your decision and i completely understand where you’re coming from. it’s good to set a boundary in terms of what you want to share online. once it’s out there, there’s really no taking it back. wishing you the best during the holiday season!❤️❤️

[@lilbrit1811]

Honestly if someone gets upset with you not posting it, then they have some boundary issues they need to look at within themselves ya know? Thinking they “deserve” access to all parts of your life Good decision in my opinion, especially me as a 33 year old. Taking a second to think about what you want to say/post is very mature and good for you. I’m also super into manifesting and talking about the past or bad, seems to bring on more of the same. On to better and more healthy, beautiful things!

[@isabeloteroo]

Love that most of the comments are ppl thinking your conversation was about something else & are actually relieved it’s just about that video lol the support and love for you on this channel is actually so refreshing 💗

[@kinzeys8657]

Unnecessary Drama = Unnecessary Negativity. I’m glad you and Jill are doing what’s best for you both and while I was excited to see the outcome, I totally understand where you both are coming from and support your decision! Congrats on being half-way through Vlogmas 2021! Also…. You’re not the only one who dreads going to the dentist. I totally felt that in my soul. 😭

[@pokingmudwithsticks]

Can you link your sweater??

[@JillianDaigle]

this is the slowest fastest vlogmas EVER lmao but Tara we always say, we will support you no matter what. you are making these videos for our entertainment, you do not owe us ANYTHING. you don't owe anyone anything never mind strangers on the internet. I get people get excited but that doesn't mean you have to share anything you don't want to, its your life and we just like witnessing you live it. support you always!! 💘💘

[@hdxo71]

LMFAO at Carter cutting the cake like that 😂😂😂 like idk I just feel that’s gonna stick with me. Thanks for sharing Tara 🤣

[@brittany_flory]

I don’t think anyone should be mad this is such a good healthy decision to make. This is one of the main reasons Tara is such a real human being 🥰

[@Dancingqwerty12812]

okay but when you said its been 2 years, my life flashed before my eyes lol I cant believe how long ive watched you for. crazy!!!

[@martindeporres7169]

You are such a grownup, not posting negative things about someone makes you the better person. So proud of you. Too much hate and ugliness in this world. You’re a beautiful person with a beautiful soul.

[@HayleySmith01]

you two have a lot of support from us that understand, the drama is not worth it!! esp. if you guys don’t feel comfortable posting. positive vibes here ✨✨✨

[@Mollywop99]

Oh Tara, no one should be mad at you for choosing to take the mature route and wanting to keep the past in the past. Trust your gut! That video will make the best memories to watch with Jill on a drunk night someday 😂

[@GwendolynKensinger]

You mentioned not knowing if the new art work was the right vibe but I think all the Christmas stuff is throwing it off. I'd wait until the tree and garlands are gone because I think that art looked awesome there.

[@beeejayc]

It’s YOUR content. It’s YOUR life. I have more respect for you for not stiring up drama and if it’s not what YOU want, that’s all that matters. Don’t be stressed about your own business. I loved your videos, still love your videos, and will continue to love your videos. You do what is best for you. Loving vlogmas! Merry Christmas❤️🎄

[@liakakoulidis]

AGREED!!👏🏼💗 we still love your vlogs and content and you!!!

[@ifrahhaq9599]

Honestly, I am so proud of you for making the decision to not post the truth and drink video. I always feel a bit uncomfortable when KZbinrs air their drama out to their viewers, so I will admit that I was a bit nervous about this one! The fact that you took the time, reflected on it, and realized that bringing back things from the past is not the right move shows your level of maturity and how much you have grown. I think it also really speaks to how genuine of a person you are - that you considered the other side as well and not just your own fun. Good job!!!! I support!!!!

[@rhondagebelhardt6536]

Your business is your business, you allow us into your life and I for one appreciate you. Thank you so much.

[@tiahc3]

I understand and support you not posting it. What I was looking forward to was seeing all of you relaxed and happy, having a good time together but now the four of you just have to plan to get together and do something else!! I fell in love with a quote years ago and it relates to so many situations! "Those that matter don't mind and those that mind shouldn't matter!!"

[@jalyassin]

No one can fault you Tara, you’re being classy and not airing your dirty laundry on the internet 👍🏻

[@accountforwastingtime]

Honestly you know a lot of the people who were desperate to see that kind of content really are just there for the drama, they're not there to support. I can't believe people are STILL going on about...said friendship lol it just shows even more growth from you not showing because yup, literally there's no point in bringing up stuff everyone's moved on from long ago except just drama and it's unnecessary. I love the content you've been sharing this year, you're seriously the most relatable youtuber who does youtube and social media full time as their career.

[@heyrhi]

I'm proud of you for making this decision! Totally respect the decision, and just another reason we all love you! 🥰

[@Sp0okyManda]

People need to have boundaries. If you don't want to post it I understand.. I'm glad you guys got to have fun.. Happy birthday to Carter!!

[@notkaleigh2852]

Hey Tara, love your videos! I’d suggest putting something more rounded or abstract in place of the art print in your living room. I think it looks off because beside the print you have a tv and the fireplace which is all very rectangular. Even doing a gallery wall would be nice if you had some fun frames in arched or rounded shapes. Btw, loving vlogmas so far!

[@BYEkristyn]

I think one of those really pretty textured wall art pieces that people do will spackle or whatever would look so nice and minimal in place of that art! You can easily diy them too!! ☺️

[@kirstykin8260]

Tara , it's your channel , your life you share what you want to , nobody else if people don't respect that they do not need to be here xx

[@katierobison5785]

That’s so mature to not post it! I’m honestly more proud than “upset” or anything 🥺

[@larab440]

I really just gained a lot of more respect for you. What you put online stays online forever and if effects other people then I agree with the decision. You made the right decision and stand by it no matter what others think about it!! Keep head up. I hope you get some much needed mental rest soon.

[@malakmostafaaboulela9051]

i love the look of the grids on the windows it makes it more homey

[@chelseagriffin3148]

Carter with a photo of himself on his bday cake is a whole MOOD. 😂

[@Esqm]

For grods you can always stick removable trim on the glass. Same look 👀

[@elizabethlillian8288]

I just wanna say. There isn't one thing you could do to upset me! I admire you in so many ways! If you don't want to share things then that's okay too! Your allowed to keep parts of you to yourself, in a world that expects to know everything! Keep up the good work Tara!

[@emilybriggs2758]

A light colored textured throw blanket would look really nice under your tree! :)

[@alexandrarujawitz3744]

I think you’re making a very mature decision! At the end of the day, this is your life and you can post whatever you want, and you can also choose to not share what might affect other people or you negatively.

[@abntiffie2005]

You can always get a wooden valance or something to go over the roller blinds!

[@Kerrybug]

If you want to post parts of the video you guys are comfortable with, cool! If you don’t want to post any of it, okay! We love you & understand where you’re coming from. Your feelings are valid, Tara!! Maybe do a christmas-y virtual truth or drink with Jill and pick topics you’re comfortable with!

[@andreabryant1131]

it's okay!!!!you shouldn't worry about not showing it tara!! don't apologize we love you!! love your honesty!!❤ and vlogs!!❤

[@rubydouglas7563]

don’t worry about it! if you don’t feel comfortable that’s completely fine. i’m sure so many people can agree that we just want the best for you more than the video 💕

[@lexilovesmakeup1000]

I honestly wish more people would let things sit and process before posting something. The internet is no place to dish shit, especially when it involves other people not involved in the convo/on the internet! Proud of you, Tara, for choosing peace over dishing things that does not need to be dished on the internet!

[@erinliwienski14]

So proud of you Tara, your growth, and maturity with this and every other decision you make and share woth us. Good for you, happy you're most comfortable this way.

[@Evilfuzzl224]

Your dad bitch slapping Bob made me snort laugh 😂 🤣 your family has the best sense of humor, it always brings me a smile to see them in the vlogs ❤️

[@shannonriddle1012]

I love that you were so mindful and took time to think it through and are so unproblematic. This is why I love watching you every week!

[@raqueldc1158]

How can somebody be mad at you for not sharing something you’re not comfortable with?? Please always be you, always be comfortable! What are we if not your support group and your safe place. You’re amazing!!!

[@illi6378]

Keep the decaf coffees for late night espresso martinis/dom pedros, so you won't have that caffeine buzz

[@Pocketdekuwu]

I was watching on my tv but I HAD to open my phone to comment that your father is AMAZING. He is what every father should be. So involved in your life and tries his best to always help and he looks like he enjoys it too. A true family man.

[@andreadoletzky]

I agree, I don’t think the art in the living room matches the vibe of the rest of your house!

[@vanessalopez1395]

When Mitch slapped Bob!!! I laughed so hard 😂

[@bettipalotai7308]

I loved the grids from the beginning honestly I don't really see why they would need to be removed:D so I'm happy they're staying

[@kara5958]

You can just keep the windows and replace the glass. That would get rid of the grids

[@julief1031]

I really appreciate your honesty and everything, you seem so confident in what you say, and this is one of many reasons I look up to you so much. You talking in front of the camera always feels like the big sister I never had, and just like today, I sit here with my glass of wine, listening to what you're saying because this is big sis talk and I will always be here for it!! (not only for this of course lol) It's 8 pm in Germany so I there is no problem with drinking wine right now! 😂

[@krose20]

I respect your decision so much. If I was in your situation I would probably do the same. No need for past drama to be brought back up. Good for you for sticking with your gut.

[@ErikaEast]

I thought you were going to say that you aren’t doing vlogmas any more

[@ginachiappetta6217]

honestly the bloopers killed me enough! maybe you could add another small snipbit of just funny bloopers that don’t include any drama?! just idea to give the best of both worlds ❤️

[@hopesaunders1324]

I adore Mitch... the excitement over the blinds is what I needed today

[@taylorcoonce]

your dad slapping Bob is the highlight of my day lol 🤣

[@kateysandon]

Don’t apologize! You did the right thing

[@mirrorballgirlie]

I truly forgot about it. Honestly i get people might have expected it for a while but at the end of the day it is your business and I felt it so mature of you to keep that in the past instead of reopening wounds or mentioning past “dramas”. You truly inspire me constantly.

[@graceherbein3243]

paint the art piece that you arent sure about! ive seen so many people do that and it turns out so good

[@ilevmom1]

Don't sweat it . Your personal love life is no ones business. A bad relationship that ends is best kept in the past. Love your sweater

[@ssoftballfreak13]

I totally understand. Props to you for setting that boundary for yourself and honoring your own intuition. Sometimes the past needs to stay in the past and that’s okay. ❤️❤️

[@kasjayne]

By filming and then waiting to let it sit and you can process the things you said is the best thing you could have done. Very mature to do it that way and now you don’t have to take anything back! If there comes a time where you want to share then you can, but it’s better to not say enough than to say too much!

[@sassycassie0676]

I’m gonna be totally honest and say I forgot y’all filmed that lol. I’ve been following since the day you visited Hawaii and then moved straight away to LA, I’ve grown into an adult WITH you; followers who truly care about you, WONT care ❤️❤️❤️

[@elizabeth4614]

Totally understand your reasoning and explanation about the drunk vlog!! I just love your home! It’s so comfy cozy! You have done such an amazing job! ❤️❤️

[@imjustinglenn9430]

If Mitch is going to be such a major role in these vlogs with fancy new shirts and stuff he should have to do out fits of the day 🤣

[@tabathameneses]

GIRL DONT EVER FEEL GUILTY FOR NOT UPLOADING A VIDEO BASED ON YOUR PERSONAL LIFE. We are not entitled to every little detail in your life! I hope you know we respect and value your decision 💓 Tara, STOP APOLOGIZING GIRL WE LOVE YOU

[@crystalk.apestell4509]

❤❤ screw everyone who gets mad at you about it!!! You choose what you want to post! You had fun filming the video thats what matters!!! Dont worry about the haters! The people that care to watch you dont care about you not posting that video! You do you hun!

[@ktcat146]

I feel like you have such a great community built up by now that sharing personal decisions shouldn't stress you out so much. No one is mad at you for choosing something that makes you feel more comfortable. I commend you for making the right choice. It's honesty tacky to me when people throw shade at their ex's or friends online or in person when it's outside of your inner circle of family/close friends. You don't need to share any of that ever with us. And if anyone gets upset for not getting the tea they were hoping for, that honestly says a lot about their character, not yours.

[@jenng6145]

Happy Birthday Carter, hopefully you had the best one you have ever had. 💜💜💜💜

[@cathyb2493]

I feel that was a very mature decision and totally support it. There is no need to keep on reliving that time of your life. Also, keep in mind every time you look at that video you will be reminded of it. It’s for the best