Reacting To "Bad" Witchcraft & Occult Advice For Beginners

[@DemonGoat-248]

Do not let that crystal ball SEE the light when you're not around! - Every fire fighter

[@Giles29]

I can see this one

[@artawhirler]

As I always say: "The first step to being good at something is being bad at it."

[@thekarret2066]

I got that message from Adventure Time, where Jake was telling Finn "Sucking at something is the first step towards being kinda good at something." I wonder if the writers got it from wherever you got your version of the saying! :o

[@WitchWednesdays]

I was watching a beauty KZbinr once who was saying that about makeup ingredients and said ‘yeah cat pee is natural, doesn’t mean I want it on my face!’ I think of that every time someone says they only use all natural stuff because it’s safe 😂

[@IvyTheOccultist]

I love that 😂😂😂 what a perfect response!

[@LaLaLoopsyCutie]

high vibes in a new age sense to me feels like they’re saying you have to already be successful to deserve success. and that alone can get pretty dicey as a mindset

[@michaelwinkler7841]

Absolutely, "high vibration vs low vibration" is another iteration of the christian good god vs bad devil spiritual bypassing

[@IvyTheOccultist]

YES! I am so sick of toxic positivity. Also, there is literally no objective way to measure the vibrations of emotions... How can we say that high vibes make us happy (therefore are good) and low vibes make us sad (therefore are bad?) It's ridiculous, really.

[@witchNwand]

It's not always possible to be in control of our vibes anyway. We all have good days and bad days, and if we have a day where, for example, we lose a loved one, it's only natural to be on a low vibe. Life finds its own balance, like Yin and Yang.

[@itzablackcat]

I don't want to be around predators do you?

[@michaelwinkler7841]

@@itzablackcat have you noticed how many predators are among „high vibration“ cults and traditional belief systems?

[@michaelwinkler7841]

@@itzablackcat didn‘t you notice yet how in so many „high vibration“, „love and light“ and religious communities where light vs darkness is preached, there are so many predators? If not, just expose yourself and find out. It‘s not about good vs evil, it‘s about integrating your light and your shadow.

[@SilverCrowTarot]

A man I went on 1 date with actually said he couldn't see me anymore because I purchased my first tarot deck, I let others touch my deck, I didn't wrap it in a silk cloth, and I would shuffle for the fun of shuffling instead of only using the deck for specific readings at certain times of the month. That would have been one ridged, boxed in, archaic relationship! LOL! So glad he was wise enough to know we weren't a good match. 😉

[@IvyTheOccultist]

That would have been a ridged relationship indeed! 😂

[@Chill-mm4pn]

Good thing you side stepped that mess.😂

[@ChaosDragon809]

I have ADHD so I tend to subconsciously do some such as shuffling my tarot deck when I have them out

[@Shadowman9348]

The worst advice I ever followed was the three fold law. It never had any sway over me. It's one of the many reasons I became a black magician, I wanted the freedom to be unbound and do things on my own terms. This was a wholesome video, very liberating!🤘🍎🐍

[@IvyTheOccultist]

I agree... The 3 fold law is never something I personally believed in. And thank you! Glad you enjoyed the video!

[@lisanygaard2720]

A childhood friend came back into my life in our early 20s. I was finally out of my parents’ home (dad was a pastor) and exploring my own spiritual path. My friend was a practicing witch and gave me some really bad advice. She was into strict ritual magic - sky clad and the words and motions had to be exact. She gave me some extremely advanced books, very inappropriate for a beginner. She came and went over the years, always showing up when I was starting to gain confidence. Her arrogance and condescending attitudes (“Oh, that’s so cute that you want to be a witch.”) really knocked me back. A few years ago she did some really immoral things and I saw her true face. She is a diagnosed narcissist. Breaking ties with her was the best thing I have ever done. I feel like a weight has lifted and I am finally free after decades.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

So glad you got that person out of your life. How horrible to have such a condescending person in your life!

[@luluramos2981]

My sis is like that. She's always trying to claim that I'm low vibe or negative energies are around me since I don't speak to her, lol. Good on you for cutting this friend off.

[@Yvonx_x]

When it comes to the Fae I live by this saying "Don't fuck with the Fae!"

[@IvyTheOccultist]

💯😂

[@jessecreegan9451]

When I started working with the fae I got asked " how do you do it without getting hurt " It took me a second and I thought African safari. We have all seen the documentaries when some person raises a lion and 10 years later there is this beautiful reunion with big kitty snuggles. Now no one is suggesting to go out in the wild find a pack of lions and go cuddle with them. Some cats will eat you alive, some will just be assholes and knock your plants off of the counter, and some just want to curl up under the blankets with you. Knowing which one is which is the key. If I was an exterestial teleported here from another planet how much different would my experience be if I landed in the middle of shark infested waters, the Sahara desert, south Chicago, deep in the amazon rain forest, or ivy's living room. There is a bit of a leap of faith situation that happens, and I have to be cautiously optimistic during the journey.

[@OldManFerdiad]

"That windowsill would be a great place for your crystal ball" sounds like an absolute read. 🤣

[@artawhirler]

It was probably a cat who first suggested that idea.

[@heathersmith8549]

One of the most problematic things about saying “your ancestors have to be a witch for you to be one.” is this…. I’m a bit older than you. And personally my mother and grandmother were of a generation where saying they were a witch was a HUGE insult as well as dangerous information to put out there. Yes, they might have had certain practices that aligned with things we now do in the witchcraft movement. But they would never have thought of themselves using that terminology. I just have to call bullshit on most (not all but most) people who say that. And living where I do now, in southern Appalachia, even today most people who may practice forms of herbology, seasonal ‘magic’, work with healing energies, etc, are Greatly offended to be thought of as a witch. It is why, in this area, if you wish to learn about folk magic, don’t approach someone and ask about folk ‘magic’. Ask about folk ways or folk practices. It’s the same thing. But words do matter. “My cards know their daddy” 😂 that’s brilliant! I might need to adopt that phrase.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Yes, this!!! It was so dangerous for our ancestors to consider themselves witches. Some of them were practicing witchcraft without even realizing it!

[@seabreeze4559]

Meanwhile, in England if you DON'T call someone 'witchy' (not a witch, but witchy) they'll be offended. Like you're snidely implying they're not doing it right. Your ancestors do have to be a witch to have *ancestral* abilities, it's a bit of an asterisk. It doesn't stop you doing other stuff, it's like wiggling your ears, it's a bit niche. Some abilities are stronger in the blood and matrilineal. It doesn't mean others can't develop them but they can waste years getting to the starting point of other people and then technically be behind if they compare between, unwisely. A "blood witch" is someone born with powers, that's it. As in, "in the blood." Warning your kids they might have it, it's practical and descriptive of a situation. When I was growing up it was a way to explain I wasn't being haunted by demons and hadn't done anything bad, I was just seeing dead people in my sleep and they wanted my help. It makes kids less scared, with an OPTION to develop it, adults shouldn't be offended by it because it isn't a competition with others. It's competing with oneself. There's one strong note though, that if you practice a tradition you have no blood ancestry in (by marriage doesn't count) then they COULD theoretically curse you. I HAVE seen that, too. Like non-Viking blood trying Norse stuff, Americans trying Anglo-Saxon when they're not, Anglo-Saxons trying African stuff. Different traditions can be hostile to outsiders. So sticking to ancestral traditions is wise because it is remotely possible to curse yourself, depending on WHAT you're doing obviously.

[@MagellanMG]

This is why I'm solitary! Gatekeeping, elitism, and victim shaming are so destructive.

[@balBROni]

More lofi hip hop beats with you talking (about anything) please. Literally gives me life. But in all seriousness thank you for your insight! This sort of occult “myth busters” content is needed for those who are misinformed in the age of technology

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Haha!!! Lo-fi is my favorite genre so I will gladly do that. 😂 Thanks friend! ❤️

[@jannickestefansen4688]

Yesterday I was thinking a lot about the divine feminine and divine masculine, I would really appreciate a video about that! Especially on how to know if I the energies are in balance and how to practically balance them of not 😊

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Yes, I would love to do a video like this!! Glad to see there's some interest! ☺️❤️

[@balBROni]

Any excuse to talk about Jungian philosophy I’m all for!

[@altheacampbell7097]

Please read comments and answer them on beliefs good and bad it's very helpful

[@sk.b.666]

This and it doesn’t focus on seduction, manipulation, and any other romantic terms or themes that people try to define divine feminine or masculine energies

[@Heirgloom]

Early 2000’s - My cousin (and her fam) who was a few years older than me would come visit for a few weeks during the summer. One year she was just getting into goth fashion and had gotten into Wicca. I was immediately enamored by the dragon tarot deck she had, and the piles of magical books. Of course I had so many questions as a 12 year old. She proceeds to tell me that I couldn’t be a witch or Wiccan because I didn’t have the ATTITUDE. I was like “what?”, even then I kinda felt that was bs, but I was actually held back from perusing my path because of it. Instead, I’d spend hours loitering in Borders just admiring all the books in the “new age” spiritual section. I remember my cousin also told me I couldn’t buy a wand, I HAD to make it myself. But I’d fallen in love with the beautiful little wand at Borders, but of course never got it because of my cousin’s comments at the back of my mind. Lol funny thing, she fell out of it when she became a marine biologist, but started to dabble again….she now comes to me for advice 😂

[@seabreeze4559]

She probably read something online and thought it was gospel. I read something like that about wands. That your first of an item must be bound with personal energy.

[@robinglover8554]

I couldn't agree more with your view points on this video. Firstly, I am a male witch and I have had several deities approach me since I started my craft journey last November. I am completely about balance and so female and male deities are wanting to work with me and I love it. Including Lucifer, Anpu, Persephone and Lucifer. So to say that you should only work with deities of the same sex is ridiculous; and good luck trying to tell them that. Secondly, I have studied to be a doctor and now studying to be a herbalist - both have a place in modern day therapy, so I love how you state that too. As new witch (sorry hate the term baby witch) I find it hilarious how people try to gatekeep and act sanctimonious about these things. Thanks again for you excellent videos.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

I am so glad you resonate with this conversation! Yeah I agree... good luck telling deities who they can and can't work with. 😂 I also despise the term "baby witch" so I love that you call yourself a new witch! 🙏❤️

[@NoreaLamia]

The gender divide thing also irks me a lot, especially since some people really encourage neat gender or role divisions within personal pantheons. I'm AFAB but I find a lot of solace working with male entities, especially if they don't fit the mold of what is "masculine". The few female entities I work with regularly are the ones that people might label as "wrathful", and I also work with androgynous energies. Also, demons in my experience are actually somewhat chill as far as entities go (as long as you respect and listen to them), I actually feel more nervous about working with faery folk than I do with demons.

[@BOUJEEBOGANBADBITCHQUEEN]

Unfortunately everything in nature is either male or female that's it includes plants there is only two genders I'm afraid this non binary crap is false even been proven by science there is only male and female

[@lisamr40]

Love this kind of video. I have a few comments. I have been practicing some sort of witchcraft zsince I was about 15ish. I am now 53. I have never heard of the shadow work topic until I started looking up spells on line. Also, I have 4 kids. My 1st and 3rd have become interested in witchcraft and my other two have no desire and honestly, don't believe in it. I come from a Catholic Italian American family and I don't think anyone ever practiced "witchcraft" as we think of it in today's terms, however, I know there are quite a few "spells" my Italian grandmom used to do. I think it was more cultural vs. Religious. There is so much information available now that it's very important to do your research. Great video Ivy!!

[@Helena_helvella.crispa]

You are so wise, Ivy. I'd love to see more of your commentary on these gems of advice over tea. Thank you! 🩵

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Thank you; that is so sweet! I certainly don't feel wise most days, but I'll take it. 😆❤️

[@LailokenScathach]

In one of my most recent covens (A Gardnerian) we were told not to handle anyone else's "tools" if you didn't have permission, but I think this was more about being respectful more than anything else. As for handling Tarot cards, often readers would ask the person receiving the reading to cut the deck and sometime separate into three piles. Often advice like this gets distorted and spread incorrectly or just made up - lol. Great video, it made me laugh especially the Hexing the Moon - I pictured women shaking their fist at the Moon and I starting laughing. "Damn you men on the Moon!" "Down with the Pastry-archy!!" (People from a recent live-stream on another channel might get that 2nd reference.) Thanks for the video!

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Haha I'm glad you got a good laugh! And I completely agree... Things get distorted and spread incorrectly. Thank you!

[@ChaoticPaganCorner]

A lot of these things I heard right at the start of my path. The 'You have to be born into it' thing actually made me laugh. That logic really has no solid ground because technically if anyone goes far enough back in their family tree the chances of finding someone who openly practiced is gonna get higher. But even then, there's still the chance of having ancestors who did practice, but not openly for you to be able to find any trace of it.

[@MushroomFrog444]

I absolutely adore your content! So happy to have found your channel several months ago!

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Thank you so much!! ❤️❤️

[@nairbvel]

The whole thing about not buying one's own tarot deck smacks of someone trying to make sure they had the best collection on the block... and that whole thing about "high vibe" vs. "low vibe" sounds less like gatekeeping than it sounds like, "My vibe is higher! I have the high ground!"

[@Giles29]

Infrasound (extremely low pitched vibration) disturbs the hell put of some people. This is used for effect in a lot of music - think of the theme from "Jaws" for example. It isn't evil, though, so much as evolution.

[@teampalaceofdivine]

"Spiritual Elitism" I've heard this one so many times! I'm glad I found this video.

[@afry6400]

Thank you so very much for covering these. It really is ridiculous some of these rumors people take so freakin' seriously. Had to add an edit. The one thing I tripped up on is the toxic masculinity thing. The masculine energy does have good energies and the feminine can have negative energies as well. Each have balances within themselves as well. Which and how much a person works with is a very personal thing. I personally have trouble working with the masculine but that has more to do with who I am personally, not that I think it's what everyone should do. I also don't think a person has to be in an absolutely and perfectly equal balance in those energies and that each individual needs to decide for themselves how to balance it out for themselves. Side note to this one, I'm not even lesbian. I just don't resonate so much with masculine energy when I do my work.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Right?? 😂 At least we get a laugh!

[@IvyTheOccultist]

On feminity and masculinity, totally agree with everything you said! I don't necessarily think we all need to be balanced in the sense of 50/50 masculine and feminine energy. More that, it's important to have a healthy balance of these energies so that one is not operating in an unhealthy excessive state. It is totally possible for someone to be 70/30 and still be in balance. I should have probably clarified that a bit better 😆

[@Persophone73]

I'm from the UK and was gifted my first deck 40 years ago...I was told the you shouldn't buy your own deck. This idea has been kicking around for a long time.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

I am so glad to actually hear this from someone! You are the first person to tell me that this is a real thing. I thought for the longest time that someone in the new age crowd just randomly made this up. Thank you for the clarification! 🙏 I still think it's okay to buy our own decks, but I also acknowledge that's a personal opinion and I completely respect opposing points of view. ❤️

[@feralfoods]

i never did this, but "if you stare intensely into someone's eyes, you can read their mind or curse them" -to me that's just plain rude, and may even get you into a fight! i saw the person try this in a restaurant, staring at some stranger across the room. i told them to stop, but it was too late, they complained to a waitress and she asked us if there was a problem. omg i was so embarrased!

[@IvyTheOccultist]

That is so embarrassing!!! Yeah that's a quick method to having the cops called on you 😂

[@renownedbandanawearer1345]

I’ve got an oracle card deck from Lucy Cavendish and I’m sure I remember reading in its guidebook that the “don’t accept gifts/food from the fae” warning was fearmongering and untrue. It’s the only place I’ve ever heard it but I do generally value Lucy’s knowledge so I’m not sure what to think 😂

[@shadowfox9490]

I haven't laughed so hard in a long time. The unmitigated gall and boundless stupidity in these pieces of "advice" was hysterical & dangerous. The sass & comments was :chef's kiss:. 🤣

[@WhyseWytch]

I had to burst out laughing at the idea of hexing the moon.

[@nancyolsen1167]

Thoroughly enjoyable. Please do a part 2, 3, etc. And quit worrying about offending 'some' people. The world is full of people who are offended as soon as they get out of bed in the morning so try not to sanitize your videos to appeal to everyone. Be you, speak your mind, share your experiences....those who appreciate you will continue to follow you.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

You are absolutely right - it's impossible not to offend people! There isn't a single video I have done that hasn't been offensive to someone. 😂 And thank you - I appreciate this comment more than you know!

[@lisanygaard2720]

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind!” - Dr Seuss

[@larsschurmann4773]

Well herbs don't jump naturally in a teabag or crush themself to dust and and turn in a dried paste around a stick for incense. Your candles are rarely build directly by bees snd get igniteted by lightning. TANK YOU for your "natural" quote

[@shadowfox9490]

When I was a kid, I was told that I *should* have my *first* deck passed down to me, but that it wasn't *required.* It was something about the generational energies accumulating, making the deck more powerful and more strongly bound to the bloodline user. But again, they stressed it wasn't required. This was back in the 90s. While I did get a deck passed down to me (Trad RW), the same day I also go my own deck, Dragon Tarot, that had called to me. Guess which one I used? Guess which one I STILL USE? I love that deck dearly, and it's always had my back. ALWAYS. Even when I didn't want to hear it. It was patient with me as I grew to learn how to read it, and even now, it'll slap me in the face with a very specific card when someone toxic is in my circle or inbound. And I love them for it. I was also taught back then not to touch other people's stuff in general, because it's rude, but also never touch someone's arcane items, because there might be some sort of energtic hygeine problem. Looking back, sounds like THEIR hygenie maintaince problem. Much like the commenter, my items know who their Daddy/Master/Practioner is because we're bound. I don't fear someone touching my things apart from them being disrespectful to them or potentially breaking them. Otherwise, nothing like a good cleanse to detach any strangling unwanted energy. Still, one should ask permission first. It's only polite. 💜

[@alineh5947]

I'm all in for the video about healing the devine masculine and divine feminin energies 🙌

[@IvyTheOccultist]

❤️❤️❤️

[@stephaniesenrud2192]

Yes! A video about divine feminine/masculine would be great one to watch.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Thank you!! So glad to see multiple people interested in this! 🙌❤️❤️

[@stormie9077]

"You have to cast a circle everytime you do a spell/magick" I've been practicing for 7 years so it was right before the modern "witch boom" happened. I was learning very traditional and wiccan magick for my first few years, which I love, but information on the craft was harder to come by at the time so it was either traditional or some crappy spell someone pulled out of their butt to put on the internet just bc it was Halloween or something. (This is just my personal experience also while growing up in the bible belt) So the very few books I had I took to heart. I cast a circle quite literally everytime I did any sort of magick and it DRAINED ME. I always took the circle down of course but I was casting them for my tarot readings, for little spells and everyday simpler magick that honestly doesn't call for casting a circle. Just about everything I did involving magick, I felt like I had to cast one to protect me and my working. Being a really sensitive empath who didn't know the first thing about how to use those abilities it DRAINED me even more. However I did learn to cast wards for my home, charm jewelry for protection and put shields up because of it! Now I save circles for what I feel it's meant for which is ceremonial magick and/or spells outside of my home. Some things in witchcraft you learn the hard way but in the end you do learn a lot from it as well and having a personal connection to what you learned can be enlightening.

[@williamcollins2136]

I love this because you are helping to make people's practice more practical. I personally wish people would be a lot more respectful when talking to spirits. Ive known so called initiates who were very rude to spirits and also sometimes to living people and I really think it's not a good way to be. I have had respectful interactions with scary spirits and the respect keeps it from escalating. That's my opinion, bless 🎉

[@artawhirler]

So how would we even know if the moon has been hexed or not?? It's a ROCK, people.

[@spaceanarchist1107]

It's a good thing it didn't actually work, because if it had it would have messed up the tides. I don't think these teenage witches would be too happy to discover they'd unintentionally caused a tsunami

[@DeniseSandersDeepWatersHawaii]

I do not share the same beliefs as you, but they are intertwined. So happy to have found you, the way you describe things and give your opinions with grace is so awesome. Thank you Ivy ! 💗💗💗

[@GravesRWFiA]

pretty much any witchcraft advice on tik tok can be disregarded. the big one i loath is 'must be a born withc/only a witch can make a witch. I was self initiated then later joined a group and soon rose up through the ranks to be one of the leaders just because of common snese and clarity of thought.

[@anastatiaholden216]

Really enjoyed this. Hilarious but insightful too. Thank you! ❤

[@larissamichelledupree8621]

Absolutely loved this video and would appreciate more. I know I am a bit late to the game and this only just now popped in my feed so hoping that more were made.

[@seekingvision]

OMG I am so shocked by these crazy statements 😱🤯 Other than books.... I only look at pagan, occult, Witchcraft stuff on KZbin. I don’t use other social media stuff so I think I’ve been sheltered from mad advice. Could also be due to my age (57), I was new to the craft decades ago Great video topic Ivy, absolutely opened my eyes 👀

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Aside from books, I really love KZbin for occult information! The other platforms...not so much. You aren't missing too much at least 😂 And thank you!!

[@artawhirler]

We all have both masculine and feminine energy. (That's what the yin-yang symbol is all about.)

[@Veiledwitch]

I love this chatty format!! We agree on so many things! I definitely would watch more videos about this topic.

[@AerdernixLittleDragonMacDane]

I don't have many bad ones from my ex mentor, but I have one thatbis not only bad but out right cruel and icky. 'If you show empathy you lack conviction'

[@EmilysTarotandMagick]

Omgsh sooooo many topics came up! Wow I had things pingponging around my head as I listened. I think the nuance thing is a big aspect of it, because everything is so nuanced and two seemingly opposed statements and ideas may both be true simultaneously. One of the best things I learnt to do for myself in my practice in my twenties was to understand that I am always changing and growing and I always said to myself 'I reserve the right to change my mind' 💜fab video as always Ivy. Thank you for sharing and what an amazing resource for learning from that thread in reddit! 🙏Blessings lovely Xx

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Thank you so much, lovely! I agree, some of these are way more nuanced and deserve a longer conversation. It's always good to be able to hold opposing thoughts in your mind! ❤️

[@raquelborsos8315]

I love your videos 😊 The only part I disagree with is the shadow work part, just my opinion though, so take it with a grain of salt. I had 5 years of dealing with a traumatic situation and it was very beneficial to do shadow work to get not only my life back on track, but be able to do magick without fear. So I think the shadow work part really depends. But I get where you were going with it in terms of gatekeeping.

[@carynhunt5427]

So interesting, I think correcting misconceptions is incredibly important. Please do another one. Many thanks

[@MonicaBodirskyShadowland]

Great video! I was told the same about tarot decks that you needed to be gifted a deck. I heard this in the 70's. Mercifully it has been so debunked we don't hear it much anymore!

[@ashleyflamion9421]

I think the "doubt energy" advice was well intended but poorly phrased. As an example, in my early 20s I had a roommate who had a macaw parrot. She had offered to let me hold him, but she also cautioned me that "parrots can feel your heartbeat through your feet and if they sense that you're uneasy, they'll attack". Naturally, I declined to hold her bird and interacted with him as little as possible from that point on. You know the most effective way to make me nervous? To tell me not to be nervous. I immediately think "wait, I wasn't nervous before, is there a reason to be nervous actually?" and so the spiral starts. I think that's what's going on there. The advice is trying to say "trust yourself", but the effect is to accidentally create doubt by emphasizing it.

[@JazmineTheSage]

I loved this, it would be awesome if you continued doing these! I really enjoy hearing your opinions on different aspects of the occult 👌👌👌

[@IvyTheOccultist]

I'll see how upset it makes people and then continue on from there! 😂😂

[@JazmineTheSage]

@@IvyTheOccultist lmfaooo hey even Jesus upset ppl every now and then 🤣

[@IvyTheOccultist]

@@JazmineTheSage 😂😂😂 Call me Jesus!

[@TheJeSsMyStaH]

I feel incomplete! I need more!

[@IvyTheOccultist]

😂😂

[@CoralTheWitch2023]

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!

[@IvyTheOccultist]

😂❤️❤️❤️

[@Feenwerk]

As I started my path in the 90s in germany there also was the suggetion that you need to be gifted a tarot deck. I might remember that this came from witches, that wanted to claim an original family tradition, so you were gifted your tarot deck from your witch mom/aunt and so on. I decided to gift it to myself... and it still works today ^^

[@AerdernixLittleDragonMacDane]

Also with the tools part- you can touch my cards and other divinational tools my wand and alchemical tools, however the tools in my druidic and ūaitis work are a no touching for others, they are devotional tool and there is the idea of miasma which I have to bear in mind when working with rituals and prayer work. So don't touch my sickle knife (sica), don't touch my scepter annserpent rod and do not touch my staff (if I allow it and concent then it is a different story, cleansing is a thing)

[@cinnamoon8593]

I started my practice barely a few months ago, and I know this girl who’s interested and me and my other witch friend have been totally hyping her up, but she keeps saying things that just don’t happen. Like, she said that she made moon water and the next morning she put her hand in it and it essentially swallowed her hand and “absorbed her aura” and turned purple (she says it’s purple but I don’t think she knows how to see auras yet, I definitely don’t) and then to “prove” it she handed us one of those little water/jiggly slime things. I want to help her start the journey but idk how to confront her because I don’t want to discourage her.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Oh boy... I wish I had some good advice for you but I have also not learned how to address situations like this properly. It's so frustrating to me when people exaggerate their experiences. And I don't want to say that her reality isn't a possibility, because maybe what she's saying is true (although I highly doubt it.) I think this need to exaggerate comes from a childhood wound of not being seen or heard, not feeling "special" enough, and not being able to function well in the real world. Some people are drawn to Witchcraft because they want to feel special - like they have superpowers or something. And that is almost always because of some childhood wound where they didn't feel important enough. So that's really tough! Some people are also not mentally healthy enough to step into the Witchcraft world and NOT let it consume them. If someone already lives in a fantasy world inside their head, practicing magick may not be beneficial for them at all... It may encourage their delusions.

[@hartofthemoon]

I love your videos so much 💜 I often find myself having similer experiences to you. I was actually quite suprised that the deity I ended up working with was a masculine deity and I hadn't intended to do deity work at all! I connected with him in such a big way. Balance/dualism of energy is such a huge part of my practice and I honestly feel that he brought to me some apects that were missing from my life or that I needed to work on more. Everyday is a school day in spiritual practice.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

I love that you said "every day is a school day" because that is so true! Love that we are having similar experiences!! 🖤🖤

[@jessecreegan9451]

There is ALOT to unpack from this video, but since I work with the fae I'm going to hit this one. Accepting gifts from the fae. When I started accepting gifts, I had to just jump into the deep end and trust my intuition. Understand that not all fae are the same, just like not all humans are the same. Most fae that are malevolent or evil are simply tricksters and even then some are doing it to be hurtful and some just think it's funny when you fall down a flight of stairs. Now let's say that I accepted food or a gift from Ivy here, does that mean that she owns me or is acting in a malevolent manner.....no. Now will the first fae you encounter be the worst of them....maybe. It's sort of like being on Twitter or any other social media for that matter. Until you selectively curate your list encounters can be bad. Not all gifts from the fae have ill intended meaning. From my experience, sometimes this is just how they communicate to you.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Fascinating! Thank you so much for this clarification. I clearly know nothing of the fae as this is not a path I have personally been called to. But I love hearing other perspectives and this all sounds like great advice. 🙏

[@katherinegallagher9081]

This video is enjoyable, entertaining, and informative. 1 vote for a part 2 👍❤️

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Thank you! ❤️❤️

[@glenharlan5507]

Your thumbnail makes you look like a teenager today! Love your content always. You are talented at making the magical accessable.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Haha!! I have been told my whole adult life that I look like I'm 12. 😂 And thank you for your kindness! ❤️

[@AriellaRaven77]

LOVE this. Also I had to leave ALL my groups on face book because it wasn't helping me. instead too much drama. Glad to watch your videos, very informative.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Seriously!!! I don't know why there's always so much drama, but it's almost every Facebook group I've been in. You're not alone there! ❤️

[@harleyraebeauty9498]

I would enjoy a part 2 or even a series. As a new witch I would like to be able to point out the BS.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

I love the idea of this being a series! I'll see how many people I upset with this video first, and then figure out what to do from there. 😂 Thank you for your input! ❤️

[@michaelmallal9101]

I'm high vibe but my wife is low vibe. I'm successful too. My great-grandparents were from Orkney, Scotland, a hotbed of wytch-craft.

[@mmb196]

Ooooo the tarot deck one! I think it would be fair to say the deck might be luckier/ carry more high vibrations because of the nature in which is was acquired, but I don’t think it prevents the deck from working completely. I myself have never been gifted any of my decks and some days tarot leaves me speechless lol

[@laurenhepp4681]

Another great video, I’d love to see a part 2 or even a part 3 in the near future.

[@EsperanzaPachecoMerino-ir6yb]

I really enjoy your videos, very informative for someone that is just starting , doing a lot of reading so much information.

[@_quiara_]

I love seeing the joy my gay male friend and his husband get from working with Freyja as their household goddess.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Yes!!!! That makes me so happy!!

[@shadowfox9490]

I really enjoy this casual carefree chit chat style format. I look forward to part 2-5 like many others here. haha

[@mamajusmagickalemporium2655]

Yesss, part 2, please,I loved this!

[@artawhirler]

This was a great video, Ivy! if you ever want to do another one like this, I'll watch it!

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Thank you lovely!! 🖤

[@wildershoney2439]

Its become like church except they dont whisper on Sunday and Wednesday. ☹️

[@carlojerundroque9474]

So embarrassing that I believe in some of these, it's ridiculous to think now. But somehow the universe kinda adjusted to me- when I threw the tarot deck I bought myself, a long distance friend gifted me a tarot deck for my birthday 😂

[@IvyTheOccultist]

What a great friend!! And we've all been there, no worries 😆

[@andromeda1515]

This is a great video idea, I really enjoyed it. I'd love to see another in the future😊

[@EzraArnold-p7h]

The tarot deck thing is a thing I think that circulated around in the 70's. My dad read some tarot in college and he gifted me my first tarot deck and he mentioned that rule (and said it was bogus)

[@dylanmagoiofthethalasso4032]

I'm mid key surprised when someone says that they never heard if the "Never buy your first deck" because so many Non- readers and Witches know this. One day I was talking to my first ever therapist, she was a New Age person, and I said "I'm tired of living in this hell" and she of course said the New Age thing about positive energy, negative energy etc. I IMMEDIATELY wanted to say "Oh ok, so fighting at least 6 times a day doesn't seem hellish to you?? Being called at least 10 times during the day alone to help and not being able to truly enjoy myself, that doesn't seem hellish to you?" "Born in the craft" is TOTALLY BS!!!!! Plus the people that have that view AND having it be the bloodline of the Salem trials are ABSOLUTE bonkers because most if not most of those people were not even witches!!!! OH GODS! Hex the Moon because of cis men is technically sexist/misandrist. I think it was 2019/2020. It took me a second to understand the "If it's natural, it's safe", that's some Gwyneth Paltrow thinking right there. Some man made things I don't like to use for instance man made crystals/ heat treated Amethyst and other things it just depends. I LOVE that Daddy comment 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 Sometimes (...now this might be the Aries in me) I want to fight a ghost or spirit come at me BRO!!!! I'll whop your spectral A*S 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 NO to the no medications. LOL 😂🤣😂🤣 That Crystal Ball comment. That Craigslist guy sounds..kin** 😂🤣😂🤣 Shadow work is FANTASTIC but 1) it's not a witchcraft practice 2) it's not necessary 3) You think Witches in the olden times did shadow work to become a witch???? OH MY GOD that laugh and reaction 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 Ok WELL there's more misandry...in a humorous in a surpring way and in an angry way as well. Oh PLEASE do a healing the divine masc/ fem video. WOO 14 other parts!!!! LOL 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Hahaha yes to everything you said!! 😂🙌👏

[@TalesOfBalkanMagic]

The concept that a deck (or whatever) should be gifted comes from European folklore. In many instances, it is believed that an object used for magical purposes should be found, gifted or stolen and thus, symbolically, it belongs to the world Beyond. This is especially true for divination tools, which are used for venturing to that same Beyond. This idea comes way before occult shops existed for our convenience and owning stuff was quite limited. Another thing from those times past, but still a pretty solid presence in some cultures, is the idea, that witchcraft is hereditary. Knowledge was transmitted from person to person and important knowledge, like magic, was understandably kept in the family. That's why your grandma had to be a witch. And in many European traditions, your mother won't be a witch, since the knowledge was shared from grandma/grandpa to grandchild. In this way it was repeated less and when one witch dies, another one takes the spot. This practice (which applies to other types of important knowledge as well btw) was done so that tradition is preserved, knowledge is kept and the community could thrive. So you couldn't be a witch, if none taught you how to be one (the Devil as a teacher comes quite late and he doesn't begin classes in Eastern Europe at all). There are plenty of places where this is still the case. And, honestly, an educated person to define that as "spiritual elitism" is, to put it mildly, awkward. Today we have occult shops and internet occult educators, and one does not have to get out of their home to get... well, anything. Of course things change, of course you can and should experiment with such ideas and try and weed out the bad advice. But canceling some practice for everyone because you don't understand it or it is not part of your culture is kind of... well, elitism. The worst advice I was ever given on my path was to follow, without questioning, an authority figure that supposedly had the keys to all the knowledge I needed. But yet, the mistakes we make build us as a person and practitioner much more than a thornless path filled with daisies and bliss.

[@DemonGoat-248]

Personally, with the dont touch my tools thing, i just dont like people touching my stuff. It's an Expecally important stuff.

[@Giles29]

"If it's natural its safe" - well, let me go hug that alligator...

[@camylleon]

Ok, I haven't read all the comments (most I think, but not all!). I KNOW ABOUT THE TAROT THING! :D A long, long time ago (like even before me, and I'm in my 50s), tarot cards weren't publicly available. If a store had them, they were under the counter. So you had to get someone to gift them for you, get them for you, bring you to get them, tell you where you could find them, etc. Somehow that morphed over the years into you need to have someone give them to you. Needless to say, its not true anymore but somehow the rumor that became a myth that became a law is still around. *shrug*

[@LiveFromTheAbyss]

Hi vibe/low vibe sounds like the toxic positivity that just rubs me the wrong way.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

💯

[@coldhaven1233]

I'll be honest, as a male practitioner back in the mid-nineties, I felt I wouldn't be accepted by female deities. This has never been the case, and in fact has allowed me to be a better husband by coming to understand what women actually go through. I have always felt closer to the divine feminine. And I think intent has a lot to do with it. I wouldn't suggest working with the divine feminine and have ulterior motives. However, if you come to them with a sense of wonder and seeking knowledge, they won't turn you away. Not even Lilith, who I believe has every reason to dispense with men entirely.

[@kirstencorby8465]

I think that "lesbian" comment is some distorted understanding of Dianic Wicca. They worship only the Goddess and only allow women. The founders of that tradition were angry lesbian separatists at first. Not that you MUST separate yourself from men, but you can choose to.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Oh I didn't even think of that. I think you might be right!

[@corbanekarel3692]

The first time I heard that your first tarot deck must be gifted was on Charmed, if my memory is correct.

[@rubysdivinearts3720]

The whole race thing has me in a deep sadness. Being Latina trying to find my own way is hard because sometimes I feel out casted from the Norse mythology because I'm Spanish but wanting to learn the craft in my Heritage as well, my "people" shun me if you don't act like the "typical" Spanish person they belive you should be, this got my stuck and not wanting to learn anything, it hurts

[@selldeception]

"never let someone else touch your tarot cards, ritual equiptment, atlar, etc." what about sympathetic magic?

[@LichCrypt]

The Tarot deck thing comes from an archaic tradition that dictates your first deck must be gifted to you. This is, again, merely a tradition and not some kind of rule.

[@moonsinger8408]

I'm up for part 2, 3, 4 . . . .

[@vickeydykstra2355]

Thank you Ivy, I enjoy your videos. You have given us so much to think and laugh about. You are a joy!

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Thank you so much! I'm glad you enjoyed this video!

[@bloodsweatandsteel.2749]

Thank you for going to bat for men in Witchcraft. Im a cis male witch myself. The ideah that I can't work with goddess energy, as an occultist blacksmith and devote of Brigid the smith, i find this to be utterly Absurd!

[@IvyTheOccultist]

I will absolutely support men in witchcraft and I appreciate you for being an ally too!! 🙏

[@katrinahohbein1486]

I remember that tiktok craze "hex the moon" and also "hex the fae" my response to both was just y'all dumb

[@IvyTheOccultist]

😂😂😂

[@bunnyb9326]

I really wish people would respect Wiccan advice as much as they do medical- don’t give it unless you know it but we all know the internet “doctors” just like internet “witches”. Blessings to all my fellow witches!

[@Kai-wr2bj]

I thought “if it’s natural it’s safe” meant that if something feels natural to you it’s safe. Like on the topic of spells backfires 😅

[@lunawolf3645]

The crystal ball one sounds more like someone knew what they were saying and just wanted to hurt the person

[@KimberlyLetsGo]

If I wanted all these rules, I would go to a Christian church!

[@TabithaReminiec3399]

Ivy, Can writing lyrics about my past be considered as doing Shadow work ?

[@mmb196]

Where are people learning these “facts” from 🥴 Along with my own research I’m so grateful I continue to learn from the creators that I do, including you Ivy!

[@celinahuezo5518]

i am commenting on the high vibe and low: i feel from experience you can manifest within your limits. i am taking my self as an example. i have autism and adhd. i been practicing and studying for 16 years and i still struggle in general with the soposedly simplisist things. i struggle with processing information and applying it to my life. my only changes in life came from just getting older. we all develop at different rates and it sucks to read of such great benefits from things like reiki and in witchcraft transformation because i experience none. i do feel at peace and burts of magic but it is a very very very slow process(for me). we need a book of magic for neuro divirgent lol.

[@GlendaGoodWitch]

Wow! I love this content and glad that I don't read stuff on Reddit because that would be too frustrating! 🤣

[@violetsidhe]

6:33 oh my goodness this is up there with you have to of say Norse descent to practise Norse paganism or witchcraft. My ancestry has made me want to explore the paganism and folk magick of the celts, Norse and Germanic people as I am a mix of Irish,Scottish,Danish, Dutch and English and I live in the country that has its own practises(New Zealand) and some of those are not open to me and a respect that and same goes for sage smudging. The Scots and the Norse have there own Version of smoke cleaning.

[@IvyTheOccultist]

Yes!! I think Celtic cultures call the process of smoke cleansing "saining" which is similar to smudging but with different herbs and different techniques!

[@violetsidhe]

@@IvyTheOccultist yes it is saining comes from Scottish Gaelic I think from memory. Anglo saxons call it recaning from the old Saxon by way of old norse word reykr… I think that’s right.