Living Together as Christians, Feeling Convicted & Judged by Others | Ep. 2

[@godmomentswithtomi_]

I wanna start off by saying I absolutely do not judge you. My heart goes out to both of you because you got into cohabitating without knowing the weight of how God feels about it. I’m happy that both of you actually care and are being convicted about it. I acknowledge how terribly hard it must be to know you’re doing something that doesn’t please God but it seems impossible or extremely hard to get out of. I know it doesn’t seem logical for either of you to move out but it won’t make God adjust His standards. Y’all can’t do this alone, you need help navigating this. I’d say talk to someone you respect in church that can guide you without judgement. I pray that God gives you both the grace, help and courage to do His perfect will.❤❤❤ Still love you both and are rooting for you.❤

[@deborahmartin1513]

Very good advice, and well said!

[@jamesandcaleigha]

🥹🫂🤎 we appreciate that & will definitely take your advice, thank you for your kind words and love!!

[@SupernaturalLove100]

Is it God’s standards, or Christian standards? 🤔 Important distinction.

[@godmomentswithtomi_]

@@SupernaturalLove100what do think the distinction is?

[@tech_tm3874]

All right. Google says cohabiting is when two people live together and have sex with each other, right? The distinction should be found between cohabiting and living together.... fornication: that's the distinction. I know i know, living together can lead to fornication, therefore it turns to cohabiting. Can we state that fleeing from sexual Immortality/perversion/fornication are the things that aren't only a limit of typical, habitual "God's standard" but a stance of obedience(that we're sustained by God alone)... Edit: standards can be habitual in a way that you've practiced abstaining that by your own practice you are sustained on your own( like when people are good people without God, which is blatantly self-righteousness *another distinction: religion leads to self-righteousness and so does being a freethinker(libertine). Morality occasioned by your own drive, has no backup(what is your reason for wanting to be good). I'll follow up by asking, what is the reason that you think I should do good in this world. All things lead to God,who is seated at heavenly places. The Judge! our defender against the accuser. We cannot be good without God. He's the center [i went off track, and i hope it's all right]h

[@aiymmyia4594]

I believe the bigger question to be considered here is, how much do you love God to where you are willing to put His will before your own. Because God calls us to love Him more than anything or anyone else. So how much do you love Him? Remember His great sacrifice, Jesus, how grateful are you to Him for that sacrifice ? Let this sacrifice of living together, etc be a sacrifice to Him as a thank you and an expression of real love for Him. Remember, this is what God ask of us, to truly keep Him first. In doing this you will reap favor and blessing upon the Lord for your union. When you look at it in these ways, is the sacrifice really that big compared to what Jesus did - his life, his death. - These words aren’t just for you but for me too, trust.

[@taebrown384]

Such a gracious comment, bless you sis!

[@Bindi_Marc]

But this problem is easily solvable: just get married. If you do not want to get married (but continue having sex anyway) that's very telling not about your relationship with each other, but your relational position with God... which is actually kind of frightening.

[@marciaoppong]

It is indeed. I’m not sure where they are at with this (didn’t listen to the whole episode), but marriage is not the wedding. If they know they wanna get married, they can literally go to the courthouse and resolve this asap, and then plan for a wedding or celebration later. The Bible does not mandate a proposal with an engagement ring, nor encourage any particular type of wedding celebration. I didn’t have a wedding. We’ll do a beautiful vow renewal someday (maybe) when we are in a much better financial position than were when we first got married, not to mention the vows would certainly hold more meaning years into our marriage.

[@Tyjeaneee]

Didn’t Jesus attend a wedding celebration

[@marciaoppong]

@@Tyjeaneee indeed He did. I believe of all the things in life that should be celebrated, marriage is a big one! This couple should absolutely celebrate their union, but at the level that they can afford right now. I don’t believe in, for example, being engaged for two years because you’re trying to save up $20,000 for a wedding. If you are ready to marry, get married, and do the celebration you can afford to do. It is not mandated to do the luxury celebration that we see so many couples do nowadays. So much of that is for show, for family, for themselves, but not (mainly) for the glory of God. I don’t agree with that. I believe God wants us to remain sexually pure until after marriage, and many don’t do that because they wait to get married thinking the wedding is more important than honoring God. When honoring God is the priority, you say, we’re not gonna go another day fornicating when we know for sure we wanna get married. We are just gonna seal our covenant before God and go forward in the sacred glory of marriage.

[@tidalezulu2263]

I’m truly praying you both. It’s not worth it to make excuses for sin that God has convicted you on. The sacrifices we make now cannot be compared to the glory that awaits those who are obedient to God when He comes. Our excuses hold no weight against His perfect standard. Just like Adam’s excuse was not acceptable to God is the same way ours are not. Remember that with every temptation God has graciously provided a way of escape (1 Cor. 10:13). In our temptations He invites us to come boldly before His throne and ask for help in our time of need (Heb. 4:16). God bless you both in your journey 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@yffrose]

❤❤ I love this comment. This is definitely for me. Conviction is really just a tap on the shoulder to remember God words. I’m so glad u commented.

[@SupernaturalLove100]

Their relationship w God is their own. God doesn’t expect anyone to meet a standard of perfection.

[@tidalezulu2263]

@@SupernaturalLove100 God doesn’t expect anyone to meet the standard of perfection on their own, by their own strength* but He does set it as a standard because He wants to make us perfect and present us blameless before His throne. It’s a beautiful thing for Him to desire such a high standard for us and to promise to be the one to bring us to that standard. ”Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.“ ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭48‬ ‭ ”Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, to the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen.“ ‭‭Jude‬ ‭1‬:‭24‬-‭25‬

[@tidalezulu2263]

@@yffrose glory to God sis because this was me just sharing what God has convicted me of too 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️

[@jamesandcaleigha]

Yes ma’am!! Amen!! Thank you for writing this 🤎🤎

[@candieliza]

The fact that you are even feeling convicted about this means that God is present in your lives and wants to bless it. There is no better place to be than in the center of God’s will. Praying that you will get the support and peace that you need in order to lay down some of the idols of the dream wedding for now (a big party can come later and at any time) and not let any circumstance block the blessings that God has in store for you both. Love you and praying for you and rooting for you guys!

[@bonitamoore8468]

Enjoyed this video and the very intimate conversation. Caleigha’s tears are real, and a way of acknowledging our wrong. This has know age boundaries. I went through the same thing of guilt and had to give my special friend now spouse for 30 years an ultimatum because God was dealing with me in that very similar situation. Follow your heart and God’s direction to allow you to walk in a way that you know you will be pleasing him. I’m 74 and I’m enjoying you all sharing to the world your love. As they say “Been There and Done That”. Such a beautiful couple. Thanks 💗 ❤️

[@gloriaanderson3233]

I'm so happy you commented. Thank you

[@Peachyladee]

Like James said, conviction is good. It's a sign that your heart is soft and not hardend to the Word or Holy Spirit. Keep letting Him transform you. 🙏🏽❤🙏🏽

[@user-wi4ql7hj4q]

I love you guys, I'm 19 and look up to you guys I always say, we are called to judge righteously but everyone is on their own journey. Y'all are amazing ! Keep it up.

[@jamesandcaleigha]

🤎🤎 we love you!!

[@thejohnnymayeffect6638]

I am a Christian and now married, but trust me we did not meet as Christians either nor meet any standard. I will say it was super hard to try to please God when we were not walking together or evenly yoked, it seems like you guys are on the path to knowing him together, learning, and moving toward his purpose for you. He is merciful and gracious and I know as Christians we tend to lay the hammer down sometimes harder than God himself, but He does love you and will move in your heart as the conviction comes and you will join on that day knowing that you are making a covenant together with Him in the midst. Lean on him for his timing and his purpose for you!

[@sheilagrayman7147]

James is very modest and sovereign: a virtue that truly makes a woman, very lucky. Very soft-spoken and honest. You two, do not let religion distract you from who you are.😊🎉

[@cylindahaynes5109]

Thank you for your vulnerability! Your vulnerability and openness is what makes your story beautiful! Praying that God gives wisdom and the strength to help you along this journey as a Christian couple! I am in a relationship as well! My fiancé and I are not perfect but what helps us is having a heart to always asking God for forgiveness is we fall!

[@foostiesisters9603]

You guys will never truly understand how much your relationship has inspired and encouraged me, lol! It's so refreshing to see two young people who are genuinely in love and transparent about their lives and relationships with God. It may not be your intention to come across as Christian life coaches, but you guys have been such incredible role models for me, not only as a young person but also as a Christian. The world needs more Christian influencers like yourselves who are willing to be vulnerable and talk about the good and the bad, because you'd be so surprised at how many people are going through the same exact things, needing to know they're not alone. Anyway, I'm so glad you guys are doing this podcast, and I'm excited for the content that's going to come from it!

[@jamesandcaleigha]

🥹🫂🤎

[@nmauriceroberts6115]

You are a very refreshing and entertaining couple. A wedding is just for the guests. It ends up not being just for you. You spend outrageous money for individuals that just needed that party. You just need to say your vows before God with no one around. This is just you two, no one else is in your relationship except for you two. The love you two radiate is more than a couple that had a grand wedding. Love you guys!

[@cathycrazzy]

I am confused by the comments. I think having these discussions is important and the question of if living together is the right thing for your journey and commitment to god is a valid question and a decision that must be made. However I do not recall that the Bible states that it is a SIN to live with a significant other. The only thing that is condemned is sexual immorality. If you are not being sexually immoral it comes down to how living together might encourage other kinds of sin, and should therefore (in due time) make your choice of no longer living together a lot easier. If anyone in the comments can provide further information on where the Bible states that it is a sin to live with a partner pls enlighten me or share your views and beliefs. Much love to you two on your journey.

[@legallybored8876]

It’s not a sin to live together but living with someone makes it that much harder to abstain and keep away from having sex before marriage. Imagine how much people already struggle just dating. It’s just putting yourself in an unwise situation. And couples should not live together before marriage unless the situation is completely unavoidable as in one or both is facing homelessness and or can’t afford to live on their own. Additionally in the first few minute of the podcast she said “ when you propose I’m going to be ready” , the fact that they are not even engaged and have been together for as long as they have is also another layer to it. Many times you have people in relationships for years with the intention that they will end up with that person and they don’t. But end up putting themselves in situations that result in sin.

[@preciousc432]

I know you guys from TikTok and so it’s cool to see y’all on KZbin. I can only imagine the pressure to have the “perfect” wedding and have everything to the T. Even in the depths of our sin, God’s grace covers a multitude of sin. Our issues are not too big or too difficult for Him. I do think tho that y’all’s convictions speaks volumes and bc y’all are feeling convicted, lean into it. I understand the idea of physically separating seems crazy and impractical, however I do believe that God will help you guys through the change if u so decide to. Get counseling (if not already), seek accountability from an older couple. I truly believe God can use y’all’s situation to reach other ppl. Stay blessed

[@Humbirdhippo5475]

I really applaud you guys. It is really hard to be transparent with where we fall short of God’s standards and expectations for our lives and our relationship with Him. At the same time, we are the ones that have to get it together. If moving out isn’t reasonable, another idea is a vow and renewal of celibacy. You could also do just a ceremony now, and still plan your dream wedding. Compromising on our desires is better than living in sin.

[@Narsha43]

Having a relationship with Christ is the key. Fear God and live by example, and live for the Lord.❤

[@deborahbello1631]

Aww God bless you both. Just keep putting God at the center of your relationship and He will keep growing in you both so that your relationship with glorify the Lord even down to the circumstances under which yall get married 😊

[@sallymatute410]

You guys are so freaking cute. Stay real and remember love covers a multitude of sin. You're committed to each other and the rest will come. Blessings!!❤

[@Lynn-zx3th]

My lil girl is 11, and I can see so many changes in her. She sleeps almost all the time, and she has a really hard time trying to jump on the couch, or jump down, and she’s getting so irritable or just mad and she’s always been such a sweetheart.

[@Candy9355]

Please do not look for a comment that agrees with your sin. Get married in court and then plan for your big wedding. You are already living together so stop the bs. You know it’s wrong. The end.

[@LydiaTifuh]

They’re liking only comments that are agreeing with them

[@Candy9355]

I know and that’s sad. Sometimes when you are sinning you only look for those who will agree with what God hates.

[@GabriellaGabrielle]

@@LydiaTifuhas they should.

[@GabriellaGabrielle]

Who the hell are you to cast judgement upon others? You are a sinner yourself, so please worry about yourself first and foremost. You need to stop the bs.

[@GabriellaGabrielle]

It’s also motherfu/ckers such as yourself who are amongst the main reason why people run away from Christianity. Zero grace for others and their situation. Then you wonder why people think that Christian’s are pretentious! Shut the hell up, THE END.

[@abbiemyrie]

This is my first time watching, saw your video on my recommended page and I really appreciate the vulnerability. Most people when they are figuring out their relationship with God while at the same time, a relationship with a significant other is usually done in private. People will have a lot to say when judging from the outside. I will say that when I feel a conviction from God, I do not feel relief until I do what God is trying to tell me to do. However, ultimately the decision is between each other and God. I encourage you to lean into those convictions God is trying to tell you, and watch Him bear fruit in your lives for following Him. Also, a lot of times God calls us to do the uncomfortable and less convenient thing but in the end works for our good and shows His glory. We are put in situations that test our faith to show God, do we really trust Him like we say we do? What comforts are we willing to sacrifice for Him when the time comes? I hope you gain peace over any decision you make!

[@gracevessel6791]

As a Christian myself, remember that God looks at the heart. Marriage is a covenant with commitment- not just a big wedding to make you “right” with God. 🩵

[@Tajiidavis]

If you don’t wanna move out I’d suggest having a separate bedroom in the house while keeping your main bedroom, which is good for space and privacy but also helps with temptation and convictions.

[@candacedawn357]

Move out!

[@annettesewell7255]

I just love seeing ya"ll together

[@deborahmartin1513]

Love you guys!! I’ll continue to pray for you both. Continue to seek God, pray, and seek Godly council.

[@dianagittens5899]

Awww. God knows your heart - be encouraged. Sending hugs/love both of y’alls way. ❤❤ I do enjoy your videos!!!

[@reginahalr3519]

I watched from start to finish. ❤ love your guys honesty. It speaks volumes about your relationship and journey with God. that you are open to correction when its coming from a place of love.

[@LydiaTifuh]

Or just get married! If you know God called you to be together why not get married?

[@GabriellaGabrielle]

Girl shut up with your devilish monitoring spirit. Who did call for YOU to be with? Are you married? And if you do, go worry about YOUR marriage.

[@LydiaTifuh]

@@GabriellaGabrielle way to go sister in Christ, God bless you.

[@user-Yolande9343]

Everything takes time even your relationship and growth with God so remember the only person who can judge you is God and His Understanding is Supreme 💕💕

[@creating1_c1999]

God is fascinating. I encourage anyone believer or not to try the NIV bible, and commit to reading the track plan "Chronological Bible in a Year". It's amazing. God is amazing. Caleigha is an amazing stuart for God. That's what it is all about. We are suppose to minister to each other: family, friends, and teach our children about God.

[@clydia5497]

Caleigha if you and GOD I'm not convicting you but, it's very important for you to read what the Bible says about marriage. James there are people that have ranch's and went to church. We owned a farm but, the animals do not come before GOD. He would take care of your needs. You two are beautiful just don't keep shacking.

[@wendydent-henry1801]

Yes continue to above all Love each other and Jesus Christ…. I’m enjoying your podcast! Awesome topics ! You two are so genuine!💕💕

[@wityagurl]

So proud of yall ❤

[@SupernaturalLove100]

“I feel like God is disappointed in me.” 😔 That hurts my heart how you feel that way sis. For what it’s worth, I don’t know either of y’all personally but you seem to be really beautiful people who wouldn’t harm anyone. That to ME is the standard for God’s judgement; one’s soul, and how they treat others. Because of that, I can’t think that God would be disappointed in you because of your living situation, now, would other living people/Christians be? That’s a different story. I would encourage y’all to know the distinction. Bc I think we can conflate Spirit/God’s judgement w the judgement of others who preach the Word very strongly and make it seem as if there is only one way to have a relationship w God and any other way would be “sinful.” Honestly, as a Catholic that is more spiritual and not as devout, this is the thing about organized religion (and the Bible) that has always been insufferable to me, you know, the automatic guilt one is made to feel when they don’t follow every single verse and or scripture to a tea. I am of the belief that what feels right to YOU, without causing harm to anyone else, is what’s right. I also, like James mentioned, question certain parts of the Bible due to the amount of males who’ve written it and translated it into a thousand and sixteen languages. I do believe, due to the imperfection of human beings and their temptations to subjugate and or manipulate others, that there were people who added in concepts, judgements and incorporated THEIR beliefs while positioning them as the word of God. I have to go by what I feel the all merciful and beautiful God would actually say and condemn so I take everything w a grain of salt. I understand not everyone can b this way. But no one can tell me, or you, how to have your relationship with Him.

[@christinaf.8213]

I’m sure you mean well when you say this but God’s judgement is not dependent on how you feel as long as ‘you’re not harming anyone’. Never has been and never will be. The bible says the greatest commandment is to ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and soul’ (Matthew 22:36-40) so it means that if God approves or disapproves of something then as Christians we are to try and follow that. This has nothing to do with organized religion but your own personal relationship with God. If God convicts them about this and they go back to the bible to confirm that this is indeed something God has spoken on, then as a fellow Christian you shouldn’t be telling them to do what they feel as long as they aren’t hurting anyone. They are hurting God, hence the conviction in the spirit. And as Christians it is our duty to (sincerely and loving, not in a condemning way) let our fellow christians know when they are in the wrong (1 Corinthians 5:12) and additionally provide support and help because everyone (even Jesus was) gets tempted. Is it easy? Absolutely not, but them giving up something they enjoy for the sake of their relationship with God is far more important than how they feel in the flesh. We have to die to ourselves DAILY (Luke 9:23). Meaning it IS a struggle. It’s never a one a done. I’m glad they addressed this and I hope that this only strengths their relationship with each other but most importantly with God.

[@SupernaturalLove100]

@@christinaf.8213 I don’t have time to read all this but this has everything to do with organized religion and I personally don’t look to you or others to tell me about God’s judgement. If it’s about a person’s personal relationship with God as you say and less about organized religion, then I’m not sure why youre citing everything having to do w organized religion as I find that contradictory. We’re all adding to the conversation. Have a good day.

[@RickyRuiz-l8r]

Blessings ❤😊 Christ first never go wrong

[@juliawillams-ld4bj]

Only God can Judge. Pray to the Lord and ask him to lead you on the right path. The stronger your relationship becomes he’ll lead down the right path. God love you. He know the flash is wake. I’ll keep y’all in my prayers.🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@mwalters1682]

Hi! Absolutely loving your videos. You guys are so cute!! My husband and I were just wondering, in the video you mentioned not being able to move out but have you thought about staying in different rooms?

[@crunchslady]

Live your life as long as you have God he will guide you 🎉

[@gardenfarms4]

People that are judging aren’t being Christ like. We ALL fall short of the glory of God. The Word tells us to hate the sin and love each other. SHOW love. Those that are putting you two in a hot seat are not walking with God. If people aren’t praying for you, themselves and each other; they’re NOT walking with Him. They are being RELIGIOUS and not Christ like. This is where those that don’t know Christ get religion confused with Christ. Your actions are speaking volumes people. We have to take the BEAM out of OUR OWN EYE FIRST. You two are walking the walk and seeking Him. This is an individual walk. PEOPLE STOP TEARING DOWN OTHERS SPIRITUAL WALK and get yourselves together okay?! In the name of Jesus. Amen. Whether you realize it or not, this is kingdom work. They are helping someone that YOU can’t help due to your oh so self righteous and so holy behavior. Knock it off. Souls are at stake here. The Word says LOVE covers a multitude of sin. I love you two with the love of God🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💯💙🩷💜👍🏾😁

[@KIARALOVES]

Amen 🤍🪽

[@juanitawilkinson1777]

James, on the day you were born,a million people were born. That makes you one in a million. You are the only one who is you.

[@latrelltruesdale3169]

FLAT OUT!!! Do you💖💖💖

[@candacedawn357]

I desire to obey & love God by marrying first before sexual relations.

[@JayyBee5557]

Atta Girl 😊

[@kikidynmatemba-belli7838]

Nobody is perfect we’re all trying to do our best as long as you are happy and respectful of each other. Ignore negative karma nobody is perfect. I always say when people point a finger at you with their index finger the other 3 fingers 👉are pointing at themselves indicating that they are nowhere near being perfect. 🥰💕

[@honeypurushan3430]

Awwww u guys are so cuteeee...❤❤❤

[@graceparker7066]

God will not change his standards for anyone. You should not be living together without being married, and then profess to be followers of Jesus. You are being deceived. Sin is deadly. You don't want to give the devil an end road into your life. Remember, his MO is to kill, steal, and destroy!

[@elizabethpernell6554]

Hey 😊 , this one of your old subbies , lol. 61. I love watching your vlogs, shorts & podcast content. I hope you guys don't pay too much attention to the "when's the wedding questions"😢 I love the open disscussions ❤🎉❤.

[@Caitlyn-268]

This was a great episode ❤

[@prettyeyees7068]

James i agree with you.I think that 🦒 should live by themselves

[@alejandromarquez9368]

Amazing couple Love your guys

[@teliathomas9404]

Hey James…Helzberg would be a great company to partner with for when you propose to CaLeigha

[@godmomentswithtomi_]

Also being a Christian is one thing being a Christian in the public eye is another thing 😂😂😂, sorrry you had to find out the hard way. The truth is, there are standards to live by and when you’re struggling in that aspect the public eye would only magnify that. I’d say pace yourself,don’t focus on pleasing people or becoming what the ‘church’ wants you to be . Take steps to intentionally work with the Holy Spirit to be and live like Christ according to His Word. Read books and listen to sermons,I’d suggest Jackie Hill Perry . But all in all ,pace yourself and be led by the Holy Spirit. He’d guide you always ❤❤❤

[@wendydent-henry1801]

You two are naturals in front of the camera 🎥 ❤

[@Lynn-zx3th]

I love Peony’s I think they look as romantic or more than roses.

[@shariselleschoop8460]

I'm team James, the proposal is about James. The wedding is about Caleigha❤

[@natachii_]

He’s so sassy !!🤣🤣🤣😭 lmao

[@anitazayeneh]

Y’all should elope and still have the wedding. Don’t burn with a passion.😭 1 Corinthians 7:9

[@daisyflower2447]

If you got gave a man ultimatum to marry you your marriage is doom from the start . You want a man to marry you because it was his choice you are his choice than gave his ultimatum

[@bonitakitt4778]

what did the necklace say? Your relationship with God will reveal all that needs to be revealed. Continue to keep God first and all will be well.

[@junebug6586]

I’m so confused…in another video Caleigha said she dropped out of school to focus on being a content creator. Now she says she graduated …..🤷🏽‍♀️🙄 which one is it? Also, I love The Lord also, & it’s definitely not easy to walk this walk, but the Holy Spirit gives us, strength, guidance, direction so continue to pray & trust The Lord for a deeper walk with Him, for the Holy Spirit to be manifested in your lives, & He will lead you. Also praying for Caleigha’s condition, (ADHD) because it’s so hard to watch her talk on incessantly & then lose her thought, & James just keeps on hanging on! God bless you man….🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🙄🤷🏽‍♀️😉 btw, Caleigha be kind to James, let him talk! 🤭🤭🤭

[@diannstewart4076]

Thanks for ssharing ❤

[@thokosibiya828]

Hi guys I just watch your videos today I started with your engagement trip I love you I think you're my favorite May God bless you May I adopt your ❤lol

[@katiejohnson1483]

We do not plead our own efforts…we are saved by GRACE alone. GRACE is the undeserved fee gift. GRACE is unmerited favor. You can’t do anything to earn this gift. God sent His son Jesus to die on the cross that we may have everlasting life. Continue building your relationship with Jesus …the more we know Him the more we become like Him…He who is without sin, let them cast the first stone. Know that Jesus is your savior not any human being on earth.❤❤❤❤❤

[@monab6558]

What God has joined together… the legal portion, the signing of paperwork is for assets and kids (mans law). people join in marriage for all different reason. please do not confuse the two.

[@Ucerrrzcb939]

Are yall waiting until marriage 🫶🏾

[@shellykinder91]

Yikes 😳 the judgement in these comments is outrageous. I’m a Christian. I’m married. However I wasn’t always married….if we all had the same exact journey there would be no room to grow. If we were all perfect what would we learn from Jesus the one true perfect soul. Being a Christian means loving your neighbor, accepting your neighbor, meeting people where they are. Stop shaming this couple. Christians get a bad reputation by picking and choosing parts of the Bible to follow. It’s not ok for them to live together but it’s ok to judge them? Hmmmm hypocrisy *cough *cough. Mark 2:15-22, and Luke 5:29-39. The Pharisee rebuke Jesus for eating with sinners, to which Jesus responds, "It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick." The narrative primarily shows Jesus' emphasis on mercy as opposed to self-righteous judgment.

[@KIARALOVES]

🤍🤍🤍

[@sharismaayala5536]

Get married in court the lord doesn’t care about a party and you will have time to plan your dream wedding

[@ravenofthewild]

I oray that when you see abused animals you report them so they can be rescued. You can report anonymously.

[@stephinadefelice6080]

Proposal is major part on the guy, the wedding is 75% 25% tboth.

[@thedesertsubmarine]

People don't know the struggle we all go through..after my divorce I decided that marriage (certificates and wedding) was not for me I was open to live with someone and just go with the flow and I would say that's between me and God but the thought of having sexual relationship with my partner with no marriage even at a court house would put me in the same place you guys are in..I would be having tough conversations with God and myself everyday. You don't have to have a big wedding,you guys love eachother..you have lived together long enough to know you can survive anything..so just think about it

[@candacedawn357]

Go with the flow? No one needs to test drive me!

[@clydia5497]

No those things you two are doing and you say you're Christians. Are definitely not Christian like. You must've come from a Christian home and as young people we have to grow. Well it is your decision I loved the Lord so much until I made a decision. You guys have to make your own decisions.

[@luvxsheri]

For you to comment this is so messed up. You don't know their walk with Christ and everyones convictions are different. At the end of the day we all sin and fall short of the glory of God and we're no better than the next man. I pray you realize how judge mental this comment was

[@clydia5497]

No, I said that they are young. Read before comment. The Bible says it is better to marry than burn. The Bible is literal it says and means what it says. Yet, it's their life and depends on how much they say they are Christians. I am truly guilty of sitting in the church and not following the Bible.

[@luvxsheri]

@@clydia5497 yes you're right I agree with everything you said but you simply could've just said that rather than coming off in a judge mental way. God don't need nobody to do any conviction for Him.

[@clydia5497]

@@luvxsheri I see that they are young but, if we are never corrected how do we learn. Judgement is sometimes needed. As Began to write I was reminded of my youth. My letting you no what the Bible says on it is my love to you. For GOD. So love the world that he gave his only begotten Son. I love the ppl so don't be upset. I want them to marry.

[@creating1_c1999]

Marriage in the world (the legal document) is not the same as married in the spirit. Do you feel committed to each other? I believe you have built your ministry. I believe that you are married in the spirit. Marriage in the world is about transference of property and legal protection. Do not let "the carnival" be the focus and do not let the Pharisees and Sadducees out in the world convict you for your living situation. God ordains marriage--chosen. People get married everyday and they are not committed to growing together. The document means absolutely nothing if you are not committed to God as the head of that marriage/ministry. The most important thing is your commitment to God. If you want to get married, get married. But don't let the wedding of your dreams be the deterrent or the delay. If God called either of you home, would you be okay knowing that you have put marriage off for the wedding of your dreams? No regrets.

[@luvxsheri]

THIS I needed to hear this so bad. I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 20. I know me and my boyfriend are married in the Spirit. I've been praying that God shows me a sign on what to do because we want to get married but neither of our parents would support our decision of marriage simply because we're "too young". We are very committed to God together and the Lord told me we're meant for each other.

[@nondumisogasser7155]

No....stop it...this is not what God says...he say follow also the laws of the land...so they must get married if they want to please God.

[@nondumisogasser7155]

​@@luvxsheriget married.

[@Candy9355]

Please do not look for a comment that agrees with your sin. Get married in court and then plan for your big wedding. You are already living together so stop the bs. You know it’s wrong. The end.

[@luvxsheri]

@@nondumisogasser7155 girl i wish it was that easy lol

[@Geegee-r1n]

This religion thing is causing people to live in guilt.God knows we can never be perfect! That why being a christian is so tough .i believe in God but this over analysing my life and trying to live like im in heaven not on earth is not for me

[@nondumisogasser7155]

Girl run...this guy does not want to get married.

[@lethacates2957]

It’s both because the man has his parts & the woman has her parts so it’s a couple’s enjoyment to add their expertise! 😊♥️♥️♥️🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾😍😍😍