How to Write a Sex Scene

[@ingridymotta348]

"BOOBS" i laughed so hard

[@jayferguson9968]

Just for the record, if I open a girl's blouse and find a sign saying 'BOOBS' I might reverse course.

[@thevoidlookspretty7079]

Ingridy Motta Excellent timing.

[@kaytelynnthompson6330]

I'm still laughing 🤣🤣🤣

[@libertybell5876]

XD i cracked up so hard

[@rowan7929]

Best...part....ever.

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

This is my best description of two characters having sex: “We had sex.”

[@horrornerd6998]

😂😂😂😂💀💀💀 I can't even, same

[@jungtothehuimang]

You could do the my immortal route and say "he put his thingy into her you know what"

[@bjp4869]

I mean, that could totally work.

[@FireFog44]

I don't like sand. It's all coarse, and rough, and irritating. And it gets everywhere. -Anakin Skywalker

[@rushingwater2.0]

Stone Slide as someone who once lived in Hawaii... I also hate sand for the same reasons.

[@thatguywith1millionsubscri31]

"A surprise, but a welcome one."

[@midnight8341]

I waited for this comment xD

[@cesverc]

Fifthy Shade of Vader

[@raapyna8544]

Oh, he was talking about sex all along? Damn.

[@MalachiFrazee222]

Authors have sex? I thought we all were lonely and hiding is our rooms.

[@axelwulf6220]

No, just some of us

[@thememeslinger7506]

That'd be a fair percentage of authors

[@thoughtfuldevil6069]

Hence why some fantasy and SF authors drown their books in graphic s3x scenes. Their frustration gets in the way (looking at you, Dinosaur Lords).

[@el4242]

Omg the "boob" sign killed me. 😂😂😂😂

[@JennaMoreci]

LOL

[@MaeAlessa]

😂😂😂😂

[@abnormallyawesome2062]

Rofl!!

[@milaylahire6318]

I just died 😂😂😂

[@hritika3592]

Well if you will reply then idk can you give some tips for lesbian smut as well cuz I have read gay and always gay but not that much of lesbian so I want to start it

[@slboro5289]

I lost it when you pulled the jacket and the paper with the word boobs showed up. I laughed.

[@JennaMoreci]

LOL XD

[@sillygooseenergy]

"Consent is not the absence of a no, its the presence of a yes" I WANT THIS ON SIGNS AROUND MY SCHOOL Yes school, im a young author 14:19 *oh no* Edit: aight I'm an adult now.

[@julialuminasalsa]

Me tooo :) its gonna take a while to have all the backstories and plots in place but thats okay :) excited tk write

[@DaCoochDoctor]

Ayy

[@charlotteweedon2310]

Same but I seem to write to audiences older than me

[@red_moon458]

There was a girl who wrote: “if you don’t include consent in your sex, you are now committing a crime bitcH” .....beautiful

[@leeeugin5289]

Im 15 y'all *oh no*

[@morgandubeux]

"This hair tie is too strong for this demonstration" I died

[@aimeepartain1248]

Just a note also: Sex isn't always serious, it's funny and awkward. Like changing positions, you just look at each other and laugh cause they said 'hey!'. Or you accidentally fall off the bed cause you were focused. Like it doesnt have to be so tense all the time!

[@princemochi2018]

Thanks! I'll keep that in mind.

[@rottingarchangeloi2734]

This helped me so much! Thank you!

[@Darkthestral1]

"Some people think the only genres that can feature sex are Romance and Erotica." "But some people are idiots" lmao, god damn you're hilarious, and thanks for the tips! Edit: I laughed all the way through, and a 17 min youtube vid better explained consent and Aces/Greys than anything in sex ed did (sadly)

[@JennaMoreci]

Awww I'm really glad you enjoyed it!

[@sillygooseenergy]

wOo aCe

[@Darkthestral1]

@@JennaMoreci I loved it!

[@CinnacalArt]

Jenna: "God, I hope you're grown." Viewers: *sweats* Edit: I think this might be most liked comment 😭

[@kimifw58]

Well, you gotta learn some time.

[@happymilk7433]

**casual teenage panic**

[@gerstein03]

Red The Great well I'm 16 so that's close enough

[@greatvalueblaine6681]

One word: wattpad

[@racmune]

@@greatvalueblaine6681 // this comment made my day

[@FromMyPerspectPhoto]

Just stopped in to say EVERY FANFICTION WRITER NEEDS TO WATCH THIS! Especially E. L. Jackass. Thank you.

[@JennaMoreci]

LOL

[@mel646]

YES

[@sapphireseptember]

I've read some fanfiction with amazing sex scenes, and some that I just skip the sex scenes cos they're dreadful and make me cringe. One drove me mad, if referenced the main female character masturbating, but of course the first time she had sex had to be horribly painful despite her being aroused. Who writes this stuff? Is it men or women who've never had sex?

[@ZenitaDee]

I was thinking of all the Fanfics I've read over the years and I think only one or two of them didn't have the over the top painful first time and the unsynchronized orgasm. It always read as weird to me.

[@fuzzymurdermittens]

One word that fills me with horror when browsing fanfiction: 'anal'

[@awkwardghost7670]

finally, something i can send to the wattpad fanfic writers

[@dirkspotproductions3834]

Haha, or any Wattpad romance writer. xD I love Wattpad (I'm a writer and reader there), but God, some of the writers write terrible sex scenes. One of the worst ones had this in the narration: He licked up my juices. 😷 Nope, I'm good...

[@starrsmith3810]

I've seen some good written ones Then I've seen the shitty ones lol

[@asthasamal1812]

Thank you! Can someone please teach them that consent is attractive?

[@alessia8294]

i think im pretty good at writing

[@axelwulf6220]

Yeah, I stay away from those, because they are terrible I've read softcore that was better written

[@misery8264]

This is going to sound weird but the scenes between Tobias and Leila actually made me realize how stupid some of the relationships I read about were. I literally looked up from the book and went: HE RESPECTED BOUNDARIES. Wow.

[@JennaMoreci]

AWWWWW my heart

[@MoodyWeatherASD]

Umm the scenes between Tobias and Leila made me realize how stupid some of MY relationships were. ;( Goals, yo.

[@JoleCannon]

Consent is huge for me to. I'm writing my debut novel and I might have gone overboard with consent. It makes sense, since MMC2 is going through gay awakening, MMC1 is his best friend from childhood. MMC1 has been out for 10 years and experienced. MMC2 has not. MMC1 shows him tenderness, makes sure he's okay and they are not going to fast or doing anything MMC2 does not like.

[@nighttime8435]

@@JoleCannon i love all of that. I have an fmc(nonbinary) who is 35 but is autistic and demi and never got far enough in a relationship to actually get to the point of sex, so mmc takes the lead a lot and guides him

[@JoleCannon]

@@nighttime8435, that is wonderful. It's great to see more diversity.

[@alanhembra2565]

Robot 1, “Would you like to interface?” Robot 2, “Yes” Sparks flew as Robot 1 downloaded its data into Robot 2. End Scene. 🤖 🤪

[@afiamahmood1313]

Lol this is great you should get an award so here you go 🎖🏆

[@amalicaitlin1461]

😳

[@Jay-yv2is]

That was the best thing I ever read😂

[@sethuzwane100]

Omfw 😂😂😂✋

[@enclavesoldier3248]

Clap Clap bravo.

[@robinyodathelilacbunny7419]

Consent for the win!

[@EevieNiing3453]

My dude consent is the sexiest thing ever

[@TheSlurpy11]

Everyone needs to write more foreplay scenes. That’s the stuff that gets the people off! Foreplay is fun and forgotten

[@TheSlurpy11]

Corvo@AZ I don’t read romance novels tbh

[@Lycaon1765]

I looked up the whole "asexuals who have sex" thing and it never really made sense but that cake analogy is so helpful omg. Thanks.

[@andreagriffiths3512]

We do have sex...but personally I don’t go looking for it and can happily live without...unlike cake. I can’t live without cake, esp if it’s chocolate.

[@GuiSmith]

I had a friend before who I knew was asexual but I didn’t understand the whole fact that sex might still be a thing even if they don’t feel attraction. Led to a bit of a misunderstanding at one point. But yes, the cake analogy and the part about pleasing your partner are also good notes as to how not all asexuals are entirely sexless.

[@francisthompson3772]

@@andreagriffiths3512 Everyone can live without sex...

[@ThrottleKitty]

As a super romantic ace, in a relationship with another super romantic ace, I can say the cake metaphor is very apt! haha

[@estheticpotato5927]

This might be my favourite video! Better than most sex ed classes in schools these days!

[@JennaMoreci]

awww I'm glad you like it!

[@nissairving397]

PaRaDoX 0120 that's a shame. Sex education needs to give more information than just that.

[@MaplenMaven]

So much acting range. DiCaprio is shaking in his boots

[@sweetlittlenothing7696]

DiCaprio is smoking nervously in the corner

[@kadychapman5350]

"it's coarse, rough, irritating, and it gets everywhere!" (Star Wars reference for those who don't know)

[@MrKillerman47]

I don't know a single person under the age of 18 who doesn't know that reference.

[@elizabethblack2674]

Ani

[@sambeawesome]

Cheers for mentioning the misconceptions. Almost every book with virgins has it and I'm so done. -_- Another annoying aspect is when the author's forget where the characters are, what they're wearing, how they're moving their limbs around, and just vomit words out leaving the sex scene like octopuses in a void. Prob what some people are down for, but these books don't usually set that up beforehand.

[@nondescriptcat5620]

"octopuses in a void" gave me a flashback of the most wtf sentence in Ulysses, appropriately enough set in a brothel and using nonsense dream/fantasy logic: "Along an infinite invisible tight-rope taut from zenith to nadir the End of the World, a two headed octopus in gillies kilts, busby and tartan filibegs, whirls through the murk, head over heels, in the fob of the Three Lugs of Man."

[@everydaysam3547]

“Sex scenes are hard, so very very hard... and thick!” 😂 good content. Love you, Jenna!

[@henryyhenryy]

Why do I feel like Jenna had wayyy too much fun filming this? 😂😂😂 SO GOOD!

[@bripoth9368]

I once read a book that had a sex scene two pages in the beginning and I was in class and I was just so thrown off. Plus it wasn't even well written, it was groping for one paragraphs and then "he slid in". I get sex scenes, it can get you more invested in the characters, but it was so bad

[@OliviaLinderAuthor]

was this the lovely bones? i remember skimming for two pages & it still not being done 😬

[@raapyna8544]

Sounds like the woman was just an object and not a person, because there was no changing looks or other sorts of communication. It sounds like the writer had not been in a relationship himself, or even close.

[@amirtaj4323]

LOOOOOOOOOOOL

[@StupidRawblocksGamrr]

Which book was this?

[@DJDanniDarkness]

I died at "Poundtown" sorry I'm so immature

[@Percival917]

This whole video was fucking hilarious to my childish ass.

[@JKHERPS]

Percival917 omg same!!!

[@deffdefying4803]

"Consent is not the absence of a 'no'. Consent is the _presence_ of a 'yes'." YESSS JENNA WOO

[@KatSperlingBooks]

I ship Sabrina and Gabby 😂! This video was great and sooooo hilarious!

[@JennaMoreci]

LOL thank you!

[@jeng9927]

Right?! I’m smack in the middle of plot line hell and now all I can think about is Sabrina/Gabby fanfic.

[@sunnysside6709]

"Are they screwing? Are they high? Who knows!" This is my mom when I'm alone with a boy 😂

[@amyleigh7624]

Guilty of Fading to Black, and proud of it.

[@jeng9927]

I remember reading a regency style romance years ago that had a sex scene in it so flowery (and short) that I didn’t realize what had happened until they were “nestled in bed glowing with spent passion”. That being said.. I love this video. So funny! but cringy... “sand” ... *shudder*

[@JennaMoreci]

OMG SAME, I've read several books where I had no idea the characters had sex until afterward XD

[@KreeZafi]

On the topic of safe sex: If the characters did NOT take precautions, it would make sense to include some worries following the sex. Perhaps even a pregnancy scare. Perhaps the worries following the unsafe sex are what prompt the characters to really discuss forms of protection before the next time.

[@Phenrex]

KreeZafi But maybe dont always make afab people pregnant after having sex if they’ve only done so once. I’ve seen that on more than one occasion

[@chrisrudolf9839]

Very true. The probability to get pregnant from one time vaginal sex (assuming both partners are generally fertile, but we have no data on when her last ovulation was) is less than 5 percent. It rises rapidly though if you have sex repeatedly during the course of one month, because then you are bound to hit the right time when ovulation happens (which still doesn't make pregnancy probability even close to 100%, but quite likely)

[@Riprake]

Another possibility: the characters may in fact be having sex with the *intention* of reproducing, e.g. "C'mon, let's get started on making that baby, baby!" That's kind of the natural purpose of having sex, y'know. That was something you learned as a part of your sex education, right? (If not, what ARE people teaching you whipper-snappers about sex these days? Whatever it is, you need a better teacher if it didn't include that basic foundational biological fact.) On a related note, *of course* asexuals and such know something about sex even if they aren't having any themselves and could easily live their lives quite happily without it. Asexuals (and anyone else who isn't having any reproductive sex, for that matter) have parents themselves, and chances are by the time they graduate high school (at the very latest), they've figured out they were neither delivered to those parents via storks airdropping them nor discovered under cabbage leaves. The only part they typically don't understand is instinctive: "Right, I know that's how it works, but why should I want to do that? I don't need sex to make my life complete."

[@KreeZafi]

@@Riprake Yes, of course the characters may be deliberately trying to make a baby, but that wasn't what was being discussed here

[@intrusiveminecraft]

no one wants to read about this

[@desinoodles_4170]

Alright, time to write some Smut 😂 thanks Jenna 💀💀

[@JennaMoreci]

you're welcome!

[@evermoreisamasterpiece]

**takes notes**

[@JennaMoreci]

LOL

[@_smartie_]

*Asexuality gets mentioned* Me(an asexual): 😘😊😘😊

[@ethereal8213]

_Smartie_ how old are you?

[@how_tragic]

“It’s safe to assume you’re grown, yes?” *sweats nervously*

[@EvelinaNinudottir]

THANK YOU for clearing up the misconception about the hymen! It's truly unbelievable that this is still such a heavly accepted myth. And sadly, this is one of the myths about the female anatomy that actually harms and shames girls and women all over the world - in worst case scenario this misconception can be deadly for the woman in question if she doesn't bleed on her wedding night. A little fun fact: A doctor was tasked with looking at women's hymens and tell whether they were virgins or not (which is unfortunately not an uncommon practice, because of the pressure of being a virgin some places). What he didn't know was that they were ALL in early stages of pregnancy, yet he declared over 20 of them to be virgins. The hymen looks very differently from person to person, so declaring someone to be a virgin from a test like that is pure guesswork.

[@Acrylescent]

I hate to add this but the sexualization of the hymen is even more disgusting when you know it forms to prevent fecal matter from yeeting up into the vag during infancy….. Learning that was important but also horrifying especially when so many men fantasize about cherry popping. 😖

[@MidnightJibreel]

One of the things I treasure the most about this video is how inclusive you are. Especially the ace/grey part caught me a little off-guard, because authors do love to either ignore our existence altogether or act like we've never seen a naked person in our entire life... like they manage to research methods of murder and how to dispose of a body but can't research aces? 'kay. So, thank you so much for adding it ♥

[@buffywinchester0164]

1) Every Fanfiction writer needs to see this video!! 2) Now I want Jenna to do a video all about fanfiction!

[@DalCecilRuno]

I am asexual. Thank you so so so much for inclusion! I'm not oblivious to sex. It's there. I've heard my neighbours having fun. I am simply sex repulsed and rather not witness it in a book. I have to write it though... Eheh... Thanks for the advise. Audiobook! Finally! (I'm also blind, no audiobook, no book for me. The text-to-speech isn't that great). Can't wait.

[@JennaMoreci]

of course!!!

[@DalCecilRuno]

@Skylynxify Reborn definitely. Here we are, screaming "yay! An ace charac... ter..." Nope. Now they found the person that "fixed them". Blah...

[@DalCecilRuno]

@@rushingwater2.0 yeah! That's super annoying! I am writing an ace character. A sex scene is gonna happen at some point with "the one" and guess what? It's gonna go wrong! Ace gonna be like "you know what? I can't do this shit right now. I'm sorry but this ain't got me." I NEED to show that "the one" is gonna change the character's lack of sexual attraction. Damn it isn't that hard to do.

[@rushingwater2.0]

Dal Cecil Runo that sounds amazing. If only people would actually do their research or interview people who are ace/grey before writing about them.

[@WulfLovelace]

A month late, but I am a Graysexual. I am not repulsed by sex, and I get sexually attracted, but have no desire to have sex. I prefer hmm, how do you explain it - visual arousal over physical arousal. Which I think would be an interesting concept in a romance novel. Where one partner doesn't really feel the need to have sex, but is visually aroused by their partner and the actions that they perform without performing them physically. Okay that was way too much to give some strangers.

[@TehBuggy]

Yes! We need more sex ed: writer’s edition. I think your sense if humour really suited this topic, especially for viewers who are a little shy about it. Plus as always you have a great advice 😃

[@GalenMicheal]

I love how this was 50% writing advice and 50% sex advice.

[@GalacticShawn]

I feel confident enough now to stop ending all my sex scenes with a high-five and "We're a team!"

[@danthalios]

"But Jenna..." Never fails to crack me up. Good video as usual.

[@francescajolley3334]

I couldn't help the smile that came onto my face when you mentioned asexuals and greysexuals, because that's what I am. ❤

[@sociallyineptspider-man2366]

Top tip, don't keep mentioning the music choice in the scene like E. L, James, it's a BIG distraction

[@karaygeoushearts]

Many people write about things they've never experienced. When they don't do their research, it really shows. Beta readers and critique partners please! I'm personally not sexually active, but I make sure to get feedback and input from those who are. Unfortunately, I know some people who had horrible, painful sex. Sometimes their partner was asshole, which happens, but unless that's the point you're trying to make about the protagonist or love interest, don't. One of my friends had a physical issue, and I spent almost a year encouraging her to go to a doctor to get help, but she was so embarrassed. Sometimes, sex is bad or awkward if the two people aren't clicking emotionally or communicating properly. Shame keeps a lot of good people from enjoying sex. Sometimes, because those people were sexually abused or assaulted, making sex complicated for them. If the point is write about bad/complicated sex, that should be clear. Sadly, lots of people, especially the inexperienced, write about fantasies which just goes to show they have poor self-esteem. Once again, beta readers and critique partners please! To clarify, I write good/fun sex scenes, too. It's about it being authentic to the story and the characters. Also, for it have purpose! If it doesn't serve the plot, it's filler.

[@malachiowens3423]

BUT JENNA.... *didn’t you already make this-nevermind*

[@JennaMoreci]

Several people asked me to update and elaborate, so I did :)

[@dragonstryk7280]

I actually have a planned sex scene for my book that involves virgin sex (going to be going for emotional sex), and I've already planned out a post scene where (since this is a medieval fantasy setting), the woman, Elyssa, is going to be mortified by it. Not because anything bad happened, but because it specifically *didn't* hurt, and she'd been told growing up that it was supposed to, that the whole 'bloody sheet' thing is how the verified marriages, so she thinks there's something wrong, and it causes friction between them, because she's terrified of telling him. It's Aaron's (The guy she slept with) mother, an elven woman, who is there for support on it, and explain things for her.

[@rushingwater2.0]

Sean McTiernan that sounds like a good story

[@augustace6842]

I love the thought you've put into this. The explanations that the Elvin woman gives to the character will be so valuable for a lot of young woman

[@dragonstryk7280]

@@augustace6842 That was the idea, and weirdly, it's pulled from my own life. The first time I had sex, it was with a girl who was also having her first time. Well, apparently, I'd done my job well, cause it didn't hurt, and it caused problem the above mentioned reasons, but I knew next to nothing, but I'd always heard it hurt the first time. Eventually, it was my sister who ended up talking to first me, then talked to her

[@Crystal_959]

den da boy tuched da girls weewee and there was blood oh god so much blood there's blood everywhere the room flooded and they were all covered in blood oh god dear god it's everywhere

[@ashnanadesan]

I can't stop laughing, it's 1 in the morning

[@arrozconleche8246]

*cries*

[@rottingarchangeloi2734]

Wth😹

[@Leah-vb3ud]

I'm dying 😂😂😂😂😂

[@nissa7560]

That sounds like something straight out of a Wattpad story

[@igudon284]

There's a bruise on your arm!! Quick, blink twice if you're here against your will!! Just messing around, I adore you and this video! have a great day 😘

[@JennaMoreci]

lol thank you!! XD No worries, I'm just extremely clumsy

[@fuzzymurdermittens]

@@JennaMoreci On a related note, the utter lack of bruises after very rough sex in many stories! If you are describing movement as "turning and slamming Protag into the dresser," Protag better have a bruise in the morning, because dressers have handles, edges, and corners. There is no way being slammed into one won't end in a bruise, even if you had fun doing it. Being horny isn't a magic shield.

[@deffdefying4803]

@@fuzzymurdermittens I mean hell, hickeys are bruises and writers have a wonderful time giving characters hickeys, but... no other bruises

[@Hazyla]

Athena Veatch wait why did I blink??? ???

[@gloriarussell882]

i love how universal these tips are

[@JennaMoreci]

thank you so much!

[@apollo4798]

0:23 bold of to you to assume I'm mortal

[@isadoranovaes5387]

JENNA THIS IS SO HELPFUL!! I'm ace myself, but my two main characters are not and i really don't wanna deprive them of sexual relationships, but i'ts HARD when i don't have experience with sex (and neither want to). Guess I'll be sticking to Fade to Black, or some Emotional Sex! Also? Rly glad you included us in this topic! Ace characters are already rare, and when they appear they're like, super oblivious, i would pay to never see another one of those again. You're awesome, keep it up!!!

[@iPodFayne]

"You know what else isn't sexy? BABIES."

[@aug1014]

I’m loving that lgbt+ rep Jenna! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@firesparkling9370]

💖💜💙

[@writingfanfictionprobably7356]

🏳️‍🌈

[@williamreid6255]

Aug 101 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈🌈

[@undefinedromance89]

Your language in this is phenomenal, but I absolutely lost it at "boobs."

[@michaelschlobohm8877]

Your list was quite comprehensive, but what about the cyborgs? Don't they deserve sexy time too???

[@iamchristiancraig]

They have simulations of orgasms and sex ofc

[@Alias_Anybody]

I remember a video game where that wasn't only a thing, it was somewhat graphic too.

[@Titanic_Tuna]

HUMANITY FIRST!!!

[@malachiowens3423]

I literally started writing homosexual erotica simply cause I didn’t know anything about the female sexual anatomy. Lol

[@midnight8341]

I once wrote a 300 pages gay erotica (but I'm gay myself) and I wanted to include a few practices that I didn't know much about besides how they tend to look. Since I'm writing veeery graphically including things like taste and smell, I wrote a lot of details I didn't know sh*t about 😅 Two years later after trying all of them, I am soo thankful that I was pretty acurate.

[@zacharywood9416]

Malachi Owens learn then, it’s just research. And just say gay lol

[@sophiabartolomeo6899]

I just want to thank you for inspiring me to start to wrote better, I'm a teenager and only have the time to wrote fanfiction but I'm using it to learn and get better at writing and finding my voice

[@rayne5161]

Thank you so much for the bit on ace-spec people. Being grey ace, I thought you represented it really well and addressed some of my biggest frustrations in how we're viewed.

[@Nev1esomnia]

4:11 “Number six, fade to black.” Life it seems to fade away, Drifting further everyday, Getting lost within myself, Nothing matters no one else, I have lost the will to live, Simply nothing more to give, There is nothing more for me, Need the end to set me free!

[@TheMightyDM]

I started watching this channel because I legitimately wanted some advice on writing. Now I watch it mostly because you make me laugh. Like, beer-out-the-nose-and-covering-your-keyboard laugh. Thanks for that, Jenna, now my computer is drunk.

[@dyllon_writer]

The costumes killed me 😂 your videos are always hilarious and informative. I can't wait for the saviors champion audio book

[@PeepshowBaldwin]

Thanks for your inclusion of multiple orientations and groups. I've been moving away from vanilla relationship dynamics more often in my writing, and for a variety of reasons, I began to second-guess.

[@nightengales-gaming5265]

The birth control one made me laugh, my one series I'm working on, I purposefully don't mention it, and for the characters, well...it's led to a few/many pregnancies, which their friends give them shit about saying "When she said she wanted a house full of kids, I didn't think you took it literally" to my male MC.

[@corylusbluefox9482]

We stan a queen who includes consent and non cis-het relationships.

[@ZDMarriott]

I need Jenna super seriously enunciating the words 'THROBBING STEEL' as my ringtone 2k19.

[@LoralCrowned]

0:48 "Explicitly." So joyously candid!

[@rebeccaphengvath6521]

Jenna, I love every one of your videos. This one is so great-you explains things in a way that is engaging, educational, and hilarious all at once! I love everything you do!

[@gracepine1296]

Jenna, your humor makes all your videos so much better oh my god! Love you 💙

[@lenavm]

This is so hilarious yet also so informative and well put together, love it😂

[@hechernandez]

Love how informative this video was. It’s irritating when authors don’t know how to write sex scenes.

[@KatieCarpenter2014]

This video is so thorough and I LOVE that you touched on some things that folks don't really talk about (like asexuality and graysexuality). Love your content. Thanks so much for this.

[@smashleymg2882]

DYING at the consent scenes!!! I’ve been having the worst day and my anxiety has been out of control and this just helped so much 🖤❤️🖤❤️🖤

[@thevoidlookspretty7079]

“This video will be LOOOONG.” A massive video on how not to screw up the most basic prerequisite of human life.

[@eloisenewman3814]

Thank you for including aces and demis! I'm fluid between asexual and demi-sexual, but seeing as I've been in a long-term relationship for the past four years with a guy a really love, I'm definitely no stranger to sex. It happens, and just because most times I get nothing from any visuals, doesn't mean that I don't get things from the intimate bond it creates, or the feeling of it happening, and I most certainly will become aroused if my boyfriend does some intelligent-ass shit with complex maths equations he learned from engineering... I'm definitely a sapiosexual, not gonna deny that :D

[@eloisenewman3814]

@Mono_o I say that I'm fluid between them because sometimes, my experience of having sexual attraction will just vanish for a couple of months at a time before it resurfaces. Sometimes I feel completely asexual for months on end, but sometimes I feel demi for a bit until that fades away and I'm just left feeling asexual. It gets kinda confusing, especially seeing as I'd love for my sexual attraction towards looking at my boyfriend to be a constant thing rather than a sometimes thing. I think of it as more so being on a fluctuating scale, rather than a black-and-white situation. Usually I'll just say on the asexual spectrum, as it's less confusing than sticking to specific labels.

[@FritzyyyMan]

Hey there! I'm relatively new to your channel and I LOVE it! After watching your video on First Person vs Third Person, I was wondering whether you already made a video on what tense to write your story in (past tense, present tense..)? I didn't find one🖤

[@JennaMoreci]

I haven't yet, but it's on the list!

[@FritzyyyMan]

@@JennaMoreci thank you!

[@MarttyMarty]

I vote for tense topic! 🙌🙌

[@theversacelife5232]

"Please God let you be grown." Me: looks away

[@Ailinion]

This is so amazing, I can't stop laughing! Also, as a fanfiction writer, I've seen almost everything (and sometimes it's a nightmare). But I have to say that when I started reading fanfics, there was basically no explicit consent in the majority of them. Lately I can see the exact opposite, which is great. Either there is a clear and explicit consent or the author adds a note about it.

[@nikolasversteeg]

This was handled so maturely and was REALLY funny to watch. Great advice.

[@corncobhorse]

The consent role plays just slayed me LOLOL

[@sginficantkylie]

I absolutely appreciate how you don’t pull any punches in your explanations!!

[@madisonfetterly347]

I've been trying to take this seriously, but holy shit I can't stop laughing

[@xxSpoonverine]

I'm so happy you covered asexuality and greysexuality in this video! One of my MCs is asexual but does have a love story in the book and it's just great to see this stuff acknowledged by someone

[@allthewaytyra5224]

Great video, and also humorous to watch. It really helped me with understanding what to write and what not to write for my YA novel.

[@cctaryn576]

your little skits between your vids are the best

[@starbreeze9535]

"This video's going to be looooonnngg" * dial up sounds in my head * oh- OHHHH

[@turvytophat7470]

Woooooo! She mentioned gray aces! And she handled it really well, this makes me very happy

[@turvytophat7470]

Also authors, pleas stop writing about the person that hasn’t felt attraction for a long time until they discover they were repressing it, it’s a big punch in the gut when we think we are getting some representation only to see nope.

[@orphicqueen]

As always, fabulously said & incredibly entertaining! 🖤😂 Thank you for this!

[@natbatlightwood5288]

This video was really helpful (also hilarious) I was told a while back that it was bad writing for me to focus on the emotional side of the scene and that I absolutely had to write some descriptive...although now that I think about it the person who said this was neither a writer nor a reader so why I took their opinion so seriously is beyond me...but this video was helpful, thanks again Jenna.

[@sweetmercifulj]

I have a hard time writing about the chicks and the hornets also.

[@roseystudio10]

This video really helps. I like to write about the emotional and psychological stuff within fiction, and sexualized scenes are always so hard for me to understand. I want to detail it in a meaningful and plot-driving way, I grew up within a Christian household and sex...wasn't such an open topic. However now I have learned about how realistic expectations of sex and how it should be emotionally for two individuals. It can be sexy, messy, vanilla, funny, traumatizing (depending on whether or not it was consensual or one partner has been traumatised in the past). It can also be very complicated or vulnerable, with mistakes bound to happen. Sex is more than 'the act', it's the emotion and connection that goes into it, with many layers. I can't wait to show that one day within my writing!

[@jeronimotorres1]

The fantasy world I created has birth control spells for both men and women.

[@kitmorris2859]

As an asexual, I'm very happy and grateful that you talked about it in this video. It means a lot to be represented. I'm actually sexually repulsed and never had the interest nor desire to have sex but I'm writing some sex scenes and came here for tips. You made my day and I'm really glad that I watched this and that I'm subscribed to you.

[@graysonryder278]

Do you have tips for planning series/ trilogies?

[@JL-hy5wd]

"But Jenna!" Gets me everytime❤

[@TodayLifeIsGoood]

Making boning look classy, distinguished and romantic^^

[@carlyolsen725]

I really appreciate how inclusive this was of different orientations. Especially when you got to asexuals and graysexuals. I started crying I was so happy. My best friend is ace and the biggest thing that she has made me aware of is the erasure or poor portrayal of aces and grays in all walks of fiction (books, drama, film, etc). I hope many writers watch this and take that into account so that she can see the representation that she and other aces and grays deserve.

[@yuuri9064]

This was hilarious! And thumbs up for the inclusion about asexuals/greysexuals (the fact you used a cake analogy made me crack up, especially because of joke that they would rather cake over sex)! 'Consent isn't the absence of a no, it's the presence of a yes' was such a good (and important) line. (I love how Tobias respected Leila's boundaries and how they gave consent and how, when Cosima was *not* respecting his boundaries, it was clear that this was *not okay*, especially given the myth that guys can't be sexually assaulted. You are amazing.) Great video (as always)!