7 WEIRD things Swedish people do.

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One of the best, and worst things about being an immigrant is that you after a while notice that you’ve earned a sort of outside perspective on your own culture. After living outside of Sweden for 12-13 years now, I have this strange disoriented feeling of being ultra-Swedish when I’m around Brits or other nationalities, but ultra-unswedish when I’m back in Sweden visiting family and friends who’ve never lived abroad.
I talk about:
- strange swedish culture
- the best things about sweden
- the worst things about sweden
- swedes are reserved
- trusting society
- swedish small talk
- the swedish interview
- are swedes snobs
- sweden standard of living
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[@acm5739]

Years ago at a work conference I met a Swedish woman who, within the first 2 hours of knowing me, told me about how her 16 year old son was allowed to have his girlfriend sleep over at their house, but they usually preferred to sleep at her house when she was on her period. As an American, I was shocked that a) teenagers were allowed sleepovers, b) the son was talking casually about his girlfriend's period with his mother, c) that the mother, who was a stranger to me, was telling me the story. It was honestly really beautiful, and made me think how much healthier my teen years would have been if people were discussing these things matter-of-factly.

[@JennyMustard]

haha, tmi!

[@xXNekou]

In Poland complaining is like an everyday thing, but it doesn't mean that Polish people are very negative and sad/angry all the time, but rather that complaining together (about the weather, politics etc) is like a social activity that brings people closer. I used to complain a lot, but I consciously had to unlearn that years ago because I decided that I want to focus on the good things. Polish people also are very reserved and closed off if they don't know you, they don't smile, but if you start talking to somebody (especially younger generations) you will see that once you start a conversation they will be probably happy and friendly and curious.

[@goldglamour777]

I think this is generally normal behavior for north and central Slavs. I agree with you as being half Slavic myself.

[@t_u_n_d_y]

Exactly the same "complaining-mechanism" characterises ppl living in Hungary (mixed with the open, astonishingly straightforward communication style of the Swedes) ha ha.

[@shananigans0117]

I like how you described the different ways cultures can be reserved. Swedes being silent and Brits talking around issues without actually saying anything. I think for Americans it’s a mix of both in that it’s really important to start relationships and often conversations with “small talk” but once that’s done Americans can speak bluntly and move into more serious topics. It’s interesting seeing the various social dances we do in different cultures in order to get close to people.

[@TheDavidMustard]

I got some Fika when you're ready!

[@MissForse-gw7no]

I really like this type of video. And coming from a southern african country I really appreciate your reflexion on freedom. Totally agree and I wish that social/political model could multiply all over the world.

[@differentbeat8320]

As a German, I loved the culture in Finland (and because of that and your video, I am pretty sure I'd love the culture in Sweden too). I am a huge fan of this honest frank curiosity. Skip the small talk, straight to the interesting points. And I love that you can just bluntly say that you don't have any energy anymore and go home! To sum it up, I'd rather honestly be rejected than lied to politely

[@PsycheTee]

I love that people in Sweden talk about normal things in a normal way. There's no shame about the body, health, or money. There's more transparency, less shaming. It's similar across all of Scandinavia. I remember when someone sent me a link to a program where adults appeared naked and young people could ask questions about the body. In my country, such a program would never be aired. And it was a typical educational program, beautiful! As a psychologist, sex coach, and clinical sexologist in training, I know how significant this is for society. Thank you that we can learn it from you:)

[@alittlebitlaura]

So interesting. As an American who grew up in New England but lived in many different states, there are lots of noticeable differences within my own country. Northeasterners are often seen as aggressive and rude for being more candid, where southerners are often seen as passive aggressive. I also no longer fit into either culture very well anymore, but I feel grateful for the opportunity to learn and grow from my experiences and would love to live abroad one day - maybe in retirement.

[@flyfly5172]

I am german and I miss Sweden like every second although I don't know anyone there. It's always just me and this lovely country and the nice, quiet, peaceful Swedes that passes by

[@g.i.1004]

I feel so good in Sweden or the North in general because people don't treat us as foreign, meaning they talk to us in swedish on sight, from the fish seller to the tram conductor - and they don't get mad but rather intrigued after we answer in English. Also we can rant about others confusing swiss and swedes and have an instant laugh. My husband has a thing with being called "son" or "Vän" by strangers and I love me a good spontaneous chat about how far east wool producs flood the market or how I should skip what I orderd and have a soup instead, because it's Thursday. That's why the video is so on point, it's all about context.

[@msgreenswede]

Surely trend-sensitivity is the same as wealth snobbery. The pressure to have and therefore be able to afford and keep up with all the "must have" items or experiences. When I lived in Stockholm 10 years ago, every teenage girl was a clone of the other. Skinny jeans, high top chucks, leather jacket plus most importantly Michael Kors handbag and Rayban wayfarers. It was a total money flex for a 15 year old to have accessories like this. Capitalism is very strong in Sweden because of this fear of sticking out and not being able to keep up.

[@kavatwastaken]

Partly yes, but it's more about having the right things rather than the most expensive things. Right now the most popular handbag is the Arket tote with the buckle. It's not a cheap bag, but it's not a luxury bag. We're not much for logos and bling and flexing wealth, but having the right type of jeans with the right shoe shape.

[@AyHess]

Just came back from Stockholm. Felt it was very welcoming and helpful and friendly. This may be because people’s basic needs are taken care of and there isn’t such cut throat-ness and politicization of everything. The Weather left something to be desired but next time I will plan for summer :). Love the pastries haha. I can see how everyone dressed the same though!. Although I did get some nice style inspiration.

[@evangelina9109]

Makes perfect sense! I’m Russian, but I’m an outsider everywhere I go including my country…

[@vernakg]

When I lived in Korea, I decided I needed to return to the USA because my students said I had become so Koreanized I would make a good Korean housewife. 😮😮

[@GiftLee]

That complain party aspect actually sounds very mentally healthy and cozy to me. Wish more people would do that in my country.

[@targetedinsanfrancisco9895]

It makes sense, feeling unswedish around Swedes and ultra Swedish around Brit’s and foreigners!

[@TS-wm9ws]

Please do more like this. I love learning more about Sweden.

[@laura214]

🤩Always love hearing about the norms of other cultures! Thank you

[@JennyMustard]

Me too :)

[@TheSeatedView]

I moved to Canada from Denmark and yes, for a while I did answer honestly when people said "how are you"? I retrospect, sopmewhat embarassing. 😅 SO much of what you said rings true for me, too.

[@fialta1608]

The Germans I know would definitly expect you to take the time to hear how they are! In the US it is a turn of phrase! Nope, no need to answer really, unless it's truly important.

[@lana7422]

Enjoyed this type of video a lot. Please do more.

[@marinaljuboja3272]

This was so interesting. Please make more of these videos!

[@MindOfMine.]

In the Netherlands we do also ask anything to someone. There is absolutely no shame or taboo. But, we are known for our directness or as some people think bluntness. I am more of the 'keep people happy' type, which suits more to Sweden. But my German boyfriend does find it difficult sometimes that I say everything I think and I might be more direct than I thought..

[@xochilguevara3429]

I love videos like this. I’ve also lived outside my country for almost my whole adult life and I have a totally different perspective on it than those who never left. I love learning about different cultures.

[@Helenemonblogdefille]

This video was fascinating, thank you so much for sharing all this with us Jenny ! I'm french, and I can say that we share the love of complain with swedes ;-))

[@silviadamini2460]

I really enjoy this kind of video! My partner is also from Sweden, and it's nice to see how he resonates with certain things but not others. I don't mean to negate your experience, it's just interesting to see how people from the same country can have different ideas about it and lived different experiences.

[@tracyguillemette6255]

totally makes since! I am an abroad American!. I was born in England to American parents, of Swedish descent (Dad) and Native American/Scots Irish (mom). Both mom and dad were very quiet, non intrusive. Then lived in Germany for 6 years and Belgium for 2 years during my childhood. Back and forth from the States to Europe all the while growing up and being called American or Amies. Never felt at home with Americans, Germany always felt more like home. Sometimes would have Germans mistake me for a German! Now in America for the last 40 years, Americans still think I'm from Europe based on my manners and way of dress.

[@JolieLaide72]

Love hearing about your thoughts and opinions - but especially *love* *love* *love* hearing about Sweden, Swedes and Swedish culture. I especially want to cry when you talk about the baked-in equanimity in Sweden. I truly wish I could participate in such a society. And you and David are definitely mys! 🥰💕

[@aliceblue5634]

The nordic model is the best, makes everyone safe enough to decide what to do with their life ❤ if you decide not to do anything fancy, it is ok! Imagine that level of public services like education and the security of an average job for fair money. I understand why people just stay "homogeneous". It is lovely that the middle class is really the biggest one in Sweden. All across Europe working and the middle class are struggling. Everything sounds so nice, even if it becomes mainstream or boring if you're a Swede. 😅

[@rituka]

These videos are great!

[@williamday1412]

Love this video. I’m from Sydney Australia and I wish we had some of the way of life in Sweden. Really am fascinated and impressed with the quality of people in the Scandinavian countries. This video warms my heart hearing about the behaviors of Swedes.

[@aleannaart3085]

Love your insight! A similar video about the British people would be appreciated ☺️💗

[@rebeccas751]

I would move to Sweden if it wasn't so cold and dark. The wealth disparity in the US is awful and people who have more flaunt it in your face. Awful.

[@sweetygirl165]

Where are you living now? I moved a year ago and it’s not as bad as I feared (in Stockholm)

[@geeb4994]

Loved this vid about the Swedish way of life/speaking. I have a few Swedish good friends…and the first time I met one of them, I said “Hi, how are ya?” and ended up with listening to his life story (in a nice way)….i learned not to do that again ha!! But like you say, he replied very “matter of fact” way…it was a bit bizarre. Thanks Jenny.

[@sattvadevi]

Yes! More videos like this please! 😊

[@JennyMustard]

More to come!

[@sandrateal8723]

I found this video very interesting and think your fashion sense is on point x

[@JennyMustard]

Oh thank you!

[@lolo3968]

I’m Canadian. Yes we are polite and I don’t know if it’s just me but I never want to offend anyone.

[@Mari-Sei]

Could you do a wardrobe tour and all the clothes you own? :)

[@fialta1608]

well I'd love to know where you got your top!??

[@jillbeans1573]

Love it Would love to learn more

[@ingertsvard6731]

After 15 years outside Sweden - I agree with it all, spot on!

[@MakeUpWitch]

It's interesting to hear some of the things. Here in Prague (Bohemia) we are very honest. Brutally honest from some people's point of view. We reply honestly if asked how we are, including all the horrible and honest details. Because our national sport is called "complaining". It's a way of bonding for us. Just like Swedes we live for the evenings and weekends. We work for living, not live for working. And we don't mind silence, in fact it's said that the best people are those you can stay silent with. The thing is you just need to know what the silence is about. Just like Swedes we have a lot of freedom and our social and health security system is quite similar. The education and health care is not for free though, we all pay for it in our taxes. As for the fashion, Bohemia is very, well, Bohemian. Nobody cares what you wear or what kind of music you listen to. If you get on a morning tram in Prague you can see people dressed in all kinds of styles from 1930's until recent ones, including all the subcultures. For example me, nobody gives a wink when I enter a restaurant in my heavy metal gear. Traveling gave me a wider perspective on my home country. It made me realize how much freedom a person has here. And it made me appreciate it more.

[@ingaurban404]

I love this kind of videos!❤

[@anitayougotit885]

I love this style of Video! I am from Austria and lived in Vienna, Berlin, Barcelona and Canada! So I'm super curious what you've gotta say about London aswell! :) Super interesting Video :) I think I also live by mys! :) Everytime I am in a room where only the ceiling light is on I'm gonna change it, or I ask to close doors to make it more mys, or I change the sitting plan or even ask if we not sit at a big table but rather on the floor. :)

[@winterburden]

Thanks Jenny Mustard!

[@JennyMustard]

Thanks for watching

[@alfiemarie]

i totally agree what u said in the beginning about being an immigrant and feeling like an outsider at times. ive been living in the us for 12 years now but was born and raised in the philippines. sometimes i do feel like i truly don't belong anywhere anymore. i feel like culturally im very filipino in the west however when i visit the philippines, i feel like i've been away for too long that everything and everyone i knew then have changed and moved on without me. right now i am just learning to embrace the good in both.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Super interesting, absolutely please do more of these cultural habits/personality traits videos! Would love to see one about Brits or Londoners. Italian living in New York 👋

[@tracypalmer-wilson7022]

Thank you , loved this video . I wish I’d understood these cultural differences before I spent a month in Stockholm many years ago .

[@anastasia_abroad]

I am Ukrainian living in USA, and our culture is so much different than American. We have way more similarities with Swedish people than American. We don’t do much of the chitchat but when we get to know each other we do tent to ask anything we want which in states for instance might be considered weird or inappropriate

[@2525tanja]

I noticed that Swedish people see their year in weeks, while us outsiders usually have no idea which week in a year it is😅

[@nathaliedrinkstea]

On the Swedish interviews: I think I work like that as well. I am very honest and up-front and it happens that I ask certain questions because I wouldn't feel uncomfortable getting asked these questions by somebody else ^^; I am half Swede, half German though. I don't know how that fact plays into things. Maybe it was just my particular upbringing or personality that lead to this.

[@fialta1608]

I find Germans extremely frank and unappologetic (married to one;). Now couple that with what I just learnt of Swedes and I think I can safely say that it's in your DNA:) Sometimes, as an American, I can appreciate that. As a commenter mentioned these traits vary across the US. The saying that a Californian can give you their life story in the first 15 min of meeting you is true!:)

[@MsMumami]

I find directness to be a good thing, as a moldovan I must say we are very open and like to overshare and complain on any occasion, but at the same time keep a lot of stuff to ourselves :D Not sure if that makes sense. And one of the biggest things is that we are very hospitable and like to invite people over and overfeed them, but also show off a little with our hospitality. And we also brag about our wine whenever at any given occasion :D

[@olenasvitla5965]

I am Ukrainian and it feels like a lot of similarities to our culture. Thank you for your videos, they are very comforting ❤ minus all the sugarcoating which some bloggers do when they want to be likable.

[@randomuser3442]

Jag går till Göteborg för ett Erasmus program nästa termin och efter din video är jag ganska orolig nu. =D Framför allt om språket. Jag har försökt att lära mig svenska i 6 månader men de olika stiler varje årstid du pratade om skrämmer mig. Especially because I do take great pride in speaking other languages quite proficiently/reading classics in them so digesting the notion of going somewhere and not getting the slang perfectly terrifies me.

[@typiskt___5409]

Håller helt med om Stockholm! Sån tur är så är det inte samma hets utanför! Känner exakt samma som du med trenderna nu när jag bor i Milano

[@sweetygirl165]

Jag flyttade till Sthlm för ett år sen efter 10 år i London. (Är tysk.) Har såklart många funky kläder kvar och har helt enkelt bestämt mig att jag inte bryr mig vad folk tycker eller om det är trendigt 😃 kanske ska det förändras med tiden också, om flera kommer hit med deras egna stil

[@ErickLofdahl]

The Law of Jante is an aspect that is not included. Yet, it could be read as conformity; no one is expected to show off and it would be the same all over Scandinavia. The things spoken about in this video could also be classified as Danish, Icelandic, or Norwegian. Norway's difference is that it's more acceptable to have a different accent or display regional culture. Stockholm is influencing more people in Sweden to adapt their language, as people from the capital are not thought to have an accent.

[@TheMennomilist]

I am totally someone who loves to ask so many questions to people to get to know them, and apparently that is not actually that common here in the US, as I have been told by many people that they feel put on the spot when I ask so many things at once. . I have learned to spread it out a bit for times when I see them again, which works better. I guess I am too curious and talkative for people. One of my best friends in Swedish and she never minds my questions towards her. She is a vegan Swede too (but not a minimalist). She prefers speaking English to Swedish. . is that true for you too? She doesn't like her native language of Swedish, which surprises me since I wish I had another language I knew but can't imagine wanting to speak another language over my native tongue. I am very trusting, and it has caused me problems at times too. I did enjoy this video. I always love your videos though! -JusticePirate

[@adriandatura]

Definitely a Swedish complainer (with not a drop of Swedish in me ww) it's just another aspect of life that affects me as much as that days traffic or weather. We can acknowledge the frustration or even grief in that situation but it's not a sob fest.

[@lambe137]

Hi, where is your dress from?

[@DiariesOfMarla]

Sweden sounds like an amazing place to grow up and I love the culture. In U.S it's really taboo to talk about politics or how much money you make or religion !

[@gracesimplified3860]

I think I could easily be a Swede. American here! America is such a large country with many subcultures generalizing what we do is not a fair assessment. For instance the culture of Arkansas is very different than California. Even within California, my home state there is a big difference between coastal vs.valley vs mountain vs southern vs. northern.

[@saraheagles7582]

Totally unrelated to the content...... can you share what microphone you are using?

[@sohineeroy2611]

Why don’t you do a flat tour

[@smgreenartsprivate]

You aren't alone in those characteristics and I am not Swede I am French and Irish so...not as extrovert as some assume I would be. I ask what I need to know and think about it before hand and let people live their own lives and learn their own mistakes. I understand fashion but don't practice it as much as others can. But as I am the above health is low priority or maybe it was my upbringing not sure most Swedes I know are in better shape than I am. I try to trust but been burnt a few times so trust only my friends no one else.

[@Nicole-zr1me]

The equality in your country sounds wonderful in a lot of ways.

[@startpage717]

Cute Blouse

[@taraclarke2565]

Is is easy/accepted to be vegan in Sweden? ❤

[@hadesbabiesrabies3876]

13:15 Eat it, America

[@leticiarsf]

I mean… I’m from Brazil… so… 100% different 😂

[@user-fp7ld4zt1i]

hahaha så true hahaha

[@EricB256]

After watching this, I feel very Swede apart from the trend thing, even though I am obviously not.

[@skincaremakeup40]

I have a sad memory of an afternoon spent in a gloomy cold Malmo in july 2000❤how disappointing!i want to give one more to opportunity,this time to the capital Stockholm.Greetings from Sicily

[@ajs41]

A lot of people say conformity is too strong in Sweden.

[@aurorat7633]

I would conform as well, considering the level of stability and wellbeing of the general population

[@msgreenswede]

@@aurorat7633 I think the conformity in Sweden can be really damaging for some people. There isn't space to express who you are fully, there is a societal pressure to not be too much and leads to only a certain mindset or personality being accepted. I loved my time living in Sweden but I met a lot of Swedes who really suffered with their mental health because of this dynamic in society

[@marieluise6907]

🤍🤍🤍

[@DE-iv8if]

At least almost nothing in common with Germans I think. Strange... :D

[@OSAUL]

After watching midsommar film Swedish ppl freak me out