JK Rowling Being An Ally | r/AccidentalAllies

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Jk Rowling being an ally? Transphobes being accidentally woke?
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[@Jammidodger]

What did you think of these accidental allies?? AD this video was sponsored by June's Journey. Download June's Journey for free now cherrypick.gg/JammiDodger

[@Torgii]

I still love that they still mistake trans men and women, its very funny

[@pensword14]

I literally opened up June's Journey to play while listening to the video!

[@2nd3rd1st]

You said that "people are either cis or trans" because we either are the gender that fits our birth-sex or not. But non-binary and intersex people don't fit that binary framework, so what are they?

[@dieSpinnt]

First, thanks for sharing your thoughts, Jammi!:) And directly to my nonsense: I think you are wrong on the first case. You see the women (they are drawings and fictional, btw.) as powerful and great women (an opinion I share). But you didn't get the intention of the author of the post: For him, they are ugly and unworthy. So he choose them. I think behind all of that is the pushback and rejection that he would experience if he openly spoke against women in such a way and pointed out his childish views. He subconsciously understood that. And that's exactly why he chooses trans women as the target of his hatred. At the end, this is just his valve for his insecurities and hate against women, because at the core this is pure misogyny. This person is simply too cowardly to say what he really thinks and takes the detour through his distorted worldview, in which trans people seem to be a target that suggests less resistance and backlash. So that author is an absolutely embarrassing coward! Incidentally, the writers image of women and his values of beauty are completely sufficient to identify this person as an unpleasant fellow citizen and to immediately apply for an restraining order in court. And if the writer himself is a woman: Who needs enemies when he has friends like that?:)

[@haylidumont]

I like to add rofl onto lmao because it sounds the cutest when you say it out like that. It almost sounds like you're too vigorously stroking a kitty cat.

[@Mx-Alba]

They think cis is a slur because they use trans as a slur...

[@John_Weiss]

Spot on!

[@ryoki8873]

Oh!!! That makes sense!

[@SeaBreeze-w9999]

This talking point is dumb. “Trans” isn’t used as a slur. Other words are.

[@waffles3629]

Exactly.

[@CharlotteSWeb-oh7ou]

@@SeaBreeze-w9999 It is a fact, not a talking point, that opposition to "cis" is because it allows for discussion that places trans and cis people on the same level, and cis people regard this equality as degrading. in effect, "trans" IS used as a slur. The same terms that place majorities on the same level as minorities always get the same treatment. I agree that it is a flawed talking point in that it takes bigot claims at face value, rather than what it is: a desire to shut down real conversation.

[@CorwinFound]

I (a trans guy) have had real life in person conversations with transphobes who really, really care about this issue, but have _never_ done even the most basic research. People actually shocked to learn that gender affirming surgeries aren't done on children. One lady was super firm that that top surgery is done on pre-pubescent girls. I asked, "What exactly are they removing?" Befuddled silence. I get transphobia. Bigotry sucks but I understand how it happens. But being so firm on a bigoted opinion without even looking up the basics? That I don't understand.

[@Giuliana-w1f]

A lot of them wouldn't be transphobes in the first place if they actually knew what they are talking about (ofc, a lot of them also knowingly make up bs to hurt people)

[@M_M_ODonnell]

They're so sure that genital surgeries are being done on children because effectively _all_ of their transphobic "thought" leaders tell them so. Often in the media, sometimes in formal government proceedings under oath. Every safeguard to ensure accurate information seems to be abandoned when transphobes want to justify their BS, either because they claim their garbage is "religious" or because they're so confident that they, not biologists, are the arbiters of what counts as "real biology" (and the same for medicine, sociology, anthropology, history, philosophy, psychology and language). All the Enlightened Centrists seem to have decided that transphobes get a get-out-of-reality-free card.

[@thedaydreamerx]

What about i am jazz? She was 16 a kid

[@freddiefishton]

@@thedaydreamerxso what were they removing?

[@rosieg6989]

@@thedaydreamerxShe followed all guidelines for trans youth. Blockers around 11 to give her time to mature and figure herself out, hormones around 16, and the only reason she had her bottom surgery a month before her 18th birthday was because that was the only time it could be scheduled and within a month of 18 is legal.

[@simonquintana5098]

You know, my best friend, a Trans Woman, was raised in a Very Very conservative household, and she was super transphobic and once, to our school, it came a trans guy to give a talk about being queer and the whole thing, and at one particular moment where he was talking about gender euphoria/Dysphoria She interrupted looking all livid and said "But it's not like you can just change who you're born as! you're not a woman, you're a man!", and the guy said: "You're rigth on that" and now looking back, I think her egg broke that day. And everytime I see an accidental ally I remember that day.

[@lorelei2002]

Ngl thats a dope egg cracking. Its like all of the hate is washed away by a realization you can become someone better. Hope she is doing great and has support.

[@simonquintana5098]

@@lorelei2002 She's doing better, The transphobia didn't washed away immediatley though, even now she still has some internalized bad ideas about herself, but still, I've never seen her happier.

[@Jane-oz7pp]

​@@simonquintana5098 honestly, my family wasn't conservative, but they were transphobic and I had a similar experience. It wasn't until I was sort of tripped up on my own words that it sunk in and I started to question myself at all. Now I'm a genderfluid androgyne/woman-adjacent enby who will argue vehemently for the validity of anyone's gender even if I don't understand it, and am constantly railing against gender constructivism (what I call the social construction of strictly defined gender roles, basically the antithesis to gender abolition which is the idea of degendering anything to which gender is not relevant along with the loosening and even removal of gender constructs to the point that people don't even need labels but can still apply them as wanted.)

[@jessarie98]

I love it

[@elizabethfrootloop7814]

What about trans women without balls, are they allowed in women's stalls???

[@Jane-oz7pp]

In so many ways, The Ugly Step-Sister is one of my favourite representations of transfemininity ever. She's a sympathetic character, who is resourceful, tough and capable, and when she is treated poorly for the way she looks the other women defend her. She's also sweet, kind and motherly towards the people she's close to and doesn't rely on external validation to be sure.of who she is and feel good about herself. She's everything and more and is genuinely one of my trans heros and someone I have looked up to since I was a child.

[@isengarde9490]

The Ugly Stepsister who tried to steal Cinderella's husband? That one?

[@MiaTheOtterPup]

I always thought she was a slightly unflattering representation of a trans woman, I never realized she was one of the stepsisters. I definitely should have figured that out sooner lol

[@rattyeely]

​@@isengarde9490 The one in Shrek 2...

[@frolikswfroggys6416]

Fun added note. They showed up singular in the 14th century. You (though used longer in polite conversation) did not replace thou/thee as the singular version until the 17th century.

[@killianobrien2007]

Oh yes, William þe Werewolf

[@30000beesinatrenchcoat]

@@killianobrien2007 based thorn user

[@SeaBreeze-w9999]

Using “singular they” for a specific person? Or a generic person?

[@Ynwell_theslaaneshi]

@@SeaBreeze-w9999it was for a specific person you didn’t know what their gender were. “I saw my friend Alex in the shop” “oh cool, who are they?” Really it can be (and always was) both.

[@SeaBreeze-w9999]

@@Ynwell_theslaaneshi “Who are they” i.e. a person you know nothing about

[@bambino05]

My local swimming pool has a completely open changing room, men, women, families, disabled, doesn't matter. Everyone is in the same room, there's open showers and cubicle showers. Everyone gets changed in cubicles because that's normal. I don't even understand why people have such a need for separate bathrooms and changing rooms anyway. You enter a bathroom or changing room and enter a cubicle, where you can't be seen by any other human, I genuinely don't under the issue.

[@Xx_Oleander_xX]

I don't get it either like so long as there is a stall who cares?

[@bambino05]

@sydneylong2322 I know it's wild to me. I go swimming with my family every single week, and never once has anything bad happened in those changing rooms. Are some people really so afraid of washing their hands next to a person who may or may not have the same genitals as them?

[@waffles3629]

​@@bambino05 yes, yes they are. I was in a restaurant that just had a row of enclosed private bathrooms right off a semi main hallway. Every room had its own toilet, sink and mirror (about half had changing tables, clearly marked on the doors). There was a Karen throwing an absolute tantrum, *DEMANDING* the manager tell her where the women's bathroom was RIGHT NOW because "my daughter can't share a bathroom with men". Yeah, I don't think her kid was old enough to know the difference between men and whales. The manager had to threaten to call the cops to get her to stop shouting.

[@bambino05]

@@waffles3629 I wonder if thar Karen has two bathrooms in her home and men have to use a specific one and women the other

[@minestar2247]

@@bambino05 Well, there is a difference how you treat family and how you treat strangers. But Yeah, a bit exaggerated cause the Karen could just go there and stand next to her daughter

[@thomascripe9905]

In six hundred years when they dig up your bones they'll say oh cool look bones

[@bakugoukacchankatsuki6434]

Hopefully they don't do like Europeans did when they discovered mummies *shudder* (they ate their dust for strength and longevity or something if you didn't know)

[@eliethia_munay]

- ‘They’re just throwing anti furry in for good luck’ 😂😂😂

[@KitsuKyo]

Yeah, Furry Hate has always sort of been a bit of a dog-whistle for anti-LGBTQ tendencies. Furries tend to have more queer representation than most other fanbases (about 75% identify as LGBTQ) and the majority of straight furries are allies. It just seems like Furry Hate is sort of a 'sanitized' queerphobia.

[@LegendOfMoonDragons]

I used to this 'cis' sounded like a derogitory term, even though I recognised it wasn't (I'm a cis woman). I listened to Jamie's videos, did some reading, talked to my friend's trans boyfriend, and I got over it! Funny how education can teach us stuff, ey?

[@LunaEclipse4]

3:36 I can guarantee that trans is censored because they think it's a slur; a way to refer to someone as being inferior. They probably also think cis is slur because it implies the mere existence of trans people (we are very scary, apparently).

[@skinskinner]

OH MY JK ROWLING BEING AN ALLY?!?!?!?

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

About time she got shit figured out :)

[@InsaneNines]

Call it Twitter. Elongated Muskrat said deadnaming is okay, so deadname Twitter. He can't get pissy about because we're doing something he specifically said was okay.

[@abibano]

It's interesting how you can tell who is transphobic by what language they use

[@angelainamarie9656]

The way they dehumanize us and treat us like an ideology or cult is a dead giveaway.

[@Cera_01]

You can also immediately tell the transphobes by the lack of correct grammar as, you know, because it stems from a lack of education and being unwilling to learn.

[@abibano]

Yeah but I'm also talking about when people say, addressing the controversy, that "men who identify as women" are in woman's sport or things simmilar

[@angelainamarie9656]

@@abibano oh s*** yeah.

[@angelainamarie9656]

@@abibano tell you what I automatically report any KZbin video that drifts into my feed that refers to "gender cult" or "ideology" or cries about women's rights and then refers to gender cult or ideology. I don't see the sport one as much anymore I just see this constant reduction of what we are to some sort of silly ass internet fad like eating Tide pods.

[@IAmABedBug]

This is one of my favorite subreddits lmao

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

Same

[@PokhrajRoy.]

The title had me wheezing because wouldn’t that be the day?!

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

Always fun to see some accidental allies

[@lavenderdasillykitty]

14:40 WOOOO WE DID IT GIRLS the devs patched in the gender change potion finally, trans women can have kids :3

[@5Rice5Cake5]

I love ur pfp

[@minestar2247]

Wow, if only I could try put that new option, too bad my character build isn't really made for that

[@goothedoot]

*terraria day theme*

[@lavenderdasillykitty]

@@5Rice5Cake5 aww :3 iz a picrew lols, urs is also preti :3 like red hatsune miku?

[@5Rice5Cake5]

@@lavenderdasillykitty it’s teto kasane (she’s in the miku franchise :3

[@ajtheonion5456]

20:34 Likely not drawn but AI art lmao, the birds in the back are animorphing into an airplane

[@makimaki500]

theyre turning the damn birds trans!!!!!!!!!!11

[@CerexFlikex]

lol I wouldn't expect them to actually make the artwork manually. Of course it was AI 😂

[@waffles3629]

I still think it's probably AI, but "it's a bird! It's a plane!" is a quote from Superman. I don't know much about Superman, but I know that quote.

[@Moony_doesstuff]

That quote by she-who-must-not-be-named actually made me laugh out loud. The irony of it

[@martind2520]

So, just to be clear, you're refusing to use someone's preferred name?

[@katyamcadams]

​@@martind2520if JKR wants to be respected that well, he must respect others.

[@martind2520]

@@katyamcadams If you don't apply your moral values to the people you don't like then they aren't moral values at all, just privileges you give to the people you like.

[@RandomGal_]

@@martind2520 eat sleep defend billionaires online for a living repeat

[@martind2520]

@@RandomGal_ Being a billionaire doesn't mean you have stopped being human.

[@Gormathius]

23:24 The accidental ally is in the statement that the only trans option is MTF or FTM, implying not transitioning isn't a valid option.

[@Maker0824]

3:11 Make sure you differentiate people with XXY, people with chimera chromosomes, with mosaic chromosomes, and people who have XY but due to androgen sensitivity stuff develop extremely as a cis woman.

[@angryfroggo6394]

I've used that very same google screenshot about the singular they/them usage, and I was told that I shouldn't obey some "arbitrary authority" on language, and just use he or she. You know, the OED being the "arbitrary authority" on language that I should not obey. I never found out what authority this person thought I should be following.

[@LiEnby]

transphobes are lingusitic prescriptivists, 3000%, their imposing a definition of man/women no one uses, and then redefining how pronouns and grammar work from how they actually do, due to arbitrary authoritarian standards based on your precious arbitrary gender norms being threatened, that were intentionally designed to exclude a specific group of men/women they dont like..

[@joseybonnie3142]

“You’re either trans or cis, there’s no inbetween” I’m bigender so I’d argue that I am the inbetween…

[@Warhawk9012]

I love how so many Accidental Allies hear or see the word "transgender" and *immediately* assume male to female (especially if they see a picture of an openly trans man with a beard and respond with *"He's not even attempting to look like a woman.")* Some also think "trans woman" means female to male & "trans man" means male to female.

[@Ikajo]

Finding bones won't do much. When they found the burial of a Viking warrior, they assumed it was a man. Took over two decades for other researchers to discover warrior had been a woman. Assumptions will play a bigger part than any analysis.

[@ninjakiwigames5418]

19:49 No-one DREW that. It's AI 20:16 Another AI picture

[@callum.timothy]

Yeah, the amount of "anti-woke" AI "art" on Twitter is really weird, Satan wearing pride flags, angry bearded trans women etc

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

20:17 Just a little tip: _MAGAt_ is meant to be pronounced "maggot".

[@Invalidzero.]

the only trans story ive heard of someone being harmed in the women's restroom was Nex. and they were forced to be in there and murdered by girls. but none of the transphobes cared about that.

[@saoirse2963]

She was not forced to be there and she was not murdered. She started a fight and later in she OD. Stop making martyrs out of people.

[@goodpeople25]

@@saoirse2963 You're the one harassing a dead person. That is a classic way martyrs are born. Also you're keeping it classy with that racist rhetoric.

[@Invalidzero.]

@@saoirse2963 THEY were forced to use the girls restroom because there were no gender neutral bathrooms and no teacher would allow them to use the staff restroom. They were being bullied and tried to get them to stop by SPLASHING WATER ON THE GIRLS. and in return the girls BEAT THEM in the bathroom. the school brushed it off and tried to hide it. they died the next day. even if they did OD, i would still say the girls had a part in it for literally beating them in the bathroom. bullying does lead to suicides in many cases and i believe said bullies are responsible. but you do not know they ODed. but the girls did beat them up for trying to stand up to them by SPLASHING WATER ON THEM. if you believe the girls were justified in beating another child up because they splashed water on them, i dont know what is wrong with you.

[@SeaBreeze-w9999]

@@goodpeople25Harassing a dead person? That doesn’t even make sense. And where’s the racism?

[@goodpeople25]

@@SeaBreeze-w9999 You been living under a rock to not know the context of claiming easily prevented deaths of a minority don't matter cause it was an OD?

[@Polopony20.]

All the "grrr bathrooms!" Thing made me realize i feel safer in spaces with my trans-sisters than i do my cis-sisters. (Sisters in the collective sense, not the actual sibling sense lol) Hm. Wonder why.

[@leafyshrub]

People not wanting to be called cis is so strange to me. It's like what do you want us to call you, homogender? I'm sure they'd love that

[@MichelleHarris-zf6wn]

JK Rowling as an ally? Is it opposite day!?

[@unowen-nh9ov]

Yes, feminist philanthropist author BAD!

[@MichelleHarris-zf6wn]

Nothing BAD about being a feminist, an author or a philanthropist. An ally,she sadly is not. I'm sorry you were confused by opposite day 😮

[@cass7448]

@@unowen-nh9ov "feminist" "philanthropist" author.

[@woofie3917]

6:42 when im talking to someone irl, i say "le-m-ow" because it rolls off the tounge better

[@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023]

12:34 HAD to screengrab that one! *continues chuckling*

[@j.apenrose7896]

Been having a rough time. Tried to get a referral from my GP to go on the waiting list (three years) to have an initial appointment with a gender clinician. I was told no. I'm a married adult, and this is literally to go on a waiting list--not for hormones or surgery--but just to talk to a specialist. And meanwhile people are saying to it's "too easy" for people to transition.

[@saoirse2963]

Your experience is not universal.

[@tayters8763]

Le mow is in fact how some people, myself included, have attempted to turn the initialization "lmao" into an acronym

[@svenhendrickx2783]

Unrelated to the video, but something positive I wanted to share. I got divorced almost 5 years ago, struggled with depression for almost 3 years and had to work through a lot of trust issues. Never felt secure enough to form any emotions for anyone. After my depression got better, I did cautiously start looking. I felt like a colleague liked me and while I did like them, I didn't want to risk heartbreak at that time. Now 2 years later, we did get talking. Turns out the feeling from back then wasn't wrong and about a week ago we started a situationship, with the clear intent to make it an official relation after a bit(she had a bad relationship in that 2 year period and is still recovering). While it's still fresh, I'm actually viewing it already as more. We just match at almost everything, humour, ideas about relationships (happy wife, happy life is my view), bedroom,.... So good things will come, even if you came from a deep point in your life. Much love to you still struggling, if my fat ass managed to get through it, so can you ❤

[@apolloisabnormal1001]

the most interesting thing about all this is that multiple Archaeologists have said no, they absolutely cannot tell when a skeleton is male or female because those skeletal male and female structures are based on two extremes, with most skeletons being located in the middle, so they’re most likely female or most likely male because it’s very difficult to tell. most pf the time Archaeologists use context clues like what a person was buried with and even then it’s hard to tell because sometimes people are buried with both of what would be considered masculine or feminine. so, no, they won’t be able to tell what you are when they dig up their bones, they’ll make an educated guess at most.

[@hyperswag506]

Why don’t we just make bathrooms and locker rooms gender-neutral?

[@saoirse2963]

Because most women and teenage girls feel safer and more comfortable in a single-sex bathrooms and locker rooms. What about public showers and dressing rooms, by the way? Do you want them to be gender-neutral as well?

[@goodpeople25]

@@saoirse2963That depends on society. You're just recycling USian responses to the US gun problem.

[@LiEnby]

yeah we should, but that doesn't excuse transphobia either way.

[@SeaBreeze-w9999]

Because lots of people don’t feel comfortable with that & it would enable male voyeurs to spy on women & girls

[@goodpeople25]

@@SeaBreeze-w9999 Again, that just means you are a misogynist. Plenty of places get on just fine.

[@DinosaurNick]

Me: I'm agender Phobe: You'll never be a real woman! Me: Thank you! I'm AFAB Edit: I have a friend that isn't trans or cis. She's intersex and a woman and identifies as an intersex woman ^^ Edit 2: My bro: I'm not calling you they/them. I know grammar and that's not correct for a singular person. Bro talking about his friend: refers to her as they/them repeatedly to not gender her Edit 3: I seen a comment where a woman referred to herself as a cis woman and someone told her "You're a biological man"

[@saoirse2963]

Such bs label. "Agender". Be more of a snowflake, why don't you.

[@goodpeople25]

@@saoirse2963 Applying a simple suffix to something most everyone has is being a snowflake huh?

[@artikulv731]

@@saoirse2963ah yes, because gender now equals snowflake. And the person going on to a queer video and being upset at the existence of queer people is not being a snowflake. Got it.

[@saoirse2963]

​@@artikulv731agender equals snowflake, yes. What even is that. You are just a woman. Nobody has internal feelings of being a male or female, you are all being lied to. People just exist in their own bodies.

[@saoirse2963]

​@@goodpeople25it's not about the suffix, as I'm sure you know. It's that it's a bs identity. This person is just a woman, but now she is part of the lgbtqia+ because she doesn't feel her gender or whatever? That's just a regular woman.

[@KacielNolwen]

The people screaming that 'when your bones are dug up they will know you were x' have clearly never been anywhere near archeologists... Cause that just not how it works. Archeology takes things in context, not just the bones. They look at how people were burried, what possession if any were burried with them, names on the tomb, etc etc. Those people have as little an understanding of archeology as they have of biology.

[@Jess-3]

I adore June journeys, literally watching this whilst playing it I love itttt

[@elizabethfrootloop7814]

Shrek played on a ballet tradition in which the stepsisters are played by men.

[@nedhunter4444]

25:50 In the US, the brown one is a "football" and the black and white one is a "soccer ball". And the funny thing is that iirc, the term "soccer" came from the UK (I believe it was short for "association football"), but is no longer widely used there.

[@mintygrey]

I swear I remember in the 90s people saying "I'm not 'straight' I'm 'normal'."

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

A stopped clock is right twice a day. But accidental allies are more like slow clocks, which are right once every two years.

[@Silly_Ham]

He's so comforting when I'm dealing with dysphoria. I can't really do anything to relieve my dysphoria since I have a very lgbt-phobic family and most of my friends are transphobic and homophobic. I'm genderfluid. I've been feeling quite masculine and VERY dysphoric today. Jammi has always been comforting to me because it's so great and inspiring to see other trans people being comfortable in their skin. I hope to get there some day.

[@78dentedhead]

For the record, Black Queer Superwoman is bad-arse AF. I'm not even a superhero/comic fan, but that looks awesome!

[@MM-km1vl]

Jamie I love your haircut!!!! you look confident in it :D

[@VimeC]

lmao is indeed pronounced " L'MOW "

[@Jacimicael]

Here in Brazil e read "Limão" when see LMAO

[@TheEnmineer]

🍋

[@Interdimensional_Magic]

I pronounce "L.M.A.O.", "L- mow"

[@JessBagherpour]

I've been told I will never be a woman, and that I look like a "combination of a man and a woman." As a transmasc enby, it's utterly affirming and euphoric!

[@Fabala827]

19:16 TIL that the guy who invented what we now know as “gay conversion therapy” also invented ABA and that makes so much sense bc what is ABA if not attempting to convert people to being neurotypical

[@echopeak5953]

'L.M.A.O.' and 'leh-mao' are both valid pronunciations imo. I can read lmao as either depending on the tone of the post, although generally it's based on whether they're in all caps or not (LMAO = l.m.a.o. and lmao = leh-mao).

[@tealkerberus748]

The conversation about bones reminds me that it would be cool to have a collab between Jamie and miniminuteman if that can ever be made to happen.

[@shortcake66]

Where can I get a ‘Jesus and a Drag Queen t-shirt? I want one so much

[@jarbarsi]

4:57 that ding is maybe a bit loud lmao, might want to turn that down in the future

[@dasani.like.the.water.]

I am not an archeologist, but I’m very interested in archeology! The whole thing about the bones is really stupid because archeologists can’t tell your sex buy your bones alone. Male and female skeletons looks pretty similar. Also, trans people have existed since humans have existed and we know that with help from archeologists!

[@gizmo6249]

We should start an acronym, YKWNLY- your kids will never love you

[@0_chi_hiro]

transphobes thinking trans men are "trans women" and vice versa will never cease to amaze me. WHY WOULD WE CALL OURSELVES THE GENDER WE DO NOT WANT TO BE CALLED?

[@ninjagirlD]

I’ve have some of my trans friends say that their body feels wrong. Not that it is. It’s just not the one for them.

[@girlwithtehface5880]

I feel like my body is not how I want it to be. That could be considered "wrong," but I think of it more like "some adjustments required." I'm on hormones, so I feel more like myself every day.

[@Remmy-iq3bs]

I actually have found accidental Allies very often lately. Sad. I don’t understand either some lesbian and Gay don’t like Trans and Non Binary . Being Non Binary is extremely Exhausting. I just messaged Earlier and being Anorexic took away so many hormones it helped but it’s hurting me and I’m dangerously underweight. Thanks.

[@starfishgurl1984]

My local pride was yesterday and I saw the best shirt ever being sold in one of the booths that said something like “pronouns: what you learn about in fourth grade, be smarter than a fourth grader and stop misgendering people” and I absolutely loved it but I didn’t have any cash on me and they were out of my size otherwise I would’ve probably bought it! Pronouns are not that hard even if I’ve accidentally screwed them up before unintentionally and had to correct myself because my brain is a POS and jumbles up my words on me, I know how easy it is to just be gender neutral when you’re not sure because that’s all encompassing typically and as an AFAB demigirl I appreciate it when people ask before assuming.

[@martind2520]

There is no such thing as being assigned female at birth. Female is a matter of biology. It is identified, not assigned. You get assigned a book report, you don't get assigned your arms.

[@Bl00dBl055um]

I say it La-mao too!!! It's like shorthand for "oh what a hilarious jape!!"

[@doglover12345andfr]

I say La Mao because I think it sounds like a French cat…and that cracks me up.

[@RavenMenel]

13:00 The singular they has existed for hundreds of years but the misconception comes from misinformation in English classes where they teach that if you do not know the gender of the individual default to he/him pronouns when referring to them, which comes from a highly misogynistic mindset. At least that is how it was taught when I was in school. There is a lot of out dated stuff that was taught back when I was in school. I don't know how it is now since it's been over 10 years since I graduated.

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

Good for her. I think she's gonna be big. lmao

[@noorykorky5056]

13:23 See this is interesting because as an Iranian, the singular third-person pronoun (he/she/they) is already gender-neutral. That is not to say that Iranians are inclusive in the slightest bit because trust me, you can find a lot of really conservative people amongst Iranians, but this is just how our language has worked for a long time. But also, in order to be respectful, we often pluralize pronouns (e.g., singular "you" to plural "you") and in order to be respectful while talking about someone we often use what is the Farsi translation of "they/them" pronouns. Just goes to show how interesting grammar can be...

[@Lumaraf1]

9:30 I am aware what Jammi is trying to explain here, but there are various gender modalities besides cis and trans. For example for someone who is genderfluid, agender, bigender or plural it might not feel right to identify as cis or trans. In those cases that person might prefer to use labels to describe that they are only partially cis or trans, both or neither or something else entirely. Cisn't, transn't, demicisgender, demitransgender, absgender and isogender are some examples for gender modalities that don't fit into the binary classification of either cis or trans.

[@prageruwu69]

if you identify at least partially as a gender you weren't assigned at birth, you are by definition transgender, or at least non-binary. that's how it works.

[@rosieg6989]

@@prageruwu69Non-binary also falls under the transgender umbrella. Non-binary people are trans. Did you mean intersex? Because not all intersex people identify as trans.

[@claratalbot7613]

Any time a transphobe wants to say that they/them can't be used for only one person, I like to use the example of finding a lost, taking it to lost & found while letting the employee know that someone left their (insert item). Also, I want to see a person who hates pronouns to make a video with either a jar or a whiteboard to tally up the scores of how many pronouns get used. They can do whatever they usually do or just have a conversation with someone else but the catchis they can't use pronouns. Anyways a pronoun is used they put an item in the jar or mark the board. See how long it take them to use one pronoun, then at the end tell them how many they used because they didn't realize it

[@doogandoggin2571]

I'm afraid to cut my hair, I have been on T for 2 years and I'm in my 50s. I'm afraid of getting sunburnt o. Top. Lol, I got my dad's hair. Who knew?

[@babs_babs]

hats are your friend

[@Vahlee-A]

It's a good hair! 🏳️‍⚧️🤟🏽

[@mightyaussie7187]

No way I have the same shark plush!

[@Nuala-si9sh]

Fiona is an icon and she is the moment

[@badischeente7322]

Hey, transfem myself here. I noticed a lot of negative viewpoints against the term "transgenderism", could anyone give me a good replacement term? For example "Recently I bought a book about transgenderism" (The book pretty much just a novel about a trans-person), should I just replace it with trans-identity in this case? I just wanna make sure I don't make anyone feel uncomfortable 💜

[@rosieg6989]

Trans person, transgender person, transexual person, person who is trans. While there are rare cases, the word transgenderism is almost solely used by terfs, as they were the ones who created said word.

[@rosieg6989]

Do not uses "trans identified person" "trans identified male" or "trans identified female" as those are also terf created terms.

[@JosilyneTwigg]

"transness" is a term Jamie uses himself in his book I feel the term fits and doesn't have the same negative connotation as transgenderism

[@badischeente7322]

@@JosilyneTwigg Ooh that's a good one, I'll make sure to incorporate it when talking. Thank you so much! 💜

[@HXSKlmfao]

I love how the same people who are like “the children!!” also want corporal punishment to children to be legal

[@BlackKoshka23]

The thing is, that's not how archeology works. If your tombstone survives, they're gonna take that to identify you, and if it doesn't, they may look at other stuff, like the clothes you were wearing (if there are any remains of that) or whatever objects you had with you when you were buried, they rarely look at your bone structure that way or even do a DNI analysis to determine your chromosomes. We have incorrectly identified bodies before, and it will happen again, to both trans and cis people, because it's a very imprecise thing.

[@kaylaa2204]

Yeah I say it as l’mao Same way I pronounce lol Saying it as an acronym just sounds like a clunky word, doesn’t roll of the tongue when spoken

[@Eagle_Owl2]

The Jesus/drag queen pic looks like some power ballad duet at Eurovision where they kiss at the end of the performance.

[@betht1983]

I have a question for the LGBTQ+ people here. Is it ok for me (cishetf) to say the "queer community" when referring to y'all? I know that the term has been used as a slur A LOT. I asked my gay mom and she said it was ok because you took it back, but she's 66 and I actually had to teach her what cis was, which I learned here😊 If my question is in any way derogatory or hateful, I apologize and it's unintentional. I'm just trying to learn and be a good ally ❤

[@rosieg6989]

Yes, queer community is fine. Some in older generations might ask you to use lgbt community and just politely do as they say, but for the most part queer community is perfectly fine. Queer is only a slur if it is used as one. "I identify as queer," that is fine, but stuff like "that's so queer" or "shut up you queer" is not ok.

[@betht1983]

@@rosieg6989 thanks! The hate that gets thrown around just for people existing is so mind boggling to me. I try to keep learning, Google when I don't understand a term, and ask when I think answers might be nuanced. Always grateful when someone takes the time since it's not your job to be my teacher so thanks again!

[@rosieg6989]

@@betht1983 Yes it is not our job to be teachers, but if a question is genuine and asked in a polite way it is my experience that there is hardly a queer person who won’t try and help answer.

[@John_Weiss]

We Gen-X queers were trying to reclaim the word "queer" for use as an umbrella-term instead of the ever-growing LGBTQQIAA2S… acronym that is becoming a self-parody. Sadly, enough of the older generations threw a fit whenever anyone used "queer" that it became difficult to reclaim it. And then the younger generations came along and insisted that they all needed their own bespoke-labels, leading to the ever-growing acronym.

[@Sancheroid]

25:28 I love that analysis, it is so funny for some reason

[@BjornMinou]

The lmao thing: Yes I promounce it like that after playing World of Warcraft and watching Wow videos, with people including roflmao "rofflamao", so, yeah, "lamao". :)

[@Sophia-vk5bq]

Even JK can Neville Longbottom her way into doing a good. Sometimes.

[@LunarWind99]

Jamie, your hair looks awesome! ❤️

[@ameliehohweiller7981]

Hello, there. after watching your video, I'm taking some time to ask a few question/share my views on a few points. for context, I am not a transgender woman, and I don't consider myself to be either an ally or an enemy (if that is the word), but rather as someone whose opinion is: your body is yours, and you do whatever you want with it. the only thing I really don't like is "activism" (for lack of a better word) and that is true on both sides (as an exemple of things that set me off, I was once called homophobic because I said I didn't like fanfictions where Sherlock Holmes and John Watson are a couple, because to me the "mistery" is what make the relationship interesting. and I was once called a "filthy lesbian" (which I'm not), because I told a homophobe that any adult can do whatever he wants with what's between his legs, as long as it's legal and consensual). what I am going to say below are honest thoughts, paired with a desire to understand each side of the question. (also in advance, english is not my primary language, so please excuse any mistakes/weird phrasings. i'm doing my best) - My first question would be about genders. I do know sex and gender are different, and if your chosen gender doesn't match your biological sex, good for you, and I absolutely respect that. but still, to me there are only two genders that I know of. man or woman. If you were born male and identifie as a woman, then you are a woman, and vice versa. which, no matter the way, still leaves us with either man or woman. is that right, or are there other variations that I don't understand? the way I understand it (after asking the question), gender-fluid and non-binary people consider themselves as both man and woman. - my second point would be about the "cis-" prefixe. why should it be necessary to give the precision? if you are a woman, then you are a woman, whether you are trans or not. I personally don't care if you call me cis or not. I don't use the prefixe in my everyday life, but I don't care if you do when speaking about me. although, I could understand why some cis people get frustrated by the term. it sort of feels like you (that's a general you, not a specific you) want to put everyone in boxes and categories, and they don't want to be put in categories. - my third question concerns pronouns. why does it matter so much? when I am talking to you, I say you, I dont say he or him. the only use of third person prounouns I can think of is when speaking of someone who isn't there. otherwise, I see it as a clear mark of disrispect. therefore, why is it so important the way people adress you when you're not there? - about the lockers/bathroom. I can understand why it could make some people (especially cis women) uncomfortable. I myself am pretty unconfortable seeing male private parts when I have to attend a common bathroom/showerroom, albeit a mixed one. I don't know what the solution is, or if there even is one, but I think it would be a good thing if everyone could feel as comfortable as possible in these vulnerable moments. - about the long message you read by the end: I don't think this person doesn't care once people are eighteen. it's just that, in the common mind, at age eighteen, you are mature enough to make thought-through decision about your own life. and I think his worry comes from a lack of knowledge of the proceidures. since someone took the time to explain to me how puberty blockers worked for children who are questionning theur gender, I know that this proceidure isn't irreversible should the child change his mind. anyway, thank you if you read this, have a nice day/night/life

[@lostinmymind8147]

I thought she actually didn’t post something bigoted for once 😂

[@Panguinolucy]

18:21 this was also on KZbin, it got that same type of response. So it probably wasn’t singled out

[@aroacedragon-nt5ol]

I wish my English teacher knew what she was teaching. I had an assignment she graded once that was about the story the tell-tale heart. In the paper, I used they/them pronouns for them, since it wasn't clear what their gender was meant to be, and that was actually seen as an important part of the story by a lot of people. I lost about 20 points on it because of the use of they/them pronouns, and in the feedback my teacher said it was a great paper, but aggressively used "he/him" pronouns for the narrator. 🤦

[@A_Guy_Named_Jeronimo]

BONK HEYA

[@smart456]

Nice comment. Can I copy it?

[@A_Guy_Named_Jeronimo]

@@smart456 it's not that cool lol...

[@smart456]

I know, I just like funny stuff And I think I should ask permission to use this

[@A_Guy_Named_Jeronimo]

@@smart456 yep, you can use it :]

[@smart456]

Thanks :)

[@l.a.morgan3785]

Thank You for calling out that ridiculous asterisk!

[@caleb-woodvlogs3436]

Love your videos

[@bluelikesky]

Thinking that being compared to Fiona from shrek is anything but a complement is crazy, she is literal bodygoals

[@michigokuroichi46]

Strong and thiccc

[@Mossyspring]

I don't really want the green skin but everything else except the hair is 🍭🍬🌈🍉🍹💜💕👍❤️💖❣️❤️‍🔥🛹🎉💪🐃

[@kekejo1527]

It’s just iconic really

[@wilhelmhedin8845]

# beachogre2024

[@anitanielsen1061]

Fiona is literally a cis woman, who happens to be an ogre, too. She can canonically give birth. That just sounds like they’re making Trans Fiona AU/headcanons lmao

[@MidoriyamaRArekusu]

The picture from Shrek saying what trans people actually look like just has me like. “True, so true, I know plenty of cis women who look like that, too.”

[@Jane-oz7pp]

Me sitting here like "okay so like, it's true, but where's the problem with looking like literally anybody in the bottom picture?" (except Fiona. If you're green, please see a doctor)

[@twistedmyth5860]

Shrek Does have more realistic bodies than Disney princesses, so all women look more like the women in Shrek. And honestly? Those women look good.

[@candyeeznuts27]

@@twistedmyth5860 fr i always had a huge crush on the "ugly" sister tbh still do she was hot

[@waffles3629]

​@@twistedmyth5860 yep, and it's more relatable too. Let's see, do I wanna be sit in the corner waiting for someone to save me, or be a kickass human who is capable of handling problems? Hmmm, it's soooo hard to decid...kickass

[@minestar2247]

And to be honest, it does sound like it applies to all women because of stupid body standards

[@thenerdasaurus3717]

English teachers complaining about “they/them/their” being used as a singular pronoun really are straight up ignoring *centuries of literature and history* lmao

[@velvetbutterfly]

The extra layer of irony is when they say "language changes over time. That's not how modern language works"

[@quiestinliteris]

It freaking PREDATES the singular "you"!!!

[@quiestinliteris]

​@@velvetbutterflyOh, I will have to go find it, but I literally JUST saw in comments on another video something to the effect of "Yes, an Elizabethan author might have used the singular they to fit into a particular rhyme scheme, but they would'nt have used it in formal language." -___- Nevermind the idea that writing for publication isn't formal language.

[@chaoleo]

Some of us literally just got trained on some stupid, arbitrary rules in our 80s grade school education, so now we have to reprogram ourselves. Doable, of course, but it has taken me longer than I would have liked.

[@iantino]

I mean, formally it isn't, because the use isn't instituicionalized yet, but outside of formal contexts, no one should care. Complaining the use of it anywhere is simply against the scientific approach to any object, you observe a phenomenon and then you formulate hypothesis around that, which will be tested and then generate a result, which will be retested and changed a bit trying to isolate other variables that the first test might not get and then formulate the theory, condensing the findings. Not just get a rule from a case and applying it to everything. The latter is bad methodology and non-scientific.

[@zard5930]

'No balls allowed in women's stalls' Eye... eyeballs?

[@prageruwu69]

before they let you enter a stall they give you a melon baller

[@SarastistheSerpent]

Also, do they not know that ovaries are balls too? Do they think that ovaries are shaped like trapezoidal prisms lol?

[@batsnghostz]

Talking about footballs again

[@Jane-oz7pp]

OH COME ON KZbin I CAN'T EVEN MAKE A JOKE ABOUT SPHEROID SHAPED BONES NOW?! Just imagine that I made a hilarious comment about carpal and tarsal bones.

[@waffles3629]

​@@Jane-oz7pp KZbin censorship is out of control. I've called people's pets cute and had my comment disappear.

[@hatientacetlen4246]

I love how the first part "Trans women aren't traditional Disney princesses they're the princess side characters from Shrek 2" completely missing that the Shrek 2 characters are a gang of pseudo femenist revolutionaries who are sick of being treated as helpless damsels in destress by rebeling violently against gender norms. Or they didn't miss it and they're just sexist. Same result.

[@AZDfox]

All transphobes are sexist

[@shrimpbisque]

Roses are red, violets are blue, singular "they" predates singular "you".

[@Invalidzero.]

this might be my favorite comment in a very long time- i was thinking the same thing in a much less funny way,😂😂😂

[@saoirse2963]

So what lmao Suddenly you are all traditionalists and look to the past for justification But when we say no one thought about gender identity the way it is thought about today, we get "well we have developed since then" lmao

[@minestar2247]

In my language, there's neither, checkmate

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

​@@saoirse2963what's with you people not understanding how the rejection of a premise works?

[@jaydentt]

🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@jaycewood7071]

Even if being trans or queer actually was a choice, why aren’t we allowed to choose???

[@minestar2247]

Probably because sin is a choice? So, "if you don't do as I say you'll go to hell" kind of logic, but applied on something you can't really get because it's internal thinking

[@FreeFoxRagu]

This is indeed an excelent point 😂❤ Some people care way too much about other people's lives

[@samwisegamgee6532]

14:45 actually, it is totally possible to be an intersex person, to be assigned male at birth and starting having period, and the ability to get pregnant at puberty. And it is totally possible for such a person to identify as a woman, a trans woman as she was assigned male at birth. So, yes, human biology is so diverse that it is not impossible to be a pregnant trans woman. And if this person identifies as a man, as he was assigned at birth, he literally is a cis man who can get pregnant… Joanne ??? Joanne ??? Are you still with us ?

[@proserpina4448]

Maybe she stopped listening to look up the next place to take an advanced biology course /j. Let me be optimistic.

[@annaurum8992]

Do you know an actual case of that? It would be interesting to see, because it's quite unlikely to be AMAB and then be able to be pregnant. Unless, of course, whoever assigned the gender at birth was very drunk or something. But if it's an intersex condition that led to the development of noticeable male genitalia, then I doubt this person could be fertile. Again, if such a case was described, I'd be happy to read. I'm a biologist and sex determination is definitely one of my favorite topics.

[@samwisegamgee6532]

@@annaurum8992 not someone that I know personally, but yes there is some exemple of intersex people who have functioning uterus. I’ve seen an article on BBC Africa (in French), about an intersex person called Lea (for the article), born with ambiguous genome, assigned female at birth. Later at the start of puberty, that person was assigned male by a doctor, due to the evolution of his genitals. And then at 16, he started to menstruate and doctors decided not to remove his uterus because it was functional. And he was gendered male in the article. As link don’t work on KZbin, I don’t have a lot to help you find this article, and there is no reference of any scientific studies about similar cases. The article was published on 25/11/2020. And yes, you have plenty of intersex people who menstruates, and have a functional uterus, and some of them can look masculine and have been assigned male at birth. And of course they can be of any gender. So I did extrapolate from that as if he was assigned male at birth, not at puberty. And I think that is another consequence of sex reassignment operations, or HRT forced on intersex people : we don’t have a lot of examples of intersex people developing naturally. Which is sadly ironic as none of the transphobes who claim falsely that trans children go through surgery before puberty don’t care at all for intersex children who do suffer from such chirurgical operations.

[@RexytheRexy]

​​@@samwisegamgee6532 Thank you so much for bringing this up. I'm an example of an intersex person with a functional uterus. We absolutely exist, have periods, and can get pregnant (although for me, it's a dangerous hormonal nightmare - my fallopian tubes were tied at 18 because of it - I'm just one example, every intersex person is different).

[@waffles3629]

​@@annaurum8992 it's not that unlikely. A lot of time a babies sex is determined by "it's a penis if we think it will be big enough to penetrate, otherwise it's a large clitoris".