How to Keep Going When You Want to Give Up

On today’s show, we hear about:
- A mother obsessed with losing the baby weight she gained
- A young husband on the verge of divorce
- A woman struggling with resentment toward her mom
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[@3roachkidsdhe]

Because of this show I forced myself to get out and watch my son at an event at school. Also, I am learning to love myself and have more confidence.

[@nikstar1313]

I’m proud of you. I’m alarmed too though that so many adults give up and don’t even think they SHOULD and NEED to attend their own kids events…as usual, the kids suffer!! Please keep your son as your first priority and love to you ❤

[@flashthecorgi2053]

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[@dabd8175]

Just men doing men things 😎

[@s_gal9900]

Whole heartedly agree. Thanks for saying that so perfectly Kelly and thank you for your work dr John!!

[@dabd8175]

@@s_gal9900 thank you ❤️

[@AlexandriaBozza]

I think I love this review most bc it’s written by a corgi

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@AlexandriaBozza you know Corgis have to have good mental health too! 🤪

[@mirandaputman5742]

You're a real, spiritual, punk rock, and Christian and I appreciate you for the work you do! New fan and you came around when I needed it most!

[@JennieC21]

He did for me too 😊

[@terashaking4119]

I like the way John shares the truth in love, and is delicately direct.

[@karalove3470]

Wow. Amazing talk with the woman with body image issues... Going through those toddler years with all the Mom hormone changes is hard! Praying she can continue to work through the emotional parts of this.

[@rileyforbes7881]

Anxiety is "a whole bunch of little choices that you make over a period of time". Love this John! Ownership is so important to healing; I hope this lands for James as it did for me ❤

[@elisegothlix1183]

Dieting destroyed my body. Diet culture destroyed my head. Get off the diets and just be active and eat ENOUGH. Not worth disordered eating to be skinny.

[@LilymHayes]

Her story is so similar to me. I struggled with postpartum depression but I also struggled with infertility too 😢

[@jandeshon8264]

Ive struggled with the weight self image problem too, after children.

[@dancebrittany23]

The second caller was one of the best calls I've heard. Dr John calling him out on how he can't seem to connect with this guy was huge.

[@HeavyMetalMonkey]

I was in a rough place. I wish I could have this call back. It was recorded 3 or 4 weeks ago. And I didn't get scheduled for about 3 weeks after I submitted my question. My marriage had essentially officially ended the night before. I wish I could call right now, I'd be a lot more available emotionally and mentally. That was not my normal operating self. I love Dr. John and I was hoping for a serious yet lighthearted conversation that he's so good for. Live and learn!

[@summersalix]

​@@HeavyMetalMonkeyhow are u doing now? It was brave of you to come on air, and I hope u are finding peace and healing 🤗

[@flashthecorgi2053]

⁠@@HeavyMetalMonkeyThank you for coming on and being real and raw in such a vulnerable state. Your call will help so many people even though you wish you could have the call back. Also, John says you are always welcome to call back and get advise on how to navigate the divorce. ❤️

[@melanieb2132]

​@@HeavyMetalMonkeyis your marriage officially over?

[@tomnohmy1273]

I gave up years ago and I shuffle through life because I threw away mediocre and I crush it daily.

[@jaylavansloun1994]

One what kelly said is 💯 ❤ Two: I am so glad someone put some light on breastfeeding and weight gain!! Everyone usually says the opposite, "oh breastfeeding makes you lose all the baby weight" I have had 4 pregnancies, one full term loss and with the other 3 after breastfeeding I would be the same weight leaving the hospital prepregnancy. But then gain it all back by the time maternity leave was over. So thank you for shining light on it. Thank John for all you and the gang do.

[@beverlyhooks2182]

Very excited that you acknowledged my visit from British Columbia on your show. Love you all so much! You changed my life. Bev ❤

[@karaa7595]

There's NO EXCUSE for this selfish parenting crap. You don't lean on your kids. THEY lean on YOU! And I don't care what you've been through either. You DON'T take it out on your kids! You suck it up and care for your kid and love them by NOT abusing them. Work out your crap when they go to bed. To Ashley - my heart breaks for you. Your mom is SO toxic. Grieve the loss and don't look back. She will steal the rest of your life and you'll wake up without a life of your own.

[@pulidobl]

This. Happened to me at 43yo.

[@klinko27]

Oh my I connected so much to the mother dynamic. My mother was also in several abusive marriages. She never put it on me in that direct of a way but her mental health really suffered because of it and that was always on us. The past 20 years has been about her and her mental health. I’ve been taking care of her emotionally for years and never felt good enough for her in many ways. When I became an adult she resented so many of my choices and finally last year she started to really impact me seeing not only how she was treating me but other family members. I just finally had enough and did a temporary break which later turned into a permanent one because of her actions that showed me that she wasn’t learning from the break how to treat me better. She was just gaining more to use against me later. Now it’s been over a year since I’ve talked to her and some days it is all good and I have no regrets. Other days I feel sad and still feel a grief feeling about it. Today was one of those days and because of that the title caught my eye. So glad I watched this video. Although not 100% my story I saw a lot of parallels in that mother daughter dynamic that are similar to my own. I think I have really been putting a lot of this on me since I made the decision to walk away. But I think she made the choice a long time ago by not knowing and not learning how to be a good parent. I know she has a lot of issues and has experienced a lot in her life, but I feel like she uses that as a crutch to not change her behavior towards others including her children. Anyway, long story short this story made me really feel more positive about my decision today. Thank you Dr. John.

[@gingergriffin6190]

What you said about Dr. D - Amen, Kelly! 🙏🏻💗👍

[@kathleenhillier6765]

Thank you all for the work you do and what you're putting out into the world. 🤘

[@K1tTyKaT1313]

I feel this pain. I use the nexplanon implant for birth control for almost2 years. I gained over 70 pounds and I have never been a big lady 😞. I topped off at 210 when I had never been more than 140 of muscle. Ever. I took out the implant and lost 30 pounds immediately. Had to really work to lose the rest. Now I have my body back and I’m pregnant again. I am much better and pregnant at 6 months I only weigh 160. This is my normal. But when I was heavy I felt so very unattractive and sad. Keep it up girl!!!!!! Your amazing!!!!

[@dinadantuono1485]

As always, incredible content. Awesome stuff that is helping so many of us live more enriched lives ❤

[@JB-fq7wl]

You are amazing!! I wish you had this channel when I was going through my toxic breakup. You seem like such an amazing mentor and supporter while being honest. I love that!

[@jamieswanson8828]

I lost 50 lbs in 6 months when i started following Dr. Berg. Cut out carbs and you will melt away. Im 51 and feel the same way as the caller. At least she is dedicated to making change at a younger age and can reach goals easier than someone my age. I dont keep any carbs in my house because i have no will power. Luckily i have implemented a low carb diet and have kept weight off but still have about 80lbs to go to be where i want to be so i hate my body. I just started weight training and i hope that will work.

[@tiffany-sheriwageman.3702]

I have to use Dr Berg's gallbladder and digestive enzymes and I'm going to buy his sleep and liver formula. I would be in a really bad place if I did not have Dr Berg.

[@audreymarie1191]

Weight training is the best!! Any updates??❤

[@tinahays4464]

Don't agree this time. Kids heard I'm so proud of you! Which is great. This time he's proud of himself and wanted to see what mom thought. Don't make a big deal out of nothing. Be glad for what you do have and don't create problems where there aren't any.

[@timanderson9097]

Agree, never too soon and never too late.

[@britneyog9537]

I'm so excited! We are taking Dr. Delonys advice and are going to the beach for Thanksgiving! Just my hubby and 2 boys. No anxiety here. ♥️ And, a new memory.

[@kimberlysmith7625]

Good for you! And, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about it. Have fun!

[@britneyog9537]

@@kimberlysmith7625 thank you so much!! Our families haven't said anything negative (yet), but it won't deter our plans. 🙂

[@lovepassiongratitude9214]

Yes Kelly 💯 Dr. John Delony has taught me tools I didn’t know I needed. & now that I have them, I am beyond grateful. Every part of my life has improved because of this man. Thank you from my whole ♥️

[@windyradke1124]

With weight. I struggled to. This helped me. Look in the mirror and look at the positive of yourself. You'll see your beautiful. Being negative and look you'll only see the ugly you think is there. Try it out might work for you. Everyone is beautifully one way or another

[@CC12398]

As someone who has not ever struggled with weight but watched my mother struggle, this is incredibly heartbreaking. If my body changed suddenly I feel it would effect every part of my life &I would be obsessive as well.

[@blueseptember2174]

Its natural to be a bit obsessed at first because its a shock but the positive part is it kinda trains you to be more patient and also more accepting becuase you have no choice. Which is also great lesson as we age in life. 😅 i only laugh because ive been there.❤

[@CC12398]

@@blueseptember2174 Good advice. It's a fact the body will fight get back to its highest weight so it's important for parents to feed their kids healthy foods.

[@MugglesUnited19]

Ugh the last story got me I’m over here crying.

[@builtby]

Why is every episode about my life? I am more messed up than I realized. It's exacerbating my anxiety.

[@tinam761]

Well, you’re are discovering things that need your attention. It is better than not dealing with it … pick something and start working on it one at a time. Don’t let yourself believe the lie that everyone else has it together.

[@snoozyq9576]

Don't worry we're all messed up. 😊

[@hansendesigns]

Ashley. Remember that the guilt you feel was programmed into you by your mom. It’s not entirely real, it’s residue from being your mom’s child. You think it’s what you’re feeling as an adult but it’s really just how “normal” your mom’s control feels now because it’s how it’s always been. Best to you.

[@jennifermarie8707]

It's Always Sunny is **hilarious**!

[@jandeshon8264]

Your show has helped me through a breakup.

[@leeannmansfield5254]

I was exactly like this lady...you have the rest of your life to lose weight....im 50 and weight dosnt matter no more....

[@LivesUnderRock868]

Are you doing something wrong if your spouse isn't your best friend?

[@carriebell3566]

Yes, possibly your partner is not the right one. Your spouse is supposed to be one with you, if that’s not the case, there must be a review of your choice. Why do you feel your spouse is not your best friend?

[@ashleysmashley444]

Sleep deprivation will make weight loss impossible

[@sellmav]

Find a good integrative practitioner and have your hormones and thyroid checked. It’s incredible how many women who have trouble conceiving have hormone imbalances after they deliver. It affects every aspect of well being

[@ashleywobschall5803]

Amazing you've got Aaron Watson back there today! His new cover girl album came out today 🤘🏻🤘🏻🤘🏻

[@britneyog9537]

My biggest advice is, do what you can, and once the kids start school, get in a gym. It has changed my life! You will see results.

[@liahkleeh2285]

Champion of the 🌞 Master of 🥋 🎶

[@youareloved8274]

Getting a divorce judge doesn't care about emotions and feelings, only about facts, at least that's what happened with my divorce, its hard and it hurts

[@dianabarontaylor]

How do I get on his e mail or ask a question? It all has a password?

[@judisterlynn7896]

I am Rachael. But no husband. I love my child, but never loved myself. I also have always been big. Sti) am. If I could just lose the weight.

[@GwenMotoGirl]

What if Anonymous “am I the jerk” and her husband host Christmas and invite his parents? If his parents choose to decline, then their loss. She sounds like a loving and supportive wife.

[@erichchan3]

What is her diet and how much exercise is she doing? Honestly I don't believe that the baby weight is not able to be lost. You gotta make dietary changes mostly if you want a better look and she needs to just go on walks with her husband.

[@courtneyriley185]

Exactly, she should be moving more and she said i struggled with infertility....no clearly you didnt....you had two boys. Women who have infertility problems dont have child 😂

[@silvesan9162]

​@@courtneyriley185I respectfully disagree with your comment about a woman not struggling with infertility because, at some point, had a child. At least 7 women I know struggled with infertility for at least 10 years, then got pregnant...4 got pregnant after adopting kids.

[@kellypolfleit3942]

Ladies, please be patient when loosing baby weight. It takes time

[@analozada9475]

No way my child would be singing TS songs! My child would be a metalhead like her/his mama! 😎🤘🔥👊🔥😜😂😅 Folks who struggle with weight issues are either uneducated about the value of macros and some just want to be in denial. Losing weight is not just about exercising and knowing how to eat the right macros. You can’t eat tons of junk food or even excess of “healthy” foods and expect to not gain weight, and then get upset for gaining weight? Again, folks need to focus on their mental health and therapy so they learn how to accept their challenges/shortcomings and overcome them, hence the addiction of emotional eating. Also, some folks think that popping children will fill the hole caused by childhood trauma, and finally feel love or save their marriages. Those are not good reasons to ever have children. In addition, a lot of people glorify pregnancy and motherhood, when in reality they are extremely challenging and not everyone was born to be a parent. People take pregnancy and parenthood way too lightly.

[@TheEquiss]

Gotta disagree. Sex is disgusting and I have no problem with never ever having to deal with that nasty mess ever again in my life. And I am absolutely happy with it. I will be single for the rest of my life because I don’t have to deal with that.

[@courtneyriley185]

😂 you need therapy

[@TheEquiss]

@@courtneyriley185nope. I don’t. I just have no need or interest in it.

[@Mellowmichelle]

Sounds like her husbands family maybe vulnerable narcissist they only care about their own stories

[@courtneyriley185]

😂 wow must be nice to have Taylor Swift concert money

[@TheTlevasseur1019]

John you have to address the situation that's going on in Israel right now

[@karaa7595]

You're joking right? The situation is so complex and been going on for over 3,000 years. 🙄

[@mariee.5912]

He doesn't have to . He's here to help with 6 health issues, not with war. I hope you bots don't start attacking him, or they will block comments, too. Stop it.

[@courtneyriley185]

😂 he doesnt HAVE to talk about a 2000 year old holy war. This isnt anything new. Year after i got out of high school the Gaza War happened 😂 that was 15 years ago.

[@thesecretlifeofwonderwoman]

He does not have to talk about it but any conversation needs to start with facts. What "is happening" is a full out criminal assault on the population of Gaza and the West Bank. John helps us heal, helps us step through anxiety and get to the other side. I love him doing what he does best ❤️

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