Jon Gosselin's Message to Estranged Daughter Mady Amid Ongoing Family Drama (Exclusive)

Jon Gosselin and his girlfriend, Stephanie Lebo, sit down with ET's Rachel Smith in their Pennsylvania home to chat about the relationship he has with his kids. Jon shares a message to his estranged daughter, Mady, after she spoke about her brother Collin’s alleged violent behavior. He also gives an update on where his relationship stands with the rest of his children whom he shares with ex-wife Kate Gosselin. Jon and Kate’s family life played out on the hit reality series ‘Jon & Kate Plus 8.’

[@paulan7218]

The most interesting thing about Maddie’s comments about Collin are the fact that if you actually go back and watch the show, it’s Maddie that is usually abusing Collin and some of the other siblings throughout the entire course of the show

[@veryfungamesawesome]

I’ve been watching old episodes of the show recently. Mady was mean to all of her siblings but I think Collin was treated the worst by her. I don’t get why Collin was the black sheep and still is.

[@peggybentley9395]

She's Kate Jr.

[@junejunejuniejune]

Maddie was mean to her sibblings. abusive? she was a little girl, I definitely hit my brother when I was a child, most kids do shit like that.

[@amieeblack]

@@junejunejuniejune but shes grown now and still acts like that it’s sad! She hasn’t seen her brother in so long to say he was abusive and saying hate speech, when she was always beating up and threatening all her sibling when they were younger she takes no accountability for what she’s done in the past but yet Collin gets crucified for something he did, when he was even younger than her is crazy! To take no notice about what their mother did to their brother just sent him away out of site out of mind and not see something wrong with that?

[@Reader-et8nf]

@@junejunejuniejuneShe went above and beyond the typical sibling spats. What I remember about her is how bratty she was all the time. She made the other kids look like saints.

[@LaRussaLand]

He seems so sincere, and I feel sad for him. Also, I think the fact that Kate never visited Colin in that institution, speaks VOLUMES. How can you not want to go see your child to support them, when you apparently put them there to get them help? It's like she said "fix him for me please" and then took off.

[@januarybaby]

I was sent to a program when I was 15. I was in it until I aged out. No one visited me once.

[@ElizabethBSoCal]

@@januarybabyI am so sorry that happened to you. I had a friend that was in a similar situation. The only visits she had were from my family. I hope that you are doing well despite having gone through that. Wish you the best!

[@SN-bl6xm]

She’s a narcissist

[@demekonrn]

​@@januarybabyYou weren't parented. You were pawned off on other people who probably weren't even qualified smh. That's a damn shame.

[@traceymcdonald7949]

Sadly many parents are convinced that those places are the only way to save your child from ending up in the system. He likely had behavior issues that did need treatment and sadly after the 1st few "treatments" don't work and the school is having issues and parents are stressed out these places swoop in to "help" and promise they will get your kid back on track and "fixed" all while actually only caring about the funding the children bring in. These places are known for mistreating children in the name of money and it is shocking how many parents fall into their traps. The more troubled the child is the more money they get. They also discourage visitation and tell you that visiting messes with your child's "progress" or disrupts the progress they have made or they will tell you after a visit that it caused a meltdown or your child had a terrible reaction and dissuade you from visiting as much. They limit and monitor phones letters etc. I am not saying Kate nor John nor Collin is the "issue" none of us know that because none of us lived their lives. We saw a few minutes of heavily edited footage from hours and hours of tape. It is gross how this is being made public. These kids need therapy not interviews.

[@moniquewrites9046]

Look at Collin so proud of him! Thank you for your service.

[@thelastminmom5251]

Right!? Makes Kate look stupid.

[@juliaelrod2154]

People don't understand when you keep reaching out and get rejected by your own kids, its heart wrenching. You can only do it so many times/years before you have to give up out of self preservation.

[@amykushner5414]

so so true- I watch this and have nothing but contempt for the mom- class act C u next Tuesday

[@Moonshine-ne1kp]

Very true. They're young and brainwashed by Kate, but I have a feeling that one day they will see the truth, and reconnect with Collin and their father. Kate's lies will all crumble eventually; it always works that way. Hopefully Maddie will come around, she seems to have inherited her mother's traits.

[@me-ro1me]

I know my heart breaks for Jon ! But is kids are adults they have to make that choice

[@Casualphilosopher-db9gy]

Yes, but they were kids and teens and as such, they were under the influence of their Mom and probably that’s why they didn’t want to talk to him. Maybe Kate even prohibited communication. Now they are young adults, they’ve just recently became independent, and they are still probably financially dependent on their Mom (I don’t think they have full control of their money yet), and they are still somewhat emotionally dependent and influenced on their Mom. Most young adults are not fully emotionally and psychologically separated from Their parents, it’s hard to do that in that age as they still need a source of support. So I can see why as young adults, for his other kids it would be hard to break free from their mother’s influence at this age (and whatever she made them believe about their dad). I think he should try to reach out to them now. They have social media accounts, and maybe Kate will give him their phone numbers (it’s crazy if she doesn’t give her adult kids phone numbers to their dad…..)

[@Webbcatt4]

8 years into alienation from my 3 beautiful children. My heart is all but gone. But it and my door remain open... Always

[@karenmbbaxter]

The part that I find upsetting in all of this is that when Kate had trouble raising Colin the first person she should have contacted to ask if Colin can live with him is HIS FATHER.......Colin was sent off to some sort of group home/boarding school where he was surrounded by strangers......Kate had NO RIGHT to do that.

[@veryfungamesawesome]

Yes!! He wanted to live with his dad so she should have let him. She sent him away so she wouldn’t get sued by TLC. It’s sick for a mother to do that to her own son.

[@peggybentley9395]

Again it was to keep the show going and she knew that Jon would listen to Colin and he would have her investigated and she wouldn't have a show for all the bad PR

[@katiejohnston988]

Exactly!! Most people would think to do that first. Have a child go live with the other parent if the parents don’t live together and things are not working out in one parents household. But what does this crazy b***h do instead?? Basically makes up a diagnosis for her son and sends him away to a place where she should go herself honestly, not Collin! After what happened to Collin, I lost all respect I ever had for her!

[@Dolly-6782]

What I have read is TLC had a lot to do with what transpired, they had an image they wanted to keep for the show, they paid for the lawyers and I believe they helped with having Colin admitted, I will never understand how a mother can single out & do what she did to her child for money, absolutely disgusting..

[@IwaanuhReel]

​Women like Kate who give birth do it for APPREANCE sake. She does what LOOKS good,not what's best. She ALWAYS PICKED on Colin, I felt she was a complete terror once those cameras were off. A raging bitch. She definitely had her favorite kids, and she bullied poor Jon until he was a BROKEN SHELL of a man/dad/person. He looked exhausted of her.

[@Peach_106]

I have felt since day one Kate had always planned to alienate him from the kids. I know he made his own mistakes but you’ll never convince me those kids haven’t been heavily heavily poisoned against him by their mother.

[@amandageorge2883]

Thank you someone who can clearly see I thought was just me,what else can he do, at this point it's up to the kids,we don't know if Kate has threatened them by saying they won't get there money for being on the show with her if they choose to rekindle a relationship with their father.

[@stressmuffin]

I’m not surprised that Kate is still an angry, bitter, vengeful and jealous woman, who will do whatever it takes to continue to make Jon pay for him being caught by the paparazzi, of him cheating on her with another woman in a car. Jon said that Kate cheated on him too with a crew member from their show “Jon and Kate make 8”. I’m not surprised that Kate commits more sins than Jon did. I’m not surprised that Kate gets away with murder for her sins and evil doings to Jon and kids who want to be with their dad, not her, because she knows how to do CYA (cover your ass!).

[@marwatson7408]

I completely agree Jon has made mistakes but Kate has been far worse in all of this IMO I think it started with their show. Kate has been rude, obnoxious, controlling, and treated Jon, the kids, and others around her like crap. The way she spoke to him during every one of their episodes made me sick 🤢🤮it’s no wonder they got divorced and I’m surprised their marriage lasted as long as it did.

[@Peach_106]

@@marwatson7408 FARRRRRRRR worse.

[@marwatson7408]

@@Peach_106 And to think at one time she was a nurse if she treated her family like I can only imagine how she treated her patients. I would’ve loved to be a fly on the wall to see what her co- workers where saying about her.

[@Dvp1169]

Jon’s not perfect, but I believe that Kate has been instrumental in alienating him from the kids. I’ve seen this happen with a neighbour. My neighbour alienated her kids from their dad. He was not a great guy, he left the family and tried to get shared custody. During the custody battle, the kids would do anything and everything to frustrate their visit with Dad. My neighbour indirectly caused their behaviour, by the things she shared with her kids…that he abandoned them, that he wiped out the bank accounts. He was not a good guy. He was exposed by their mom. The kids are grown now and they continue no contact. He has tried to reach out. He has tried to make amends. He paid for their college tuition. He paid child support. They want nothing to do with him.

[@naturallyamused]

Right Jon isn't perfect, but who is? As long as a parent isn't abusive (and clearly he's not done he rescued the actually abused and abandoned child, and the kindest of the sextuplets Hannah chooses to live with him...) a parent has the right to do their imperfect best for their kids.

[@josephtafur]

​@@naturallyamusedexactly

[@IwaanuhReel]

KATE was THE VERY FIRST KAREN! She treated her husband and kids like CRAP! SHE CLEARLY HAD HER favorite children. I HATE WHEN MOTHERS DO THIS & TURN SIBS AGAINST EACH OTHER. Kate ALWAYS HAD "BITCH " vibes.

[@eleanoraquitaine2966]

What a heartbreaker.

[@thelastminmom5251]

I agree w you on all of it. Except I thought that Jon didn’t pay for anything after he left. Because he couldn’t. Child support for that many kids, and no job was impossible. I thought that was part of their divorce? That she was going to take the kids and their home, and he could walk away w no clue support, and also no visitation. Maybe I’m wrong. That’s just what I remember from back then? I thought he didn’t pay for any schooling and or Child Support. And that’s what gave Kate so much leverage over him. She could say…..you don’t pay, so you don’t get a say. On anything. She even moved out of the state w all their children, for away from the dad. Only because he wasn’t paying child support, she felt she could do whatever she “needed” to do.

[@coollollipop1]

What Mady did was so appalling. She is turning out exactly like her mom. Her mom did a good job to turn her into her. Thank God in spite of all the horrific things his mother did he is okay. If you look at the history of the mom, she did this to her own family her sisters and brothers. She is so delustional and has a narrative of unbelievable lies and justifications for her actions. If anyone has mental illness it is her, that is not actions of a normal , healthy person.

[@marwatson7408]

I couldn’t have written that better myself she has alienated her own family from these kids, and you nailed it with Mady I always thought she was exactly like her mother with her snotty answers whenever she was being interviewed on any talk show.

[@Dr.Pepperlady]

Her daughter, she can raise her how she want

[@ioidt]

@@Dr.Pepperlady you are correct that bad people can raise their kids anyway they want to (within the law)

[@WeezyJeffersonYo]

Mady has always been bratty, even when she was really young, so not surprised.

[@crucialtaunt5717]

@@Dr.Pepperlady True. But it's a shame she chose to raise Mady in her own image. Because Kate is gross.

[@tspwer]

Collin sounds like he’s making great decisions ❤🙏

[@katiejohnston988]

What had happened to this family is just heartbreaking, like they said. I cannot even begin to imagine how frustrating everything must feel for Jon by not being able to have a relationship with most of his children. And what happened to Collin, I don’t even know where to begin. I can tell Jon is still very hurt by what Kate has done to alienate their children from him, it’s just disgusting honestly.

[@chrispleasantable]

Well we know that Kate is one gonna have to give an account for that. When she stands before God, I know he’s gonna say “depart from me, I never knew you”

[@heiroot]

And the gag order she had on him for a decade

[@HH-gv8mx]

Didn’t Kate raise these kids on her own? Wasn’t John the one that went off and cheated on her?

[@wegotit2587]

@@HH-gv8mxSince his gag order has been released, watch the episode where he talks about this with Doctor Oz. He was already separated and divorcing Kate for almost a full year but TLC made them finish up episodes pretending they were still married! She played it up to make herself to be the primary victim cause it helped with ratings to showcase him as the “cheater.”

[@MERRY24601]

Reach out to your children. You don't have to forgive Kate, but just let them know you love them and want to be a part of their lives.

[@roygbiv9038]

I always remember Maddy having the behavioral issues on the show, and Kate always reprimanding her. I feel like she’s become who she is because she wants that attention and approval from her mom that she always wanted as a kid and that’s what caused all her lash outs.

[@eccentricityxoxo5378]

You have a really good point, Maddy was always throwing a fit about something, she actually acted just like her wicked mother !

[@cameronbooker7741]

@@eccentricityxoxo5378 yeah but that’s when she was a kid. We’re talking about a now 22 year old women.

[@controversialmann5345]

@@cameronbooker7741I doubt Maddy wrote it, it was Kate and cuz she brainwashed under Kate she agreed to it.

[@lorileeroyael580]

Mady is worse than Kate in some ways, and a twin of Kate in her manner and such..to come at your brother like that is terrible, at least it wasn't one of the septuplets...the animal abuse claim though is intriguing due to the fact they had a dog that Kate returned at one point and I wondered what really happened..

[@josephtafur]

Yep

[@carolinegrace1999]

Jon seems like such a real and genuine father and person. Heart breaking what has happened to this family. Prayers for healing and reconciliation

[@KelsiMcRae-pm9gu]

He was a scapegoat child. I can relate always getting blamed right away for everything!

[@jeanneprieto5219]

This! Who sends their 10y/o away to a mental health facility twice? Kate said he had “special needs” like he was a disabled child who needed more medical care than she could provide. She actually wanted to get rid of him. How is it that Jon gets custody and he’s fine. No kid is perfect, but if there is any mental illness, she made she she gave it to him.

[@Oh-ci6el]

This type of parental alienation is just heartbreaking. 💔

[@seame3795]

I don’t think he actually wanted the responsibility. He acted like a teenager as soon as he moved out. We all saw that. While the Mom was left with all the responsibility.

[@thetiffshows]

keep speaking out Jon, your true authentic voice will be heard and your children will see this and hopefully come around one day. at this point getting public with all this seems like the only solution for this family to be repaired😢

[@Coast2Coast88]

Nope, those of us who have seen the series..we saw Maddys behavior. She was also affected by her moms parenting and would act out. Sadly, their entire family should have never been recorded to begin with. This entire family like most families in the world, has a lot of issues. I send healing to everyone.

[@lynnhubbard844]

like TOO MANY kids the same age

[@zoomiesboomie]

Disappointing how public this is.

[@lmetzger9434]

They made it public with the show.

[@lstarsabb]

It happening at all his disappointing. I not behind Don't talk about family issues. Toxic people should be called out. But it is heartbreaking that this people made all these kids and the oldest two were cut off from their siblings.

[@I-hate-youtube797]

It’s messed up the only way they can get a message out to their family is through the media. Kate is evil

[@musixmesh]

It has to be public. The other children ignore him and won’t reach out and talk to him.

[@paulan7218]

this family doesn’t know any other way these kids lives have been pubic since day one

[@jsek1221]

There is no such thing as conversation with a narcissistic and manipulative abuser. Unless you’re obvious on their team or showing them that you think and feel exactly as they want you to, there’s absolutely no way you can honestly communicate with such a person. It gets to a point to stop trying because you’ve truly exhausted all efforts with not even one little victory. Continuing to try continues to reintroduce the trauma triggers and it’s absolutely pointless to keep going that way. Sadly, the kids will have to put two and two together and form their own decisions based on whatever information they are exposed to. If they haven’t seen or spoken to or heard from their dad that long, you can only imagine what they are being shown and told to lead to that.

[@sjg5994]

Exactly! I didn't end well with my daughter's father but I purposed in my heart not to isolate her from him. She would see the truth one day. At 25, she definitely has now but the damage isn't as bad. She still talks to him but just has to adjust to his particular ways. Kate obviously poured venom into those kids against him.....which she should have never done.

[@mariapilarme]

Yes if you are not in their team you are the enemy! Stop parental alienation

[@youniqueboutique2134]

The kids have. She had many very young children. She had to have every minute accounted for. She, with everything that there was to do, still did vacations, parties, etc. She didn't need her husband walking around in a state of confusion like another child to take care of. She, and the children, most especially didn't need him abandoning all of them for the babysitter. Wake up.

[@jsek1221]

@@sjg5994 I refused to speak anything bad or negative, even if it was the truth, about my sons father. I encouraged my son and his father to have that father and son relationship, after I thought it was safe to. My son figured things out on his own. Loves his father but he doesn’t agree with how his father handles things and never accepts accountability for things he says and does. It’s hurtful to see the pain he goes through at times and his siblings from his fathers side, but he formed his opinions on his own based on the behaviors and words of his father.

[@mostlywholenicole]

The difference between Jon & Kate is intention. Jon made mistakes, he made some bad choices, and he’s taken accountability for them. He’s imperfect but sincere. Kate is all about control & manipulation.

[@Kevin-s5n]

Jon took off and left that lady with all those kids while he found himself and offered his kids zero financial support.

[@jgirl982]

@@Kevin-s5noh please dude, those kids were content money makers for her snd she used them as such. She’s a true narcissist. The OG Karen. He didn’t have a prayer at any kind of custody of his kids then.

[@stugrant01]

@@Kevin-s5n Actually, manipulative Kate had a spat and kicked John out of the house but told him to pretend they were still together during filming for the sake of show ratings, and then many weeks later, a single John started up with his affair. And then Kate played the abandoned wife when the press caught John with the mistress.

[@Kevin-s5n]

@@stugrant01 Even if all that was true what stopped him from financially supporting his children?

[@Kenzi24]

My mom treated my brother like Collin. Told him he had demons and stuff. Kicked him out at 16. I was younger and my mom convinced me he was the problem and I believed her until I was 22. Then i saw my mom's true colors. It's especially hard for the golden child to figure out their parent was actually horrible. It shakes up your whole reality, so people will deny it their entire life to protect their psyche. I want mady to wake up the way i did, but i know it will be years of pain. But at the end is freedom. Collin seems so emotionally mature and compassionate. That's what happens to the unloved and unwanted like us

[@raphies6122]

That family is falling apart. The siblings are all against each other. This is sad.

[@paulan7218]

This family fell apart 10 years ago. The children are just now all old enough to speak freely.

[@jenniferhansen3622]

The kids are all adults now so if they want to have a relationship with each other they can.

[@jml4774]

They are still suffering from the indoctrination and poisoning that their mother inflicted on them. It will be many years and lots of therapists dollars for them to extricate themselves from the influence of Kates narcissistic personality disorder.@@paulan7218

[@kimberlytaylor3987]

I hope his kids figure it out now that they are adults and reach out to their father.

[@jamilgotcher365]

When it's been that long, they have their own lives and whether they come from a divorced family or not they are busy with their own lives.

[@pammccabe7535]

Mady was a brat from day one. She always seemed to be acting out. The other kids went through the same experiences but none of them acted as bratty as her. Collin is better off not having her in his life, which seems to be on a great trajectory. Blood doesn’t mean you owe anyone anything. Mady just needs to go away, go back to her Mommy who is as mean as she is, they make a great pair.

[@ysb362]

Kate is the OG Karen

[@levelupwitharie]

Yesss with that Haircut!! Karen definition & all came from her…. UNFORTUNATELY

[@IEXOTICBEAUTY]

The term should have been “Kate” not “Karen” would have been more fitting “omg she’s being a kate!” 😂

[@IwaanuhReel]

@@IEXOTICBEAUTY Let's change it, from now on ALL KARENS will now be called a " KATE" . It'll be FETCH! 😁🤣

[@IEXOTICBEAUTY]

@@IwaanuhReel 😂🤣😂

[@IEXOTICBEAUTY]

@@IwaanuhReel girl she is the OG Goat

[@jadeblackwell6227]

Mady is Kate’s twin. Kate definitely passed on that narcissist gene 🙂

[@MongBong]

100000000% couldn’t agree more. You could see it on the show while growing up

[@nmtumbleweed5320]

Jon should take Kate to court for ostracizing, I wonder what they would all say under oath.

[@MusicMovesMe78]

I am so sorry that you have gone through this as a father, Jon. I pray healing for your family one day. 🙏🏼

[@luv2travel2000]

🛐❤

[@donnajacksunn489]

Yes, prayer does work

[@claramerchant9210]

Oh my god. Do some RESEARCH. Sorry for him? He is a scam artist trying to make cash for interviews again. He is about as much as a father figure as Jeffrey Epstein

[@karmabutterfly7985]

Kate did to a father who loves his children is horrible and for what money? I get it you have a big family and the cameras brought in money but at what cost? I agree with Jon not wanting filming to happen during their divorce it should have been a private time.

[@brynn1995]

Kate is unbelievable, he’s lucky he got away, I just feel so bad for the brainwashed children. At least two have seen and know the truth about their mother. I hope for the remaining kids sake that they soon realize what a pathological liar their mother is and she has NEVER had the kids best interest at heart unlike John.

[@eileenmercado3218]

Really sad to not be able to talk to your kids for years. I hope they can reconnect.

[@cherricorcoran9523]

Jon don’t ever stop trying to reach out to your children.

[@justineves3588]

My heart goes out to john and his family it is not fair what kate is doing to him and to not let him talk to the kids is wrong 😊❤

[@pinkosmondfan]

No, Jon, YOU are their Father. YOU need to keep trying to reach out to them, no matter what. You need to show them that love them and will never stop and never go away. It's your responsibility as the parent to keep fighting, even if they are adults now. They've been influenced by others. Your job is to show them that they can always come back to you no matter what.

[@MD-hellodarkness]

Yesss! I said the same thing! My father was a absentee father as well. He left when I was 3 yrs old. He did reach out a couple of times through other people. It was such a lame attempt that I never forgave him. If he had tried harder and gave more effort I definitely would of opened up my heart. But sadly this never happened and he has since passed away

[@ratherboutside2]

That’s right. Never give up. Never. I feel for him because Kate clearly alienated him and used the kids as pawns. Adult children still want their parents to seek them.

[@WickedlyMe328]

Hard to be there when they have been BRAINWASHED!

[@Misunao23]

He’s tried so many damn times. He’s sent them texts, messages, etc but they all ignore him. Kate has done incredible damage to make sure John is the villain in the story. He keeps trying and trying. And he’ll keep trying. Until those kids see what’s happened to Collin and actually hear out Hannah maybe, nothing can change. Kate has a death grip on them.

[@ty804]

Naw once your grown and still not responding, it’s time for the KID TO DECIDE WHEN THEIR READY!! He can’t do anything until they are ready to talk. ITS BEEN YEARS OF REACHING OUT WITH NO RESPONSE! It’s not healthy for him to keep reaching out

[@MD-hellodarkness]

Never stop trying to reach out to your children. Even if they don't respond because maybe just maybe they may one day want to reconnect. With the internet he can find out where they live and should be sending a birthday card every year to each of them. The children are adults now but HE is still their father.. HE needs to be the one trying

[@GmonkeyJ777]

They've made it clear they want nothing to do with him, how much heartbreak is he supposed to take?

[@MD-hellodarkness]

@@GmonkeyJ777 I'm not suggesting to reach out each week or even each month. I know it's heartbreaking for him. But if he could send birthday cards out each year then maybe one day they will come around. It might just be one or all but maybe. At least they will know they're not forgotten.

[@Somegirl811]

I know the feeling of having your adult child ignore you and shut you out. It is more painful than anything I've experienced, and I don't deserve it. At some point all you can do is have faith that they'll come around in their own time.

[@ritaguerrero5872]

God bless you Collin with your military service and thank you for not giving up 🥰

[@argyllmac333]

If Collin had serious mental health issues alleged by his mother, the Marine Corps would not have accepted him. Period. They have the toughest, strictest enlistment requirements of any branch.

[@estelaashunto3844]

God bless Collin and give him the strength to keep going with his life. I can be his mom and I know many of you would like to. I am very proud of him.

[@coll4455]

I’m glad Jon is speaking out it’s about time he gets the chance to defend himself. Kate showed her true colors when she attacked her own child after this many years. I so proud of Collin good job kid thank you for serving our country

[@PokemanOkie]

Jon seems like a fair and reasonable person. I feel bad for the kids stuck with Kate.

[@LOVER_LINK]

They shouldn’t have signed that reality tv series from the get go

[@samgallagher5928]

Go to therapy stop going on air to talk to the press about your family

[@LaraCroftEyes1]

You ought to tell that to Kate.

[@samgallagher5928]

@@LaraCroftEyes1 🤦🏻‍♀️ that’s exactly the point. Who cares who said what. Just be a bigger person and stop playing these games with eachother. Just make a statement that you are an adult and have better things to do then blame eachother for the past and just worry about being a good parent now.

[@eccentricityxoxo5378]

Kate is a control freak the way she treated Jon from day one was mind blowing that guy took so much abuse ,and believe me that spills over on to the children!

[@cynthiabeck1378]

A parent is always the parent. You reach out to your children and let them know your heart is open to them. That doesn’t mean you harass them but you make frequent overtures. Stop talking about their mother and simply let them know you love them and are available.

[@kimberlyobrien212]

The mother is the mouthpiece.

[@angelaphipps6463]

I'm Completely on John 's side. He's RIGHT & REAL

[@kaya7086]

The kids are adults now and can choose to see him. I think the first step is just saying i love you all and i want to see you. Kate did alienate him as a parent. She wanted to continue to film and he said no. He said thats enough and he doesnt want his children exposed anymore. Thats what started the alienation and i think thats sad. Its nice to see jon have a voice and backbone. He didnt have that during the show. I hope his kids can get together one day and then heal with him.

[@jm9009]

If these parents ever want a legit, close relationship with their kids in the future… they need to stop using this whole situation to make money. They need to deal with their family issues privately. Going public about family private issues without communication in private first is a recipe for continuous distrust. This is not the way to deal with family problems… the media is the last place you need to be running to in order to reunite.

[@tharunsankar4926]

Remember, Kate’s the one that gave Jon the platform and the spotlight. Jon’s going to have to suffer through this and the only way he can monetize himself and his family is through giving interviews. If Kate and her remaining kids stop bashing the father and collin, then theres no demand that Jon should come to take interviews. It goes both ways.

[@annat6249]

I am a parents myself. I don’t know if this is true or not. Let assume yes, So if he tried to get in touch with his kids and the kids refuse and he is a bad dad? It is possible Kate manipulated her kids so they think their dad is a bad one.

[@YA-jf6nh]

He could’ve been consistent to show them, that it wasn’t true if that’s what she did. Him giving up looks like she had reason for thinking he was no good.

[@LaraCroftEyes1]

Jon never gave up.

[@controversialmann5345]

@@YA-jf6nhHe not giving up he legit tried millions of times still is but they are brainwashed and Kate is too powerful

[@kristenford1859]

@@YA-jf6nhhe never gave him. He has been trying and continues to every single holiday, every year all the time and they do not respond to anything.

[@kristenford1859]

Manipulation and brainwashing are such a real thing in this situation. She could also be painting a picture that he did all these horrible things and they believed her. There are so many variables we may never know 😔

[@lauralee9694]

Good job Jon, I am sure that life with Kate was not easy. I guess all you can do is just be there when the other kids see the light, and they will, eventually. It may take them to have their own kids before it happens.

[@Nnnnnnnnnnnnnnsh]

Im happy Jon was able to find happiness i wish the best for them you have to move forward not back wards

[@diamondsndregs]

I didn't follow this show, but my heart goes out to Collin. My husband and I had five kids, and I raised them as a SAHM, even homeschooling for ten years. Collin reminds me of my eldest, who was more headstrong and unruly than his siblings. My son is extremely bright but is extra sensitive to stimuli, and he needed both a firm hand and a chance to find his own way, both of which I gave him. He is a stable, caring, and responsible adult now. While I can't know if Collin said or did anything unforgiveable as an adult, it seems he was scapegoated at a young age, and I hope it's possible for him to at least mend ties with his siblings. And Hannah rocks. I wish her all the best.

[@lorig7077]

Maddie turned out just like her sweet, kind and lovely mother! Lmao. It's disgusting how Colin was treated. He is so mature and articulate. I know one of the places Colin was put. I could easily write about 50 things about how incompetent and abusive place it is. How do you throw your kid into a dungeon and leave them for years without contact is beyond my comprehension.

[@marcmaza2821]

When they gonna release a documentary?! Kate should be in jail

[@Scoutbq1l]

I like Jon way more than Kate but there's no excuse for not seeing your kid for ten years. You're the dad. It's your responsibility to fight hard for your kids. People criticize the other kids and Kate -- that's easy. But a hard real truth no one wants to acknowledge is he gave up on most of his kids.

[@LaraCroftEyes1]

Ever heard of parental alienation who Kate has done since 2009

[@mysticalstylings2456]

​@@LaraCroftEyes1this right here

[@heidevoglis9178]

Maybe cuz Kate brutally/verbally alienates him.. THEY need Jesus!

[@I-hate-youtube797]

Jon is banned from seeing them how tf can he see kids he doesn’t have custody of and or won’t contact him He can’t force them They’re Kates little minions now and he can’t change that

[@carlottaforJesus]

No, think again.

[@jaxxmariecambridge5212]

Let's just be honest here.... Mady has ALWAYS been an a**hole! Is anyone really that shocked that she turned out to be a Karen like her mom? My advice to Colin is to run.... leave those narcissistic abusers behind and just be thankful you're safe now!

[@ReganRose3]

With an abusive parent the children are divided most go along with the abuser out of fear. In adulthood the childhood abuse manifests in different ways

[@voltairehortizuela4112]

Gotta Back Jon Up. All his kids are adults at this point and hes not hiding.

[@madtingz2288]

Not to be on Maddy/ Kates side I’m not a fan of either of them, however you really don’t know what Maddy is referring to in those messages, yes Collin was 12 but he very well could have abused his siblings in a physical/ mental/ god forbid but sexual way. You just don’t know, he had issues and his mum should’ve dealt with them better yes, however Maddy was a kid too and I think she has a right not to have a relationship with her brother if he traumatised her.

[@schewitt1977]

As I understand John had not seen Colin during that time period so how is he to know if Mady is lying. Im not taking sides because she very well could be but I honestly don't think John should take sides if he wasn't involved for whatever reason.

[@madtingz2288]

@@schewitt1977 yeah exactly!!

[@LaraCroftEyes1]

Maddy is lying once again Maddy hasn't seen Collin since he was 12 years old the moment Kate abandons him a mental facility for over two years and not allowing his siblings to see him or talked about him and not once did Kate ever visit Collin

[@madtingz2288]

@@LaraCroftEyes1 did you read what I said…?

[@schewitt1977]

@@madtingz2288 and me .

[@blancacasillas8226]

💯 agree with John

[@tothebooks9993]

She definitely sided with the network. Everyone should read the book about her by Robert Hoffman. Her behavior is disgusting still to this day!

[@veryfungamesawesome]

I’ve been reading it and I’m shocked. But I’m sure it’s true. Kate is a typical narcissist and if you don’t accept her agenda she doesn’t need you in her life and doesn’t want you in her kids lives either. Why do you think her whole family doesn’t talk to her? Because they were concerned about what filming was doing to the kids and she didn’t want to stop because then she would have to go out and get a “real” job and Kate didn’t want to work. Knowing that filming wasn’t in the best interest of the kids and her continuing to do it is not being a good mom at all. The kids are grown now and are going to college so there’s no reason why she can’t get a real job off tv.

[@lynnhubbard844]

how will she make money with her kids as adults?

[@traceyharrison973]

Hi could u tell me what the book is called please

[@tothebooks9993]

The book is Kate Gosselin: How she fooled the world by Robert Hoffman.

[@traceyharrison973]

@tothebooks9993 thank you ile definitely be buying this

[@nicholewhite4067]

Aww i remember when they were babies poor kids they payed a price the whole family its sad they should have never been put through this reality tv ruined them if kate loved her kids more than money maybe this wouldn't be happening and jon i don't know about him all i can hope is eventually they will reunite

[@jackk4299]

maddie was the biggesr brat ever

[@nmtumbleweed5320]

I blame the parent who allows their children to be ostracized from one another for their own selfish self centeredness. Kate is allowing this. What Kate does not understand is these kids will realize her part in it will come back to bite her in the butt.

[@sophiemetz6997]

I agree with Jon in this.

[@lindsey5365]

My older sisters is like Kate make sure that my oldest niece cut off her dad not saying he was a good dad either, but she puts the blame on others not herself my older sister has severe mental illness and she’s doing the same now with my other niece and her dad since they are separating and my dad is basically being a mentor to my brother-in-law, and telling him that he needs to spend as much time with my niece as possible Kate has so many issues it’s not even funny.

[@jwhite5396]

It’s heartbreaking Kate scapegoated one of her children and the rest of the children followed her lead. But why wouldn’t they? They don’t want to be her next target. Salvador Minuchin and Murray Bowen Family Systems Theories should be mandatory reading for every high school student.

[@carriebizz]

Its so sad that Jon hasn't seen 6 of his kids in years, kate is a monster

[@betsyross3963]

Please do this privately and not on social media. It is best for all.

[@Blazedbarbie333]

I can not believe how much she alienated these kids from there dad it’s sad

[@judyheller]

I have researched this issue and here is what I think happened. Collin might be an independent person or a strong willed person. Maddy and Kate are also strong willed people. Their personalities clashed with Collin. Kate should have allowed Collin to live with Jon instead of hospitalizing him. Jon seems to be calmer than Kate and handled Collin better than her. The military would not accept Collin if he truly had many psychological disorders as Kate claims.

[@patsyfoster1372]

Thank GOD he found his father to rescue him. She's a witch how can a mother turn against her own kid and the poor kid still has hope for his mom to come into his life. Such a good looking marine! Thank you jon for being there for him.

[@BeingMona]

I’m not surprised that Maddie turned out just like her mom.

[@AndySaenz924]

All 8 of his children are adults now. I think it’s really messed up that 6 of them haven’t made an effort to communicate with him and reunite with their own father. Kate is a toxic woman and she’s evil for having turned them against him.

[@deletedwaffles]

Are we sure Collin was the one with issues and not Maddy? The guy is in the Marines that's like the epitome of someone who has discipline.

[@dianamarsden4985]

Jon keeps talking about Mady and Cara they told him they want nothing to do with him for talking with the press about them. Jon was no angel either.

[@LaraCroftEyes1]

Kate poisoned Maddy and Cara against Jon in 2009, Yeah Jon isn't a saint but he isn't bad as Kate and Media want the public to think, and hopefully, one of these days Maddy and Cara see damage their mother did them and the same goes for the four remaining sextuplets.

[@jennybeanSMC]

I agree. Kate def has a lot of issues but why does Jon keep talking about them to the media? If he really cared about trying to rebuild his relationship with his kids he would attempt to contact them privately.

[@veryfungamesawesome]

@@jennybeanSMC He’s tried reaching out to them for years and never gets a response.

[@SammySam316]

They never talked to him before the media. Remember Jon couldn't give interviews for years as part of the contractual agreements. They never spoke to him during those years. The media thing is just an excuse in my opinion.

[@ChristinaBonvillian-sd5dg]

You got it backwards

[@merlandanilus9925]

There's always two side of the story.

[@LaraCroftEyes1]

We have Kate's side for years.

[@jennifermassie7227]

Actually there's 3 sides to every story. Her side, His side and the Truth!! Realistically nobody will ever know the actual truth!! Such a heartbreaking story all around!!❤🇨🇦❤🇨🇦❤

[@carolmccullough-kuchar4782]

Never give up. It's ok, she knows you love her. She went through a great deal of stress growing up and obviously her mother has extreme issues. Heartbreaking situation.

[@DianeNelson-rz9sk]

Shame on Maddy and the rest of them , grow the healing up!

[@summerlavey6091]

I feel sooo bad for this dad... a man who wants to have a relationship but is denied honestly is heartbreaking

[@amenenema474]

This saint of a dad CONTINUES to go on national TV to exploit his children. Ya'll are nuts for not seeing that he isn't much better than Kate. Seriously take a step back and think about it. Why is this man on TV constantly airing this shit out? He is responsible for exploiting his kids for YEARS, right alongside Kate. And then when his kids end up messed up because of the abuse....he goes on TV to slam them and share the family drama and division. It is truly sick.

[@summerlavey6091]

@@amenenema474 you know what, thank you for helping me take a step back because your option is valid and I do agree with everything you said dude... truly

[@stefaniesanon9137]

He needs to leave those young adults alone. They don't want 💩 to do with him.

[@LaraCroftEyes1]

No.

[@catherinewilson9894]

Well said. ❤️

[@MrEmreWawa]

their mother ruined that family

[@islandgirlinthedesert]

Maybe they don’t want to talk to Jon because he talks to the media.

[@paulan7218]

Or maybe it was because they’re narcissist, mother alienated there affections away from their father on purpose to hurt him

[@SammySam316]

He had a gag order and couldn't speak out for years but they still didn't talk to him.

[@ChristinaBonvillian-sd5dg]

You got it backwards

[@schewitt1977]

One of them I forgot who said that he needs to stop talking about us, if he wants a relationship.That was a few years ago if

[@xGroteskx]

Ive always wondered about the husband during their fallout divorce n stuff. He just stopped trying to put on a face and pretemd everything is great... He looked tired and defeated. Whereas the mom was energetic and happy to move on continuing the show like nothing happened but also quick to talk negatively about him. He never did speak out about her from what i remember. Its been years tho and havent kept with the show just something i noticed on tv as a teenager. Now i know whats actually been happening and i believe the son and father over the mom and any of her alienated children she raised.

[@M0n1cki]

Having kids is hard. Having multiples is harder... add in a tv show --- it was bound to implode and then explode. Unfortunate for the kids to be at odds with each other. I am an only child and prayed for siblings... my parents tried but my mom miscarried twice after me -- it was not meant to be. These 8 would be so blessed if they learned to love one another through adversity and choose to forgive each other to move on and upward toward togetherness. They are old enough to be held accountable for what they say or do. It's sad that their parents issues trickled down to them. SMH. Shame on Kate and Jon to be so messy that they couldn't even keep it civil and coparent properly. SMH.

[@karinaz8756]

Kate is a narcissist. It’s evident. That’s the reason this family imploded.

[@jgjg3848]

That Mady was always a little brat with a huge attitude problem. I see nothing has changed with her.

[@Monica0628]

The only thing is he never takes responsibility for what he has done either. It always Kate.

[@LaraCroftEyes1]

That is a lie.

[@nb-user25]

Kate should be encouraging her children, when they were minors, to keep a relationship with their father. I have a feeling she didn’t care if they did or not, which is soooooo messed up. I do wonder why Jon didn’t request visitation which would have forced the children when they were minors to spend time with him. Did he not try that avenue?

[@craycray127]

Kate was vicious on camera, it doesn't surprise me she turned out this way.

[@xochitlsanchez3704]

How mean can his women be to do this to her children 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@kristenford1859]

She’s a professional narcissist and manipulator.

[@Kelly-d9l4t]

Turning your kids against each other and your kids against their father is disgusting

[@ritaguerrero5872]

Wow I feel for Collin and I am glad the success of Collin in the military 🙏♥️🙏hope some day the family will get together from the parents & kids 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@beccalove8791]

John must be pretty desperate for money to ask ET for an interview

[@LaraCroftEyes1]

He isn't desperate.

[@melindapoole510]

I am in the same situation with my daughter I feel for him

[@mrssmurf55]

She poisoned the children against their dad and siblings so sad!😢

[@ParadeThroughLife]

Why is any of this public? Keep this stuff in private where it belongs. I couldn’t even make it two minutes into the video bc this isn’t any of my business. And to bring the stuff out into the public is just not a good look for any of them.

[@whitneyc]

Parents with a damaged relationship cause division amongst their children and their siblings. I know this all too well!

[@MT-tx7bu]

Jon, you reach out all the time. That's what a father does.

[@dane6730]

Why is Jon making all this public. Keep it private Jon

[@justicefonfara17]

Keep your thoughts private

[@paulan7218]

Because his children have been brainwashed against him, and the only way he can possibly try to reach out to his children is through the media because they won’t take his phone calls because of Kate bull crap

[@ChristinaBonvillian-sd5dg]

The world needs to know who she really is