Monk Mode: The Hermit Stage Of Self Actualisation - Inner Work Library [177/500]

[@jordanthornton]

*1-1 Mentorship Information: Price & Structure (Maximum Capacity = 20 Clients Per Year)* It's an absolute pleasure to film these KZbin videos, and I feel fortunate to receive an abundance of meaningful messages every week, but I am unfortunately faced with the disappointing reality of turning away the vast majority of people who want to work together. I have significantly limited availability and can only support twenty people per year because I do not offer one-off calls or drop-in consulting sessions. Twenty individuals might not sound like maximum capacity, but the last few years of teaching have taught me the importance of maintaining tight energetic boundaries if I want to keep uploading these free videos in addition to serving my current clients to the best of my ability in 2024. To minimise confusion and enhance transparency, I've spent several hours writing this ridiculously long comment to help you decide if my Inner Work Mentorship is the right choice for your development & what you could reasonably expect from working closely together. Please take the time to read this service description before contacting me on Instagram… or feel free to stop reading right now if you’re not interested in my fees, session structure, client expectations, etc. ... *READ BEFORE SCROLLING FURTHER:* I'm interested in long-term change and structural transformation, which is why I've never offered one-off sessions. Complex issues cannot be resolved in a few hours, but we likewise need to define an upper limit for containment and collaboration. I've learned that deep and enduring self-integration requires at least four months of immersive effort. Why four months? It's enough weekly contact for us to work through multiple complex issues and developmental possibilities, but short enough to mitigate against unconscious co-dependency and motivational stagnation. I'm currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month - message me after reading the following section to check my availability. ... *HOW I WORK & WHO I WORK WITH* Unlike other coaches and teachers who take an understandably more relaxed approach to healing and integration, my mentorships are characteristically intense. This is a highly-demanding, high-investment process which requires our consistent combined effort over a period of four months. If we were to start working together, I would reasonably expect you to be excited to show up for a minimum of 10+ hours of self-motivated transformative practice per week (daily reading, fitness routine, creative exercises, spiritual reflection, etc.) while also maintaining full-sobriety (no drink, no drugs, no cigarettes, no vapes). These strict standards of discipline and sobriety are plainly unsuitable for most people in most situations - even genuinely motivated individuals who resonate with my KZbin videos may not be the right match for four months of structured mentorship. If you want to get deeper, I've noticed that there's a certain type of ‘temperament' & 'timing’ to get the most out of me. I'm interested in alert, creative and purpose-driven individuals who aspire to exceptional standards of self-maturation and would enjoy the feeling of going through week-on-week of progressively stacked transformative experiences for a third of a year: my ideal client is somebody who is willing to bring forward their internal complexity with a sense of courage and transparency with the intention of nothing less than full-spectrum transformation & rapid acceleration on their personal path. I am yet to discover another supportive figure who offers something comparable to this mentorship: a four-month, structured yet flexible 1-1 container which is simultaneously therapeutic, academic and action-oriented; with primary focus placed on tangible improvements in your felt sense of self-knowledge and self-integration; in addition to making consistent and meaningful progress towards your unique goals and mentorship aspirations. I prioritise contact, compassion and accountability, which means that your work never really 'ends' at the end of your session. You can reasonably expect to be fed dozens of customised reading suggestions and follow-on perspectives outside of the formal sessions via friendly and informal messenger contact, where I am active and available four days per week to cultivate an intimate personal connection while likewise enhancing your positive momentum via accountability check-ins and additional support as required. By way of conclusion for what feels like an extraordinarily long comment and service description, I feel compelled to once more emphasise that working directly with me is unrealistic for most people in most situations. I often support people who are accustomed to wrestling with the emotional challenges associated with working through complex wounds in previous therapeutic relationships before we begin our coaching work together. Even individuals without 'hard trauma' can expect moments of pressurised darkness and heaviness during periods of shadow contact as you begin to restructure your personal unconscious. We will be exploring your psyche and soma at scale and depth, and it will be your responsibility to keep me informed about the emotional texture of your internal reality, especially if you encounter negatively charged experiences, and I will of course do everything in my power to support you through the hard times as we integrate the darkness and move forwards together. KZbin is a wonderful place for me to share free research resources and offer accessible inner work invitations; my private mentorships, however, are the place for collaborative partnership and emotional security as we identify, navigate and restructure oftentimes confronting and challenging conscious and unconscious physical, emotional and mental material. Ultimately, this is a highly-demanding but highly-rewarding process which requires the best of our shared intentions. ... *SESSION STRUCTURE & FEES:* The total fee for an Inner Work Mentorship (including 12 x 2 hr sessions) is £7,400 GBP or approximately $9,400 USD. This is my only coaching programme, and my mentorship pricing is liable to adjustment over time. Each private session lasts two hours, and is facilitated via Telegram video call at an ideal time for both of us. Your mentorship extends over a linear four-month period, with a total of twenty-four hours of structured session time, in addition to four days per week of unlimited messenger availability for accountability updates, voice note exchanges and informal calls upon occasion. I do not work on Mondays, Tuesdays or Wednesdays, but I am fully-available across all timezones for regular calls and messenger contact on Thursday - Sunday. If you’ve scrolled this far, and resonate with what I’m offering, I invite you to message me on Instagram. It would be my pleasure to start exploring your goals and intentions in real-time. IMPORTANT: I am an intentionally independent coach, and not a licensed therapist or associated with any professional bodies or coaching institutions, and therefore enjoy the freedom to collaborate with my clients across all areas of life in an intimate, direct and highly involved coaching style. I work with no more than twenty people per year, and am currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month. I also manage my own inbox and do not use automated systems or employ people to pretend to be me on Instagram, which means that it usually takes four to six weeks for me to respond to new messages and begin the interview process. Although my approach takes time, I hope you ultimately appreciate my personal emphasis on authentic and confidential communication from the very beginning of our relationship. I once again encourage you to message me immediately if you want to start working together within the next two months - bump yourself to the top of my inbox, and I’ll send you some voice notes to get our conversation started.

[@ThaRSGeek]

The one who gets it - who really sees how everything we chase is temporary, like footprints in sand... that's true power. Not the hustlers or flex culture. The real ones know they're connected to something way deeper than all this temporary stuff we get caught up in. These are the people you should watch out for. They move different.

[@jordanthornton]

Great reflections. I feel you.

[@michellesecrett1]

3 years for me. No external validation, no dating, I don’t buy anything anymore, no nails, barely get a hair cut. Healed my inner child, got real good at feeling my ish, and it’s a beutiful place here. I’m who I get to be, not who I was told to be ❤

[@Autodidactz]

I did this for 3 years! Started a year before Covid when I walked away from my fiance, a wealthy music industry personality (can't name drop)after a revealing trip to South America. I was torn to shreds and couldn't dig a deep enough hole to hide in. But I could not put him on a pedestal or make excuses for him. Our values were worlds apart. So I went deep and alone into my inner world. I published a final book, started reading and collecting proper literature, no unhealthy habits, yoga, meditation, single, quiet (which is rare for me) belly dance, etc. I actually felt beautiful inside and out. Then last year I broke again. And like many, it's why I'm here. I have always been a carpet with my own unique colours and design. God that was beautiful, but I was in foster care, and regardless of being lucky through the years,, I always end up here...totally skint and in some sort of pain yes, it's trauma...but there is no stable line on that graph...only peaks and valleys for us all.

[@M-i-k-a-e-l]

❤️‍🔥

[@jordanthornton]

It sounds like it’s been a clarifying journey so far, and I’m wishing you well in your steady next steps 🌲

[@charmedprince]

Childhood trauma and neglect has led me to this path. I grieve for all lost opportunities. But I shall not dwell on those things anymore. I have come to terms that normalcy has never been the reason why I entered this dimension. Now at 34, it's too painful to erase the past three decades of my existence like it never happened. But it's a must in this path. It's nice to have this video to affirm my current position in having the next five years of my life devoted to introspection, healing, repositioning, reconditioning, and such. Yes, beauty has now become my major theme in life. I'm already working as a designer, but beauty in all aspects is the top core value upon which I'll ascribe the rest of my existence to-physical beauty, acts of service, transforming landscapes, creation...

[@jordanthornton]

May the next five years flow in your favour, brother. Thanks for giving this topic your time today.

[@ThePathOfEudaimonia]

❤

[@gracesanity6314]

I learned....stay away from books. I was overwhelmed. Leave yourself alone. Surrender to trust and rest. Intergrating the new you. Utube is a friend...your videos will find you when your confused. Sleep hygiene. Ireland

[@M-i-k-a-e-l]

I feel youtube much more exhausting. Books are so still, so serene, so silent.

[@jordanthornton]

Sleep is good, but golden books are supreme. Wishing you well in your right balance between inflow and outflow.

[@Aetherfield]

I get it… Books and videos mean we are on a quest to fix ourselves. Sometimes the only knowledge we need is to know self and what is true for us without societal reflectors & comparison to exalted societal indoctrination systems.

[@lucychild]

I've been here for 4 years, esp during covid bc I didn't get 'you know what' and was ousted from society. It's pleasurable to be in hermit mode bc I do find others draining and distracting, but people start worrying about you and you start feeling like it's unnatural and social activity feels forced. And it's true, it's not long enough, I could do more of it. The agony is then visiting family and old friends and the resonance is no longer there. The 'mask' is hard to put on after a while.

[@jordanthornton]

I know what you mean - likewise didn't get the you know what... strange times.

[@M-i-k-a-e-l]

Living rural life? How you make income?

[@PriyaPrasad-u5h]

I must leave another comment to Thank You Jordan for your profound wisdom and to be a man that is dedicated wholeheartedly to uplift others. You have been walking alongside me, in my path of healing, so that I can then be of service to my community. The clarity, confirmation and guidance you have provided me, is so dear to my heart, and my prayers are with you and your loved ones.

[@jordanthornton]

I love to hear your words. I can tell it’s been a transformative year for you - keep going 🌲

[@goldrush255]

Posting from Poland, so excuse my language ;) Wow, I just had to stumble upon your video to make me realise I'm in the middle of my "monk mode" at 33 y.o. Work->Home mode, no friends, not interested in going out/outside world and news - just detached, can't really relate to anyone - but at the same time it's peaceful and finally I'm more "me" than ever (even though my ego is pushing me towards searching for a girlfriend and a wife to create happy family - but my unconscious definitely wants something else - now I know). Thank you so much for your videos Jordan!

[@skylibrary5829]

Poland strong

[@jordanthornton]

Stay steady in your new week, brother - sounds like you've got a plan here.

[@counterintuitivepanda4555]

Hey mate. This isn't really related to this video but I watched your healthy anger videos and they were honestly GOLD. It took a long time to set in but I really needed to understand the value of anger, boundaries and self-respect. Without these healthy boundaries, insults would go straight to my core causing my self-confidence to collapse (and sometimes my reason to live as well). I now realise how dangerous and stupid this narrative to suppress anger was.

[@jordanthornton]

Thanks for not only watching more of my videos, but letting them digest and integrate to then write a reflective comment like this. Keep going steady on your boundaried path.

[@blueseaswimmer1]

been in hermit mode on the inside for a long time probably at least 10 years - but i finally allowed myself to bring some intention to it in the last 2 years ; it has always been painful until recently - i have never felt more peace as i do now being alone - i love it but i imagine this will morph into something else because maybe the thing i have been looking for all along was this peace within -and eventually i will be able to be less in need of so much hermit time

[@jordanthornton]

May you find your path of purpose in the right timing, be well.

[@Jacqueoldfield]

Thank you Jordan, your video’s are something I look so forward to every week. Something to be grateful for always , thank you 🌲💜🌻

[@jordanthornton]

Sunday is always a good day, thanks for being here so consistently this year 🌲

[@cassetterelics]

hi Jordan, I've been watching following you for a year now and your videos are extremely helpful for me. Thank you

[@jordanthornton]

Thanks for being in this wonderful year, we’re almost at the end and I hope your next steps into 2025 feel steady and aligned.

[@luxsomnusaeterna7438]

Today, I spent time like every Sunday under a tree in a field. A lone tree (a sacred place - Joseph Campbell ) and then I had a symbolic epiphany. The tree and I are the same, lonely. The root is the cause of my pain throughout my childhood and so on. That's why I get angry if people are not empathetic or disrespectful to that tree (leaving trash). That's why I keep going there to accompany it, so it's not alone. It's a perfect reflection of me. At the same time, a flock of sparrows landed on the field next to me. one big step on my self-healing path. The wounds I have, I can see and notice them finally to nurture and close them. who ever had thought reading helps. XD (reading the Origins of you by Vienna Pharoan and Living your inlived life by Robert A. Johnson)

[@Aetherfield]

My earliest friend was a large Oak when I was a child. I feel that she was my only witness to the root of my pain, and she too endured and witnessed the neglect and abuse of myself & our dogs.

[@nadnad411]

I went through the hermit phase for a year after my experience with the earthquake and the spiritual awakening just to know who I am. I am out of it but still feel I need more time to get to know myself again. Thanks for the video

[@jordanthornton]

Hermit well! 🌲

[@jasonmuise7496]

I been in my garage for about 15 yrs now. I enjoy myself. The noise and distractions of others are a pain. Guess i should peek my head out once in a while. 😂

[@jordanthornton]

It's a worthwhile world to explore.

[@LavenderHazelwood]

I feel like I've been in hermit mode for 4 years and I don't see it ending soon. I'm planning a solo pilgrimage next year to help get clearer and find better alignment. And, holy crap, your channel is growing fast. I blinked and you have 80k subs.

[@jordanthornton]

Time really does fly… especially when in Hermit Mode 😉

[@M-i-k-a-e-l]

Where you plan to make your pilgrimage? Are you into christian mystic/esoteric writers?

[@LavenderHazelwood]

@@M-i-k-a-e-l Spain, but I am not Christian. I have other reasons for choosing to go there.

[@gailaltschwager7377]

Thank you, Jordan! ❤

[@jordanthornton]

You're so welcome 🌲

[@Robdutton91]

I feel like I’m on the cusp of hermit mode. I don’t feel like I want to isolate myself away from things or particularly want to be on my own, but I know I’m working on myself and I’ve been on that path now for about 2 years. I’ve tried to find people who are on similar introspective journeys, but I’ve just come out of a romantic relationship that set me back a lot-no hard feelings but there are some lessons there for me. For the first time in my life I’ve been thinking recently that maybe I do need to be on my own to figure out who I am and what I need to heal. Thank you for these videos, they are invaluable.

[@jordanthornton]

I’m sorry to hear of your recent setbacks, and I hope you find strength in your next steps

[@TheBackPackingPsychonaut]

Thank you again Jordan. Interesting how the stages of self improvement to deeper psychological cleansing seems to follow a time line. I'm in hermit mode right now, but managing to stay grounded and even got into my first proper relationship which is extremely healing and rewarding. Can sometimes feel this need to shy away from it all, the relationships, life etc, but I feel like slowly taking on more responsibility and engagement with the outer world gives the ideas and insights from the study a way to emerge from knowledge to wisdom. But I am taking things at my own pace externally and have faith that the internal work will free up more will for the engagement in the external. Thanks for your work mate, your videos have been a steady anchor on a quite chaotic journey :)

[@jordanthornton]

Wishing you all the best in love, and the balance of love in all other things - been a huge year for you, I know 🌲

[@jasonmuise7496]

51 now My first dive was at 13 I read a University book Modern Sociology and Man. Title may be backwards. I can remember the chapter on mob mentality like i just read it. Was hooked. Remember Bruce Wayne, in the pit ? Bane. I'm still, not out of that well. 😂 Thank you. Many blessings 🙏

[@jordanthornton]

Born in the darkness.

[@dianevierra781]

I guess there is a difference between development and healing. For a while, I considered them to be the same or at least similar.

[@jordanthornton]

Yes, that's truth.

[@Roswell33]

It's how ever many you need. For me its been 8 on and off. Hardly any working at all. I didn't fully release to it until I quit drinking and then had no real motivation for social interaction anymore. Then I finally really got unstuck. But my history was horrendous so I think that's why it was so long

[@jordanthornton]

🌲✌🏻

[@urniurl]

At what point in self-actualization do you leave archetypal psychology behind? My feeling is that at some point the mind-self ceases to be distracting, probably it is "burnt out" in the sense that all the fuel it was using to burn and maintain itself becomes exhausted. Post dark night of the soul I guess.

[@jordanthornton]

Great question, I'm not sure on the archetypal question either.

[@deborahlara]

See what Ken Wilber refers to as “the ground of being.” In later stages of development we come back to the body and “being” and transcend mind/ego. Intellectual activity becomes exhausting and we return to a more “pure” state beyond it.

[@Aetherfield]

@@jordanthorntonAt some point I saw that permitted books on history, science, philosophy and psychology are additional forms of indoctrination from our Archon-developers. It broke my heart when The Alexandria Library & my local libraries were culled during the lock-downs. How do you reconcile that what we are able to learn from books, videos, MSM ect. are smoke & mirror views of a self-perpetuated cultivated culture, that limit our true understanding of our who we are, and could become? Please do a video for we hermits, who find social constructs and trickery of that which is socially permitted, unbearable. It becomes more & more difficult to want to play within these confines, and I fear that I will die a hermit alone and misunderstood.

[@MsHwisprian]

lately I'm feeling just... too inadequate to listen to your posts. Still over here burning regular incense and working my regular job and meditating and fasting a regular amount. I'll never be good enough. So I must go.

[@jordanthornton]

Stay steady on your own path, or your own choosing - here if you ever want to return, and be well 🌲

[@angelarhodes4525]

Be encouraged!! I felt that way at some points on my journey. Stay on the path! The light bulbs will suddenly start going off if you just keep doing the work. YOUR PACE is what matters. Take your time!!

[@capricehiggins]

Are you able to share a list of all the books you’ve read on psychology, trauma, healing the inner child, shadow work etc, thanks 😊

[@jordanthornton]

Sure, check out the top videos on my channel and you’ll find many list videos - 200+ books shared here, plenty for you to get going for a few years

[@capricehiggins]

@ thank you!!

[@dreamswimmer521]

Sir Will you make a list of how many book you read till now.. I want to go through.

[@jordanthornton]

Shared over 200+ of the best ones across this channel, with many list videos containing dozens of books - how far have you gotten through those, my friend?

[@netsherrera7193]

Oh!

[@jordanthornton]

Hope you enjoyed this one 🌲

[@urniurl]

lol at the gym bro in the club, how many times everywhere daily is that happening? But if rejection is what it takes to get jacked then so be it! ;)

[@waakkeuppp]

2:45 10:15

[@jordanthornton]

🌲✌🏻

[@blobymcblobface]

Wait this isn't Monkey mode I misspelled

[@jordanthornton]

Chimp Mode, 2025 - that's the dream.

[@blobymcblobface]

​@@jordanthornton Interior Castle was $1.56 Canadian on Google Books. You made me give an evil company the last dollar and fifty six cents they needed to corner the entire market. It's on you man. 😂

[@Talore-Evans]

Ide say when a man goes alone and finds out he is in fact, a woman, then when the mirror shows a hot chick, the hermit mode ends and real life begins.

[@jordanthornton]

Why not