Man Refused to Pay For Her Birthday Dinner & Things Went LEFT Fast!

[@JRWisdom]

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[@Trp510]

@JRwisdom J.r are you from Louisiana? Where is your accent from?

[@LouisianaGoon337]

​@@Trp510south carolina

[@Trp510]

@@LouisianaGoon337 oh fasho!

[@larryreynolds007]

He was the smartest one at the table. They were setting him up. He got out, Good Man.

[@happinesswatts]

True. I will never take friends out to a fancy restaurant I don't regularly even go or can afford. Maybe these people live in different worlds than what I live in. Food expensive everything expensive. And ate $3500. Htf.

[@xxxxxxxxx3944]

Great survival instincts.

[@jamellfoster6029]

Smart man. This is how I raised my 5 sons. I am a lady so I know how my gender operates and I am going to protect my boys from these conniving monsters.

[@genevawilkerson4245]

seriously, intuition, or somebody was looking after him of a. divine nature.

[@nicoleladyjaycannon5748]

The disrespect!!!

[@reallife0728]

NEVER GO TO A GROUP DINNER/CELEBRATION WITH STRANGERS!!!!

[@dhav94]

Well said.

[@lindadrinks-johnson1904]

Or family

[@jackiechun5817]

@lindadrinks-johnson1904 BINGO, homie 🎯. ALL the freeloading family show up with huge appetite, but small pockets(and I'm no baller by any means ofc😒)...then they bring THEIR freeloader friends too. 🤣💯💯💪🏾🧔🏾‍♂️

[@Smittyssportsmachine]

PERIOD..

[@ALLWynter]

That's it that's all!!!

[@broinsocali]

This guy passed the test. Pay for your part and let the shit fly.

[@antonioorlina9631]

Absolutely sit back and watch the light show....

[@blkafrocentricusa8429]

He's a smart brother. Most black men are smart.

[@broinsocali]

@@blkafrocentricusa8429 true that

[@edwardflounoy7207]

Bro was smart. He was paying attention with what was going on in his surroundings. He paid just for him.

[@blkafrocentricusa8429]

@@edwardflounoy7207 I hope more brothers can think like him; and become more wiser, just like him.

[@southernivy1707]

And he brought the bday girl a gift too!! He did right!

[@chrismoody1342]

I’m still shocked at the $3500 bill. Jeez. I’ve gone on vacations for less.

[@joannharper8383]

Way less

[@TyroneGladden]

These woman of today go out to eat on a delusinal fantasy run. I’ve dined with my lady at a 3 Michelin Star restaurant with her beat girlfriend which insisted on paying and the total bill for 3 was $800 with tip. Which sever 6 courses 😂

[@lauralfreeberg2179]

That's $234 per person, not including tip

[@reginajones3630]

😂😂😂

[@gwenlupus5413]

And the rest eating big😅😅😅

[@BX-Queen]

What is wrong with these people. When you go out to dinner, expect to PAY YOUR OWN BILL!! Kudos to you young man 💪🏽💯

[@guzzirob]

I totally agree and you know that waiter didn't get a dime in tips from all those people, except the guy that paid his bill.

[@BX-Queen]

@@guzzirob That part 💯

[@IamMclovin754]

This type of etiquette seem to have been lost in time. Expect to pay your own bill. Never go off of what someone will SAY they'll do for you.

[@captainlarrynosleepfishing5350]

They think they are pretty looking and every man should pay for whatever they want!!! NO!!

[@saltwatertaffy7020]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@2Tall03XX]

He owes her nothing!

[@Opinions-galore24]

NOT A THING SIR!!!! NOT A DANG THING!!

[@MzKiaS]

I SECOND THAT!!

Zzzero

[@africaisking7817]

On Big Drizzle Drizzle 😎

[@2Tall03XX]

@@africaisking7817 these women gon learn, if a man ain’t ya husband, he don’t owe you shit!

[@jennyvone]

I used to be that friend everybody would look at when the bill came… now I never go out and they don’t like me anymore 😂 I didn’t loose friends I lost a burden! 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@weirdoslovemrshelton]

FACTS 🤣

[@eviebronx7703]

Facts! I be like before the dinner & at the dinner make clear I'm not paying for no ones dinner unless you my kid or my husband& I am the first to one to holla " Separate check please " lmao

[@hellkitty1206]

Facts

[@tonyrebel63]

You did your self a favor. They were all transactional. Good riddance, now you live your best life. Am happy for you.

[@jennyvone]

@@tonyrebel63 yes God has definitely been blessing me since I got rid of the leeches!! 🤭💯🙏🏽

[@calamityjenn]

He was kind enough to buy the birthday girl, whom he barely knows, a gift. The freaking NERVE to expect anything of him. He handled the situation beautifully.

[@robertmcdaniel9395]

Absolutely

[@Angie-3p5t]

He was a gentleman

[@chrisnelson6686]

This guy handled this situation in the best way possible, as a man I'm proud of him!!!

[@Ash-19654]

His "homegirl" isn't really his homegirl. After that text, our friendship would be over. She was in on it.

[@lashurediscussion4970]

She thought he was a fool, because he has probably always paid her tab.

[@jonthomson9262]

Paying her tab............and paying EVERYONES TAB........ARE 2 COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THINGS. BUT YOU GIVE A WOMAN AN INCH,EVENTUALLY SHE WILL TRY TO TAKE THE WHOLE MILE THEN 10 MILES.

[@soniapinkney1342]

Yes she was …

[@realliferealtalkwithbiggs777]

Exactly

[@jackiechun5817]

@mustafaworkman2308 FACTS, homie 😒... she'd be blocked, unfriended,ignored,treated like she doesn't even exist...even if I ran into her in public.😒💯💯💯💯💯💪🏾🧔🏾‍♂️

[@natashaauton2029]

That man handle the situation exactly as he should have. Quiet, classy and upstanding. Very well done sir.

[@kareneley3718]

Im sure they had their leftover containers ready to go

[@lilywilson4839]

Yup. The audacity of the people expecting him to pay. Just wow

[@kaosaechao56]

Naw I’d pay for mine and throw some for the bday person.

[@BarbaraHorne-t3y]

If you don't have money,dont go out. The man is correct 💯

[@jovelhamilton601]

I'm still messed up by her saying he didn't contribute. Yes he did. Cuz nobody had to pay his portion

[@robertmcdaniel9395]

​@@jovelhamilton601Exactly and she wanted him to pay 4 her and her gf meal.

[@sagrammyfour]

Don't be stupid. I'm on a limited budget, but I can pay for myself, plus a generous tip. I don't expect anybody to foot the bill for me, and I don't want to pay for anyone else, unless it's a special gift or treat from me to them, or equally sharing with everyone else for the honoree. . For example, it's Susie's birthday. Her dinner is %60. There are 10 of us there. We each pay $6 each plus $4 for the tip ((total of $10 each) which pays for her $60 dinner and a nice $40 tip for her meal. The rest of us pay our own bill and tip. It's simple math, and if you can't figure it out in your little pea sized brain, use a calculator. Why should I stay at home?

[@LafayetteBaker-bu9jz]

Facts

[@Shirley-c6z]

That guy is really SMART! You knew you were being played and you played back! GREAT JOB!!

[@ericgray2077]

Maybe I'm wrong but he's observant but he paid his bill and seen people looking at him and he's waiting for the friend and drama is happening I would have been like snagglepuss exit stage left!

[@stefgirl101]

Everyone should have paid their own bill and gave 10 for the birthday girl. Simple and respectful. People just make a big deal out of nothing.

[@janicebaker6038]

AGREED 🎉🎉🎉

[@sagrammyfour]

I don't think $10 from each person at the table would have done it for the birthday girl. Ha ha.

[@stefgirl101]

@@sagrammyfour he said it was over 15 people there plus himself and his home girl he came with. I'm sure they could have divided the birthday girls dinner amount into how ever many people that was there and paid their part for the birthday girl, is basically what I'm applying to. Doesn't that sound respectful and fair? It's as simple as that.

[@ikemartin6500]

Basic math. 15 people on $3500 bill. Plus 20% tip is $700 more. Total $4200 and that's not including his meal. That's $280 per person. He met the birthday girl once. These people are eating like they got it like that. He paid his tab. Then adios. You all pay like you got it like that. He did the right thing. LEAVE!!!!!

[@brianfreckles8542]

His girlfriend was setting him up It was pre planned to bring him

[@Menagerie_K]

Wait a minute, they wanted him to spend the down payment on a house on a birthday dinner. I had a car that lasted me 6 years and costed less than that. I would be attracted to man that walks away from this ignorance. It shows that he has fiscal responsibility. That's a whole vacation in a different country, air fare included. That's the cost of a cheap wedding. That's up to two years of junior college. That's a BBL, depending on where you get it. That's a year worth of lace front wigs assuming 6 weeks of wear and high quality wigs with $150 install. I could fix my teeth with $4,200, my lasik cost less than that. NO human should disrespect this man for turning down this bad investment. I wouldn't be friends with any of these people and I would have blocked and deleted anyone who invited me to these shenanigan. A private chef would have cost less but I bet no one at that table had a nice enough home to host such an extravaganza.

[@duchessofthedorks]

@@brianfreckles8542I definitely think she went with no money thinking he got her 😅

[@dynasty5618]

😂😂

[@southernjoy9154]

This man did exactly what I would have done, paid my bill and left! He didn't owe those people anything, he didn't even know them! And evidently, the people that were invited MUST have thought their meals were paid for by the birthday girl since she invited them. You have to remember that EVERYBODY doesn't understand proper etiquette in certain situations and it could have also been a possibility some of them were setting the others up to pay the bill but either way I applaud that king for handling his business and walking away.

[@larryglanz6373]

This guy did the right thing. Nothing to feel bad about. He’s a wise man and kudos to him for avoiding the BS.

[@tlpz99]

He was the smartest most honest responsible non entitled person at the table

[@yesterdayitrained]

1000%

[@DavidRobinson-ke1ub]

Kudos to this man - these women need to be avoided

[@winsomethompson4286]

He is a very smart guy. He did the right thing.

[@nikkilove9301]

He moved respectfully...

[@TV-vl4fe]

Facts!!!

[@dcfmkyn]

You're right, but I would also add that he moved maturely. When going to a restaurant for an event, AN ADULT would either assume they would be paying for their own meal or ask the host (if there is one) what is the order (financial) limit. An adult would Not behave like a spoiled child ordering all kinds of shit and assume "some rich person" is going to pay for it!!! 🤣🤣🤣

[@edward50044]

Everyone gets T-rex arms when the check comes. 😂😂😂

[@IrriaParris]

Alligator arms

[@mroblige1018]

No only black women

[@edjones229]

Yep! 😅

[@Rage_RT345]

Facts 😂😂😂

[@candykis33]

🤣😂🤣😂☠️

[@bajerian9951]

They tried to set him up 😂

[@jonthomson9262]

It failed. All women aren't like this,but more than a few are.

[@grandhustla101boi]

Many women ARE. They may not fcçc wit u but if y'all go out as friends she'll slide u all the burden with the pleasure taken away

[@jonthomson9262]

@@grandhustla101boi that's only if the man is a beta male simp and ALLOWS HIMSELF to be treated that way. Men NEVER have to accept this from women. It's all about men respecting and valuing themselves as men and putting themselves 1st,above the woman 110% of the time and doing the bare minimum.

[@DropBox-jx6yr]

With no pleasure at all

[@antonioorlina9631]

That's what I was thinking he let them play theirselves ... 🤣😂

[@Seriously...576]

Are they STILL talking about this???? It's SO SIMPLE. The man was 100% correct. His homegirl is Not your friend, not really....

[@true1-1true]

#1. Zero tolerance for underhanded manipulation #2. Refer back to #1

[@TheFotoop]

I think the brother handled himself well. He paid his bill and tipped.

[@juliesykes6121]

I used to go out with work colleagues and a few people would order loads of food and drink then expect the bill to be divided between the number of people. So everyone else subsidised them. No way, I paid for my own meal as I don’t drink alcohol. People looked at me as if I was in the wrong. Stopped going out for work events.

[@tolubamidele1508]

I'm that way also, no apologies

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

I was invited to a dinner and decided to drink 1 drink, the rest were downing drinks like crazy! I wish I had stop and paid for my bill ahead of time. I never, ever went out with them again

[@fattoria_di_bastoni]

It’s best not to socialize with people from work. Keep personal and business separate. Just sayin’ 😃

[@agoodie2201]

The financial situation should have been discussed upfront. The host or the inviter in most cultures is responsible, but folks are sometimes without structure and community. I really shied away from going randomly with groups I don't know besides I don't drink and don't like to pay for someone else's poison.

[@billgreen576]

I bloody hate it. Others ordering the most expensive food and drink and then expecting the bill to be split equally. Social pressure is immense. It takes the shine off the entire event for me.

[@Hopalong..75]

I just had a birthday and invited 8 people to dinner. They were all family and close friends. After the dinner everyone gets out their money and cards to pay. I said thank you all for coming to celebrate my birthday. Put your money away I gave the waiter my card when I arrived, it's all taken care out. Drive safely on the way home.

[@johndooley5928]

You are a class individual There were none like you at that table

[@Don_of_Dons]

First class

[@john-sp8jk]

At least the other people had the moral decency to fo the right thing to pull out their money out after the meal offering to pay! If you invite me somewhere out in a setting like this I'm not going to assume you are going to pay for everything! That's why i always have my own money!💵🤑💵

[@7RB373]

I planned and paid for my birthday celebration, too.

[@taalofaa]

The way it should be. I was born july 4. The day was bbq everywhere and as a child family tried to make me believe everyone was having a good time for me as a form of praise.

[@ernestojosephnies8823]

I’d like to buy this man a drink and salute him on is observational skills. Dude was on point!

[@andrewdoran4572]

This guy handled the situation absolutely perfectly.....he paid for and tipped for what he consumed. The fact that other people expected him to pay for the food "they" consumed tells you all you need to know about their culture and experience dining out. This guy can hold his head high and now the truth is out there for all to see you know what to avoid such situations.

[@espoespo3557]

Reminds of the guy who took his girl out to dinner, she in turn invited a truckload of her friends and was expecting him to pay for everybody. Dude said nope, it ain't happening 😂😂

[@snidecommenter7117]

Soon as a third person shows up, it's not a date. Tell her you'll take a rain check and leave.

[@MK-vj7gh]

I literally thought this was that same dinner and I was getting a back story to it on how it went down.

[@S_Cooper0404]

Isn't this the same story? Or did another entitled B do this?

[@denises3779]

Dude didn't do nothing wrong he paid forhis meal that's enough. Dude is golden to me

[@jewelsafire6844]

They thought they invited a SIMPleton, but instead FAFO he was a shrewd & practical mathematician.😆

[@HeavenOrHell74]

One of the best comments I've read thus far! 👏🏾💯😂

[@sonyadean838]

Period

[@ec6443]

The people that were ordering huge amounts of food and pigging out should pay their own bill.

[@sarap5646]

I’ve never experienced being in this type of situation before. I’m very thankful!

[@DontTakeItPersonall]

BW here, I'm on his side! As my father would say, "He PAID (them no mind)." I don't DRINK, nor do I eat meats. I always get a separate check when there's a lot of people. I do not pay for what I don't eat or drink, i.e., alcohol & meat.

[@jhssmith2004]

yep.

[@oliwoodnorth2371]

Same here. PREACH

[@KR-df5uy]

He OWES Her NOTHING. I remembered my ex wife had a girlfriend who was a lawyer that was notorious for doing this to their gang of friends. When my ex and I was invited to a dinner party and my ex mentioned that the girlfriend invited us to meet the gang. I told my ex that I was not paying for sh-t except for our food and no one else. Ding Dong, the lawyer ordered up a bunch of stuff and when the bill came up my ex turned in my direction and saw my face and said I was only paying for the two of our meals only. There was another friend that was ticked off with this being done again and refused to pay and the other party paid. My ex told me when we left that she appreciated me doing this because it gave her cover and not have her embarrassed in front of her friends. I told my ex that I did not care because I was not going to pay for all the wine, food, and appetizers that the woman ordered. HELL TO THE F--G NO that man doesn’t owe them sh-t. I am getting mad at the nerve - lol😂

[@snidecommenter7117]

Whenever I go out to eat with a bunch of people, when the waitstaff gets to me I say, "Separate cheque, please." Unless someone says they are paying for me at that point, it stands.

[@dru_g9207]

Smart man! I have done the same with large groups. I have seen people order food and when the bill came they forget all that they ate and drank.

[@rachael862]

What that's crazy

[@dru_g9207]

@@rachael862 there was a Mexican restaurant I use to go to with a lot of my friends. When you are done eating they give you 1 bill. You and your group go to pay at the register. They ask people what did you eat. People pay. If you are the last person to pay it was 100% guarantee that drinks and appetizers would still be remaining on that bill. I started making sure I wasn’t the last to pay when I went to that restaurant.

[@justreal...just_saying...]

Usually in such a large group all aint bona-fide friends like dat so we openly say when ordering da meal dat we will cover our own sub-party with a collective donation to the Birthday'girls meal - same principle as dat in a club/ wine bar- in large groups like dat - only offer to buy a round for my sub - party of besties and the Birthday girl! So feel he could'a made a small donation to the Birthday girl's meal as his parting Birthday gift...🤷🏽‍♀️

[@cuzheavy4079]

I never go eat with large groups especially with people I don't know

[@snidecommenter7117]

@@dru_g9207 Couldn't you just ask for a separate cheque?

[@Clif415]

The Person who Initiates the date - IS THAT PERSON WHO PAYS FOR IT!!!.. And,Always CHECK UR WALLET - PURSE OR BANK ACCOUNT BEFORE U GO OUT!!

[@mermaidgurl5635]

Good for you! You listened to your gut feeling and held your ground!! 💪

[@Malvo6820]

My man! 👊🏽 You did the right thing young blood. Some of these women out here need to get it together. Walking around with that self entitled behavior.

I'm a woman, been one all my life. I've never set up a person like this. This is wrong on so many levels.

[@jonthomson9262]

Clout Chasers/ Female Con Artists getting exposed.

[@drewreynolds1649]

My ex did this weed head catfish bum

[@bootneyfarnsworth5689]

👏🏿👏🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿🤘🏿🤘🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@GTO_CAL]

3 racks on food , wtf did they order a giraffe !!?

[@Hello-iz9hl]

😂😂😂 lol a giraffe? Took me out

[@Hello-iz9hl]

Lol an elephant

[@GTO_CAL]

@@Hello-iz9hl 😂

[@josephdavis3686]

A rare giraffe at that

[@bootneyfarnsworth5689]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Mr.Boring_Man]

His "homegirl" set him up to be a trick. I guarantee this relationship is top heavy on his behalf.

[@juinxxviii624]

She knew that’s how her friends roll that’s why they kept getting the look. She definitely set him up.

[@jonthomson9262]

What relationship????? Lol 😂😅

[@jonthomson9262]

​@@juinxxviii624that set up failed.

[@anthonywilliams9415]

Looks that way.....🤔

[@JeSlade-vk6uu]

This girl would be a distant memory, she calls him out about not paying and refuses to pay even though she ate and enjoyed her meal, so shady!!!!!

[@40aterules]

They saw a meal ticket" and assumed you were their daily sucker!

[@cynthiaanderson3252]

My sister's family are notorious for this. We ALWAYS split our check at the BEGINNING of the meal. We get some dirty looks, too🤣🤣🤣

[@jerrylsiegel5619]

Smart guy. He needs to dump that girl he was with. She's only going to be trouble down the road.

[@kekeaugustus9410]

He wasn’t with no one 🤔

[@chrismargoni]

He has far more tolerance than me. If I saw a bunch of people that I didn't know arriving & payment plans weren't discussed, I wouldn't have even stayed for dinner. It was a setup!!!

[@jenkinsvarietyservicesllc826]

They must of new he had is ish together.

[@JeSlade-vk6uu]

Bunch of "dead beats"

[@Nom_AnorVSJedi]

$3,500 ??!! … this was a scam obviously.

[@douglassmith9698]

Naw you've just never been to a high end restaurant. They wasn't at applebees

[@Zuri-Animation]

lol not it's not. high end with multiple people equals this balance or more.

[@shelleyg1836]

my sons took me out for mother's day dinner plus one gf and her mom. so 5 ppl. not sure total bill plus tip but believe it was somewhere around $500 and it was just an upscale pub. i could see 12 ppl ordering lots of drinks and appetizers then entrees being $3500

[@lcam9241]

🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I believe the OP was saying that the other attendees were running a scam on the young man speaking.

[@christiandulaney1638]

@@douglassmith9698 Dude, youre missing the point. He meant all of of those broke ass ninjas were trying to eat like kings, thinking someone else will "subsidize" their meal I GUARANTEE they didnt tip 20%.

[@michaellalanae7228]

I used to pay everyone's food but when they wouldn't pay for me I rolled the f out.

[@fattoria_di_bastoni]

Thank you young man for your intelligence, manners, and withitness. 🙏🏼

[@ericbrett3095]

That gentleman did the right thing. Take care of yourself and let the others deal with their own stuff.

[@heavyweighttrucking3384]

That's why I as a Man don't have "homegirls"... Drizzle Drizzle!

[@jgibson8092]

Right they try to low-key use dudes whenever they can.

[@Wickwatcher]

I have a couple homegirls, all pretty stand up people. I just don't do the big group thing, or the friend of a friend thing. I've never had this issue, but I also avoid things like this as well.

[@BrownLAshley26]

Sprinkle Sprinkle definitely

[@Nicki_____Rose]

😂😂😂 Smart man!!

[@WhatsyourIQ1]

I’m sure you don’t drizzle drizzle

[@MenBeingHappy]

I abandoned all my female “friends” a decade ago because they keep asking for help.

[@jenkinsvarietyservicesllc826]

I sure hope there where not platonic Female Friends

[@MenBeingHappy]

@@jenkinsvarietyservicesllc826 They were just “friends” only without the being useful or helpful in anyway part.

[@zazaaziella16]

Most women don't act like this!!

[@gregkareem9824]

​@@zazaaziella16 proof ?

[@GiGi52020]

You didn't have the right friends.

[@dominusstyx]

He's a good guy and articulate. He deserves better.

[@me21464]

Restaurants need to start catching on to this scam anyway!!

[@aaronwilkerson7100]

I totally agree with this Man, $3,500…and they expected him to pick up the bill or a large chunk of it…..Wow!!! He was very Wise to listen to that inner voice!!! Plus, they were ordering off the menu, the top most expensive items and multiple drinks…..Yep, he was smart!!!

[@calvinstuart1108]

That happened to me when my wife and I went out with her cousin. Her cousin and husband ordered all this stuff, I went to the bathroom and paid for me and my wife's meal. When the bill came it was High!!. They stayed there for about 45min trying to figure the bill out. I'm just dying laughing inside.

[@JeSlade-vk6uu]

That's what shady people do

[@reeree7585]

My aunt and uncle did that to my mom and dad. They ordered all of this food and did not have any money to pay for their meals. My dad, being the nice person that he was, paid the entire bill for the 4 of them. It was my mom's own sister and brother in-law. And it was on mother's day.

[@warjon642]

clearly they were expecting him to foot the entire bill !!! thats cra-cra !! he was right to pay HIS bill and bounce !!

[@lizmcdonald8967]

Despicable behaviour. Absolutely detest being anywhere around it. I agree with this man's stance.

[@djoesphdow]

He made a great move and covered himself

[@genefactor007]

Well I personally feel this was planned from the jump. Pay attention to what he said, when he arrived everyone was already there. I have this sinking feeling everyone discussed this guy paying and I believe his homegirl was in on it. Why else would the b-day girl keep looking down at their end of the table? Not only that, his homegirl wasn't even willing to put the orders on her card. So yeah, they all conspired to have this man pay for the meal and very likely had zero intentions of paying him back.

[@abrahamabdul1160]

Yup 👍🏾

[@jonthomson9262]

It's too many Female Con Artists/Clout Chasers out here trying to live above their means.

[@jgibson8092]

Exactly he probably makes good money and she knows so she probably said I'm gonna invite my friend and he'll pay for it. Like how are you a grown ass adult ordering a bunch of food and you have no money.I could see if they were all teenagers but grown people no. This definitely was planned before hand.

[@TheMerlynb]

This can only happen in America, I guess!! Here in The Netherlands, if you're hosting, you're paying! End of discussion!

[@genefactor007]

@@jgibson8092 Right? I wouldn't be comfortable leaving the house knowing I didn't have money on me. Even if someone said they'd cover me, I'd just feel better knowing I had some funds available to me in case of an emergency. But the real messed up part? Let's say a friend said they would cover your meal, that's not an invitation to buy the most expensive items on the menu. Like, how rude!

[@stanleycoxjr6750]

No man is entitled to pay for another women meal unless it’s his wife not even a girlfriend salute to the young man who knows his value

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

Not only that but it should be a discussion ahead of time, not just high jack his wallet (same if the genders are reversed, I am female and plenty of slick dudes out here too)

[@stephaniepersin4222]

He’s a cheapskate.

[@stanleycoxjr6750]

@@stephaniepersin4222 no he not he has a right to say no even if you have the money an man is not obligated to pay for a girlfriend or side chick only his wife not his family members or friends

[@stephaniepersin4222]

@@stanleycoxjr6750if a man can’t treat a woman on her birthday than he’s a cheapskate. Everyone has a right to say “no” about 1,000s of dollars for dinner, however, paying her way for one dinner. Come on you don’t even like someone if you can’t part with $50 or less.

[@seinawhite4400]

I'm so proud of you. You paid, tip and slid out. You did right. 💪

[@STScott-qo4pw]

It's not like he owed anything other than his own bill and tip. Period.

[@efrainvillalobos9228]

The man was 100% correct. He handled the situation the right way. He owed no one at that table a thing.

[@lindajohnson878]

Gentlemen, No need to explain 😂 ........The award go to Gentlemen. You handle this perfectly 😊

[@Honeybadger007-hklrkch]

morale of the story: don't accept invites to birthday parties from women that #friend zoned you or stuff like this happens

[@New_Czar]

This right here✊🏾

[@whiteranger79]

It’s a home girl not always friendzone.

[@Honeybadger007-hklrkch]

@@whiteranger79 your really slow asf

[@jonthomson9262]

Female nature exposed.

[@roemellobell]

​@@whiteranger79you don't understand yes it was

[@EBerry-hy5es]

I've never seen a mess like this man experienced. Sounds like a bunch of losers went out with the birthday girl. This man did the right thing.

[@seti48]

A lot of ballsy people in this world. Did learn valuable lesson from this to avoid any similar situation. Thanks.

[@JB_II]

I learned a lesson about being invited to a dinner bday party.back story, I was dating a women for about 2.5 x 3 months and it was her birthday. Already a difficult situation on gift giving, but her daughter invited us out to an expensive seafood restaurant on the water for her birthday dinner. The daughter stated she was paying and it was her gift to her mother, since the daughter had just started a new job as an RN and was making money. When we got there I saw there were 10 people in the dinner party. I already made my mind up that I would pay for mine and my GF dinner to ease the cost from the daughter. Well, what I didn’t take in to account was her son who was to put it bluntly a selfish over indulging brat (19 years old). He order multiple appetizers, 2 main courses including one which was a large lobster, 2 deserts and even another one to go! His GF ordered just a main course and a water. All the while my GF was laughing saying about how her ‘Boy’ can eat! I was disgusted but hey it’s not my kid. Well, when the bill came I saw the shock in the daughters eyes. The bill was over $1,800! I could see the tears in her eyes as she had no where near that amount of money or available credit. Oh course, I grab the bill, show it to my GF who was also shocked. But I learned something that night. No one in this family reached into their pockets to help out. I felt so bad seeing the daughter in tears but trying to put on a brave face that I gave $500 towards the bill. After the dinner, he daughter was so thankful and even offered to pay me back. My now Ex -GF? She only talked about how good the food was. On the car ride home I told her how much I gave, her response? That I should have helped put her young hard working daughter and why didn’t I pay more? I learned a big lesson that night. Never again go it to a bday dinner at a restaurant with a group of people.

[@ekowatta8505]

Why I don’t go to dinners with a group of “broke” friends or a group of majority strangers.

[@samueloti7677]

They tried him like he was a sucka

[@joemachine4714]

... or a chump 😅

[@dmarie388]

That’s what happens when their lifestyle doesn’t match their budget. This is why I AVOID situations like this! 😊

[@stephannielewis8253]

He did right! Smart man!!!

[@boosielb]

Why didn't everyone just agree to pay for their own meal? That was clearly a setup from the beginning...🤦🏾‍♀️

[@franktate9873]

This is why I don't deal with broke black woman. I am like this brother. I will pay and tip on my part of the bill and leave. The simp days are over! Drizzle drizzle!

[@weirdoslovemrshelton]

Drizzle drizzle 🤣🤣

[@kimjackson8966]

Why can't it just be, "broke women ?"

[@davidortiz3094]

​@@kimjackson8966 Go online & you'll see who this applies mostly to in restaurants.

[@annelynn01]

Because in this situation it seemed like a bunch of broke black people.

[@kayk2899]

@@annelynn01The man in the video never mentioned race.

[@joeyoung6287]

I had a similar experience where the date of the birthday girl turned to me (I was dating the birthday girls best friend) an asked if we’re gonna split the bill evenly. I told him nope that I was just paying for me and my woman’s meal. And this is why I don’t do any birthday dinners. People order all kinds of expensive meals and drinks and think that the bill is going to be split evenly even when you had a modest meal.

[@devadii24]

I only do bday dinner for immediate family or take my bestie out one on one on their bday… I’ve been at too many where people order everything and then don’t have money to pay

[@jeffgriese680]

Dude, you handled that in an epic fashion! A lot of times these women invite people they don't know very well for the express purpose of making them feel guilty so they can eat for free. You did nothing unethical. Rock on!

[@venitalafi8654]

SIMPLE..." The man did the right thing for himself!"

[@jahlove5715]

Real talk bro. I have had one too many of my birthdays that I invited family and friends, everything paid VIP, I still had to go to the door and pay for them to come to my birthday party at a club…

[@randyb5579]

After a certain age, you cannot hang-out with people who are constantly broke, always feign 'low cash flow,' and/or perennially have bad credit. That's why I limit my outings to no more than four in a party and never include those whom I don't personally know. Even more concerning were those extravagant orders (w/o funds to match), as though they've never been to a high calibre or fine dining establishment.

[@jgibson8092]

Exactly I would never even agree to go to a dinner party unless I have money or we agree your going to pay beforehand. Some people are just bold AF to go to a restaurant with no money.

[@mr.fettesq.7705]

Absoluetly yes to the constantly broke. Those types of people shouldn't be going out all the time anyways. Yet they are also probably the same people eating out and eating fast food all week long claiming "I don't have time to cook etc..." The bad credit thing....eh....people can have bad or low credit and still be good. One doesn't mean the other. There could be all kinds 9f reasons for a low credit score. All it takes is being stupid when ypu were young or one bad mistake to sink that. I don't judge a persons character solely off credit score. Doesn't make sense. Do3snt mean I'd marry them.....but I wouldn't call them bad people either.

[@edwinhargrave679]

You right because some folks will always try to take advantage of good people so you can never be to nice .

[@JeSlade-vk6uu]

Broke people are notorious for ordering the most and expect someone else to pay their debt

[@WillSr70]

He did exactly what he was supposed to do.They ate and drank and ran up a high bill in hopes that he was going to pay it.That was the plan from the start.

[@jeffthornton6998]

For those wondering; split 15 ways, the bill would have been $233.33 minimum each. Even if he went by their plan; he would have paid more than he ate.

[@GavinDavisMusic]

If I ate chicken and had two drinks, I’m not paying for steak and 5 drinks lol

[@sivan3125]

Did you include the Tip?

[@jeffthornton6998]

@@sivan3125 No. that makes it worse. Besides; there were 15 , I’m assuming, Black people there. The odds of even 1/3 of them tipping are slim. And yes; I’m Black.

[@Loften21]

@jeffthormton6998 - The 233.33 wasn't the issue. The problem is they wanted to charge the complete total on one credit card.

[@jeffthornton6998]

@@Loften21 Yes; I know. I just wanted to make people aware that no matter how they cut it; the plan was to rip someone off. Thanks.

[@me21464]

All them greedy azzes sitting around the table with no money!

[@Dena1980_]

That is one wise dude! He did the right thing, they were just trying to get him to pay . Women like that make us good women look bad. He saved himself by his intuition & reading the room. I feel sorry for men nowadays seeing how these women act, it's insane!

[@Sheffdawg2305]

Happened to my cousin. We went out for his mom's birthday, and it was like 25 people. When the bill came it was like $1,100 and he put it on his card and everybody was suppsoed to pay him back. Me and my brothers all paid him right there and I even gave him an extra $50 when I saw him upset that people weren't sending him money then $20 in cash for the tip. The problem was there were his mom's 4 adopted teenage daughters, 3 of their friends, and his dad who all came with no money. They all have jobs but didn't bring any money. Plus there were some extras friends we haven't seen in years and their girlfriends. This was a year ago and to this day there's still like 10-12 people who owe him money. I know he will never do no shit like that again and I don't blame him.

[@jaya6329]

Gotta know who you with, and with what my professor told me a long time ago. Never lend money. If you dont have it to give then dont give it.

[@lindalewis8001]

Hey handsome guy how are you doing I am well watching replay love your channel I would leave they didn't have any money I don't play that thanks for sharing blessings 🙏

[@devadii24]

That’s so fowl… I don’t know how people leave the house, eat and drink and don’t bring money!!! Stay home!!!

[@jonthomson9262]

Users.

[@jgibson8092]

​@@jaya6329yeah if I was paying the bill for that many people I would just chop that up as a loss and not even expect the money to be paid back. there's no way there all gonna pay you back.

[@Platypus-Dreams]

I've never been in that situation but I'm keeping that move in my back pocket just in case

[@snidecommenter7117]

Best move is: "Separate cheque, please." Can't get one? Leave.

[@greatidea7808]

In the beginning of my career, I waited tables in many restaurants. At 61 years of age, I don't recall ever encountering this, but I am hearing a lot of stories like this with our people. It's disturbing.

[@onlooker4564]

This chap did the best thing. Good for him...

[@mattiethompson2413]

The Birthday Girl.. Should 've had "Stayed at Home"..Y"all "Eating " Expensive Foods.. When you could 've had a Wall Mart " Theme 🍰 Cake ".

[@jgibson8092]

Exactly.

[@JeSlade-vk6uu]

Oh no! broke folk always expect the best at someone else's expense

[@Hulk-mc7bp]

That girl trying to manipulate him!! 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️That’s ridiculous!! 😂😂

[@crappo8459]

With friends like this who needs enemies ! Homegirl needs to find better friends!

[@deborahc.9869]

You did the smart and right thing.

[@SethChavez-d8d]

This brother is super smart!!

[@jamespevec6949]

You're a stand up guy😊 nothing but respect to you!!!

[@TheRoadprincess]

I’ve seen this guy’s video before, but I think he handled this so beautifully, I have to watch it again. What kind of “etiquette” says a total stranger can be INVITED to a dinner to cover a bunch of freeloaders excess spending.

[@edward50044]

Not the T-bone with the gold on it. 😂😂

[@candace27co]

Lmfao 🤣

[@sagrammyfour]

I'm an older woman on a fixed income. When I go out with friends, I stop at the ATM for cash. Then however the check is divided up, I pay for my own food, including at least 20% tip. If it's a larger party, I increase the tip. One time I found out my tip was the only tip for the entire bill. This made me sad, angry and embarrassed. In a nice way I told everyone how I do things, stating there is no excuse for stiffing the waitperson. Some people don't ask me out anymore--fine with me--I don't care to associate with low class people. The folks I go out with now are all honest righteous people. If a generous person offers to pay for everyone, I say THANK YOU, and hand the waitperson an extra cash tip, in appreciation.

[@PeterBowleg]

He is speaking...TRUTH... Got caught up like that before...

[@KhalessTheTherapist]

People be going out and be broke. Then will post a glam pic on Instagram spreading the lies of a glamorous lifestyle smh

[@todayistheday6947]

A mess!

[@ms.porsche3676]

Fronting like they got it with no money 😂😂😂