5 Ways to Start Loving Yourself Today

[@yourfavegirl2345]

1. Make and keep promises to yourself 2. Listening to yourself and your needs and respecting them 3. Be mindful of how you talk to and about yourself 4. Do things that you’re scared of 5. Take responsibility for yourself, for your life and choices

[@druantiasdoorway2160]

Thank you so much for doing that, very kind of you

[@billkuhl4051]

My name is Bill. I have moderate to high anxiety disorder and I take meds for it. I just started watching your videos and they really help me. Thank you....

[@Sharon-jw9rz]

Self love is developed by the promises we make and KEEP to ourselves. Growth is the result of facing our fears and trying new things.

[@juliakristinamah]

Yes yes yes!!

[@bu2ful119]

I can see how my relationship with myself is damaged because of my inner voice. My inner voice is that same critical voice of my very abusive family. I need to do better for myself with my little girl so she can see me have a good relationship with myself so she can have a good relationship with herself.

[@chrishorbatt3504]

"I matter in this equation " What a statement!

[@juliakristinamah]

truth.

[@biba350]

On point I have just broken up from my long term relationship that I realise I didn't love me he was so emotional unavailable it got so toxic hurtful but I stayed 5 years shamefully I didn't love me now trying to practice self-love and to forgive me thanks for topic appreciated

[@dkdawe1]

I hear you!

[@juliakimmel4797]

Here here ... God bless you yr stronger than you think I'm dealing with healing from 10 yrs ......yeah !!! I loved him more than life itself he turned his back on me and went too someone who has treated him like he treated me ....... see how that works ... regardless we only have ourself s.....at the end of the day ...... much love n light .......

[@biba350]

@@juliakimmel4797 God bless i feel your pain good luck on your journey ♥

[@smuriel97]

@Blu skys same with me for almost 2 years and now I’m in the same journey as u. All the best to u. We got this 💪💪

[@confidentalways7526]

Ps.Listening to the video to the end will be of tremendous benefit. My scanty notes. 1.) Make small promises to yourself and keep them. 2.) Listening to yourself and your needs and respecting that. (It's not all about me but it's never not all about me.) 3.)Be mindful how you talk to and about yourself. 4.) Do things that you are scared of. Eg going back to school, doing a marathon etc. Things that are not a threat to our existence. 5.)Taking responsibility for self, life and choices.

[@jessicamorales2555]

thank you

[@miko3184]

Call me Miko, your explanation of how to get selflove is wonderful! It reminds me of buddhist "eight true ways" how to behave... your "five ways to selflove" is for me also something universal!!! Thank u for your explanation!!!

[@laurenwilliams2204]

Hi! I'm Lauren. I've gotten so much out of your wonderful videos. Thank you so much for making this wonderful content!!!

[@dianep6335]

Self doubt has always been my biggest enemy. It's caused me to stay in abusive relationships, go on disability because of anxiety disorders, and waste so many good years. Now at 55 years old I realized I've wasted it all and that just increases the self hate I already had. If I had the money I'd join the shift, but I'll at least glean from the videos as much as I can. I've been pushing myself out of comfort zone lately, like volunteering a whole spring, summer and fall on a farm. I was determined to complete the season come hell or high water, and even though it was hard on my body, I did stay to the end. And that was a big deal for me to call them up and stammer for a volunteer position. But the feeling of pride wore off after only a couple weeks. And I did a few other stretching things, but same result. I guess that happens to people who are depressed--we throw cold water onto the good things and wonder why life seems so damp and chilly. How long does it take to train the brain to stop that habit? I'm running out of time.

[@valeriegubitosi2278]

I think this message is very critical right now because of what we're going through with covid. I believe that we all need to focus on taking the very best care of ourselves for not only ourselves but those around us and, those that we love.

[@denisejones1279]

Yes! It’s so hard to listen to what I need. People pleaser, avoiding conflict. I have huge expectations of myself. Bless you Julia for your teaching

[@jillarchi4920]

YES! Me too. I'm taking this video to heart!

[@maryannel89]

Yes!! I can totally relate. I'm the exact same way.

[@juliakristinamah]

One day, and one step at a time. I see you doing the work Denise.

[@djbeatzzz]

I didn’t realize I haven’t loved myself in years. I’m learning to though thanks to this. Thanks Julia!

[@vermeergirl863]

I cannot tell you how much I needed to hear this, specifically this week. Thank you so much for making this video ❤️

[@juliakristinamah]

You're welcome. I'm really glad it helped.

[@mariateresazinser8711]

This is one of the best lectures I have heard at this moment in my life, after 16 months of my husband's passing, and not having children, it is important I keep promises to myself! The part of the miracle morning is so much me! Thank you for all of it!

[@MissDoreen]

Much gratitude and appreciation Julia 🙏 months that I spent with the shift Society really help me to shape my negative thinking and learn how to love myself from within 😊 thank you for being here for me and everyone who is on a healing journey 😊♥️

[@juliakristinamah]

Always good to have you here Doreen

[@terryrustad1800]

Important- Relevant- Insightful 🌟

[@jessicamorales2555]

powerful insights: self love is self trust

[@brittanihaywood2760]

Two years ago I watched your video why you dont love yourself, ah the irony of being back again. That was the video that helped in the moment when I decided to go back to school, here I am a year away from my degree and I have grown so much, but these feelings seem to circle back around. I decided to take the year off and work my craft retail job and create art in my free time, but I've yet to get to the creating.., this video has helped though just gotta get the ideas moving.💡 Thanks so much for the videos❤❤❤

[@sgsg9251]

It's one of the best things I have listened to or read about true self- love lately, to be quite honest. You are quite right, if we really feel secure, safe and truly love ourselves, that will prevent us from being self-centred or narcissistic as we could truly focus on other people and contribute to other people well-being, other projects because we really trust ourselves and are able to truly love and trust other people. Congratulations on the perspective of this video!😊❤

[@LaughingLead]

Sometimes taking these steps are difficult due to experiencing verbal abuse and it turning into our own thoughts when we didn’t have control over escaping the abuse when we knew it was hurting us. This is where our caregivers made it seem we deserve it and how we should see ourselves and why so many people are broken. This makes reality very hard to grasp that it’s so easy to bounce back to verbally abusing yourself because the right things seem fake and scary to where I panic because I am not use to it

[@chrishorbatt3504]

I always put my needs last, and i feel selfish if i dont. I think its just in my mind like that. Its hard to even lay in bed and rest when i need it because i feel so bad thinking i should be doing something productive.

[@dianep6335]

I get that a lot too. One video seemed to shed some light as to why we feel like we should be doing something else--someone (or many) we grew up with shamed us for resting or doing something we enjoy. It's their voice in our heads saying "should", not ours. But it is hard to turn it off, isn't it, because now we're programmed. But if we can remember that, maybe we can turn our own voice up louder ("I'm tired and it's in my best interest to rest!!")

[@chrishorbatt3504]

@@dianep6335 thanks for your comment, I know what your saying is true, but it's a inner fight to not feel selfish for attending to my own needs!

[@edwinromilly4645]

Hi yes i can Relate i have that too but -The key is to understand that no matter what happens, or what challenges you face, you can choose your response, which dictates pretty much everything that happens next. Truly, the greatest weapon you have against pain, anxiety, negativity and stress is your ability to choose one present thought and action over another - to train your mind to make the best of what you’ve got in front of you, even when the journey is harder than you expected. Yes, YOU CAN change the way you think and respond to life! And once you do, you can master a new way to be.😋

[@rachelruiz1]

Hey everyone! I’m here because I realize it needs to be ME that provides the love and security I need. No man can ever measure up, because I’m looking for them to do what only I or God can do! Working on this :)

[@NFSMAN50]

Will try to start loving myself, Thank you Julia, Happy Thursday my friend!! I do struggle with loving myself at times.

[@admirbarucija2018]

As someone who really has a tough time with self-love, thank you for this!! 🙏

[@juliakristinamah]

You're welcome. Always good to have you here Admir.

[@admirbarucija2018]

@@juliakristinamah I appreciate it!! ☺️ Glad to be here

[@masoodabeera477]

I'm glad to have come across your channel.

[@irenevanniekerk8199]

Self love is very important I had to learn to talk kind to myself

[@HumbleWordsmith]

Your so inspiring and lovely Kristina

[@DrRebeccaHeiss]

Self love and self care can be brutal sometimes. But it's about realizing with time, dedication, and practice, the end result is worth it. Thanks so much for talking about this important topic :-)

[@freshliving4199]

You cannot Love yourself. You can know Love which is knowing God which will cause you to know yourself. How did you overcome fear?

[@juliakristinamah]

Absolutely - thanks for watching.

[@scottkrueger3747]

hi julia yes people LOVE yourself and keep loving yourself it is such a wonderful feeling like no other and i like saying it out loud to myself try it look in the mirror and say i love you and mean it care about yourself you will be so self greatfull i smile all the time thank you!

[@izzysim9363]

Thank you. Listening to you is helping me a great deal.

[@morwien]

I love this. You really explained more about self. Im just out of a relationship that i kinda knew it was toxic and full of red flags but i chose to stay for the second time anyway. Deep inside I knew i should have left long ago and not suffer anymore. Self love is learning to protect yourself from further suffering. You are right about keeping promise to ourselves. Its true. I didnt keep mine, I should have, I wouldnt have gone through second hell I have been through. But we live to learn. This time, I really wont do that to myself again.

[@emilyb5557]

This is the best explanation of why self love isn't selfish - explaining how being insecure and not good to yourself actually results in being accidentally more focused on yourself. The need to be reliable for yourself too is a really valuable point.

[@solianahagos88]

you should DEFINITELY DEFINITELY have a podcast, I’d be listening 25/8!!

[@divineandchoosenmika314]

Self love has changed my life and I'm now a self love coach and guide

[@athab8256]

I really enjoy your videos. Thanks!

[@juliakristinamah]

You're welcome - glad you're here.

[@longislandny696]

I’m making a promise to myself by first learning to say no.

[@chrisdigitalartist]

Hi Coach! You know, this is my favorite topic to cover - anything to do with having a healthy dose of self love, esteem and acceptance! 5 ways to love yourself: 1. Keep promises to yourself. 2. Listen to what you need. 3. Be mindful about how you talk to and about yourself. 4. To do things you are scared of. 5. To take responsibility for yourself, your life and your choices. I love having a better relationship with myself so I can love others better and I love learning all of this so I can help teach it to others! Thanks coach! ❤🙏 #Shifter #SeniorShifter #TheShiftSociety

[@nikkiburroughs7291]

Julia, this was so great. Thank you for your sound, confident and logical voice of reason on this topic. I’m currently in the Shift Society and it is just SO helpful! I’m much happier lately after only completing a few weeks of lessons. I joined along with a friend and she, as well, reports more happiness, confidence and just an all around sense of well-being after even just a few weeks of the lessons. Feeling grateful for you and your work and so glad I found your channel! Warm regards and thanks for answering my Q&A question! 🙂✌️~Nikki

[@juliakristinamah]

Nikki - I'm so glad you're a shifter - and really happy that you're investing yourself into the work and things a shifting for you.

[@vius0013]

Hello everyone... I have issues trusting myself and often feel like I'm not good enough. My inner voice always says that I'm not consistent enough, that I don't learn fast enough, that I always get to a mediocre level of things, that I am already too old, etc. My dream is to be an awesome designer and have my own business, and it's been difficult to learn and commit when you think about yourself this way

[@ms.vickieb]

I’ve watched 4 or 5 of ur videos. I just subscribed. Thank you for all the good advice.

[@johnny_roots]

Love these suggestions, thank you, very helpful ✨❤️

[@valeriegubitosi2278]

I'm Valerie and I'm fairly new here and I must say, this is a great forum with great teachings. Im grateful that I stumbled through.

[@jessiestaehling4292]

This was soooo helpful! Thank you so much!!!! I'm learning to love myself in a healthy way. :)

[@juliakristinamah]

Yes!! That is music to my ears.

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you so much for your great help and advice.

[@carisaf7729]

This has just blown my mind! Thank you!!

[@phyllisharries2742]

Thank you, Julia, wonderful video.

[@daveyboyprice6351]

omg so true blessing davey london uk

[@enriquecallender5368]

Absolutely great imformation !!!

[@MrSir00007]

I've kind of started to understand that all these pieces are important to build self-love. I slowly progress a little on each piece day by day, but it takes time to change patterns that one kept for almost the whole life. :) Fantastic content as always Julia.

[@debbiefinch2236]

I call myself negatively when I was 10 years old, as a way of it hurting less when other people called me as I was bullied since I was 7 years old and I am now 41. It is so difficult to try to change it into a postive talk

[@maegenmariani985]

i want to get up at 4:4:30 every morning but unfortunately I'm in a wheelchair and group home .

[@partheshsoni1982]

This channel is going to grow a lot lot big in the future. I can already see it.

[@jennyquezada9644]

Please make a video on triggers or on how people are a mirtor to us.🙏🏼

[@lydiapaul9682]

Beautifully said 😍

[@kathyn3875]

Isn’t it ironic that we often put others first and treat others better than we treat ourselves. Good message about self trust. So obviously true but often so elusive! Thank you for your messages!

[@CubitaLola]

Yasssss!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@Dezzyyx]

Great video, just in my as always. Thank you

[@florakahuika3850]

Wow. I have watched so many videos of you but I must say this one stuck. I can honestly say I have been neglecting myself. Thank you so much. From Namibia 🇳🇦

[@recoverywithlee2591]

Julia, thank you for these strategies. They are helpful reminders of how to become honest with ourselves and our intentions!

[@juliakristinamah]

Your welcome Lee - I'm glad you found ti helpful.

[@doddyhedianto]

This is the second video i've enjoyed to listen to. Probably i've learn everything but not myself is what makes me feel unhappy all the time. Anyway keep up this great content! I'll probably considering to take the courses you provided in the video description. I'm 29 and living in Indonesia by the way!

[@juliakristinamah]

So glad you're here - welcome!

[@NothingWasted]

Thank you ❤️

[@druantiasdoorway2160]

Great vudeo. Very practical. Love that thank you

[@Amazngirly24]

Threats to your ego not a threat to your existence! 🫠 a word!

[@hollyentel4819]

Im new hi i like you're video's better than the therapist i started with ..( low self esteem due to all the abuse from childhood on never goes away ..I relate to this im to old to feel this way..toxic people i let in one for 21 year's very very unhealthy been going back out of lonliness

[@ellae6045]

Thank you so much for the video!! I never truly understand what self love means. I watched so many self love videos on KZbin but none of them explained fundamentally what it is like you did. I had a huge daunting moment watching this. I need to learn this and move on from my childhood traumas

[@francovani2359]

Deeply appreciate the solid examples you provide ! I'm learning to say no . Something I promised myself like no to doing overtime.

[@freddiemay1972]

I'm new to this channel. Thank you so much, Julia. I feel different already after watching just a few of your videos x

[@christinawills7896]

This really really BLESSED ME; thank you!!🙏

[@carmennavarra945]

Your awesome I'm on the list for the SS

[@kellyandmarelyxoxo]

New to channel . You are super inspiring !

[@lisarosenberg5884]

Saved me

[@ErinLAnderson]

Thank you

[@Sara_and_Keaton]

Love it...thank you

[@joanryan2242]

I want to do this so much!

[@ronforrestjr2493]

Need to learn how to say no, where is the link ,btw loved watching it, really needed that, thx a lot

[@annpettersson1920]

Thankyou 🙏🏻❤️

[@edwinromilly4645]

Life can be tough but Choose to take up a lot of positive space in your own life today. Choose to give yourself permission to meet your own needs. Choose to honor your feelings and emotions. Choose to make self-care and personal growth top priorities! Choose to think better about yourself, so you can live better in spite of the challenges you face. And YES, I know that's sometimes much easier said than done. Truth be told, inner peace begins the moment you take a new breath and choose not to allow an uncontrollable event to dominate you in the present. You are not what happened to you. You are what you choose to become in this moment. Let go, breathe, and begin... peace🕊

[@Siddharth-qb8dm]

How to regain lost confidence back in life?

[@bu2ful119]

I have to fake it until it becomes habit. I try to show myself the love I wish my family had shown me. I try to give myself the same love and grace that I know my child deserves.

[@Dezzyyx]

I never thought I could get any confidence because in my eyes I had no logical reason to be confident. I also thought how can I be confident when there are no things in my life to support that, like a good job, skills, social prowess, love. But I was wrong here because confidence does not come from external sources, and if it does it means if you lose that you lose the confidence and you really rely on external factors like what people think of you and what you have, so if anything it's less valid. The inner kind you can keep and is truly yours. Now to, but how to get that if you feel like you needed the external things in life, maybe you had no love or friends or anything to make you feel good and you started to devalue yourself, and you internalized negative things from others too. There then is the key, to rework this, start giving yourself those things. If you do a good job no matter how small say I'm gonna feel good about that, the only thing saying "that's nothing" is negative self talk based on expectations you or others had of you throughout life, that doesn't need to be true. "Ops I made a mistake, that's ok, ha ha no harm done. You know, I like these things about myself, they are good, it's time I take them to heart anything else is irrational and not reality. You know what I'm gonna feel good about me regardless of what others think, I do not put their value of me over my own value of me, I am who I am it's my life I'm gonna feel good and live good and no one is that important to keep me from that, it's "MY" life, after all not theirs, it belongs to me and its in my power how it goes and how I feel. If they do not mean me well or affect me negatively, I will not grant them the power over me to influence my life and my sense of self. Trust yourself and your feelings and what's important to you, in your life that is what matters for you first and foremost. Talk to yourself like you would want to be treated by others, like you would want to feel, like you would treat others, then it's very clear what is right and what is wrong. Show love to yourself by doing actions that confirm that, be easy on yourself, do nice things for yourself, commit to what you want to do, think of yourself in a way that shows patience and understanding.

[@Siddharth-qb8dm]

@@bu2ful119 nice I also do that

[@radwaah8698]

We need a podcast

[@partheshsoni1982]

Self love is rooted in self trust. Making and keeping promises to yourself. No excuses. Never make unrealistic promises. Make small promises that you can keep. This will increase you self trust. Listening to yourself and your needs and respecting that. Not to confuse with self-interest / self-indulgence. Me-me all the time. Needs like wanting to rest, wanting to take care of yourself, wanting to lower the expectations, saying no to something due to time-crunch or other issues. You matter the most in your life, make time for yourself, especially when you need to hold yourself. Listening to what you need for your mental, physical health, well being, and paying attention to that. Saying no politely when you need to. Be mindful. About how and what you talk to yourself. Talk to yourself realistically, and don’t beat yourself up. Do things you are scared of. Not something dangerous XD. Again be realistic about the though processes involved during that. Help yourself standup again after falling and failing to do something. Going through the process even if that is difficult, shows us that we are willing to try again and believe in ourselves. Not doing extremely hard things, that are traumatic to put yourself out there, but little things that stretches us a bit. Little bits of stretching is how we grow. When we see ourselves growing, making progress, actively involved in your lives., we feel better and proud about ourselves. Take responsibilities for your self, your life, for your choices. This is where we actually have control about things, what is in our hands.

[@evamussio7533]

❤ so helpful xxx

[@savageboy7374]

Does self love cure anxiety and depression and teach me how to really express myself around people. And also does it cure social anxiety?

[@randomdelhite937]

Lovely❤️

[@urmilarajesh]

Awesome 👏

[@liafiol-matta2736]

Excellent! 👍🏻

[@shaanz2.087]

Beautiful message 💕💞😍😀

[@chrishorbatt3504]

Sometimes ill try to communicate something to someone and they just take it wrong and i automatically say to myself "your such a idiot" Just happens. Guess i need to work on that!

[@captaindan1000]

Self love, selfishness, and arrogance are three different things. That's my takeaway.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I’ve been wanting to be in a relationship just like my brother Bryant Julia.

[@robertkarlsson7157]

Could it be that if everyone loved themselves, someone would lose out on it?

[@valeriegubitosi2278]

Do our thoughts really affect our psyche that much?

[@lisarosenberg5884]

I love u❤

[@nalinwijetunge]

Hi I'm Nalin Wijetunge, I'm on the wait list for shifters, Please help.

[@lefthandedaqua6215]

Ok, I treat everyone better than I treat myself. I would never break a promise to a friend or someone I’m in a relationship with, but when it comes to me I am a serial promise breaker. I would give the shirt off my back but would not take the shirt off and give to myself 🤦🏾‍♂️. Not loving yourself should be a felony.

[@liztetley3609]

I’m frustrated with myself because I keep breaking promises to myself.

[@lauragreen3406]

Laura Green

[@maegenmariani985]

this morning I was very upset

[@kalyankumar-nh3nq]

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@reneewilson9533]

Hello, found you randomly. 😊