How to Stop Overthinking Everything // Julia Kristina

[@juliakristinamah]

What was one of your takeaways from this talk?

[@hannuliljemark3119]

Such a helpful video once again. Thank you Julia! I've been following you for well over 6 months, watching most of your videos trying to understand overthinking, anxiety and OCD so I'd have the right words for a family member. Not only do the symptoms put a huge stress on her but also on our relationship. Anyway, it's very useful for me to understand how overthinking often starts from the brain trying to take control of the situation. It's difficult to find the right time to discuss these topics deeply and productively with her as usually I find myself dealing with some acute issue of hers. Your videos about what to say and what not to say to someone struggling have been extremely helpful. Also your videos regarding boundaries and references to stoicism have truly been life-saving for myself. Keep up the good work!

[@juliakristinamah]

@@hannuliljemark3119 Thanks friend. That really means a lot. And that family member is lucky to have someone who cares so much.

[@juliakristinamah]

@@gardenartist2150 It does Susan. We literally have to train our brains to say put!

[@MelissaKleinArt]

Knowing that overthinking is the brain’s response to fear - and a desire to create safety helped me to realize that in many ways it’s about self-soothing and understanding that this solution is not “the” solution and that there are healthier options. Also - I didn’t see the link for the resource that you mentioned at the end - I’d like to check it out. Thanks so much for providing this video. Really well-thought out and you covered much information in a short time.

[@Bellaa_1009]

thankyou so much really helps to get to the bottom on things xx

[@savvysista14]

Julia is one of the best counsellors on KZbin. Thank you x😁💕

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks friend. I appreciate you.

[@kalllistos]

I've always been an overthinker, but especially during the pandemic it's been a lot worse. I'm struggling with the past and the fear of the future/unknown. I overthink about my past mistakes and what I should/shouldn't have done, and I have learned from my mistakes, but it's gotten to the point where I crave perfection and if I can't reach that, I feel like a failure and that I could have done better, therefore more mistakes will happen. It's something I've talked to my family about it, and they've reassured me that I'm doing the best that I can, but also that I'm putting too much pressure on myself. It's been really hard, and I'm trying my best to live in the present. Not in the past or future... I have a lot to do to get there, but I try every day.

[@larissashen4874]

Same here.

[@kalllistos]

@@larissashen4874 I know it's hard, but it will get better. Somedays I feel absolutely great and then it hits me all over the next day. We got this.

[@michaelmessenger5742]

@@kalllistos We are built to suffer endure and grow Our mistakes are our lessons.

[@moonchild6157]

♥️

[@alsb9085]

Mantra of the day: " My actions do not define myself " Thank you Julia for these good advices and reminders 😘

[@juliakristinamah]

Your past does not define you. What you do with it now, does.

[@alsb9085]

@@juliakristinamah You're right! * I just realize that it could sounds very irresponsible and detached to say that... * New mantra: " I am MORE than what I've done or did. " We all make mistakes or achieve great things; it doesn't define entirely who we are, and that's something I'm trying to work on.

[@juliakristinamah]

@@alsb9085 absolutely ❤️ . You are SO much more.

[@OnjelieMarie]

Annie-Lee Sinogaya-Bourque dont they define us though?

[@dmgsoultogetherness6667]

Yes "i am not my thoughts" is key

[@zuzanna4380]

Julia, you're a real savior. Overthinking was probably one of my biggest "road blocks" in my life. I needed this particular video and I didn't even know how much I needed it. Thank you!! Sending all my love and positive thoughts! xx

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad it connected sis. Sending you love right back.

[@osse1n]

Overthinking is often times connected to emotional eagerness (stress, insecurity, other forms of fear). It becomes more manageable when emotions are calmed down.

[@juliakristinamah]

Yes sir. And when we learn to trust ourselves more.

[@ad4316]

No more worry. Huge undertaking . I AM ALL IN. You 'Julia' are THE MOST REMARKABLE therapist and heart opener. . Your tone is so pleasant so inviting and so healing. Dear lord your knowledge, your humor, your wisdom and teaching thousands of us the coping skills to grow mentally physically and spiritually in a pandemic is priceless. I will say it again you are a godsend.. Thank you Julia

[@muratbakan5208]

This was really powerful. Thank you Julia. It resonated with me in so many ways. I will apply this to my recent breakup. Below are my notes from the talk. 1. What am I scared about? what do I think could happen? 2. What am I actually worried about? 3. Is this an actual real threat? 4. Why am I overthinking? What am I trying to control/accomplish? 5. Is there anything I can do about? 6. What is the feeling insecure in me that I might need to deal with? 7. What am I making this mean about me now? 8. Is this helpful? is this true? is this accurate? is this what I want to think about myself? 9. Do I need to be overstressing/over worrying/overthinking with this thing? 10.Will overstressing/over worrying/overthinking with this help? UPDATE: It works!!! Thank you, Julia. You just saved me $160 of my therapy visit.

[@raularmas1719]

overthinking or managing up can be a useful and sometimes necessary survival skill in a culture where blame or responsibility for mistakes or errors in judgement can readily be shifted by some people in positions of more entitled authority with few, if any morals or ethics.

[@heyisubbed]

The moment I saw this thumbnail I was tapping my screen furiously. The one thing I didn't overthink is that this video was made for me.

[@juliakristinamah]

lol. Grateful you found it helpful.

[@YOUTUBE_IS_WOKE]

fear of job security : losing my current job and struggling to find a replacement job and struggle with finances... Thank you Julia, you're not just beautiful but very insightful.

[@Politicallyhomeless18]

The advice shes gives in her videos are like a lock and key that opens the mind/changes the way you think about your current situation

[@2010tck93]

Thank you. I tend to overthink everything, worry about the future and aging. I’m realizing I’m not living or thriving but just existing from crisis to crisis.

[@questmaster96]

Hi, I'm a therapist too and I like your videos. They have a very ACT flavor to them, meaning they help people achieve psychological flexibility.

[@newbiejones-bz6cl]

I overthink about what I said to someone or how I acted . I try to respond rather than react. This works most of the time but there are still some people that I find I overthink about.

[@adairali95]

Yeah I'm the same as you! I've had a recent situation where I had a drunken argument with one of my friends on Saturday night and I was over-thinking too much of what I said to this person. But a few days later we are speaking again.. so didn't need to stress about it.

[@timcook4552]

same

[@SemanthaJen]

As an INTJ 5w6, I'm constantly overthinking, it just won't stop. I've been watching your videos for three years now, it's really helpful. So thank you, Julia.

[@captaindan1000]

I've had moments in my life where I was relieved to have thought of something. I would say to myself "Omg!! I'm so glad I thought of that!" It would often be because if I didn't, it would've caused a problem. A good example is when I'd go on vacation and then realize that if I didn't overthink, I would've forgotten to pack something I needed/wanted. Some things you just have to pack because there's no turning back once things are in motion.

[@CheeChee0791]

I've been an over-thinker for years but it took a very negative turn after a break up and the virus. This has been extremely helpful, it is too easy to constantly torment myself for past mistakes and I hope to get over this.

[@joeperez8645]

Hi, this is Joe. Just started watching last week, a little everyday. You've offered lots of substantial insights into the psychology of being human so far giving me a mental breather from the tumultuous churning soup of internalized pressures of daily life processing. I've subscribed so I can keep reaping the benefits of your guidance. I shared this video for you too. All the best. 👍

[@BrotherTree1]

Overthinking is when thinking is no longer helpful where we burn ourselves out with just constant harsh and tyrannical judgements and expectations thereby eliciting more resentment and despair without the goal for a more sustainable, peaceful and harmonius solution. And the latter is what we aim for and we take stock of that pain of overthinking (and also looking forward to a more ideal and positive and less worse place) to motivate us to start the journey towards that more helpful place of resolution. And as such, there are a number of examples in regards to strategies to manage it such as the one's Julia has mentioned. We can talk and talk until the cows come home, but eventually the key must be taking primary action... and start with the smallest, tentative steps possible so that the journey doesn't overwhelm you and therefore put you off by biting off more than you can chew.

[@ataveras5123]

I literally felt a mental blanket of calmness immediately after listening to this video. Thank you so much. Such a lovely way to start the day with a fresh and new perspective on reality.

[@timwitkowski4746]

A first for me. Ive listened to many people preach but this person hits the heart.

[@annathomas6550]

Wow!! So Simply put!!! Overthinking does not help anything.

[@lesliengo8347]

This was the very first video I watched when I was researching about overthinking and managing lightheadedness from anxiety and since then my life hasn't been the same. Thank you for the work you do Julia

[@kirkmo1666]

I'm tired of trying to be honest. I over think because I don't want to hurt anyone, I don't like to be wrong, and it ain't working. It's like I'm only living for approval. I'm back isolating again. Great video and thanks for sharing.

[@kiwigirl1982]

I'm a chronic over thinker. This was so great. Def going to watch this over again

[@kodaailen1968]

This helped, ty. Former Marine, ptsd, introverted, single mother, anti social, dyslexic, add... I've learned to avoid everything and analyze people through their body language... Always in my head, my mind is the world i retreat too when reality stops making sense. Safe to say i live in my own understanding of reality in my mind and not the actual reality. Not thinking about everything would be nice

[@juliakristinamah]

Sending you so much love Koda. Have you read the book "The Body Keeps the Score" - I think you'd get a lot out of it.

[@kodaailen1968]

@@juliakristinamah never read a book. I am very familiar with that concept tho, i can feel the memories in the body reflecting into my Mind. Like stored energy. I'll have to take a look. Ty for responding

[@juliakristinamah]

@@kodaailen1968 if you read it, will you email me [e-mail] and let me what you get out of it?

[@danielraypickrel4316]

With every video I joy when you say ' taking care of the crap that is holding you back'.

[@chipsaffery477]

Love the content Julia. Whatever you do, don’t stop posting. You’re making a difference in people’s lives. I plan on sharing this with my son. I think he’ll benefit from it as much as I did.

[@sara-dx3ix]

Paralysis is spot on, I'm doing a Psychology with counselling degree & juggling daily thing's. I like listening to your calming voice. Exercise & meditation really helps but also realising these are 1st world problems 🐇

[@juliakristinamah]

It's good to give ourselves a little perspective sometimes - I agree.

[@patricialangeveld1227]

Just the message I need to hear. I've been worrying excessively about an upcoming operation, and I need to ask myself Is this worrying going to help. Totally not! I just have to prepare for it and realize that everything will work out. Thanks for the video!

[@juliakristinamah]

Sending you so much love and peace and a smooth and seamless process Patricia.

[@silentgrove7670]

Mine seem to be about fear of failure, fear of change, fear of isolation.

[@juliakristinamah]

What would happen if you failed? or things changed? And what would cause your inevitable isolation?

[@silentgrove7670]

@@juliakristinamah I live in isolation so that can only improve. I have an appt with a therapist next week to work on self improvement. Thanks for your reply

[@juliakristinamah]

@@silentgrove7670 Keep us posted on how it goes friend!

[@mdd770]

Magnificent. I love her. She has helped me so much. This video should have 100 million views.

[@Blizzpoint]

This came to me when i needed it the most. Thank you so much Julia.

[@jacobshockley3894]

I have been listening to your videos over the past few weeks and I connect so well with them. I struggle with overthinking and try my best to get better one day at a time. I really appreciate your insights. Thanks!

[@juliakristinamah]

Welcome here Jacob - great to connect with you

[@eileensymonds142]

There is something about Julia unlike any other therapist. Mainly she is real. She shares experiences, she knows exactly how to help you feel better and ma age your mind. Once you listen to her you are hooked. She knows, seriously knows how to help you and she cares and excels in what she is doing. Your answers lie right here. Julia is amazing. I have nothing to gain by saying this other then getting myself healthier.

[@joeysocks5718]

So glad I found your channel! Yes, overthinking. I can sometimes over analyze & overthink a purchase (say a TV) and then afterwards overthink if I picked the right one!

[@juliakristinamah]

Right Joey - isn't it funny how we do that? And the real question is - Does it even matter?

[@Gary-w3n]

Ive been listening to you for alot of yrs, I re-listen to u also, you make so much sense and you help us get thru the crap!!

[@joandalton6814]

Thank you. The parts about getting trapped in punishing thoughts about the past are especially useful for me. The process of harvesting the good bits and using those to help build the future is so liberating.

[@irisflores8411]

Just what i need. I am always overthinking. Thank you for your advices.

[@danielledejardin4778]

This video is just for me who finds it very hard to overcome the habit of overthinking. Overthinking the future- the fear of not being valued/ liked/ not good enough if things don't work as they're supposed to, fear of being disappointed/missing out if things don't work out as you wish. Overthinking the past- fear of having looked stupid/seemed petty/ungrateful/not valued/not liked for what you've said or done or not said and done,or what someone else has said or done or not said and done. These are real fears for loss of status or esteem in the eyes of others (and in your eyes) and are just as real or more so than fears of physical harm. Thanks for your insights about this problem!

[@lorilocascio2921]

I can’t thank you enough Julia my whole problem is overthinking I have terrible anxiety but I’m watching your videos I just am so grateful I found you thank you God bless you

[@WillScarlet16]

I am autism spectrum adult and I have been informed again and again most of my life what my limitations are - that I needed extra consideration in school, that I overreact, that I can't read others well or focus well. Now that I'm an adult the label of being a "challenged" person keeps coming back to me so I feel like I can never trust my gut on anything and with any decision I start wondering if I'm being naive or not, what the outcome might be, and then getting angry with myself for not being decisive. I can't stop overthinking because after all I've experienced I never know when to safely trust my own judgment.

[@iminsane94miller76]

Let me just tell you you are an amazing woman and have the almighty power to contribute advice on another level I was that about 5 years ago but now I'm dealing with a lot of people in my life since my mom and ppl and drs and friends and stuff that I know died within the past but I still got some ppl on my side that cares about me.ty

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks for being here fiend. I'm really sorry for your losses.

[@arpinejanunts7140]

I have recently found your channel. The first and most important thing that I want to say is that you have become the only one who was able to reduce my stress and anxiety. Thank you!

[@lynndavis9350]

Thank you so much for all of your videos. I am 65 years old and I can remember as a child going to bed and thinking.... did everything today go perfectly? If it didn't I could not sleep. Your videos have been incredibly helpful and I appreciate everything that you do trying to help people.

[@jpayne8097]

Fear of making worst the consequences of past bad decisions or repeating those bad choices... Gets you stuck in the present.. Unable or afraid to make decisions now = being more stuck. 🙁

[@juliakristinamah]

Don't forget you are always in charge of your choices and when you know better you choose better.

[@janiceladay5004]

I can"t stop thinking about an incident that happen to me with a family member. I was hurt by something that was done to me in front of an audience at a funeral. My over thinking of it was trying to understand why he did it. One day I am fine after thinking I had it figured out and I feel pretty good but then a few days later, I am back at square one thinking about it again. I really do want to move on, but because I know I am an HSP/Introvert, It's hard to let go of the hurt feelings it caused. What you shared in the Video of "Overthinking" did make a lot of sense to me, and I believe it is about a sense of control to feel better about my self esteem. Thank You.

[@khattaksanaan]

Going through one of the most difficult times of my life right now and all I want to say is that you are my hero!!!! : ) Thank you!

[@paulreddy5452]

Spot on M’dear!! Thank you.

[@RuzicaOgnjenovicruska]

Julia, it was perfect message for me. I am in position to succeed in my business after 7 years of being in this business. But in my mind are coming thought to doubt me and overthinking. I am fighting against and praying to God. It is working, and what you said on this video is big help for me to continue with my business and aloud myself to succeed. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@Debbie261061]

I'm so grateful I've stumbled across your videos this morning. I particularly need the boundary one.

[@lindathomas9844]

The most inspirational speaker I have listened to on utube.Thank you

[@silvanatauro4709]

Hi Julia, I discovered you in the last 2 weeks. I have GAD due to burnout. I’m so glad I found you.your podcasts are so helpful.

[@billkuhl4051]

I'm so happy I found this channel because I have moderate to high anxiety every single day and it's very hard to manage it. I'm always looking for new channels to help me

[@peyton7223]

I have OCD and over thinking is the side effect that I struggle with the most. This stuff was really hard to hear and challenging. It’s always about choice. So much tough love, but still love. Thank you for all that you do.

[@juliakristinamah]

Payton, sometimes it's easier than others. Have you done any trauma treatment for the OCD?

[@axlfox4048]

Oh Julia, Thank you SOOOOOO much for this video. I over think so much I over think about over thinking. I'm a Professional Wrestling Referee and one of the biggest pieces of advice I get on how I can improve is Stop Overthinking! The problem is the harder I try to stop over thinking the more I end up overthinking! I JUST CANT STOP OVERTHINKING, AHHHHHHH!!!

[@juliakristinamah]

What was one of your biggest takeaways from this?

[@axlfox4048]

@@juliakristinamah Basically that over thinking is our minds way of taking control of a situation we feel we aren't in control of

[@jeoshuaheathers9607]

Hi Julia. First of all my name is Joshua, I'm from Philippines particularly in Davao. This is not my first time watching your wonderful videos about mind health, yet consider this as my first comment here in one of your videos. Thank you for sharing a lot of your knowledge and inspiration to us avid fans of yours who helped us how to cope up with overthinking. I am looking forward for more videos of yours and Staying tuned for latest updates. More Power and Godbless 😘😘😘

[@juliakristinamah]

Welcome her Joshua - thanks for introducing yourself. Really glad to have you brother.

[@leesmechanic]

Thank you! Keep helping us heal ourselves. Grateful. Blessings on you and yours.

[@juliakristinamah]

And to you James.

[@davidmorem]

I really like this black-and-white format.

[@Taylor-ot3rk]

Thank you Julia. Overthinking is something I’ve been struggling with for a long time. Like you said, it makes it very difficult to focus in the present moment. I will definitely use these tools going forward!

[@rayshay21]

Been up since 3am n this really helped. I’ve been overthinking since HS , I’m currently 31 n i think this calmed the storm in my mind. Thank you.

[@carolcross_ArtFusionStudio]

I shared this with a friend in Texas .... we both overthink. Very helpful and I can’t wait to complete the exercise. Thanks so much Julia!

[@mariaeugeniamccardle7931]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I was blown away by your insight on why one might overthink something in the past. It plays like an endless loop for me. I hadn't given much thought to why I keep doing it and I certainly didn't think that it might have to do with forgiving myself and/or others. I really appreciate you Julia.

[@limakatsomphi9787]

I am young but this channel inspires and it motivated me to stand up for myself at school. Now I am good.

[@PureAcousticProducts]

I just watched this while heavily going over an event and getting stuck in my own mind so I did what you suggested. Listed each part of the event, what Im scared of, what happens if that thing that Im scared of should happen, and what the reality is of that happening as well as the actual impact of those outcomes. Turns out, as I was writing it, I started finding my fears a bit silly. I even hesitated finishing a sentence because it sounded so rediculous. And that's exactly why I did finish it. It seems that just confronting yourself with the fears you are having is sometimes enough to realise how insignificant those fears are. I truly feel a level of relief. Im not anxiety free but Im many levels below what I was before. Thank you. Your channel is really coming through for me :)

[@mariomoreno6261]

God bless Julia 🙏🏼

[@amysizemore2291]

I'm always overthinking i do believe that its because of things I have dealt with in my past relationships. I have been so stuck in this space and caught up in this. thank you so much. I want to move forward in life im missing out on my present life. thank you for this video.

[@Maxime7887]

Thank you so much!Your work is really amazing!Thank you for sharing with us!

[@cathrynnicholls8161]

Thank you for this advice, it's just what I needed to hear. I like the meditation, it works so well at switching off my overthinking, it helps me fall asleep.

[@annadambrosio5628]

Hi Julia! You are awesome! I've been struggling with judgment and anxiety and overthinking due to a stressful situation that happened to me this past summer and your videos and website information have been very helpful ... Thank you for what you do and the abundance of resources you provide to help us get back on track! You should have your own podcast too!

[@aimeeonofrio1975]

My first video on your channel!! This was super helpful. Been seeing a therapist for yrs and this has never been explained in a way I could conceptualize it! Now I need to stop acting impulsively and do some more internal work. Restraint of pen and tongue is not easy! Thank you!

[@nicoler7964]

Where we you all my life?!!! This is soooo helpful. Thank you so much. Your videos have become my little journey to self help. Thank you

[@tomtoups]

why can't the counselors I've been to explain things the way you did in this video instead of just me talking and them sharing their personal experiences? I so needed this video. awesome job!

[@juliakristinamah]

Tom, thank you for your kind words. It's because this is my passion and purpose so I invest a lot of myself into becoming excellent at it.

[@jenjenpeterson101]

I’ll keep watching this video to keep me in check into stop over thinking everything that you say in this video applies to me

[@ShelleyOurian]

I’m just so glad that I stumbled upon this video. That’s EXACTLY what I needed to hear for so long!! Thank you!!!

[@janiceladay5004]

Hello Julia, I have been stuck in Overthinking of a very hurt situation that was done to me by a family member at his mothers funeral. I was very hurt, and embarrassed about it, and didn't understand why it was done. It has caused me to worry and obsess over it for weeks. One day I feel fine and will try to just move on after thinking I have figured out why it happened, or after convincing myself that I am satisfied with decided I have the answer, but a couple of days later, I am right back at thinking about it, I can't sleep without taking something to go to sleep. I think the upset was because when I asked the person, why and told him how it made me feel, He just turned the situation around look like I caused it. And, it just added injury to insult. I am trying to let it go, but it's like unresolved anger, that keeps coming up. However listening to your video on Overthinking has helped me to try to look at it in a new way. Thank You,

[@andreamorrow77]

Thank you so much for this insightful Topic. I've been looking for a way to deal with my over thinking for many years And I can't wait until you talk more about this subject!

[@bellanaliaka5333]

I am so glad I bumped into your channel. You are just what I needed. Thank you for what you are doing

[@tmom6830]

Would love a video about decision paralysis . Your talks make so much sense and really give perspective . I learn and grow so much.

[@juliakristinamah]

Traci - it is on the list! I LOVE this topic and will do a video about it soon.

[@missweenieboys2]

This is the second video I have watched and have been subscribed for about 2 weeks. I agreed with everything you said. I too am an overthinker. I was a much worse overthinker before I started taking an antidepressant about 3 years ago.

[@juliakristinamah]

Welcome here friend - glad this connected.

[@trevorwest3457]

On the subject of vulnerability, I'd love to hear your perspective on Carl Rogers and his views on unconditional regard... especially in regard to how the need for belonging suppresses the need for agency within conditional relationships.

[@juliakristinamah]

I agree with Carl Rogers. Within the therapeutic relationship unconditional positive regard can be a key part of healing.

[@dazz_in_the_now]

Been practicing this👍 have been presented with many high intensity stress life situations. For me the most helpful thing in those times is to feel my emotions and be aware. Continual practice but it's so much better than being a ball of anxiety💜

[@juliakristinamah]

So true Darren. Good for you.

[@jenniferhckmn]

This is ME, i’m getting anxiety just listen to this 🤦🏼‍♀️ Great information though I do feel better. I need to work on myself.

[@lisajane5968]

Your videos are helping me through one of the most difficult times of my life. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@t.t.5195]

Thank you Julia, with tears in my eyes. Blessinfs

[@shellychatelain2049]

Thankyou Julia...you are so encouraging! It is a pleasure to listen to your counseling ❤

[@rosalii3290]

Thank you so much for this I’m sharing your videos with all of my family and friends I just think you’re wonderful and I appreciate what you do

[@johnziegler9974]

Hello My name is John & I just recently discovered your videos. I think they are wonderful. Im caught in a difficult post relationship issue, that is very unique, and Im trying to work on myself & listening to your videos are helping. Thank you!

[@LisaLang0816]

Thank you for this. Woke up sick this morning and not even thru the video and feeling better ❤️

[@admirbarucija2018]

I’ve been looking forward to this video since you announced it was coming, overthinking is a big problem area of mine and I always feel plagued by some worry! I hope you have a great rest of your week, and thank you for everything you do ☺️💓

[@juliakristinamah]

So glad it connected brother. What was one of your biggest takeaways from it?

[@admirbarucija2018]

Julia Kristina Counselling I appreciate that very much. I really loved your point about control being an illusion, and how we shouldn’t always treat everything our brains tell us as being the complete truth. After all, most of the stuff we worry about is no big deal in retrospect

[@juliakristinamah]

@@admirbarucija2018 I love that you took away the Control is an Illusion part. One of the most powerful truths I've ever learned.It's life changing, really.

[@admirbarucija2018]

Julia Kristina Counselling It makes me very happy that hearing that had a profound impact on you as well. Control being only an illusion is a very strong message seeing as our whole lives are spent trying to control our circumstances.

[@juliakristinamah]

@@admirbarucija2018 Yes! And we have to ask ourselves - why? Why do we need so much control? What are we trying to protect ourselves from?

[@TVOF1]

I talked to myself out loud about my past relationship for around two minutes. This video was up with your face and thumbnail “ How to Stop overthinking “ I look at you, stopped talking and just pressed play.

[@mariog3326]

Thank you for this video! Its been very helpful for me. God bless you!

[@toezarden]

Hi Julia, I have watched all of your videos and I use your techniques almost every day. Thank you for making these. I am having a problem where I have major anxiety attacks over where our conscious goes when we die. I'm not sure why but I find myself thinking about this often usually ending in an attack. Can you make a video sometime how to overcome those fears and anxieties?

[@JDMUWFGIS]

I needed this one this morning. Thank you so much Julia

[@marymccormack2317]

Lovely way to put all of this over thinking. Ya I will try be more aware now. Good lesson for long life. 🙏👍

[@gracielazaffarana9777]

Right on! Thank you for the thoughtful advice.

[@vaishnaviverma8752]

i think thinking abt tht we are overthinking and trying to deal with it or overcome it is also a toxic positivity. bcoz trying to think and analyse wht our brain is trying to say and engaging with it wether to stop it or any sort of thing similar can cause further problems and may not lead to a real conclusion. so my best advice is to make tht thought or every thought a normal thing. also try tofind out wht is realistic and try to compare ur thoughts with it and then u will feel tht whtever thiught tht u were engaging into was soo juvenile and try to pick up tasks tht are acheivable by u

[@Susanamounce]

WOW I do this so much and need to break the habit. thank you for explaining this and clarifying why we tend to do this. Very helpful!

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad you found it helpful Susan.

[@juliefox77]

Chronic overthinker here!!! The first third of the video described me to the T!

[@juliakristinamah]

What was one of your biggest takeaways?

[@scooterscat3309]

I'm on a constant loop!

[@Thrasherfourlife]

I hate when that happens; it's like "pull out; pull out" rrrrrrrrrrrooooww w w w w w w w w w!!

[@juliakristinamah]

time to interrupt that pattern.

[@scooterscat3309]

@@juliakristinamah I'm trying thanks for all you do..

[@juliakristinamah]

@@scooterscat3309 have you downloaded my 10 Minute Guided Mindfulness Exercise? It will really help with breaking the loop.

[@scooterscat3309]

@@juliakristinamah I just did thanks..

[@victoriaburgess700]

A habit is a choice on default…we can decide (something you allluded to) to choose not to do it!