How To Be TOXIC & Ruin Your Life...

This video will show you how to be toxic and ruin your life, making sure you end up alone and unhappy... Obviously, DON'T DO THIS!
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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How To Be TOXIC & Ruin Your Life...
How to tell if someone is a toxic person! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals toxic people warning signs and what to look for to spot a toxic person... Learn how to spot toxic people and discover how to deal with toxic people and toxic relationships!
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[@JulienHimself]

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[@n3wt]

Best video of the year Really eye opening

[@oddindian1]

I came here for the choice of attire. I am returning for the wisdom and awareness.

[@JulienHimself]

🔥🔥🔥

[@jayelbee444]

Haha I love his outfits

[@DemiAisha]

12:35 my mom does this all the time, she's always complaining about things and telling her problems, but when i give her a solution, she'll be quiet and start with a new problem, oe continue. It really makes me think she just wants to be miserable all the time, it's sad to see and brings the mood down all the time

[@olive4naito]

That's avoidance. They hear someone trying to give a solution and don't want to discuss it. Being overly solution oriented can also be toxic. It can be a bit of a gray area because it's easy to blame people for not being happy and harder to see what's really going on inside. That's probably one thing his talks would benefit from. It leans more towards moralizing behaviors rather than trying to make sense of them. (Not to negate the truth that gaslighting and triangulation are toxic because they are).

[@Florianpimpf]

​@@olive4naitothe answer is always in the grey. when i started his programms it really messed me up cause i was only looking for black and white. looking back that sure hold me back, but otherwise i probably wouldnt even have listened to his advise. julien is keeping it really basic in his videos, probably to reach aa many people as possible and get the message out. in the end u have to apply the advice to your life and put it in perspective with your reality.

[@Florianpimpf]

and with keeping it basic, it was easy digestible and understandable for me. of course i misunderstood some teachings or went too far. but now i can look back and see where i went too far and reown that

[@xndr_mrw]

I left a friend group because of triangulation and it lifted so much weight off my back.

[@JulienHimself]

Nice! 👌

[@Leoo0459]

damn , this is so so so valuable that I believe 99% wont see it the way I am

[@rishabhprajapati8423]

Hey Julien, avoiding toxic traits like triangulation, gaslighting and gossip is definitely necessary but there's also "It's not about the thing, but it's about the place it's coming from". Meaning for example, it's possible that impose a seemingly negative frame like "don't try so hard" or "it's okay dear you don't have to justify yourself" just in a fun and teasing way, not making it personal, right?

[@JulienHimself]

Yes, of course! As long as your intentions are good and it's meant to be playful! 👌

[@ByrneBaby]

Ugh, all these traits were super prevalent in my roommates awhile back, it was the absolute worst. Same with my family, but way less concentrated. They're why I try so hard to do things differently from them.

[@kaitybell]

Man this video triggered me a lot. My ex did most of these things with me and I mirrored some of them back. I realize it was imposed because I don't do any of these things now that I'm away from her, but I will definitely be conscious of some of these behaviors in myself.

[@dameanvil]

00:00 ⚠ Toxic behavior advice: Julian explains how he would behave if forced to be the most toxic person. 00:15 🪢 Triangulation: Bonding by gossiping negatively about others. 01:00 💬 Gaslighting: Making someone doubt their reality to manipulate them. 01:30 🧩 Frame imposition: Forcing a negative perspective on someone. 04:30 🗞 Negative focus: Only discussing grief, fear, and anger to create a toxic environment. 07:00 🥀 Passive aggression: Not expressing boundaries clearly, instead being subtly hostile. 08:52 🥊 Competitive negativity: Creating a purpose against something, fostering a competitive, toxic mindset. 10:36 🙅‍♂ Scarcity mindset: Not celebrating others' success, fostering jealousy and resentment. 11:43 🔄 Victim mentality: Viewing life as happening to you, blaming others, and never taking responsibility. 12:13 🚪 Problem-focused: Only discussing problems, never seeking solutions. 13:31 📵 Self-isolation: Spending too much time on social media, avoiding real social interactions. 15:48 🔄 Emotion avoidance: Moving away from uncomfortable feelings rather than addressing them. 16:33 😂 Lack of laughter: Failing to find joy and laughter in life, indicating a lack of success.

[@JulienHimself]

🔥🔥🔥

[@hiipouh4291]

Currently guilty and working on 8 of them😃

[@ColonialT7]

I like this approach you took with your delivery - Focusing on the opposite. Look forward to seeing you on Friday and the unique approach I'm sure you'll bring!

[@nikm2089]

I went to therapy so much I gaslight myself and everyone

[@yisroyoung79]

True Awakening

[@TheSongofSaya]

Thanks for everything Julien!

[@JulienHimself]

You're so welcome!

[@motivationforall1397]

I am a person who has: Passive aggression Self isolation Emotion avoidance.. Because i get so uncomfortable while talking about myself.. i am afraid if I'll hurt them..

[@_iam1533]

I do have some traits. Hopefully I can get out of itm

[@craigculford4963]

Transformation Mastery is the shit Julian!

[@juanegozcue9626]

Julien , Thank you so much !!

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Great video 🔥 Be careful out there friends!

[@danielesacripanti3262]

Also what would be the best thing to do if i recognize i am adopting those behaviors? Should people realize and immediately withdraw from it? What is the best thing to do if somebody realizing being toxic in one of these ways?

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Are you able to give an example brother?

[@blacksun8435]

I survived a situation like that.. I had no chance to survive if the guys last braincell stopped working.. ..I shaked my head, laughed, and growled out if this mf is fkn kidding me.. Then just kept laugh.. ..Dude stepped back.. Left the room.. I didnt turn my head after him.. I finnished what i was doing..

[@blacksun8435]

It gave me ptsd. Im not that cool. But i was, there that time.

[@raklostv1467]

"this" is the last word in this period. (comment for ranges)

[@hello_autumn]

Hii julien I'm embarrassed to write this but i have all these traits in me and i shamelessly tho unknowingly label me as a kind soul who never get good treatment I've come to know about my hollowness this year. Since then I've felt ihave no personality, i dont know where to start from please help. I think it all started from the highschool , everyone bullied me for my lazy eye making me this wat although ive grown a thick skin whatsoever..i cant be like this help..suggest me what to do next or any particular video..? I feel really stuck at life, finding videos ...relating to all traits iknow i camt be all..im not bad person ..I've never hurted anyone consciously obviously I'm a people pleaser i cant... But i m not doing any better in my life in all four areas personal, education, earning, I've no good relationship with anyone please help

[@csakiibebi]

so you are saying I should quit my job... noted

[@SiiideSa]

Doesn't seem like a good video to click on..., but to comment

[@pureluke9]

toptop

[@fvdham]

17:50 If you can't be happy here, you won't be happy there.

[@JulienHimself]

Oh, yeah... 👌

[@zantas-handle]

Ironically, you're bonding with your audience by triangulating as you criticise some other person who's not there for criticising other people who are not there!

[@dailydoseofwisdom9223]

......... What?🤔

[@zantas-handle]

@@dailydoseofwisdom9223 Think about it: he's saying that some people (let's call them Bob) bond with you by criticising others behind their backs. But ironically, he's criticising 'Bob' behind Bob's back, which bonds him with his audience!

[@beyond_hjaemmetraening]

And you are also a piece of this triangulation now. And so am I?

[@kevinfuenzalidapugin8817]

not behind his back. and for an itended purpose, not to bond​@@zantas-handle

[@AB-ws4kt]

Hah I see what you did that’s funny.

[@poofoosaz]

Triangulation blows my mind - been in far too many girl groups like this.

[@JulienHimself]

Yes, unfortunately a lot of people rely on this to form relationships...

[@poofoosaz]

@@JulienHimself and then we are all thoroughly surprised when they don't work out! 🤦‍♀️ Now you've highlighted it, it's obvious to me.

[@Rollacoastertycoon]

@@poofoosazwe all do it or have done it

[@moveordievision]

the most unrespectable groups

[@n3wt]

This is one of his best videos of the year

[@aftbenfy]

Man i really love your videos keep it up!

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! Glad they resonate! 🙏

[@TheFredrikBakkee]

Gaslighting example at 2:50 is exactly my ASPD ex wife😂

[@ismaelmarksteiner]

I’ve always wanted to be more miserable in life, thanks for the expert wisdom, Julian! Making sure I end up lonely and miserable is my life purpose. 😌🙏💚

[@JulienHimself]

You're welcome! 😂

[@wigwamproductions134]

Stop trying to gaslight your not smart Ismael … do better

[@n3wt]

I like how he gets straight to the point no long intros

[@AlexMoraru25]

Off topic but what are your views on Adlerian psychology?

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

"the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being" -Carl Jung

[@mrme7531]

What can someone do if social anxiety triggers facial nerve spasms, thoracic outlet syndrome hypertonic neck muscles and hallucinations? I want to let go, but my body wont let me

[@EnterTheMusic1]

Own that shit bra... part and parcel

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Definitely hard to let go - do certain situations in particular trigger these symptoms for you

[@moveordievision]

question for the viewers : how are your RESULTS from letting go or did you atleast get any ?

[@pinskiller9914]

still at the same state to be honest, it's too hard to let go in the practice

[@moveordievision]

@@pinskiller9914 ok ...thanks for the response

[@JulienHimself]

There are unfortunately A LOT of mistakes that people make when trying to let go... When you do it right though, the results are insane! Scroll through this page to see the kind of results my clients are getting: www.julienhimself.com/application-received

[@ColonialT7]

I've had considerable results from letting go but still have much work to do as it is a daily process. I'm also a therapist and do 2x releases daily, so that helps a lot.

[@moveordievision]

@@ColonialT7 amazing response ...i appreciate your attention very mush...thanks 💓

[@danielesacripanti3262]

Damn this video is really good. I definitely see myself in the isolating path.. cause when i go out it feels like a waste of time and money (wich i need to save as much as possible for next plan) but also feels very uncomfortable and i feel resistance about getting to know other people cause it feels like its a pointless,boring and exhausting thing to do.

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Hey brother, any idea what the resistance is about when getting to know other people?

[@rice_dish]

Thank you for pointing all these out. I used to do SO many of these. As I mature and have more introspection with myself, I don't do a lot of these anymore. There are some big blocks I have that I definitely have to uncover. Diving deeper is really hard and I can see myself resisting a lot or giving myself a lot of excuses that I just start believing. I get comfortable then I get complacent. edit: I recently found u while trying to figure out how to "improve" myself with self-love and all your videos and recordings have been life changing. It's not ideal yet but I can actually let go of a lot of things and have much less anxiety. But I do still need to dig deeper to uncover more! Thank you for all that you do.

[@xndr_mrw]

I get furious when people frame me but don't know how to counter act it.

[@JulienHimself]

Here's the solution: www.highvibecommunication.com/hvc 👌

[@OverrideMC]

Brother, just don’t answer, don’t even look at them, if they continue give them a glance and then look away again

[@sumgi1537]

@@OverrideMCi mean, thats a an ok First response if its out socially.. but ppl do it over and over again and sometimes u gotta rectify it and adress it and make sure ppl dont play with u

[@aaronfrl]

gotta learn the game

[@AllLegs]

you don't need to prove that you are right and they are wrong

[@jelmarpaardekooper4269]

Thank you Julien :), i've just watched the longer video in which you explain what you teach and how to get started and now this one. They have opened my eyes again and even though i feel some resistance, i feel ready to start my journey! If i get stuck i'll be sure to look for an online coaching session 😁

[@unknown6816]

Good for them🙄

[@goldeneddie]

So you're against people who are against things? 😜

[@JulienHimself]

😂

[@user-js9gn2hw9s]

All these techniques of self help never make sense to me, no matter how many times I watch them.

[@Aleks_Mechanics]

Notification Squad!🔥🔥🔥

[@JulienHimself]

Boom! 👊

[@Abdulhakimasrar]

i'm in to u bruh

[@Sohair-pw9mz]

Well i have a question if talking with someone always lead to triangulation and talking about people and judjing them and being negative.. I noticed that but isn't that also judging and framing that person And if they are nice and don't do that with bad intentions do i have to stop talking to them or there is another solution to this

[@smerjeevski]

Brilliant.

[@LeonelMessi10.]

First

[@JulienHimself]

🔥👊

[@alexpontos4950]

Best content and authentic. Thank you or sharing this with us

[@pinskiller9914]

very good video. I wish I had less social fear

[@JulienHimself]

Thanks! Here's my step-by-step method when it comes to LETTING GO of this fear: www.julienhimself.com/8p

[@BibiZebaDILMAHAMOOD]

OMG Julien !! You used the perfect example illustrating the names of two persons with whom I have been living triangulation for the past months 😮

[@brodycase341]

11:15 genuinely has me rethinking a lot, never even recognized that I was the asshole for being spiteful of other success which sounds absolutely ridiculous to say out loud. Just subconsciously always been spiteful of people in relationships and being incredibly envious. Thanks for helping me pull this to the forefront of my conciseness so I can work on it and stop being such an ass.

[@deboyskyswuzzz]

These tactis could become so funny for a exxagerated comedy sketch

[@luisfilipesf]

Ok. Im toxic...

[@lennard5393]

Finally the guide that i need

[@ethanotene2993]

notice when he said against at 9:09 he pulled a devil sign. kinda crazy if he did it on accident but yeh perfect sign if it was on purpose

[@dadlord689]

Well, I have a chain of interesting conclusions after watching this. Now I feel like a cheater at game of life

[@notFalin_atlife]

Welp I guess I'm toxic. Time for some deep inner work I suppose 😂

[@swapandebnath7124]

Whats wrong with being special, different, better, superior?

[@JulienHimself]

Because you're now living "in reaction" and in a competitive/judgemental state... The EGO loves it though!

[@EddieLove332]

@@JulienHimself ok buddha

[@Cyanide1372]

Its called gossiping, no?

[@ahsolm]

Why is this most women?

[@cassybeauti]

Well said!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 love this!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 thank you for sharing your wisdom

[@BhagyaMadiwal]

The thing which amazed me is that i didn't know that I was the most toxic one and i am still but instead I thought other are the people who done bad to me

[@aaronfrl]

very important topic overlooked, toxic people are everywhere and they hurt ur feelings 😭

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Definitely a reality out there brother ❤

[@Attiues]

Easy go get the Covid jabs and wear a Face Diaper 😷 like you did Julien