The #1 CONFIDENCE HACK: Become Socially Invincible

[@JulienHimself]

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[@JinParkIam]

Oversimplification: Suggests that overcoming deep-rooted social anxieties and achieving confidence is as simple as a "hack." Ignores the complexity of social confidence, which can be tied to past experiences, personality traits, and mental health. Hyperbolic Language: The term "Socially Invincible" is unrealistic. Confidence doesn't make someone immune to negative social experiences or judgment. This sets a false expectation, potentially leading to feelings of discouragement. Focus on Detachment: While reducing your need for external validation is important, complete detachment is neither realistic nor healthy. Humans are social creatures and some degree of connection is necessary. Lack of Nuance: Fails to acknowledge that legitimate social skills are also a part of successful interactions. Doesn't address the real challenges of being authentic and vulnerable in social situations, even with a confident mindset. Potential Harm: Could downplay the need for professional mental health support when dealing with severe social anxiety.

[@gigamaxextra]

I really like the analogy of being both the player and the character. Personally The difficulty seems to be in motivation to do anything because once you actually imagine the moment to moment gameplay of someone else's it generally isn't an improvement. Like you said your gameplay is sitting on an aeroplane uncomfortably typing on a laptop, and that sounds like a huge downgrade to my current life.

[@arimoh5611]

🎉

[@EllieRaarrrr]

I was recomended this and saw the thumbnail and thought you were Alan from Viva La Dirt. Now I’m hooked. I connect with the subject.

[@davidbliss8352]

I used to get so frustrated with this guy because he talks about how “letting go” is the solution to the reason you are seeking help, but then never explains how to let go. It took me years to figure it out, but it’s actually very simple. Whenever you feel uncomfortable, just relax into that discomfort in the same exact way you relax into an intense stretch or deep massage on a congested muscle. Just feel the emotion, but don’t resist the emotion. Allow it and relax. That’s what letting go is. Start small, with little annoyances. Just like with anything, you get better with practice. Over time you will be able to relax into bigger and bigger deals. There’s your answer.

[@DamienMrtl]

Thanks for puting this into words

[@Elaboratesandwiches]

Damn

[@JohnStockton7459]

This guys customer base are all low IQ

[@faisala.4433]

00:01 Accept criticism and embrace freedom of thought 02:12 Natural chemistry is real and it's okay to be different 06:17 Encourage internal reflection over seeking external validation 08:25 Identity is influenced by external feedback, but letting go and diving into self-reflection is empowering. 12:31 Drop the filter and express yourself freely. 14:24 Discover what you love and design your life to do more of what you love. 18:09 Celebrate every little win along the way 19:51 Embrace the present moment as the ultimate goal 23:30 You can release the negative impact from your past and reflect on your self-worth. 25:25 You are good enough as you are. 29:08 Neediness creates comfort zones and self-sabotage. 31:03 Recognize and break patterns to gain confidence.

[@raydragerns3657]

Trying to be who you think other people want you to be and to try to curate other people's narrative about you is one of the most common trauma responses, and for anyone reading this-it doesn't make you a bad/fake person

[@CraftyLemons]

Thank you ❤

[@Whimsy3692]

Well, then you're letting trauma run your life.

[@LifeLift421]

And you are not being authentic, instead you are putting up a front that you want others to see. This is dishonest and manipulative.

[@raydragerns3657]

@@LifeLift421 uh huh.

[@GawdTy]

Julian is legit the best coach ever. Everything feels so genuine. And I consider myself an amazing read of others.

[@paradise745]

Well if that isn’t proof

[@sporemind2592]

hahahahaha @@paradise745

[@ericajones137]

I met someone like Julian. He worked in my house for 5 weeks. We talked for a few hours. He changed my life, and he was so authentic. And then I found Julian’s videos and he reminded me a lot of this person. ❤

[@IIIISai]

❤​@@ericajones137

[@SuzeDijkstra]

Scorpiooooo

[@sporemind2592]

you can tell this dude has transcended self-consciousness by his outfit choices

[@EricDogPug445]

lol 🤣

[@Legionarri]

I like his style

[@sokarra]

I thought the same lol

[@aarontabraham1423]

I still havent shopped since high school. Basically rotate between the same 5 shirts since i was 16

[@sporemind2592]

@@aarontabraham1423 that’s gay asf 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@bishalr0y]

The way you emphasize authenticity is on a different level🔥

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! Authenticity is all... 🙌

[@DAnielSaddique-iw7zd]

Are u from Pakistan

[@chandranidas6702]

​@@DAnielSaddique-iw7zdNo he is my husband

[@Eradon888]

First time i see such a clever man speaking the naked truth! I like it so much!!! Thank you Julien!

[@sweedy3644]

The best coaching video i have seen on youtube, remember people only you decide your own self worth and guess what you are frickin amazing in every step of your way!! and don't let others affect your vision of that. Thank you Julian, i don't usually like or comment but for you i did it all and i will be watching more to come, cheers

[@nicholasallenthehuman]

Celebrating small wins helps me to move forward with my goals. I’ve been developing an English curriculum and just finished creating a workbook and celebrated with Girl Scout cookies. Support myself and some kid going to summer camp. Win-win.

[@4Mikes4Mindset4]

That is awesome!!! 🔥🔥🔥

[@EAEverheart]

Julien, I'm only 16, but your content randomly popped into my feed and resonated with me. I've been binging your videos. Thank you for being you. I hope someday I can go to one of your events in person. 🌻

[@Mohamed-uj8ec]

AHH same I'm 15 and I wanna join transformation mastery but I'm too young😢😅

[@fernandoolmedorivera751]

For me, i feel like many times I do care about what others think of me and I try to fit into a persona rather than being my true self, so gonna work on that and try remind myself to just be the true me

[@JulienHimself]

What YOU think of yourself is much more important than what anyone else thinks of you... Always stay true to yourself! 👌

[@sandrasmith3126]

You are God sent. I really needed to hear this message after 58 years of worrying what other's think and constantly ruminating about every single action or thing that I screwed up in my life. So thankyou from my soul to your's for all this beautiful content.

[@busterbayheusin1301]

I've learned quite a bit from Julien just watching these videos, sometimes its good to have information delivered in a different way to hammer home the main points. Great stuff my good sir.

[@ecronaclon47]

man, this came out right when I was struggling with low self-esteem again. thank you Julian! This was really helpful and encouraging

[@JulienHimself]

You're so welcome! Glad this was helpful!

[@ygorguerra7524]

This video is a fucking masterpiece the diference you make in my life is huge. Im so grateful for your teachings

[@cathyscott6047]

My Dad upon observing my dating relationships said I was very accommodating. Ouch. That was over 25 years ago. I'm just now practicing these principles. It's so freeing & hey, I like myself!

[@raydragerns3657]

My mom called me gumby, because I was TOO flexible for other people.

[@Dylonysus]

Legendary stuff man appreciate this being free big time, thank you.

[@BIGSAM-O-A]

Amazing video. The first 5 mins are absolute GOLD!

[@pyramidhead138]

"The only way to get everyone to like you, is to be the fakest person ever." i wholeheartedly agree with you cause the faker the person the bigger social crowd they have.

[@Enrikoh]

Actually if they have a bigger crowd they are probably the most authentic there. You can't get a big crowd and maintain it if you're fake because you'll eventually get overwhelmed and stressed that they're gonna see through the front

[@Tim666-o5n]

There is this saying "fake it until you make it". If you keep telling yourself a lie and really believe in it, eventually you become the lie and can present it authentically. The brain can't differentiate between fact and fiction. As long as you think and believe it, it might as well be the reality.

[@fin610]

@@Tim666-o5nso you are willing to lie to yourself for the sake of others? good luck, facking it never worked for me

[@aqualust5016]

I absolutely needed this. I watched a Chris Williamson episode and most of the content in this video came to me like divine intervention in my soul. Then while living in this high of mental revelation it played back through everything Julian said. I have every tool I need to have fun. It’s time to have fun.

[@sea81793]

Sometimes I wish I didn't fit so many of your descriptions and examples. However, I'm glad because it's something I relate to with intentions of positivity.

[@justaguyherefortunes1661]

Most if not everyone fits these descriptions to some degree at some time. It's not you, it is your reticular activating system. It betrays your self image. You gotta get your self image swole. But you wanna train Natty. Compassion, critical thinking, perspective. Roids would be negative coping mechanisms and masking. You're in the gym when you are relating to yourself of others. So all the time. The weights are your positive thoughts about yourself. You want to start off light or there will be too much resistance and you wont be able to clear the weight. You can’t go from "I suck at social interaction" to "It's alright if I stumbled over my sentence talking to that girl. She's definitely done the same and maybe she recognized that fact. Maybe not. Oh well." Thats like trying to start benching at 350.

[@Fobos328]

In some video games, when I lost all hope of passing the level, after successive failed attempts, I played dispassionately, accepting that I was going to lose again, and suddenly, I won... The funny thing is that on some occasions, the same thing happened in real life. I am increasingly convinced that becoming obsessed with winning is not the same as winning, but rather not knowing how to accept the fall, which is why it is much more difficult to get back up. Accepting defeat, naturally, is the game of life, try again.

[@entroxorth1048]

It's one of your best videos. Thanks.

[@sourcecreator2222]

Wow, man. My friend linked me this video, and I have to say you and this content are ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE. Thank you for bringing us your power.

[@THEDIAMONDLIFE1]

Valuetainment 💎🔥

[@razvain]

Damn, Julien. Haven’t listened to you in about 10 years. You’ve come so far and evolved tremendously. 🤘🏼

[@ishani5505]

Everytime someone speaks negatively about me I remember I don't have blue hair. (No offense to blue haired people)

[@JulienHimself]

Glad that concept clicked with you! 🔥👊

[@Learnguitartoday]

i get it but it still bugs me especially when that person starts to defame me to others who don't know me@@JulienHimself

[@dalladalla-mt4ep]

🤓

[@ycdwtv7017]

😂😂😂

[@DeRockMedia]

What if you have red hair then?

[@ibanyllajyrwa9391]

Just wow !!... you're the best coach ever

[@100tifikoLoco]

I discover you last week and I've been watching your videos and practicing since then. It's been useful but still a lot of of work to do, specially shadow work, auto-sabotage and the chase of approval.

[@JulienHimself]

Nice! Welcome to the channel! 🙏

[@100tifikoLoco]

@JulienHimself Thank you! I will definitely stay and learn!

[@BibiZebaDILMAHAMOOD]

Julien, I swear I am living and breathing all over again through your videos reminding myself who I am daily ❤🎉

[@Lubnadraws]

Your advices are real, thank you for changing my perception about coaching, you don’t scam at all

[@Bobi-kw5ec]

The guy in orange left at the moment he gave such a wonderful presentation was testing him Juliehimself at the spot. I personally love his channel which gives us courage and freedom

[@talkingmefantasy]

Some people just need to realize that they've been chasing others but never truly themselves, when all they truly needed to find true happiness was to chase themselves for themselves and not others, for if one is good, good comes. If one is bad, bad comes. It is just the same for whether one's self is good or bad.

[@talkingmefantasy]

"But what if I don't have anything good about me?" My response to that is how do you even know that when you haven't even chased yourself? When you chase something you naturally focus on it and when you didn't truly chase yourself, you didn't truly focus on yourself. And we all know how the lack of focus affects things, and for those who don't, well, your progress slows down. Your distractors wins. And when you apply this knowledge to not focusing oneself. You lose. Your distractors win. Your progress slows down. And even if you truly didn't have anything good, why not make good? If you don't have it, go get it. If you're hungry, go get food. "But what if I really can't?" Here's where the phrase if you can't love yourself, you can't love others, come in. Because if you truly loved yourself, you'd truly know yourself and you'd do anything to get what yourself best needs. See the words "you'd truly know yourself?" To truly know one's self, one must first chase oneself. One must truly focus on himself. And now if you truly loved yourself you'd definitely understand what others truly need best and if you didn't. You wouldn't be able to understand others which would lead to being not "good" enough. So I tell you all. Love yourselves and love others. Truly chase yourselves for if together we chase ourselves. Together we can find and increase the capability to love one another in a world where we'd maybe used to think that we weren't good enough. "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself” - The Bible.

[@talkingmefantasy]

Please spread this to everyone you know, guys. It's all I ask of you all.

[@junglefrancais]

Such a piece of WISDOM 23'55 "You're good enough no matter what. I f there is a reason for why you're good enough, then you're not good enough without that reason. An then you're slave to that thing. Whatever it is. Even if you try to find yourself "I am good enough 'caus I'm smart." Well now you"re slave to that.

[@koeasi]

And even when people disagree with each other it still doesn`t mean you don`t get along!

[@psychozucchini]

Thanks Julien, the blue hair example changed my life 🤘

[@Strawbamboo-e3h]

I say no is no, yes is yes! I will NOT comprimise my self-worth! I fight for what is mines!

[@SuperAndi2206]

Simply a brilliant speech from Julien

[@julit87]

This last videos are amazing Julien, all your videos that I have seen are good but in this last tour you have said essential things. Thank you ❤

[@amayaraelife]

Hi Juilen I’ve been watching you for 2 months now and I love your content. Your videos are helping me as well I’m 17. Thanks for your content ❤️

[@tgbanks7399]

I’m stuck in a cycle of self sabotage. I keep telling myself I need to get better. Right when I have my dream right in front of me I make sure I self sabotage to make sure I remain in the “I need to get better cycle.” For example I am a trader and I was going to receive a large sum of money. I could have stopped trading and received a large payment but I made sure I lost all the money. I don’t know why I do these things. I am addicted to chaos. It’s like I won’t let myself be great. Even tho I have the skill set to hit the next level.

[@merchrich9758]

because you act as if that money is for your flesh to give away, yet it's only your will's to give away. you let emotions do what they want, but they do not own you, you own you with your will. therefore, you may conclude that you are acting on behalf of your emotions and not your will. not that knowing this will somehow solve your issue, but hope it gives you a lead

[@haksseupjjanehal1186]

I am an introvert and a shy person because when I was 10 I transferred to a new school but I felt there that I was Outcast , i was lonely too , and my brother was in this school too but he was a smarter student than me , so teachers was comparing me with him , and even one teacher said that I forget what learn not my brother, they expect me to be like him , but I was different, , and there I hated that people in that school focus on me or expect to me , I am a sensitive person too , and because of me use a pen to write in a different way not like others too , make people in that school surprised at me , and in that school I became more and more lonely , sad , shy , introvert , and my hands started to sweat alot from the time I begin being in that school and until now , My anxiety increased and I developed an obsessive-compulsive disorder I think because being alone for a long time ( 9 years ) , I started care alot how people think about me , I couldn't trust myself, I was so harsh when speaking to myself, I thought then I am not a beautiful, I didn't smile there too because I thought my tooth is not beautiful, Plus my father is so harsh when talking to me , and He criticizes me and makes fun of me and he is a kind of like Perfectionism . So my personality was really destroyed. Now I am 25 , of course things became better, but still I care bout other people thinking of me , and I am comparing myself a lot with other people , still shy and so good at make conversation. I am still until now to heal myself but really it is so hard , and I think It really will take a long time to free myself. But now even my mother and father want me to marry even if I don't now , they don't listen to my opinion no matter what I say , and I feel guilty for them , so I think I just need to do as they want . I just wanted to be happy , I just want the life I want . Thanks to anyone who read this .

[@Gragon777]

Dont listen to your parents. Get a job wich is not draining you and maybe even one where you have time do let go in work time. Learn how to let go and you will turn around your life in 1-2 years. Recommend book letting go of david hwkins and sedona method free youtube course 1991. it will be very hard but if you see the value in letting go it will feel manageable. For me it feels i opened a void of all the suppressed feelings a year and a half ago and from then i was letting go several hours a day. It was a crazy heavy time but it baid off even if im still letting go of stuff every day. Highly recommend

[@leoniburge5291]

Try reading Love yourself like your life depends on it and do the simple exercises, it helped me immensely x

[@Mattjki]

Confidence Hack: Before looking for external approval, look internally for your own approval.

[@somoto9917]

Best speech I ever heard, thank you julien 🙏🏻

[@JulienHimself]

You're so welcome! 🙏

[@WhiteShadow565]

What a nuke of wisdom, holy shit! Love your stuff!

[@ANiML.1]

Proud to be swiss seeing Julien killing it 🎉

[@era5920]

waaaaw ❤ thank you Julian!

[@PaulSimonMcCarthy-fu6ms]

I always remember this quotation 'Your boos mean nothing to me, I've seen what makes you cheer.'

[@jessicahoogendoornrocknwel6210]

That is so powerful

[@dorisw2507]

This is my favorite video so far, thank you!

[@oskarredi1627]

Good work man I am proud of you keep it goin!

[@carnage___7522]

As always Amazing, awesome❤

[@PadajDeszczu]

since my self worth increased i just think waaay less about who i am, get less triggered and just go with the social flow, and i dont talk about myself anymore that much

[@aymanmetwally5560]

I like the content for sure .. But I also like how you present .. you even use audio effects as you speak .. awesome 😃

[@westsideslide5873]

I’ve actually connected better with people who I can hate before I can like

[@robertandersson3824]

regarding "running out of things to say". When that happens to me it's because I got stuck in an internal negative dialogue. Usually thinking / monitoring what others think about me. "The solution" to that is to chip away at that conditioning that gets me in that internal dialogue in the first place.

[@kellhalla5301]

Hello Julien, I've found your content very fasinating and helpful in ways. I'm just wondering for someone just starting on this journey where is the best place to start?

[@ShulaTheDon13]

Bro this is some of your best stuff

[@BlahDeblah-t3e]

Not during each breath in your every waking breath though interactively each moment even when your alone separated from others

[@Aleks_Mechanics]

Notification squad Have a nice weekend!🔥🔥🔥

[@JulienHimself]

🔥🔥🔥

[@agustinmunozrocha]

About the relationship with the present and the videogame analogy, Mary Poppins said it already: “In every job that must be done, there is an element of fun. You fin the fun, and snap… the job’s a game!” A spoon full of sugar helps the medicine go down.

[@maxkonclips]

I love this channel men ❤❤❤

[@keisariq]

Very powerful, thanks!

[@oskarredi1627]

Someday you and I will have an awesome conversation about life and shit that is going on I love your work man I really want to know you as a person

[@a.p.6350]

3:47 That dude had enough of them truth bombs and self reflection.

[@BrotherBadger123]

Yeah, that was Pretty LAME of Him. If He CAN'T Handle FACTS, then Why was He there in the First Place ?! 🙄🤨

[@EranMesilati]

Julien I like your videos so much, If there are coaches out that I needed to choose i was taken you to be Coach me but im far away!

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! If you're interested in online coaching, you can apply here: application.julienhimself.com/?l=tv11ils8lj 👌

[@EranMesilati]

I would like to come to your seminer when will it be the next time@@JulienHimself

[@JulienHimself]

@@EranMesilati www.noanxietytour.com

[@NickName-mn6jm]

ngl I am happy to se you in black T-shirt again

[@junglefrancais]

"make work fun". here we are. 1. How to have fun, when we have the pressure of doing our job good enough. I am French, so maybe you know how much French people are never happy and criticize every thing. In the job, whatever the job, of course I need that the result is good enough for the person who receives it. And for me, because I don't know, and I will never know what is good enough for others, I will have stress. If I know that the result of my job must be pleasant to someone, I can't have fun, it's too hard to do something good enough for other the fun way. Because when I am in the fun mode, i become so weird, nobody likes what I produce. So i must chameleon a minimum, and it's so hard. 2. About the house work... that's over 40 years that I try to do it the fun way. No way. It's just deadly boring.

[@korinasmr7094]

Wow I’m so glad I saw this

[@sanne5412]

Maybe it wouldve made your disney princess point stronger if you actually mentioned 2 of the trivias. Ofc rest is A+ presentation. AND i like your blue hair 😊

[@jf8050]

Great. Another motivational speaker.

[@StingBolt0920]

Embrace it!

[@CoachRakka]

great video. lots of value in this gem

[@JulienHimself]

Thanks! 🙏

[@ronm7114]

Yes, people are allowed to think negative about me, but i can tell u one thing. They wont be in my circle.

[@adriel6421]

Wish it was that simple. Can't pick your family.

[@aze2099]

Loved it. But for us who "climbs the everest" and actually reaches the top, after a long hard struggle with this as THE primary goal. ...and then just feel empty inside... what to do?

[@gregmichael1236]

Inner work is needed for me

[@PaulaSchaper-o9j]

Amazing video!!

[@pearldiver78]

Thank you this is really good.

[@aneelop2]

awesome video thank you :)

[@lootbaglex3612]

I luv this video thank u 🙏🏾

[@arie1994]

00:00 "Don't ever, for any reason, do anything to anyone for any reason ever, no matter what, no matter where, or who, or who you are with, or where you are going, or where you've been... ever, for any reason whatsoever..."

[@biarlahhaih]

wITH OR WITHOUT, i'm fine. Just the way i am

[@biarlahhaih]

i liked my own comment 6 moths later

[@steve00alt70]

5:15 did that guy just changed into a new outfit to sit back down?

[@bazilkhan22]

Hey Julian, i dont know if youll go through this comment or not but i think you said in a video you changed yourself for the better (back in 2006-07) How long did it take you to change all the conditioning. And did you focused working on one this at a time? Thanks

[@rampatel9835]

Changed my life

[@JulienHimself]

Glad to hear this was impactful! 🙌

[@SharkLove-k2g]

Anger>Silence, can it be done!???

[@Crusades96]

You can see the guy in the bottom right side corner of the screen shaking his leg constantly throughout the whole film. This caught my eye while watching this not even a minute through the video. This is too funny

[@rabiajahangir7862]

Exactly... I focused on that after reading your comment

[@chezgreggo22]

It could be heightened anxiety, stress or ADHD. He's at one of Juliens seminars taking positive steps in the right direction.

[@jefflo8163]

I think the problem with people is they cannot criticism. They are people who are going to judge you and thay okay. Its better to not waste time on things that dont help you. The sooner you relize you are the person not revovling around the sun, the sun revovles around you, you will understand that you not that important person in the world. You are saying i am good enough.

[@bizzyalot914]

Thanks for this 💪🏾

[@helenhamidi]

I love love lovvvvvve your videoes julien ❤❤❤❤❤

[@RobRoane]

Dude had the confidence to go out in public wearing that shit. I’m already sold lol

[@prik4727]

Genius video

[@JamesGillSD]

Game changing video

[@TricolorJester1]

I just wouldn't want someone to make others hate them because they've been outed as a liar when speaking I'll about me. . . I'm being selfless lol

[@BurneJonesCora-h9g]

Patience Squares

[@junglefrancais]

Question : If I do a draw, or change my washing machine, ok, it's only my stuff. But I don't leave alone in a secret forest, so I use money. And people who pays me.... I can't no care about what they think about my job. I mean, they need a result. Maybe not all of them. But at least, some of them, otherwise, I don't have money to warm my house winter time. So, ok, what they think would not change how I value myself, but, if nobody likes what I do... there is a problem anyway. I can still think that I am good enough, but, clearly my work would not be good enough if clients are not happy. I can't lie to me and think "oh, I do a good job, a good draw, the clients are just not smart/sensitive enough to enjoy it". I can't see things like that. I can't "no care" about my clients think about what they've paid. I need their validation to know if I continue or not.

[@julianoz777]

What can I do if I can't never get to the first time I experienced a certain sensation during the meditations?

[@JulienHimself]

Go as far back as you can, and then focus on the sensations that surface... 🙏

[@Nuggetmonk]

6:37 holy shit. my mom was exactly like that. im sure she ment well but this "every picture is the ebst picture ever" was what she did every time. the result was exactly what you descibe

[@БоянИванов-т2ш]

Julien What are your bigest flaws that you have overcome and actualy do you have any left inside you