I thought Gaming was HOLDING ME BACK... | CUP 005

[@randysalsman6992]

I'm a 43 year old male and I have never, not even once, been ashamed of playing video games.

[@jdxcoffee]

I am not anymore

[@JamieR]

I repeatedly got shamed for it during my childhood. I don't feel it any longer, but it does set some negative seeds and takes time to overcome.

[@simemsayss4395]

Women set the value, women hate men that play video games and other men conform and shame you to get back on the plantation. They only value men that spend their time making money or doing something towards it. Gendor roles don't apply anymore, shame on them, we are not slaves and also want joy in our lives. Cat ladies are worse.

[@omnichad8982]

Every time, my mom told me to stop playing and buying games. I would just go buy more

[@Diesel9530]

SAME BROTHA

[@papichulojp6293]

I’m learning that most thing that men enjoy (video games, anime, etc) people look down on. Like all we’re here to do on the earth is be productive 24/7 until we die. As a blue collar guy it gets old.

[@JamieR]

No shame! We like what we like and whatever anybody else thinks doesn't matter. Whatever makes us happy or gives joy is worth the time investment.

[@scene247]

Meh...they won't complain when we take up battle axe type hobbies

[@SamuraiMookieYT]

There is nothing wrong with doing what you love. Especially if you are taking care of business. Gaming is a great catharsis and outlet. The REAL shame is that society looks down upon men that game even though gaming is a mainstream recreational activity. Game on brothers!

[@ghettonerdsociety]

That hit hard right there 😢

[@robzo87]

I’m a 37 year old male from North Carolina who’s still has every console from 1987 (obviously older consoles passed down by my pops), and I still genuinely enjoy every single one of them to this date! I don’t play religiously like I use to, but I do set aside a couple of days out of the 7 day week to enjoy a few hours of single player games. I like modern gaming, but retro holds my heart the most.

[@adolfbilic8622]

I'm in the UK . Everyone plays games here . I'm 40 now and gaming is better than watching a movie for me as you are involved in the story and it's far less passive . Love putting my feet up after a long day and playing a good game . ..

[@adolfbilic8622]

I keep active too, go to the gym, play sports and have a good social life, long term girlfriend etc .. never once through my life has gaming been considered a lesser habit here in the UK. I don't know if it was different in the US but gaming is so mainstream and popular everywhere these days ...

[@HollowRick]

32 here also from the UK and I agree it's never been looked down on here I think it's mainly thanks the ps1 marketing making gaming "cool" for adults and older people so it's never had that stigma where I feel in the US they've always marketed gaming to kids and teens

[@adolfbilic8622]

@@HollowRick yeah totally agreed .

[@pamus6242]

I'm not from the west. I agree with you 1000%.

[@RJoelDOrr]

All legal work is honorable. If you can pay the bills and support the family as needed there is no need for any sort of shame

[@jdxcoffee]

I am learning that

[@stevenfinch4238]

I stopped playing NEW video games, and blew the dust out of my PS2, and bought a used PSP... Honestly I'm so much happier for it.

[@edwinwelch1946]

i work monday - thursday and have friday sat and sunday off. i game during the week and weekend. every moment im awake is gaming

[@jdxcoffee]

I dont that moch

[@ShivamShukla-66]

3 days weekend what do you do bro

[@edwinwelch1946]

@@ShivamShukla-66 i work for the military as a contractor building special products. I work 4 10s and get friday sat and sunday off. I can work as much OT as I want if i want too. I am not military just contracted to build things for them. I have a family, wife ad 3 kids and I share my time with them and vide games. Just got done putting 60 hours into horizon zero dawn and frozen wilds on PC and now playing through forbidden west. I already beat both these games on PS5 but I recently sold my PS5 due to playstation bringing games to PC which I prefer over anything else and have been gaming on PC for almost my entire life. busy life with family, work, gaming and 3D Printing

[@superstonewarrior]

You put my relationship with ADHD into words so accurately that it genuinely astounded me. Getting dopamine from talking about things then never doing them, getting dopamine from changing aspects of your physical environment, wanting to do something with every fiber of my being but not having it in me to act on it. You've truly made me feel understood and heard. Best of luck with your hyper-caffeinated squirrel brain and thank you so much for sharing

[@MobileTechGaming]

I am exactly the same as you. Adhd has its perks, usually we never have nothing to say, but as the mind drifts during conversation so can be hard to stick to 1 topic.

[@impersonator4439]

You're learning quickly about the PC world. 1440p with high refresh rate/g sync is the way to go.

[@HollowRick]

This ^ I bought my first 1440p 144hz Gsync monitor in 2016 never looked back lol

[@briquesbts]

That felt to relatable. I'm suspicious I may have adhd and your burrito analogy was so on point. I also struggle staying motivated for a job and all I want to do is play games

[@SongDesire]

Unfortunately, "early access" isn't a problem solely on Microsoft's side, it's throughout the entire games industry on every platform. It is very important to not only call out Microsoft for the scummy practice, but the entire games industry. Early access was originally a way for indie devs to gain finances for development without a large start up capital, aka, crowdfunding. Some devs still use this original model. It wasn't long after that everyone else adopted the early access model as an incentive to pre-order, and then to pre-order deluxe versions, then ultimate versions.

[@jdxcoffee]

It is such a bummer

[@lanzelet7386]

It’s sad because I absolutely love playing early access indie games that are serious about their development. It’s so much fun to watch games change and grow.

[@zeroXshinobi]

I play video games for fun, to enjoy compelling stories, to relax, challenge myself, reminisce about my childhood, and spend quality time with friends and family. Frankly, I don’t care what anyone thinks about my hobbies, people who can’t respect others’ interests often lack an open mind. I genuinely love gaming and watching KZbin videos about it. Sue me. Fantastic video!

[@The92Waffles]

Gaming is so mainstream these days I'm surprised the lazy gamer stereotype is still prevalent. And also, there's many other single person hobbies you can get into like reading and cinema, but if you're a reader or movie buff that stigma doesn't really exist. I game and read, and I admit when I meet someone new and they ask what I do, I lean on the reading thing first before I get to know the person better :/

[@randysalsman6992]

You have women to thank for keeping this sterotype still going strong.

[@jdxcoffee]

i'm hoping we can change that

[@jdxcoffee]

huh?

[@RSST662]

" You keep playing those video games , you're going to turn into one . " Happy to say i haven't rage quit , ever really had to hit the restart button , and the scenery is neat throughout the main levels . Here's to the servers never going down .

[@RSST662]

Cheers . Now go play gears ranked with me 😂

[@foolsanticsstudio]

I have never focused on things in my life. I hate studying. I was always frustrated with the classes I was forced to take cuz I just wanted to learn a bunch of different specific things so I could find my one thing. The only reading I do is subtitles. I am very scatter brained. And boy o boy I am a citizen of procrastination nation. Etc etc etc. You get the point. Then I discovered 2D animation. And for the first time I focused on something. Then my parents found a trade school for 3D art. And I worked 12 hours every day learning this stuff at that school. Yes I took breaks but I was finally focusing on things. Completing things. Enjoying things. Point I am making is for me it was all about my interest in the subject. I can focus, I can complete, I can be like everyone else. I just have to be interested. And there are aspects I am not interested in when making video games. I hate rigging. I hate animating. So I tend to procrastinate those things. But I love seeing what I am animating come to life. Even if its just with my poor animation skills. Which again points to I just have to be interested. And sometime I need to focus on what I am interested in rather than what I am not. Like I focus on the end goal of an animation, how much I enjoy seeing my characters come to life in order to get through the animating part. Literally everyone goes through this. Not one person on this planet has it easy all the time. We all have thing we have to just get though. Whether it be a job or studying or whatever. You are not alone. In high school you could say I was a slacker. But in the trade school you could say I was a nerd. None of us show it but we are all like "i hate my life, i hate my life, i hate my life" at something. lol. We all have ways of getting through the parts of our life that we hate. Everyone just has to figure out their way.

[@angeldeschain0]

Gaming got me to where I am. I quit my 8 to 7 job (10 days off a year) to become self employed and have time of my own. And funny enough it got me to financial freedom and to be a better husband. Time for gaming, cooking and doing the cleaning.

[@Wobble2007]

Here in the UK, it's actually a little strange to find a guy who doesn't play vid games, you have more chance of catching leprosy that finding one who doesn't.

[@PeninsulaCity2024]

I remember when I was 17 turning 18, I was already being pressured to stop playing video games (and doing other "childish" things like hanging out with friends) and be 100% focused on school and getting a career. I'm in my 30's now and without videogames giving me that reprieve from the bullies from school, the endless fights between my parents, the gaslighting from co-workers in my adulthood, and the overall toxic-negative state of the world, I would not be here. And its also through videogames that I learned just how close I was to not living at all thanks to my Grandmother (RIP) who saw me play Call of Duty World At War on launch day and told me the story how she, as a child, narrowly escaped death squads in occupied Philippines all because she saw and heard the Japanese soliders in the game. In her final years, she told me one simple thing before she left: "Be happy." And videogames are one of few things that continue to make me so.

[@TheRealJackArthur]

Another day. Another fun cup to listen to at work. God bless fellas. Have a good week.

[@jdxcoffee]

glad you like them

[@TheActs2021]

I get it man, I get it. Games today are not just hours on Pac-man or Joust or Defender, etc. Games today are an experience. A whole story and world that you live through. Some people do this thru books, some through film/movies/tv... others thru video games.

[@fightrudyfight5799]

Your videos > RGT 85 meh videos Shots fired lmao I’m 42 so yea coffee and gaming when I get a chance from working full time and being a dad of 4. Keep up the awesome content bro.

[@jdxcoffee]

Thanks man haahah. Trying to make them unique

[@ufcfan3940]

I’m 48 been playing since Atari 2600 to sega master system to Nintendo to genesis to snes to PlayStation get the point I’m playing steam deck and switch now love it

[@raines4619]

I’m 31 and love gaming but being a dad, a husband, working nights. I usually don’t get a lot of time to play. Only recently have I gotten back into gaming and even this is can range from an hr every day to maybe 3 on a good day. The switch had definitely helped me appreciate gaming for how in control I can be with when and where I play it. I know the switch is at the end of its life time but will definitely be playing it for a long still.

[@Angelthebwat]

I just switched to steam deck best decision I made got tired with switch games nothing appealed to me.

[@yochrisnelson]

So much of this video resonates, man. Thanks JD ☕️

[@jdxcoffee]

Welcome to the coffee shop haha

[@0hl0ngj0hns0n]

nice that there's a podcast version now

[@Ghost88o9]

Out of all the various ways people can spend their downtime, video games by far stand out as the best option. Not only do they provide an engaging and immersive experience, but they also offer positive benefits for both your mind and reflexes.

[@TheeGreg]

Black Myth Wukong is incredible. That boss you were describing sounds like The Keeper of the Flaming Mountains btw. Also the way you were describing your ADHD sounds like me to a T so maybe I need a diagnosis haha

[@no1seeverywhere77]

Man your channel is great, Thanks for sharing.

[@RJoelDOrr]

Saying this as someone that does game. But these issues often do originate from gaming and gaming certainly makes these issues worse. (Including ADHD) Partly because your training your body to get constant dopamine hits without working for it. (Once again i do game just try to limit how much don't want this comment to come across as negative simply adding soem context to people that may deal with these type of issues as i also have been diagnosed with ADHD and have found breaks from video games for a season have helped me tremendously)

[@jdxcoffee]

Everything in moderation for sure

[@drblitz3092]

What a joke.i did that whole productice/hustle crap for like 5 years. Didnt get much out of it besides being healthy. Thought i was more “adult”. Realized i Dont care about traveling, fine dining or going out. I just did that stuff cuz i was younger and thought thats what we’re supposed to like. I stopped all of it and went back to gaming . Everything is a waste of time, enjoy it. But pay your bills. I work on rich people homes, and im not envious at all besides them not having to work. Id still be heavy into gaming if i won the lottery.

[@RJoelDOrr]

@@drblitz3092 if you were responding to me you completely misunderstood my comment or something because what you said seems quite unrelated...

[@Bdub35]

This convo was hella interesting. Thanks for explaining adhd in a palatable form. I think you really use to your advantage.

[@mup8661]

Once I found something I liked outside of my hobbies my Mom stopped caring about me playing videogames and snowboarding when im not playing videogames. As a Paramedic firefighter some of my coworkers look down on it. But whatever, they'll spend 3 hours on Instagram like thats normal 🤷

[@lanzelet7386]

I’m 1:25 in and I, as someone who was diagnosed this year at 29, am predicting this will be about finding out he has ADHD. Everything he’s saying sounds like ADHD. Yep haha. Man, you described the experience so perfectly.

[@user-ye3qn8bj9c]

Resonate so much with all the adhd stuff. I'm waiting until I can see a doctor and see I get diagnosed. It all makes sense now, why the last 34 years have been such a struggle. I'm pretty sure I'm innatentive though.

[@pimpnamedkane]

Im only 19 almost 20 but I unfortunately have to put down video games for a while. I have to help my family out with some things and can’t afford the cost of gaming now and I have to work 24/7. I was gonna get myself a steam deck this Christmas but I’m gonna have to put the money towards bills.

[@jdxcoffee]

Life works in seasons and sometimes the seasons of sacrifice hit harder. Stay strong man and be the person your family needs. Your season of PLAY will come!

[@ging3rbreadtiger618]

ty for actually showing how you make your coffee. I'm interested in the process. have you done a dedicated video on just the coffee process? like a tutorial?

[@ryannewby447]

I turn 46 next week. Gaming has saved me mentally. Helped get over a lot of anxiety through work and lifes hardest times. Ignore the haters and do what makes you happy.

[@Tenebris_PR]

I have similar experience to that "brain fog" that you mention. Although it is not the same, it is the closest description I have heard. I don't know why but sometimes I'm doing something, like playing video games, but I know I have to do something else. Something really important, like a task for my job, but I can't stop. I'm thinking all the time about how I need to stop doing this, and how important the other task, and all the trouble I'm going to get into for not doing it but I just can't stop and do the other task. Is like my mind wants something but my body is doing something on it's own, I just can't stop. Sometimes I yell at myself on my but I can't stop. I have lost so many jobs, I have been in so much trouble because of that thru the years but I don't know why that happens.

[@gellister]

I barely watch TV or do internet browsing because I play video games with my spare time. It usually means about 8 hrs in a week but it's what I can manage and it helps me decompress. You know why everyone looks down on male leisure? It's not because male leisure didn't exist in previous generations (though leisure time was more fleeting), it's that perception of the leisure exists now. When a man went off on hunts or was out working the fields, they weren't at home for their wife to perceive their leisure, it happened spontaneously and away from home. Now she can watch you on the couch nearby and her generationally trained brain, regardless of its accuracy, thinks that you are being lazy. Sane with older people. Our species existed where men were scarce around the homestead until relatively recently. Nothing has changed except that men's leisure happens at the homestead now and evolved brains through generations of reproduction for females and older people views this leisure on the homestead as laziness inherently. It's sad.

[@LordMuzhy]

I rarely play games day 1, I usually wait a few weeks/months after release

[@Gliiitchy]

Yo bro, talking about the change of location being such a hack is no joke. I took my Steam Deck up to my attic the one time just because it was different, and played some games on it. It was amazing. The same game I had been struggling to play at my PC, I played till the battery ran out and it just hit different.

[@ubonsolavong999]

Im 45 iwatch anime play games, and i have my ish together at the end of the day. Do what makes you happy happy !!!

[@SuperPlastered]

I will never stop playing video games.

[@nathanlamont9920]

Talking to people who aren't gamers, who don't understand, is difficult. You can't explain an experience to people who hasn't experienced it or don't care to experience it. (Gotcha games don't count)

[@indubitable49]

Do the Indy thing, PLEASE do the Indy thing!

[@aclaylambisabirdman6324]

I’m 37 and that is healing right now.

[@mexdrago3009]

I wonder if I have a learning disability. I've been called a fast learner but have struggled my whole life. I was the kid still doing work and staying behind. I genuinely enjoy video games and even procrastinate in games too. I like resident evil games but it takes me very long to remember where I'm going. I could think harder but then Im trying to enjoy the puzzle part and not the hall ways I just went through. Technology also brings me joy. I still have crts and play on a lgc1 77 with an old 7.1 surround sound that I will uprade to 7.1.6. Work life has never stimulated me for long, like video games can. I had one job where I could be the jack of all trades and every other job even tho they had similar fabrication elements it was me sitting down doing the same thing over and over. I fell for the redpill manopshere anti video game movement for six years, and boy, are they wrong. Out of all the things that went wrong, video game was never an issue. Embrace the nerd inside you I say.

[@hshrr7e]

Feel like the dude talked more about coffee than video games

[@jdxcoffee]

Welcome

[@BlackRidgeGaming]

Black & White coffee love it. I currently have the Thermal Shock and The Future strawberry daiquiri. I’ve liked their hazy the best. I’m actually a coffee roaster myself I’d be glad to send ya some to try out.

[@jdxcoffee]

Their coffee is insane. Hit up My PO box but first DM me in discord

[@JamieR]

Anyone pick up any good games during sales? Would love to hear what you are all playing. I picked up Ratchet & Clank: A Rift Apart, Spyro Trilogy, Mass Effect Legendary Edition, among a bunch of indies and dlcs. Excited to get into them over December!

[@arjun220]

Elon Musk : My only recreation in life is playing video games.

[@naderz4064]

I'm 37 and have asperges, father of 3 and married video games and coffee save me lol I play with my kids they are amazing and the games are cool too, yea I wish I could make streaming a carrier, I'm not good enough with talking lol or being entertaining

[@DankPlankSam]

Just ordered the Ode Gen 2. First time buying anything like this. What do you mean when you talk about Clicks? I believe you said 17 clicks for this coffee? I know about the number dials give it a specific grind but don’t know what the clicks are

[@jdxcoffee]

so the number 6 + 2 tallies on the ODE Gen 2. The ODE has numbers then tallies. the 17 clicks is in regards to the hand grinder I recommend.

[@DankPlankSam]

@ right I see! That makes sense now :) cheers for the reply mate

[@RJoelDOrr]

Game pass is 🔥 havent spent 60-70 on a game in two years. Only game pass and games on a very good sale. Love it spent so much less the last two years and played more gamed. Totally agree about paying to playe early thought but that isnt exclusive to microsoft.

[@jdxcoffee]

I wish I found more games appealing on it

[@RJoelDOrr]

@@jdxcoffee that's fair. Not for everyone

[@jonamar3965]

Wouldn't gamers have a hookup to buy physical games ahead of time? Let's not pretend convenience trumps security, so going out of your way to have games on time.

[@alexisteixeira6119]

ive related so much with everything that u said, that ill do an appoitment! thanks buddy great video amazing work keep going!

[@blueeyedtech1234]

It’s stupid that a company will charge you to play a game early. The game is finished just release it on that day

[@noreign588]

Been a silent watcher, but i feel the need to comment. Thank you for uploading here daily, the topics really start my day and also remind me that gaming is still fun. You once mentioned that people watch your videos while driving to work, i am one of them😅 I'm saving up for a steam deck oled and hope to start gamig again soon.

[@Threesixtyci]

Can't wait 7 days? Or a few months for it to be reduced to 10 bucks.

[@giovannicasillas433]

Do your thing. Keep going !! ❤

[@EisOfSpades7]

You’re about to make me buy myself a bag of

[@TheTheory-zi3nf]

Almost jumped to the comments to check ya on “orange flavored coffee”

[@svenk5221]

I think early acess is stupid. Even though since I have a few days off work this week I spent 15€ euros more to play Darktide with my friend while I have time. But its 15€ more for 6 days and a lot of skins etc. Still a very bad trend. I am also diagnosed with adhd and have a lot of similarities with what you are sharing jobs etc. I can relate and know the wierd feeling being diagnozed late in life. (I wonder how you keep your place so nice.) Love your content (watching aince the days you were praising the series S 3 years ago) and wish you the best.

[@nawfsideg530]

41 and been playing games since Atari

[@mmonwabisimnamata3101]

Wow I thought I was too old to be playing video games but I think I will continue with my hobby and yes family comes first ❤🎉

[@SamiNasri-s3u]

Am 35 years old I got good job wage and good kids and there is nothing bad with video games better then stupid tv

[@Games-ks7bq]

Ты похож на аристократа в обертке геймера, это нормально, просто люди не замечают паттерны и не осознают время в которое мы живем.

[@alphaqlater]

5am streams especially on KZbin is my preference. But keep it up whichever.

[@ancoloco]

I can relate my brother.

[@jdxcoffee]

I am glad man

[@Diesel9530]

I'll game with you any day of the week and twice on Sunday bro

[@macaluso48]

I'll be honest gaming is getting old for me I got other things I'd rather do at my age but I still think fondly of them I just can't think of wasting the rest of my life on the screen I wanna be outdoors camping hiking fishing

[@jdxcoffee]

Yea. I’m sure I’ll get there more once my kids are older

[@macaluso48]

@ there will still be time for them but at the back of the Burner

[@Games-ks7bq]

You look like an aristocrat in a gamer's wrapper, that's fine, it's just that people don't notice the patterns and don't realize the time we live in.

[@L8NiteCoffeeSips]

I find this topic strange but hilarious. Gaming has been around for so long & it’s been enjoyed just like any other hobby such as fishing, collecting antique knives, play basketball. Where was all this nonsense about it being embarrassing all of a sudden for playing video games, even as an adult? Don’t make no sense whatsoever. Just play video games; & thanks to KZbin record & share with an audience, and enjoy yourself bruv.

[@BrentCox2B]

Dude your audio sounds so fucking good. Help me lol. I have like a semi decent 140 dollar condenser mic but not sure why it sounds so poor. Is yours a USB mic? Also, you make me want to up my cofee game haha. I have a bean box subscription and at least grind my beans but seeing you brew it like that makes me realize there's a whole lot more I could be doing haha

[@Ultecpo]

Im 48 and gaming 😎

[@romanov_uz]

41 and im still playin games from mb 7y.o. 👍

[@MotorAmerica]

Game Pass is goated.. lets be real

[@macaluso48]

You drink it black right the coffee

[@eraseone84]

Yet the people who judge ppl that play video games sit on social media/ KZbin watching some nonsense like keeping up with some random KZbin family drama 😂

[@gdizzzl]

Id puff with u bro

[@jamesfreeman3981]

Me and my wife and son game I'm 38 and my wife is 37 and my son 12 and we all watch anime as well

[@AnonymousTok3r]

Yo this is just your ADHD talking. I been there 20 years now. I see it clear as day. Its not that big a deal. FOMO isn't real. I will be playing it on GamePass on release. Not worried about playing it early. Delta Force is having a beta that weekend. And plenty of other games to play.

[@dziobusz]

I’ve always thought that video were good for you. I mean other people sit on the sofa soaking up the telly whereas gamers are engaged solving puzzles, strategising, using their imaginations. I don’t get why people try and demonise the hobby. And as to the whole focus thing I totally disagree. Video games demand and train your focus. It’s just that if you’re constantly playing video games you might not have time for all the other stuff 😂

[@rawzombie2696]

Damn brother not trying to be a hater but these videos are a slog to get through. From someone with ADHD I have to crank your video to 1.5x or 2x speed to get through this.

[@jdxcoffee]

Don't feel obligated to watch man, I don't take offense

[@HollowRick]

Just speed it up and enjoy there's no right way to watch something 😄

[@gdymfunyuns674]

Oh look another person who used adhd as an excuse to be rude lol

[@FarkyJ]

a peprsepctive from a 40 year old gamer...the golden ages of gaming are done...it was from the 1990s until i would say 2017 with rdr2....today gaming its for corpo and idealogy mesagging and the games are released in horrible technical state .today games like manhunt,kane&lynch simply couldnt be made...do i game?yeah still doing tekken online tourneys and from time to time play a title...but i remember that i played 3 titles a month...now i play 3 titles a year becouse 80 percent of games i find uninteresting...2024 i played this...banishers,wukong,space marine 2 and will play the new indiana jones for christmas..laso bought stalker2 but its unfinnished not worth my time...and i can tell you straight away what i will play 2025 becouse its pretty simple...kcd2,gta6 and crimson desert thats it...

[@godnamedtay]

Ur mustache to beard ratio is craaazy. Wayyy outta wack. Even that bs up bruh, tf.

[@jdxcoffee]

Keyboards bravery at it’s finest

[@piepie5285]

ADHD this ADHD that .... Dude sound overreacted af ...

[@DistastefulTofu]

First!

[@jdxcoffee]

welcome