Just Like That...3 More Months Of No Baby

[@J1737-t7y]

I am not a mother, nor am I an influencer, but you have every right to want more babies. Please try to ignore the rude comments. I have been watching you guys since I was in high school and hope to watch for many more years. My heart is with you guys ❤️

[@Dexy83]

Well said! 💯 💯 💯

[@jessicavanluyk3713]

I’m autistic and have felt so alone my grandparents don’t accept me and they just yell at me while having anxiety attacks they say to just get over it. They just don’t understand why so many things can be so overwhelming to me. I’ve had my saddest days watching you guys and other vlogers and you all leave such a positive community for everyone to be accepted so thanks for that! Thinking and praying for you wether thats through pregnancy or adoption it will be great ether way!!❤️🙏🏼

[@lexi7773]

You sound like a lovely person. God bless you. Hang in there. My son who is 30 and also has autism lives with my husband ( his father) and I. We feel so bless to have him with us. I can’t imagine daily life without him. ❤️

[@jessicavanluyk3713]

@@lexi7773 I also have a cousin with severe Autism on my dads side he’s 26. he lives with my aunt and uncle he also lights up all our lives in the family!! Thanks so much for the love!!❤️🥰

[@rauchlorraine]

Jessica you are a blessing!!! Seek the Lord in all you do and he will help you find peace. 💗🙏💗

[@lula366]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@saragoff9065]

I just want to give you a big hug. You are incredible and amazing and beautiful. I hope your days get better and your grandparents learn and accept you. I’m sending so much love your way Jessica. I hope your days get better sis! 🙏🏻💚🙏🏻

[@horizoon]

I'm still in the empty arms phase and now newly single. Thanks for sharing everything, it makes me and I guess a lot of others feel less alone. Just know that we are here, too and have your back in prayer 🤗

[@rachaelv1140]

I’m in a similar situation. This is such a hard stage to be in. I’m ready to be a mom, but the right relationship just has not came.

[@mrspaisley1]

Being single and longing to be a mother is so hard. I was diagnosed with infertility due to a genetic condition when I was 11. It’s a different type of hard, because it’s not easy to talk to people about when you aren’t married and trying for a baby.

[@Naomikemeny]

I am blessed to not have struggled with infertility, but following your journey has helped me be a better sister and friend to those who have/are. Thank you, and prayers your way.

[@cindyswanda6708]

Me too

[@Chelsea-jf9ho]

Same

[@agnesskibicka]

@@Chelsea-jf9ho we struggle with infertility but try to find happiness elsewhere. Greetings from Poland and my lifestyle and freedom channel 😊

[@xLISSFAERIx]

Hugs. We waited 7years with 4years of failed fertility everything including male factor, and out of the blue, God blessed us naturally. Don’t lose sight of what God promises, but also trust Him through the process and that His timing is perfect, and that He hasn’t forgotten you. ❤️

[@Cuckoobananarama]

When I had Covid, the headache and fever was the worst. Ended up in the hospital. ER doc said keep taking meds to help. Get better

[@jacquelynnjones1372]

I felt like a big sister was giving me a gentle reassurance the whole time you were talking Alex. and it was sweet. I am going through a very hard time right now with physical pain on my entire right side. I have tried it all. I have two young children who I want to run with and play with but I have to be very careful how I move my body. The mental toll is the worst right now. I feel so helpless. I feel depressed and sad: I keep asking God for healing and I am afraid healing will never come. If you are reading this please pray for me and for God to give me the mental peace as I parent my children while dealing with this inner struggle.

[@dawnstrickler4776]

You and Phillip keep doing what makes you happy. Your hearts are so full of the love you have for God, each other, your children and your fur-children. Clearly you have lots of love and still more love yet to give. God bless!

[@pjengland286]

*“JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE A DREAM, IT DOESN’T NEGATE THE BLESSINGS YOU HAVE”* So true!

[@2plus2by2]

That comment from Alex was so bang on.

[@melissaschneiter5938]

I struggles with infertility. Each of my 3 girls are about 6 1/2 years apart. So I have an 18 yr old, 12 year old and a 5 yr old. It's still painful when people say oh you have a wide age span. It isn't what I wanted but it is what God gave me. You will know when you are done! Until then continue your journey!

[@niknoks6387]

As a teacher I used to come down with illness a lot. I started taking high dose vitamin c, no more illness. Your stress will also lower your immunity. I hope you can get it under control soon. ❤️🇬🇧

[@tyc1Z.Z1]

Why not step up on citrus fruits, lime juice & gooseberry if you get these ? That would be the natural way to get Vit C.

[@theelusive11]

@@tyc1Z.Z1 maybe the person has other health issues and all the sugar from the fruits is too much?

[@tyc1Z.Z1]

@@theelusive11 Sugar & salt in processed food is far higher than what fresh fruits & veggies have . A single cookie or few spoons of processed juice has far higher amounts of processed sugar than an orange or other citrus fruits which have fructose. Plus its difficult to get high amounts of fructose from fruits when eaten in moderation . There are people who go on a complete Fruit diet or replace certain meals with fruits - that's excess. Depending on the variery, Lime has little to no fructose. Kiwi too has very less. Gooseberry none.

[@frankiesfrog1354]

Cassidy is so adorable packing her suitcase, adorable! Can we have some more blogs including your children - all the best x

[@jordanbdailey]

I’ve never understand why some people just want to drag others down. It’s just like you said, you can still mourn a reality you don’t have while being thankful for the things you do have. Sending love your family’s way. ❤️❤️❤️

[@aussiegirl2003]

Having been through my own fertility journey I understand how you feel. My journey ended with a husband that walked out because he was sick of the struggle, no children which also means no grandchildren . In the States with no other family. You are so blessed with your three girls, your husband and the life you have. God will help you through. Sometimes things just don't work out the way you want them to. Everything will be ok and you will get through this heartache. Focus on the 3 beautiful girls you have they love you so much and your sweet husband ❤ God Bless You

[@yvettedale6072]

I have two children but heartbreaking I’m never going to be a Nanny my daughter don’t want any & unfortunately my son married someone who’d already got 3 but he’d of loved his own. I’m 63 so this won’t ever happen 😭

[@nicolepapole]

​@@yvettedale6072 Sounds like you have the opportunity to be a grandmother to your son's step children, don't waste it waiting for blood.

[@yvettedale6072]

@@nicolepapole I tried but they never let me then the wife made sure he as nothing to do with his blood. I’d of loved them kids the same but they are adults now unfortunately & there’s a step great granddaughter he stopped me from seeing so I’m broken 😭

[@nicolepapole]

@@yvettedale6072 I'm so sorry. That sounds like an awful situation. I pray for your family to heal. 🫶🏼

[@kathleenclark815]

Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Who would want kids with such a weak man. Find a real man..they are out there! 😊

[@SeattleSun]

Cassidy toddling through the doorway with her boots on, cup and little bag! It's so sweet and heart warming seeing her mimmick her smart, kind sisters.🤍🤍🤍

[@sophiethestew]

My boyfriend and I are going through a rough time. We may need to take a break to let some healing happen and I’m very heartbroken and anxious. He’s my best friend and I don’t want to lose him but we may have to go into a season of waiting and in seasons like that we won’t have the security of a relationship. I’m praying and pleading with God to not take him away from me. My heart hurts. Thanks for the encouragement, Alex. I know that what I am going through is not the same thing as you but when you guys share videos, they are always so encouraging. I love how you guys do not shy away from God’s truth and are not ashamed.

[@bethkeiffer6955]

Bless you! Prayers and love! Thank you for being here!

[@bethopadeyi7184]

We've been trying to grow our family for 9 years. It's amazing some of the comments you get in person, I can't imagine what you "hear" on this platform. Praying that you remain steadfast and do what's best for you and your family.

[@allisondefranco2852]

Don’t let the negativity get to you…you guys are so great to watch as I go through my IVF journey.❤️

[@sandywinkowski4557]

Take heart maybe this is a good thing. In three months it will be cooler, so working outside won’t be a heat issue for Phil. Wishing for more children is personal and I don’t know why people feel their opinion needs to be voiced. Good luck with whatever you decide. Hugs💕

[@nattieh.6135]

My family/church family would also tell me “well at least you have one child, be thankful for that.” My response was always of course I’m thankful! But until you understand the desire in my heart that won’t go away please don’t comment. I now have two beautiful daughters. I believe God gives us those desires for a reason. Keep your head up. This is only a season and it won’t last forever. Your family will be complete. 💜 Also this may sound crazy but has Phil ever tried the ice bath challenge? 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve heard it has good benefits to health but never tried it myself.

[@simplyshannon9053]

I pray that people can just be loving and peaceful towards you in your journey! I feel blessed that you are vulnerable and share with us, it helps so many! You deserve to work towards the family you want to have💜

[@hannahbibby1488]

Thank you for sharing I love watching your journey. I didn’t suffer with infertility but my husband and I struggled with multiple pregnancy losses, due to a genetic issue. I have two children, and I am content with what I have - and don’t want to put myself through it anymore. I am so at peace with my decision to stop trying. I hope you find your ‘at peace’ number. Xx

[@CandidlyKim]

The longer it takes to have the next, the longer you get to have kids in the house. My youngest is twelve years younger then my oldest. I’m so glad I have one more of my babies left in my house. It’s too quiet when when their all gone. 🤗

[@PhilandAlex]

Kimberley this is such a great perspective. I love this! So beautiful

[@juliecourtney3523]

Awe!!!! YES!!!!

[@micheleparker8553]

Yep! Our oldest is 39 years old, and our youngest 17. All together 6 children. His two from prior marriage and my two from prior marriage. Then we adopted two daughters together. Our oldest kids made us grandparents to 15!!! We could never have imagined how our lives would have turned out.

[@shannonclaire7800]

Keep going, keep fighting for your future baby, that desires IS their for a reason it’s gods promise to you and to your family. I have 3 beautiful daughters and had a desire for a son for so many years and would constantly pray to god for him and he’s now 8 months old and everything I ever prayed he would be even down to his green eyes 😭 god is amazing and he will keep his promise to you. When I found out I was pregnant I prayed for my friend to be pregnant with me because she had to have ivf to conceive her twins, the doctors said because she and husband had infertility problems they would never be able to conceive naturally and god told me that they would and within a few months after I found out I was pregnant my friend conceived naturally with her little boy and their initials are both AJ 😭 praise god for answering prayers and keeping promises x

[@tinas8085]

Not to dismiss the chats on infertility but man, I needed that reminder that "I am who who you say I am" 🤦🏼‍♀️ knowing I am loved and enough as I am is something I often forget. I think we all do. Also, sickness is rampant in my workplace currently as are rumors and backstabbing. This reminder, is key!

[@5253mamabear]

I have been following you since you found out you were pregnant. I only have two kids but they have blessed me with seven grandchildren ages 9 to 24. I was thrilled with each and every addition. If you want more children, that’s wonderful. Sending love and prayers

[@emilyhayworth30]

I am so glad you said you know where your worth comes from! 💜 I have been watching your family grow for years! Even from the perspective of someone who doesn’t necessarily deal with infertility issues..we are human and should be able to feel our emotions without shame. We want to grow our family, but right now just isn’t the time due to other reasons within our family. My heart has grieved the lose of two babies and now yearns for one more to add to our three girls. God has his ways of teaching us patience💜

[@melissalong7169]

I cannot understand people who think that just because you want something new or more of something, that it means you are not thankful for what you do have. You shouldn't have to quantify that all the time. Anyone with eyes can tell you are very very grateful for what you have and that you absolutely adore your girls. I hear this same negative comment from so many that share their infertility journey. The reason why we want more children is exactly because we know how amazing it is to have those children! Sending lots of prayers and hoping that the supportive voices drown out the negative ones.

[@danielavalente5753]

Mothers are always criticized, especially by other women. This bad habit begins in pregnancy. This happens a lot here in Brazil.

[@saragoff9065]

💚

[@Dan5819]

Well-said!

[@melissalong7169]

@@dianee7778 would you say that to someone who could get pregnant easily?

[@deborahgee799]

@@dianee7778 wow! Who are you to tell people how many kids they are allowed to have? Just because she doesn't feel like her family is complete doesn't mean she needs counseling. How many kids to have and how to have them is completely personal and no one else's business.

[@rosemariebenintend6771]

IGNORE the persons who hide behind their computers spreading slop. YOU are too good for them. You DO have enough. You're ALLOWED to want more. You do you!

[@abigailm7783]

Love you guys so much. My 4 year old daughter wanted to pray for you today. And together we prayed for God's peace, healing, and a healthy baby for your precious family. ❤ If you ever travel to Maine. We would love to meet you!

[@sararistow6137]

I feel like your kids will someday look back with such gratitude that you fought so hard to have them, and their siblings ❤️ It’s a tenacious love, and they’re growing up in the light of it.

[@Kaj0699]

I also HATE “The Karens” comments/tags. Its so unfair. I feel kinda “bullied” by that phrase. Shouldn’t be allowed.

[@kendrasnowden9107]

When we were going throw infertility, I always prayed that if it wasn’t Gods will for us to grow our family that he would take that desire away. I don’t know why people can’t understand that just because we have blessings in our life doesn’t mean we don’t still hurt over past/current trauma and grief.

[@michellebridges2604]

Lifting y'all up in prayer ❤️

[@karengoutouski6157]

It has become easy for some people in this society to add negative comments about subjects and situations they have never experienced or lived through. When you want to grow your family and suffer from infertility you have so many obstacles to go through and the fact it may not happen it can be emotionally , physically and monatarily exhausting ..when other couples who want to grow their families who don't suffer from infertility they can just become pregnant and people don't judge them the same way..I could never have more children .I managed to have 2 daughters but was very ill with both of them and had to be bed ridden for most of their pregnancies . I also had 4 miscarriages. I sympathize with both of you with your pain unfortunately my marriage which was so very long ago could never survive the pain and sorrow . But you 2 are strong and loving together and with your strong faith in god you will overcome what ever the outcome . it can be very easy when your children are young to pick up illnesses and infections as parents you are very busy not only being parents but trying to keep a home stead going with animals garden and property and you seem to have been hit with some extra problems and stresses to see to

[@js35777]

sounds like y'all had the new strain of the -vid 😩 we had it!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for y'all!

[@RainbowfromHope]

Praying that your circumstances will change and that you’ll be able to do a new retrieval sooner than later 💙💙 Love yall 🤟🏼

[@adelehazeleyes]

Note on small kids and illness: a strong immune system might mean they still catch the bug and pass it on even if they don’t “need” symptoms to fight the illness (ex. runny nose, fever, etc.)

[@jennifersondej5551]

I started watching you five years ago and I have followed your Journey with your family and growing family. I have three daughters and I would of loved to have four or five but we didn’t because when I had my second daughter we found out when she was ten days she has (CF) cystic fibrosis we had an older daughter who does not have CF. We were done with growing our family so we thought but and I got pregnant on the pill and yes our third baby girl also has CF. I just want to say this to you Alex, I had some friends that said why did you want to have another baby when it’s a greater chance to have CF. Why are people so cruel? You are so strong woman and we are here for you through this thing they call Life. Love your family keep sharing😘🤗💕

[@terryjohnson7989]

Love and prayers dear hearts. I enjoy your family life, humor, faith, homesteading and health. This is life and I value this time I get to watch your life journey. I’m 67, widow and no grandchildren. You help me see the grace and gratitude God gives us. 🙏🏻✝️💟🙂

[@georgialee5032]

The best think I’ve heard is ‘other peoples opinion of you is none of your business’ So true! as long as you are happy in yourself and your decisions, that’s all you should care about x

[@candaceray5808]

Since school started our house has already had strep and colds. Gotta love school and the germs it comes with lol. I love watching y’all!

[@TheGamerGirls]

Alex have you had your home tested for Radon? We were getting sick a lot and someone suggested we have our home tested. It came back as needing remediation. Zinc, echinacea and grape seed extract are good natural options to reduce the time you’re sick. The three months will fly by. Sending love.

[@maxinetrix2889]

I was going to suggest radon also in there house?

[@nanna12crhil66]

Don't let others get you down. You & Phil are wonderful parents. I did not have infertility problems so I don't know what this must be like but I hope so much you are blessed with your dreams. I love your girls they are just so precious.

[@cozychaos9021]

I’m a momma to 7. Mix of adopted, bio and fostering and I’d love more! I gave birth 4 years ago and would love to be pregnant again, but it’s just not happening right now. Infertility sucks and just because my arms and days are full, that doesn’t take away the desire to carry another little one. People can be very rude and unkind. Praying for you and your journey!

[@toomanyboys]

Hey, Cozy Chaos! We are very similar. We have 7 as well and they came through birth, adoption, and fostering. I last gave birth 14.5 years ago (have adopted four times since then) and have been struggling with secondary infertility. I feel your pain. The desire to be pregnant again has never gone away and people don’t get it because I have 7 kids already.

[@MissTupsy]

I was very fertile.......to the point I was always afraid of getting pregnant. Believe me when I say this.....I have never, ever taken that for granted. I have two adult children now and a new grandson. My heart breaks for you and Phil and everyone else struggling with infertility. I did have a horrific time having my first.......c-section and then another surgery to tie off a bleeding vessel from the section. (Our family has big babies.......I gave birth to a toddler and I am small) but I did have another baby. I wish nothing but the best for you and Phil. Never give up your hope and stand strong in your faith. God already knows your plan.....the frustrating thing is you don't. You have a beautiful family and are amazing parents and if you want to expand your family you go for it!! It's your life to live and nobody else's. Sending you love and positive vibes. May God bless you all in your journey!!❤🙏

[@ceilidhmcphee8733]

Honestly, I think the stress you guys are going through with the current phase in your infertility journey will be having an impact on why your getting sick often. Look into things you can do to support your adrenals and hopefully that’ll help! Xx

[@zoebyc7797]

We are in Canada and have been struggling with infertility for 14 years. Now have been on adoption wait list for 6 years and still waiting. Empty arms phase still here and appreciate everything you share.

[@MagicalSoulMindStorm]

Six years on a waitlist for adoption! Wow. Is it because you would like a baby/young child? If open to it you might look into foster to adopt programs and older sibling/family groups adoption. There are many great older children who need families in the foster care system.

[@dorys201]

I highly appreciate your words in the beginning of this video. I needed it today. My fiancé and I are ready for a home and I feel that after 3 years of infertility, this is what it'll take for us to finally receive our 1st blessing. However, my brother is making it seem like we're not allowed to be selfish about our life, trying to manipulate our situation and ruin our relationship for his gain of keeping us living in his efficiency and taking advantage of our money. We have nothing to prove to him and wanting to have our own home does not mean we're not thankful for the time he pretended to selflessly help us by renting his home's efficiency to us while allowing him to take advantage of our kidness. We were blessed with the opportunity to save to grow and we will not allow him to make us feel like we don't deserve to live better.

[@sarahglines403]

I am so encouraged by you, Alex ♡ also, our homestead is beginning too, and this year was a rough garden year. You got wayyy more tomatos then we did. Chipmunks got to ours :/ we are expanding our garden next year, so hopefully this year will just be a launching pad for next! (We also got more chickens and GOATS!)

[@agnesskibicka]

@Sarah, we are also just starting our homestead journey! Blessings from Poland 🇵🇱 and my lifestyle and freedom channel 😊

[@candisbar524]

I love you and Phil. You are the age of my daughters. So my heart goes out to you when you hurt. You're right about not finding your self worth in the comments of strangers. It's about loving God, your husband, and your family. By the time you've made all of you happy, you can't worry about everyone else's opinion. Love and prayers to you and your family, and your dreams.

[@sarahsassy100]

This made me smile. I remember my son joking “too much love! Too much love!” I wasn’t able to have any more children. I smother him constantly lol. Sadly I nearly died having him and wasn’t able to have any more children. But I adore him and smother him with love constantly lol.

[@AD12396]

When you put your life out for everyone to see, you have to expect negative comments along with the positive ones. You are blessed to have three beautiful girls and if God has a plan, he will bless you with more. Otherwise, be happy and cherish all you have today as I am sure you do every day.

[@nikkialgien3546]

People can just shut it, if they cant say anything nice, and she is grateful but they want more!! Its America and they have that right.

[@haleyjo04]

I’ve really had a difficult time watching your vlogs lately, because we are in such similar positions. We have a son and want to grow our family, but male factor infertility is hitting us hard. My family will be praying for you all. 🖤

[@kaystar1844]

Male factor infertility is hard because of how little they can do to help.

[@csayres8284]

I think it's extremely important to show people that the pain doesn't go away just because you have success in building your family at times and fertility Infertility is a lifelong Challenge that leaves scars in reminders constantly

[@marydroid5801]

But it should go away after a certain number of kids. Come on!

[@angela_flute52689]

1:20 you need a new knife! A $30 Victorinox chef's knife that you get sharpened for $3 a few times a year is worth way more than you pay for it, especially with all the cooking you do. No more smooshed tomatoes you have to saw through. Just hand-wash and be gentle with the blade (like you should for any knife). I have their bread knife and two paring knives (different sizes) too and that's all I need. They're so cheap and so great. Totally agree on the dreams and blessings bit. I'm sorry you're in a frustrating place and I'm glad you can see gratitude and find hope in the midst of it. We let illnesses run their course without excess meds too but don't get sick nearly as often. Fully vaccinated (parents and 7- and 3-year-old), home-cooked meals, CDC Covid precautions the first two years, public school, church, no daycare... regular life. Tylenol is the only thing that will clear my headaches but that's it unless we're really sick and need Pepto Bismol, Tylenol, or Ibuprofen. Sorry you have to deal with that. I really don't like waiting, and infertility waiting is such an ever-present drudgery of anticipation and worry. Ugh.

[@gloriaverhoeven]

Sometimes illness attack when we are at a very low point. Stress is a huge compromise to the immune system. Staying consistent with supplements with what you may be lacking or low on for your needs is important too. I know you know this already but don’t push it aside. Our minds are strong. Making sure your vitamin C intake EVERY DAY is there as well as magnesium- there’s different kinds too so research on what kind would be best for your needs and be consistent. Or eat more of those good that’s have that💕 Hope this helps. And you’re RIGHT! Your body is made to fight it off!👏🏽

[@carriesessum2505]

I am no doctor!! I’m so glad you are going to check for hidden mold in and around your home .. also in saying the kiddos aren’t sick as much , life can do that too the 2 of you are always so positive and caring yet have been going through so much stress ,worry, can come as illness to ! 🙏🏼for health in all aspects 💙

[@redbarnhomestead7384]

It’s NOT different kids she wants, it is MORE kids. Likely it is BECAUSE she loves her kids so much. Also, I believe a parent knows if there is another soul that belongs in their family. No one else does.

[@lyndseydaigle1887]

I am right there with you with getting sick. If it's not one thing its another! Now I am waiting for gallbladder surgery! You are an amazing mama! Chase the dreams God puts in your heart!

[@lacharity]

Discovered your channel because of infertility and interest in adoption. It took us 11 months to have our first daughter, one month to have our 2nd, but had a bedrest pregnancy due to a huge hematoma that was under the placenta. Took over 18 months to have our 3rd daughter. Hematoma with her as well, but less severe. Gave birth naturally 3 times. Thought we would want a 4th, but our family felt complete so I completely understand the desire on your heart. Our youngest is 7 years old. I'm still very much in love with your channel because of your frugality, the little farm you are building, the homeschooling and your personalities. We've been homeschooling for 9 years. In the last year, we found our faith and we added 2 dogs. Our family is whole. The house and pick-up truck are full, haha! So is my heart! Thank you for being there for others. Thank you for being you. We love Phil & Alex!

[@bevjkennedy]

God's timing is perfect! So just relax and wait and see what happens. I am praying for your and your husband to get your dreams answered.

[@WendyLou72]

I am praying for you guys!! I was able to have one child 29 years ago, and just like that no more babies, I was so upset bc I had a severe case of endometriosis and there was no possible way for anymore,@ 22 I had to have a full hysterectomy. I was completely devastated, and I prayed so much God said this is your journey so I had to accept it..I really wish you well on your journey 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️Wishing you the very best...

[@julieshrock4392]

I had fertility difficulties before my third after having spontaneous twins. It is hard going through infertility regardless if you have previously had children. You know as a mom when your family is complete and it is okay to grieve if the process to completing your family is difficult.

[@saragoff9065]

I have an Aunt Karen who is incredible. She loves calling obnoxious people “ Karen’s”. Lol. I think it’s funny. And to the people who want to judge, go elsewhere. Sending good vibes and lots of love to you and yours. I hope everyone is having a wonderful day. 💚💚💚

[@nicky740]

I’ve been following your channel since the beginning. It’s been wonderful to see you get your 3 daughters. It’s also totally valid to be sad about wanting more children through pregnancy and that not coming right now. I’m sorry people can be so mean. Yes, it sucks that there are people out there who don’t even have one child but we cannot always compare people’s situations. That truly sucks for them. And it also can still suck for you right now. I’m in a very different situation because I have been able to conceive without intervention and I want a second baby sooooo badly. We likely won’t have issues conceiving given our past (but who truly knows) but it’s not a safe or responsible option for me to get pregnant any time soon given health issues. I’m in a weird place because it’s not infertility but I have to wait 1-2 more years to even try again given my health and I hate it so much. I’m thankful I didn’t need intervention in the past. I feel for you. My feelings are not the same as yours but I know how much my heart hurts in my situation and cannot fathom situations of others with harder struggles. All the love ❤

[@emiliageraci4308]

Don't let those comments get you down you do as your heart desires. You are a wonderful mom and have the right to want more children . People are just jealous of what you have.

[@cdhbaker01]

Alex thank you for sharing with us. I too am in a wait season. We all face them. I pray your season of waiting on God isn't long. As the song says "I've tasted Your goodness and trust in your promise. " Gods timing isn't ours usually but when He says it's go time He blesses far beyond what we had planned. Love you my sister in Christ and praying with you as we both in our own issues wait on Gods timing.

[@sandrasnow3569]

I think often the negative comments come from people who are hurting. Maybe they don't have any children and cannot possibly understand still hurting after having what they desperately hope for. Before I had my little herd of children, I had a brief bout of infertility, and I could see myself lashing out in a similar manner during that time period. All I could see was my own pain and nothing else was comprehensible to me. It doesn't make it right, but it does put it in perspective. That being said, your feelings are normal and are perfectly okay. I think wanting more children is a very noble desire.

[@samclary8914]

Waiting is the hardest part. Waiting with empty arms, waiting for the next test or whatever it’s all so difficult.

[@saltynewfie7257]

Best wishes and prayers for more baby blessings, the more children, the more love is created, God bless you all

[@susanrnbc]

I stopped taking the skins off my tomatoes years ago! For canning and freezing! Consider cutting up your tomatoes with a good serrated knife-easier to get through the skin.

[@SassyCindy]

I’m so sorry that you get negative feedback and comments. I have you and your family in my prayers. I admire you for wanting to grow your family and I love that you continue to try. Stay strong in your faith and know that God has a plan and he loves you so much. As far as being sick, STRESS may have a lot to do with that. Sending love, hugs, prayers and positive vibes. ❤️

[@beautiful_one]

As I said in a comment on your previous video, you have a beautiful family and beautiful life but that doesn’t take away the grief of infertility. God knows the desires of your heart and His opinion is the only one that matters at the end of the day. Haters gonna hate as they say, you are so right when you say you know where your worth is, that’s such a powerful place to live in. Keep going Alex! You’re doing great! X

[@jensteffes1887]

Waiting is sooooo stinking hard but when I'm waiting I tell myself God's timing is far better than our timing even if we can't see it in the moment. I will continue to pray for your family and pray He blesses you with another bundle of joy. 🙏

[@marilouo4321]

I watched a couple of early videos of you a few years ago. Seeing you today, you have grown through your trials. You have a calmess about you and your perceptions on life and family are heart warming. ❤️

[@Kristen242008]

I have popped in here many times over the years and checked in on you guys. I have PCOS, and had fertility issues of my own, though I was able to get pregnant 3 times naturally. One of those ended in miscarriage though. In regards to you guys getting sick a lot, you do get sick more often than my husband and I do. Most we ever really get is a cold, or the occasional stomach bug. I'm not sure when the last time I have ever had a fever was? Honestly, I don't think I've been down with a high fever in the whole 14 years we've been married. That could be due to the fact that I'm Autistic, and never really go anywhere. Don't hang out with anyone since the idea of going to anyones house is stressful to me (and I don't want anyone to come over and invade my home and make it lose it's safe feeling). Have you ever heard of Black Elderberries? They are a natural immune system booster. We religiously eat Black Elderberry gummies, though there is a syrup version that you can take too. It's all natural, and you can even make your own syrup if you grow your own Black Elderberry bush. Maybe something to look into? Might also be a good idea just to check into an immunologist just to see if you do have a weaker immune system than normal.

[@Mabeljo2022]

When I was 10 I told my mom that instead of getting presents for my birthday. I want to help the kids at Riley Hospital in Indianapolis. So I take Build-A-Bears up to the heart center at Riley. God put it on my heart to help kids.

[@alyssam2938]

I really appreciate you sharing your infertility journey. The waiting game is so so tough. Praying for you guys!

[@TaliyahMC]

I am trying to get my "homestead" up and running. I dislike gardening (I know some people love it...that just isn't me)...but I do love freeze drying, canning, etc. We bought our property mid summer so no harvest this year, but looking forward to next year....love you guys so much. God Bless!

[@susanm7359]

Sorry for this medical hardship. Life is what it is, sometimes good, sometimes not so good. GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY.

[@heleniddon8323]

Probably already been told this; but I got told after countless IVF tries that I needed to accept I wasn’t going to carry a child; then someone told me that when you know your fertile after intercourse tilt your hips or put a cushion under lower back/bottom or raise your legs against a wall without getting up {sorry if this corses offence I’m not meaning too} what had I to lose. I now have 2 beautiful daughters and it even worked for a friend who couldn’t conceive; again this comment isn’t meant to upset you or anyone reading this, but apparently we get up too quickly afterwards and tilting your hips helps things {sperm go in the right direction} please remove this comment if it offends, wish you and your family so much love and happiness x ❤️

[@peepeenuggerman5717]

I found that cutting sugar and carbs from my diet, has helped me not get sick. We have two little ones my two year old has only been sick a handful of times since he was born. It was very short lived, though and always pretty mild. Focusing on Whole Foods and cutting processed food, is a game changer too!

[@maritoh.6710]

You must be new hhahaha they eat almost no sugar and grow their own food so... maybe that's not it.

[@paulinemcallister9855]

Yes I eat cake 🍰 suger no illness took no vaccines all that took it are still ill and so many have pass away all got vaccine x

[@kscheuerman5378]

Alex, my heart goes out to you. I hope this helps & you don't mind a perspective from an older lady that has had some experiences & listened to many wonderful talks. My husband grew up in a household where everyone is negative in their words & quick reactions to each other. (He never showed me this side of him & his family was fine while we dated 32 yrs. ago. It has been a rough go.) For him & his family it is a generational bondage thing where they are unable to see & choose in the moment to react differently to each other. They really struggle!! However, his family members would never ever say an unkind word on any channel like yours. They would be kind here, no problem! Adding to what you said about God's love, this is why we have to remember that God knew us (he knows our wounds) & loved us before we were born. He loves us, no matter what. Please try to have a perspective that there are people who are in pain & without thought, transmits their pain onto others. (What is not healed is transmitted!) This is the hardest part to understand, there are also people who do seek to cause evil & pain to other's deliberately. This is a whole different category! I have seen people (on various channels, in the comments) in action, it's on a level that doesn't make any sense. Our heart's want so badly to make sense of these things, but it's impossible. However, we keep trying!! I write this in hopes you will be able to put certain people in 1 or 2 categories, or I say compartments, where they can not hurt you anymore. I so hope this makes sense & it helps you. You never have to explain your heart to anyone who already cares for you & loves you. I know you know this. It is impossible to convince or explain, well enough, your feelings (the beautiful desires of your heart, that GOD gave you, to have children) to any person who can not love. All you and Phillip do, is your best to share your love of God, to show the Godly ways to love your family & neighbor's and so encourage & inspire us to do the same!! Thank you for all you do in God's name. (including growing food) God Bless You Both

[@shelbyhanna5821]

We are currently trying for a 3rd baby we are going into our 5th month.. it’s so hard to not be upset 😭 Always praying for you & your family. 💕

[@shelbyhanna5821]

I would also suggest switching out your filters in your house once a month. That may help. I just got over a horrible sinus infection but the pollen has been so bad where I’m from.

[@foofookachoo1136]

U have such a soothing voice and a sweet demeanor, Alex!! U make me feel good and also calm me down, if I need too! A new baby is in your near future, I feel! I will go to our Lord and pray, for this tiny new life, that will soon be in your arms, to love!

[@debrabates7446]

For freezing tomatoes I just take the vine part out and throw them whole into a bag. When I want to use I defrost and use a hand blender to blend them up and break down the skin. Then I cook them up in whatever recipe I want. So simple. I learned that from my MIL she did that for 35 yrs before showing me and Ive done it for 35 years.

[@RMarie62]

Some people just will never understand why the need for more children some of us like myself will never have a second child but the need and the hurt for that second child never go away. My heart goes out to you. All the pain and sense of loss that I myself have had , i will never understand why you should have not have more children my .May God help you on the journey you are on be strong and hold on to each other

[@susannahedwards8230]

I saw your last video ( well I watch all of them). First I want to say omg I can not believe that some people where mean to you guys while you poured your heart out. Yes 100% it's there problem, they must have some serious issues them self to to that. I understand the love of being pregnant I can see you guys also love adopting. Have you thought about mixing the 2 and adopting embryo's so you get the best of both worlds. Also by adopting a embryo what ever heart gene that Philip holds won't possibly play a roll. I mean that last part not to make Philip feel bad, I just don't know how to word that better. Love Philip to bits , but you both have shown over the years that you love all your kids equally regardless of genetics. So why not adopt a embryo then you can move forward faster, limit heart risk and give a embryo already made a chance at a loving life in your beautiful family. What ever you guys do I will respect, support and follow. Your channel keeps me going ( said this before). You guys are the best! I wish I was adopted by you guys and could have my child hood over running around that awesome farm. Going back to the idea of embryo adoption it kinda blends the beauty of both previous ways you have grown your family as well. I will always watch you no mater what you post about. You are my favourite channel and never miss a video. I'm sorry you are having a hard time currently, please please PLEASE never apologise for vids or feel like you are posting to much of one thing. Your hard core following like my self love you guys for YOU. Yes we love to see you happy in the garden or having fun being positive but you get to feel your feelings to. We can support you guys in return in times like this. Just keep making videos when you feel like it. Take some family time, now ...I quote you guys here...." YOU ARE LOVED, YOU ARE WORTHY" ( Words that saved my life years ago).

[@susannahedwards8230]

Oh I want to add this, what makes your channel is very different to others. Yes it may of started from a infertility journey, but it's grown into a beautiful blend ( don't have a word to describe). I never had infertility not religious live on the other side of the world. You guys even when your videos where only realy about infertility still managed to touch my heart, help me through very hard times in my life. All with out judgement of others or excluding anyone. Your family is so special in so many ways. For me what I see is love, adversity, compassion, dream building, fun and support. So again what ever your videos are about that shines through. You could make a video on how to tie shoe laces and I'd still watch it lol. So much to look forward to watching you guys, this is a bump in the journey but not a road block I feel and I know we will see you pregnant again be it a magical natural pregnancy, IVF or embryo adoption. Mean while also can't wait to see the birth vid of butter cup and your next garden up date. So many good times I feel just around the corner for you all.

[@angelrn23]

Every single word of this!!! 👆🏼

[@brookemcc]

Alex I completely understand where your coming from. Having a dream of having a baby controls your every thought whether you have a family already or not. I pray that one day you will feel complete. Accepting that I would be childless was the hardest thing I have ever had to do but man oh man I thank god for that everyday because it was the most liberating feeling I have ever felt.

[@espresso3623]

No one ever said you’re not grateful just be thankful

[@jgreeze2040]

Thank you Alex and Phil for sharing your life with us! You inspire me and make me want do better in life!

[@MagicalSoulMindStorm]

You can have dreams! Like you said, People dream of many things - children, better job, nicer house, etc. Still happy with what you have, but have goals too! Definitely look into forest schools, Reggio Emilia, or Montessori preschool programs and/or local charter schools. Charter schools are local, public schools (so free), yet they each have different focuses & ways to teach. We have one that is environmentally focused and project based that is located on a Girl Scout summer camp campus. You just have to look around your area.

[@TeresaG59]

I love you & your family. Too bad people have to criticize others for things they have no idea about. I think they need to go back & watch your older videos. People can be so cruel. I wish I had been able to raise my children the way you are raising yours. May God continue to bless you. Sending lots of love & hugs.

[@nicolepapole]

Sending you so much love as you navigate this very trying time. I'd love to hear your thoughts on embryo adoption. From an outsiders perspective it feels like it may be an excellent option for you. Being able to experience pregnancy and also not have to work through the challenges that are presented through your past IVF attempts. Once again, sending so much love. 💜

[@enaramist]

My cousin did this, she did IVF with donation ovule and got twins ! They are already 6 :) !

[@cristinweekley2547]

It’s okay to share what you want and when your ready and that’s okay.😊🙏🏼

[@cindysnc2656]

You are very blessed with your precious girls

[@janicewatts4444]

I love watching your videos. You do an amazing job with your children. God gave them to you to love and to cherish. And you sure do. I would have given anything to have more children but two babies was all I got. And very proud of them and I know you are proud of your children as well. Take care and God bless you

[@lynbraybrook7654]

Drooling over your tomatoes,in nz they are so expensive at the moment , sending you positive baby vibes xx