Is It Okay To Be Annoyed By Your Partner?

Gabe and John have a lot to talk about.
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[@bretteelana189]

I can watch phantom mentally process that the trumpet sometimes plays the tune of lies

[@greenglassgoblin]

phantom is soo smart I love him

[@acidix983]

"the thing about me is I never learn" oh boy, that shot directly through the facade into my brain lol.

[@rowanketcheson]

the pure joy on Alison's face when John said he made a list was delightful

[@LoveCrumb]

"That's how she gets you." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@zara.1212]

i haven’t watched in quite some time and omg! alison is married! that’s so lovely :) and gabe looks so good! nice to see you guys happy!

[@mishasamuel]

As someone with contamination ocd I feel less alone in the world watching Allison explain that she tracks what touches what… sigh

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

I love Allison watching her two life partners trauma bond

[@sophieelsa7469]

I totally respect you and I know you probably just didn't know, but I want to jump in here immediately and let you know that that's not what a trauma bond is. A trauma bond is a psychology term for what happens when an abuser will give love and take it away in order to make their victim uniquely attached to them. It's why a lot of abuse victims will cling to the dynamic, or why they will keep ending up with abusive partners- there's something 'special' and addictive about that abuse cycle. I know that language changes and that it's probably too late to get people to stop saying this (along with completely butchering the definition of 'gaslighting'), but it does make it harder for abuse victims to be taken seriously when they talk about their own cycles of trauma bonding. I don't say this to be rude, but I think one should know the context behind what they say so they know what they're /actually/ saying without even knowing it. Again, I know you probably didn't mean anything by it and there's no ill feelings here, but I feel it is my duty to inform people whenever I see it xoxo

[@amaraokeke4646]

@@sophieelsa7469 I was gonna point this out in a much less nice way

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

@@sophieelsa7469 they're literally bonding over enduring the same kind of horrible behavior from an ex, it's not that deep sis

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

I'm using the term to be descriptive, it's bonding over trauma, and if you can't parse the nuance or someone else can't, that's not my responsibility. It's a KZbin comment guys

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

That being said, I appreciate the context. Thanks for explaining

[@kaskus7147]

I had roommates who "didn't care about things" and I had no problem with that as long as it was just their things. The problem came when they extended that to my things. The broke things of mine, they would borrow things of mine and then lend them to other people without asking me first, and at a certain point when they were moving out I had to start checking all of their boxes to make sure they weren't taking things that belonged to me. It was difficult.

[@kodschiec5614]

Omg, I had a roommate like that. He would take my stuff without asking and sometimes even break it without telling me. Honestly it wasn't just irritating, it was hurtful. Like, you care that little about potentially hurting me?

[@L0VEisAmixtape]

As someone with OCD, it's super helpful to hear yall conceptualize it

[@classic.caitlin]

The self-tape discussion had me howling 😂😂😂

[@eblake3617]

I love how Gabe feels so vidicated!

[@greenglassgoblin]

4:10 not Allison's work husband corroborating her husband husband's story

[@SerenaPalmer]

2 goofs per 1 annoy ✍️✍️✍️

[@heartshapedfox.]

john looks like a lesbian named dawn (complimentary)

[@Morslatke]

as someone who is also extremely annoying and has also been told that I am very funny, I feel extremely seen by Allison lol. humor is honestly the best coping mechanism

[@paulasanmillan9862]

it gives me such comfort that you are still here

[@bennettcafarelli7066]

Sending this to my partner rn because the stress around trying new foods/restaurants and receiving a nightmare sauce meal is SO ME

[@vanessax6938]

I love how much Gabe and John bonded in this video. Also, I've been watching y'all since the Buzzfeed days, and I always look forward to your videos/podcast 💜

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

Allison big ups for posting this, I appreciate you modeling receiving feedback gracefully

[@rui4724]

The most annoying thing about me is that I will call off a friendship before I try to give you a chance to explain your shitty behavior towards me.

[@willow8665]

really enjoyed this video! I have a hard time with trying new things too, I can sometimes, but mostly prefer to stick to what I know I love because it's comforting... Opposite about objects though, I get so attached to them

[@sashamendieta2570]

I am biased as a person with OCD but OF COURSE my stuff is cleaner than my partners stuff because i am constantly cleaning it (because i am not well haha).

[@chelsea3177]

Same!

[@stephenie44]

Apparently, the most annoying thing about me is thinking that trying to solve the problem IS validating that the problem exists and is important. And I know this doesn’t go over well, so I try to be like, “ugh, that’s so frustrating! I hate that you’re struggling with this, what bs.” But the whole time, I’m like, did I do the thing so we can move on to actually validating it please?

[@krovidae]

Dude this is the first video from this channel to be recommended to me in absolutely ages even tho I have the freaking bell on. Why does youtube even pretend to have these features when they don't do anything 😠 On the bright side, now I have a bunch of vids to binge... but THAT'S NOT THE POINT 🤣

[@ughwhymustthisoccur]

in my head cannon gabe and john are allisons brother wives in a twisted threes company situation

[@vsvsvs340]

hi allison! reminding you your mom’s birthday is coming up on 05/29!!

[@JustBetweenUs]

Thank you!!

[@nezbut7]

love that allison ended this video so pleased

[@geosndrsn]

loved this ep, love when john joins you !!!!

[@iconoclastic-fantastic]

16:29 this literally was my ex. she has bpd and any time there was conflict (even if there wasn't conflict and i came to her saying i had a bad day or something), she would escalate it and turn it into some blowout and make me feel insane for literally just trying to have a dialogue with her. nightmare. never again

[@TheEighthAct]

*proceeds to give me my least favorite jazz sounds*

[@tayloruth]

this was so bizarrely elucidating

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

Gabe and John podcast dropping when?

[@davidaarthur]

1.58 That dog looks so betrayed!

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

Okay we love john though, thank you for bringing him back

[@TheFrogottenDoctor]

I feel so validated by Allison, like looking in a mirror.

[@ilovepurple6816]

An ex of mine developed contamination OCD while we were together and this made me feel seen haha.

[@kennyjac]

Lol, im more annoying than moody these days too. Growth!

[@marykatespencer9097]

This was sooooo funny 😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤

[@marieluise6907]

Love this

[@elinor2667]

Is Gabe drinking a Mountain Dew

[@caltheantirobot]

I was reading it at Lime LaCroix around the 14:30 mark you can see the side of the can best.

[@WeTheDylan]

This video made me wonder if I have ocd.

[@quasimeowdo]

I would like a video on how not to be moody please.

[@love1love3love]

Gabe's watermelon tattoo

[@wayneessar7489]

I though Igor had returned for a moment...!

[@ughwhymustthisoccur]

everyday i hope and pray

[@StelenaVD]

Gabe with the watermelon tattoo!!!

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

Allison big ups for posting this, I appreciate you modeling receiving feedback gracefully

[@thehomunculi5824]

You're giving Baby Reindeer with all these comments

[@thatgirlhasathousandplans]

I havent watched the full video so im sorry if i get something wrong but ive definitely dated people who made a huge deal out of being annoyed by my habits even in jest and it altered the way i saw myself and dealt with my self image for a long time (even though at the time i laughed through it and somewhat enjoyed the moments of being center stage). Now i really dislike it and find it infantalizing.

[@bite_me411]

Me too. The vibe of this felt like bullying to me. If my partner listed of all the ways the symptoms of my illness annoys them it would crush me.

[@aurelijs8891]

Allison and Jhon are such a good looking couple!

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

Being annoying is NOT illegal dammit

[@HearteyesHayley]

John looks like Mike Faist

[@mewow6406]

Why is the sound on this video grating me

[@mewow6406]

I think the mic isn’t centered so I hear gabe too loud and can’t hear Allison very well

[@1greenline2]

I also make my partner adopt my contamination habits (unsuccessfully) because it feels like if we're both clean then I can approach them more comfortably lol

[@PokhrajRoy.]

No, they should only be annoyed with me lol jk

[@davanharvey4247]

I love John and loved this video, but I’m glad John didn’t give us the dogs for free in this

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

People annoy each other

[@krissp8712]

Wow ah, you posted quite a few comments I see

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

It's normal, I can tell you that much

[@verkanntoderverwunschen]

😂 still haven‘t seen la la land 📋 for me the generalized anxiety thing of it just randomly attaches itself in a round-about way which makes it fairly unpredictable what the next fear source may become and what‘s behind that is usually a twist thing feels wild. where i could be scared of something one day but the next time i encounter something similar it doesn‘t strike any fear and i‘m just left wondering why it made me reactive then and not now ??? usually it almost feels more like my triggers of fear are fear-outlets energetically with such a diversion from what they may have bubbled up from experientially. like the consistency with the fear is much more subcobscious than the fear-attachments for me! annoys me about myself, the lack of red thread in that 🧐

[@solvseus]

Never seen Sugar that excited ever

[@frocktopus9429]

I love the Pavlov dog stuff😭 I give my cat treats at bedtime, and share my bfast with her (I have chicken for bfast) so now she’s my alarm clock t go to bed, and goes yells at my carer when she hears me awake to make me food (she has worked out though when I have psychosis I will just give her half a pack of treats sometimes which she’s not supposed to have, so she comes yells at the box the treats live in when my voice goes weird. Amd when I used a wheelchair, I hit hr with it once and sh got loads of fuss and attention, so she’d lie in front of me like a meter away and cry like she was hurt then go up to one of us for picking up. She is a scammer lol)

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

Every happy marriage I've seen involves a healthy amount of playful annoying each other