i’m in a weird place…

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[@malibubarbi01]

Before you said anything I was thinking “omg her hair is beautiful”. You don’t need to tame it at all girl.

[@lovelybaby517]

I thought the same thing!!

[@michaela4340]

I wish my hair would do that lawwwd it’s gorgeous

[@ashley__c]

Yes. My thoughts!!!!😍

[@thisisme2526]

Me too!! I have natural wavy/curly hair too, but I like to curl with heat or use a straight iron. I wonder if mine looks good too without the extra "taming"? Hmm...Lol

[@jenahgraham9772]

Yeah, I was like tame what??

[@ashleydoris5027]

You talking to a bug in a jar is how my social life is currently going. XD

[@drawwithmissroberts]

YES! ME TOO LOL

[@caitlynnichols]

This accurately describes me! 🤣

[@SarahSmith-df7ny]

Saaaame!

[@camrynh]

Girl stay single. Seriously it is SO good for you especially since you’ve been in relationships your whole life. Took me 5/6 years of perpetually being single to find my one. You got this, have fun with you time!

[@TheLilacBloom]

agreeee hehe!

[@dionnecelinpaul]

agreed.

[@Elizabeth-jo7vw]

fцику мцику I mean she doesn’t need to be in a relationship for that 😂

[@funkymunky]

@@Elizabeth-jo7vw Mr. Pink can't make kinky love to her.

[@missjul8]

No need to find "your one" (which doesn't exist by the way, it's unrealistic). You can live independent of intimate/"romantic"/sexual relationships. Adopt if you can, but you don't need partner(s) to survive.

[@jholmie6016]

socialising is totally exhausting!!! you're not crazy!

[@danielleelizaharpz]

I am so glad you are posting even if you are in a wierd place. I am going through a whole whack of shit and knowing I am not the only one struggling with myself is a good feeling. Your videos help me alot. So thank you for posting through it all.

[@zari2662]

I second this comment.

[@KatieRingley]

Third - never leave us🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@aine4116]

You’re natural hair is my Dream hair it’s so beautiful

[@Oscar-tf9vo]

Aine her hair is BEAUTIFUL it’s messy beachy hair in the best way possible

[@MayraLissete]

Girl ur hair looked better before you tried to "fix it" with ur straightener. I have naturally curly hair as well tho and no you got me wondering if i should embrace it more often because urs looks so pretty.

[@toriismakeup]

Lisette Lo juice

[@jazzmander13]

When you said you make the bug house because you were bored...I felt that lmao.

[@LizziesAnswers]

"I think honestly, this is going to sound crazy, but I think I am exhausted from socializing" NOT surprising AT ALL or crazy for you haha! You're the hugest introvert 😂😘 This is expected and normal to us!!

[@princesss222]

agreed, i love her for it

[@rosecheesecake]

i love you liz

[@StephanieP3]

Panthers Hornets same!!

[@kristinmayer1786]

"I think I'm exhausted from socializing" ... Same, girllll

[@notaboutthat1219]

Your natural hair is soo much nicer than what resulted from the ironing.

[@haleyplott6973]

I really resonated with how you're feeling. My boyfriend just broke up with me and all I do is go to class and do homework. I do like being alone but sometimes the loneliness hits hard. Life is feeling just like a bad dream.

[@claireashley]

You look stunning! I love your natural hair!!

[@erstewoelfin]

Thank you for opening up in your recent videos and starting conversations about important issues

[@caitlin3542]

Sometimes it feels like I’m watching myself. I’m in college right now and I seriously go to class and then walk right back to my apartment. I don’t really talk to anyone in class or at my apartment (I have a roommate but she’s never here). It felt kind of weird at first, to be so anti-social, but honestly I feel fine with it. I love having time to myself for self-reflection and figuring out what really interests/inspires me. Maybe we’re both in a transitional period and that’s why it feels strange or maybe we just think it should feel strange because that’s what society tells us. Either way, I’ve loved seeing your personal growth over the years and it’s just really nice to see someone who feels the way I do. (Also this is totally random and off topic but Sweetener by Ariana Grande is so good and I totally recommend it lol)

[@meganstardust]

I totally relate to this. I also just go to college, don't really talk to anyone and then go home lol. I've been thinking the exact same things about whether or not being this anti-social is strange or if it's just what society tells us to feel. But also, I've been becoming more and more okay with being alone. It's nice to see other people feel the same way.

[@samanthaelizabeth8330]

Yes college can be so weird! So many people but at the same time it can feel so lonely.

[@rienzib]

Caitlin McWilliams Hey, listen to take me to the disco by Meg Myers!!

[@emigrd]

Yep, Bougie means Candle in french... As a french native speaker everytime someone says Bougie I picture a candle in my head and I think to my self : "why don't they just say "fancy" instead". So when you said "A bougie candle" my brain" had to reboot.

[@annieschwartz3701]

m-ilie why does anyone use any slang instead of the traditional word 🙄 Nobody actually thinks ‘bougie’ as slang is French. It’s American slang.

[@Junebug8283]

Thought bougie came from bourgeoise

[@BreezyRenee333]

@@Junebug8283 it did!

[@noone8662]

@@Junebug8283 and bourgeois is French also anyways... but yes "une bougie" is a candle and they called them that because of bee wax from Bejaïa in Algeria (back in the days).

[@thehollyannrose]

Some people with breast implants have issues with their hair. It happened to me. Check out breast implant illness groups on fb

[@SoniaRaee]

I actually love your natural hair

[@ashlihollander4530]

Your natural hair looks 1000000% better than when u do it

[@venetianprincess]

Kalel, you are by far one of my favorite youtubers. I get excited every time I see you in my subscription feed. Can you tell us what products you use on your hair? It is gorgeous!!

[@Cat-qe3gb]

Woah OG youtuber 😲

[@MalinaCC]

Socializing always makes me tired too. I'm trying to put myself out there more as well and work on worrying less about perfection and more on getting things done. Really weird but you're not alone!

[@JulianatheGreat]

I totally get you on the being tired of socializing. You just need time to recharge. When I'm out with friends I have a good time but then I get home and I'm exhausted even if we just simply had dinner. It's just an introvert thing.

[@barbedgirl]

Ahh dreamjob, not having to meet anyone or talk to anyone QQ

[@sirenonland3454]

If my only obligation was to go to class, and not to a career, I would probably just chill in my house too lol. We can’t all be that lucky though.

[@holly7214]

Raw, authentic Kalel is by far my favourite Kalel. 💜

[@essi019]

Why does your laugh make me happy? I laugh when you laugh. You're adorable.

[@mariberry06]

Awww all we really ever want is connection. I can tell you’re being more open and raw and honest and vulnerable and I think that always helps to heal a person, because with vulnerability you get connection with others because others can relate to the truth, to your truth. It’s something that’s scary to do but practicing vulnerability about how we truly feel really allows us to be free. Love you girl!! it’s something I’m working on as well... all we really ever want is to feel connection...

[@toriicolmenares6654]

Is it me Kalel is always in a wired place... 👀

[@sbmichele4440]

Thank you for opening up and keeping us updated!!

[@JasmineAlbon]

I LOVE your natural hair ! I was literally thinking what should I do now and your video popped up like a sign from the universe haha

[@dorisboow]

there's something about your videos that always keeps me coming back to them. i really don't care what you put out, i'd watch it. your videos are so chill and somewhat weirdly therapeutic lol ily

[@christinaarandall]

Soy sauce & Maple Syrup make the perfect flavor when paired together. So simple yet soooo delicious. 🍚🥢☺️

[@danteguyton7012]

I wanted to express my new found appreciation for you! I love your complexities and absolute unique beauty and your a Vegan = huge heart!

[@smugglerscoveconsulting845]

Yep. Socializing is exhausting. RE: getting out. Maybe a little volunteer job for a few hours a week? Walk a dog at the pound, help out in a classroom at a grade school coaching kids to read, etc. Sign up for a yoga or Tai Chi class? Interaction seems to happen pretty naturally in a class like that without being exhausting.

[@saidtajdirt3531]

Yes, definitely, a yoga class!

[@pinkpinkpinkpink8888]

your natural makeup is everything! i'd love to see what products you use

[@mirandalynn2871]

I’m also going through a weird time in my life, thank you for posting this. It helps me not feel so alone in it.

[@BloomFreaks]

Girl, your hair is NOT wild, I have curly/kinky hair and I suggest the Ouidad salon which is a high grade professional ‘curly hair’ salon with products specifically formulated for those with curly/wavy/kinky hair. I’d give them a try 💖✨

[@SG-wu8eh]

OMG everything in your haul gave me such nostalgia! 😄 Thumbs up from 90s kids!

[@rebecccarobin]

Do you ever start to disassociate with reality after being home alone for so long? The only human interaction I have is with my boyfriend, so when we broke up for about a week last year, I felt so alone to the point that I didn't feel real anymore. No...? Just me...? Ok

[@rebecccarobin]

That's how I feel, too, like nothing I do matters. I admire how you're still able to prioritize your health and appear to be so put together. Like I can't bring myself to put on makeup or cook a normal meal for months because what's the point?

[@tatiannaemily474]

@@rebecccarobin just keep moving, I was in a place like that before I met my now husband but I was living with my large family, where I never got out of the house but got lost in the noise of all my siblings (I looooooove my family and we get along so well, bbut it's so hectic having a large family that I felt I couldn't talk about my feelings bc itd bring the whole family down bc of me). I'm a social person but all my friends and relationships before would leave me bc my dreams didn't translate to my reality- no license, never leave the house, not going to college bc of my mental health. That kind of thing will never take away your potential and doesn't make you anything less whether you choose or don't choose to be that way. Now i'm in a better more active part of my life, and sometimes I feel like i'm SO absolutely busy and I don't want to leave the house until I remember that I had been there before and that wasn't right for me anymore. Things will get better and even if you feel that you aren't a contribution or feel unimportant remember that that's not true- mu husband saw past my fears and self isolation and saw potential and big dreams and passion and gave me opportunity to achieve things I never thought I could. You don't need a boyfriend to know you're self worth, it just happened to be what saved me. Take your time in healing yourself and in taking action, there is no rush. Do what feels good but don't always listen to what's 100% comfortable. Don't worry, you matter and you will make a great impact the way you were meant to in time. Just love yourself and have faith in yourself

[@viohleta]

That’s why you don’t rely on someone else bringing you happiness . You need to learn to be content with being alone and not on the other individual to make you feel whole.

[@monsealonzo2991]

omg the bug story is so cute you’re precious 😭❤️

[@mareekah]

Girl i can relate to that "exhausted from socializing" sooo well!! I just started school again and just being there around everyone makes me so tired!! When i get to my car to go home it's like the highlight of my day haha

[@kauigirl808]

Question. How do you charge your Tesla living in an apt? Do you have your own car garage or you just charge it at the chargr stations? Thanks! Love all your videos!!!

[@mimms0299]

I love watching you hangout videos. Because when I am home doing nothing, going no where. It really is like having you as a friend.

[@idkk._.885]

Your new raw content has helped me relate to you sooo much more!! I am the BIGGEST loner and I always felt like no one understood my desire to be alone. I truly enjoyed it but I feel like others always saw it as something different. I have come to terms with it because of people like you that keep things realll! Thankyou for sharing your story!! I love you!!💜💜

[@fallonelle]

Just one gals opinion: it’s good to talk things through. Be it vlogging or any other method, it’s good to talk about how you’re feeling and what’s going on. It helps you to work through stuff! So if you feel like you’re in a super rough spot and you don’t feel comfortable sharing that with the Internet, that’s totally understandable. But if you feel okay with sharing, it’s nice to do so... it reminds you that you aren’t alone and that you have a community of people supporting you :) have a good one.

[@TriTrina]

Sometimes the things that scare us are what's best for us! I've been loving your new content by the way!

[@qweeneli]

I get so happy every time you post a video, I relate so much to you it's crazy! I am a huge introvert as well, my friends simply don't understand why I don't text them or want to hang out all the time. Whenever I'm going through something your videos just clear my head, thank you for posting even if you are in a weird place :)

[@nicolleklais5145]

I honestly am loving these videos. Felt much more natural and energic. I feel like I know you better, and Also have a good feeling that I can’t describe after watching this. 🌸💕

[@AghateLeroy]

I'm freaking in love with your natural hair, OMG is beautiful... 😍😍😍 I love everything about you, can't wait for the next video ❤

[@hannahsimon8292]

Your hair is so gorgeous it’d be perfect without any heat! I wish I had your hair!!

[@Satfirescat]

Can’t wait to see what you’ve done with your desk area. I’d love to see a video about how you have it organized and what your study habits are 😊

[@MiuMiuLuce]

Isn’t boujee just a slang/short for bourgeoisie? As in rich and materialistic?

[@PM-gy4dn]

MiuMiuLuce yes

[@maeslifestyle2951]

Looking gorgeous Kalel!

[@0chaton]

Hey Can you maybe do a video on your hair ?! Because they look really healthy/long and beautiful ! What do you do and use ?

[@zari2662]

That restaurant is called Cafe Gratitude, we have one here in San Diego. I highly recommend 👌🏽Im Vegan and I have several food allergies and they always have a ton I can eat.

[@WhatsAOlivia]

I LOVE your natural hair ugh soooo BEAUITIFul

[@molly5682]

OMG I’m so happy your still friends with joey ! I’m a viewer from back in the day when you were making clay models, doing American vs British accents and playing with inflatable adult water toys in your garden ! Xxx

[@erinconfused]

My mom and I use the word bougie all the time so last Christmas I found a candle that said bougie big on the side and when I gave it to her I couldn't stop laughing at my own joke that I got her a bougie bougie...but yeah, bougie is the French word for candle hahaha

[@jonemi10]

erinconfused lol, I love that!

[@maybememories925]

Hahah that’s awesome

[@elledesperado721]

That’s a cute story! Haha

[@michaelavmikki]

I’m finding myself in a weird place as well just recently. I feel like I’m lonely and get so sad when i’m by myself instead of just embracing myself and love being by myself. It’s something I have to work on. Watching your videos help me❤️ you inspire me, xoxo

[@victoriagulett8728]

Can you please make more videos like your 90s one? I've been feeling super nostalgic lately and that video made me so freakin happy.

[@daisyophelia2250]

I’m in a weird place too babe.... I just had to quit both my jobs I loved so much and move out of my town because of a toxic, terrible ex boyfriend of mine..... eventually we will figure it out 💔❤️

[@judithmeisje]

daisycakesss you will survive this girl! You can do this! I really believe in you♡

[@daisyophelia2250]

Judy-J thank you so much!!! :)That made my day! 🌸

[@victoriayellsnever]

Oh no hun! Just you wait, you''ll find another great job, and live your best life! It's great you are getting away from a toxic person. It sucks you have to leave a couple great jobs behind. I know how hard it is to have to completely switch things because of someone. Much love!

[@daisyophelia2250]

victoriayellsnever you’re so sweet 😭😭😭 thank you girl! I honestly wasn’t expecting anyone to comment back, so thank you! Life is crazy and unpredictable but I’m excited to sometime soon start a new chapter! Maybe it’s for the best. Thank you so much! 🌹

[@kimberface]

That takes courage! I wish you the best and you will be happy again! :)

[@imissy444]

Oh my goodness Kalel, I love your videos. They always bring me joy when I need it the most.

[@aesthete9789]

I loved this video so much. A vlog without such structure or a direct theme, it was just so nice to see 💕

[@daniellehughes1522]

Really loving the realness! I'm in a super weird place right now too and I guess because I isolate myself as an introvert, it feels like you're a friend too who can relate and find comfort in your words. Oof gettin deep on KZbin lol.. anywho, would love to see some of your favorites from your book collection!

[@SpyMisa]

I just started a 9 to 5 job this week after being a loner for 6 whole months and boy am I exhausted! I got home yesterday, had dinner and slept for 9 hours! Interaction with people really takes it out of me. I can't wait for the weekend :')

[@rosario9527]

I relate so much at getting exhausted from social interactions xD you are so lucky to stay in your beautiful home all day >

[@destinymohr6017]

I LOVE that you wanted to help that little bug (and succeeded!) lol that is so sweet and definitely something I would've done!

[@natthedragonkeeper9484]

I love these type of laid back videos, makes me feel closer to you as well! Also your hair looks absolutely gorgeous omfg.

[@LenaDanya]

Everything I’ve ever seen you cook looks so delicious 😭🙏

[@Maddiemayx]

Omg I wish I had your natural hair it’s gorgeous

[@theitzelperez]

Omg what you did with the bug sound exactly like something I would do! Thats so cute! “I dont know if the universe is having my back or if I’m just stupid” 😂😂😂 cracking up right now! I love your videos girl!

[@joycepinilla]

kalel, i think you’re absolutely great! your videos are so helpful! and i bet so many people can relate. i love that you’re trying to be more yourself on camera! also, your sense of humor is impeccable! i wish you all the best!

[@louisemtoc]

I think I've said this before but there's something comforting about watching your videos. I dunno what it is. Maybe because I'm an INTP too (I really don't know how accurate those tests are) so I can relate to you. Or whatever. It's probably a mix of things. I dunno, it's getting quite late where I am so I'm tired right now. But thanks for posting and good luck with college and stuff. I think I'm going to start letting my hair be a bit more natural, pretty sure I'm wrecking it, so thanks for the curling it a little bit idea.

[@Karineeni]

Kalel, Love's Baby Soft was my first fragrance too. I loved it when I was 12 but it smells like baby powder to me now. Have you ever Googled the old ads for it from the '70s? So creeeepy...

[@april.meadow]

I love that perfume! Every single one of my friends hate it so much. It’s so good! The formula has definitely changed. That was my mothers favorite perfume and she passed the brand down to me.

[@veganfromvenus]

omg! Your shopping arrives at your door, don't even gotta see no one while shopping so wonderful to see you living your true authentic self and life. We ❤you

[@mmatter33]

It’s so interesting how everyone’s reality is different. The first thing I thought when the video started was « wow, her hair looks incredible. So thick and healthy and natural » It really caught me off guard when you started explaining how you were struggling with it. We are often hard on ourselves.

[@Fi2iZ]

Who else didn't see the bug? 😂

[@kaeyuuka]

I need the magnifying glass 😂

[@ternitamas]

She even made a red circle and even so all I saw was lettuce!😂😂🤣🤣

[@marlenesbox]

I love these more chilled out, casual videos from you where you seem to be your true self and not trying as hard? This is the type of content that makes me happy: aka real life. Thank you for being authentic and weird and owning it. Lots of love to you! Xo

[@jlcw3]

You are just awesome!!! And i totally understand being exhausted from socializing, even if it was one outing. Love you, girl! 😘😘😘

[@freya8910]

You are such A queen, I have been vegetarian for A year now. And I have decided to become vegan. Because You really have inspired me, and also because i really love animals

[@n.c.9133]

that's so cool freya :) if you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask !

[@8xtl8]

♥️

[@sophia3770]

Bro im in the same boat as u

[@AritheVegan]

Ahh yuus!🎉🎉 good for you girl👏🏼👏🏼

[@ashleysartattack5600]

I’m so much like you Kalel. I’m in such a weird place right now too. And I also work from home. It’s very lonely, but I also like being alone most of the time, so idk. It’s like I wish that I had friends, but then again, I hate going places. I’d rather just sit at home in my underwear and make amazing gourmet vegan food with my cats, and watch Netflix.

[@MsLadyVale]

Whoa girl I totally get you right now. Thank you for being so open.

[@ZombieGorgeous]

love your vlogs Kalel! I enjoy listening to you talk because you always have such interesting things to say and show like your cooking :)

[@BrunosHooligan]

Your natural hair is stunning! Legit would never apply heat on my hair if it looked like that

[@GhostBlossom]

Your natural hair is so gorgeous

[@MeMalissa]

I'll always remain a subscriber! Your openness is the thing in look for on KZbin! It entertains my life because so many other people and me connect with you on so many levels! I love being alone as well, it just helps me reflect on everything and spend time on myself to myself! Plus, I'd really like a Buki in my life... Such a shame my boyfriend is allergic thoooo!

[@user-ve3oj9re2k]

loving all the frequent, honest, and long videos!

[@IESWlodarczyk]

Loneliness can lead to creativity :). Sometimes you just need it to really use your time and create something that may surprise you :).

[@MoniWaldorf]

Exactly. I take a lot of time to myself too.

[@IESWlodarczyk]

I think it's a sign of maturity if you choose to do it for yourself :).

[@maeslifestyle2951]

I’m excited for your haul!

[@The_Trixi]

I think you’re Videos now have such an authentic feel to it - so weird place or not, I’m loving them :)

[@sophiagiacona4894]

ugh kalel’s videos just calm me down after a long day. feels like we’re just chillin talking and i love

[@MissSunshine221]

your hair Looks so amazing!!! i just cut my hair yesterday and it is so short now i regret it so much :(

[@robynjoyner3053]

I did the same thing a few months ago! I'll never cut my hair short again lol

[@kolbis99]

7:35 That is some LA shit right there.

[@kolbis99]

Also, it was nice seeing you outside of your apartment!

[@cassandrakellycree5980]

😂 my thoughts exactly 😂

[@sheilagustafson1021]

I met up with a friend for coffee for one hour and was burnt... Its an introvert thing.

[@MrBadassCookie]

omg! I have experienced the EXACT same problem with my hair after accutane. Please keep us updated about this, so i can maybe get a solution to my problem as well!! Love you

[@delorisscruggslee9099]

Love the video! There's nothing wrong with being alone. There's much clarity, that comes with solitude. ✨💐♥️

[@anditspaganpoetry]

Your natural hair is like 10/10

[@emina2850]

Love you Kalel! ❤ Keep vlogging and I'd love to see a Haul ("going out-clothes") XO from Germany 😘😘😘

[@Erika-dr4dy]

You’re helping me as well in knowing I’m not the only one who avoids socializing because I enjoy being alone in my own world of thoughts. I guess it’s not healthy, but feel like a lot of us are on different paths in life and sometimes it’s hard to understand one another. All we can do is show love ❤️

[@wolfshadowg144]

love your energy !! you’ll have to spill the tea on how to have such good vibes on your own