How to Deal with Rejection as an Actor | Katherine Steele

[@ashleyfreberg8452]

"If revenge motivates you" is so me

[@Kath_Steele]

+Ashley Freberg 😂😂

[@theresac.7264]

Ashley Freberg SAME

[@bexc8389]

In my personal experience, rejection is prevented by pre-visualization. Last Saturday, I auditioned for a performing arts magnet at a high school far away from the one that I was zoned for. Before the audition, I imagined myself in the school, having fun, and doing great shows. But I also pictured myself with my friends at my zoned high school, not having to wake up extremely early. I set myself up with two positive scenarios, so in the end it wouldn't be horrible if I went to the non- magnet school. I actually got into the magnet school (AHHH). And that made me even happier. But, if I didn't, I would've acted a lot more mellow about it, even though I really wanted the magnet. So if you're going out for a school or a role, try looking at the pros of not getting cast, or getting into that school, BEFORE you audition, so you have nothing to lose and can give your best performance at the audition! :)

[@Ella-sl7wt]

This is actually such a good tip thank you so much

[@emm4gine]

totally agree sister! I do this way too often and as soon as I stopped visualizing myself with roles, my auditions go so much smoother. :)

[@alyssadonahue1487]

Honestly this video should just be shown in every drama / theatre class ever beCAUSE THIS IS SO IMPORTANT!!!!!!

[@Kath_Steele]

+Alyssa Donahue THANK YOU ALYSSA!!!! ❤🌟

[@spunkyredhead81599]

i was called back for a lead for the first time last week, and i told myself that i wouldnt get attached to the part( its only my second show with the company, and the seniors are always cast first) but i listened to the songs the character sings and totally fell in love with the part. long story short, the cast list came out today and i was cast in the ensemble. the person who beat me for the part... is a senior. Not gonna lie, it stings a bit.

[@spunkyredhead81599]

but the good news is since i didnt get a lead, i can audition for the music man at a college later this week!

[@Kath_Steele]

+August sending you lots of love ❤ and break a leg with Music Man!!

[@isabellabarrett5112]

Sorry so late!!! But I feel you. I recently auditioned for my schools production, Matilda and did not get called back. It seems that the “good actors” were the ones being called back. Others however, were immediately put in the ensemble. Which stings as well. I’m not sure if I’m in the ensemble, but most kids called back were the very talented actors and were called back for lead roles.

[@whoputyouonthisplanet9712]

Same happened to me, but I got replaced by A FRESHMAN

[@juliehemple9107]

Same thing happened to me this year and I am heart broken

[@emilygrasso273]

This is a perfect video for me! I literally just did a horrible audition for a show so I need to prepare for the rejection.

[@ehwang689]

well now im curious

[@cabin13_rat]

Same I sang really shy

[@BosephBostar]

I just recently got rejected for a role in my highschool's musical, I didn't make the show at all.. Didn't even get a callback.. I'm super crushed by it and this is my second year of highschool with my second year of getting rejected.. The worst part is so many people who forgot the song, and dances still got in.. Though I memorized the full song didn't even have to use my music sheet etc. I feel like I should quit. It is so hard to be my normal positive self over this.. I asked one of the casting directors what I did wrong. They said I'm not loud/flamboyant enough. I have very sensitive ears and to me I was screaming though apparently they couldn't hear me at all. Is there any way to fix my volume without hurting my ears so I can get in next year? (I have been in many Middleschool productions without any problems though)

[@Ella-sl7wt]

I have this problem too! I didn't get cast at all in my schools musical and lots of people who forgot words still got in!

[@christie.x]

Beea well you obviously wasn’t what they wanted, but that doesn’t mean to give up x

[@theaternerd5145]

in my middle school i didn't get into a musical of 40 kids but i got into one of 20 a year later. you may not have been what they were looking for. the same thing happened to me. don't quit

[@SnoopytheGirl]

I can relate so hard

[@deaththekid6614]

Damn, same Idk what went wrong with mine, but my friend got in and it feels so fucking depressing

[@justkat9148]

I auditioned for Wednesday in Addams Family and I really wanted to be in it so badly and I was really excited that we were doing it. I was so confident and I just screwed up on the dance a bit, but I completely memorized the whole monologue and song and said them exactly how they were written, and I was so proud when I walked out. And when the casting list came out, I didn’t even get in it at all. I didn’t even get called back. The girl that beat me for the role, she’s been at the top of the casting list like every show. So has the girl for Morticia. Almost every show. My theatre teacher just seems to play favorites. I know I probably sound very salty right now, and I have nothing against the actresses, they’re both very good actresses and singers, but some people that forgot the words and lines still got it. I said them PERFECTLY. And I’m pretty sure I projected. To me, I was screaming. Nothing against my theatre teacher. I love her, I’m just seeing a pattern with the casting list.

[@chrissiwmay2971]

First I’d like to say that it’s okay to feel the way you do. Acting especially in musical theater is a subjective form. I have an audition tomorrow and probably won’t make it in. We just got to believe in our abilities and push through and know rejection is part of the process don’t let that determaine your talents or your worth’s. Make bold choices at auditions and remember everyone who audition are in the same boat as you.

[@yaboi-hd8pp]

didn't get the role i wanted, then i looked into the role i got and now i love it even more than the role i had my sights on.

[@crazyforNarnia1]

in school when I wouldn't get a part, i would figure out a way to still work on the show

[@goodjobeli]

crazyforNarnia1 Same! My school has a technical theatre club and I always join it if I don't get in because we get to work on the musical anyway!

[@faithperez7281]

I just got rejected for my dream role that I'm getting too old to play, and it went to some girl who everyone knows can't sing well that just knows the director really well. I can't stop crying and I feel bad that I'm this upset:(

[@katienewsom3644]

Definitely needed this today, got rejected by my dream school earlier this week. It's definitely difficult when things you've pictured for yourself become not an option and you have to push those feelings away. It basically feels like you've gone through a nasty breakup - but with a school. The Kyle Dean Massey story always makes things a little better, though. Thanks Katherine, love ya!!! 💗🌟 (ps my full name is Katherine so we r twinzzzzz)

[@Kath_Steele]

+Katie Newsom I'm so sorry to hear that Katie 😕❤ Kyle-Dean-Massey the heck out of them!! 🙌🏻

[@kiplandgraves]

I had an audition for Lion King yesterday and it was the funniest audition rejection that i had experienced. You know what they said? I was too tall for the role of Young Nala

[@tottot7520]

マイケル the same thing just happened to me.. still stings a bit

[@jillianbean281]

Just listen to "Positive" from Legally Blonde on a loop! Problem solved!!😊

[@eliseterry2092]

Unless Legally Blonde is the show you just got a TINY role in :(

[@katelynviszoki3832]

Yea... unless you auditioned for legally blonde at school and got rejected from that... @me.

[@lel4389]

^^^^^^ really people? that’s just a bigger reason to listen to the song!

[@theaternerd5145]

@@katelynviszoki3832 that's me last year.

[@katelynviszoki3832]

Theater Nerd omg I literally cried so much after the rejection ngl

[@lilyblackburn869]

I’ve just auditioned for Roxie Hart and found out we will be told our roles IN REHEARSAL. In front of everyone and I’m a bit of a sore loser, and in fairness I can be sad if I didn’t get what I worked hard for. This video lowkey giving me hope and I’m going to try hold in my rejection tears for TWO HOURS

[@myra7011]

Ended up here 2 hours after a cast list came out and I have barely stopped crying. I don’t really feel ready to any of my friends and I need to get some shit of my chest, so I’m gonna do it in the comment section of this video from 2 years ago where no one will ever see it. I am devastated by this audition. I’m a senior and I’ve never gotten a lead role, a supporting role, barely any “featured” roles. This show marks my 7th season at this theatre, and my 23rd show, I think my 18th with this company. I feel like I have poured my entire life into this theatre and this place I love with all my heart, everyone there feels like family to me. But, oh my god. I don’t understand. I can’t believe how this keeps going. The show is a youth only show and has 2 female leads. I’m 18, it’s my last one of these shows, and I thought, hey, maybe I could get this one? I’ve only ever got ensemble, but I’m a senior, I think I fit the type, I’ve poured my heart and soul into this theatre, this director has known me since I was 11 and has seen how hard I work, And I mean I’ve work myself to the bone show after show for years, and I mean like, it’s almost always fulfilling in and of itself, but like, physically, what do I have to show for it? I’ve gotten shitty ensemble role after shitty ensemble role for years and always, always taken it and done it with a huge ass smile across my face. But here I am, and it’s going to end with just another one of the same old roles where I don’t get to have any real character with character growth, which is the reason I do theatre! What I like about theatre is the character! And as much as you say, oh, you create your own character in the ensemble, that is not and never can be the same as digging your teeth into text and dialogue and interpreting that on stage. It’s not even in the same ballpark. It’s not even the same sport. What makes it so much worse, me and my friend have been talking for months, this perfect vision of the show where we’re the two female leads, because of course we would! It’s stupid but it made so much since to us. And of course, she got it. And I want to be so happy for her but it’s not the first time something like this has happened. I love her so so much but, I don’t even know. The girl who got the counterpart that I wanted, I’ve never even seen her name before. I know she’s never worked with the director because I’ve worked with him on everything he’s done since I was 11. It’s not favoritism. It’s not like I’ve put in 7 years worth of work. It’s just that I suck. There’s no way around it. I just suck! I don’t know how I can go on into this show and play the part I’ve been given with a smile on my face and giving 110% while knowing that not a single applause is for me. I don’t want to be selfish, I don’t mean to sound like I deserve anything, I’m just honestly so confused. I don’t know what to do or how to go on. And I can’t stop crying and unless school is cancelled tomorrow, I have 2 finals and I have reviews left to do for them and I can’t. stop. crying. This has been, a pointless, useless rant about nothing, because I can’t talk to anyone about any of it.

[@jillholman708]

It's okay, I won't say that I know how you feel, cause I haven't been in theatre for as long as you have. But I do know the heartbreak and depression you get when you put everything in shows and auditions and you get the ensemble or no role.

[@babycheese101]

Oh my goodness I never realized how true "getting cut over something you can't control" was until today. I auditioned & was called back for Rosa in The Mystery of Edwin Drood. I noticed at callbacks that I was the only person in high school there, everyone else's ages ranged 20-60. Unfortunately today I received an email explaining that I was just too young than what they are looking for to play Rosa...I get it tho, I'm 17 and if I got the part I'd have to be kissing people in like their 40's (yikes). This vid came up in my recommended section right after I got that email oddly enough, and when you talked about getting cut over something you can't control I FELT THAT! I was very upset, but now I'm trying to focus on the positive (like being the only high schooler to get a callback for that show lol). Love you Kat, thanks for making this rejection a little easier 😘

[@-g-6261]

The one thing I dislike about auditions is that a lot of the people doing casting at the one's I've been to try so hard to sugarcoat their rejections. Like, I get that there are some people more prone to upset by rejection, but I've never had an issue with it. Honestly, if there was someone who fit the role better than I did, they deserved to be cast over me. But when the casting directors say things like 'oh, but you were really amazing, it's just that someone else did this a tiny bit better'. I get it, but I didn't get the role so please tell me upfront and give me real criticism on what I need to improve because that'll help me more in the long run.

[@AlexB-vb2tw]

-мιѕѕ иσтнιиg- Yes!! It actually really bothers me when they say things like “we were very impressed by the level of talent we saw” etc etc. Just give it to us straight; we can handle it! Smh haha

[@belle4161]

yesss, i completely agree. in my latest audition my sister and 2 friends got parts and i didn't, they said i was good but gave me no other notes on my acting!

[@baileyt290]

thank you kath, i needed this. i auditioned for an original musical (Avatar the Last Musical) and today was when they sent out the callback emails, and i got nothing. i realized that this was the first time that i hadn’t gotten cast at all in something that i auditioned for because, ive only ever been in small scale school musicals. it hurt extra because i daydream, A LOT. and those daydreams, lemme tell u, ARE VIVID. its kinda ridiculous. i imagined myself on the ATLM team, and working on this amazing musical with these amazing people, but that would never happen. and im like, i dont want to say that, because i dont want the people who did get callbacks to see that message on the discord and feel bad, but i had to get this out in some form. one of the directors actually said that theyre acceptance rate was lower than cornell’s. they received 400 auditions, and only gave out under 40 callbacks, saying that we should beat ourselves up about it, and theyre being super sweet about it, but it still hurts. i pit so much work into it and it hurts that it was kinda all for nothing. its kinda like that one meme, “yay i did it! what do i get?” “a sad feeling” “oh”. it kinda got me spiraling down this like, what if im just not a good enough actor/singer/whatever? well, i never shouldve got my hopes up in the first place, im not even that good, or my resume basically has nothing on it, what was i expecting? or theres for sure so many more people who are better than me. idk man, ik that when the cast list does come out, im gonna want to be so happy for those people, and cheer them on, because that os such a crazy accomplishment! but that doesnt erase the fact that i didnt get that chance and that im really sad about it. sorry if youre still here after reading that mess of rant, i just really needed to get this off of my chest. thanks for reading my story, ❤️

[@lpsluckykitty9443]

I recently got rejected in my middle school music, The Suessical. I was auditioning for Horton the Elephant, and I really felt connected to his character...like I couldn’t explain it. I felt like I related to his character so much, I felt it in my heart. I felt it in *me*. My best friend was also auditioning for Horton as well. So, I practiced and practiced till the audition day came. I sung my heart out, and so did she. Mind you, I never got a lead role ever in my life, so this was new to me, and I had tried for lead roles but got rejected. So I was determined on this one. When the results came in, she got chosen for the part. I’m not going to lie and say I wasn’t disappointed, because I was. Really disappointed. So disappointed that the whole day I was thinking about it. And I that night I cried in my bedroom, wondering why I was never in the spot light. Wondering why I always have to be in the background. Wondering when will it be my turn to shine bright. Wondering when will people stop looking down on me. And as time went on, I felt myself fearing of playing in the play. And since I didn’t get the part I wanted, the teacher gave me another part but it wasn’t the lead roles. Disappointed, but not quitting because I was taught better than that, I accepted my part. And my friend, she’s not a bad person. She’s actually really nice and she sang her heart out at the audition, and she deserved the lead role. Not to say I didn’t though. So fast forward and since the Coronvirus outbreak, schools closed. At first, it was a relief to me because then I didn’t have to do the play. But then, as time went on, I slowly started to sing Horton songs like Alone in The Universe even though it wasn’t my part. In fact, I started singing all the parts with him in it, including the parts my teacher gave me. And as I did, I felt better. I especially felt better when my mind was off me not getting the part. For some reason, I just know and feel I must still sing the lead role songs. I can’t explain it, and I’m over me not getting the part. I just really like singing Horton’s (the lead role) parts. It kind of brings closure, and makes me feel better. It makes me feel that knowing one day I will be in the spot light. Knowing one day I will achieve my goals. Knowing one day, not a single person will have the nerve to look down upon me. And if they do, I won’t care. I’m following my dreams step by step, rejection after rejection, victory after victory, and smile after smile. So that I say, don’t quit. I know it’s hard but it’s just a part of life. If we didn’t know what rejection was, we wouldn’t know what true victory is. You were born with many talents, but quitting isn’t one of them, so don’t pursue it. Even though I’m not sure if the play will still be going after we come back to school, I’m determined. ❤️ If I got this ❤️ 💜YOU got this 💜

[@addi9817]

Thank you!❤️I needed this. I jut got the cast list for frozen jr. and I’m a troll. I wasn’t expecting a lead or anything but I was excepting to be in more than one song. All my friends have been leads and I never have. I feel like I work my butt off for nothing. I practice an hour of singing or more each day and do 30 minutes of acting or dancing. I’ve also been taking private voice lessons since I was 11. My first show was when I was six and I’ve been doing theatre since then. I just don’t understand why I can’t catch up to the other girls. They’re all shocked when I tell them how much I practice. They say they don’t even practice that much. My mom thinks I should quit Theatre because I started to cry about it in front of her. I love theatre so I obviously don’t want to quit, she just doesn’t understand. I wish I was as good as the other girls. I wish my hard work would pay off.. It’s been hard for me. I’m going to keep working and trying but it’s really hard. I’m not a quitter and I love theatre and performing with all my heart, I won’t give up on it!

[@chinadidwhat]

I really needed this! I've been through a streak of rejections and I needed a hug (this felt like that hug!)

[@Ella-sl7wt]

This video really helped me. I didn't get a part in my schools musical (even the ensemble) and it really hurt my confidence and self esteem but this video made me feel a little better so thanks❤Xx

[@calistamiller7232]

Yay! #TheatreThursday 🎭 my opening night is tonight!!!

[@daisydevlin8336]

Calista Miller Good Luck! 🎶✨

[@Kath_Steele]

+Calista Miller break a leg!!❤

[@commytoletoloo4471]

Calista Miller what musical and HAVE FUUUN

[@sharnaeks7800]

This video popped up in my feed yesterday morning - after I had an audition for a community theatre show the night before. 3 hours later I got a rejection email. I’m now watching this while everyone else (only a few missed out) is at callbacks. 😂😂😂 Down about it but I feel like I just need to move onto the next show!

[@Jmond002]

I've watched this video before, but I needed to watch it again. I've tried out for several amateur musical theatre productions in the last six months and have been rejected from each and every one. This weekend I finally had a callback for Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz...I did that callback and then was offered featured singer/ensemble. I also auditioned for Heathers that same weekend, got a callback for Veronica and got rejected entirely. Receiving rejection/not getting the part always hurts like hell but it's definitely pushed me to improve myself as an actress etc. I also love Kat's point about how you can't control everything that happens, especially behind the scenes. The only thing you can do is be yourself, work hard and do your absolute best.

[@kitteridgesimpson8144]

Noooo not the depressingness! (Yay dress rehearsal for Little Mermaid today! And I'm getting a Snapchat soon, so I'll most likely be there now) For me, my biggest pet peeve is when someone says they'll only do the show if they get a certain part. We lost a mersister, the biggest mersister of them all, because they wanted to be Ariel.

[@Kath_Steele]

+Kiersten “Kierstey” Simpson Break a leg!!

[@amvwarsaw5174]

Kiersten Simpson OHHHMYGOD good luck today!!! Ps I had the same experience: We lost (and had to recast) Teen Fiona in Shrek Jr. only because she wanted to be Fiona. She apparently played the role in another production, and quit the show at her final at the school... It made me feel bad for those who didn't even make it in the show.

[@somethingnexttonormal]

I do agree with what you said about people who only want a certain part however I did quit the school play because I didn't get a certain part ONLY BECAUSE my normal theater group's show would have conflicted with it and I like my theater group much better and I know I have a better show there

[@margaretgiles]

Well, sometimes if people are doing multiple shows or anything along those lines (school, etc.) they might not have time to be a smaller role as Katherine said it needs to be worth your time and maybe for that girl it wasn't.

[@theaternerd5145]

my school production a few years ago was into the woods and it only has 20 roles. my school is huge and 120 people auditioned. they took 5 7th graders (myself included as granny) and my friend (also a 7th grader) got Cinderella's mother. she wanted to quit because she didn't get little red and i was like are u kidding me, there were only 5 7th graders who got to be in it and your gonna throw it away?? no 7th graders got big roles. she eventually gained some common sense and did the show and she's gotten more resilient over the years, but that always stuck with me.

[@deathnoteKIRA40]

I didn't quit dance and start focusing on my voice and acting abilities when I was 16 to be cast as a dancer

[@aubreye8108]

The hardest thing for me is that I work with a theatre company that does 3-4 shows a year, and I'm really close with the directors. So if I don't get what I want, it's hard. I know they think I'm talented, because I've played multiple leads, so it's always hard for me to wrap my head around why. I also tend to get super attached to material/songs, and it's SO hard to let go!

[@rosie6]

Rejection is so crushing esp when it involves ur dream

[@kerahbundy5705]

That Into the Woods part at the end! A++ material, 10/10, would recommend.

[@ErinMason-yb7ld]

I just got cast in the ensemble for my school production when i auditioned for a lead- I needed to hear this much earlier! thx so much!!!!!

[@NewsieSteve]

I am in college right now, so I have only done show with people I know. So when I audition and the cast list goes up, I have the mentality of if I get cast great, but if not, support the people who did because they probably worked as hard as you for that audition.

[@Kath_Steele]

NewsieSteve that's an awesome mindset to have!! ❤😊

[@NewsieSteve]

Thank you so much. I love your videos. From the minute I found your first video and saw your personality, I knew I had to describe! Thank you for being you!

[@katherineruble]

Thank you so much this is really helpful!! I’m currently sobbing because I got rejected from the role that I wanted😭😭

[@ewalton7078]

Thank you. I just suffered a rejection in Broadway's ' The Lion King ' . I auditioned for Sarabi and got a (big) part that I didn't really want - but still like it. I got Nala and now I realize why . Thank you.

[@lanamalkenhorst9581]

This isn't really a rejection story but I'm still super sad about it. So I am doing the music man and I am totally attatched to the Shipoopi dance. We've all been talking about it for months. So one day the director texted me asking me to come to a last minute rehearsal but I was at the mall so I said I couldn't. This resulted me not being in Shipoopi later on. Now I have to watch everyone do it in the gorgeous, gorgeous dresses that are my favorite color and it hurts way more than it should.

[@elizabethcanipe5007]

In 7th grade I was very proud of my audition as I had read as the character everytime we read the script in class. When the cast list was posted I didn't get the part and I was very upset about it even though I was still casted. I then later found out I was extremely talented but she gave the role to an 8th grader because it was her last year.Luckily I didn't quit and ended up playing the main character and winning an award in a competition. I'm glad I didn't quit because if i did I wouldn't currently be apart of the theatre company at my highschool :).

[@techsavvyhero]

Great advice and perspective!!! Thanks for sharing :)

[@janestinson1985]

I needed this just in time! My last day of auditions/when I find out what role I get for my last high school play is tomorrow. Timing=impeccable.

[@Kath_Steele]

oh my goodness! Sending you good vibes!!

[@janestinson1985]

Katherine Steele thank youuuuu❤️

[@SnoopytheGirl]

I am so thankful you made this video. I was rejected form the play today and I was so devastated.

[@chrissiwmay2971]

This video found me at the right time. I’m awaiting for my casting list but I don’t think I’ve gotten the part I wanted. And I’m just watching these sorts of videos in advance. Another tip: Don’t be hard on yourself, chances are you did amazing and you must believe that. It’s only one show you did not get to be apart of… remember that there will be plenty more, and one day soon you will get casted as a dream part!

[@CaitlinAlvarez]

do you think it's ok to ask a director for feedback on your audition and callbacks after they didn't cast you? i mean definitely not in a professional sense, because really they might not remember you, but at a regional/community theatre? i asked one director for feedback after she didn't cast me (even though she only called three girls back for the role i wanted and i was the only one out of those three who could aCTUALLY SING AND ACT THE PART it's fine i'm fine) and she told me that it's apparently super frowned upon to ask for feedback and i've never heard that before???? and this was after an audition at a community theatre so really i am just one GIGANTIC question mark

[@Kath_Steele]

+Caitlin Alvarez hey caitlin! ❤ sorry to hear that you didn't get the part (time to Kyle Dean Massey them!! 😉💕) Asking for feedback in an audition is a no-no. But check out some master classes and mock auditions--those are all about getting feedback! 😊❤

[@stypayhorlikson718]

Hey Caitlin. I think it depends on where you are doing theatre/who the director is. I know at my university, I have asked my director questions about casting choices and why I didn't get a role I wanted or in the show in general, and he provided an answer because it is an educational setting. I haven't done it yet anywhere else, mainly because I didn't think to ask about it/knew that the favorites of the community theatre would get the better roles so I can't confirm that you will get feedback in other places, but I thought I would let you know that there is the possibility of getting feedback.

[@grace9507]

I’m finding out my part on Saturday/Sunday and i’m really nervous! We’re doing Popstars the 90s Musical and I really want Ella, Shannon or Charlie! I’m watching this 1000 times in preparation! Will update when i find out. Thanks Kat 💕

[@grace9507]

Hi! I just found out I got Steffi (Shannon’s sidekick) on Saturday and Charlie on Sunday! Imm so happy. Thanks for the advice Kath 💕

[@fab_u_lissa]

Thank you so much. I’m feeling down about an audition right now, and this really helped boost my self esteem! ❤️❤️❤️

[@abigracem4196]

The last show I did was Our Town at my high school. I cannot even describe how much time and energy I spent getting ready, choosing my material, practicing, etc. Audition went well and I got a callback. Was so excited and expected one of the two roles I was going for. Well, cast list came out and I wasn't on it. EVERYONE who got a callback was on the cast list . . . except me. I may or may not have cried myself to sleep that night. The next morning, I decided to get over it and ask the director why through email. She responded and told me I did well and nothing was wrong. I was hopelessly confused until a few hours later, she emailed me again and told me she made a mistake with the cast list. She accidentally put someone in my role who didn't even audition (and couldn't because they were in another show). It wasn't either of the roles I auditioned for, but I was happy I got lines after thinking I had been completely cut from the show.

[@savanac8687]

I auditioned for Jovie from Elf a few days ago and got put into the ensemble, this made me feel a lot better! Thank you!

[@DuckPuppet]

Thank you for this video! I'm going into high school next year and my high schools theater program is REALLY professional ! I'm not sure I'll get a part and this video will help with my nerves because at least I'll know what to do if I Don't! YOU ROCK!

[@Kath_Steele]

+Duck Puppet ❤❤❤

[@marydewar56]

i just recently auditioned for my theatre groups musical. I didn’t get a callback or any part at all, this was my second audition and second year in a row not getting a part. It hurt a lot seeing the cast list with majority of the people i know and i’m friends with getting parts even if they were small ones. I feel embarrassed now to go back and don’t really want to audition again. I didn’t get my hopes up this year but it still hurt, It’s usually the same people every single year who get the main parts and roles which makes me think that i’m just not good enough to ever have a part in a show.

[@shachelifernando]

yea I get what you mean I also auditioned for my theatre company's play and they announced callbacks today and I didn't get one super bummed about it and it sucks that I have to go tommorow cause they're having a meeting with the whole production team and it also sucks that I'm the only person out of the girls who wasn't cast

[@hampsterdancer3625]

I had an awful day today after learning about my role in the school play as part of the ensemble for the 4th year in a row, and you talking about the casting director knowing my worth as an actor legit made me cry happy tears. You are amazing!!

[@volatilemolotov667]

i just got home from my final rehearsal and the sweet first timer playing conrad birdie starred crying and then we all started crying and we sung to him to make him happy augh i'm just so happy to come back and see katherine in my subscription page.

[@Kath_Steele]

+stevie's anatomy 😱😍😭 that's such a sweet story!! 💕

[@Stephf712]

Thank you for this because it is very inspirational

[@kaitbergmann]

You don't know how desperately I needed this video

[@Kath_Steele]

+kaitlyn bergmann happy to help love!! 💖

[@marcmcloud_555]

Just got the results in for Beauty and The Beast cast list and yet again got another background character in my last year of school. It sucked because all my friends I talked to got big roles and I yet again got a small one. But to make things feel worse the show was double casted and I didn’t get into either of the main casts. I then became happy because my character gets a scene with Gaston and Lefou, and after looking at the new script it seems like they cut it. Things feel sucky but I can live with it.

[@heytheatre7491]

Yes! My fav video, Kath!! I was rejected from all seven shows I auditioned for at my high school, and I use that as motivation to be more successful in my future! I recently was just cast in a play too!!

[@Kath_Steele]

+HeyTheatre YES!!! 😍🌟🙌🏻 Kyle Dean Massey would approve

[@Ella-sl7wt]

This helps me feel better with being rejected from my schools musical😂Xx

[@purplecatloverrandompizza]

Joing backstage crew and hope someone quits and you have to step in my prayers were answered I FILLED IN AND KILLED IT

[@hannamitchell106]

'IM A VERY PEPPY PERSON' LOOLOLLOLOLO THE REASONS I LOVE KATH 101

[@Kath_Steele]

+Hanna Mitchell LOVE YOU!!!! 🎉💕🎭

[@ChepeluisChepeluis]

Today I got a small role in a school play (Dear Evan Hansen). The thing is I put all my effort to get one of the leads, and I didn’t even get it. It was an open call back audition via Internet due Coronavirus so I had the chance to see the other guys auditions (we were 7) now I can never tell “ who fits the character better” or “who embodies the director’s vision better” you know? All those subjective points that we can not judge. But what I can see is objective themes and what I saw is that literally I was the only one who knew the full lyrics, I’m not lying when I say all the other were changing lyrics of the song, leaving blank spaces, rushing through the music, etc. And I prepared soooo much that even tho I was nervous too I could complete the song properly. Now I’m gonna be honest, I’m not a good singer, I still got so much to learn so I was out of tune in many parts even tho I was really good at the high notes (I focused there since are always the hardest) and the other guys are good singers, we all have tuning problema ofc we are students but they do it “good” and I recognize that if I let myself go I could improve better. The thing is you can’t even say if here they were good singing or not because they didn’t even had the lyrics and most of them were missing the high notes. When the audition finished they asked us to record ourselves and send our videos so they could have another opinion besides the problems of the live video calls. So we did it. I’m ofc I was all nervous waiting for the results but I was trusting that at least I knew I did a good job with all my mistakes but I prepared really good. My surprise was that literally I was casted as part of the ensamble while 6 of the other guys r alternating leading roles. Now, I know they have worked with the director before in some other plays and he knows they are good singers but I was really expecting more because I really prepared and it showed. We share types and while they r better singers, I’m a better actor (ofc at least that’s what i think) so we all have strong and weak points and as I say, at least I knew the lyrics like the back of my hand and I’m always learning and improving.... anyways, probably they r just better and even tho I’m improving too I’m just still not on that level and gotta deal with it. Now I’m thinking rejecting the part and don’t do the play, I really don’t wanna be the sore loser but I just don’t feel it anymore because I thought the effort put in the audition would compensate any other flaw. Maybe you could make a video talking more about that what you said about rejecting a character if you don’t want it :)

[@koalamud5087]

I'm still weeping, I took it so seriously and I didn't get the part just because I wasn't in sync JUST A LITTLE BIT when it came to dance. And I hate how the good dancers had the least amount of interest in the material and no etiquette in the practice room but they still got it 🤡 this video helped me a lot

[@daisydevlin8336]

Hi Kath! Tonight is my second night as Grace in Annie! Wish me luck! 🎶🎟🎭🎤

[@Kath_Steele]

+Daisy Devlin break a leg love!! 💕

[@grace_d1or]

I got rejected literally five minutes ago and am going through a mental crisis-

[@ellielovealtman8948]

So my experience is I was in this camp and we were doing script reading and stuff and I played this girl named Erin in like the warm up scripts and then I got put as this girl Brie and another girl got put as Erin and I’m like “sHe DiDnT eVeN rEaD tHe ScRiPt” like how are you supposed to know how good she is at the role? But hey, I’m not gonna rage over it :b

[@brookeandkatemoore6775]

Finally! Your videos are what I look forward to during the week! I have a "KS" on my calendar on every Thursday! My performance of "Oklahoma!" is in almost 1 week!!! I am getting so nervous but really excited! +Katherine Steele

[@Kath_Steele]

+Brooke and Kate Moore you guys are seriously the sweetest!!!! 💕🍭 break a leg!! #TheatreThursdayFam 🎉💕🎭

[@brookeandkatemoore6775]

Katherine Steele Thank you!!! It means a lot coming from you

[@claire-do2ei]

0:51 captions on it’S THEAT *RE*

[@ShashaDivine]

you have helped me so much Katherine. (and others too im sure) PLEASE keep making vids 💖💖😘

[@Kath_Steele]

You're so sweet!!! Thank you love #TheatreThursdayFam 🎉💕🎭

[@oliviajeane.]

Cast list just got released, and I didnt get in, so this video was my default. Its my first show at the arts school i attend but i was really confident in my audition so it lowkey stings. I know i will have so many amazing opportunities and god puts me where i gotta be but all i can think is "what did i do wrong? What could i have done different?" Thanks for making this video, this will be the first of a million "no's" but i'll let this motivate me for next time:)

[@jennilee3416]

Next Wednesday are my school auditions and this video has helped me not stress as much as I am. I want the lead so bad but if I don't get in I'll still help out with the play because I love the arts too much❤❤

[@Kath_Steele]

+Jenni Lee that's awesome Jenni! Break a leg 💕😊

[@theynomi]

I've officially showed this channel to all my theatre friends 😉🙏🙏

[@MrDavidgiar]

Doesn’t really matter who cares if you don’t get that part you will be able to audition for another role as an actor or actress everyone wants to be the main character and it’s not as fun and glamorous as you think it is sometimes it’s better to be a part of the cast than to be someone who has a major responsibility to the story. The main character can be very stressful it’s not easy if you’re not a type of person who doesn’t like extra challenges it’s better if you don’t expect that type of role, but you might be surprised because usually, they want to pick someone who resembles that character not just by looks but by character rather your personality fits the character you wanna play but you’re a complete opposite or you can’t relate to the character if you don’t have the similar challenges and experience as that character even though it’s not gonna be the same type of challenges and experiences because it’s in historical time or fantasy. For example, Game of Thrones. going back to 2009 let’s say if I wanted to play Jon Snow and I was very familiar with the books 3 years before season one was released. sometimes unfortunately you could fit the character but there’s not enough or they find someone who has better elements and they pick him instead like casting kit, Harrington if he didn’t get a fight at McDonald’s which I wouldn’t recommend if someone tries to intimidate you for calling them out because they’re taller or bigger to throw the first punch at them because body shamed your date and insulted her honor honestly that’s something I would do if I was confident and brave but that doesn’t make it right or smart, but foolish but since he did end up getting a blackeyed, he got the role instead of getting locked up in jail and having to pay the fines for the record of assault. I don’t know the whole story maybe he was in the right defending her and himself. How do I know this? Probably a midnight show when they asked him how he got the role.. because of lacking the physique, or not muscular, or lean enough but just overweight, that can change that by working out before for the audition. but realistically by the time you get in shape and fit someone else would've already been casted in that roll, that’s why it’s better to plan ahead of time. Otherwise, you’ll never know until it’s too late. if you are a short stocky, overweight, dude, that is not a charming looking Chad I would not try to audition for a role for a character who is that looks like like a model that would be fierce in battle like a knight in shining armor with a nice sword. If that’s the case, either get realistic and audition to play someone who carries the shield in armor, and helps him fight and battle as a squire Podrick Payne from Game of Thrones. i’m not an actor and I don’t like to read long paragraphs so that said I will stop from here. Lol 😆

[@lilac_dream_team]

I read an article with Christy Altomare telling her story about life before Anastasia and it changed my perspective on auditions. Now every time I go into one I think “wow I get to audition for stuff today!” It’s so freeing. Yes there’s still that worry of not being casted but I find myself leaving feeling fullfilled. Like you didnt cast me but i learned more things from this audition and callback.

[@juliaw2527]

Thanks so much I saw you had this video and I got a bad sign on a casting call I auditioned for and I jumped straight to this video to cheer me up!

[@Kath_Steele]

+Julia W ❤❤❤

[@elana04]

I really needed this video. My music summer camp is doing Mamma Mia this year and I got ensemble again. (Not that there’s anything wrong with ensemble!) but I poured my heart and soul in to my audition for Ali and I was really hoping I would get the part. It’s heartbreaking, and I’m still kinda in the mourning process because I’m really sensitive, but I’m ready to pour my heart and soul into ensemble to show my strengths and how much I shine on stage! (I’m going to keep my fingers crossed to try to get a part next year though! 🤞🏻

[@FaithGany]

am I the only one who goes through the audition process and tries to convince themselves they didn't get the part they wanted? like, they could be like, "you got so-and-so!" and I'm like well faith don't hold your breath you probably didn't get the role even though they actually told you you got the role

[@Kath_Steele]

honestly same. The second I walk out of the audition room I'm like "You didn't book and it's chill. Don't freak out"

[@FaithGany]

Katherine Steele update: Ive been telling myself I didn't book legally blonde all week and I found out a booked, not only legally blonde but Elle Woods' so the denial tactic works

[@Kath_Steele]

Faith Ganyla OHMIGOD!!!! 😂💖 CONGRATS LOVE THAT'S FANTASTIC!!! 💕🌟🙌🏻👠

[@FaithGany]

Katherine Steele THANK YOU and I see what you did there 👌

[@uggbootgf]

I swear we’re the same mcjdmiemeie. I was just recently cast as donkey in my community theatres production of shrek the musical jr and yeah i kept look back at the cast list on my phone for like the past week after that it was just so surreal. (Like wow thats really my name next to that thats crazy) lmao

[@_X-O-X-O_]

I’m currently coping with gull chorus from the little mermaid jr

[@SeaSparklesLP]

I'm so glad I've found your videos this year! My drama class' yearly show is tomorrow and the day after and your channel always got me in the right mindset to rehearse as well as informing me what it takes to pursue it as a career if that's what I choose. Thank you!

[@Kath_Steele]

+meme meme you are so sweet!! ❤ break a leg!!

[@hannahdefrates]

Thank you for this Katherine. I appreciate the advice you give.

[@frandsforlife3511]

perfect timing! just found out I wasn't cast in the summer musical I was auditioning for :-( but thank you for your helpful tips!

[@Kath_Steele]

oh no!! Sending you lots of love!!

[@broadwaymike92]

Love this. For me, I'm still dealing with rejection but also trying to take classes and network at the same time. Also, I'm trying to create my own work. I learned this from Julia Murney at BroadwayCon. I'm working on developing my own solo cabaret.

[@lel4389]

Michael I. Haber WHY DO I SEE YOU EVERYWHERE

[@itzchc3942]

Im just kinda scared for my hairspray audition because im really excited if im able to be in it but i still need to be prepared for the worst ykyk

[@maxpowers1085]

Thanks for the advice. I just got rejected a lead role in The Little Mermaid and put in the ensemble I am debating if I should stay or not.

[@doritovlogs_9447]

I just found out today that I didnt get a part in a show, but I did get Stage Manager. Im really sad that im not acting in it but i guess im just glad to be apart of it.

[@devilishraccoon2735]

i hate that this is my fourth visit to this video. maybe the universe is trying to give me a sign

[@karinacole218]

My school is doing a production of Beauty and the Beast and I've been doing the musical for the past few years, always failing to get a good part. (It's a school policy that everyone who auditions at least gets to be in the ensemble) Well it's my last year at the school, and it's kind of an unspoken rule that once it's your last year, you're guaranteed a decent part. I thought I'd do really well considering the fact that I'd been invited to all of the callback auditions and the director really liked me. But I ended up being in the ensemble again, and all of my friends have better parts than me. And I feel awful.

[@tea2496]

so, i recently auditioned for one of my favorite musicals and i auditioned for one of my favorite characters. i didn’t get a callback for that character but i did for the leading lady! i was super hyped up because i thought i could play her well. later it was down to 2 people, me and one other girl. i didn’t get casted because i was slightly taller (slightly, like maybe by 2 inches) than the character’s love interest. so i was pretty frustrated for the most part. but this video really helped. thank you!

[@maiakesler7408]

This helped SOOOO much. I just got rejected from Into The Woods.

[@Animaljammer_adventures]

I tried out to be Annie in Annie yesterday and belted tomorrow, and didn't crack or go falsetto and i knew all the words. I stood in an open stance and smiled and was confident. I was one of 3 girls that did that, but I got cut. All the girls who sang falsetto and forgot the words and cracked got a part though. I look like Annie and my personality fits her too. Why didn't i get a part??

[@amandawolf26]

I just heard back from a professional production that I got a callback in. Basically I didn't get it and I'm really happy you made this video and it came out when I messed it haha.

[@Kath_Steele]

+Amanda Dunbar sending you lots of love!! 💕🌟

[@livr2004]

Thank you so much for this video!! I just auditioned for Pinocchio and I really wanted to be a fairy but I got a village mother. I'm really happy I'm with my friends though.😊

[@rcantwell161]

Showing the director what they could've had is definitely something I would do... I even did that for the school musical, when I got cast into a different play I'd just have my script casually displayed everytime the teacher came around in class

[@michaelmullan792]

I auditioned for Flounder in the little mermaid and I know I won't get the part so I'm watching this in preparation! Lol😅

[@theafrancesyumang]

Thank you katherine! This really helped me! I recently audition for my school musical "Rodgers and Hammerstein's Cinderella" and I auditioned for the lead! I sadly did not get cast as the lead I got Ensemble.My cousin (who always gets the role I want) got cast instead! I now realize that since she has more training then I do and she is closely connectedbwith the director since she is her vocal coach that she was more likely to get the role! Thank you katherine for amazing video!😁

[@theafrancesyumang]

Also i will show the director what they could of had😂😂👍

[@sophialotus6833]

I just got rejected for a role in Into the Woods today, and now I'm just listening to Positive from Legally Blonde on repeat. It's a proven coping mechanism. 😂

[@mij6304]

I’m still crying-

[@b0rnConfused]

Really needed this today. Thank you ❤️

[@juvinaraymonds4210]

A couple of years ago I auditioned for a community theatre production of The Music Man. I felt my chances were good since they wanted a large cast and I honestly didn't care what part I got. I had a great audition and felt really good afterwards. Only to find out I wasn't chosen. Not only that, but I was in the minority of people who got rejected. I'm still angry about it.

[@huntercuyler]

I was actually just turned down for a role, thank you so much for your advice!!!

[@rachel_elizabeth3152]

For me, I auditioned for the role of Kate in “Kiss Me, Kate” at my high school. I went into it knowing that I had a strong competition with one other person, although 4 other girls were called back. Low and behold, neither I nor the other girl up against me got the part, and it ended up going to a girl that I didn’t think could play Kate. I at least got ensemble, the girl I was against got cut, as she put down that she didn’t want to be cast as anything other than Kate. I’m a junior, she is a senior. She told me she was extremely upset that she didn’t get cast. I’ve decided to do the show, and learn something from it. And this means I get to dance in “Too darn Hot!” 🥵

[@theaternerd5145]

i just got rejected from a musical that i spent so much time, energy, and hard work on. I didn't get a callback and 16 ppl did and there are 21 roles so it's still possible but the chance is so small i'm just guessing im not getting in. i was crying uncontrollably because i had never worked harder for anything in my life so thank you kat. i know this video was made like 2 years ago but thanks anyway.

[@theaternerd5145]

ok turns out i did make the musical nvm!! I'm granny and the show is into the woods

[@Moonfire121]

Hhhhh thanks for this. The cast list for our school's production of Little Mermaid came in and I really really wanted Scuttle. It's been my only dream role before I even knew we were doing this show. And I didn't even get understudy. It honestly baffles me considering I got someone to stifle a laugh during my monologue and I'm a contralto and can easily hit the notes to positoovity(and the girl who is Scuttle is a soprano???). And I can tap! Not even sure if positoovity will be a tap number since I'm the only one who has tap experience. But anyways I've been thinking about not even doing the show since I'm just a gull and being in the same scene as the role you wanted is not the best feeling to say the least... But this shows probably gonna be fun and I haven't done theatre in a while and I do miss it... So I just gotta get over it and search for another production of this play to audition for in the future!

[@madelynryanne2799]

I had my first audition yesterday, and my first callbacks today! lol I'm watching this because I'm scared I wont be on the cast list when we find out tomorrow lol

[@ameliarose4051]

Ah! Thank you for doing this video! I really needed to hear this a while ago. :))

[@Kath_Steele]

💓💓

[@gigicalcagno4992]

pov me watching this before i even audition just so i’m prepared in case i get rejected 😍❤️✨

[@averytrexel]

i’m watching this because the cast list comes out today and i’m trying not to get my hopes up hahah