Keep Your Level Up Journey a SECRET Black Women! - Here’s Why

[@Seer-nn4qo]

I read this somewhere: “ You gotta stop telling bad spirits good news.” I live by this.

[@simplyhere3893]

J B I really like this!! Thank you for sharing 💫

[@LGnLA]

💯👏👏💯👏👏💯

[@Redd91ful]

J B 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@laurend3762]

J B✨💛. I thank you immensely for sharing that golden nugget of wisdom.

[@taylordowning2533]

My best friend sent me that meme

[@holisticcoachvictoria]

3 things you always keep private: 1. your love life 2. your income 3. your next move

[@newyorkknicks2649]

@FFF fitness don't forget your relationship status and sex life. People love to gossip when our business doesn't effect them, especially if we don't fuck with each other like that. It's like why do you need to know who I'm talking to, what I'm about to do, the amount of money I make and who I'm doing with? Cuz some people didn't change like we did and try to do everything in their power to bring you back to their level cuz they don't want YOU to so better than THEM. TRUE FRIENDS want their friends to see the best version of themselves if they haven't already. If a person is not supportive of you getting help and bettering yourself, drop them. You don't need negative energy in your life. I'm going through my weight loss journey 💪 and watch how many people that I KNOW and went to school with that wasn't checking for me all of a sudden want to hang out and telling me some bullshit. Because they didn't actually believe I would actually get it done and they don't want me to do better than them. But they be the same people that be gossiping and wasn't checking for you or on you when you're struggling/at your lowest. They more than likely sleep with 1 eye open 🥴

[@fabulouseddie9488]

Income first

[@Lexiesimone33]

Please dont announce you're making moves silently.

[@drkaryeroe]

Yes! That's the most hilarious thing ever when I see ppl saying this. I'm like ok, seems pretty public to me, but carry on lol

[@123weedie]

Lmao counterproductive af!

[@azmomconnection]

Hahaha!!!

[@curls4theworld]

LOL!

[@ireensilupya4385]

Lol

[@anmorgan3129]

I've learned that when you plant seeds, you keep them covered until they sprout. You never let birds know where your seeds are. They'll pick at them, take them, destroy them, etc... Discretion and discernment are key. I've learned that lesson young and also the hard way too.

[@hb7580]

PERRRFECT analogy.

[@Cattitude369]

❤❤❤❤

[@randommusings4957]

👏👏👏

[@pearlsrevealed]

Well said.

[@Ms.MD7]

I love this analogy

[@81eniale]

Your Co-workers ARE NOT your friends....👀👀👀

[@missdesireindependance5194]

81eniale facts

[@marianrising5557]

For sure

[@pattieoli7940]

Say it louuuuuder

[@JG-tr9py]

That's right! Never get too friendly with your coworkers. That's asking for BIG trouble.

[@debbiemcg9914]

Talk Truth!!! Some people want good for you but don't want to see you do better than them.

[@Lawyerbaejess]

I recently became a licensed attorney. I told no one I was sitting for it. Then, I popped up with my bar license. Next, I am working on my real estate license. I also keep my relationship very private. Just have to move in silence. Update: Now a licensed attorney and realtor. 💄🙏🏿

[@lavonnealexander6936]

*Empowered * you go girl! Personally not into those things but do you.

[@msh9249]

Yes I do this as well 👍🏽😊

[@DontaviaM]

*Empowered * I am going to put this into practice.

[@GeishaDoll]

Congrats 🍾

[@mae9063]

Contrat !!

[@brownbunny04]

Short Story: A few years back I made friends with another black woman on the job. She seemed cool and we talked and bonded over different things. I got too comfortable with her and told her I was going for a certain management position. I interviewed and didn't get it. A similar position opened up a few months later, interviewed, didn't get it. Come to find out, she had been talking to someone who was close with those in leadership. Telling things about my personal life that I had shared with her putting me at a disadvantage. Learned my lesson! Ladies, keep your business to yourself.

[@itzyogurlEleanor]

Yes,so true.

[@lb4397]

That’s so terrible 😕

[@lb4397]

We can’t even have true friends because of mess like this 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@uniquejohnson5516]

Damn a hater. So sorry that happened to you.

[@michellea6113]

Yessss I have learned this as well. There are people who don't want you too succeed in life. They will wish bad on you they will tell others about you they will spiritually try to block you m. Gotta keep your plans and goals to yourself.

[@zol2415]

I keep everything I do to level up to myself. I hate how nosey everyone is and I don't want to bring any negativity into my healing space.

[@Mllascelles1]

Zo L this!!!❤️

[@MartianBlues11]

Yes! People love to be all up in everyone’s business. I keep everything to myself 😂

[@UnknownUnknown-yl1lt]

Right!

[@mfululizowak9899]

Exactly!!! 💯💯💯

[@nalm9488]

Right. I don’t even tell family.

[@mardigras33]

Stop doing “Girls Trips” and travel and tour alone. Stop going to happy hour with girlfriends and go alone. Learn to just be alone. I’ll sit at a table in a restaurant ALONE and sometimes you get men who think you’re lonely. Signifying “you have no friends and no man therefore no drama” Then these men will approach you out of sympathy because they feel sad for you so they throw on the cape. Come to your table, strike up a conversation and possibly/hopefully offer to pay for your meal. If you accept or decline depends on the man, the mood, and the vibration in the atmosphere. Go to Barnes and Nobles alone. Go to the park ALONE. Alone alone alone. Alone is not lonely.

[@bd3966]

Agreed!

[@imdifferent7294]

T H I S W O R K S

[@AboveRubiesTV]

Yes!! I’ve been saying this for so long! I started out by taking small (state to state) trips by myself, then graduated to several Caribbean islands alone, in Spain alone, and now headed to Paris on thanksgiving day. Also, I take myself out on dates-movies and/or dinner. This works!! You beautiful ladies can do it too!! ✨❤️

[@mardigras33]

Prettyafro Black 😆👍🏽🤫

[@mardigras33]

CD M Right. I have had men say, “are you okay you look so sad sitting all alone.” Lol 😆 but actually I’m innocently enjoying my me time.

[@jerricaj6848]

Silent moves are the best moves 🤫

[@pisceanempress5060]

Facts 💯💯

[@cleopatramyers6134]

Yesssssss

[@Timetrae]

The best ever!!

[@ms.e195]

Yup

[@bellaroserela]

#Facts story of my life

[@edunlap6594]

Loose lips sinks ships!

[@edunlap6594]

@Dead Echo Yep!

[@Bloombaby99]

I've noticed something about my well-to-do friends: they are very private, they're very selective about who they deal with, and they don't share everything. They are also protective of their images. Ladies, be mindful of the company you keep.

[@sadieg3264]

Very true

[@TVwriter23]

Same with voracious readers. They rarely tell people they are.

[@whitney171330]

I'm more reserved naturally and I find its easier to see through people's bs when you listen to them and the way they talk about other people.

[@whitney171330]

Currently working on becoming a more positive thinker love all your videos

[@Seer-nn4qo]

Ambitiousgirl Bowden me too. I learned very young not to tell people your business. I literally tell people good things I’m doing way after the fact, if I say anything at all. My family always told us, “Everybody doesn’t need to know everything.” I’m glad I learned early because many people don’t wanna see you win.

[@lavonnealexander6936]

Well I just recently became like this. lol 😂 because my big ass mouth tell everyone what I am doing.

[@Pimpishone]

Ambitiousgirl Bowden I get everything from Saks On 5th Ave 1/2 off with the receipt and merchandise to show proof of purchase and authenticity ladies it’s boots, coats, shoes and bags season. You find it and I will let you know the pricing and availability. I used to sell on eBay but got tired of paying their fees. P.S: Here is my IG: @Dizzy_Dells (Use for bu$ine$$ purposes only)

[@jerrilynpapilon9611]

I'm the same way

[@MyRedmamba]

I have noticed a significant increase to the amount of black women at the gym I go to. They look like they range in ages 18 to 50, have their natural hair held back in a puff, and wear cute but not overly girly work out gear. We don't talk but I can tell they are in there to Level up on their physical attractiveness. Seeing this makes me proud.

[@lynnmorris8659]

MyRedmamba I freakin love it!😊💁🏾‍♀️✨

[@kaliha55]

100%

[@jromeo8247]

Circle of Influence is REAL. Find your up leveled tribe. You may be a single eagle now, but guess what, when you start soaring high, you will see OTHER eagles.😍👭

[@SagRising19]

Awesome!!!!

[@Faithovafeelings]

I’ve noticed this where I live too. It feels good!

[@beautifulblacksoul8611]

One of the main reasons is because as soon as you state you have higher standards, there will be hoards of people trying to discourage you and convince you that you don't deserve. Then when you do it, they will try to compete with you and be aggressive. Please MISS (Move In Silence Sis).

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Love this... #MISS

[@stevepandy6114]

Yesss that part #MISS 🙌🏾

[@LeafInTheWind88]

beautiful blacksoul I LEARNED THE HARD WAY

[@LeafInTheWind88]

Love the #MISS💕

[@UrbanAlchemystic]

#MISS

[@intuitivedepth3280]

I've decided to become a big sister mentor to other young women. I plan to introduce them to you and other black progressive women

[@Mel-go2pz]

Are you open to taking a new mentee?😩

[@Introvertsan]

I want to sign up

[@intuitivedepth3280]

I googled Big Brother Big Sister in my area. Here's the link to the general organization www.bbbs.org

[@intuitivedepth3280]

@@Mel-go2pz we can link in central Florida

[@FNFIHOCTW]

That's awesome Sis! Each one teach one.

[@skylarbrown1604]

“If someone asks if you listen to me, say no” 😭😭😭😂

[@littleympe2570]

That’s how you know she’s the real deal lol.

[@shuifeng1333]

😂💯

[@rosachra6351]

Yeah she's a savage for that comment 👌🏿

[@Alexis-lp1vd]

Real tears 😂😂😂

[@mimia.4810]

That took me out. I definitely had that happen to me 😂😂But it was another dark skin girl and we bonded over chrisse 🤷🏾‍♀️😂

[@xshesyourqorqeousxx3]

Black men: Chrissie never tells Black women to be accountable Chrissie: Sometimes we (Black women) get in our own way

[@ashtraybitch]

😄😄😄 YES!

[@bubblesactivated]

😂😂😂😂 exactly! Like they still try to someway shift blame just so they don’t have to feel guilty for being a piece of shit lol she holds us accountable for a lot

[@booklover2404]

black women headstrong cement for brains once we get it in out head we resist the need to change or level up. We must learn to get out of our own way!

[@jennifersmith5230]

I literally got into a argument online with someone about chrissie. They said she was divisive, and I asked how

[@legen482]

Black men idea of accountability is to tell blk women they are baby mama's, gettho, n all those disgusting things they say to tear us down. They dont know in taking accountability they have to show and do the actions which is first required by them.

[@JayySonataWTF]

I noticed this a while ago. Specifically with plus sized dark skin women. A lot of which are very very feminine. They play up their femininity, they know what works with their body, they feel confident and you can feel that. But they never ever discuss it. They are always very stylish and usually have lots of men chasing them of all races even though we are told bigger women aren’t attractive. Their femininity and the way they hold themselves and take care of themselves make them attractive to men. As well as the way they talk. Very smooth and sweet. Sometimes sultry. They make lots of eye contact. Smiling. Knowing how to walk seductively at all times. Standing straight. I’ve seen it. They never discuss it. But it works. And people HATE to see it. They hate seeing men who like them and they hate seeing them level up.

[@BayouBarbie504]

I worked with a girl who as I read this, I just think of her. Thick but, so feminine! Super sexy, I felt homely around her, constantly!

[@vintageincolor]

Jayy Sonata I agree with it most big women I know dress VERY well, Cary themselves very well and are in relationships or having thriving careers. Or they’re some of the best dressed women I know

[@iguessitsokyungrichbaby2813]

As a plus size black girl who is actively changing their lifestyle I can confirm I never knowledge my plus sized self. I was just cute , I noticed girls who called themselves “big girls” or talked about being big no matter if in a positive or negative came off insecure. The prettiest plus girls that were successful in dating I observed never spoke on their size so I did the same.

[@PortraitofAsha]

This is straight FACTS

[@Emo2heart]

Ive notice this as well. I alway wondered how that work. Im a bigger girl myself. But I'm started dressing more feminine. Tone down my makeup. Styling my natural hair. It almost as if man found out im alive. It literally the craziest thing.

[@risscaybaby13]

I said this on my Facebook about a week ago. It doesn't matter if you're nice or mean about it. As a black women "leveling up" you will be judged. Lay low on your opinions unfortunately

[@MartianBlues11]

Yes, you can’t say the cold hard truth about colorism, racism, sexism, classism, etc and expect that the people who benefit from these systems won’t be mad and cut you out of opportunities. Unless you want activism to be your job, there’s no reason to put every single thing that you feel out there. I keep controversial, polarizing opinions to myself and on the internet 🤷🏾‍♀️ It’s unfortunate, but that’s how life works.

[@LeafInTheWind88]

Rich Tonez Amen sis!!👏👏

[@heyamina7043]

MartianBlues 👏👏

[@LeratoM98]

@@MartianBlues11 Well said ✨👌.

[@SagRising19]

@@MartianBlues11 Yes, I do the same. I keep my opinion to myself, regarding certain topics.

[@sheritownsend7525]

I knew a girl for a year, before I knew she was rich. I found out when she was about to leave America and invited me to come to her villa for the summer. While in America, she bought her clothes from Goodwill. I love people like this. They're about the business of DOING and BEING, not talking. 'Silence IS golden', when you know how to use it.

[@madamcoco2011]

This is amazing!

[@starrjohnson1327]

I worked with a girl like this. I was 27, she was 19. We worked retail. She would always ask me to lunch and pay(paid with a black card!). This girl was so sweet. One day she showed me a picture of her car-pink Hummer! She had money but never flaunted it.

[@BeulahRWalker]

Never Friend Your Co-Worker!

[@naana-scelyne6370]

Beulah R. Walker im beginning to learn that!!!! Im beginning to keep a low profile

[@toricollins6516]

Yeah, the roots of most rumors at work.

[@blackheartcardigan]

I recently learned that one of our manager's is actually not as friendly as she pretends to be which has me with a guard up now.

[@PierretteMalaika]

i have learnt the hard way

[@claudine5386]

THIS👏RIGHT 👏HERE👏

[@tututhebudgie2154]

I made the mistake of telling one of my friends my plans for leveling up and next thing I knew she was trying to compete with me trying to one up my outfits and talk to the guys that were talking to me

[@alexandertracy30]

Mareia Cunningham time to do away with her. She’s no good for the positive energy you’re embodying. If she can’t be happy ,and level up without COMPETING. She’s not really a FRIEND.

[@unrepentantjaegerist7236]

What a shitty friend

[@ingridg6141]

Mareia Cunningham OMG that’s MY fear! Lmao wtf there’s PLENTY of men to go around! 🤦🏽‍♀️😩 #shame

[@UrbanAlchemystic]

Wow! Smh damn... Can't tell ppl shit. The funny part is why didn't she level up on her own merit like why she had to wait for you to do it to want to compete she's so silly

[@happycrocodile30]

Omg🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@KeraBear28]

One thing I've found helpful is to have my antennas up when people start asking probing questions. When you start getting serious about leveling up, people will notice that you are moving differently. They will ask questions, sometimes with an agenda. If the person asking the questions is not someone you know well AND trust, keep your answers vague and brief while still being cordial. This is especially true when dealing with white women in the corporate world.

[@ChrissiesWay]

Great advice!

[@aliepower1775]

THAT. BLACK CORPORATE STRATEGY 101. I BEEN waiting for us as DS BW to come back to this truth. We were NEVER raised to share all of our business...ESPECIALLY with white co-workers. It's already hard on us with our own tribe!

[@KeraBear28]

@@ChrissiesWay Would it be possible for you to do a follow up video on how women can proactively respond to people who question them about their change in appearance (losing weight and wearing natural hair), attitude, and dating habits during the process of leveling up? I see so many women who forgo discretion when it comes to who they tell about their level up journey simply because they are blind sided by the questions and/or don't know how to give the "correct response" versus the "unadulterated truthful response". Moving in silence while leveling up is ideal but at times questions from people who are just nosey and/or have agendas are unavoidable and black women need help with how they should respond. Thank you for all you do!

[@KeraBear28]

@Star n' Stripes /////// I had to get a privacy screen for my phone because my co-workers were so nosey.

[@aliepower1775]

@@MJ_Solo THAT. Sad to have to do, but you have to PROTECT yourself!

[@freddysharky9832]

Haters need company - let them stay lonely or with other haters

[@questionresearch8721]

I don't discuss my weekend plans with co-workers. This weekend, I'm going to a make up tutorial. It's all day from 10am -5pm. They don't need to know anything.

[@aliepower1775]

BINGO.

[@user-ec4uf7dk5t]

Yes! I tell my coworkers, "I have a pack schedule of running errands," leveling up stuff is included in my errands

[@questionresearch8721]

@@user-ec4uf7dk5t 🤭🤭 I tell them that I was cleaning and organizing items in my house. I will tell them I go to church. I was actually doing those things but I never reveal anything else.

[@imdifferent7294]

Don't tell them shit. Especially if they're white.

[@brooklynforever1990]

Facts! What are you doing this weekend? laundry 💅🏽

[@haniamashriq5666]

100% agree evil eye is so real, I recently just deleted all my social media and I’m learning to make moves in absolute silence. Love you Chrissie I’m 21 now and I’ve been watching you for years :) xx

[@blujay3557]

Saame sis!😂 Chrissie began teaching us young and straight outta high school

[@followchrist0]

Same i deleted my insta posts !!!

[@genevawelch9865]

Saint Mercedes I just deleted all my social media too! My life has been improving SO MUCH since deleting all my social media

[@genevawelch9865]

MS. LIYAH HERE Permanently deleting my Facebook and Instagram was the best choice I’ve ever made

[@Thatsnewsgirl]

@@genevawelch9865 yes it is so freeing

[@ShareBearChelle]

When I first found this channel I tried to put as many dark skinned women as possible on to it but most black people aren't interested in leveling up or changing. Only one of my cousins who I'm really close to appreciated the knowledge but that's cool. If I can help at least one dark skinned woman that's enough. Lol

[@alandriaontheinternet6900]

I know the feeling and I am slowly moving away from them. I don't need negative people hampering my journey.

[@tanyabluved]

Honestly, people won't want to see pages like this or want to change until THEY feel like it's time to. If someone doesn't want help, then you can't help them.

[@alandriaontheinternet6900]

@@tanyabluved yeah. 😔

[@littleympe2570]

And most that are at all receptive to this conversation will find this corner of the internet due to their own research and curiosity. It’s 2019.

[@anitragreene2311]

Amen sister

[@pinklady2994]

Great video! I have found that sometimes bw feel like we have to be super relatable, friendly and over share to make others comfortable and to dispel stereotypes. It’s great to have a good character of course, but I have found that people love “flawed” bw it makes them feel comfortable. I’ve learned I don’t owe anyone anything, not my life story or background and personal details unless I’m comfortable, the same goes for men and boyfriends.

[@pearlsrevealed]

Bingo

[@Mrs.Fineapple]

This 🙌🏾 I tell my little sister this everyday. She’s in college and over shares way too much.

[@LGnLA]

& family and friends too... ijs...

[@shakera02]

🖤🖤🎯🖤🖤

[@toricollins6516]

Very, very true. This comment literally spoke to my soul. I intend to advance my education, & I already know to keep it to myself. Love this comment. Privacy is key.

[@grezsoy]

As a foreign Black woman I was SURPRISED as how much American Black women speak about personal issues. I tell them you don't need to say what you're doing or going to do because everyone is not going to be happy for you. Just do it and keep moving.

[@tika3453]

grezsoy me as well my coworkers talk about everything going on in their personal life I’m like do you need to talk about all of that they think I have trust issues

[@Jamila91100]

I am African and we don't discuss ANYTHING lol I have Friends that I didn't even know were dating that got married or finding out someone had a baby and I didn't even know were pregnant lol

[@kat7939]

Fatima camara That’s how it’s supposed to be!

[@hailie_Selassie]

@@Jamila91100 I am Haitian and we do the same. Our parents teach us to not talk about our personal buisness.

[@bre970]

grezsoy I believe it’s the social competition going on right now but as a African American I was brought up to move in silence and many of my friends say you always hiding your plans etc my granddaddy would say never let the Right hand know what the Left hand got planned keep them guessing and baba was so right 🙏🏾

[@gabrielar9611]

Ciara is definitely inspirational. Share AFTER you got the ring.

[@bringingclaritytoconfusion3605]

Ciara is literally one in a million and already had the look, beauty, sex appeal, and other intangibles that most women need to achieve.

[@gabrielar9611]

All types of women can be in relationship that levels them up. I think Ciara is a good example of letting go of toxic mentalities that keep you with low quality men (future) and changing mentally to get someone better. Honestly I see women I don’t think are that attractive with high quality men and beautiful women with dusties. It’s all about your self esteem. Nobody can tell you what you deserve.

[@bringingclaritytoconfusion3605]

@z e right, but the wild thing I always say is, Why are these bad choices made in the first place, and why are good guys overlooked? Is this the case or am I overreaching?

[@gabrielar9611]

Bringing Clarity to Confusion to be completely honest, people thrive on negativity. Most people focus on the people that don’t like them rather then the people that do. Everyone can love them but they concentrate on the ones that don’t. Human nature I guess 🤷🏾‍♀️ it’s not a women thing. Men complain too.

[@bringingclaritytoconfusion3605]

@@gabrielar9611 yes.

[@suchalady1463]

Chrissie is QUEEN of leveling up and moving in stealth. She made it to 100k subs faceless! That’s talent and strategy right there. We probably won’t see sis on cam until she’s damn near a millionaire!! #levelup

[@CutieHoney13]

Yep a millionaire with a security team because she needs it. The dusties who troll her channel have so much time on their dusty hands.

[@kchism1]

It is one of the 48 laws of power to move in silence. This is an old age adage.

[@VirgoDluxe]

Great, timely message. A good friend of mine was losing her ish today over her dusty dude and something he did. I told her to stop complaining and just get rid of him 😂 Why waste tears on a dusty dude when there are way better men out there. I told her to focus on herself and her baby. She thought I was being so mean and I hurt her feelings 🙄! After that I just shut up because I quickly realized that this level up journey is not for everyone 💁🏾‍♀️ I’ll just keep it to myself and keep it moving! Her cross to bare, not mine ✌🏾

[@thelastshallbefirst6036]

Part of your level of Journey is cleaning house in your personal life hi, you have to look at your so-called family and friends with a different set of eyeballs and see where head is at

[@yvonneoy3124]

She's not ready yet

[@byoutifulmusic]

I’ve learned not to give friends unsolicited advice. Sometimes people just want to vent.. not necessarily for anybody to save the day.

[@VirgoDluxe]

byoutifulmusic I agree with you! She asked me what would I do and what I think she should do... that was my response.

[@VirgoDluxe]

Yvonne oliea,yvonne absolutely!

[@dongysakura418]

Maybe its because I'm a Christian and some life experiences but I have been doing this my entire life. The Bible says be gentle as a dove but wise as a serpent. Make your moves in silence. The world is not on your side so do not invite them into your house. Because they will destroy anything good. Learn how to gauge people and how to give a little information but nothing substantial. Many surface level people will not realize what you are doing. Keep your it to yourself because not everyone you meet in your life is going to be a team player. There are always Judas in the world. We can choose to let them in our lives or not.

[@dongysakura418]

@Lucky Sport yes. you have to be careful who you invite into your home. someone people want to peep around to gossip about you too or maybe to even steal something or use something against you. It's sad that is the world we live in.

[@vanessathomas6999]

Amen Sis😇😇😇

[@cloudniine9]

That’s it! Wise as a serpent & harmless as a dove. Speaking & moving with wisdom & discernment 🙏🏽

[@ngreat4390]

That's the exact interpretation I got when meditating the word too. Be wise as serpents means that wisdom is secret knowledge that powers your operations; but gentle as doves means that your withholding information is not for deception or harm of others. So don't be a tattle tale...

[@dongysakura418]

@@ngreat4390 Yes, not everyone cares about your journey and care about you! wolves in sheep clothing!

[@LotusBookWorm]

Another reason to stay quiet is you may fail at some things. Its a journey so you may slip up a couple of times and you may be uncomfortable (talking about myself here) with talking about or going into details about how you fail.

[@Seer-nn4qo]

LotusBookWorm I appreciate this comment so much!! We may fail, but will will learn from our mistakes and become even better. The journey will be more peaceful with less negative people and energy in the way ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏

[@kimjones3262]

Yes exactly give yourself room to make mistakes on the journey without the pressure of others holding you to standards they aren't even able to maintain.

[@laneylaney9985]

Yup and people LOVE seeing other people fail

[@216flypearls]

I love moving quietly. I love when people think I dont know something. I love when people think I dont know people. It’s very weird but maybe because I’ve been in the underdog position before so I enjoy when ppl underestimate me bc they look dumb as hell when they see that you’re playing chess. Twice this year, I was called a quiet storm. I can dig that now. It makes a lot of sense.

[@iamaksd]

Awww yes! I can relate. I'm the same way. People underestimate me alot.

[@tabitaeguangs]

You are my friend.People underestimate me a lot.My sister once said,"if only they knew".

[@brittanyguyton3987]

I love it!

[@megrocks3026]

I'm totally the opposite and I hate that. I think I'm pretty good at reading people but I can't keep that info to myself, particularly to anyone who's in my face long enough. I'm just the type of person who will either stay quiet with the info in my head or I'll tell the other person. I cant just keep talking to the person and act like everything is ok. For example: I have narcissistic family members so now I pretty much have a narcissist radar for everyone I meet. If someone shows some behaviours of narcissists, I will interrogate them without mentioning the term narcissist ofc, and act like its a normal convo. Then if they answer how a narcissist answers, and I'm convinced they're a narcissist, at this point, I just stay silent and talk little, if I felt like telling him would harm me. Or I'd start talking about narcissism and how they behave and pretty much make it obvious that I think they're a narcissist. And then 5 minutes later, regret that I even opened my mouth. At the moment, I just feel too excited to keep the convo to myself and I can't simply converse about empty topics because they don't interest me.

[@frenchgirl5878]

A quiet storm.. that’s one hell of a compliment.

[@RBP263]

When I met my BF, I was broke as hell he would offer to pay my bills but I never let him, now we're traveling the world together and I'm in my last trimester of law school with his unconditional support, I ask for nothing and my recent gift from him was my dream car. Edit: thanks guys for all the positive feedback, I've been absent for quite a while I'm currently in finals this week is gonna be hectic because it's literally my last week of school today is my very first exam so it'd also be amazing.

[@turnthepage867]

Cool! He sounds wise and loyal.

[@consciousbeauty9244]

Yes girl ! So happy for you! Keep living your best life 👏🙌😘

[@RBP263]

@@turnthepage867 he's exceeded my expectations in each and every ways, because of my surroundings just like Chrissie stated we're taught that we're not valuable enough to acquire certain things!! This is irrelevant but wanted to point out he's White. seeing the way black guys treated my immediate family members I said I never even wanted to pursue or engaged in all the struggle love nonsense, but after meeting him I've completely changed my mind and needless to say that us crossing paths has been the best thing to happen to both of us.

[@RBP263]

@@consciousbeauty9244 thanks Mama I'm forever thankful for the love and support from other Queens.

[@Wetesk53]

@@RBP263 Is he much older? I'm just trying to figure out the dynamic so I can apply them to myself, thanks

[@apriljoixrush]

I agree speak life into yourself and your dreams ..energy from outside sources can interfere with that ..sometimes haters can be disguised as people who claim to have you in their best interest..i used to seek validation before making moves .we gotta trust our own judgment and simply execute no matter what.

[@FNFIHOCTW]

Amen Sis! Much love to you keep it positive and real. 💖

[@apriljoixrush]

My Prayer for Justice 💕💕

[@Ms.MD7]

I agree. I don't want distractions. I'd rather just want people to see my success w/out even having the need to show em.

[@uniqueandgifted]

YAAAASSSSS amen, Girl I said this to myself recently. I am no longer waiting on for validation. FROM ANYONE

[@fattie2baddietv805]

Hey sis ! I be seeing you everywhere. I’m subbed tho so maybe that’s why !

[@nellymaina4494]

Worse thing about moving in silence is that people get so bothered, they always wanna try you

[@FuchsiaSquare]

Don’t they? It’s almost like they hate to see your level of confidence.😑

[@Roseyyyyyyyyyyyyy]

I needed this so baddd... especially after vomiting to a friend if mine about me getting a financial coach and plans to get my license and a Masters in Social Work 🤦🏾‍♀️ I do overshare a-lot when it comes to my goals....

[@tequisapage4732]

I tend to over share as well 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@FuturePsychNurse]

Rosey Florestal The first response is enough reason to keep your goals on the hush from now on, congratulations on your future Masters in Social Work! 👩🏾‍🏫👩🏾‍🎓

[@216flypearls]

Karen Cole lol right... although I get their point. It really depends on how you move with it. There’s absolutely Money and success in social work! Just don’t settle on low level jobs. Congrats to you sis!!! Enjoy YOUR journey.

[@vanessaroper3028]

A financial coach, that’s a good one

[@LGnLA]

@@FuturePsychNurse 💯👏👏💯👏👏💯👏👏💯 💅

[@DaliaMiller]

I actually have experience with losing friends. When I was living with my parents 2 years ago, they were always there. Now I have since moved out, got a better job, lost 20 pounds and counting, paying attention to what I wear, and take care of the trinity (hair, skin, and nails) religiously. And they are nowhere to be seen... But my man loves my come up as a woman!

[@pinklady2994]

Congratulations 🎈🎉🍾

[@sandracrump]

Congratulations 🎈 you glad those bad seeds are out your life

[@wowso4]

Dalia Chatters congratulations darl, don’t worry about those friends they were never your real friends. I lost a lot of friends over the years too I just keep it moving.

[@cjbowers6055]

Positive energy pushes out negative energy.

[@TrishDaniell]

Dalia Chatters Girl, they were never real friends in the first place. They were real frienemies...Keep soaring and remain blessed!

[@KarynMi]

I’ve made this mistake more than once unfortunately. Everyone isn’t genuine when they pretend to be happy for you and negative energy CAN block your blessings. The saddest part is that I had been told over and over by numerous different people that I have a lot of “jealously” around me but I never took heed to it because I didn’t think my friends/family even had a reason to be jealous. It was never like I had a great life or I was pretty or had a lot of money or anything like that, I was just me and apparently that was where the envy came in to play. I’ve always been very sharing of the spotlight, tooting everyone’s horn but my own and I notice I never got the same. I had to wake up to the backhanded compliments, the unasked for “advice” to change myself, the “leave him, be single” speeches even when nothing was wrong. I’m 30 years old this year and I’m still learning to not be so trusting with people and to keep my good news to myself!!! I think people want you to do ok as long as you’re not doing better than them.

[@taraking8555]

Preach sistah!!!

[@iamaksd]

TRUTH!!

[@maxasante5206]

that why you need a good jehovah witness boy like myself to wash away those demons from you. My kisses also wipe away all past sins lol.

[@wshelby83]

@@maxasante5206 loollllll, you're funny

[@acestarone]

I don't add coworkers on Facebook or social media because if you add one all of the nosy ones (who aren't cordial with you) will follow

[@thelastshallbefirst6036]

Your Facebook and Twitter is for your personal use only. Coworkers are not supposed to be in your personal life anyway. When you clock out, you don't know those people.

[@heyamina7043]

Badgurlbeauty I have two seperate accounts for my main social media’s. One is more professional, and the other is just fun.

[@acestarone]

@@heyamina7043 good idea. My Facebook book has a lot of privacy settings and I have a very small circle on there. My Instagram is mostly professional.

[@ndidindekwu4574]

Yes I agree my IG is not personal anyway,I just share my writing,so i mostly tell them i dont have one and if they go snooping they'll only see quotes and poems lol

[@annann580]

Amen Amen

[@mizrelmizrel]

Never let your right hand know what the left hand is doing 😉

[@natashahubbert4438]

mizrel61 mizrel61 On bible.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@ericamarss3613]

mizrel61 mizrel61 just said this the other day

[@pwilliams4155]

I say this all the time😁🙌🏾

[@g.pearson4726]

Your comment made my day. Thank you My grandmothers favorite saying Rip momma🙏🏽😇

[@glamorouslioness9166]

Facts

[@Mel-go2pz]

Chrissie, could you make a video on the importance of having a mentor? And how do you ask someone to be your mentor?

[@justniquol8972]

I co-sign this suggestion.

[@melblose5244]

Yes please and she even liked it!!

[@Bloombaby99]

She has it on her DDS magazine website (at the bottom of the page, I believe) that anybody is welcome to offer their services to her and her fan base in areas in many places.

[@Bloombaby99]

@@mochamommyATX Agreed 1000%. I reiterated your comment at the very top of the comments section and gave you your props cause this is so true. People with money and resources are used to people coming to them for money but it's extremely hard to find somebody who wants to have a genuine friendship/relationship or just wants to help them. In the end, the positive rapport benefits BOTH parties.

[@rosepetals6895]

This is such a good idea...i on one hand don’t even know where to get a mentor

[@sweetpeaj1952]

I totally get it. I feel like it's one thing to have requirements, however announcing it to the world comes off a bit self centered and shallow. Also people will try to undermine you if they know your goals.

[@LadyCharity]

I never announce anything lol never got why ppl felt the need to share anything unless there is an expressed/genuine interest.

[@somethingbeautiful2170]

This is great information, now for those so call pro black men channels they need to be teaching dusties how to fill out an job application than focusing on is so much.🤷🏽‍♀️

[@stlucianqueen7073]

Black men are jealous of our success 😂😂😂

[@MartianBlues11]

And how to wear condoms, be active in their kid’s lives, and how to get the therapy they need for their anti-BW sentiments ☕️

[@Jackywitha_y]

@@stlucianqueen7073 no really though. I feel like bm are more jealous than bw but maybe I'm bugging 🙄🤷🏽‍♀️

[@stlucianqueen7073]

@@Jackywitha_y You know they don't compete with other men sooo 🙄

[@Jackywitha_y]

@@stlucianqueen7073 okay! Damn shame 🤦🏽‍♀️😂

[@darthchocolate5190]

Chrissie is like don't admit to guys that you listen to me. You're a real one Chrissie. I imagined that scenario on a date. Why did I laugh?😂

[@bd3966]

Right I'ma be like "who?" While liking her video under the table 😂

[@purfection8856]

She is a rare one this Chrissie.

[@LeratoM98]

@@bd3966 Lmao TRUE 😂👌

[@CutieHoney13]

Same!! I loved that part! 😂😂😂

[@Alliebei]

@@bd3966 😂😂😂

[@sweetlovely9479]

The title alone is GOLD! Discretion is key. 💞💕

[@LeafInTheWind88]

As much as I love my Aunt I told her about a apartment I’m in process of getting and she said “That rent is too much”. As much as my family have talked about me behind my back for not being “On top of my game” now that I am they don’t want to see it! It’s like a double edged sword! I really don’t know who to talk to anymore so from here on out none of them will not know any of my moves.

[@AmillionRays]

Keep it to yourself!

[@AboveRubiesTV]

It is hard, but you have to keep your mouth closed!! I am so serious!! I have the same type of aunt(s). Will talk so bad when I’m not living up to “their” expectations, but when I’m doing well, or my mom is complemented for how she raised me, they’ll try to downplay or or go as far as taking credit for the good 🙄 I have been learning to shut my mouth too!!

[@LGnLA]

Move in silence sis, let your success speak... I learned this LONG AGO!! It's been working GREAT... keep em' shook ...grateful!!💅

[@LeafInTheWind88]

Latonya's Bonnet Yes I am from here on out!

[@LeafInTheWind88]

Sadé Jay OMG sis yes! My mom did great by raising me the best that she could and my father (a black man) also downplays her even though she has passed away! We all have to move in silence because it just seems like our “families” deep down inside don’t want to see us succeed!

[@fattyaek]

I had a date last year and my date turned up early while I was still doing my hair ( while listening to @Chrissie).. It was a video on leveling up and hypergamy.. He told me to turn it off cz he found her irritating😫😫 I was like huh? What?? I couldn't figure out why he as a black man would have a problem with her message for us black women... But I found out soon enough exactly why: he was a dusty, and this message (if applied correctly) removes the access that dusties have to black women🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️ And they know it.

[@heyamina7043]

fattyaek 👏👏Chrissie saved you

[@fattyaek]

@@heyamina7043 oh yes!!

[@iamaksd]

This is sad!

[@amEAGLEBABY5]

Blessing in disguise... people who are low vibrational don't like hearing information that is of high regard..to their ears it's like your doing too much or trying to be to righteous/boogie..also makes them feel intimidated...imo

[@searphhoney]

I feel like not oversharing is a cardinal-rule. One that even I forget on occasion.

[@aishawf]

If you divulge don't be surprised when they try to discourage you from your deepest desires...also they may become defensive because now they have to take a look at themselves.

[@yvonneoy3124]

Yep happened to me and guess what? I got the last laugh.

[@reneedennis2011]

That is so true.

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

This is soooo true!! I recently opened up a private medical practice and wrote a book all over the summer and some of my family members was upset and keep asking “why are you so secretive” I’m like that question is why I move in silence..it’s not about “being secret ” I only share my goals with people who can help build me up and assist in my goal...I’m Nehemiah from the Bible LOL I always have moved in silence GREAT WORD Queen!! 🙏🏿🙌🏿👑

[@oridniv]

My mom used to tell me that the people who put juju on you are not literal witches but everyday people with uncontrollable jealousy. It sounds humorous in conversation but in actuality, we can self sabotage because we want to accommodate others in our leveling up.

[@deenadream]

Interesting

[@fafalise2023]

You said a mouthful. Accomodating others in our level up. This was the hardest hurdle for me to get over. Xx

[@RMFeminine4TheWin]

this is a strategy i've read by leading wealth-teachers & thought leaders. keep your plans to yourself. blow folks' minds. repeat. ;-) P.S.~if you absolutely MUST discuss b/c of your excitement perhaps (been there) get a journal & write down your thoughts everyday. this is a great way to chart your progress as well. ~speak to your Pastor/Priest/Mentor/Therapist/Counselor/Doctor. someone who is ethically sworn to confidentiality. ~get in an online women's (FEMININITY/LIKE-MINDED) group. they're totally anonymous!

[@LGnLA]

💯💯💯💯💯💯👏👏👏👏

[@frag9575]

do you have any recommendations of women groups

[@RMFeminine4TheWin]

Nicole Michelle has a secret one on FB and does YT vids here M-Wed

[@beautypopper1016]

I say this all the time. I only tell and vent to my therapist. I write down everything during the week and bring them into my sessions. I learned this the hard way early when I was 18.

[@RMFeminine4TheWin]

@@beautypopper1016 i h-e-a-r-d THAT!!! i learned that when i was 12! #betrayalSUCKS! 😭

[@Cattitude369]

Now that I'm leveling up, and tapping into my femininity, I am hypersensitive to the word "strong", and notice how often it is the first adjective chosen to describe us. During the recent Elle magazine fiasco their response was "blah blah blah showcasing strong black women..". I have yet to hear anyone say strong *insert any other race* woman. I also would NEVER equate showcasing models to showcasing strength. I expect beauty, drama, flare, expensive, chic - many other things but never strong.

[@just1desi]

MagieNoir 💖💖 independent is another trigger word they like to throw around. Meaning they think you should carry most of the burden with no help. I would look out for any man wanting to call you that thinking they’re being complimentary

[@Luci_pur]

MagieNoir 💖💖 I’ve always took being called a “strong black woman” as offensive. Why do we have to be strong? That’s a man’s job.

[@Luci_pur]

Madison Mason exactly! I am very feminine and soft. It’s sad, but recently I’ve been told that I’m dainty by several men (not of color) and it felt really good to hear that. I realized that it was so foreign to me. To never heard being called that before. I won’t lie though, it felt really good for someone to compliment that in me💕

[@charniecearielle]

I feel like for years it has been a “compliment” to bw to be called strong but we’re realizing being called strong for all the wrong reasons is not such a compliment anymore

[@charniecearielle]

Enduring “struggle love” , raising kids alone, suffering silently and hurrying the sorrows in caring for kids, men and everyone else but self is not strong in my opinion.

[@melblose5244]

I'm an 18 year old in high school and in a month I will be done with my finals (S.A). I regret already telling some people the various ways I'm going to level up (even worse its girls that don't like me) concerning looks and my hairstyles and wardrobe however I didn't share my future business plans and the fact that I'm seeking a black business woman who will mentor me in all aspects of life (investments, business etc). Not everyone wishes the best for you and I had to learn that the hard way.

[@Seer-nn4qo]

Lord Praise Thou you are learning early sis. You will be great 😊❤️

[@starrjohnson1327]

I had to distance myself from almost ALL of my family members because they were jealous and holding me back. I can't believe them! I'm changing and finding myself. I don't want to end up like them- messy and miserable!

[@missdesireindependance5194]

It’s in all families

[@janaegeea]

ppl will try to stop us before we get started. gotta move quietly.

[@Geminiqueentravels]

As a older black Woman I was taught at an early age by my aunt to level up. My best friend growing up was light skin. We went places that some people only dream about. Dark skin girls did not like me. They called me stuck up and conceited because of the way I dressed. I didn’t wear fades. I worn high end heels labels even back then. I dated older men with money. Even family told me I needed to lower my standards. Find a nice man And fall in love. I was very secretive but watch you closer than you think. Jealousy is a terrible thing.

[@ofeibea]

We deserve nice things too.

[@ofeibea]

@Lucky Sport what a world? I hide what is dearest to me. So I can relate. Alot of people don't even know where I live.

[@fraggelrock9974]

“Do you watch a girl name Chrissie on YT?” “Say No” Lmao

[@SuperCynthia333]

Fraggel Rock I was laughing to 😂😂

[@VLP_123]

"What's KZbin?" LOL

[@artisticagi]

7:07 “Don’t announce to the world you only want to date a rich man.” Just only choose high caliber men. Yes. I want to look like money so that they don’t even approach me anymore. I want them to think, “oh she probably think she too good.” Yes! Yes I do. I’m tired of the prison grads, the I’m always switching jobs every 6 months at 40 years old, the I got no money let’s split, etc.

[@friimunya8488]

Preach

[@teonferguson3669]

What have you done to attract that man yet? It’s been a year

[@londonkhareem6515]

The prison grads, 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. You know I wondered how a woman like me ended up with ppl from the hue! NEVER again because they cannot be helped. Atleast not by black women.

[@michelleclark8099]

Yes, yes Yes Yes Yes! But, they will try to tear you down with a million questions, though. Death by a million tiny cuts. Such as: Why are you wearing your hair that way. Why do you have on heels. Why do you match your outfit when it is just the gym. Why do you wear scarves. Why do you wear your fingernails medium instead of long. Why do your wear natural makeup and not heavy contour, etc. Why do you wear pearl earrings. Why do you wear hats. You should not wear hair extensions. Why do you wear light colors and white and beige. Why do you wear dresses and skirts. Why do you not wear those big fake eyelashes. Why do you like boots? Why do you speak so softly. They will kill you with a million questions, whenever you make a change, or if they think you are upgrading. If you do not level up, they say, dark skin girls do not take care of themselves. If you do level up, they say, dark skin girls are trying to be something that they are not. Wow! The Double Bind! So, since we can not win with them either way, neither if we take the low road, nor if we take the high road, so, go ahead and level up. Take the high road, then.

[@kimsbodydesign]

a pleasant answer such as "Because I like it." tells people nothing.

[@GreenLikeKush]

Girl yes.

[@secret-garden]

People will ask, but your power and control is in your non answer. You can always just smile and walk away. You dont owe anyone an explanation for your personal decisions.

[@minimoongirl47]

I know this isn’t for everyone but journaling can be extremely beneficial for leveling up and maintaining discretion. That way you won’t need to have anyone belittle your achievements or success but it will leave others guessing why you’ve become less informative with your daily activities and thoughts🤗

[@genj6630]

Thanks! Have felt needed to do that more too.

[@ButterflyBree]

I learned the hard way to keep my personal and professional lives completely separate. I don't discuss any detailed information about my family, upbringing, my social network, professional acclaim/recognition, etc. I've experienced women (Nigerian, Indian descent) who underestimated my knowledge and experience. Once they recognized my intellect and ability to effortlessly connect with people they exhibited jealous, toxic behaviors towards me. I don't go into details about my life or future plans with most people.

[@ndidindekwu4574]

Yes keep things private,I think you should be cordial with coworkers but not necessarily friendly,if someone asks personal questions be evasive if they keep asking avoid them

[@dakotastorms1255]

My grandmother always said not to broadcast good things happening to you because someone will be jealous and try to ruin that happiness or take advantage of you.

[@deenadream]

Soooo true

[@madamelogicbombdropperblac7799]

Also, black women that have a college degree should get their TEFL (Teaching English as a Foreign Language), this allows us to travel overseas and teach English. There are companies that will pay for your plane ticket, room and board, and you can make up to $2000.00 per month. You work 3 to 4 hours a day and rest of the day and weekends are yours to meet and mingle with men of other races, shop, go to events and simply socialize. Also, you can go from country to country and all paid for by the companies that will hire you to teach at their facilities.

[@kat7939]

I always tell young high school and college age kids this! 👏🏿👏🏿

[@Ella-tf8yv]

I recently got my TEFL (in silence, of course!) as a career backup for exactly this reason! Always be prepared and educated ladies💅🏾

[@madamelogicbombdropperblac7799]

@@Ella-tf8yv Yep! And travel overseas live well, meet interesting non black men, and get paid teaching. More black women should do this.

[@1021Marcy]

Preach! I got a job 3 yrs ago in S. Korea teaching English. I'm 1 yr away 4rm being student debt free. I haven't been dating tho (I've been single for the past 3 yrs) bc I'm seriously focused on leveling up & this is not where I see myself forever so I don't really see the point in setting up permanent roots. But if you are looking to date/marry, overseas is actually a great place to level up bc foreign men believe in marrying up & as a teacher you have a lot of options! But other than that it was the best decision I could have ever made. My family is so toxic, my "friends" never wanted to see me win. It was just so awful for me in the South USA. Also if ur an American teaching in S. Korea you get a nice pension & severance package when you decide to leave. I have friends who are leaving w at least $10K after only being here for a yr.

[@madamelogicbombdropperblac7799]

@@1021Marcy I got a goal to live year after year 4 months in different parts of Europe: 4 months in Italy, 4 months in France, 4 months in Spain and 4 months in London. Teaching, writing, doing film work (Documentaries, Short Films, Wildlife Photography (I'll break away for a week here and there to go Africa, Australia and South America to Shoot/Film) and other things. Basically America is finished for black women. The U.S. is not and never was our home. Heck Europe and Asian and the darkest part of Africa is more our home than the U.S. and even Canada. Good luck to you sistah🤗👸🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿

[@AbaitheyBeauty]

I came to the conclusion that you don’t owe anyone an explanation or a PowerPoint of what’s going on your life. You’ve been spending your own money using your time to learn all these things when you were struggling with yourself none of this people you run your mouth to educated you or cane to your rescue so why tell them anything ? Act like nothings happening and work hard on your level up to happen if you need validation look at yourself in the mirror and you’ll know why this this journey is important 💅🏿

[@asmith0512]

Your coworkers are NOT your friends. Go to work, learn your job, do your job, and GO HOME!

[@ayabaforever4970]

The people in your life will just notice. No need to tell them. SIDEBAR: Chrissie I think you slide in a pic of your face and will never tell us-love it!

[@robinmahan101]

Lol!! I thought I was the only one that thought that.

[@SagRising19]

I've become more private lately, and stop announcing my moves regarding personal things. Just came back from a 3 day vacation with my daughter and its alarming the types of questioning I received when we returned. People get scared and worried, when you're quiet.

[@fafalise2023]

That's it when you are quiet people get scared xx

[@brwnhilarybanks9953]

Soooo a girl i know leveled up physically... she told a coworker she had surgery & that coworker told everyone & started talking shit! I told the girl DRAG her to hr! Make sure she on suspension for 3 weeks!!

[@maxasante5206]

but she cheated lol. did she get a fake ass or a tummy tuck. should men level up with fake pee pee's now?

[@maxasante5206]

@Lucky Sport ewwww. that probably only white guys. i have yet to seen any black men get any surgery unless he is a fat ass. we naturally build muscles easily so we dont have to worry. all i need is three weeks.

[@Mjalwayzicon19]

When people ask you questions about your life especially dealing with money, dating or your overall leveling up journey lie or stay quiet. You don't owe them anything especially that information.

[@ladykhustle]

"It could be your own mother" 😔

[@puritymuli1808]

Yes so sad,but true!

[@truthserum1271]

😔😭

[@XxAzureNekoxX]

THIS. It’s happening to me now!

[@ummzahra9196]

True story on your level up journey you have to delete negative toxic envious people. They will try to stop the process. The less I stopped talking the better my life improved. The evil eye is real and you must protect yourself. You don't have to post everything and tell everyone your plans because surely the blessed is envied.

[@jellygurl27]

I love that this is my secret. When I tell you NO ONE knows. NO one knows lol. I have not even told my youngest sister or family. I rather show them as an example. I think people are influenced by example.

[@UniquelyVickie]

Sometimes it's not others sabotaging us. We do it to ourselves. I move in silence. I purchased a big ticket item in July and only two of my friends know about it. I'm the one in my group that everyone comes to for everything but I reconnected with a friend that's way more well off than me and it's a good thing. I had a really bad plumbing issue that wasn't covered by insurance or my home warranty and she was able to help. No one else in my circle would even be able to come close. So make sure you're not the top notch in your group unless you like being the person that always pours out but nobody pours into you.

[@josephineblom]

Keeping quite!! Not saying a thing about leveling up, what so ever. Told my cousin I wanted to buy shares and she was negative!! Agggg I am sooooo done. Moving in silence in all departments of my life !!!

[@serenitysbubble2384]

Sweetie don't tell people that can't help u say nothing

[@biancanazareno1657]

This is honestly so true! I told my sisters what I wanted in life, which is one day to marry a man who is financially able to look after me and as soon as I said it my sister started scolding me for my beliefs and told me a man shouldn't pay all the time. Afterwards she started saying that we should compete to see which one of us would find the richer man! How contradictory?! Hide your intentions ladies! There are toxic people in your circle who just want to pull you down because they can and want to hurt you. Focus on your goal and level up in silence! Let your success speak for itself.

[@Elledakween]

Watch them people who over share with you as well because most of the time they want you to over share just to get something they can use to sabotage your success!

[@CloudTribe]

Real G's move in silence like lasagna :P

[@rcrp7]

With extra cheese cha ching! 🤣🤣🤣

[@andreak3294]

Lmao!

[@Martina_E]

Yas!

[@empress6678]

😂😂

[@DaGoodVybe]

Esharido lolol 😂

[@luciq1007]

It's like that quote "they wanna do better but never better than them"

[@aishwaryas5734]

I would always wonder why these highly maintained women don't share their secrets to everyone around. I used to honestly judge them for being so selfish and not letting out their tricks. But now when I have started this journey, I appreciate their decisions and acknowledge that sometimes being 'slefish' just means being defensive of yourself.

[@beautifulllb9493]

In lieu of the SupaCent situation, many women need to hear this. KEEP YOUR BUSINESS TO YOURSELF ladies!!

[@pinklady2994]

Beautifulll B I hate what she went through when she was open about her plastic surgery. The level of vitriol and hate was mind boggling. I agree, it’s hard because we are literally in an over share age especially with social media.

[@boosiechic1]

Yes...I hope she starts "Moving in Silence"😉

[@kamilleseven283]

Keep it secret, keep it safe! Sometimes people will not figure out I did something until AFTER it has happened.

[@lavellans]

It’s hardest with weight loss to not slip up. I had a good week and caught myself talking about diet then got invited to a restaurant 🤨

[@eridanijay4886]

You can do it! You just have to consciously plan what you're going to eat! A lot of restaurants have a low-calorie/ health-conscious section. There are also apps to help you count calories! You don't even have to go on a diet diet, simply eating fewer calories and losing calories through exercise will cause you to lose weight.

[@HH-xj8nh]

Wrathe Lemon I know what you mean! Whenever I announce my weight loss or fitness strategies, there is always someone to bring me a sweet treat as a "gift", invite me to lunch or dinner, or tell me everything that's "wrong" with my strategies. Yeah, I've learned to keep it to myself.

[@faa1412]

If you've been invited to a restaurant don't feel bad. Order an appetizer or order a regular meal and share half of it with someone. Or you can tell them to wrap the half up and either throw it out later on or save it for dinner or the next day.

[@likedying73]

I was telling some close friends of mine about my decision to start dating hypergsmously. Ive only ever dated broke shitty men. And they didnt like it. It is very controversial because of the rhetoric of us being "gold diggers" or "fake" because of that decision. And "real love has nothing to do with money" The same rhetoric that has kept us held down for so long. A huge disadvantage of mine has been oversharing. I will be staying silent and focused from now on.

[@lischellejones]

My momma showed her colors when she found out. Then got mad as hell when I told her a guy is going to take me on trips like cruises 🙄🤷🏾‍♀️

[@lischellejones]

Youshould'vesatthere &8yofood thanks for the advice. I appreciate it a lot. My mom is definitely jealous before I even was hypergamous. She took me to the airport for another trip a different guy had me go on and she had nothing good to say. She's overweight and masculine. It's sad

[@Bloombaby99]

This is so true: This is why I keep my business to myself and my friends and resources separate. I left my former law firm job due to the outright disrespect of the current managing attorney and ended up going with another attorney who started his own firm after he left ours. Thanks to being discrete, I have a better job, more opportunities, and I have the position to revamp his law firm into a legal powerhouse. He is entrusting me with duties I never would have had at our old firm.

[@maxasante5206]

he is gonna be hitting that ass soon lol

[@AshleyNaoWellness]

Wow this is so true! I’m already a pretty private person when it comes to relationships but when you throw hypergamy into the mix it’s a whole different ballgame 👀

[@Mai-sx3yf]

You're so pretty!

[@AshleyNaoWellness]

Mai omg thanks love 🥰

[@TiredButHardWorking]

The best success is achieved behind closed doors. There is nothing wrong with not having friends. Too many fake ppl in life to develop real friendships. Ppl don't know how to be genuine friends to someone. I've had former friends until I realized that they didn't understand how to be a friend & they were not as real as they claimed . Now I'm friendless & I prefer it that way. It's easy for me to cut ppl out of my life if you don't meet my standards of what a decent friend is.

[@lexiilove101]

That’s why u need friends that are on the same level as you

[@ijeBeauty]

very true !

[@lismartin8060]

Keeping your moves to yourself is the path to winning!

[@pisceanempress5060]

Facts 💯 💯

[@MartianBlues11]

People, black people in particular since we’re talking about our community, HATE to see you succeed and do better for yourself. Example: Have you ever gone on a diet and noticed that your coworkers, friends, or family will jump in the way to tell you not to lose weight, you don’t need to lose it, and encourage you to eat extra donuts/pizza slices/cake when you only want one? Have you noticed that they’ll try to shame you for trying to lose weight and make you feel like you can’t do it, so you shouldn’t even try? Sound familiar? It’s because they don’t want you to succeed! They want to keep you down there on their level. I’m telling you, people hate to see you working hard and getting on, because it highlights their own laziness or lack of motivation. And some people are low key, silent haters. Just keep to yourself and work hard, ladies. You don’t need to open yourselves up to other people’s negativity by oversharing.

[@missdesireindependance5194]

MartianBlues I’ve learned this the hard way. Now I don’t share at all.

[@youdonotneedtoknowmynamepe7912]

Soooooooo true

[@brittanyguyton3987]

Girl yes! I don't speak on it anymore, i just do it

[@Bloombaby99]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@cupcake1065]

My mum always told me this. Till this day, I don’t tell my plans or business to people. I just move and if it comes up it comes up but only after the fact lol. And if you do tell, watch their reactions, that’s how you’ll know if you should keep the rest of your affairs private.

[@purfection8856]

Im African right and everytime my mom told me stuff like this i thought she was linking it to voodoo, coz you know how some Africans ride right. But now that im grown i understand her and im greatful for her advice.

[@jesusisapisces]

@@purfection8856 lol yes. Which is why a lot of African women won't announce when they're pregnant.

[@tamarastuart9904]

Weight loss-- ghost social media for awhile, and then stunt 💅🏾💁🏾‍♀️💃🏾

[@auroralondon4281]

As a very light skinned woman whose very familiar with Chrissie's content I can confirm that everything she says about lightskined privilege and such is beyond true

[@stanfatou2002]

Pfft we all new this lol

[@hastinae.8166]

@@stanfatou2002 right!🙄

[@auroralondon4281]

Well just judging by the way that she has to keep proving everything she talks about to y'all with example videos it doesn't seem like very many of y'all are wanting to believe it

[@auroralondon4281]

@@beastcoaster them to but there's also the one video literally titled "I told you light skinned women were competing with you" in which she was specifically addressing in denial dark skin women

[@mimia.4810]

Thanks for being honest. I hate when some light skin women act like chrisse isn't making sense. It's not an attack on light skin women. They didn't create colorism lol, but It's just about stating the truth.

[@verbalbeauty18]

I had to start moving in silence because I've been running into people, and sadly alot of black people, who aren't willing to put in the work for the level up, but will hate on and discourage you when you've made the sacrifices and see it pay off.