Was Quitting Social Media ACTUALLY Worth It? || my honest struggles & regrets... this is hard

hi friends!
was quitting social media actually worth it? after nearly 5 months being off of it I've made a lot of realizations and there are a lot of things that NO ONE talks about!!
In this digital obsessed world, there are many struggles for those who take the brave step to go "off the social media grid"... hopefully this opens your eyes to some things.
I wanted to let you in on my honest thoughts and my experience being off of social media, and my regrets and struggles trying to connect with others.
I pray this helps others see the struggles and the joys of not having social media.
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thank you so much for hearing me out and watching!
love you guys!!
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Much love,
Kendra
#quittingsocialmedia #myexperience

[@_KendraChristine]

I’ve gotten a lot of comments asking if I’ve reached out to people, or if I’ve just relied on them to reach out to me. I’m sorry I didn’t clarify this in the video, but yes, I was reaching out and texting people a lot, which is why I got burnt out and tired of being the only one making an effort, people these days don’t “text” anymore… it’s like email to our generation, it’s a communication of the past and people don’t use it anymore. But as an answer to prayer, I have met friends through our church and have been so blessed that they haven’t relied on social media to be my friend, they know me OUTSIDE of social media and that’s how we’ve grown and connected so much!!💕🙏🏻

[@leighharwood916]

You should remember that social media promotes a false sense of intimacy and connection. Nobody in the real world has hundreds of friends. Most people, at best, are lucky to have a handful if that. Friends are people you interact with in real life. There is eye-contact and a physical presence that requires communication in order for the friendship to flourish. On social media, you have followers who have no emotional investment in either you or your life. But you, like many, have fallen into the trap of believing followers to be friends. Social media offers countless distractions. You're just one distraction among thousands. The same goes for everyone else. Social media has already reduced people's attention spans from 12 seconds to 7 seconds (on average) and you wonder why people can't be bothered to give you a text (something which requires minimal effort as you stated). Just a point of reference, the attention span of a goldfish has been measured at 9 seconds. Ponder the thought!! I'm glad, for your sake, that you've woken up. Best wishes for the future.

[@rya.]

Well if you need react them if u don't need why bothering . I mean i don't think we have something to say everyone always .

[@AxelGomezKicks]

I agree 100% and I am in the phase now only within a month. Yes , I was always reaching out, posting videos and very active. As soon as I stop reaching out, it's been a month and my only messages are emails. Only 3 friends have reach out of a +500. It's really sad but my days are way longer, and relax. I get so much done for myself. I even learn to play guitar. As far as I know, it s been pretty awesome getting out of social media.

[@hanee8049]

How about good old email. I am kinda thinking about starting to write emails again. Because it is a letter where xou have the space to go to more depth

[@hanee8049]

My question often is - did something really happened if it is not posted on socials? We are allhunting for approval

[@MichelleK765]

Social media is an addiction. When alcoholics quit drinking they also realize that their drinking buddies were not really their friends.

[@Mountshasta]

🤣🤣🤣 Funny but true!

[@hellsowner8513]

nice way of putting it.

[@BrookeTheOutcast]

Word

[@imjustchillman]

The day you delete your social media, is the day you realise that nobody really cares about you. Social media just moves on without you. But do not fret, because it's also the day where you set your mind free from this mental prison. I deleted my social media 4 years ago. Never looked back. All glory goes to God 🙏🙌

[@bobbmann5]

Absolutely. I quit after 13 years and left 15 days ago. 4 out of 1,084 so called “Friends” reached out to ask if I’m okay. The other 1,080 do not care one bit.

[@Livingingratitudeforever]

💯

[@JT-gm4fk]

I understand this well but there's another point in this not discussed a lot. For those of us that are photographers, writers and etc, we need those platforms to release our content, creativity and as a way to promote our ideas. Social media is damaging if you rely on it for friendships but it's very beneficial if it's your outlet for expression and hobbies.

[@bobbmann5]

@@TomTom-bh2wf Absolutely

[@APvidz]

Sooooo true

[@purpleglitter7]

I can totally relate. It’s sad that authentic friendships and connections are so rare nowadays. I also feel like the ones who most consistently watch your stories are the ones who don’t even care, they’re just being inquisitive I guess.

[@_KendraChristine]

I totally agree with that, it’s just being nosy for the most part

[@ItsNicola]

Sadly true. I think of my husband and siblings now as my friends

[@arepresentative3861]

I feel you homie, next month will be a year since I gave up all my social media. For our generation being the most "advanced", it's also the dumbest. 😂 It is crazy that multitudes of people have forgotten about basic social interaction. You'll be in my prayers; God's got you and sends the right people in at the perfect time, all the time. 😎

[@_KendraChristine]

Our society is really falling apart. Thank you so much for your prayers!!

[@jesuschristismylord4043]

It’s a big drag that everyone is on social media cause if you’re off it they take it as a sign that you don’t want to be disturbed. Unfortunately everyone who uses social media only wants to hang with other users in person so they can @ them and take a picture to keep up with the lifestyle they’re putting out on the gram. People used to hangout outside together and if you hung out a lot you could be seen as more popular but now since people are isolated and hangout selectively at planned times you have to post it to show you do cool stuff

[@_KendraChristine]

Wow, yes! Exactly!!

[@shya24]

Omg.. Nobody. NOBODY has given this point before. It's so true!

[@gt5732]

i left instagram for over one month and i am absolutely sure that everyone thinks i don‘t do the interesting things that i used to do or meet friends, or even i got divorced😂

[@sally-kella]

"Social media will manipulate your feelings"... for real. I spent more time watching people's lives than living mine. And this why I went off it for a year. To really find my identity in Christ and start a relationship with Him. Did I miss it in that time?...Not at all! I wasn't even looking forward to getting back. I just recently got back on and with a new page to promote my blog. I have always been a firm believer of reserving certain things from the eyes of the world. But now I find myself in that cycle of wanting to do what other "Christian IG creators do" I have been in between...should I update people of where I am, what I'm doing? But other Christians do it, shouldn't I? Plzzzz do that IG video.

[@_KendraChristine]

Yes girl, I know exactly what you’re talking about!! That’s one of the things I want to mention in that IG video too!

[@TheMaskedThearpist]

That's where I am now. Im about to do the same leave to find my identity in Christ and build a better relationship with him

[@alexjemphrey]

@@TheMaskedThearpist same here. Social media and spending quality time with God don’t go together for me

[@mbali4746]

@@alexjemphrey True that You just gotta choose one,either God or entertaining people who dont really care bout you

[@nokuinreallife6829]

I spent almost a year age 17 without a phone. When i was 13 I didn't even know i had wifi in my house. sounds crazy i know. But during those times i spent watching movies, laughing, going for walks, reading lots of books which became a great passion. And girl i found out how many fake friends i had. I am 19 today and i have no friends. It does get lonely. But i remember how sad and depressed i felt when people i called friends would hang out with me. They didnt give me the joy, love and peace i wanted. We need true friends sent from God. I pray that God brings you fellowship, a best friend, a sister a brother and great moments without social media.

[@_KendraChristine]

That is such a good point. Not all friends actually feel like friends! God provides those true friends 🙏🏻

[@Dobviews]

At 44 I learned many years ago there are three types: fair weather friends, acquaintances and life long friends. I have 10 lifelong friends. Those whom are like family and stick with no matter and always come running when a chica needs a helping hand. I really learned who my fair weather friends were when I became chronically ill. Most of the people I thought were friends dropped me like a sack of potatoes when I became ill. Note of advice to the younger generation: When your peep gets sick, go be a real friend to them. Seek them out and let them know you really do care and love them. As a member of Xgen. I apologize for the hell we thrust the younger generations into. We gave you access but instilled no protections for you as kids, thought the internet was the same as the TV and put your pictures of you as kids up on the internet for all the world to see, copy, and use without your consent. The new favial software is going to create havoc in stolen identities and other issues we cannot see yet. We thought we were doing something good, we did not see how corporations would use our data against us for political, social and monetary gain. We fracked up, learn from our mistakes and forgive us. We were creating new tech and opened pandoras box before we knew what it was. Social media is the *virus* of today's *"Me society."*

[@moanapooh9726]

@@Dobviews Wow I love everything you said, especially with us Gen Z's. It's really hard and honestly, that's okay! I just really hope that we can find a route that is better for all of us with internet that we forgot to make it safe for kids nowadays.

[@matthewcruz1709]

You need to remember that the friends you're talking about are addicted. You're no longer addicted. You need to treat your friends like addicts, and not like people who are capable of caring for you. That is, have compassion for them in their addicted state, but until they are not addicted they won't be able to treat you like a friend. Imagine you were addicted to a hard drug and all your friends were also addicted, then you got out of that life and weren't addicted anymore. Do you think those 'friends' of yours who are still addicted would have the capacity or even desire to reach out to you? Or do you think they would see you as a reflection of everything that they are not and yet desire to be but can't? This is getting long, so I'll stop there but yes, you need to find friends who also are no longer addicted. Again, bless you.

[@_KendraChristine]

This is such a great point! Thank you Matthew!

[@carla.c]

People have definitely lost the ability to communicate with one another, being present and no longer seem to want to put in effort to get to know another person or build a genuine connection. I've noticed this with friends and even in dating.

[@_KendraChristine]

It’s very sad… social media has made us less social… or even capable of having conversations in real life 😣

[@lbks16]

It's the time in world for self exploration and spending time with yourself. Right person will come along probably in 10 years. You won't find lasting relationships on online dating, because people are there only for hookups haha

[@ashleevaughn9136]

I deleted all social media except Facebook and put timers on my phone after watching all your videos. I have realized I don't have any real friends and most people are just nosey. I struggle so much with it it gave me so much anxiety being on social media all the time.

[@_KendraChristine]

I get that! I hope there has been other positives for you :(

[@KristinaArntz]

I agree w/ you. I've debated getting off of social media but I'm sure a lot of "friends: wouldn't even notice, let alone care.

[@_KendraChristine]

It’s hard! But it also comes with so much freedom and joy!

[@blacksalt1802]

I can relate so well. They won't even notice smh sadly

[@FortWorthWranglers]

I can relate to so much of this. I have been off social media for six months. I feel like I’ve sort of lost my “identity” that I was able to show on my social media. My Instagram showed that I’m a minimalist, a positive parenting advocate, a girl that loves to get dolled up, a fitness lover. Now it’s like I’m unseen. No one asks about me anymore. I feel pretty alone but the benefits have outweighed it. It helps that I kept one good friend. Everyone else forgot about me. It’s like living in a twilight zone.

[@_KendraChristine]

I could not agree more!

[@nothanks4469]

Really important topic. I hope you find some genuine, thoughtful friends in your new town!

[@_KendraChristine]

Thank you❤️🙏🏻

[@puntkickpov]

I get it, completely. That disconnected part with friendships and relationships was spot on facts. It honestly kind of broke my heart a little, as I've been hitting on them same waves of emotions. It is hard. I quit social media. I .. was going through so much and I knew I had to look after my mental health now. Needed to see life again, be in it, and spend time with myself which I wasn't doing since almost a decade. Needed to step back from social media and find myself again and live like old times when there was no social media around. A detox, that hiatus, was necessary. So I quit and had written about it on my stories for my friends to know that I won't be around for a while. It is 15th day as of now since I quit. And friends, people I thought are close, didn't even bother to ring me up and ask how I am doing and if I'm fine, that too during times of this pandemic. I know I had to spend time with myself again which was very needful to do. And, I just hope I find good human relationships.

[@Unknown_Elixir23]

Hey,I fully understand you. I've been there too and at first it hurted a lot but with time when I deleted all my social media,I've seen major and little changements which impacted me positively and it was life changing. People that I thought were my friends...well I was wrong,but Better off alone but in a peaceful state of mind rather than a superficial "connection". Comparison robbed all of my joy back then because I felt left behind,but now it's different and better. Hope you're doing good.🌼

[@tahliyajayde]

i was just talking to my parents about this! i’ve deleted all of my social media (except my business accounts) and friends i’ve had since high school (10+ years) haven’t reached out to me. it’s only been 1 week for me but hard. it’s also peaceful to think that i wasted time & energy on people who don’t even care about me 😐

[@_KendraChristine]

It’s so hard! Hang in there girl💕🙏🏻

[@tahliyajayde]

@@_KendraChristine definitely will! don’t plan on going back, your video helped heaps to know that i’m not alone in this feeling! 💕

[@user-rp6ec7dh9r]

Same

[@CateOtanes]

Thank you friend. I'm so blessed to have met you on social media

[@_KendraChristine]

I’m so so thankful for you! You’ve encouraged me and prayed for me through all of this and I don’t know what I would do without your friendship. I’m serious. Love you so much, friend!!❤️

[@ishah4714]

I can relate to this so much! I am off all social media and have definitely noticed the lack of effort and change in certain friendships. It is disheartening to say the least. But know that it is really a reflection of society in general, rather than on yourself as a person (even though that is hard to do in these situations). As you say, and I wholeheartedly agree- a text does not take any more time to type!! What happened to a phone call to arrange an actual meet up in real life? Praying for deeper, richer, mature friendships for you. Our friends are so important, and God knows those He wants close to us. You seem to be in a new season, so expect kindred spirits to come into your life at the right time. Appreciate your vulnerability in sharing, and please know you are not the only one!! x

[@jessicabrubaker4760]

Very well said

[@_KendraChristine]

I agree with Jessica! Thank you for this. I definitely needed to hear it. Especially the part where not having people contact me anymore isn’t a reflection about me, but society. That’s such a good reminder. Thank you again.

[@ingridrichardson4880]

I actually think it's far better not to "get to know people" via their profiles! When we use social media, it's too easy to make snap judgements as to whether we'll like someone based on their political opinions for example, where as when we do it the old fashioned way we're far more likely to get a more we'll rounded view of the person and possibly make great friendships despite of fickle differences of opinion!

[@_KendraChristine]

I totally agree!

[@mlw6988]

I deleted my Facebook 70 days ago. It’s not the first time I’ve gone off social media. I definitely understand how you feel. However, make sure you are reaching out to friends and family. It’s so easy to self-isolate when you delete your accounts. It can feel like people don’t care when you move as well. A lot of people distance themselves when someone moves and that’s unfortunate.

[@_KendraChristine]

Totally agree!! I’ve kept in touch with family always, and I’m so thankful for them… but friends… not so much. For lots of reasons 😂

[@Alliappalachian]

Wow that happened to me.... I deleted everything like 5 years ago and the "friends" I had never contacted me. It did hurt me but now I'm so thankful I've been off social media it has been such a blessing! And I know God will give me friends who truly love the Lord and care about me ❤ I'm sorry it happened to you but I pray that God will give you true friends as well! Love you girl! 😊

[@markmoore8399]

I feel similar to you. Of course, these days I wonder if I should even have real life friends as I fear the consequences of giving them that one virus or finding some other way to ruin their lives. (part of why I have not gone back to in-person church) While it is comforting to have the online chat on the F4F premieres, I have not and most likely will not meet any of those people.

[@_KendraChristine]

Thanks Alli, love you too girl ❤️

[@tonylouis7923]

This was so deep and unbelievably relatable

[@minnie777]

You really are such a natural with talking in front of the camera and you have a sense of realness / rawness ... I also took a break from social media (instagram specifically) I think it's year 2 now and I still don't want it back. I get literal anxiety when I even attempt to download the app. This is definitely a video I want to create and talk about on my Chanel as well Edit: you're amazing, well done. Thanks for sharing

[@_KendraChristine]

Thank you so much! I get the same anxiety when I think about going back to Instagram! I would love to hear your experience!!!

[@maggierose7689]

I’ve been off social media for about 2-3months now and I COMPLETELY understand what you are saying about social media friendships! I recently added Snapchat to the list of things I got rid of and I FEE THIS SO MUCH!!! Thank you so much for saying this!! Then I just had to quarantine because my husband had Covid and that was the most lonely week of my life especially because I was forgotten when I needed connection the most. It broke my heart and sent me back into depression BUT ... PRAISE GOD I’m out of quarantine and reconnected with some old friends who care! (Sorry for the book of a comment I just really really feel every word of this video!) so proud of you for opening up and sharing your heart. ♥️

[@_KendraChristine]

Girl, I’m so glad you resonated with this too! Even just that makes me feel less lonely knowing I’m not the only one going through this!!

[@elisestarday6372]

I could remember having one friend always bothered me asking how she was on her trips with friends. She would get all bothered by it and whatnot. I hate social media because people are forgetting that "there's a life outside of your phone". I miss the days when people wrote letters and called you on the phone when you least expect it. Everyone nowadays is like "I don't like talking on the phone" or whatever excuses people may have. Life is so much more happier and anxiety free that I left Insta, I felt like I have more time in my hands and focus on interests that bring me inside and outside joy. I trained my mind thinking like "smartphones don't exist". If your planning on leaving social media slowly and gradually, try staying off on weekends strictly..

[@_KendraChristine]

I wish we could go back to writing letters :( I even wish we could go back to writing emails! Even that felt more personal!

[@elisestarday6372]

@@_KendraChristine I agree so much on your video! More people need to be more aware on negative impact social media has been.I've been trying to find some pen pals but difficult when everyone forgotten old ways of communication.

[@kamie119]

Im also off social media (for a year and 5mo now) and I can relate!!! I used to have pretty big followings too on twitter and ig so it was a big ego booster and a pick me up if i was ever feeling down. I always felt like i had someone to talk to, and i remember the months following coming off social media were some of the loneliest months ive ever endured. After I left work Id come home and feel so isolated (im introverted and the feeling of seclusion from being off social media was even alot for me.) But after the adjustment time passed, I was introduced to God (a reason why i love your channel) and learned ALOT about myself, the ways I like to spend my time, passions, hobbies, etc. Being off social media definitely brings you into the moment and then you begin to see just how detached everyone else is from the moment, because you look around and everyone is looking at their phones 90% of the time! I watched the whole video and I just wanted to let you know i relate to all your feelings of being disconnected and especially forgotten or losing friends. I went from having 15k followers/friends to like 2 in one day and it was such a blow honestly so i get it. But i wanted to encourage you to not take the people not reaching out to you personally. Its merely of a reflection of society than it has to do with you!! What helped me was connecting with my family more and becoming closer friends with them, and really submersing myself into my relationships (platonic and romantic), also falling in love with my hobbies, and being outdoors. But yeah i promise those negative sensations will fade with time especially if you befriend your fam and get closer with them, and to the people you meet at church!!❤️❤️ I love your videos! And I hope you know that you’re not alone and especially never forgotten!! 😄💕💕

[@_KendraChristine]

Wow, I love your story, thank you for sharing. I can relate so much. I appreciate the encouragement❤️

[@avolovo]

I’m an introvert who enjoys her time alone but at the same time enjoy the company of a few close friends. I haven’t been active on social media since 2014 (although I only had Facebook to be updated on anything going on in my graduate program- once I graduated I deleted my Facebook). I also find it hard to connect with people since they don’t share my interests and so i rarely have close friends. But I believe if you put yourself out there, you’ll be around the few people who really do care about you. I can now say I have this one friend who I met at a panelist event and he and I connected on so many ideas and I cama share almost anything with him. Friendships are treasures and it takes time to find them☺️

[@TusharArya76]

Totally agree with you....i've also quit social media a year ago...and am enjoying it....He's not alone who takes pride in solitude.💫🙏

[@Casey73955]

I totally get all of this. I find myself time and again deleting social media and then re-downloading it because of the “FOMO”. It’s almost like if we delete all social media, then we feel more alone since everyone else just stays on their social media and phones in general. If more people could just quit it altogether, it would make it much easier to do

[@_KendraChristine]

I COMPLETELY agree! It’s like they’re living in a different world than us

[@darrenbritt34]

I’ve been off of social media for almost 7 months. I’m feeling a lot better and I completely understand what you are going through. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@theverifiedanalyst]

Why don't you just not talk about this social medias, True friends, Quitting Instagram. We have to think about the good things about being lonely, being in peace. Everytime I am surfing the Internet this subject pops out from nowhere. "without social media I can't live, without friends I can't even pee", Total shit. Why don't you just live. People won't give any shit if you quit social media. Wake up, It's a world of competition, You talk about social media and so called made up stories, time wait for no one. Grow up pals! No body ever going to give any shit about your lives.. Its just you and the few people around you. I am living a good life even though I am not having a bunch of friends. I don't complaint "He won't talk to me, She won't say I love you" and I won't sign up to social medias for making friends, I am just doing it for my personal pleasure, This topic is a complete shit if I say. Peace out!

[@TheDominicKellmanPodcast]

I’ve got rid of social media too and I’meven closer to my friends more than ever. You seem like ana amazing person don’t even worry about the people not making effort so many better people will come your way ❤️🙏

[@YouBeRelentless]

I was able to focus watching this video without being distracted on social media. I stopped using Instagram last week and my focus has greatly improved. I actually listened and focused on your conversation which was awesome. Very sad how we discover the harsh truths on superficial friendships.

[@denisuuhdzz616]

thank you for sharing this, it's hard to realized and open your eyes to see how much "friends" cared. I'm also glad of not feeling alone, it's a horrible feeling of being disconnected with everyone. I only have one friend and it's my partner, i felt like i lost everyone and it's hard to make friends and i'm only 17, i couldn't imagine how it feels when you're an adult.

[@cmralph...]

The best thing I ever did was quit all social media.

[@thomdeoliveira]

There is something very frustrating about leave social media: people always tends to take it personally. First thing, they come to you through messages or WhastApp, asks if you're well, then they asks you why you excluded them on Instagram/Facebook. After you tell them you're not on social media anymore, for whatever the purpose, they simple says "ah, good.". I mean, everybody haves their own way to think and care about the things or people, but it hurts me, deep inside, because they don't care about us. They only want likes, comments or share nonsense content with people. Thanks for this video, sending regards from Brazil.

[@scarletyarin1230]

I also don't have Instagram anymore and my friends rarely talk to me which makes me sad but I don't regret deleting my account

[@_KendraChristine]

Same here Scarlet! It’s still worth it to me too❤️

[@DA-to9np]

"Hey everyone, I quit social media"...while posting on social media...oh, and facebook, lol. At first I thought this was a parody.

[@radiantchristina]

I have been off social media (IG and FB ) were the only apps I was using on my phone for socials. I signed on to IG today and not one of my 'friends' had even messaged me to Check in. I teared up when you did because that is exactly how I felt. I feel totally alone and it is heartbreaking but so eye opening. I don't know if I will return to social media because I need to find REAL friends.

[@_KendraChristine]

Christina, my heart goes out to you… it’s so hard… social media can make you feel like you have this kind and loving community of friends, but when you step away, you realize it’s all been so shallow, and that hurts…😢 time in the real world has done me SO much good!! I hope it does the same for you and that you find true friends❤️❤️

[@noktuernal]

'I spent more time watching others live their lives than living my own.' THIS!! This is why I started deleting my social media and limiting my time on it severely. I thought this and started trimming my time down, and now I've deleted the apps on my phone and am only going to redownload for uploading new art then deleting again.

[@RachelGLive]

I did a social media fast (including all entertainment) and it was so wonderful. I wish i can just get a flip phone but i need it for my businesses. Thank you for sharing and being so brave. ❤❤❤

[@leolamcvey1725]

How do you have a successful business without social media? How do you reach out to customers?

[@RachelGLive]

@@leolamcvey1725 Depends on what you do. One of my businesses is in architecture so people e-mail/call/or fill out a form on the website. I don't market on social media, its more about relationship and competence. And I was making samples for my fashion line. However I wasn't uploading to my KZbin channel and I honestly don't think it mattered much, because I am a small youtuber.

[@nicolepada2414]

Hi Kendra! I'm glad I'm not alone with my journey in quitting social media except youtube. Apparently, I've learned I'm more calm and focus without it. I don't have these negative emotions that I get when I browsed other people's live. Yeah it's weird, right? To be more updated in somebody else's lives than our own. It's also good way to reflect on what matters most in your life. I have no regrets. ♥️

[@_KendraChristine]

I agree Nicole! I felt those same emotions!! Proud of you for taking the plunge to quit! I wish more people would!

[@jackiek4159]

I sooo agree about finding out who your true friends are after deleting social media! Deleting social media will be the best thing that you can do and you will grow so much without it though! I hope you find true friendships girl! God Bless! 🙏🏻💞

[@_KendraChristine]

Thanks Jackie! The good definitely outweighs the bad for me since deleting social media!🙌🏼

[@bluemagic8601]

How we friends with all these strangers that we never grew up with so how can we call dem friends are real friends we don’t even kno them TK God I got off of all those devilish platforms..only mess with KZbin

[@saralajnef]

Thank you for being honest about your feelings ! I remember the first time (because it happened many times) I left social media, I was so afraid I would loose my friends. And yeah they didn't contact me but some of them asked me if I was still alive haha ! Now honestly I can see that without social media, I sometimes have to take the first step by calling someone and then the person gets used to it and calls me back too. People have to get used to fall you because they know you don't answer on social media. And that's great ! It changes their perspective too !

[@christianswinfen4785]

Finally found a real life video on KZbin of what actually happens with people's lives when they come off socials not any of that fake stuff people post :)))

[@_KendraChristine]

👏🏼👏🏼

[@Chronicles_of_the_tavern]

Awww I feel you. I deleted IG at the beginning of the pandemic. There was such a disconnect between myself and close friends. I was having a mental health crises and texted a friend, hoping to just get any kind of response, I just wanted some sort of assurance knowing someone was there on the other line…that way I knew I wasn’t alone. There was no response, instead I received a response to a story 5 days later instead. So my friend that was supposed to be my bestie, could only respond to a story but not to a simple text? I felt so alone. When I finally deleted instagram, not one single person reached out to me. I really got tired of being the one to constantly reaching out to people, I gave up. I have two reliable friends at the moment that I can count on. They too dont have social media, for once I can actually have dinner with these two friends with out them always on their phone. “Hang up and hang out” is my motto now.

[@vl6741]

Same thing often happens with family as well. I was off for 2 yrs and don't remember why I came back on. Been thinking of getting off again, but I like sharing simple things with my mom who lives far away and a very small group of people. Either way I do not post personal things and deleted many people from my "friends" list. I understand your sadness xo

[@koolshahy3637]

Thank you, actually my account was disabled and the same thing happened. It showed me that less than a handful of people asked how I was. My account wasn't that big just around 1k and people were so friendly. Then.. nothing, they're friends with your status. Good luck hun❤

[@Iamjessicakouassi]

Did you ever get your Instagram account back after being disabled? Same happened to me

[@laceyr_8322]

The same thing happened to me and I took that as a sign to leave IG. It was time.

[@superxy]

I've quit a year ago and decided to create a new account but I regret creating a new Facebook, so I quit again and won't go back to social media!

[@LA-lq1zf]

Sometimes I feel that this is what we are, people do things to us that we’ve been doing to God. Some just go to him when they find themselves in the need of praying. But not having a real friendship with him. We forget about him we don’t pray to him when we feel happy. He’s not like us though he is there ready to be our friend and he doesn’t hold anything against us he forgive us for not praying to him daily or for not going to him for years. He tells us to forgive others how he forgives us. So we shall do just that. and love every single person that doesn’t contact us. I’m sure they are so happy living their Instagram life and we should feel happy for them and not hold it against them. God taught us boundaries and values let’s use them. we shall never forget God and his undeserved kindness he gives us daily. He should be the one we should always seek approval and friendship from 💕 life is beautiful because God made it and he makes everything great :)

[@briand8928]

Wow, you hit the nail on the head. I agree with everything you said. This is the only video to watch to convince someone to leave social media. I’m done with social media too. Thank you for spreading such a peaceful and positive message.

[@luqicharmz]

It’s heartbreaking when friends fall to the wayside and you have to mourn that loss.

[@AlfieIII]

I just got off social today. I totally agree with your thoughts on social media.

[@reneeraw6927]

If your friends are not talking to you then they are not your friends. You don’t need to make a plea to genuine friends. Social Media has done so much harm to our society. Stay strong in knowing you did the right thing by getting off.

[@samzins1983]

I too quit social media, but something important that you may be missing is that you can’t be reliant on these “friends” or even friends, that don’t reach out to you anymore. It shows true colors, and once you gain self awareness you realize that you need nobody but yourself to live happily.

[@GroovingFlowerChild]

Your video came up in my recommendations. Your vulnerability was raw and beautiful and I wish I could give you a comforting hug! I totally relate to feeling like an afterthought. I am only sorry that you are experiencing this. You seem like such a gentle soul. I wish people were more connected to their hearts and took those few seconds out of their lives to reach out, especially after all of the effort and love you put into these relationships. It is hurtful. I hope you find all that you are hoping for. If I could, I would be your friend!

[@_KendraChristine]

You’re so sweet, thank you so much for this comment!! It brightened my day ❤️❤️

[@caydafyscian7667]

social media is dumb unless u need to communicate with friends or family.

[@user-mq9lx9im3x]

i agree and i deleted every single social media apart from youtube i feel more happy and productive i dont feel like im missing out

[@emilywalton4105]

I'm starting the process now I have had friendships God told me to let go. They have every excuse not to come over or spend time. It's become a idol to me and my husband. Driving a wedge in our marriage.

[@GalathNox]

I lost my Facebook account for a couple months to start the year. One of the few people who actually attempted to check on me to see what was going on was someone who I nearly always butted heads with on the platform. We disagreed on about everything, yet he was concerned and reached out. So, I kinda get where you're coming from in regards to "friends" on social media not being the best of friends. Being away from social media during that time made a difference for me. Soul/spirit cleansing. I was already leaning away from it, but the expulsion drove it home for me. Even though I got my account back about a month ago, I've barely done anything with it. Haven't felt the slightest urge to get back on it. Praying you stay strong in avoiding social media, and that the Lord puts new, godly people in you and your husband's lives.

[@_KendraChristine]

I appreciate those prayers so much ❤️

[@alexjemphrey]

The end of the video really hit me. Something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently. Our generation is just so lonely. Loneliness and not feeling connected to anyone is a pain I can’t compare really. However I have so much hope that God will shape my life in a way that he will bless me with connection and friends.

[@LadyKStyle]

It's about time someone tell the WHOLE TRUTH!!!!!!!! I FEEL AMAZING SINCE I BEEN OFF. you go girl

[@Phoebe907]

Man, I have been telling myself that I'm going to delete social media for way longer than I would like to admit. I don't use it as a way to connect to others, but I definitely have noticed how much time is wasted, like you said, watching other people live their lives vs. living my own. It's become such an idol in my life, and I'm praying to God that he helps deliver me from this unhealthy behavior. You're definitely encouraging me to just delete it for good! Love me some KZbin though, KZbin is partially responsible for me being saved, and I've learned so much from people like yourself about Jesus! Keep up the good work :) Ps. It sounds like you found out who your true friends are, even if that means you were left with none. Friendships/relationships take work! Not as easy as just sending a message via Instagram, as some would like to believe. My Dad always told me that we are lucky to have even just ONE good, true lifelong friend in life. Seems true the older I get.

[@_KendraChristine]

I know you’re not the only one that struggles with social media being an idol. It’s probably the biggest idol of our day. I know God will give you strength and freedom when you pray, He will listen!! And your dad is spot on. My husband is basically my only lifelong friend, but I’m so thankful for him❤️☺️

[@Phoebe907]

@@_KendraChristine Thank you, Kendra! 💕

[@dontlookatmyaccount5113]

Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest. I am also kinda going thru the same thing. I barely go on Snapchat (as I don’t really like to), and it’s only to message my friends that don’t have me on any other app. However, ever since I moved schools, they never reached out to me again and ask how it’s going except for one person:( It does suck, but it is quite eye opening, as you said. All glory to God for those close friendships, and for the fact that we get this platform to connect with each other here on KZbin ✝️ I hope all goes well, and remember that God will never leave you, and that your subscribers will also be here praying for u 🙏✝️

[@_KendraChristine]

Aww, thanks for sharing that with me. And I appreciate your support so much!❤️

[@agirlgonevegan5912]

This video hit so hard with me! I've been off of social media for almost a year now and I have gone through the same struggles as you. It's very hard to come to the realization that most of these internet friends aren't really our friends at all. Chin up...it gets better with time and the negatives become positives and you will be a stronger better person because of this experience with leaving social media. I applaud your choice and strength to stick with it!

[@_KendraChristine]

Thank you so much! It’s definitely getting better and I’m getting more used to it! It’s such a weird change but the pros definitely outweigh the cons!!

[@lux_atl]

How are you now? Been watching your videos about this topic. You have a really sweet personality. I’d be your IRL friend! Much love. I’m a new subscriber.

[@cb31323]

I think of social media as a tool that I can use for connections within my field and business. Of course, I do enjoy a good cat meme here and there but I agree with everything you mentioned I usually tell people that “I’m not a hard person to find” yet I see that the ones who actually pick up the phone to call/text me actually get the message 🤷🏾‍♂️ I used to think that I want everybody in my life but now that I’m older, I want to be around those who adds value to me the same I do for them Quality and not quantity 👍🏾 God bless 🙏🏾

[@Meekismwisdom]

It's so true. Social media was the best thing for me to see how I am valued in other's lives. I gave every person that liked my post value and that was a no-no. It has made me stronger being off. Its been 5 months (almost 6) for me and no looking back. I can't see myself entering that portal again. It sucks but a huge eye-opener.

[@Biqavell19]

This video is so real!!!! I commend you on this. It's like when you don't have social media you disappear from existence these days and I grew up in the 90s so it bothers me alot. This was so 💯! People really care less than we think

[@jeieldossantos]

It's been about 2 weeks since i left social media. I'm already feeling way better. Memory, attention improved. It's brought me more mental clarity, and i still have more time for relevant, meaningful activities.

[@_KendraChristine]

That’s awesome!👏🏼👏🏼

[@tippytoe1250]

I’m minimizing my SM usage also. I still chat with my friends though via text and we go out for lunch. I read and listen to to audiobooks while doing chores or during my morning walks.

[@ChantelReadsAllDay]

Oh man, I can understand this on so many levels. We switched churches a few years ago and it was only then that I realized that my friends only cared to be friends with me if I went to the same church as them, that was hard. And I feel like this last year has been a year of disconnect for so many. My phrase for the year is "love one another" and I feel like I have poured into people and yet they don't ever ask how I am doing, it can be hard to go through seasons like this and you are right, not being on social media can totally make people forget about you. I think it shows how poorly the Church is loving each other right now.

[@_KendraChristine]

Yes I totally agree! And that’s such a good point, where is our focus? Are we truly intentional about loving others? Because it doesn’t really show. Thank you for sharing this and encouraging me!!

[@HEYitsTRAV]

I recently got rid of all social media apps, but it’s already apparent that I’m in for a big awakening as to who is truly my “friend”. It’s so odd that people can’t find the time to text or call you, but they can message through Facebook or Instagram. It’s absurd. But I realize that those are relationships that I don’t need anymore.

[@_KendraChristine]

It has been a huge wake up call for me, I’ve almost been off social media for 1 year, and I’ve definitely understood who were real friends and who were “friends” when it was convenient for them

[@Readingwithmiaa]

You can do this go without it forever because when you go back I’m not sure if your gonna miss anything so yeah you got this ps love your videos amazing for Christians💕

[@_KendraChristine]

Thank you Mia 💕🥰

[@lyriavanessa2089]

Social media causes anxiety and depression for me.

[@biellaspointofview2054]

Curious, did you by chance reach out to these friends via texts or calls but noticed when you don't reach out they don't make the attempt? or you didn't reach out to them to begin with but was expecting them to? just wondering cause my personality type I'm not that good with reaching out to friends outside of social media comment on post or likes etc; I'm not a phone call type of person either, I'm the type that can go months or a year without saying anything to long distance friends; they do the same to me, but next time we talk it'll just be a normal conversation no bad feelings or anything.

[@_KendraChristine]

I reached out more than usual for a while, but the conversations never lasted, or I didn’t get a response until days later when it used to be within minutes when I was on Instagram... after a while it just got too frustrating and it hurt too much so I stopped reaching out, not entirely, but a lot of people I stopped trying since it wasn’t important to them. 😔

[@biellaspointofview2054]

@@_KendraChristine Makes sense. I understand better on how you feel. Sorry and I pray you encounter more genuine friends in the future :)

[@_KendraChristine]

@@biellaspointofview2054 I appreciate that!

[@derekbrown3744]

Great video and they are a lot of people on social media who Are not really your friends and they become your friends just because you are popular on social media

[@_KendraChristine]

Yup! That’s true, it’s really sad.

[@cassdev6745]

I’m excited for this video! The biggest problem I have with social media and even KZbin a lot of the time is that it feeds my discontentment and dissatisfaction with the life I have right now! Thanks for this ☺️

[@_KendraChristine]

Yes, that’s a big one! I feel that too!

[@raisarippel300]

I agree with you. Yesterday I went to a cafe...and I realized some people scrolling feed on instagram. They have together, but no comunicate with one another...It's sad. Sorry for my english...I'm brazilian and I'm learning english.

[@Man.OfGod1996]

Wow ! This really got to me. I'm sending you a virtual hug.

[@_KendraChristine]

Thank you🤗

[@Man.OfGod1996]

@@_KendraChristine You're welcome

[@lovetofly32]

As a guy that's off social media.. I dream of meeting girls like you. I would ask you on a date right on the spot if I met you. Theres almost no ladies like you. I don't know where you all hide but I know quite a few guys that are looking for a lady like you so stop hiding! Lol Oh wait. You're apparently married.. figures..

[@mildred298]

Sending you a hug !! I totally know how you feel. I had an Instagram account with a following and connections. I’m not saying I feel like a complete loner now because I have had a handful of people who reached out ever since, but the majority of people I “knew” who would always watch my stories made me feel like I’ve completely disappeared and never done anything to find out why 😂 it made me feel like I’ve left no impact or have any type of relevance to society. Specially here in New York where everything seems to be about status lol. It’s a lot more difficult to have one on one connections because I don’t have such a surface level app to keep contact with people now I have to give my personal number out which I’m not too keen of. Also it’s a bit isolating. I wish I could keep up with what my family and friends are doing everyday and visa versa, and I no longer have that luxury. But this is how life is supposed to be. You’re supposed to dissect a persons characteristics and personality authentically one on one, not virtually by what the person portrays to be like online which 9/10 is a façade and more of a representation of what they want people to view you as. Thank you for this video I’ve been feeling so alone. It’s very refreshing to see someone else depend on natural connections rather than a convenient one🖤🖤 sending you love and I really hope you find your right people because I slowly am too Xx

[@tedtalksrock]

Can I encourage you with an alternative thought? First of all, let me preface this by saying I am also off of social media and so I deeply empathize with what you were going through. But if you will allow me to, I want to drop one thought in there to counter the conclusion that you have made that the reason people aren’t picking up the phone text you -now that you are off social media -is because they don’t care enough about you to make the small action. I totally validate your feelings… but I also want to invite you to consider an alternative WHY. and to shift Or at least consider a possible different conclusion to the reason that people have not taken the time to text you following your departure from social media. Something that occurs to me is that people who are heavily on social media are bombarded with so much information that they are overwhelmed. Social media gives you this ongoing “chore” to constantly react, respond, like… I found one of the factors that got me off of social media was how burdening that constant chore was. Instead of thinking that you were not “worth it” to send a text to, instead to realize how very overwhelmed people have made themselves, With this extra “part-time job” that is unpaid that social media has given everyone to do. Being on social media is itself a very overwhelming and burdening force in their lives. If they are still on socials they are carrying that weight. I hope this helps you to have just a little bit of an alternative perspective beyond just feeling left out or not cared about. Those are very real feelings and I feel them for you-but I also wanted to just quit this alternative idea Without meaning to hurt you they may just be exhausted by an addition that takes time and energy and doesn’t give anything back. Addiction to social media takes from you more than it gives and depleats your energy with meaningless scrolling, viewing, and liking things feom people uou dont care about from 500 acquaintances so that you don’t have time to invest in the relationships that do mean something to you I hope that helps. It broke my heart to hear your conclusion that The reason they weren’t texting was because they didn’t care about you. They probably do care but if they’re anything like me they felt so overwhelmed that it was easier just to keep scrolling keep liking keeps thumbs upping instead of taking the effort to even just turn off the stream long enough to really connect with somebody. But you are worth true friendship and I think that you are well on your way to finding real connection in the real world. Sending you love and light. ❤️

[@BrookeTheOutcast]

If you go out into the world, church, hiking, I mean you meet some great people! It beats adding someone and liking stuff back and forth and maybe commenting. Meeting someone in a place holding a good conversations and exchanging smiles and maybe even a hug. So much more humbling.

[@karenlindley.9756]

At least you found out who were actually true “friends” with you and so you didn’t waste anymore time on those losers. Yes it’s a tough blow to take. But it’s their loss not yours. Says more about them than you. You’re lucky if you have 1-3 true friends that’s it. Xxx

[@martuskarogowska]

A text is too much effort. A call would freak most young people out. I remember when I was a teenager or even a young adult, my friends and I used to call each other, even for a moment sometimes. Now that everyone is on social media, I feel like we are all terrorized by those who are afraid of normal, human contact. Whenever someone calls me on messenger by mistake, they hang up right away, and then they explain to me what just happened in a message. OMG, it is not the end of the world to talk to someone on the phone...

[@arkadijbucci64]

Kendra, how is your experience today (oct 2022)? Are you still off of social media (except for youtube)?

[@yoyoyo5621]

i feel like 100k friends on instagram is not even worth 1 real friend, the one you actually talk with and sit down and have meals with and have meaningful conversations with and spend time together, like an actual relationship instead of online one where u just press like and comment on their photos. I also realized i stopped calling people. I stopped texting. Stopped talking. I relied on superficial "connections" I forgot how to form relationships and make friends and maintain friendships. I think we all have.

[@Wildwomanawakens]

Thank you for sharing this. I feel you sooooo deeply. You are not alone beautiful. I really wish someone would create an online space for authenticity and where we can actually be vulnerable and feel connected. I’ve only ever used Instagram none of the other social media but I recently deleted it for good. Because it just feels like being in a crowded room where you’re not really connecting to anyone. It felt so empty to me. I’m excited to see what comes next being disconnected from social media and more connected to real life.

[@luismoracmyk]

Why do you complain that much about ppl not being true friends? You don’t need to quit social media to realize that. Why are so emotional about it? The world is cruel and we got only ourselves

[@dreamgirl7022]

Thanks for sharing your feelings. Remember.. quality over quantity. I only have 2 friends 😊

[@dreamgirl7022]

I have also quit social media

[@_KendraChristine]

Such a good reminder ❤️

[@kotaandfriends4078]

THANK YOU for sharing this

[@toniamoronczyk1132]

It’s okay to cry on camera

[@_KendraChristine]

It’s just weird being so vulnerable when you don’t know who is watching, I get you though!

[@toniamoronczyk1132]

@@_KendraChristine Makes since!

[@jesuschristismylord4043]

I totally understand the situation I feel you

[@ximennav]

My social media is deactivated from time to time, during this year it was deactivated during my birthday... So yeah no one remembered outside my house. A few days after, I posted the lovely time with my family and ofc some messages saying they forgot (not even congrats). I never forget theirs and usually send them a gift or give it to them close to thei birthday and I still fell sad

[@FreyaEmmanuel]

This is a really awesome video!! Even though people change(because u deleted your socials) God never will change ♥😊. God bless you Kendra😊

[@_KendraChristine]

Thank you Freya💕

[@InventiveFilms]

Damn being off the radar is what I want haha. Why have “friends” that aren’t real. Enjoy the few you truly have.

[@sonestia777]

I’m starting my journey, I did Snapchat and Instagram I can’t remember how long it’s been I think a couple of months Facebook is where it’s going to be hard. I’m trying to focus on finishing my Masters degree and summer school is only getting harder each day I wake up the assignments keep coming! I graduate in August that is my goal and I need to focus 100%

[@_KendraChristine]

Good for you!! I can’t imagine how much work that is! Being off social media will definitely allow you more time to focus on school 🙌🏼

[@skipburns5264]

I've been so happy since quitting. Thank you for sharing your journey. As Rocky says.. "the world ain't all sunshine and roses.." LOL. It hasn't been easy, but it's worth it.

[@_KendraChristine]

So true!! It’s definitely been worth it!

[@mychaelgriffin]

I recently deleted Instagram and I only on Pinterest KZbin and Snapchat but I really like it so much better