Kev & Melissa Fredericks: What 20 years of marriage takes and gives | Fridays w/ Tab & Chance

On todays episode, our dear friends Kevin and Melissa Fredericks join us and talk about marriage. They are about to renew their vows for their 20th anniversary. We talk about al the things: how they met, struggles they've had to overcome, lessons they've learned and who in their family begged them not to get married... yes we go there! Lets get into it!
Guests: Kevin Fredericks www.kevonstage...
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Melissa Fredericks
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About the hosts:
Tabitha Brown is the world's favorite mom and auntie! She is an Emmy award winning show host, actress, a 3-time New York Times Best Selling author and a 4 time NAACP Image Award winner. Follow Tabitha Brown: / iamtabithabrown
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Chance Brown is a father, mentor, retired police officer, entrepreneur, and youth basketball coach. If you ask him, he’ll tell you he is a professional human! Follow Chance Brown: / teamchancebasketball
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[@MrsKevOnStage]

Thanks for having us!! ALWAYS A GOOD TIME!!

[@worldpeace0266]

Good job! May you guys celebrate many many more❤❤

[@canwejustloveeachother2550]

This makes me cry hearing Kev tell his story. He seems to really care and that's touching. Lord, keep Kev and Melissa in You and together ❤❤❤❤

[@carlalyons2052]

Love yall as couples ❤

[@kimjordan8151]

‘Lis you are hilarious 🤣 🤣 🤣

[@ej6388]

When you said “Cus I’m a G” IS ME ALLLL DAYYYY. lol yea it’s 1 in the morning and im leaving but nothing gonna happen to me

[@ritah5361]

We need this couple do a show once a month. Golden!

[@LeihuaBarry-jj4mg]

They wrote a book “Marriage be Hard!” With a podcast

[@gfjchs3n1]

Yes. Maybe a "Tab and Chance Relationship View" (similar format like The View".)😊

[@allthingstailormade2739]

I feel like the real blessing is to have a partner who is willing to change and grow with you. I hope I have that whenever I get married

[@janicehall82]

This was one of your best shows. I love seeing how much Chance has grown. I remember when he didn’t express himself much early on. I’ve been married for 33 years and with my husband for a total of 39 years and just divorce him for the 100’s time just last night!😂😂😂😂 Love Kevin and Malisa

[@denisemoody3268]

Wonderful, , Tabitha I lost my husband on 12/31/99 and I feel exactly as you said, I have never dated anyone or thought about marriage again, for the exact same reasons that you stated. Powerful! I often have explained to others who felt like, I stopped my life, after my husband died. I haven't I am simply still in love with him.

[@NikkiKNuvo]

💛 God bless you. What a beautiful marriage it must've been for the love to never have faded away after all this time.

[@denisemoody3268]

@@NikkiKNuvo Yes! Thank you 🙏🏿❤️🙏🏿🌹😘

[@kimkelly2355]

This was so good! As someone who’s been married for 22 years, I sometimes feel like I’m the villain in my husband’s story in his mind when I’m trying to be his hero, but he has to be willing to TALK about it because it’s usually not as bad as we THINK it will be.

[@tinahammond4920]

Amen he that finds a wife finds a good thing

[@itsmedonnamarie68]

I truly enjoyed this discussion. I’m 56, never married but still hoping. My parents just celebrated their 69th anniversary on 5/28. This discussion gave me some insight on what all of these years together must mean to them

[@yvettefulton4016]

Thank you for this conversation. It was so good! My husband and I have been married 31 years and got married at 22 and 25. Our son who is 20 told me recently he wants to marry when he finishes college. I said nooooo…travel and have your own place and date for a few years. He said he has the perfect example in his parents that it can work. It did but it was hard. We didn’t know what we didn’t know and it was hard. I wish I would have known myself more and experienced more time being independent. I wish that for my children but their life is their life. We can only guide them and provide the wisdom we have learned along the way.

[@tinahammond4920]

That part,live some life because I didn't but I am Grateful we are still together

[@MurrayXperience]

This was cool- appreciate the insight. After 19years in we face these challenges and its good to see HEALTHY black love … thank you 🎉

[@SandraKing-dt6jw]

There are so many similarities with us, my husband and I got married at 22 and 23, Next month we will celebrate 24 years married and together for 26!! I really enjoyed this conversation. So many gems shared here!! ❤

[@Justcallme_sum]

Listen I am 27 Married 7 years so I had to click on this video I love seeing healthy couples last and anytime I can get advice I'm going to take it I'm trying to apply it the best way I can I love both of these couples and I wish them many many many many more years to come ❤

[@rachelw9212]

"We do not have to be all that at the same time" was for me... It took me a while to get the message, but thank you Tab.

[@veronicamwarren5750]

This was a great show! My husband and I just celebrated 30 years of marriage on May 1st. Yes, marriage is work. We were also young when we got married, and we had to grow up, especially with him being in the military for over 20+ years. He's a veteran. We are still learning each other.. and have those helpful conversations 😂😂. I've said the same thing I will not marry again if my husband leaves this earth before me he is who God I believe created for me💝

[@madelinedrayton6049]

20s, 30s, 40s…. It is the same . I was 37 and my husband was 42. My first and his second. We both had our own homes. Our experience was similar. It has been almost 25 years and we are still learning each. But it is a little easier.😀

[@dakotac180]

My internet aunties and uncles in a crossover episode is awesome.

[@Elladog2024]

Kev keeps it 100% like it is! It’s like he’s in my head when I’m “beefing” with my husband! 😂 love this so much!

[@riverrun5964]

Love the way these couples support each other personally and professionally. ♥️🖤💚🤜🏾🤛🏾

[@lockyock7]

This was amazing to watch and listen too. We are 4 years married and 9 years together still going strong. I love our marriage all parts of it.

[@CharmCityBuyers]

This is so good! We've been married for 11yrs, together for 16yrs...met at 19/20. Entrepreneurship, starting a family, growing...so much truth in this interview!

[@CherieButler]

The more y'all share the more I appreciate y'all. I wish you all a million more forever's together!!! I'm leaving this video with an uplifted spirit and elevated expectations.

[@reneao2023]

Speak Kevon ! Our minds tell us a different story ! Thoughts have energy 🫶🏽

[@carolynlong8701]

Great conversation tonight 👏🏾👏🏾everything that you guys are saying is true. I have been married 37 years and now I realize those marriage vows ❤🙏🏾

[@shelliesoapboxpodcast]

This was SOOOO GOOD! The transparency and gems of wisdom mixed with moments of laughter left me wanting to hear more. Part 2 us please. 😊🙏🏾 Thank you for sharing! ❤❤

[@emmacalhoun7459]

God bless you all great knowledge for this 51yr old wife that have thought of and experience most of what you all talked about. Thank you!❤😊

[@adriannewashington317]

The chemistry and energy you ALL bring is fantastic 🎉✊🏽♥️♥️

[@purplesoul9927]

Yesssssssssss loving a person with you everything is rewarding and exhausting. But together we can get through it all❤❤❤❤❤

[@deliabogues3812]

This was sooo Good!!!! Chance spoke a word! If you do it right the first time, then you've given everything, you can give.

[@joliejohnson6756]

I’m so late to this but I needed this 😭 this gave me so much chills thinking of all the points made. I know God will bless my marriage with 20 years and many more

[@y.spence]

I’m so proud to have 20 years of marriage, and smiling about it jjust as all of you are. Cheers 🥂 to all the 20+ couples.

[@Niecytrip]

Love this episode married 43 together since 16 . So relatable in all areas . Biggest decision you will make . Knew at 16 what we wanted and didn’t want for a marriage.

[@janicedawson1455]

This was a wonderful conversation on marriage. There were so many gems and nuggets and aha moments. Thank you to both couples for being honest and transparent. As an older newly wed this gave me insight to some things. I think I will have to come back and reference this conversation every now and then. May God continue to bless you all abundantly!💕🌺

[@christinglover5466]

What a Blessing! My husband and I will be celebrating 20 years of marriage in July 2024 🙌🏾😅

[@eternalflameyt56]

Thank you all for sharing.

[@angelosgarden1162]

Tab!😢 that word was for me. Thank you for sharing. I've been struggling with this. God bless you for sharing.

[@tanisha7789]

This is a masterclass on marriage

[@katterineromelus]

I laughed, I cried a lil bit…. But over this conversation was a blessing ❤

[@kellymurphy7914]

No Wachovia is now wellsfargo

[@islandqueen8195]

Yeah I think she was talking about Washington Mutual

[@Fennekey]

Hands Down…BEST EPISODE EVER!! And I love them all.

[@Hazmadukes]

This was dope convo!!! Loved it

[@Miechie6]

The riff battle at the end gives me life!

[@nakitawill]

This was such a good conversation!

[@MsCrissyCee]

This was SO GOOD! I appreciate everything that was discussed.

[@lawilson9047]

This helped me so much!

[@janearhankerson9960]

I needed this I just 💜 all of them

[@knowopenings]

This is such a great feeling! This level of honesty is affirming!

[@kimg2760]

This was such a Blessing. You All speak as Elders that has experienced love, life, friendship, hardship, and success in a way that is so relatable and refreshing to hear. Continued Blessings to each of you!❤️🙏🏽#TabandChance #mrskevonstage #kevonstage

[@Mrs_SoGQue]

I really needed this conversation today! This was my first time listening to your show. I ran across it on IG! I was really responding out loud to your podcast and also was very relived I’m not the only one who feels like these things in my marriage. We are young people married too and we are grateful that we have role model marriages, like yours and Kevin/Melissa. I look forward to the next podcast!❤

[@jehovahskid]

One of my favorite episodes!

[@natashaelliott683]

That's what most people need. Just needing to know that their person/spouse will fight for you and the relationship instead of thinking I don't want no one to stay where they aren't wanted which isn't the right attitude.

[@fdoctor79]

I absolutely LOVE these powerhouse couples. I enjoyed the humous and insightful conversations. Gotta get Angel and Marcus and Tab and Chance for the finale episode of the Bald and the Beautiful. Tfs

[@mdjwalker]

Happy Bday Kev!! This was great, truly enjoyed the conversations because I can relate.

[@taywonderful]

I do enjoy these conversations the timing is always spot on for my personal life !!!

[@LaShekaDBeaman]

This was everything! 🙌🏽 I love being married 11 years strong 💪🏽

[@phylicia8256]

I love this podcast so much omg this conversation was Amazing❤👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾……I look forward to being a wife to my forever husband

[@Ms.AprilRobin]

I loveeeeeeee this episode. Tab and Chance always deliver value and quality content!

[@ladyliberian3541]

This was soo fun to watch positive content.

[@Oldschoolways168]

My 2 favorite couples. All Black love all day 🖤!!!

[@princessbc9791]

Thank God for Peaches!!!

[@clementine4133]

We love you all guys! Happy to see your blessings, God bless you all with more. Your faith and humility are telling. Thank you for sharing. God bless you, reader.

[@sophiacadet9472]

I am engaged, soon to be married. Thank you for the advice beautiful episode 💕

[@vernettarudd5895]

Hi Tab and Chance I want too thank you guys for the down to earth content. I really enjoyed this video, good job.❤❤❤y'all

[@MsHJones]

This was a GREAT episode. I hope you discuss marriage with other couples too... maybe 1-4 times a yr.

[@truthbetold4639]

Dropping 💎 💎 💎 in this video…. Enjoyed it!!!!

[@Scripturenstyle]

Always awesome!! Two of my favorite couples!! Thank yall for sharing yall wisdom and some experiences!! May God continue to Bless Yall Unions!! ❤❤❤❤

[@nweathers1847]

I absolutely enjoyed this video! These were words of the wise!!! ❤😊 Notes were definitely taken! I pray to have a successful marriage with 20+ years of experience and love!

[@kenneidrabrownbender1935]

🔥🙌🏾🔥🙌🏾🔥🫂🔥🫂🔥🙌🏾🔥love y’all and needed this today!! Thanks so much!❤❤ ❤❤

[@patriciamorgan3171]

All of your are so humble and the Lord has rewarded all of you for your faithfulness edurance hardwork and for better or worse.♥♥♥♥

[@kayc3129]

I’m late to the party but Lord the last 10 minutes I enjoyed. 😂 I’ve been married 22 years. I can’t do again!

[@crystalfelton7312]

this was EVERYTHING!!!

[@Ladythomas7301]

Thank yall for sharing!!!❤❤❤❤ love this!!!

[@BlkPrl2793]

Y’all have me smiling from ear to ear. 💕

[@patriciashort7908]

This was an amazing show, I love Y’all ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@christopherbaker275]

Please have them back on

[@hopemcintosh6998]

This was an amaaaaazing video!!❤❤❤❤... Unfortunately, after reading the comments, though, marriage may not be for me. There are so many comments about how "hard" it is or "I could/would never do it again." It just drained all of the hope and anticipation out of me, lol. There is nothing wrong with the comments because it's the reality. I just realize now that it's a reality I don't want. My life has already been tough as a single woman. I can't possibly risk adding someone to it.

[@dellanixon7657]

So enlightening! Love You Guys!!❤🙏🏾😇😇😇😇

[@KymaniMJade]

This episode was so good I had it for breakfast, lunch, and dinner!

[@micheleratcliff2550]

This was so good! I clicked so fast!!

[@latashachappell8974]

Thank ya'll for the messages and the laughs.😂❤

[@tara-candacezulu6238]

Thank you for this. I’m learning so much from y’all. ❤️

[@TraceyWoods-x5m]

Thanks for your prospectives! ❤❤❤

[@lovelaugh3544]

I feel like I know sadness when I see it and unfortunately in my opinion it is written all over Melissa's face and demeanor. Praying for you 🙏🏾.

[@zmorris3304]

Excellent subject! Love this!!❤️💕❤️

[@SpecialJLrobin]

This was soooo good😊

[@deidreej]

Two of my favorite couples! Awesome conversation 🖤🖤🖤

[@gwendolynthompson3080]

This is Sooo Cool!!!

[@EmotionallySecurePodcast]

This was really good. Melissa is HILARIOUS

[@tifahsencouragingwords6]

Learned so much thank you 😊

[@valeriedorsey7527]

Awesome! This conversation was really good. I enjoyed it immensely!

[@lacec1111]

Awesome discussion🎉 loved it!!

[@mrsbell100]

I love this and needed this so much❤ been married a year and I’m learning.

[@AlieshiaTV]

I’m weak at the reenactment of love is blind & mafs

[@lindsainicole]

46:33 is goodddd!! I needed to hear that!

[@yellaymb]

this was good and needed

[@mrsbrownsugarsweetz]

Tab said I’m going to take u before the lord 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ligordon1767]

This was good! ❤ Happy birthday, Kev 🎉

[@Flygirl19]

This reminds me of the love hour! Such a great episode

[@margiedaniels489]

Great episode... TY

[@bettyharmon3550]

Happy Birthday Kevin!!

[@tiixoxo]

this did more than help me, this is my guide to my relationship and i’m grateful that we still have wisdom wanting to be given out to the youth. This is literally the wisdom I search for. Thank you thank you thank you 🫶🏼‼️

[@peterimmanuelking]

Come on now Holy Spirit! This was so good! 46:18