Khuṭbah: Domestic Violence: "If You See Something, Say Something!" | Shaykh Dr. Yasir Qadhi

[@ummpearls]

Family members need to STOP supporting abuse. Because the blood will be on their hands too, JZK Sh for raising all these points.

[@RB-fr1tg]

"brothers/men be actual men...where is your manhood when a woman is being violated?!"

[@savesheikhjarrah1480]

MashAllah if you see something, say something!

[@al-lail9692]

JazakAllahu Khair for the reminder, brother. Ya Allah SWT, allow Muslim houses to be places of love and mercy and tranquility. Allow Muslim parents to be the best role models for their children. Ameen

[@LR24134]

Ma shaa Allah alhamdulilah Jazaak Allahu khairan dear Sheik For Sharing 🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻❤️❤️❤️

[@friendofall1824]

Great talk.. an eye opener to all Muslims... Thanks Sheikh and May Allah bless you with long and healthy life ahead...

[@samreynolds3789]

How many MUSLIM MEN/Males ADMIT they need Psychiatric help?

[@SAK1912]

MashaAllah Tabarakallah Shaikh. As usual your speech is full of passion. I'm sure most of us feels them to our soul. Please, please open safe houses for our sisters and their children. Funds should be raised for them. Will be waiting anxiously for this project. In syaa Allah.

[@naseemkad]

I totally agree. We successfully raise funds for Masjid projects etc. I am sure we can add a few emergency one bedroom (with a small bathroom and kitchen) units for sisters to escape while sorting out a permanent home. I feel we really need it.

[@drnaima1]

The esteemed sheikh YQ, The sane selection of ur topics , research work , statistics, analysis , choice of verbatim and delivery of the msg for education of peeps is elevating ur status , love and respect in our hearts every day, though I am also aware of critics and refutation thingy which is nasty. I hope n pray that sheikh YQ is on the right side of arguments in the eyes of Allah .but definitely ur attitude in clearance of misconceptions is most poised, humble and sane. plz do continue enlightening us . May Allah increase u in knowledge, n communication skills and may reward u the best in this dunya n akhira Amen . I never miss ur any talk , lecture or khutbah n learnt so much positives from u . How cud u know that u hv such dedicated virtual students of urs exist at distant part of the world 🌎. 🙂

[@user-uu6tx6zt7q]

Most important in a marriage : Your wife is not your slave So dont say to her what to do, talk gentle in a conversation. You and she are each other buddy and you have skills what she has not and visa versa. You two are needed for a home/family! Your husband is not your son, dont say to him what to do….treat him with honor as you do with your Father…..the men’s nature is like that…..and you will see he will even do the impossible for you! Do not behaviour like a men in front of your husband….two men in a house means war…. Be a men in the house when your husband is at work or outside the house. In other words protect the house

[@RB-fr1tg]

Excellent and much needed advice jazakAllah Shaykna

[@KS-sl4ji]

MashaAllah well said Sheikh. Major Abbas Ali and his wife Sarwar Begum founded a battered women shelter for Muslim and South Asian women in the greater Toronto area. Our community needs to follow that example. May Allah swt bless them for that.

[@azizkhan9154]

The lives of males are valuable too

[@PastleLif3]

Something terrible happen in our state and I just want parents to be mindful of leaving young girls with their older brothers. A young girl has been raped by her over 18 yr old brother since she was 8. She’s now 10 I believe. Please please ask your children if anyone is touching your inappropriately. This child told her school counselor thank god. However, she’s been told by the abuser if she’d told anyone she’d ger hurt. May Allah protect our children.

[@jaffarsamoon6711]

Assalamualaikum va REHMATULLAH VA BARAKAATUHO 📌 jazakallahu khair 📌

[@alpharays3667]

To men, there’s no need to lay your hands on your wife, if you both are incompatible, please seek counseling and if nothing works, divorce!.

[@dr.hinafatimasayed]

So true 👍

[@SJ_HA_Fam]

As salaamu alaikum wrbt. Jazakallah khair shaykh. Please can you also speak on the abuse of the in laws on their sons and wives. This is a cultural issue where they think it’s is their right to dictate the lives of the married couple and abuse them for not giving them money or whatever on demand when the couple is trying to establish their lives. Many force the couple to stay with them using the “you have to listen to your parents in Islam” and Mothers emotionally blackmail their sons with” Jannah lies under the mother’s feet” and this does not allow the son to take care of his own family… the in-laws dictate the lives even after marriage, surely there has to be laws on this interference. Thanks for standing up for us women… with this Kuthbah. Wa alaikum as salaam wrbt.

[@naseemkad]

Sheikh Yasir some husbands billitle women and opress them mentally rather than physically. Its very difficult to prove it, e.g. holding back money, not allowing to visit family etc. What should such women do?

[@hamidamahmudurrahman3261]

Mental illness is a stigma in the ummah across cultures. No person hits his wife out of the blue. There are serious anger issues. He must have done this in the past to others as well. The family didn’t do anything about the outbursts. There might be some mental illness as well. Before getting married a person must be atleast working with a therapist to treat the issue if the problem is mental illness . People need to discuss mental health and anger issues before marriage. For those who ignored the first step before getting married they must seek counseling. People seek help from a therapist for anger management.

[@PrototypeM]

In Pakistan it's much much easier said than done

[@e.k874]

5:09 divorced lady should never be a taboo subject regardless if shes being abused or not unless if the husband or wife is cheating than that should be looked at in a certian way

[@Sami-gi1ld]

Polagamy is halal, every muslim woman need to understand that

[@anwarak4395]

Jazak Allah khair for covering physical aspects of domestic abuse but it’s a shame other aspect of abuse wasn’t covered. You see domestic abuse, it is a board subject, it covers many areas such, mental, emotional, sexual, Psychological and so forth … these are the types of abuse no one sees. It’s soul crushing. No one sees it or understand it. Please cover these areas too, otherwise you will be leaving loop holes for the abusers.

[@nuuur1849]

@King Sultan the wife not obeying the husband isn't “abuse.” yes, it's a separate issue but this video is about something specific. Muslim women have been dying the past few weeks and months at the hands of Muslim men, we've seen the stories go viral and this is all you can say on it. You guys cry that we change the subject when it's the women's turn to be criticised, why are you here trying to shift the attention when it's the men being criticised? You're one of those Andrew Tate anti-feminist men that just want women to be criticised 24/7

[@nuuur1849]

@King Sultan Men fighting for our Islamic rights, where? I don’t see many, in this current age. I feel safer going to the non-Muslims for help than Muslims in general. In my country, sisters that were physically and emotionally abused by their husbands were denied a divorce by the male imams so they went to the feminist western media for help and guess what? They got it. Can you imagine? Sisters feel more safer going to non-Muslims because they know they won’t get help from Muslim imams and the Muslim community! Our community is a disgrace. Look at the news! Look at all the Muslim countries, the men denying their women their rights, killing them, stealing their inheritance, oppressing them etc. I’m so embarrassed. It’s also the fact that you paint men as fighting for our rights and being upright but women are just apparently corrupted and irredeemable and sinister. You are part of the problem. How can you generalise like this? This is part of the western red pill doctrine you are criticising, this is what they do, they speak of men in positive and gloating terms all the time and women are just evil beings all around. It’s disgusting and I’m sick of it.

[@wuw385]

Especially when there are children. Can you imagine the children witnessing this? What's he or she or anybody gonna think about Islam when some weak, unbelieving man is beating their women!

[@wuw385]

And the same for emotional abuse...

[@nak.lanang]

@@wuw385 weak man create hard time huh 🤦

[@wuw385]

@@nak.lanang weak men harm others.

[@nak.lanang]

@@wuw385 i think you are have some trauma my sister. Get some help. I really pray for your good...

[@wuw385]

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته، 🌺 *Imaam Nawawi's* *Hadeeth Number 7* *Naseehah to His* *Messenger* صلى الله عليه وسلم _Naseehah_ to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, includes: *Believing in all of the Divinely Revealed message that he brought, * Defending his honor, and recognizing his status, loving him, *Acknowledging that he is the only true leader, and final, ultimate human Religious authority, * Loving his followers, and opposing those who oppose him, * Implementing, defending, and reviving his Sunnah, and so on. Aboo Hurayrah reported that the Prophetصلى الله عليه وسلم said, “Everyone from my nation will enter Paradise but those who refuse.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, who will refuse?” The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said, “Whoever obeys me enters Paradise, and whoever disobeys me has refused.”

[@azizkhan9154]

What about males who suffer domestic abuse? What advice is there for sisters to reform themselves? Nowhere to be found

[@uponsunnah6986]

Wish shuyookh would talk about the mother in laws interference and joint families in the western context. So sad how they completely ignore that part. Maybe because they too are parents and also "in-laws"?

[@DHClips325]

Sheikh we need clarification about what is abuse and what is allowed according to sharia? Yes the prophet didn't hit any of his wives but is hitting ones wife allowed in Islam?

[@fuadahmed5501]

No, it isn’t. Also more importantly hitting your wife is against the law.

[@candycrush1316]

What about emotionally abusing his wife?

[@saqeel5687]

Please reply about this

[@nak.lanang]

Emotionally abuse? Like what?? What definition on emotionally abuse???

[@saqeel5687]

@@nak.lanang like cursing, always complaining, showing no respect to wife but expecting respect for himself , teasing,anger issues.....

[@nak.lanang]

@@saqeel5687 i don't know where you live. But in my country your description about emotionally abuse likely happened to husband 😂

[@nak.lanang]

@@saqeel5687 i think it depends on the context. In majorities of scenario i would blame husband because husband is the leader of household. But i dissagree if someone always comparing between men and women because it can cause tension 😔

[@MaryBB.]

what about kids getting beaten up? should we still intervene? i think so, but then they might take the kid away to a non Muslim household?

[@alpharays3667]

Kids needs dad to keep them in check sometime!. Allow men to be men

[@deedeee6271]

Yes! There are Muslim foster parents in the U.S. That should not be a reason to keep children in the abusive situation.

[@Ogadenya]

Tell Somali people Iraqi people Pakistan people and All Muslim country

[@miriamh2551]

People of every religion need to understand this

[@miriamh2551]

@King Sultan I care about everyone, as did our Rasul, sws ❤️

[@samreynolds3789]

Some MOTHERS can be ABUSERS TO !

[@jaysusu8623]

One mistake : In the U.S, most domestic violence is perpetrated by the women. Although women don’t kill their spouses, but they use household items to strike them. All abuse is unacceptable.

[@deedeee6271]

This is not true. 1 out evert 4 women in the U.S. is a DV victim, compared to 1 out of every 9 men (CDC). You are entitled to your own opinion, but not your own facts.

[@maryanomar3777]

@@deedeee6271 I think his an abuser himself. You know abusers tend to blame women for everything. 😢

[@guestofallah6964]

Your purpose is fair but Muslims in America must have an islamic authority accredited by us government for claiming and taking the right decision because in some cases family would be destroyed for a small matter

[@e.k874]

rather have a destroyed family than dead sisters

[@nak.lanang]

1. I don't understand why we always compare between men and women??? They are different. Build different. Of course they have different problem 2. I agree we have to addresing this issue. But before that you must dig more deep into that statistic, what cause husband abusing their wife? Must be there are some reason right 🙄

[@wuw385]

The man is sick. Period. If he feels like beating someone, whatever the reason (of course he's gonna blame others, like Ibliis did bcs that's the result of pride and arrogance) then he should get out of the marriage. No excuses. He's got problems that need to be resolved and should seek help. If he's sincere. The Prophet ﷺ nor any of the prophets (pbut), treated their wives in such a hideous manner.

[@nak.lanang]

@@wuw385 violence sometimes need to be done for good reason. When i was kid im very selfist child and never listen to my mother. And bacause of that my dad always beat me with belt, tie me with rope in the trees in the middle of afternoon, beat me with bambo. But that treatment made me growing become more dicipline, more humble, and more respect my to mother. It depent on context

[@nak.lanang]

@@wuw385 you said whatever the reason husband beat their wife is wrong, period. Cmiiw even in qur'an husband is permissible to beat their wife (not in the face) for good reason right?? I don't understand, are you muslim???

[@رابعهقزل-ب4ج]

Sometimes they have heart disease, mother who guide them wrongly, some times men think he has right to beat , makes this to achieve his goals to show his wife that authority is on his hands. Was it enough?!!!

[@KS-sl4ji]

@@nak.lanang is that from the Sunnah of our Prophet (saw)?

[@rajatahir10]

Yes the men who beat and tortured the women is a coward but sorry the table has turn around specifically in west. Bro you need to reevaluate your statistics.