Know How to Stop Dwelling on Negative Experiences?

In this video we take a negative and hurtful experience and look at how we'd handle it from a Buddhist point of view.

[@colleenpathe6897]

We love and appreciate you Margaret

[@kimberleymyles4130]

Thank you, Barbara. I was in a mindspaceof suicide. I'll spare you the details of my life & just say that I needed this. After nearly 36yrs of practice, I'm still learning & I wouldn't without my precious members. Every syllable of Soka Gakkai has profound meaning & fits together like a puzzle. WHAT A TRIBE! We need eachother as we need the teaching & the daimoku - as I needed this - because we are SO UTTERLY HUMAN. I won't give up. I can't. Thank you so very much. Thank all of you. To Buddahood we continue.

[@margaretblaine5367]

I so agree with you. Th wonderful members. They are one of the great blessings of my life.

[@navnitamelwani6660]

Love this video

[@robertconlon3302]

insightful and practical!

[@440SPN]

Thank you Margaret. Blessings 🙏 🙏 🙏

[@kiransharma7848]

Thanks magaret you're videos, topics and great insights on Buddhist philosophy inspire a lot. Thanks so much. Be blessed and stay safe. Love you.❤🙏🌺🤗

[@margaretblaine5367]

Thank you.

[@kiransharma7848]

♦️....5 Things to Consider When Chanting for a Goal....♦️ President Ikeda: points out in his Clear Mirror Guidance, the universe acts as a mirror, when we are chanting for a goal, and reflects our state of mind back to us. Let’s look at some states of mind we might be projecting to the universe and ask ourselves. 🌺 1. Am I chanting as a Buddha or a beggar? ---- If you are confronting a difficult challenge, the temptation is to chant as a beggar, please let me keep my house, please let me…. Chanting as a beggar sets you up as being weak, depending on an outside force to solve the problem. You hope but don’t really believe that the solution to the problem lies within your hands. In fact, you have the Buddha nature within. This means you are connected to universal energy and intelligence and can bring them out to tackle anything which might come up. When you chant based on the Mystic Law of Nam-myoho-renge-kyo, you tap into everything you need to resolve any challenge. So chant as a Buddha with the absolute determination that this end result will come about. See the desired end result clearly in your mind. Let the universe know that you are resolved to do anything necessary to bring it to fruition. 🌺 2. Am I focusing on the end goal or on the obstacles to reaching it ? ---- When you focus on the obstacles you are projecting them to the universe and they will be reflected back to you. Keep your attention on the end you want and let the positive forces in the universe work out the path to get there. You will never be deadlocked. If you base everything on the Mystic Law of Nam-myoho-renge-kyo. You will discover ways around obstacles or they may just disappear. As a matter of fact it’s a great adventure to see how the steps to your goal work out. Completely unexpected twists and turns can occur. 🌺 3. Am I trying to force my goal? ---- You don’t have to force anything. Just let your attention be on your goal when you sit down to chant and then let go. Chanting for a goal is an interesting balance between being in charge and letting go. You are in charge when you set the direction you want - the end goal. You let go when you relax and let the positive forces in the universe work out the path. Trying to force a goal doesn’t let that behind the scenes activity work in the way it should. 🌺 4. Am I strategizing or chanting with the end in mind? ---- Most of us have been taught that we have to have a plan. But in Nichiren Buddhism that is putting the cart before the horse. When you chant with the end goal in mind first, then ideas, people and circumstances will come to you to work out your goal. You don’t need to work out a plan all by yourself. 🌺 5. Am I chanting with desperation or gratitude? ---- When you chant with desperation, you are letting the universe now that you don’t believe this goal can be achieved. You may be focusing on the obstacles rather than the end result. When you chant with gratitude you have relaxed, letting the universe know that you absolutely believe this goal is going to come about. These five considerations can make the difference between chanting like a Buddha and achieving a goal or struggling with disbelief and mixed results. Give it a try and see. by Margaret Blaine on May 15, 2015 inn Buddhism In DailyLife, Handling Goals, How Are You Chanting?, Manifesting what You Want.

[@margaretblaine5367]

@@kiransharma7848 Thanks Kiran. I'm glad you brought up these points again.

[@MichaelaOkpalugo]

Thank you 💚

[@pinkifloyd7867]

You are precious Margaret, happy new year

[@anupamanaveen9757]

Thankyou Margaret as always. Very practical action points

[@patriciamgibson]

A fortune baby from Australia! Thank you Margaret for all the videos especially this one which applies to my situation right now. NMRK xx

[@meerasachdev8816]

Thank you so much for guidance

[@andykumar935]

Thank you for your guidance... very apt and easy to adopt.

[@navnitamelwani6660]

Many many thanks Margaret, so very grateful for this video, it was perfect , so simply put and gave me a lot of clarity.🙏🏼

[@margaretblaine5367]

Glad it was helpful!

[@lifechoices6643]

While chanting,i close my eyes sometimes in order to be in touch with my imagination and when I move my head and body slightly,it gives a flow of imagination

[@laurarichards9453]

Another eloquently and clearly explained video with practical advice of how to apply Buddhism in our daily lives. Thank you Margaret 🙏 🤗

[@margaretblaine5367]

You're welcome.

[@pavankumargautam5067]

Nice video granny.....it came at perfect time...

[@margaretblaine5367]

I'm glad.

[@user-ft5de1wb4k]

Precise advice

[@topchief777]

Their buddha nature is inherent to their being. So it's not so much that your separating them, but when you manifest your buddha nature you see it in them too. You *activate* it in them too, bc we are all one. It's all energy. What your actually doing is blessing them & lifting them in frequency, just by the nature of your being. That's why the prayer starts with "How can I get others to enter the unsurpassed way?" By manifesting your buddha nature. That's it. Just keep chanting! 🙏✌️💜

[@anuradhadwivedi3499]

I needed this. It seems like this guidance is personalised for me. Thank you so much.🙏🏼

[@margaretblaine5367]

Glad its helpful.

[@sanjitagnihotri2720]

Thanks .I have experienced transformation in this area.

[@alysonmax8094]

It's so hard for me to chant and pray for their happinesss ( people that hurt me ). Whenever i think abt them, i get angry and emotional easily. And, i always want the bad effect/consequences manifested on them because of the bad things they did.

[@margaretblaine5367]

I know. It's a hard thing to do, but it will free you.

[@freddyfromfrome8883]

Hi Alyson, I have managed to get around hating or being angry with people who have wronged me, betrayed me or hurt people who I love by chanting for their wisdom. I just could not chant for their happiness. For example my daughter's partner was very abusive. The Buddhist leaders kept telling me to chant for his happiness ~ Chanting for his wisdom to arise was perfect, as we can't change anyone. People can only change themselves. It freed me from the hate I felt for him, I was able to support my daughter with love and compassion without hating him, so she was able to leave him and start a new life. Same with other people who frustrated me.. Chant for compassion and wisdom. It helped me enormously

[@pinkifloyd7867]

@@margaretblaine5367 I confirm that and as Eckhart Tolle mentioned recently, forgiving them does not ensure that they will be free from karmic retributions even if you do forgive them.

[@margaretblaine5367]

That is their karma. But you can disentangle yourself from them.@@pinkifloyd7867

[@cynthiakitt4975]

Hello Margaret. Thank you so much for your videos and your wonderful books. Can you share how to deal with toxic family dysfunction?

[@margaretblaine5367]

I've read of numerous experiences where the person chanting has transformed themselves and in the process the whole family changed. This is a long term chanting project. It's like you pull on one rope in a net and the whole net moves.

[@cynthiakitt4975]

@@margaretblaine5367 thank you so much. I will keep striving toward my human revolution and see the actual proof like I’ve experienced in a lot of other areas of my life 🙏🏽

[@adrianamirandabr]

Awesome as always!

[@lifechoices6643]

Chanting appreciation daimoku is a key

[@vinayakjain7018]

Was waiting desperately for your next videos ,please send videos on husband, wife RELATIONSHIP 💗💗💗

[@margaretblaine5367]

Do you have a specific question?

[@malizee2264]

You rock! Tysm!

[@margaretblaine5367]

Thanks Mali.

[@rashmisharma7093]

Nice guidance. I have a question. What does a long illness teach us?

[@roberta6795]

Could you please chant for my difficult situation? I need support. Thank you from the deep of my heart. Roberta.❤I wrote to you once to ask you the difference between the law of attraction and the benefits that with receive from the Gohonzon. Do you remember? Many blessings.

[@margaretblaine5367]

I think we can slowly change that way. But it would be faster if we notice negative thoughts because of feeling down in some way and then changed that negative thought to a more empowering one.

[@bhawnaverma3932]

How to break the continuous cycle of bad effects??? The chain of hurtful experiences.

[@roberta6795]

Thank you very much. I'm leaving the house where I'm leaving because my partner's parents and brother don't want us to stay here anymore. They have offended us with very hurtful words and behavior. I'm so sad, we must leave because his parents are the owner of this house. It will cost a lot of money for us to change house. But what can I do? They've send us a letter through a lawyer. Can you believe this? I will chant for them, but it's difficult. ❤

[@anuradhadwivedi3499]

Stay strong, Roberta. I will pray for you. Keep praying for their buddha-nature to emerge.🙏🙏NMHRK.

[@margaretblaine5367]

Good for you for working to keep positive. I'll chant for a positive outcome.

[@soniyoo11]

In some situations v can't take action but other person has to take so will our daimoku help the person rcv protection where action is not happening from my side

[@YouAreGifted182]

Thank you Margaret for all your wonderful and wise videos. I have a question, in one of your previous videos you mentioned that chanting only works for the person who is chanting. But in this video you said that we can also chant for the other person to change. When we chant for other does it work? or should we just chant for ourselves? thanks!!

[@margaretblaine5367]

I would chant for the resolution to the situation or for the other person's happiness. When you chant, you change, or the other person does but just chanting to change their behavior doesn't work well.. Our circumstances change when we change. Oneness of life and its environment.

[@margaretblaine5367]

I have a video, Can I change Someone Else by chanting - August 27th, 2019

[@YouAreGifted182]

@@margaretblaine5367 Thank you for your prompt reply. You are my inspiration. I am 50 and going through very difficult time. When I watch your videos, you give me hope and strength to continue with my life. Your videos just keep getting better and better. Can you do a video of blockage or getting unstuck in finances and relationships. I work hard and I am a good partner but I've been getting the raw end of everything. Is this karma or are my vibes not in accordance with my thoughts? Once again love your videos and wish many more successes!!

[@margaretblaine5367]

@@YouAreGifted182 I have a video, Financial Karma? What to Do , February 27,2020. About the relationship I would chant for what you need to learn in this situation. My first husband was not willing to work for anyone else. I wasn't chanting yet, so I just encouraged him. This went on for 10 years. Finally I decided to set some limits with the situation and told him he had to find work in three months or I was going to leave. He didn't even try. When I left our finances stabilized overnight. He never changed.

[@soniyoo11]

I have a one question mam Can v chant for person who is in trouble Or suffering ? Or is it necessary the person has to chant. Since he or she is the person who has to take action n not me

[@margaretblaine5367]

You can definitely chant for them.

[@marikinnear5955]

Hi , is chanting NMHRK can the vibration/ sound of the Daimoku go to our subconscious and is it that way that we can change our accumulation of negative habits/ thoughts and change it to positive thinking/ karma?

[@marikinnear5955]

Hi is chanting NMHRK can the vibration/ sound of the Dimoku go to our subconscious and is it that way by repetition that we can change our accumulation of negative habits/ thoughts throughout our life to positive thinking and into positive karma?

[@lifechoices6643]

The ten worlds including bitterness never disappears.But now it is bitterness for the buddhahood.

[@lynndenver7588]

Maybe it's trauma which needs to be processed . Which is very different to just complaining . Also seek help if your suffering from trauma. There is no excuse for abusive behavior towards you .

[@iamhere7629]

Hello. Do you have experiences about trauma.?

[@lynndenver7588]

@@iamhere7629 , Hello if your question is for myself then the answer to your question is yes. I have worked in domestic violence, I have worked with sex trafficked victims . I now work in complex post traumatic stress disorder. I have over 20 years experience .

[@angelbeing2240]

Hi Margaret, Can we cure any illness through chanting Nam myoho renge kyo? Thank you.

[@margaretblaine5367]

This is a complex question. Many illnesses can be cured through chanting. I know about five people who have overcome cancer. It took working with the doctors and serious chanting to do it. Remember Buddhism is reason. some illnesses are slight and more easily handled. But some are the result of serious karma. And of course at some point we all die.

[@angelbeing2240]

@@margaretblaine5367 OMG! Thank you so much. I am suffering from haemorrhoids and I really want to heal it. What should I visualise to heal it? How to chant for healing? And can I chant I my mind? Because my home is small and we are 6 family members, I don't get alone time and don't have my own space at home. Thank you for your guidance and support.

[@margaretblaine5367]

@@angelbeing2240 Visualize what you want to have happen and chant to have a healthy colon. I know people who have chanted in the bathroom if there was no other sot. You need to get the sound vibration going. This is not an internal chant.

[@angelbeing2240]

Can I chant in bathroom in low voice that only I can hear? Is having non veg food like eggs or anything bad karma, Will it block my manifestation? Thank you so much for helping me.

[@margaretblaine5367]

@@angelbeing2240 Yes you can chant that way and there are no food restrictions.How long have you been chanting? And, are you in touch with your local group?

[@margaretblaine5367]

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