How will you know when the man pursuing you is Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong? Check out this powerful message. Also, be sure to visit us at www.wiseherstill.com
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@karenayala11138 жыл бұрын
To bad our mothers didn't know any of this wisdom, could have saved us a lot of heartache.
@MindSetReset7 жыл бұрын
Karen Ayala very true but its now for us to spiritually educate our daughters and ours sons on these areas.
@PheneticsCo4 жыл бұрын
some have
@angeleyes33864 жыл бұрын
My mom met my dad @ 15 so she didn’t go through the weeding process. My dad was a pretty good dude so many of the tricks/traps I face today he wasn’t aware of to warn me about. So I’m learning on my own. They did teach me to be self-sufficient so I haven’t fallen too much and I many qualities like ambitious, a foundation in God that I can build upon based on my own personal relationship. I’m gonna be alright. I’m learning and growing. God is with me and I am walking with Him.
@Amarillo20122 жыл бұрын
Amen!! We forgive the women in our lives who didn't tell us, bc they couldn't give us what they didn't have for themselves. May The Blood of Jesus cover & heal them as well of their pasts.
@OctaviaMonique2 Жыл бұрын
Yesss most showed the wrong example! And don’t tell us different when we choose to follow in their steps.
@thamp948 жыл бұрын
I found this page today and I'm glad I did. I broke up with my boyfriend on Sunday. There was no growth in our relationship. We were suppose to look for rings.. nothing I do is good enough.he's constantly accusing me of cheating. I begin isolating my self from friends trying to make him trust me...he drinks a lot and begin to be angry all the time. I'm hurt because I thought he was the one. I had to end it...
@anointedfireofficial8 жыл бұрын
+Tam Tam You did right to end it sis. That's the behavior of a narcissist and I've had to counsel many women who are married to guys like that. They are abusive, rarely happy and they always separate their wives from anyone who loves them. It hurts now, but you will heal quickly and when God sends the one who He has for you, you'll be more than thankful that you ran from that guy.
@salenasheppherd56799 жыл бұрын
Talk about being found, Jesus allowed me to FIND your page today and I'm in love with all the wisdom that you're imparting to us. Those who have an ear to hear what the Spirit of the Lord is saying. Once again, THANK YOU SO MUCH WOMAN OF GOD FOR YOUR OBEDIENCE!!!
@angenettcurry88957 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@AudioK248 жыл бұрын
i wish everyone in america had your insight.There is hope for humanity after all. May God bless you sister for answering his call
@christtee48939 жыл бұрын
This is a great video, I am a sole believer that prayer is the BEST tool in discerning who comes into your life. But at the same time ladies we have to walk in wisdom and stop having all these worldly views when marriage is a "spiritual" thing. How can we mix light with darkness the world is the darkness and the word is light! If we really want a Godly man the word sets the standards start there.
@shamaraLthomas9 жыл бұрын
God just revealed so much through you to me in this message. I feel soooooooo blessed I just have to share it with someone! I finally understand the purpose behind marriage and soo much more. Thanks for decreasing you so that God will be glorified and his word goes fourth to land on good soil. Thanks for your obedience and submission to God!!!
@ketogenicgirl38138 жыл бұрын
Ma'am you are a freakin genius and i cant tell u how helpful this was.
@tamarahawkins67697 жыл бұрын
God is so awesome sometimes God will allow you to make mistakes so you can learn God knows what's best he will restore what the cankerworms the palmerworms the locust and the caterpillar has eaten woman let God do it if its in his will
@fusha397 жыл бұрын
he tells me right away.. The problem is I ignore him listen to myself then give the person the benefit of a doubt
@angeleyes33864 жыл бұрын
Same here. The last time it was so glaring my intuition literally was like a tap on the shoulder. I ignored it, gave him the benefit of the doubt, stamped it as my insecurities about starting over and he ended up being a devil. The guy even left me a message, “You can’t serve two masters” That was it for me. I submitted myself to God and pray that I continue to walk with him and He walks with me.
@100hotchocolategirl9 жыл бұрын
Could you do a video on how to be sure you're hearing Gods voice on who to marry and not your own voice? I'm struggling with that right now and it will be a Blessing to hear your take on this issue.
@anointedfireofficial9 жыл бұрын
Will do sis....Thanks :-) I'll keep you posted.
@KOKOBROWN1117 жыл бұрын
Yes that is so me right now.
@ChasingYonci2 жыл бұрын
I know this is 7 years later, but I believe when you draw close to God you will know His voice and will not feel peace moving forward in any aspect of your life without His spiritual ok.
@100hotchocolategirl2 жыл бұрын
@@ChasingYonci Thank you so much. It's never too late for good advice❤.
@raveenaminor52678 жыл бұрын
OMG God is so real and speaks. Thank you Holy Spirit for working through you.
@majin_bry7 жыл бұрын
This video showed up in my feed right when I was struggling with decided whether or not I should cut ties with an Ishmael I was talking to. It's so insane because the Ishmael confessed his love to me and i went on KZbin and saw this video and clicked on it and I knew God did that because He had been trying to tell me to stop talking to that guy and I wouldn't listen. God kept showing me signs that he was not a man I should be in a relationship with and I noticed that it was much harder to follow God and continue my relationship with the Ishmael. Just wanted to share this with you lol.
@lindaross74188 жыл бұрын
Much needed message for women who are asking GOD for a husband! Such wisdom! Women need to really listen to men, they will tell you who they are!!! Wisdom about excepting gifts, are trying to change a man, Woman of GOD keep on ministering, women need really need this message keep doing GOD's work! very powerful messages really needed! GOD BLESS!!!
@angenettcurry88957 жыл бұрын
I am so glad that God put this video in my light. I had been praying and fasting for a week now and asking God to show me my faults. While I was searching videos on Tony Gaskins your video popped up. Yes! God is great and thank you for creating this for women like me. It has been a constant battle because I thought I was broken. Two failed marriages, a failed relationship, and struggling to find my self worth, Satan had done his duty with me. But....one night I got on my knees and asked God for forgiveness, I asked him to show me my faults and reveal them to me so that I could get rid of them for good. He sent me you!! He sent me you!! Thank you Tiffany for your anointed words. To God be the glory!!!!
@evereen359 жыл бұрын
My My My Lord I Thank You Jesus For This Word.
@tissaspeight32128 жыл бұрын
WOW, wish I had this info yeeeeeears ago. Thank GOD who can "restore the years"! I'm going to share your channel with others.
@anointedfireofficial8 жыл бұрын
Thanks sis :)
@rosepetal22297 жыл бұрын
You are really imparting wisdom thank you! You are so right about how some of them will go to church even to fool you. We really have to be careful out here, some men like to hurt women.
@bernyddessy49928 жыл бұрын
Tiffany, your the best! God is speaking truth through you, Love it! Amen!!!
@ChasingYonci2 жыл бұрын
You are telling my story!!!!!!!! Trials and tribulations… that drew me to my knees. Don’t make my mistakes!!! Wait for the husband God has appointed for you. 🔥🔥🔥
@brittanyroberts24837 жыл бұрын
Such a blessing to my soul. This is something every woman of God needs to hear whether she is waiting for her God ordained husband or just simply working on her relationship with God.
@ChasingYonci2 жыл бұрын
“Marriage isn’t about you”!! 👏🏽 👏🏽 You better speak that truth, sis!! Kingdom Building!!! I would love to have you on as my guest on a livestream if you’re willing. 🔥🔥🔥
@passiont.75288 жыл бұрын
I wish I would've discovered this earlier. This is the most inspirational message I have ever heard! God Bless You, Anointed Fire!! :-)
@lindaross74188 жыл бұрын
Amen woman of GOD! marriage is ministery! It is not about us the sooner we learn that we will have less headaches , problems!!! keep on ministering we all need this word. And don't have to keep making mistakes!!!
@promisking39048 жыл бұрын
Praising Hod .....He heard my cry....women of God God is using you to nourish the souls of the broken, to cleans us from all impurities because He is building us over to testify to the people a better me&you a better place in Christ.... I love you&embrace your passion.....promis
@promisking39048 жыл бұрын
oops Praising God
@allthingsjazzy19808 жыл бұрын
Amen!!!!!!😇😇😇 Thank u Sister I so needed this. I married the wrong man so I really don't want to make the same mistake twice. I am straightening up my ways. I am getting a divorce so I must ask God to forgive me.
@selfluv_movement16729 жыл бұрын
I am not sure how I found your page but I'm willing to wait on god for the best..god is working on me and I found this page confirmation. Keep me in prayer as I will do for you tk you so much for sharing ur story I really need to hear all the videos..waiting on gods best 👈a husband that only god can send💜💜💜
@goldenchild98928 жыл бұрын
God is proud of you.
@anointedfireofficial8 жыл бұрын
+Golden Child You just made me smile real big. Thanks.
@housemidah18 жыл бұрын
Love theses video you are telling nothing but the truth!!!
@MR-jl6ng8 жыл бұрын
absolutely amazing this woman changed my life! thank you so much!
@mickeyliz04h67 жыл бұрын
wow this was gods confirmation . keep preaching 🙏
@MarlaCalandra7 жыл бұрын
I absolutely LOVE you!!! You have helped me tremendously! Thank God for you! You are truly anointed
@jenniferhaynes81018 жыл бұрын
I find men who want me to be the breadwinner,many who don't have a job so,I've been in the males position.
@anointedfireofficial8 жыл бұрын
+jennifer haynes When you see this happening, send them away immediately. The enemy is trying to pervert the order in your home.
@donnabates79369 жыл бұрын
Where were you when I married my first husband?!!! Thank you for your ministry! It's such an eye opener!
@mizzann95138 жыл бұрын
Tiffany, I needed to hear your message. I usually ask God if this man is not for me please let him go, but I was so in love with him and he treated me so well, I didn't even think about it. I was that "Faceless Woman" to him and I was wrong. Stuck in the emotions and feelings and not obeying. I didn't wait and Ishmael got me, but I know this is my season for transformation and I no longer feel that my time is running out. That void is being fulfilled and it's scary, but at the same time a wonderful feeling. Thank you so much!!
@anointedfireofficial8 жыл бұрын
+Mizz ANN Praise God. You are being set free love. God bless you!
@ChasingYonci2 жыл бұрын
45:36 Jesus!!!!!!! Yes!! It’s a stumbling block to many. We have to love our fellow believers enough to not be a stumbling block.
@Alissa07309 жыл бұрын
This is such a blessing. Thank you.
@billylittles87439 жыл бұрын
Most women who wants a man to take care of them do not realize this exact thing
@daniel0222098 жыл бұрын
i wish there was someone with a minstry to empower us men.
@twilson9768 жыл бұрын
Church men will probably need to break off and form their own church (even if its in a house livingroom). Pastors are simply to weak to support men in the presence of the dominating majority church women.
@daniel0222098 жыл бұрын
well to be honest, its really not their fault. Most men in church are not stepping up and God uses who He desires to be bring forth His glory. That could be me, you, this lady giving the video, anybody. Im just saying we as men also need support in these areas too because just like there are bad men, there are also bad women too. but I believe there are good dudes out here, who want their God ordained spouse and they didnt know the keys to finding them. we knowledge too.
@twilson9768 жыл бұрын
jesussaves13 God uses who he likes but He also has an Order. Jesus (I believe in Rev) condemns some of the churches in how they stepped out of order. A man should step up but if the church environment restricts that then......
@daniel0222098 жыл бұрын
what you are saying is right but remember that we serve a God who is perfect and brilliant. No one will stop the plans of heaven for your life. If God has destined you for ministry at some place and folk try to delay that, God will move them out of the way so it does not happen again. Now on the other hand, we will have to seek God for direction. Some places where we are, God might have only destined us to be there for a season so we must seek for answers. Bottom line is, once you come to the understanding of just how important your purpose is not only for the Kingdom but for your eternity, you will find a way. No excuses. The Lord will convict those who are out of order but at the end of the day, God orders all of our steps.
@twilson9768 жыл бұрын
jesussaves13 true
@pamblerporter45598 жыл бұрын
This is a now word for single women.
@dr.carolynjberry35238 жыл бұрын
Totally awesome! What a blessing!
@lacyskinner9769 жыл бұрын
Thank you Lord! This message is on fleek. lol
@Ms_bafaam7 жыл бұрын
I absolutely positively and for surely is sooooooooo Happy I found your page... For years I been feeling the things you been preaching but when I try to talk to people about it they would shut me down and say gurrrrl you better get in where you fit in or that don't happen around are way.... so to here you preach is a soul saver because all the temptation I was battling went away the second you revealed the truth.... Blessings
@shellyortiz19777 жыл бұрын
wish i would have found this many years ago ..when dating came to my life so many failures settling .man exposing sex so soon but glad your videos found me or i found them cause,right now everything is going to change 180 degrees...your wisdom everything you say is just. the truth more women need this.
@IDOObeDIEnceMinistries8 жыл бұрын
People need to hear this. Keep preaching it.
@shellyortiz19777 жыл бұрын
My gosh this is to much to handle. Tiffany your amazing.
@MindSetReset9 жыл бұрын
They shall be known by their fruits....
@nakariwashington64619 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your wonderful testimonies. This is something positive I need to hear. I'm really working on me. Be blessed sister.
@aminadeardear19478 жыл бұрын
Thank you JESUS .....All Glory to YOUR NAME. .....am so greatfull to God woman of God you have said it am so Blessed to hear u sharing ur Testimony triple Grace woman of God
@user156738 жыл бұрын
God bless u for allowing God to use you as a vessel for Godly counsel
@keepingmyfaith828 жыл бұрын
I love your videos and I wanted to say that you have honestly inspired me and helped me to see things a lot diff with a better understanding.. I'm currently trying to get over and move on from and three n a half year off and on relationship with someone that I kept allowing to run in and out my life believing he loved me and believing his lies.. and each time I hurted myself more and more I been doing a lot of research on the word narcissist and that's what I believe he is.. I pray everyday that God helps me get through this so I can quit feeling like I will never be happy and heal for whatever God has in store for me, I definitely feel as though I have a soul tie with him and I gotta break it because it's taking over me and breaking me down I just wanna be happy, it's only been a one month since I gone no contact with him and it's very hard but I believe as long as I keep my faith it can be done
@marietakwende55258 жыл бұрын
Wow. Not only the msg is powerful but funny, encouraging and much more
@thelighthousebiblediscussi96318 жыл бұрын
Thanks Sis, I am humbled by your message.
@pamelaw.52418 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this God ordained message. Bless you.
@4Peaches17 жыл бұрын
You preaching!
@brittaniemorris3879 жыл бұрын
I love this! Thanks it was well needed. I plan to share this at my conference.
@larissakim83019 жыл бұрын
Thank you, dear sister, God bless you
@courtneymoyen5957 жыл бұрын
I love this message so very much! I feel like I need to listen to this word DAILY! Thx for this Sis! 😇
@sbrown86199 жыл бұрын
hello! can you do a video on dealing with christian men and how they could be Ishmaels?
@SeraphinaSpassiondriven8 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this word of truth.....woman of God!
@israelmartin48148 жыл бұрын
GOOD TEACHING!!!!💪💪
@MoCaBean0028 жыл бұрын
I love this! keep them coming
@daniellem5787 жыл бұрын
This message Tiffany!!!!!!! Yesssssssss so true!!! Learned the hard way!! This video was on point!!!!
@deborahevans29858 жыл бұрын
Been there, done that, with the Ishmael -- and you are soooooooooo right!
@dianachow99788 жыл бұрын
Hi, just want to say thank you very much for your testimony, this really is an eye opener for me about so many things i do wrong as you said above, every word God said through you is like a hit to my heart, Thanks Again and keep spreading the words..God Bless :)
@avianandabiel25667 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the advice and Robert Blake's comment...RC...I will look him up...ty
@nuttynetty43677 жыл бұрын
men are sopposed to be the providers....now I agree with u on everything else and I'm all for women being educated and having a career under certain circumstances but I agree u must be whole and discerning but I believe in a Boaz not a bozo lol
@IamAsiaG.7 жыл бұрын
How do you let go of friends that you know God is telling you to let go of?
@staceyshine2473 жыл бұрын
My mom use to say, "A piece of man is better than no man at all." She was severly abused when I was young by my "step-father". She was raised in an orphanage so I now understand more about her mindset. I made horrible love choices. Horrible! I have 3 beautiful children. That was the gift of those unions. However, my kids are also challenged relationship wise and that keeps this momma in serious prayer and intercession. Listen to Tiffany ladies. Safety first. 👰🏻👰🏾🕊🙏
@chantelllovett41597 жыл бұрын
Anointed Fire you are so on point. Wow!!
@iliasense9 жыл бұрын
Thank God for your life...This is DEEEP.
@anointedfireofficial9 жыл бұрын
Thanks everyone :)
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@camalebell4448 жыл бұрын
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@camalebell4448 жыл бұрын
my video is the world is a game to be played
@camalebell4448 жыл бұрын
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@pamelanixon6927 жыл бұрын
Anointed Fire
@lasheasimmons14727 жыл бұрын
@hotchocgirl. If you are questioning and don't have peace, it's probably not it js... GOD is not the author of confusion
@DevineLoved9 жыл бұрын
wow confirmation ive been blessed
@DiamondRoyalMinistries7 жыл бұрын
Hi, Tiffany Buckner, my name is Ashley Willis. I really appreciate this God Given word from you to me. I have been struggling in areas of relationships with men that God hasn't chosen for me. I no longer want to do these things and I want to wait for my God and divine appointed husband. Pray for me that I keep my faith and stayed on Christ and accomplish the things that he has set for me to do in this lifetime. I appreciate all your videos and I have been watching you for a while. God Bless you Woman of God and be blessed doing the very thing that God asked you to do! Thank you again!
@cornelial27337 жыл бұрын
love anointed fire! send your videos to my singles group. also the comment about someone to empower men, I stumbled on Robert Blake...Blessings!!
@speaktothenations97199 жыл бұрын
DEEEEEP! THANK YOU SISTER!
@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect9 жыл бұрын
Praise the Lord for this word! I really needed to hear this. I've asked God for a sign that a man is my husband and if it is not explicit, I do not know if God is telling me yes. This has been my struggle, knowing for certain if God is talking to me. Is it possible that he can do this through dreams?
@anointedfireofficial9 жыл бұрын
Yes, GOD speaks through dreams, but so does the devil. You have to try the spirit by the spirit to see if it's of GOD. You can fast for answers. Marriage is that serious that you want to take some time before the LORD to make sure you don't end up with the wrong man. The wrong man is a weapon formed against you, and if you marry him, you give him permission to prosper in your life. If you've had sex with the guy or entered some type of soul tie with him, it's easy to have dreams about him because he's tied to you. You'll see yourself with his children, married to him, and living with him...but it's not necessarily from GOD. Be sure to try the spirit by the spirit.
@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect9 жыл бұрын
We have not had sex (I'm celibate) and when we first started getting to know each other, I did a partial fast and prayed to God asking him to show me whether this guy was right for me and if He had sent him. I started having dreams in this process but I wasn't sure if they were of the Lord or the enemy. I will do a complete fast this time and continue to ask God for his discernment and revelation regarding this situation. Thank you!
@WithoutFurtherAduVlog7 жыл бұрын
rudegyaloving .. .. ..
@baidujanet49225 жыл бұрын
@@anointedfireofficial God richly bless you woman of God. God is using you to talk to me directly, please remember me in your prayers. I should have seen this video earlier but I know it's not too late. I have dated a man and we break up and now we had a reconciliation and he want to marry me and I have been praying about him. One thing I I've noticed since we started dating is that, any time I saw him in my dream I feel sad for the whole day so I try to explain it to him. That I don't think am the right person for him but still we're together and for the past 3yrs now am not in the country and becaue of the bad dreams I have been having about him I told him he should marry another woman but he said he's still waitting on me. 17th of last month we had miundersranding n we haven't speaks to each other and am praying if he's not the right person God should drive away from me. Please I need your council n your prayers thank you.
@lindsaybriggs31607 жыл бұрын
where in the bible does it say that we have "soul mates" or a God ordained husband? what if God sends a person into your life to teach you a lesson..or them a lesson? but where does it say God will send us husbands .scriptures please..
@ashleyandrews52399 жыл бұрын
Amen thank you for this message
@TaylorKWH7 жыл бұрын
Your message is powerful, sister. it's gotten me thinking! :)
@TheGiftedHermit Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this powerful message 💛
@janetbuckner32105 жыл бұрын
Hey Tiffany I just want to say I am so grateful to God for your message it's a timeless message ... It's 2018 and this message is still relevant continue to allow the Lord Jesus Christ to use you to encourage to inspire , and give us The Godly wisdom that we need to fulfill the plans and purpose of God for our lives without the Ishmael distractions.. may the Lord Jesus Christ continue to bless you and again thank you so much woman of God
@thenextcomeup12019 жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this!
@ChasingYonci2 жыл бұрын
God bless you and your ministry!!!
@twilson9768 жыл бұрын
uhhh..you better get in the Pastors ear. They push the "get a man to : " 'pay your bills,take care of you, do the house chores, get you a nice car, etc". And the women yell..."AMEN PASTOR"!!!
@kweenmee18268 жыл бұрын
sistah you are preaching I wish some way I could record this for my sistar group💅
@melasmontanayogahomestead78186 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your support!! Praise God!!
@donnaprice90786 жыл бұрын
Tiffany you are such a Blessing. Praise the lord. You are definitely on Point.... love it. Taking notes....
@sophiamcqueen8 жыл бұрын
Thanks you this help me so much
@Sonia-uz7wn7 жыл бұрын
I love your message in this video! I agree with your point regarding the familiar demons (@43:37) being sent into a woman life....as I have experienced this.
@valarieford84177 жыл бұрын
I like your message I don't wait for a man if I want it I will get it I am going on a cruise with my cousin travel with family and friends God bless the child who has there own a man may give you money in yhe begining of a relationship and then become selfish go to work who wants to ask a man for money
@asill.66686 жыл бұрын
Valarie Ford Exactly! I say this ALL the time!
@msrenata808 жыл бұрын
beautiful message!!
@ChasingYonci2 жыл бұрын
43:00 Jesus! You all in my testimony!! The enemy wanted to tarnish my ministry!!!
@TheTrademarkGuru7 жыл бұрын
This is such a blessing! Thank you for your ministry.
@Chinadollsavvy6 жыл бұрын
The bible actually states that a believing woman may get with an non believing man & he shall be sanctified but if he chooses to leave to let it be so. 1 Corinthians 7:14, “For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.”
@chloehunter92218 жыл бұрын
How can I contact you? Would like spiritual guidance on something
@chanibrenner8 жыл бұрын
love your lectures and insight! these are extremely captivating talks so thank you for that. how can I tell when it's Gd talking to me and not the devil? I was in a semi/long distance relationship/friendship with a man- we were not sexually active- we had a really good connection, met one time there was nothing physical that took place between us aside from a kiss on my head and a hug..after that we discontinued talking for a year because at the time i was not observant and he is (we are jewish). He came back into my life twice on serendipitous occasions- why did he come back twice in the most bizarre ways if this is not the issac im supposed to be with (this happened with a previous man as well) ? I have a feeling Gd wants me to get somewhere with Him first but i dont want to be observant for the wrong reasons (for this guy and not Gd) i still pray daily and trying to figure out a balance for a lifestyle centered around Gd. this man is still pretty young so I know that towards the end when he disrespected me it might have been due to confusion and immaturity or simply not knowing how to react towards my anger (he catfished me on an app, he wasn't searching for me) but this is really confusing to me. our connection was extremely strong- i've never felt safe walking along side a man as much as i did with him. i'm 28 and a virgin (never even kissed)...i think of myself as spiritual but rejected a lot of my observant upbringing due to not fully believing in jewish law. im conflicted on so many levels regarding this guy. any insight would be appreciated. thanks!!
@OctaviaMonique28 жыл бұрын
Wow amazing message!
@OctaviaMonique2 Жыл бұрын
Lol 6 years later after many delaysssssss and so many hurts, Lord, breaking my own heart, in this cycle of “relationships” Lord I’m so ready now. It’s all about you. I only desire You. The taste for worldly relationships has been removed!
@ellishajimcoilyglorytoGod3 жыл бұрын
That's true for the woman Too she will not Lead you into sin look for character personality compatiblilty and Gods approval for the relationship. This is true for the woman or man.