How To Deal With An Insecure Partner | Relationship Advice

[@emilyearl1858]

What advice would you give if the insecure partner makes wild accusations and makes demands to qualm their insecurities? Usually the demands cross boundaries.

[@joannebutzerin6448]

Really good tips. I think we all feel insecure about different areas of our lives at different times. Thank you! I find your videos to be so helpful.

[@marguerite340]

This is an excellent video! I have watched many videos on this subject, but this is the first one that I have taken notes on!

[@missnaenae3789]

Omg i took notes too 😱 .. yes this has been very helpful!! 😊🙏🏾

[@ry9348]

I know this video is about insecure partners, but my exes are usually quite confident individuals. Then when they get with me, I trigger their insecurities. This isn't surprising because I study psychology in depth and I can even make the most secure psychiatrists that I interact with, insecure. (Just from my life experiences, only.) I'm understanding and provide the support needed, whether it be emotional, mental, or spiritual. Because I have come to understand that every single ex has gotten insecure after me. The only thing that I can see that would trigger this is the fact that I'm quite popular and have a wide network of social networks because I interact with alot of different individuals. I tend to do a wide range of things daily, so I meet many different individuals every day and interact with them. I can see how this can cause anyone to be insecure, due to the attention I get. Then my exes keep chasing me, so this would also cause problems. However, this isn't my fault. I can't stop that, I've tried. I can only keep enforcing my boundaries with my exes, but the social networks is a bit trickier to navigate. I interact purely on a professional basis, because I don't mix business with pleasure. Ido go around acting like a kid and act free, but even I have been working on that. It really isn't easy to tame a ♐ moon, but I've tamed down prior to what I used to be. Thanks for the video.

[@themoonismyloverr]

Hi Kristin! How should I be supportive without becoming his personal therapist nor sounding superficial?

[@jetli9565]

Not sure what else to do my girl is very insecure with my boss because at some point i had told my gf that my boss liles me. Ive been friends with my boss and her husband even before i staryed working for them. So i guess i created the problem by. Being transparent like i wouod have lived for her to do with me. She gets so mad when i do anything with them like go to dinners with all empmoyees. Or go to a bbq with everyone else too. I mean ive never been alone with this woman ever. Because i respect my friend, which is her husband. So it would be impossible for me to do such a thing. Ive never cheated, dont drink or hangout late with friends. I think im the ideal bf always home or work thats it. But she gets mad because i do still talk to hher and him. Im not gonna chanhe nothing because im mot doing anything wrong and neither is my boss. But what do i do about my gf being annoying? I can only ignore her soo much. Ive told her to see a therapist, vecause i feel the only one that needs to change is her way of thinking. Im not guilty 100%

[@mitcheliorwueseterngu179]

This video is very helpful thank you I appreciate. But I wanna ask I am in a relationship for 3 years now. The first year I had lots of lies because of my ex and this caused I and my girlfriend insecurities. How can I help her recover it's being a year ago but she seems to struggle.

[@jindanwang2398]

Hi Kristin, I really wish I could watch your videos much earlier. Now I am divorcing because my husband is determined to be single. I feel my ex-husband does have some insecurity issues, which leads to the failure of our marriage. He just finished his PhD and got a fancy job, and claimed that he wanted to explore and to find his ranking and value by dating other women (he is curious what kinda women he could get). He used to be very poor and not confident. I found out he needs attention from other women to make him feel good ( He texted other women and bragged himself). He did say he fell out of love from me one year ago, but he was never honest with me until the last two weeks. I am super confused by him. I feel I don't need to explore to find out my value although he was my first kiss and love. I went to see psychologists twice, one said my husband is immature, insecure, weak, and very selfish. I really want to hear from you.

[@jindanwang2398]

He also said one time he wanted to have the best women so all the guys will stare at her and he feels super cool. I did dress up for him and tried to get all the attention that I could just for him. As a consequence, I was feeling very insecure when I am not dressing up.

[@KristinCoaching]

Thank you so much for reaching out and I'm so sorry you went through all of that. Unfortunately, yes, I think your ex husband has a ton of insecurity issues and is wanting to explore now that he has this new found status and job. It sounds like he was wanting more and thinks he can find it elsewhere, but that's not necessarily the case. Sometimes when people aren't happen with themselves, they try to find happiness through external factors (high paying jobs, status, pretty women, fancy things, etc). So i wouldn't be surprised is his exploration comes up short, because when it comes down to it, all someone needs is to feel loved. But when we don't love ourselves, we don't accept the love from others. I do hope he figures it out and finds the happiness he is seeking. And of course I wish you the best too, and find someone who is secure enough in themselves to love and appreciate you the way you deserve.

[@thename2472]

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[@michellelohde8683]

@@jindanwang2398 My girlfriend is insecure she is 46 and am 36 she feels she gonna lose me how show and tell her she wont lose me ??.

[@Blibbel]

Hello Kristen! First I’d like to thank you for the helpful videos you post on KZbin. I am currently struggling in my 4 year relationship and would appreciate some advice. We’ve been dating since we were 14 years old and have definitely gone through a lot of ups and downs. We are currently going through an unhealthy pattern, where my boyfriend occasionally distances himself from me when he’s going through a lot of self esteem issues. When he distances himself from me, he avoids communicating and will constantly ignore me. After awhile he’ll reach out to me again and apologize and says he wants to make this work but that he’ll probably disappoint me again. My boyfriend is currently struggling with a lot of confidence and self esteem issues and possibly depression. So far this has become an unhealthy pattern and has caused us to temporarily break up a couple times. My friend tells me that this is too unhealthy and that I should just end it. I really love him and want to make this work but am not sure if this is just a hopeless case. In your opinion as a professional, is there any hope in working this out and saving my relationship? Thank you again for all the extremely helpful videos.

[@KristinCoaching]

Hey there. I do think there is hope, but he needs to be willing to make some changes and do things differently when he's going through these struggles. There are ways that he can get his space, but not completely ignore you. I think that better communication needs to happen when he's having a hard time. And yes, if there could be some underlying depression symptoms, he should also get that checked out by either a therapist or psychiatrist, because he might need more support than what he's getting right now. but if he's willing to make some changes in his behaviors and actions, then yes there is hope. If not, then it sounds like this relationship won't work for you due to the impact his struggles are having on the relationship.

[@isaiahwilson2902]

Hello my name is Isaiah and i been in a relationship with my partner for 3 years now and I have a few questions how can I stop be so insecure sometimes and not just blow things out content at time

[@intuitiv3taur3an91]

Have you recognized your triggers?

[@vcalvillo17]

Hi kristin! Just thought I'd let you know that I'm the one who feels a bit insecure especially when my partner and I are watching a movie and a sexy girl comes out and my partner says, wow! Or look at her! When that happens I usually just elbow my partner but am wondering how do you think I should handle those moments? Also do you think you can make a video about how to manage conflicts in a relationship when there's a difference in opinion or perspective?

[@KristinCoaching]

I think it's all about asking your partner calmly, nicely, and respectfully not to make comments like that in front of you and explain why. I think having a heart to heart conversation is super important and necessary so he can see your perspective. And even if he doesn't agree, he should respect you enough to abide by your wishes because what you're asking for isn't out of line. Thank you for the suggestion! It is on my list :)

[@vcalvillo17]

@@KristinCoaching when you say to explain why, it's ok to say that it makes me feel a bit insecure when he makes those comments? The reason I ask is because I've always heard society and friends say not to let a guy know we're insecure because then he'll have the upper hand over us and instead to show we're confident so a part of me has been trying to hide that insecure side from my partner

[@KristinCoaching]

@@vcalvillo17 Thank you so much for your question! I've heard people say that too and I've never agreed. I think honesty and authenticity is the best policy when it comes to a relationship. It allows people to get closer with each other and builds trust in the relationship. I think if a relationship is super new, there might be different communication techniques or filters one would use to address these concerns, but overall, communication your feelings and needs are extremely important. That technique I have seen work the best in my professional life, and personal as well.

[@vcalvillo17]

@@KristinCoaching thanks for your response. I also agree that honesty and transparency is important

[@carolinebrenning178]

Hi @vcalvillo17 ! I can really relate to you, as I have insecurities about women in movies/tv too. As well as women my boyfriend and I pass by in public. It's understandable for you to feel that way, and I think your bf should honor your wishes and respect your feelings. I've always been honest w/my bf about my insecurities, N he knows how to behave in situations like that. In fact, I even have him look away if there is nudity or close to nudity in a movie. @kristin coaching would probably say that's unhealthy for my bf to have to look away from certain scenes in movies like that. It honestly bothers me so much, and it's been a battle for me for a long time. Also, I watched this video with my bf. If you haven't already, maybe it would be good for you to show this to your bf as well. Her videos are always so professional and helpful. :) It would be good for your bf to hear about how to be supportive and understanding from someone elses perspective, esp someone with professional experience. Have you had a heart to heart conversation with him about your feelings? If so, how did it go- and how are things now? I hope things are getting better!😊 best of luck to your relationship!❤

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